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what about those who aren't good at writing amazing things?

February 20 2014

So many times ive read about profiles or responses not being that well written and how that makes a difference to whether or not people meet you, well I have to ask, what about the one's who aren't that great at writing lines to blow someones mind? There are guys that im sure write about thier huge cock and how they give woman 29 orgasms in 29 minutes and those guys who have the 12 pack abs that could probably pick up a woman just by saying hello, but there are guys like me, who can Converse about lots of things but just can't think of what to say to a total stranger they know nothing about. Lets face it, someones ability to write a great intro really doesn't have any bearing on how they are physically, but it seems a lot of weight is put on the intro or opening greeting to someone. Are others tongue tied like me? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Mate you spat that out spot on ,write what you think and the truth and say it as if it is your first day on earth so much to do so much to see who do you want to do it with not just fuck !!! - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I'm very much the same. I recently changed my profile to more accurately reflect who I am and an issue I have. I still ramble a bit until I get to know a bit more about the person but I do find it difficult to start a conversation at times. I used to worry about what people thought of me by my conversations, but I don't care any more, take me for who I am or not, it doesn't matter. When on Webchat, I watch more than comment as, like you, I don't always know what to say. I do throw the odd comment in from time to time (practice). For someone that doesn't always know what to say, am I making any sense?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Hi OP :) Read enough of these forums and you'll discover that your physical assets aren't usually enough. People are looking to connect on a few levels. Given there's apparently someone for everyone, you don't have to write like someone else. Just write like you - but the best version of you. Ask someone to review what you've written if you think that will help. Some tips: - Don't write about your big/fat/awesome/cum-pumping cock- Don't write about all the things you can guarantee a woman will experience - Do write about you - a little about how you like to spend your time, your interests, what kind of connection (play/sex/date) floats your boat etc. It's OK to keep it simple, but it needs to reveal something about YOU. If you can't describe yourself, people are going to think you're hard work to get to know. Basically, if your current approach isn't working or doesn't match what people are looking for, you need to put in a bit of effort to learn and improve. Good luck :)

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    Watch out or they'll tie you to the bed!! Seriously it's now what you write but how you write it. If you can treat a woman with the respect and dignity she deserve she will not worry about about your tongue being tied. Foxy

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    Seriously it's not what you write but how you write it. Foxy

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    If you can treat a woman with the respect and dignity she deserves, she will not worry about your tongue being tied. Who gives a shit at the end of the day. I"m still SuperFoxxxy...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    One thing I feel people forget is that where communication is written the reader can not see you. So you do have to give thought to what you right and yes how you write it. People can see if you are smiling, or if you are joking. Conversation is hugely visual a lot of what you have to say will be judged by how you look when you say it. Like every thing some people are gifted I can talk to just about any one. Some people are shy and have difficulty talking to new people. Likewise some people are great writers while other stumble over the words to use. My thought is to say thing that are simple and honest. Try to have a little fun with your profile and be a little informative.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Profiles usually evolve over time as you discover more about yourself and what you're looking for. You don't have to write a novel, just the basics are fine but pleeease don't have all the ask me" as answers. I'm sure most people know what colour their hair or eyes are. As for introductory messages, Wanna fuck? is never good

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    In sites like this where women (genuine and fake) are heavily outnumbered by men (truthful or otherwise). So it's a buyers market, and what you write is undeniably a part of how you present. There is simply no point WISHING it wasn't that way. So you have a choice..... do what you've always done for the same result, OR..... Just like in every other aspect of life, you can choose to invest in yourself, improve, learn, develop, grow and become better. After all, this character traits are more sustainably attractive than just someone who looks good. DG - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    That profile pic is not doing you any favours. It looks like a dick with feet.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Will show when you meet off line. The problem with good writers is they create a character, with a good story. Pretty soon people get hooked on that, including the writer. In essence , they start to believe their own press. You have only a profile to sell yourself for that first meeting. So best to do like some of the others say. Get it proof read. Don't advertise what you can do. God why do men say, you won't be disappointed. Good luck , and I like the guys that are not always the smooth talkers as I talk enough for both off us!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I'm with you on this one, I also find it hard to start conversation with messaging, I'm better at face to face. Believe me it's the funny guys with personality that win over looks. I've found it easier to go out to a pub with a band and a couple of drinks in me easier. Xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Ask me! As soon as I see that I can't be bothered. There are so many options to choose from, but IMO either you're in a relationship or you're not.

