M39
younger guys...are we wasting our time
May 07 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
But a change of profile shot might help. It's restricted so as a guest I can't view it and I'm assuming it's a fabulous image of your cock Personally I won't go for someone with a cock shot as their profile shot unless something in their profile has really grabbed my interest. The sentiment has been repeated by many women on the forums, some won't respond even if you do have a good profile. You have quite a few friends, you can't be doing to badly!
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RHP User
11 years ago
what the others said, may just be because you are male, quite a few men complain that they don't get much attention on here due to how outnumbered you are and we as women can afford to be choosy. Don't give up though, just take a break if you need it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Not specifically looking for older women
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RHP User
11 years ago
Now go away and let us lecherous old farts have a go!
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gazpacho
11 years ago
So.... the answer is no on all counts. 28 is a wonderful age for sex. Clearly, if you're finding it that difficult, I'd be willing to assist a mate with getting off, cause that's the kind of guy I am. 28 is so close to thirty when you're fifty something that the two years don't count for shit. Besides, how can anyone tell? Is there a secret move one acquires at thirty? I'd love to do a sample poll.' HugsGazpacho
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RHP User
11 years ago
that's about it, you need to bait that hookand friends I never add them unless I have actually met them, its not face book my youngest lover is 25nuf said LadyT pole cat
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Taleros
11 years ago
I, Mr Taleros, started in the lifestyle as a single a few years ago, and I'm still yet to hit 30, so I can say that guys under 30 aren't wasting their time so far as age being a deciding factor. Of course there are people out there who do have age limits, which is fully within their right and choice, but there are also plenty of others out there where it isn't so much a deciding factor and they value things such as how you present yourself, behave etc more.
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
So, naughtynicka..... if age is only a number to you, you can fairly reasonably assume its only a number to many others. Now given that as a constant.... and you ask if you are "wasting your time"... inferring you're not having the results you expected. So we must consider something isn't working in your profile, your photo/s, or your messages.... and that the 14 people in your friends list are.... not actually... friends???? DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Put the cock shot in your second private gallery and show it to those who want to see it. Some women are turned off by cock shots as profile pics. Your profile is boring and reads like hundreds of others, it does not make you stand out in any way from the horny masses. If you would like to improve it you should check out a few of the regular male forum posters' profiles (you can adjust your settings so they won't see that you've looked at them if you're worried about that like some men are), and read some of the forums with tips on profile writing.
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RHP User
11 years ago
even if you go and come back when you're 30, if you don't have a better profile you probably still won't get much attention. There are guys younger than you on here who do very well. Although you can't change the demographics, you can improve your chances by putting in a bit of effort.
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RHP User
11 years ago
put the cock shot away mate until it ready to be loaded LOL....as a profile shot its quite confronting LOL...but hey each to there own aye .....some like it hot, some don't
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Smilingwithfun
11 years ago
Here I am thinking that being old I'm missing out. Shit, the age of the lucky men is fairly narrow.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Hey ya- wad up dude ;) To be honest, are guys under 30 wasting our time? If they act like dicks and send messages like dicks, then yes they are dicks...then its a big fat erect YES because they are wasting some ladies precious time. My advice is to turn your pic around, ladies get kinks in their necks looking at pic upside down. Also send out messages that are appealing to a women's profile, write something that is outstanding and unique. As per forums and feedback most of the ladies give on here, we want to read something that is eye catching and catches our attention..make yourself stand out. I know from experience and messages received that's what catches my attention. Age to some means nothing to some, it's how you treat ladies with the respect and dignity a they deserves, so why come back when you are 30 if you can do that now?? Foxy
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sweetgem
11 years ago
Everyone has their own preferences in age and many other factors when it comes to meeting people for friendship, sexual fun time, or dating. I personally don't go for younger age men (even just a year younger), or men who are more than a decade older than me and it's just my preference, nothing personal. Do not think that you're wasting your time to be on RHP, because there are many young women in their 20s on here (have seen them appeared in the Forums), and there are also older age women who like younger age men, like yourself. Good luck :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've had several lovers your age (very successfully!) and you seem like a mature and eloquent man. I agree with Luckdragon though, there is room for improvement. And don't ever ever write 'for' as '4' again. Text speak makes you sound like you're twelve. ;-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
And makes you sound 61 mes !! 😄😄 Get hip and with the programe gran... 😋😋 Op... It mostly comes back to what you present... But it's a numbers game too. Just don't fall into the mass marketing approach, keep it personal and you'll get fewer, but better quality contacts. Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
11 years ago
OP I just took a look at your profile. Ditch the word FUN and definitely change the picture. It doesn't matter how old you are (although it does help to be young and fit), it's a numbers game. I can't really offer you much advise, but with the time I have been in here, I have learnt that You do need a well written profile and a couple of good pictures. I would say that you Definitely Do what Luckdragon suggested take a look at some of the more regular Male posters in here to get an idea don't be afraid to let them know you have visited them, sometimes they drop you a message and offer some advice. Don't look at mine it wont help you :-) it's still a work in progress.Try and be more active in the forums. What you say in the forums may help in swaying someone your way, and listen to what the women say in the post there insight is well worth it. Having said that don't dismiss what the guys have to say either. Every one in here has a life experience to offer. experiences you can learn from. my 2 cents worth Have fun.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Smilingwithfun' Here I am thinking that being old I'm missing out. Shit, the age of the lucky men is fairly narrow. And the demographics of RHP the ugly truth is that if I did not find RHP I would have gone a lot longer than three years with no sex.for woman its a bountiful feast no matter your age, your looks, your personality , you can still get laid for menits the desert and your lucky if an attractive camel looks your way Age is only a number if you if your on RHP and you have a Y or if its closing time at the pub LadyT looking for her zimmer frame and marbles
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RHP User
11 years ago
As long as I pull off 61 like Tuscan does, I'll be thrilled!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' As long as I pull off 61 like Tuscan does, I'll be thrilled! What an inspiration she is.....damn hot, damn sexy....amen to her LOL
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RHP User
11 years ago
The outside world is where its really at. I quad triple my success outside of here. I guess when we can see , touch and talk to a real being ' that equation changes. Most... and I mean most females are here for social entertainment and to boost their ego along the way. Effecting some poor guy's feelings means sweet bugga all.. You are just a part of their game... So dont take it too serious.. if you do they will chew you up and spit you out.. lol.. You could do as I do and just wait and let them come to you... That sorts those who are real and who give lip service..
