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wanting to be a sub
June 02 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
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RHP User
12 years ago
Im not sure wot a sub is? Your pretty sexy can i be ur friend
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Mr_MrsAraps
12 years ago
Why don't you try looking at Fetlife?Cheers,W
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RHP User
12 years ago
Tats, I don't know much about it all but I do know there are lots of guys out there who will tell you they are a Dom and they know what they are doing. But in reality they have no idea. Fetlife also has a forum where pple discuss these issues and some discuss their experiences, what to watch out for, etc. I would do lots of reading up on it first because one thing I do know, being with someone that is playing a part without knowing what they are doing could cause you lots of harm. Stay safe gorgeous and good luck. xxx
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chevtrek
12 years ago
A good master learns what his sub needs and respects her boundaries. He will try new things and on her and see what she likes. Some subs like to serve and to pamper as in cook clean and to make ther master at home Trust and respect is the key if you cant trust and dont get respect as a sub leave
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chevtrek
12 years ago
Now that you have posted this you will get alot of guys contacting you, meet in a public place. Watch out for agresive type guys.
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RHP User
12 years ago
ok thanx :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Being a Sub can be, in many cases, a time for you to place yourself into someone else's care, to do exactly as you are told. I have had one partner say that being a sub required more self control than anything else. The temptation not to flinch during a flogging, or the ability to not cum, even under intense circumstances is exceptional, but the satisfaction of completing a directive can be far more rewarding. As a dom, it is your responsibility to ensure you partner is safe. Know their limits, but at the same time, help them explore. You should never set you sub up for failure, rather, encourage them and makes sure that when's directive is achieved that you reward them well. I love watching a sub orgasm after they have accomplished a task or directive. The release and satisfaction they get is tremendous. I was fortunate enough to have partner that allowed me to indulge and learn about my Dom side, but at the same time, understand what being a Sub is all about. I'm curious though, Chev your comment about Some subs like to serve and to pamper as in cook clean and to make ther master at home, I tend to think of that sort of relationship as more of a master and slave relationship. I would never personally request or direct my Sub to do such a thing.I hope you have fun, and look forward to hearing all about it :)
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kinky_master
12 years ago
I think I can safely assume that your inbox is currently overflowing. So - what now. And there is only one way - be cynical and trust your instincts. After some of the things that have happened on fetlife over the last few of weeks here in Perth I would not want you to put your trust into that. Talk to potential masters, ask them detailed questions - ask them to write out their perfect play date and see how it compares with yours. Do some reading up on the subject of BDSM, and then use terms that a real master would know - and see how they respond to it. Read 50 shades of grey - and if a master refers to it, or sounds like that's where he got his ideas from - run - lol Under no circumstances set up a meeting without arranging a safe call with someone you trust. And, you can always post more specific questions here and we shall all try to answer them for you. Oh, nealy forgot - the most important part is to have fun and enjoy yourself !
