the trouble with single guys

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  Champagne333

  4 years ago

  We’ve certainly had our fair share of no shows and lame excuses, although a lame excuse is better than nothing, if it’s provided before the night, at least you can make other plans... I think a lot of single guys like the fantasy of mfm but get cold feet when it comes to the crunch

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  SpicyKale

  4 years ago

  We've found exactly the same thing and generally only look for couples with a bi male these days. We've had the ghosting happen on second meets when the first was a blast and the guy was keen as for round two, our guess was they weren't as single as they seemed. If you can weed out the fake profiles, which honestly you get good at after a while, you rarely have ssues with couples. YMMV, but that's our current take on it🤷🏻‍♂️ We're all about singles, but you only get burnt so many times!

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  cplusdee

  4 years ago

  Yep, should be easy but it’s not, all talk. We’ve rolled out the red carpet and left frustrated with last minute excuses or disappearances, does put us off bothering with rhp to be honest, significantly easier at an event or party. Single for a reason.

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  Flirty2020

  4 years ago

  We have found that 9 out of 10 guys don’t pitch up. Some have lame excuses. Some don’t have the decency to even cancel. A few have had the audacity to then try to meet us a second time, as if nothing had happened. We now make them come to a venue that we were going to in the first place. Our default expectation is that they will not turn up. That way if they don’t pitch up we have fun in any event. So many are too lazy to drive even 30 minutes and expect us to drive to them. No effort = zero reward. Plenty time wasters. Tyre kickers we think they are called.

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  Libertine001

  4 years ago

  It would all come down to your vetting process which gets fine tuned the longer you're on here. The reason someone doesn't turn up could be anyone's guess. Single guys do get a bad wrap because of the sorts of profiles mentioned above but that's all part of internet dating of which there are many pitfalls. Keep it real. Libertine

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  They are only bi when they are cheating on their partners.

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  badboyhere

  4 years ago

  This post is really another of this ghosting posts. The reality is that women and couples do this too. Not just single guys. The reality of being on red hot pie is that ghosting comes with the territory. Libertine said above that it all comes down to your vetting process. I agree with this too and the simplest way to find someone who will meet is invite them for a meet for a coffee or a drink a few days before. If they turn up there they will turn to your play. It works for me. I have avoided many potentially failed play dates because of this. 9 out of 10 time they don’t show to the coffee so then I block them. They will have their reasons and most times you won’t know what they are. It is what you do to pick up and move on that is the difference. There really is no pint in complaining about it happens and plan this into the equation and expect it and you will come out the other end better capable in dealing with this when it happens. Continue searching, don’t give up and I hope that you find what you are looking for.😊

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  Mrs_Deep_Love

  4 years ago

  You could choose profiles that are validated. Ask the person if you can contact those that have validated them. I know it's a bit business-like but I would happily provide a reference for the men I have validated.

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  NaughtyCuddles

  4 years ago

  guaranteed they're married men, bored in their sex lives and hanging out here fantasizing.

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  energiser69

  4 years ago

  suggestions - maybe its the manner of the approach..? too blunt..? too upfront..? maybe dinner and drinks first..? maybe the language used..? lack of good communication.? i haven't been invited to anyting - i said to one couple i was interested and made it clear i'm busy at the moment - then got pushy "are you interested or not"..? I am very busy running my businesses. I just cannot drop things - in fact - she or he did not even suggest anything to me - so i am buggered to know what i was supposed to do..? the person of the couple did not say if it was he or her - so i did not know that either. they then deleted their private pics access and stopped messaging me. there was no invitation t meet either.

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  Dallas1975

  4 years ago

  Could also be the single guy is super keen on the girl half of the couple but isn't actually bi? He gets a kick out of the thought of playing with her, but when the time gets near and he realises he's kind of expected to play with him too he bails. Probably just another reason in a long list!

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  XXXmenow21

  4 years ago

  Msg us x

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