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validations
May 20 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
I feel validations are an added tool. They help me to know several things.1. That the person is real and genuine. and as the profile indicates.2. Someone has actually met them and confirmed this to be true.3. That maybe that meeting was Social, maybe it was Sexual ( may or may not be indicated/inferred)Validations are and can be whatever you want them to be,there are no set rules as to their use.
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RHP User
13 years ago
No a validations doesn't mean the people/ person has had sex with them.We only have one validation on our profile and its from some one we have met socially in person but haven't done anything with them. It's simply confirming we are who we say we are.tim
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littlenaughty1
13 years ago
but it kinda changes the way i look at pples profiles now!! and their validations.... it makes me ask myself more questions now and wonder .... they meet but didnt fuck! why?????????????? ........ ohh bugga, more to think about
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RHP User
13 years ago
Some people including our self have a rule that we always meet first socially before making the choice to do any more and usually set another date to play if we all still keen to do so.Tim Quoting 'littlenaughty1' but it kinda changes the way i look at pples profiles now!! and their validations.... it makes me ask myself more questions now and wonder .... they meet but didnt fuck! why?????????????? ........ ohh bugga, more to think about
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RHP User
13 years ago
Just another wast of time /
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes, to me it does make a difference! I'll take a 2nd look at the profile which I would have otherwise said 'no thanks'. I take them as an indication that at least someone is vouching for that profile. (I suppose my presumption is that what is said is not an inference, it is that there has been some 'action' in bed - maybe incorrectly so?)But I can't see the point of someone providing a validation to another if they haven't actually got down and dirty? Unless they are clear that they are genuinely friends with that person?Just like having your profile verified ... you're doing all you can to show that your profile is genuine.But maybe I'm a little different ... I don't collect 'Friends' for the sake of it either ... I have been very friendly with my friends ... Hey 'wowwow11' didn't it make any difference when reading my profile? Or was it just the pics? LOL x x x
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jensta
13 years ago
I have had Validations on my profile in the past with whom I did have fun with ... I have none on there now ... It has not changed the amount of Interest I get with my Profile ... with or without Validations ... Its one of those things can be a positive & negative showing ... Genuine wanting playmate or screwing the crew ...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well, at least the validation still gives someone's confirmation that the person is genuine.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Validations provide you with confirmation that someone has actually met the person/s so they are real, as a starting point. However more importantly when looking at profiles (particularly single guys) I will generally have a second look if they have validations and more so if they are from people I know. A good example is that I am now meeting single guys, who I may have previously turned down, as they now have validations.Basically no validations, no face pics and no endowment stats = bugger all chance of getting my attention.
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littlenaughty1
13 years ago
have no probs with that rule tim, but does that warrant a validation? why not wait and see if you do meet them again and if you get "'down and dirty", frisky and bounce on the bed in a sexy lustfull romp hehe , then verifiy them as ...... that sux's kinky!! totally agreed with you L777 xx totally agree with you too luvurtouch validations do matter!! but it wasnt the confirmation i thought it was! so a question to you would be if you looked at a guys profile and seen a friend had given them a validation (of no sex included) wouldnt you ask yourself, why did they not get naked?? wouldnt that put some doubt into your head and maybe not be that keen to meet him?? where as if it was a validation from the friend of ""wow this guy rocked my socks off!!"" wouldnt he be more interesting to you?? just asking cause i rekon there is a difference and that was my original question, should validations be for actual rolls in the hay action only or should it be open and anything goes??
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Kinky_Charlie' I validated a female on here, have not met them in person, only in the chat room. A short time after the validation, she blocked me, and also became abusive towards me inthe chat room for no reason and made false allegations about me ....etc... Not such a nice babe after all.... I won't validate anyone else ever again...... Nudie rudie - perhaps RHP should have rules for the use of validations..? perhaps.....or some guidelines at least....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Whats with the ' I certify so & so is real' on so many profile validations, it's so sterile.