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes sure talk to some experienced Doms, but its a fine line as some have their own interests at heart, and that is to get into your pants with little care for your own emotional and sometimes physical welfare.If I can suggest, talk to other submissives. Male or female it doesn't matter but its really only through that, and possibly doing your own research that you can start to explore and have a full understanding of the 'roles'. It is nothing like the book "50 shades of grey". It is so much more involved than that.Fetlife, while it is not a site I would go to, I have found some of the forums helpful. It can be a good place to speak to other submissives if you can stay clear of some of the cliquey nature of some that use it. They do have forums for new people such as yourself. It is a starting point at least, but please be careful and trust, trust your instincts, meet in public places and dont be fooled by the BS. Just because you are sub, doesn't make you a doormat or that you will do 'what you are told' by just anyone.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hello tatsandtits, Well I imagine that putting up a post like this was no easy task and I applause you for doing that. Now to you wanting to explore your submissive side the first thing that most subs are shocked to learn is that being submissive is actually all about being in control and about trust without those two things you will never fully be able to be completely submissive. The trust between a Master and his sub is very strong and can be stronger than the bond of marriage you are giving your whole body up to your Master and you cannot do that if there is even one shred not doubt in your mind you both have to set rules and boundaries and make sure that you have safe words or actions that are clear and precise after all it is hard for you to give a safe word to stop immediately if you have any form of gag. I Would be only too happy to pass on what i have learned in a long time in the field of being a Master and training a sub. Look forward to hearing from you MASTER NEIL
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RHP User
12 years ago
It would be both wise and beneficial to try find an experienced sub to mentor you for both proper guidance and your own security. Fet Life and clubs on RHP would be a good starting point. If an inexperienced/malicious top takes you on it would be dangerous for you - be safe, be smart, find your feet, enjoy.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Just had a look at your new pics that you have posted on your profile what can I say except WOW they are amazing three of my all time favourite things are a woman with curves I really hate skinny women big tits are awesome and women with curves big tits and tattoos and here you are with all three the perfect woman. Would love to catch up for coffee/drinks/dinner Cheers MASTER NEIL
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twowithnolimits
12 years ago
T&T i have over 35 years experience as a dom..i have a lot of experience as a mentor, happy to help and converse on your interest... Paul
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twowithnolimits
12 years ago
T&T i have over 35 years experience as a dom..i have a lot of experience as a mentor, happy to help and converse on your interest... Paul
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RHP User
12 years ago
Reading this thread is like watching a lamb get slaughtered. As a sub you ultimately carry all the control, you can stop a scene with one word. Any Domme/Dom who does not respect your limits or appreciate the trust you put in them is not worth your time. Read articles, speak with other subs but dont limit yourself to getting info from just them, speak with tops/bottoms/switches as well as Dommes and Doms and follow your gut instinct.... If he/she makes you feel icky, stay away from them.. Good luck.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi t&t :) I am an experienced sub, although my profile here does not reflect that. I was lucky enough to meet my Dom on this site and would happily state that FetLife is not always the way to go... I remember being a complete newbie to the scene and how difficult it all was to navigate. I would be happy to help answer any questions you may have and offer some friendly advice. Feel free to message anytime ;) LB*
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'twowithnolimits' T&T i have over 35 years experience as a dom..i have a lot of experience as a mentor, happy to help and converse on your interest... PaulYou became a Dom when you were twelve?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Direct' Quoting 'twowithnolimits' T&T i have over 35 years experience as a dom..i have a lot of experience as a mentor, happy to help and converse on your interest... Paulhahah good point Ms direct.....You became a Dom when you were twelve?
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RHP User
12 years ago
you havent stipulated...are you looking for a master or Mistress???
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RHP User
12 years ago
You might be better off going to a professional for your first experiences. It will cost you but if you find a reputable establishment they can teach you about being a sub without so much worry about the master/mistress 's motives.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I would suggest that whoever you meet that you meet them in broad daylight in an open and busy place not saying that you could be in any danger but the old saying that you can never be too careful certainly rings true in this matter as I have said previously I am only too happy to talk to you about anything you want to know or have concerns about ok. Take Care Master Neil Ex Boatswain Master at Knots
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twowithnolimits
11 years ago
and why not? at what age does a girl become a lesbian?
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RHP User
11 years ago
As a sub who has only recently joined rhp I can honestly say there are a lot of men who say they are dominant... I have a master who wants to play and although it's stated on my profile people tend to ignore that ... A few have understood the nature of our lifestyle and have contacted him about it :) I've had comments questioning why I'm into this lifestyle Master pushes my boundaries for me to enjoy and we discuss these at length... He wants me to get pleasure out of new things Even in punishment I am rewarded because once I am punished I know I am forgiven For me there is nothing better than following his orders :) I am a natural sub and until now have never felt fulfilled in a relationship But you do have to be careful with people who immediately claim to be a Dom and are too aggressive - Posted from rhpmobile
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technique
11 years ago
i love subs :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm looking for a female sub to play with my male sub. Message me please- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I would like to apply
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RHP User
11 years ago
Like tatsandtits I am interested anyone around Sydney ?
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