M40
when enjoyment becomes a chore
June 25 2012
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've got to say that that's fairly unusual, could there be something.... that.... well... I dunno how to say this tactfully. Could it be that they're coming across something repulsive down there on you and would rather not go back for seconds? . I think cut denim lost popularity (sadly) when the trend in jeans became 'tight is right', even on specimens where 'mumu is you-you'... I've seen jeans so tight on, erm, larger ladies where the body is just aching to find an escape! If you cut the denim on these people it'd look like they'd sprung an unfortunate body leak!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Jean_Girard' I've got to say that that's fairly unusual, could there be something.... that.... well... I dunno how to say this tactfully. Could it be that they're coming across something repulsive down there on you and would rather not go back for seconds? . I think cut denim lost popularity (sadly) when the trend in jeans became 'tight is right', even on specimens where 'mumu is you-you'... I've seen jeans so tight on, erm, larger ladies where the body is just aching to find an escape! If you cut the denim on these people it'd look like they'd sprung an unfortunate body leak! attempt 2 (as it didn't work the first time.I Have asked for honest feedback from most people. I get told either they dont enjoy it or they cant give a good reason...i take pride in my cleanliness and appearance (especially down there), so i'm stumped (so to speak).
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RHP User
12 years ago
Better not mention Lycra then !
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RHP User
12 years ago
but many (not all) of us will disagree with you and state that more often than not the guy doesnt reciprocate..so if they wont we dont... I would have to agree with JG though if you find that this is happening to you more and more often then sweetie check out your own diet because you could taste horrid. or the flip side is - youre so damn good you wear them out til they dont have any energy left to please you. Dont go down on them til they do for you (or both together) Kisses Focus flick back her natural red hair
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rc_80
12 years ago
In some households, ripped dead tight denim is the uniform of choice :)Oh, and agree with the taste thing, maybe you should taste your own cum and see if it's bad? Just a thought :P
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad'Do you take the red pill.... or the blue pill. DG haha. i have no need for pills..... yet.thanks for your insightfull opinion.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'rockercouple80' In some households, ripped dead tight denim is the uniform of choice :)Oh, and agree with the taste thing, maybe you should taste your own cum and see if it's bad? Just a thought :P ummm, no. not likely to happen....to be honest, some omen can't get enough while others (majority) go with the once or twice and then rarely if ever.i was/am of the opinion that it's used as a "lure" to ensure you return.there was this one girl..... used to make me enjoy waking up in the middle of the night
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi WAusMan I have to wonder if you're overthinking it a bit. It seems unlikel to me that women are using oral as a lure, or in some manipulative way. Yes, some women can be manipulative, as can some men, but I don't think it's the majority. I would definitely consider the taste question. It's not easy for a woman to tell a man he tastes bad, so don't write it off yet, perhaps. If you give a lot of oral, for a long time, she might just well be gagging for sex at that time and want to get straight down to business. If you're dominant and rule the show, she might just be waiting for you to do what you want to do next. There could be any number of reasons, but given MANY women LOVE giving oral, careful not to jump to conclusions :) Also, women needs sounds of appreciation and words of encouragement. They need to know they're pleasing you, otherwise they're not likely to keep trying :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
crappiest typing ever by me! Eek.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'lil_bit_angelic' If you give a lot of oral, for a long time, she might just well be gagging for sex at that time and want to get straight down to business. If you're dominant and rule the show, she might just be waiting for you to do what you want to do next. Haha. that would be a yes to both of those.....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'WAusMan' Also (on a side note), what ever to women getting around in ripped/cut/torn denim? i found that rather appealing.... The last three decades happened?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Mischeviouslad I am impressed from you explanation....wow...you said it. What a insightful man you are. Thank you.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Insightful indeed. It is not fun when you go down on a guy for him to just sit/stand/lay there and take it, but as usual, things tend to follow the trend of what goes on in 'pornland'... ie the woman moaning and screaming as loud and long as she can while the guy may let out a couple of "ooh yeah babyz..." A bit of positive and sexy feedback is most welcome Then you have the guys who think its perfectly okay to 'fuck your face' (once again i'm thinking this has come straight from 'pornland') While some women may like this, it's probably not something you should spring on everyone. Then there can be those ones with 'funky spunk' (not saying this is your case OP, but yes, it does happen) My very own partner got back from a four day interstater on Sunday with some very 'funky spunk', I am thinking it was the combination of lots of seafood washed down with lots of beer, and not being able to 'clear out a load' for four days due to sharing hotel room with half our tribe. Then you have to take into consideration Alot of women don't even actually enjoy doing it (I am talking out there in the real world, not RHP) and approach it as more of a chore, so will go down once out of obligation and then think, okay thats done, move on. But if you can give some positive feedback ( stroke her head and tell her how fucking great she is at it etc) you may be able to turn the situation and have her going back for more. Personally, theres nothing more sexy than being on your knees in front of a man knowing that he would do anything for you in that moment because you are taking him to unparallelled levels of pleasure, and then you make eye contact... Well just a few of my takes on the situation.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Absolutely correct. I'm such a firm believer that a man should never expect a woman to do something he either wont do or hasn't done.I wonder how many men (who are fond of the hair-grab and push down while receiving) would ever do that again if the lady forced a large dildo down his throat. Oh, and all the time while she's trying not to die from gagging and make sexy noises like she's actually enjoying the thrill of gagging.If it's made unpleasant - why would you want to do it again?
