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would you if you could male or female
April 09 2015
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Seachange
10 years ago
Nit sure what is the point you are ggetting across. What is it are you trying to say? CCan you please expand on your post. Now, my take on your post is that having a partner or two 24/7 is not.the issue for me. It is the quality of time I spend with them when I have time to see him/them. My preference is to have a fwb or two who is willing to invest some time with me to explore and expand our sexuality. One night stands has its place and time but not the ideal for me.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think once again Chev is referring to his his lucky self and his oft trumpeted relationships with two or more young women..xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Are you saying would you have threesome if you had two lovers or are you saying would you have a threesome relationship as in all live together? I think I could live in a threesome situation. I have certainly had threesomes and moresomes with FWB and groups of people who I attend swingers events with. Actually....... what? What is the question. LOL
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes I am one of those that is finding it hard to meet someone let alone the sex side. So just the one delightful lass for pleasant company is all I would like. Seems a pretty pointless part of the question to add the threesome side to it, but it is your post and topic.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've had threesomes, foursomes, tensomes etc, but in the whole scheme of things it means SFA. At the end of the day, I did those things because I was seeking validation........the same reason all men and women do it. Would I still have threesomes with two women? yeah possibly, but I don't actively pursue it. Would I live with two partners 24/7? no, because I don't need or seek the validation, I already have a healthy respect for who I am and what i'm about
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RHP User
10 years ago
Omg Fit73, men and women only have moresomes because they're seeking validation? I must be an insecure little petal then! As for having two partners instead of one: Absolutely, but only if they're both male (and bi).
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RHP User
10 years ago
But not a live-in relationship. I like my space, thank you 😆 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Threesomes and moresomes are wildly exciting and having all those mouths and hands and letting go of your inhibitions brings amazing sexual pleasure. Not sure how seeking validation comes into, I mean if you need reassurance fIt73 well you will seek that from all sexual partners regardless of whether it is one on one or in groups. Your comment doesn't make sense to me, it's a bit closed minded
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RHP User
10 years ago
No. I have nothing to prove and value my "me time" and am in no mood to negotiate it.
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
I have a very close, loving ongoing relationship with two others......... Left hand Right hand Im wondering which hand this topic was typed with lol
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Threesomes and moresomes are wildly exciting and having all those mouths and hands and letting go of your inhibitions brings amazing sexual pleasure. Not sure how seeking validation comes into, I mean if you need reassurance fIt73 well you will seek that from all sexual partners regardless of whether it is one on one or in groups. Your comment doesn't make sense to me, it's a bit closed minded My comment would be close minded if I hadn't experienced all of the above, dozens of times over. Once people let down their ego defences (which most people can't or are unwilling to do) they realise that threesomes and gang bangs etc are for the most part a validation seeking activity. Interestingly, I recall vividly every woman I've ever had a threesome of more with and every one of them was very troubled emotionally. If you ask a smoker, he or she will tell you they enjoy it
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am not troubled emotionally at all. FIT78 maybe you just attract emotionally wounded people.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I assume since you were having group sex to get validation then you are emotionally troubled yourself. Look, I have also met people that were abused as children who become very promiscuous adults and are into BDSM and group sex, etc. But you are being close minded if you tar all of us with this same brush. It is just not true that everyone into the scene is emotionally disturbed.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've met women here who have disclosed abuse, as well as more than one woman who said she could only have group sex, as one on one was too intimate. That still doesn't mean that goes for everyone who is into moresomes though, and I think it's irresponsible to make statements like that. Like Meeka says, Fit, these women have something else in common than group sex: you. I might be that you attract them. (Not that there's anything wrong with that.) p.s. What's with the smoking reference? Are you suggesting these women who like threesomes etc. are in denial and harming themselves? That's how that read to me.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I do NOT want anything 24/7...EVEN 24/7..In fact.. I don't even want LIFE 24/7...So much so. that I have worked on a way of.. ABOUT every 16 to 18 hours, I knock myself out.. JUST to get away from life.I don't want sex 24/7I don't want anyone around me 24/7I don't want WORK 24/7I don't want weekends or holidays or headjobs, coffee.. money, bourbon vodka or Russian call girls 24/7What a stupid and inane qestion..Not calling YOU these terrible names Chevwalk.. just the silliness of the question...In fact.. I have one for you.."If you bought a can of red paint, would you ever eat bread?".Just saying what I am thinking... well... no, I am not doing that..
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RHP User
10 years ago
My answer sounds very harsh when I didn't mean it to be. When I said tar with the same brush I should have said you can't assume everyone is the same. Lots of people use sex for various reasons and everyone has different motivations.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Red paint is fucking awesome but bread just makes you fat !
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madotara69
10 years ago
“Criticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary. It fulfills the same function as pain in the human body. It calls attention to an unhealthy state of things.” WC ~grins~
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chevtrek
10 years ago
Live together and have a relationship,plus it can be more than 2.
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Seachange
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' I think once again Chev is referring to his his lucky self and his oft trumpeted relationships with two or more young women..xxFreya haha. thanks. I thought as much but trying to ignore the chest-drumming bit... lol.
