M54
why say yes if it means no
February 26 2012
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wannabyummymummy
13 years ago
Well i guess it depends on a number of things including the context of what you are talking about. If you are meaning that you have been chatting for a while things are going well and you exchange details and make a date and then they don't go through with it then yeah i guess it is a bit rude to not tell you that they have changed their mind.On the other hand if you mean that by replying to your first message she says she will meet and then you get shirty because by message two she has worked out you are not for her and she moves on then I'm sorry but that is just the way it goes.You have to understand that girls on here deal with a LOT of sleazebags and sometimes we miss the nice ones trying to sift through them all.At the end of the day you need to realize that this is a time consuming venture and you are not going to strike gold every time, it is essentially a numbers game and a very competitive arena where the ladies are concerned and the cold hard facts are that no one OWES anyone anything here we don't need to give a reason not to meet you, we CAN change our minds without notice and sadly you just have to wear it. If it is any comfort it works both ways guys are aloud to promise you the world, fuck you once then never call again so i guess it all comes out in the wash hang in there and best of luck either way.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I reckon they don't want to hurt your feelings by saying outright that, 'there's no way this will ever happen', or maybe they don't want to seem too shallow by judging you quite quickly so they give you a yes (freely translated to maybe) in the hope that, if it rags out long enough, you'll lose interest. Woman really have no idea of the stuborness of a stiff cock.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'wannabyummymummy'Well i guess it depends on a number of things including the context of what you are talking about. If you are meaning that you have been chatting for a while things are going well and you exchange details and make a date and then they don't go through with it then yeah i guess it is a bit rude to not tell you that they have changed their mind.
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RHP User
13 years ago
it is rarely consistant playing the online game. If you have a mentally stable woman of high interest she will meet you. Very simple concept if possible only deal with high interest women. Never rely on one woman, a friend of mine had 8 women lined up and he ended up seeing one. Another time I was supposed to meet up with 4 females from another site what happened? nothing. Why low interest, another better deal came along, wasn't really serious, changed her mind, was in fact a guy who knew he looked shit in a dress blah blah... Avoid mental masturbation over any women from here until she has proven herself. Also get off the phone/msn/texting/rhp and meet females as soon as possible to determine if she is real and if you have some attraction to each other. ps if she doesn't contact you to cancel that equals low interest 99% of the time. You deleted her number immediately correct? removed her from msn and wiped all messages from your phone that day? You will never bother to contact her again? The odds are stacked in females favour given the male to female ratio, if possible you need to have your own ratio in the +1+2+3+4 category.
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RHP User
13 years ago
To me there is no excuse to leave someone hanging when you have made a date. That is thoroughly discourteous whether you get lots of sleazy msg's or don't have much time or are not wanting to leave someone feeling rejected or any other reason, to me there is no excuse except for some reason you have to go offline- (death, bereavement, trauma, hospitalisation etc)Cass xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
we strike this .....single (?) guys who do all the right things.... chat, exch pics, texts, telephone conversations...meet for coffee.....agree in principle......set a date...confirm via texts and emails.....and never hear from them again..... WTF? and not once or twice...... but repeatedly.........we even gave one guy a break and agreed to try again....but...he ran away...again..........
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RHP User
13 years ago
Honesty is the best policy....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' we strike this .....single (?) guys who do all the right things.... chat, exch pics, texts, telephone conversations...meet for coffee.....agree in principle......set a date...confirm via texts and emails.....and never hear from them again..... WTF? and not once or twice...... but repeatedly.........we even gave one guy a break and agreed to try again....but...he ran away...again.......... Why do you reckon they ran for the hills? I suppose its their loss not yours.......
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wannabyummymummy
13 years ago
I was going with the "it is rude" line here, personally i will always be upfront if i have a change of mind over a guy and that at times has caused some nasty reactions so as jensman pointed out it is no wonder that some girls get a little careful with rejection, fact is a lot of guys dont take it well (and in fact neither do some girls/couples).Best bet is to just move on, delete thier number/msn and find the next girl trying to work out why or what you did is a pointless exercise as you most likely will never know and truth is it probably is more about her than it is you so hang in there
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'jokerza' Quoting 'mikeandshel' we strike this .....single (?) guys who do all the right things.... chat, exch pics, texts, telephone conversations...meet for coffee.....agree in principle......set a date...confirm via texts and emails.....and never hear from them again..... WTF? and not once or twice...... but repeatedly.........we even gave one guy a break and agreed to try again....but...he ran away...again.......... Why do you reckon they ran for the hills? I suppose its their loss not yours.......we think its because many of the guys here...are only here for the 'chase'..... and dont really wish to be 'caught' at all...its masturbation fodder for many...the 'one handed' typers out there........and many are really attached...in spite of assurances otherwise. we dont muck anyone around...and state up front what our expectations and desires are...and keep dates we make as wel........shame others dont..... or maybe its because we are a bit scary.... you know....fat, frumpy and unappealing....who knows?
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RHP User
13 years ago
The closer the Date gets the more real it gets and they talk themselves out of it. There's a certain thrill to the whole process. The emails the flirting the txt'ing but they're only dealing with a screen or a phone. It takes a bit of self confidence to roll up and put it out there when you meet for the first time. The more you do the easier it gets but it's a way for them to reject you before you reject them. Which is a shame because there's just as much chance of getting naked and having fun.
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RHP User
13 years ago
dealing with a 'phone?............thats enough to put us off as well....theres almost nothing as frustrating as trying to have a conversation between a computer...and a so called 'smart phone'........ iphones and the like, have taken the chat process backwards 20 years..its at the point where we refuse to enter a dialogue when the other parties on a mobile phone.....we may as well tie 2 tins together with a biit of string........the effect is about the same.
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RHP User
13 years ago
yes iv deleted all trace of them and moved on i know this is a game and im here to play its all a bit of fun.thanks for all your comments and lets hope manners does return one day
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel'dealing with a 'phone?............thats enough to put us off as well....theres almost nothing as frustrating as trying to have a conversation between a computer...and a so called 'smart phone'........ iphones and the like, have taken the chat process backwards 20 years..its at the point where we refuse to enter a dialogue when the other parties on a mobile phone.....we may as well tie 2 tins together with a biit of string........the effect is about the same. yes txt sux if you cant ring and speak to the person dont bother at all
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RHP User
13 years ago
Still, they may just be screwing with your head. hehehe
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