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N4November
13 years ago
I especially like when people have taken the time to personalise the validation to reflect their time with you. I just hate that those 'hard earned' validations have slowly disappeared as people have moved on from rhp because they did remind me of great times with likeminded friends.just saying
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have received a few validations but I choose not to show them on my profile. I don't believe that I need the words of someone else to try and sell myself and I find it a bit of an ego stroke. If you take the time to actually talk and meet someone then you should be able to make judgement on whether you are suited and they are genuine. A glowing validation written by someone else dose not necessarily mean that you will have the same experience or opinion of that person/s as everyone is different. And a validation is just words that may not even be true...I know a profile where all the validations were false due to people writing fake ones at their request. That's my two cents. Lol
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RHP User
13 years ago
I guess there are different kinds of validations. Some are of a sexual nature and others are just valadtaing that some one socially. The social validation is just to say they are genuine and reliable and look like they do in there profile. When people first join RHP there isn't to much to go on to prove you are who you say you are. Even just some one vouching you are real is a start.As for the validations that are a in depth report on what went down if you did play. I wouldn't send one like that or would I accept a validation that was written like that. its just not us. I know Jane looks through single guys validations and at times it turns her off as she dosn't want to become a notch on some guys bedpost or have to compare her self to all the trophy's he has colected along the way.Girls like to feel special like they are the only one "even if they know there not".Tim Quoting 'littlenaughty1' have no probs with that rule tim, but does that warrant a validation? why not wait and see if you do meet them again and if you get "'down and dirty", frisky and bounce on the bed in a sexy lustfull romp hehe , then verifiy them as ...... that sux's kinky!! totally agreed with you L777 xx totally agree with you too luvurtouch validations do matter!! but it wasnt the confirmation i thought it was! so a question to you would be if you looked at a guys profile and seen a friend had given them a validation (of no sex included) wouldnt you ask yourself, why did they not get naked?? wouldnt that put some doubt into your head and maybe not be that keen to meet him?? where as if it was a validation from the friend of ""wow this guy rocked my socks off!!"" wouldnt he be more interesting to you?? just asking cause i rekon there is a difference and that was my original question, should validations be for actual rolls in the hay action only or should it be open and anything goes??
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littlenaughty1
13 years ago
i do agree with you tim, us ladies do wanna feel special etc etc as im sure every one does at the end of the day! ........this is a site for sex rite??? and yes i sure as heck wanna find a person/persons that do all that for me and visa versa!!............ a "indepth report" of what went down is not required and the place for that is obviously in the sexy stories part of rhp just a simple fun/sexy or cheeky and light hearted validation would do the job i would think!! i dont think its fair to say guys have their validations as ""trophies" not all guys are like that !! and i think , as we are on a sex site after all, that it means that they obviously did a good job as a lover and therefore the opposite person verifiyed them so!!! i fail to see how its a negative (yes there is gunna be some negative/fake and bullshiters going on here, never gunna stop that.. unfortunately )to be verified as a good/great root.... sorry if that word is offensive , but it is what it is, and thats what the majority are here for are they not?? i do see the benifits to both types of validations......
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RHP User
13 years ago
all validations are subjective and all can be construed, faked or even manipulated.... having said that, mine are real... but you don't know that.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well said Coodi !! Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
13 years ago
When I leave validations I often say "I met XYZ for a coffee" or "for a social meet". I don't see anything at all wrong with that and I don't mind people leaving validations for me in a similar vein. In fact, I prefer people not to assume I've had sex with everybody I say I know and have met in real life.
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RHP User
13 years ago
dont need them....dont want them.....and dont leave them....who we meet and play with.....or not....is our private business.
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RHP User
13 years ago
While a guy/couple may sound more interesting with a sex validation I wouldnt wonder why a friend only left a "meet and greet" message as I know of validations given before any steamy encounters have happened. The general validations also give you an indication of a persons personality which may help with compatibility/initial connection i.e. they were easygoing, laid back, fun etc. Personally my preference would be to see both types of validations. Quoting 'littlenaughty1' have no probs with that rule tim, but does that warrant a validation? why not wait and see if you do meet them again and if you get "'down and dirty", frisky and bounce on the bed in a sexy lustfull romp hehe , then verifiy them as ...... that sux's kinky!! totally agreed with you L777 xx totally agree with you too luvurtouch validations do matter!! but it wasnt the confirmation i thought it was! so a question to you would be if you looked at a guys profile and seen a friend had given them a validation (of no sex included) wouldnt you ask yourself, why did they not get naked?? wouldnt that put some doubt into your head and maybe not be that keen to meet him?? where as if it was a validation from the friend of ""wow this guy rocked my socks off!!"" wouldnt he be more interesting to you?? just asking cause i rekon there is a difference and that was my original question, should validations be for actual rolls in the hay action only or should it be open and anything goes??