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Seachange
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I am not troubled emotionally at all. FIT78 maybe you just attract emotionally wounded people. ouch!!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Fit was reflecting on how his needs and priorities have changed,and what was driving him in the past...perhaps he was a bit harsh in projecting his looking for validation motive on to others,but it was his perception..as Meeka said,we all have sex for different reasons,..sometimes it's to remind us,validate us.that we are alive...as Bukowski said..Sex is kicking death in the arse while singing...xxFreya
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ElleWould
10 years ago
Quoting 'cavey50' In fact.. I have one for you.."If you bought a can of red paint, would you ever eat bread?" Cavey, that really truly made me laugh out loud. Thank you.
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TheLuckyOne
10 years ago
Even if I could have 2 partners 24/7, I wouldn't. Exhausting! And I enjoy my alone time far too much to give that up!
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tipper930
10 years ago
I live a hectic lifestyle to have two lovers 24/7. Fwb suits me better as it keeps things exciting all the time. Having the occasional 3some is a good thing and keeps the fantasy alive...... Tip
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' Fit was reflecting on how his needs and priorities have changed,and what was driving him in the past. Quoting 'Fit73' I've had threesomes, foursomes, tensomes etc, but in the whole scheme of things it means SFA. At the end of the day, I did those things because I was seeking validation........the same reason all men and women do it. Yeah, nah.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'JerseyGirl' Even if I could have 2 partners 24/7, I wouldn't. Exhausting! And I enjoy my alone time far too much to give that up! I actually missed the 24/7 part. I'd only choose two partners if they didn't live with me and I didn't see them both every day. I seriously enjoy my alone time too. And of course it would only work if I was in charge of the TV remote.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Unfair of you to not quote the rest of my post
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RHP User
10 years ago
Didn't mean to be unfair, it was Fit's post I didn't like, not yours. Apologies.
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chevtrek
10 years ago
I understand what you mean or hope I do.I never thought I would get into this situation with to young girls24/7 and more so at my age now.Over the years like some guys I had 3-4 girls and one time 8 butnot to validate it was just fun.I find it funny that a year ago I tried so hard to find a partner myage and pushed away girls under 40 this was in previous forums.Yet now with 2 under 35 it seems to be all perfect so hence the question.If I was asked this a year ago I would have said no way however I willadd that with both being cute and bi I get days off or if they bringother girls home I feel it might drop off. LMAO.........
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RHP User
10 years ago
You can only say why you did it, your motive...please dont judge everyone with your own motive/agenda. Please understand we are all different. Your world view is not everyones. In answer to the OP, even if we were in a threesome 24/7 relationship, we would not be so crass to advertise it across the forums 300 times a week ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's bad enough living with my wife and daughter...throw another female into the mix and I don't think I'd leave my mancave except to do a beer run. But in all seriousnes, I'd have to answer no. In fact to be honest the thought doesn't even intrigue me. I'm pretty happy iwth the woman I have in my life.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I assume since you were having group sex to get validation then you are emotionally troubled yourself. Look, I have also met people that were abused as children who become very promiscuous adults and are into BDSM and group sex, etc. But you are being close minded if you tar all of us with this same brush. It is just not true that everyone into the scene is emotionally disturbed. Show me a man who has two same sex partners, is involved in threesomes and gangbangs who doesn't objectify women and i will show you Mahatma Gandhi
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'lilyorchid' Quoting 'Freya79' I think once again Chev is referring to his his lucky self and his oft trumpeted relationships with two or more young women..xxFreya haha. thanks. I thought as much but trying to ignore the chest-drumming bit... lol. Tell him he is _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
...we see the "you only criticize coz you cant get a woman or laid" type comments....
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RHP User
10 years ago
You believe what you want to believe and I will believe what I want to believe from my own experiences and people I have met. Shame you haven't met better people on your travels. I find this argument exhausting to be honest. Good luck with life.
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RHP User
10 years ago
That reminded me of my Dad. He had a wife and three daughters all with the Italian temperament. You can imagine.
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inspirit
10 years ago
I cant even get my head around the question. and too be honest I CBF
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RHP User
10 years ago
Arrrr Chevy ye old plunderer! 'Tis a relief indeed to be findin' yer is still alive matey! For I now weeps tears o' joy in th' knowin' that perhaps I am NOT th' only self proclaimed pleasurer of multiple young lasses living in a make-believe fantasy world after all! Yarrrrrr! This be Cap'n No Beard.
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Dryphuz
10 years ago
Both female for me. Hopefully one would be in the mood if the other is not and sometimes both. I've never not been in the mood before so that would not be a problem. Of course knowing my luck their periods would synchronize and then i'd have to deal with 2 pissed off women once a month, although i imagine there would always be chocolate and ice-cream in the house so that would be enough of a consolation . 3 people means less chores each and possibly more income to share. In fact i cant think of a downside, unless it was an unfit relationship to begin with, which since we're fantasizing it shouldn't be. I can't say i imagine myself in this situation with others who aren't in it for the same reasons i would be. Love and companionship. Even if the women were straight they would be great friends who were there for each other as much as i would be for them and they for me. Sounds just as idyllic as a perfect monogamous relationship would be. Now if it came with all the imperfection of normal and realistic monogamous relationships i would still be willing to try and make it work IF and only IF there was still love and companionship between all parties. If there is love between 2 people you try to make it work even if things go wrong, i don't see why a polygamous one should be any different. You work at it because you want to.