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MissSarahCurious
12 years ago
I'm a giver, absolutely. Not liking or not being able to cum from receiving oral is actually a dealbreaker for me, but there are some guys I won't bother seeing again even if they can cum and are dying to get their dick in my mouth again, and that's because there's no 'payoff' for me.To be clear, 'payoff' is not a material thing nor is it a mouthful of cum, payoff for me is the reaction a guy has to getting oral. The sounds, breathing, muscle tensing, attempted hip-thrusting.. I kinda 'feed' off those reactions. If I'm not getting them I'm not going to bother. Guys who go into a cock-sucking coma aren't any fun.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'WAusMan' Quoting 'rockercouple80' In some households, ripped dead tight denim is the uniform of choice :)Oh, and agree with the taste thing, maybe you should taste your own cum and see if it's bad? Just a thought :P ummm, no. not likely to happen....to be honest, some omen can't get enough while others (majority) go with the once or twice and then rarely if ever.i was/am of the opinion that it's used as a "lure" to ensure you return.there was this one girl..... used to make me enjoy waking up in the middle of the night ok, so i caved..... nothing wrong with taste. but i wont be sampling again.... ever
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RHP User
12 years ago
Great posts ML and Sarah ,the other truth is that some women don't enjoy it,why I am not sure.However if you are not encouraging and in a bj coma as Sarah mentioned, then that is incredibly boring and a turn off. Do check your diet,pineapple juice and very little meat in your diet may help. Do the women you are with, enjoy receiving oral? Maybe you need to incorporate the good old 69 into your sessions. I am assuming that the women you are mentioning here are just not one off encounters.If they are then that could be another reason. Talk to your friends about what they enjoy,tell them what you enjoy and how much you love them doing it to you.Women are not mind readers and sometimes we need coaching.Masturbate together,show each other how you like to be touched and stroked . I noticed your age OP, and perhaps your partners are younger and or not very experienced or they have only been with men who never bothered to show them how.x Hugs H
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RHP User
12 years ago
My ripped jeans are so tattered that they can't be worn out in the light of day without everyone seeing my choice of underwear... :p Anyway, back on topic. I don't think you should be stating it as a 'chore' necessarily when they don't reciprocate. Disappointing is probably a better word for it. A 'chore' implies an unpleasant task... As Hesione has stated above, if you're meeting girls that are younger than you, perhaps all they need is some extra tuition under no pressure conditions... ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
You sure are a hard task master... If there's anything that would stop me climaxing from a good BJ , it would be a girl with high expectations.. The last thing either a guy or girl wants is to make sex a mechanical task.. Having had average, good, and very good BJs, it depended on my mood wether I would cum' or not.. Really' its all about the moment.. if both are feeling good ' it will just happen.. Unless she beats me to it' I usually like to go down first and prefer to stay down there until she gets off or wants penetration before she has her orgasm..So for me' if we both get off ' good.. if we dont' thats just the way it goes... Orgasm does not always guarantee the sex was good... Good sex can be had without orgasm ... but orgasm is the cream on top.. ( pardon the pun )Jay...
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playful4u
12 years ago
Quoting 'WAusMan' Quoting 'WAusMan' Quoting 'rockercouple80' In some households, ripped dead tight denim is the uniform of choice :)Oh, and agree with the taste thing, maybe you should taste your own cum and see if it's bad? Just a thought :P ummm, no. not likely to happen.... to be honest, some omen can't get enough while others (majority) go with the once or twice and then rarely if ever. i was/am of the opinion that it's used as a "lure" to ensure you return. there was this one girl..... used to make me enjoy waking up in the middle of the night ok, so i caved..... nothing wrong with taste. but i wont be sampling again.... ever LOL, consuming a litre of pineapple juice sometime beforehand may of helped with the taste test :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well Personally I feel like giving head just to get head kind of takes the pleasure out of it. correct me if am wrong but that is called an Indian Giver. Dont get me wrong I LOVE HEAD, nothing sexier. But there have been times when I have given head to a girl and she hadnt given it back to me and another day we were the opposite some nights it all head. If you focus on getting back what you have given you tend to focus on what she/he hasnt given you and not all the other amazing things he/she has given you.Sex becomes a chore when it is routine and your expecting payment back from it.
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WHY_NOT_LOOK
12 years ago
I was one that hatted giving BJS as it was the 1st thing forced on me... Was my last long term partner that really made me feel like i was doing right and he enjoyed reciving it.... as for face fucking i so hate that and thats not why i have long hair for you to grab and push my face into you. Agreed my partner took the time to find out why i didnt like them and took it really slow... then i became the one gagging for it and waking him in the middle of the night well it was 4am every morning for months ... lol. take the time to ask and go slow with your women
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Hawt1
12 years ago
Im thinking nearly all angles covered in this discussion at this point.Love your idea of chicks in ripped Denim, wonder what the ladies think of guys dressed so.. you know old favourite holy jeans or a trip back in time to grunge.
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RogueGeek
12 years ago
Somebody who gets it!!!Cheers,MS Quoting 'Jay_Me' Orgasm does not always guarantee the sex was good... Good sex can be had without orgasm ... but orgasm is the cream on top.. ( pardon the pun )Jay...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Now I know I have been complaining about men and thier lack of oral giving on this very forum for a few years now. Honestly...couldnt you find a better lure to use? We women are not that silly. I can not see too many sticking their hands up going... "Pick me! I lurve giving oral" Sorry buddy...you obvious ploy back fired a bit there!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Likewise for guys going down on girls... I love giving head. I love to suck a nice hard cock. But I am so sick of guys who you lavish attention all over because you simply love to suck cock and then you get nothing in return. I find it really selfish. Don't come over to get a headjob and a bang and then leave. And it's usually the guys who don't go down on you who just bang away for a while, cum and then that's it. A little reciprocal lovin' is all I'm sayin'. Mind you, there are lots of guys out there who are into foreplay and all that, which is great. They just seem a little few and far between at the moment :/ xxOnjii
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RHP User
12 years ago
It sounds like you have been meeting the wrong women I love to go down on a guy it actually gets me off more then them going down on me haha
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