why do people make a date to meet and not show

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  2more4fun

  15 years ago

  We're at a stage now that we will only bother booking a room with people we have already met a number of times. I guess some people think they are up for it but get cold feet, particularly if you haven't all met in the flesh before. Some people naturally have very good excuses but it still doesn't stop you from feeling disappointed.Try playing it by ear next time and unless the couple you have been talking to have validations or are photo verified, I'd consider having a back-up plan handy too. Perhaps have a chat to a few other couples and see who are planning to be out and about (irrespective of what you are guys are doing) so if your original plans fall over, you can see if others are keen to at least meet up for a drink.For us, some of the best experiences haven't required any planning. Things we plan about 2 or even 1 week out always seem to fail lol

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  So rude of them,never had that happen to us.Mind you  we tend to play more at the clubs these days then trying to find couples on RHP.Makes it so easy to choose a couple at a club n play.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Only had that happen to us once...So now we only ask to meet once and if the other party connot make it for what ever reason we leave it in their hands from then in to make a time and place.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I don't know why it happens but if an arrangement has been made its downright rude to be stood up like that.you are right when you say we are all here to have fun and it shouldn't become a hassle. I was reading another forum about single guys that dont show up and think with the amount of single guys on this site they are quite lucky to be invited in the first place. If it was me that was invited I would be honored to to participate

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  This has only happened to us once, we arranged to meet for drinks and got a text saying "Sorry cold feet" We hadnt seen photos on that occasion and now insist on photos first before we will meet. We have had a few problems insisting on photos first, but since then we have not had one "No Show" and normally leave booking an apartment to the day before and give a call to the other couple confirming everyone is still keen. Cheers

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  That has happened to us a few times as well, and I just did see a post about a single guy whingeing that he cant get with couples.... that would probably be why.We just tend to have a "all dressed up and go play" attitude for people like this, if they dont turn up, well, they dont get an invite back. It is simple. Then we just go play together anyway.We tend to meet for social first now, and if they dont turn up for that, well they are not worth the effort. Us, like so many couples here, have a mammoth effort to get ready for a dirty night out, the hotels, the babysitters for the kids, etc, and to have it fall apart can be frustrating.

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  swingerz7

  15 years ago

  I have come across this too...peopole who talk about what they want to do, but wont follow through themselves.....as a single bi guy the other problem i come across is people pretending to be a  cpouple when theres only a bi (or gay??) person involved. The irony is that I might even play, but not once i find out ive been stooged...

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