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RHP User
11 years ago
if you haven't experienced success on here, you might want to consider making a slight change to your profile that better represents 'who you are'. Good luck OP
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RHP User
11 years ago
Two types of reactions you can have 1) look for an excuse disguised as a reason2) look for a reason and fix it Be person 1). And be real with yourself.
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RHP User
11 years ago
We grew up surrounded by different things influencing our brains development and carving the basis of how we behave and see things. Every generation is a different breed. Some people find this interesting - others don't. It is understandable that older generations are skeptical about our maturity. Having a dick pic as your profile pic for example, (ah the hypocrisy) - isn't the best start. You have to think about what your profile says - because they will read it. Once again I am being a hypocrite - my profile is retarded. Try to come across as an individual that is funny, smart, relaxed and respectful. Next and probably the most important part - you have to think about your approach when messaging someone. In my opinion the first message should be short and say/imply one thing about you, open up conversation and show that you have read their profile.
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uneventful
11 years ago
With a statement like that Jay-me. Its not surprising woman look the other way,went in the vacinity of your aura. - Posted from rhpmobile
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chevtrek
11 years ago
If I could pick an age to go back to it would be about 28 or so.I got my sexual knowledge at 15 but all the practicalat 17 to 21.But learn how to use it better and go for hours at 26so I think that's a good age.
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Seachange
11 years ago
hello OP. I have posted my reply yesterday but it seems to have gotten lost in rhp ether. I viewed your profile to get a handle on your post. I think that your profile has more character and meat than most of your peers on this site, that have contacted me. I commend you for not using the profile builder because that is definitely a no-go for the 'experienced' women on this site. However, your profile does not stand out. Assess your target audience, people you want to connect with and then tailor your profile to appeal to these people. Make you profile stand out, make it distinct and unforgettable. Maybe a little snippet about yourself that differentiates you from all the other HOT YOUNG Thing here. Lol. Bragging about your ability in the sack is really boring and glad you did not resort to that. Well done. Something sensual, like what appeals to you the most about a woman's - the small of their back, the smooth round mounds of their breast... you get the picture. Have a pic ready. facials in one PG and if you want to, cock pics in another. Personally, I dont like cock pics. It does not leave much to the imagination. I'm a guest so I dont get to see them. Thank God for that. I'm relative new here, but I think have received a lot of interest and read enough profiles to say that the biggest turn off for me is the laziness of your generation in communicating. I hate the text speak, using U for you, 4 for for, da for The, etc. Mojo killer. so when you contact smart, switched on women, regardless of age, avoid resorting to these. Leave that for your phone communication. Good luck and keep hanging there.
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RHP User
11 years ago
When I say it as it is' I'm not out to win brownie points .? I answered the OP honestly. If you care to read everything , you will see I mentioned my success is quad tripled in the real world . I'm sure if the OP takes heed'. he will find that for himself... Besides' If you're one of the exceptions ( and I'm sure there is some ) you could prove me wrong and contact the guy.. ?
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RHP User
11 years ago
#1 you need a way better profile pic. Lose the cock shots, assume all guys on this site can get an erect cock. You need some proper pics of yourself. Your profile isn't doing much to impress IMO
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'nitetime85' Lose the cock shots, assume all guys on this site can get an erect cock. You need some proper pics of yourself. You have a pic of a massage table. I assume all masseurs have one of those.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Its pretty clear that the gals are looking at the mid-range (about 30 - 40) which is understandable. It is kinda open slather, tho, coz many young guys seem to, erm, chase anything female, women describe themselves as cougars .... and certainly generically seem to be seeking younger men. The other dichotomy here is that "sex" can work across such a broad variety of ages and interactions. My sexuality is no different than it has been in my earlier years, but like some, I need a reasonable degree of physical attraction (regardless of age). And sexual compatibility (other factors excluded) is not age dependent.