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RHP User
13 years ago
I've wondered this myself. I've tended to lean towards no validations, for the reasons that a) I like my privacy, and don't like advertising who I've slept with, and b) I don't feel the need to brag (ok, maybe a little, but I try very hard not to!) However, I can see a very strong argument for them if they help pursuade people to give you a second look. I don't think couples or women need them - the odds are already heavily in their favour. However, as a guy I wonder if it's something I should do? I like to think that my Verification shows that I'm a real person at least as much as Validations would (though I'm feeling a bit surreal at the moment.)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi Littlenaughty1, I always thought validations were earnt too...after a wild, sexy, dirty experience. I always assume that once someone has a validation, they are genuine. I guess I shouldn't assume...I have yet to meet someone who didn't have sex with the person who wrote a validation for them. One thing that gets me is when people put generic validations on someone's profile. If people write specific validations about the person/s they have been with you get an idea of what they might be like in addition to the information on their profile...sometimes this is how we find people that we might like to meet up with ourselves. It doesn't really matter to us if the validations have come from people who have actually had sex or if they have just had drinks, provided it tells me something about their personality. xC
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littlenaughty1
13 years ago
if we lived closer or in melb we would most likely have the same attitude to mikeandshel..... we would love to do lots of meet and greets, drinks etc with or without the sex(sex prefered hehehe) ....just enjoying the company of like minded pple and have a good nite out, cause it wouldnt be too much out of the way.... but as we live out in the sticks ahahaha and very rarely get to melb to meet like minded pple, we need every tool possible to help us find a person/s that are compatible to us!! and so when we do meet and there is a sexual attraction all round then bring it on and lets gethehehe .... so the validations are one of a few tools that helps us take a little bit of the guess work out of it.... and yes i know that its not all as easy as that ,and that just becasue some pple enjoyed their company doesnt mean we will, but it does help somewhat!! becasue we dont have to luxury too meet lots of pple face to face .... therefore we ideally would like to try and make every meet up enjoyed to the max yeeee haaaa ;) also, perhaps a validation given to us may perswade some sexy fun pple to take a venture out to our part of the world ...... what am i on about,,, as if!!! ahahahaha
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RHP User
13 years ago
... don't do them as I'm far too private to do the "kiss n tell". Gawd I don't even have a contact list for the same reason. Good to have the option though for those who do :-) xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' dont need them....dont want them.....and dont leave them....who we meet and play with.....or not....is our private business. couldnt have said it better or simpler
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RHP User
13 years ago
I only assume that validations implying sex are necessarily saying, "I had sex with this person and it was good." If people take the time to actually write their own validations instead of using the site's lame cookie-cutter validations, they're able to write information that still proves that the profile is real and the person is worth meeting, but doesn't necessarily mean sex has ensued. I honestly thought people tended not to jump to that conclusion otherwise I may have been a little more reluctant to leave them or to expose people to the reputation of being a notch in Slippery's bedpost even if that isn't the case. For example, have a squiz at my validations. There are four there. One is a generic validation, one implies sex in saying that we've "met up a couple times" and that I have a "naughty streak". The other two just mention conversation and, yunno, that's all there was and that's okay too. I'm trying to sell my personality with my profile and messages, so validations saying that I have a decent one are completely relevant. Maybe I should add a disclaimer to profile or something?
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RogueGeek
13 years ago
And just deleted all our validations. After all, my personality is in my profile, and if somebody isn't going to read my profile, then they're probably not going to read the validations either.But then, I have face pics, and use cam in the chat rooms, and post enough incomprehensible rabble in the forums that I must be real...Cheers,MS Quoting 'slippery_halo' I only assume that validations implying sex are necessarily saying, "I had sex with this person and it was good." If people take the time to actually write their own validations instead of using the site's lame cookie-cutter validations, they're able to write information that still proves that the profile is real and the person is worth meeting, but doesn't necessarily mean sex has ensued. I honestly thought people tended not to jump to that conclusion otherwise I may have been a little more reluctant to leave them or to expose people to the reputation of being a notch in Slippery's bedpost even if that isn't the case. For example, have a squiz at my validations. There are four there. One is a generic validation, one implies sex in saying that we've "met up a couple times" and that I have a "naughty streak". The other two just mention conversation and, yunno, that's all there was and that's okay too. I'm trying to sell my personality with my profile and messages, so validations saying that I have a decent one are completely relevant. Maybe I should add a disclaimer to profile or something?
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RHP User
13 years ago
We we only have the 1 validation, they were a couple we actually played with.We both prefer in most cases to meet and play , no use wasting time.
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