writers block

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  rupamohan

  11 years ago

  Writing a profile can be very challenging for a couple. It helps if you know why you are here and have a realistic expectations of what can be achieved.... I can share our exp how profiles work. Girls don't face this situation. Men have to face only one agenda how to compete. If you are here for sex you need to understand pictures does most of the talking. A well written profile has to discourage some and encourage some. Because most people will not read it completely you have to start with discouraging. Unfortunately this gives negative tone to profile and you need to fine tune the balance. What works for us may not work for you. There are not many profiles longer then 5 lines. Many people will not read a profile beyond 2 lines..and the one who enjoy reading it are not so much into sex. These people will be happy to spend hours chatting online or reading forums. It is not so much a time issue it is more about social psychology. Many who can't write a profile or are not interested in writing can't accept it is matter of choice. They have to look at people who can write a profile negatively. The prejudice against well written profile is - a) A longer profile ONLY contains either self praise or tough rules. b) Some people will be simply uncomfortable with the fact that why you are so well organised. c) Many feel knowing others by reading about them beyond 2 lines is a monologue situation. Not real time interactive like a chat. Some people feel being dominated in this situation.

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  madotara69

  11 years ago

  Thing is you have said nothing Wrens's Don't think you are saying you wish to be a prize, high priority statistic, maybe your rules are guided by feelings. Wonder if some have a calculator to that statistic. If anything, for the time being what you have just posted would probably explain a lot about you and the nature with your interests with this introduction. Our profile is full of crap, a throw off, because it would be an insult to those who know the ins and outs of things, if we were to pretend we know better. (that we expressed to some patience for those others behalf) Not everything has to be ones and zeros, in this digital world. Don't believe pictures are what is most important, unless they are saying something in a way inviting without competition. (hard to find the words) Know what you mean. If you just be yourself, all the rest in good time, unless you don't have much time for people, then you may wish to hurry them along, probably need a log book for that. Imagine some here would. (customer relations and good organised book keeping skills, so sexy if one is a cornflake) Mado Tara xx

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Your profile is the perfect place to express yourself. You need to have a "sales" mindset to sell yourslef, but be honest. It does no one any good to get into a situation that isn't going to work bc of a misleading profile. Have a think about what you want from your experiences. There is lots of variety on RHP so someone will be looking for the same. Talk about what you want and what you can offer, try to entice the reader. Pics are probably more important than what you say (I should take my own advice and upgrade my pics). Take pics that clearly show you and can give the reader a good sense of whether or not they would be attracted to you. I have no face pics in my profile but do allow enough of my face to be seen. Also, be sure to have face pics in your pg and also pics of your man. I have heard a lot of girls say one of the most frustrating things on here is couples with no pics of the guy or just a cock shot. My profile honestly is a little full on for what my personality is. I think I seem arrogant when I read it, but it is very honest and a few people have told me not to change it. I may do a rewrite soon just to keep it interesting. Hope this helps you a little.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Quoting 'rupamohan' If you are here for sex you need to understand pictures does most of the talking. A well written profile has to discourage some and encourage some. Because most people will not read it completely you have to start with discouraging. Unfortunately this gives negative tone to profile and you need to fine tune the balance. What works for us may not work for you. There are not many profiles longer then 5 lines. Many people will not read a profile beyond 2 lines..and the one who enjoy reading it are not so much into sex. I think a good place to start is by asking yourselves - what sort of profile are you attracted to? What features make you want to meet these people? What features do you find offputting? Have you seen any that particularly stand out? There are pretty much only two areas we agree on with Rupamohan: the importance of profile pictures (though, actually, we value the written text more), and that "A well written profile has to discourage some and encourage some" - though not for the same reason. We look for totally different things in the written text - we personally don't like negative statements (eg. 'single men don't contact us.'), whereas they do. It's a case of preferences, and it goes to show you that there's no one size fits all - all you can do is create the sort of profile you're drawn to, and hope you find like-minded people. As for us, the longer the better. The longer the profile, the more we can get a sense of your personality. Are you playful and fun? Are you creative and educated? Do we get a feel for your situation and why you're here? These are the sorts of things we screen for before meeting, and even before engaging in messages. We like to meet up straight away rather than exchange messages, so profiles are often make or break for us. I can certainly say we've had no problems with a longer profile - many of the messages we get tell us they really enjoyed reading it. I can only imagine some people (particularly single guys) are discouraged by it, but this is a good thing - we probably wouldn't be that compatible anyway. At the end of the day, your profile is a bit of marketing and self-promotion. In a seemingly endless sea of possibilities, why should people choose you? What makes your stand out from the crowd? The more you can personalise it and create a reflection of the FUN, SEXY side of your personality, we think the better. Good luck! Mr Tryst (on behalf of both of us!) Ps. We love reading profiles beyond 5 lines, and reeeeeally enjoy the sex!

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  rupamohan

  11 years ago

  Also ask yourself a question if there are 1000s of profile saying..I am honest, I am nice, I am intelligent, I am sexy , I am hot..blah blah..how someone is supposed to choose you? Unfortunately If your profile is just like another 1000s of profiles the only personal part remains is your pictures... Let me give you another Hint. RHP is a very diverse community. People who reply in forum may or may not the type you are after and they may not know what you are after. There is no one size fit all profile. To be very blunt if you can't help yourself nobody can help with the profile. Luckily self help is very easy. when you apply for a job and don't know how to write a CV. Help is needed because you don't have access to other's CV for similar job. This is not the situation here...you can filter and browse 100s of profile and see what ppl write and what you like. I am not saying it will be completely useless to ask for profile help. But many replies will not fit your need. That includes my reply !!!

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