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the rules of engagement

August 24 2013

particularly for threesomes when it is female ,male,female,and the women are not bi or bi curious. How do you ensure that everyone's needs are taken care of? What do you do if you are the male and one of the women is far more attractive to you? What if you are the woman who feels neglected....do you leave? What do you do if you are the woman the man is focussing his attention on,do you just enjoy it or do you have a strategy that will ensure the other woman is included?

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Coops27M

11 years ago

Though i would love to investigate and learn more, will get back to you when i know ;) The only MFF 3some i have been propositioned for thus far was completely inappropriate... One of the women was my brother's partner and mother of one of his children.. While i was living under his roof... They called me gay when i turned it down :S- Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

Sounds horribly awkward. I have never had a threesome like that. I suppose in a absolutely straight FFM you would have to focus on the man I guess. What happens when he is boinking one of the women? Well you watch and play with yourself I suppose.

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RHP User

11 years ago

Taking turns.. we learnt that in kindy

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RHP User

11 years ago

We don't get how the situation you mention Freya actually arises, if all involved are considerate lovers. Although from many posts and threads on here it obviously does happen frequently. Personally, we like our encounters to just keep going until everyone is spent and satisfied, in which case, there isn't a problem. Having said that, our threesomes have all included female/female fun, so that makes it easier, and we can see it would be more difficult if that wasn't the case. But is a pause or a rest for one individual during a long encounter really an issue? And if someone isn't the main focus at a particular time, it doesn't preclude them from being involved in some way, and we would think the focus would just naturally shift at times through the encounter. Anyway, that's some random musings on the topic. Not sure we actually answered anything!

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RHP User

11 years ago

There is a lot one can bring to the table...that perhaps one does not need to?

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RHP User

11 years ago

One male and two straight females? Surely great fun for him, and I might consider it if he were my guy and I wanted to do something really special for him. Otherwise: Not good enough. I'm normally great at sharing, but I'm not waiting my turn for sex. I'd probably end up watching Foxtel.

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RHP User

11 years ago

I have had a fair bit, but the problem can be if the man gets connected to one woman more than the other. I have been in some where the man will kiss me on the lips, go down on me and also be very intimate. Yet not kiss the other woman nor go down on her. I have tried to get guys to focus on the other woman but you cannot determine chemistry and its twice as hard with three people. I have another straight woman and we have great fun but I like to watch her mount up, and we are bi flavoured as in we kiss each other and touch but no oral, we are friends way before rhp jealousy is the monster here. When men say can I see you again but not the other woman, its broken a good friendship for me. With one of my women friends. I still have other women friends who I can play with, some bi some not. But I do not play with women who are not strong and confident in their own desires and needs. nor will I play with a guy that my friend may have feelings for. It can get messy when emotions come in the mix. as I love to be kissing a guys mouth and watching his face when he cums then its easy for me to give the other woman the fun end of the play. I also bring my vibrator to all threesome play. I am ok with helping myself as the others watch as I do not expect a guy to be all singing all dancing all whistling on the day. Just beware the green eyed monster in all your play time meets.

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RHP User

11 years ago

Reminds me of a friend of mine asking me about MMF bi play. She was discussing it with her lover and they couldn't figure it out. What did the other guy do? Do I bonk one while one watches then swap over. The fact that three people can intimately play at the same time... They just couldn't get their head around it at all. Lol. One time, at band camp I was watching my lover bonk another man. I was hugging him from behind and looking over his shoulder watching.... When I suddenly realised I was rubbing my boobs all over his back and humping his leg!! Lol. A daisy chain. ;-)

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RHP User

11 years ago

I think for a first meet thing the idea of making sure everyone is satisfied whilst not knowing exactly how they operate (as each couple/single have their own way of screwing) can be pretty daunting. Adapting to the situation and contributing to a relaxed energy/environment.

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RHP User

11 years ago

Adapting to the situation and contributing to a relaxed energy/environment is the easiest and best way to make sure everyone at the end of it has a smile on their face.

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RHP User

11 years ago

I suppose the important thing ,is to somehow establish some ground rules beforehand..and have an agreement that everyone will be pleasured...not an easy scenario I imagine.

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RHP User

11 years ago

I have had a few MMF sessions and a couple of FFMs.In my opinion MMF is much better for all concerned unless the ladies are bi-friendly - at at least enough to caress and fondle each other.One of the best - and most spontaneous MMFs I experienced was with a well endowed American back-backer that my mate and I got friendly with on a flight from London to Rome. Like many yanks, she thought she could just land in Rome and find a cheap place to stay. We did the gallant thing and offered her a bed in our suite. One thing led to another and we all ended up on the same bed giving her a full body massage that resulted her first experience of being entered from both sides at the same time.My FFM experiences have been one with a pair of bi ladies - pretty good for all of us, the other a present from a partner with her sister - very good for me but not as good for them - and a bit of jealousy afterwards as I - for novelties sake I suppose - spent more time with the sister.Such is life,M

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11 years ago

One has to feel pretty comfortable with all the players in a threesome to have a successful and memorable experience. I know at first, group sex can be a little daunting and confusing and you are unsure of yourself... but after a few experiences you know that you can simply speak up. Say if you are feeling neglected. I sometimes say Hey remember me... and I just dive right in there and help myself. And if the guy is still only focusing on one woman, and the other woman encourages it as well. Well you get up and say you are a prick and totally inconsiderate... I am going home. Although I hope you are never in that situation, but I have seen it happen.

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11 years ago

Quoting 'Freya77' I suppose the important thing ,is to somehow establish some ground rules beforehand..and have an agreement that everyone will be pleasured...not an easy scenario I imagine. No... that is a given, you shouldn't have to make it like it is an agreement. One assumes that you have all met beforehand and have decided you will play. Therefore it is up to all the people to speak up... I don't think people deliberately leave anyone out. They just get lost in the moment... and the newbie then sits on the side lines and then starts thinking they don't want me here, etc, etc. Don't do that. Like I said above. Just speak up, because people can't read your mind.

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madotara69

11 years ago

I can't see it being much different than mfm, Before we tried anything with another person, we regularly spoke about the what ifs and what nots. We decided that the most important thing over all was that we all stay in focus for each other. As much we agreed to set some boundaries (purely as we did not together know the answers for what may effect our feelings), it would hardly be fair to invite someone to share what we want to experience, and treat them anything less for that.It came down to the person we invited was well worth sharing that experience with, we all had a fantastic time and at no point did anyone feel left out. Personally I could not go through with it if I were to feel being left out. It is not the reason for this experience, I am very lucky that Tara feels the same.Nothing can go wrong, we simply can not allow it, we have a friend who knows that.Mado, Tara xx

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chevtrek

11 years ago

You asked a question and I was going to comment when I see further down that you took the words out of my mouth. Anyway I have found that that works best.

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