  • Lovinit28andKC72

    Lovinit28andKC72

    11 years ago

    Just the other week I received a message from a guy, before I read the message, I always look that the profile. Well I opened up this guys profile and it was shit, no pics, nothing at all in the profile, it was very disappointing. But when I opened the message, it was fantastic and all the messages after the original were great also. He was a nice honest bloke... I love a good profile and a nice pic, but someone can defiantly catch my eye with a great message... - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Yes luckdragon is right- I know its off topic -but its been said in the forums a million times - most chicks don't dig dick pics and and they will flick - to the next post and won't even read your marvellous prose :) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Dont try to be something your not. Be sincere, sometimes just a nice simple introduction can do wonders. A few months ago I was texting a guy from a vanilla site and conversation flowed so smoothly it was amazing. Then we spoke on the phone and the connection (line) was bad so I gave him the benefit of the doubt. He was much more coherant in text...lets say. So no matter what eventually after meeting a descision will be made you can do nothing but put your best foot forward and see where the cards fall.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Think you were pretty spot on mate,especially bout the part...................... but there are guys like me, who can Converse about lots of things but just can't think of what to say to a total stranger they know nothing about.I have struggled a fair bit wit that one ova the years,i dont know why but i find it more difficult to converse with a female total stranger than i do with a male one,but once i have gotten to know the person some what it becomes much more easy to chat wit them than it did in the beginning,great post and great replies,good work fellow forum participants ,jamie .PS to any women who may read this,please dont be put off by my lack of introductory conversation skills,im not really as bad as i have confessed to be lol,jamie.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    And if she wants to have sex with you, great. If not, that is life. Up your confidence and if you see someone you like give it a shot. You only live once. I was driving home the other day, saw this absolute hottie in the park in her bikini. I couldn't stop thinking about her, i stopped the car, got a park and walked 10 minutes to find her. I went up to her in the park, total random, made nice conversation, commented on how pretty she looked, then I asked her out. Unfortunately she pointed to her engagement ring, but i felt better for trying, it upped my confidence and I could go home knowing that I gave it a shot. Practice! :) and good luck!

  • MsJonesy

    MsJonesy

    11 years ago

    Add something about their profile in your initial message. Ask a question about something they have written. It invites a reply and shows you have taken the time to read their profile. You might also want to consider changing your main pic; women who are guests (who are probably in the majority) cannot see it. It is the only pic on public view and therefore I am left with a grey & restricted presence.

  • gazpacho

    gazpacho

    11 years ago

    My bestest buddy is crap at righting. Dyslexic, even. He hardly ever writes because, I assume, it is difficult to communicate what he means that way. Face to face though, he is articulate and highly sociable with quite a personable manner. I love the guy to bits. He has trouble hooking up on all the typical websites, but no trouble hooking up in person.... I think people should open their minds to the idea that this written format provides a very finite snippet into a person's character. I'd suggest that the chat room is more useful, but that also involves typing. This is not a "problem" for participants to resolve, it's a problem for web site developers to resolve. I do not know if this web site has the ability for a person to use a text reader, for instance, but it ought to. What if you were vision impaired? Could you use this site? Hugs Gazpacho

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    Good Point! I too know a few people who are dyslexic, boy oh boy are they intelligent with conversations and face-to-face. One would assume, if someone is vision impaired and they use computers they would have a communicative device they speak into and it will type it out for them. However I do believe they are quite expensive. We use them at work, they are becoming more and more popular as the use of technology is becoming the tendy things now a days. I'm glad web site developers are cottoning onto this problem. :) Foxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Unfortunately on a website what you write in a message and on your profile is all people have as a first impression. I would say that everyone likes different types of message, but I need my interest to be grabbed from the start. X - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Read big oceans profile. It certainly made me write to him.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    . For most of the advice, I have done most of this, but I guess reading some other profiles might give me some more ideas, I guess also that people can see when you're on the forums how you can express yourself and might give people a different view of your personality. Thanks for everyone's participation. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    Youre keeping the dick pic...? DG

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Mischeviouslad'Youre keeping the dick pic...? All these forums asking what is wrong with my profile, pics, etc, but when given heaps of serious advice the asker doesn't change a single thing. Makes me wonder if they're just in it for the attention (in general, not aimed at you, OP.)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I put up another post the other day concerning my inability to make changes... when uploading pics or editing profile, even sometimes answering the forum, the site just freezes on me and times out. I cannot log in to the normal site what so ever..... its only this site I have dramas with....it seems I have access today so ill try AGAIN to change the profile IF the site lets me...... - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I am no good at the online communication thing either. I feel weird talking to men I have never met about their life and what they do, etc because truth is I couldn't care less... but because I don't want some one off hook ups I feel like I should be getting to know the person a bit better. So I either get too sexual too quickly which makes men label me as a fuck only......... or I get bored talking to them about every day stuff I have no interest in. That is why I have given it all up. I need a secretary.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I agree with every word .....You tend to learn about people when you are face to face. ..you learn much more with body language thrown in.....this site is is really a visual thing .....hence all the skin pics.....and if you like what you see you go to the next level. No one here contacts people they don't want to try to meet with do they? One side note....as a courtesy to others , if people aren't interested, why not just say " no thanks" instead of just ignoring messages sent.... @meeka...... you tick all my boxes.....but can you imagine our conversation? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I beg to differ...people contact me all the time who never want to meet me xx Q

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    That pic of yours is good and certainly got my attention and those sort of pics are the ones i like and its sexy without to much info..Well that's me but yes guys on here,,,some of them are up them selves,,,most women like man with a bit or class and style and most women may agree with me...Guys who say hi how are you i do reply to them as telling a bit about me to start a conversation and that gives them a bit of confidence to start to chat as man on here are shy as We women are in control wether you guys like it or not at least we rule in this field....I have always respected a man and expect the same.. Man are yummy species and lets face it people we can not live without each other its a fact of life...Happy hunting folks Horayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy.....

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    In reality, if a guy sends a message to a women here he is interested. .... and the woman really has the final say in it. I understand that women are probably bombarded with requests, and while most of us try to say something witty to catch your eye, not all of us are like that straight up, . If you are sick of the " hi, want to fuck" Introductions, take a chance and say hi back to the shy ones , they may not be so shy in other areas........ - Posted from rhpmobile