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RHP User
11 years ago
all older women are cougars OP.The truth is that many are actually intimidated by hot young things and we don't want to he ticked off a bucket list....Sometimes women actually feel quite dehumanised here,....xx Q
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_Me' When I say it as it is' I'm not out to win brownie points .? You don't say it "as it is", but as how you "perceive it". Unfortunately your perception of women, especially those over 35 (whom you have often called bitter), is a rather negative one. Quoting 'Jay_Me' I mean most females are here for social entertainment and to boost their ego along the way. Effecting some poor guy's feelings means sweet bugga all.. You are just a part of their game... And there's the proof. "Most females." You regularly mention in your posts you are a very positive person, but statements like this make you sound jaded and misogynistic.
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RHP User
11 years ago
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ok I have to ask...what the hell does OP stand for...ive been trying to work this out for hours haha
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Seachange
11 years ago
I agree with your comments on Jay_Me's post. Well pointed out. My sentiments exactly. Jay_mePlease do not put all of us women in the same basket. I am not here for those reasons so I resent the generalization. It may be your experience but the OP needs to make up his mind on his views about women in the site and that would be based on his experience. He needs to meet the people here and see how it goes. Give us women a break and some credit please. OPchange your profile to attract the partners you like , maximize all the opportunities you are given, make some mistakes (hey, why not?) and then use those mistakes as a learning tool to improve your chances. Make everything count, good or bad, and turn the latter into a positive experience. Good luck, chin up, smile at new opportunities yet to come and have fun. You are young. The world is your oyster. X
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'naughtynicka' Ok I have to ask...what the hell does OP stand for...ive been trying to work this out for hours haha when I first started posting, every one was calling me off the planet, so i just figured it meant that. It means Oblifficuss Poblidguoinituion
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madotara69
11 years ago
some refer it too Original Post, so it means you and your topic OP Mado Tara xx
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
You crack me up.....LOL @ off the planet! Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
OMG .. you never fail to comment on anything I post unless you find a negative.. both you and I and everyone else know that by now . Not the first time for those same words and it wont be the last. Reading into things probally pleases , right or wrong. I dont generalise with my words ' and presuming I perceive things is total rubbish. Saying what I see , is not a presumption. Truth is ' witnessing so many guys giving up because they dont get anywhere with the older women here is real . They feel brushed and so they say so. I stand by my comment that I beleive many women are here for the social aspect with no intention of anything else. This does not mean everyone as you perceive.. Lilyorchid... no need to feel offended. My post was directed to the original OP, I apoligise if what I said came across as lumping everyone in the same basket.. I can honestly tell you, that was not my intention..
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_Me'Truth is ' witnessing so many guys giving up because they dont get anywhere with the older women here is real . They feel brushed and so they say so. I stand by my comment that I beleive many women are here for the social aspect with no intention of anything else. This does not mean everyone as you perceive.. To be totally accurate.... they're also complaining about not getting anywhere with ANY women in here... so the age of those women they're contacting is just one element of the bigger picture of why they're not receiving the responses they expect.. But while I don't agree that there are some in here ONLY seeking validation.. (that seems to be the usual call from those complaining of a "lack of success")..... so what if some ARE here just for the ego prop and nothing else?! How does that make this site any different to the wide world beyond it?! And its hardly a gender specific trait. Such is life..... said Ned. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Considering this was the first day I've commented on anything you said this year, I think I've done pretty well.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Look at us ! We are a couple with no hangups, straight forward we want to meet and have fun. We can't get anywhere, we need help too ! Mr_Mrs_Stig
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just to show you that putting in that bit of effort and listening to advice can get you results.... I was contacted by a guy younger than you, who did not impress me at all in his first message. It was a very brief message in which every 'you' was replaced by 'ya' which made him sound lazy, and I told him that in my 'not interested' reply. I expected either no response or some sort of abuse or ridicule, but I was surprised when he sent another message which didn't have one 'ya' in it, asking me to give him another chance. His profile was also even worse than yours as he'd just used the generic profile builder. His reasoning was that he wasn't into the online thing and he just wanted to meet people in person. Since he'd actually listened to me on the 'ya' thing, I told him that with a profile like that and given the amount of contact women on here receive, he wasn't going to inspire enough interest for the women to even respond to him, let alone meet with him. Again, I was surprised when I looked at his profile a couple days later and he had re-written it with more info about himself, and in his own words (with no 'ya's ;-) ). Upshot is, I'm now organising a meet with this guy who initially I had no intention of meeting :)
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
I see the OP took the advice on primary photo lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
I dont give a hoot who's here for a ego a boost. If that makes them happy ' so be it. As long as they dont hurt anyone I dont see a problem.. But when someone asks a question that has a answer' surely it deserves to be answered. Then again ' we can pretend theres no answer and feed them some BS ?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Jay, Considering this was the first day I've commented on anything you said this year, I think I've done pretty well. Ms D.. this may well be the first direct comment, I dont count , but there have been plenty of obvious indirect comments.. But then again you know deep down you still want me
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