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Dryphuz
10 years ago
Quoting 'Fit73'Show me a man who has two same sex partners, is involved in threesomes and gangbangs who doesn't objectify women and i will show you Mahatma Gandhi Just call me Mohandas...
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Hottie1
10 years ago
In this sort of set up. What about everyone's emotional development and resilience, how is that negotiated in these situations? What are these ladies getting from this relationship? You are living every older man's dream, two cute bisexual girls who bring in others to play, to give you time off (how considerate)! What do you offer them in return? So to answer your question, no I wouldn't live in that arrangement 24/7. To negotiate that sort emotional minefield is something I'm not interested in. I have a sexy, gorgeous husband who loves me and I have beautiful lovers, male and female, who absolutely rock 😘 I can arrange, threesomes, foursomes and moresomes as regularly as I like. I love my life just as it is, I'm one lucky lady! Mary xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Aahhh the forum wheels in motion :) We love this.. just another scenario we had yet to think about but in saying it would have to be no... For now ;) Maybe MMF not sure. But one thing is for sure whether we realize it or not it's partly validation... All our profiles have a little box just for those who need it.
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chevtrek
10 years ago
After one year this seems to be working out for mebut would it work with 2 guys and a girl.Would male ego get in the way as in who's the better man.
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inspirit
10 years ago
Harems
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RHP User
10 years ago
Are you still confused about the question? I know that you are not after commitment but if you were would you like to or be able to committ to two men and have a live in relationship with both of them at the same time? A wife with two husbands so to speak. Would you even want to if that opportunity arose?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Partly validation? Of course. We have sex to know we are alive. We have sex to connect to people and the world around us. That is normal. I don't believe that everyone into the swinger or group sex scene is emotionally wounded or is desperate to validate themselves because of some deep seeded wound or abuse they have suffered from.
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inspirit
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Are you still confused about the question? I know that you are not after commitment but if you were would you like to or be able to committ to two men and have a live in relationship with both of them at the same time? A wife with two husbands so to speak. Would you even want to if that opportunity arose? OMG - No way. Although do you mean in the same house and we all sleep together mmmmmm sounds fun but NOOOOOOO.... BUUUUUUUUUUUT on second thoughts, if one was a SUB and one a DOM - HEEL YES!!! I would have to consider that!! Oh the pleasures and the domestics taken care off........ I would "commit" to that now.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Partly validation? Of course. We have sex to know we are alive. We have sex to connect to people and the world around us. That is normal. I don't believe that everyone into the swinger or group sex scene is emotionally wounded or is desperate to validate themselves because of some deep seeded wound or abuse they have suffered from. We don't believe nor have stated that anyone requiring validation is or are emotionally desperate and wounded in any way, However that might make for a good separate topic in itself.. And lets face it you are 100% right about having sex to know we are alive and connect emotionally, whether it be with a long term partner or just a hook up, sex and the emotional roller coaster that can come with it is the most amazing feeling two... If not more people can experience together.. As for the original question: For me the (mrs) having a MMF live in situation could be an amazing experience to live out being the center of attention from two hot guys having them at my beck and call... however maturity, honesty and a firm commitment from all parties would have to be the major priority. Although we don't actively seek single men on here for MMF meets we do have a friend who helps us out in times of need and he is an amazing person inside and out. But I don't think we could all live together for any great length of time without some sort of possible tension.. As the old saying goes " You don't really know a person until you live with them" and even then some a are really good at keeping secrets
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LetsFrolic
10 years ago
If we all got along and were friends - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I find it difficult enough if a man stays longer than two hours,,.actually make that an hour...imagine how neurotic I would be with more people in the house...Eeek ..I would probably leave home..again 😱xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think the friendship would have to be deep and close between everyone. I was in a relationship with a couple when I was younger and I loved it. She was not jealous and we spent a lot of time doing girly stuff together. I never had a sister growing up and it fulfilled some kind part of me that always wanted a sister. She also helped me to feel more comfortable in my skin by sharing our nakedness so freely. I thought it was exciting and I am grateful for that experience. I have met couples since but I always seem to feel like the "other" woman not just "a" woman. They never made me feel like I as intruding or imposing I always felt welcome.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Do they both love to play? Anywhere, anytime? - Posted from rhpmobile
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abcplus1
10 years ago
Mr abcplus1 - yes, Mrs abcplus1 - no. While having a second full-time live in lover will be some people's dream, it is not for others, so finding 3 people that it all suits would be so close to impossible.......
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chevtrek
10 years ago
Be it MMF or FFM of course all would have to get along as nobody likes a war zone.I will add this,When we go to swingers party's or Fetmania theguys gather around my girls and that gets me annoyedas some times I cant get near them.I sometimes also have to deal with jealous ladies andthat really sucks as this happened at the pleasure lounge.However when it is just us 3 or more its damn good.
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