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Are RHP women relationship material?
February 28 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
In a pub. Way safer - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Some women are here looking for casual sex..some are looking for more...some are ironing the wedding dress as we speak ....OP ,do you think you will find what you seek here?..If there is a woman waiting for you to find her...she will be wherever she is ,here there,or any where xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm here to find long-term lovers rather than a relationship, though I'd definitely be open to one should I meet the right man. Forget about moving to a different location though.
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QLDtwo4fun
10 years ago
And the women here are no different to other women. If you find someone potentially special here at least you know you have a common interest.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Are many women here like me who looking or a fwb....seems as rare as hen's teeth though xxFreya
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On_Safari
10 years ago
You may think of me as just "flesh" mate but whomever ends up in a relationship with me is going to be SPECTACULARLY LUCKY as well as happy..... And this vanilla angel you seek in the real world may have one hell of a seedy history, just because you didn't meet her here or on a website doesn't mean she won't have any skeletons or past life history/experience.....well not if she's lived, learned, loved anyway. Just my 2 cents but if you connect with this person and adore each other immensely does it really matter if she's from RHP or your local Library? BTW I am a voracious reader. And I think yours and any other man's fear of forming a relationship with a woman of RHP speaks more about you and your mindset than it does hers. Some of us are just here passing the time too you know.....until Mr Tie Me Up Tie Me Down comes to the rescue and we run off together in debaucherous blissful polyamory/monogamy/or whatever both ideally seek. I am but a mortal woman with needs to mate, that makes me no less a Lady than any you already have in your life who you respect and value, be it your mother, grandmother, sister, niece or daughter. Just remember that when you think about some of us as just "flesh" to press. Indy
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RHP User
10 years ago
In Court 20 yrs LaterWhen You saybu but your HonourI met the skank on RHP Fucking Grow up. It aint spank party here
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RHP User
10 years ago
it's not a question about worthiness.... But a question for the individual.... "Am I prepared to accept them for a relationship??" - Posted from rhpmobile
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SacralChakra
10 years ago
I'd love to meet someone for something serious. When the right person comes along though, it doesn't matter where you met them, only that you did.
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On_Safari
10 years ago
I'm "life partner" material but that person I choose won't be just any "life partner" material. He will have lived, fucked up, loved and learned as well and be emotionally mature enough to know not everything is black and white in life and people are all different. Sometimes it's the ones who struggle the most, live the hardest and laugh over their fuck ups but learnt from them at the same time make the best people to know if not love. Carry on folks, it's a gorgeous Sunday.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Nice post OS I think there is more chance of a man meeting a similar minded woman on here for a possible relationship than the other way around I think women do have their time out to recover from their wounds received from former relationships and then slowly dip their toes into the whole moving on by "getting under someone to get over someone" thing while being open to something long term. Men tend to jump on a site like this straight away to fuck away their pain and may not be as open to anything requiring a commitment more than a coffee meet I know I've used broad generalisations here but that has been my experience I'm at that time in my life that after a few years of moving, trying to establish my career, ill health and one night stands, I would love to be in a relationship but one where we can still explore our "fucket list" together and be open about our wants and desires I'm actually dating at the moment, meeting some lovely people and its very nice Op I don't suggest moving to start again I've done that many times, its expensive and lonely and not always the answer. Mistakes tend to follow you unless your open to learning from them
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Mr_MrsAraps
10 years ago
My view is that if you are on RHP or similar you are on here because sex and how you express yourself sexually is a very important aspect of who you are. Given most people on here are in the same vote, then it stands to reason you would have a good chance of finding someone who you can click with sexually but also click with emotionally. The chances you are going to meet someone on RHP who has a low libido or not at all interested in sex are fairly low. I just don't get how some people can dismiss someone as relationship material just because they are on RHP ... cause I can have a FWB or FB here but when I am ready to settle down for a relationship I will choose a nice girl/guy (ie boring sexually) not on RHP. Why can't you have both - someone you kinkily fuck senseless are well some you click with emotionally and have great times together outside the bedroom .... or beach or secluded forrest or sex and swingers club ;-) Cheers, W. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Totally agree with ( On Safari ) u have to have lived and screwed up to appreciate the rest of life I don't care how or where I meet someone You have to meet someone first to have a connection ? But can someone please tell me if we ever stop screwing up I seem to be making a habit of it ?? ??? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
All of the above ☺️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
that guys think I am not relationship material because I enjoy sex. Because I enjoy sex does not make me a cheater, it doesn't mean I can't cook a meal, maintain a house, keep up appearances with family and friends, be a good parent. I am far more a woman than what I am perceived as on here which is unfortunate. So many times I get asked why I am single.... fucked if I know.
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RHP User
10 years ago
7 Years on RHP and 3 long term relationships (lovers) with people I meet on RHP, plus one that was on RHP but meet elsewhere, and I am nothing particularly special. So I would say yes RHP women are relationship material. I think that every one is available for a relationship. That does not mean they are looking for one, they may be of the mind set that they do not want one. But when the right person comes along and everything clicks then it will be a relationship. All that I entered a relationship with said "Looking for FWB nothing more" There may be some that will refuse to enter a relationship, no matter how well they get along, how well friendship, company, sensuality all feels, they will push someone away. They exist, it is sad, they are too damaged and really need to get psychological help. I don't think RHP particularly attract that type.
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On_Safari
10 years ago
Quoting 'merino12' Totally agree with ( On Safari ) u have to have lived and screwed up to appreciate the rest of life I don't care how or where I meet someone You have to meet someone first to have a connection ? But can someone please tell me if we ever stop screwing up I seem to be making a habit of it ?? ??? - Posted from rhpmobile Don't know why I try so hard to avoid it!!! Lol how are you today Handsome?
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6exxy
10 years ago
We should move past the assumptions on a personal level. It is a general question that was asked about men and it is no different for women. If I find her here great if not then that is ok too. The same should be for women as well. If you find or get what you need here love it and live it! Let's not make the OP's question about each individual circumstance because there are a million stories. Saying that I would love to meet a gorgeous mature women that I connect, sync and can adore. I know that ladies here too want the same at some stage when they are emotionally and mentally ready for that stage of their life. 😘
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RHP User
10 years ago
Flesh?
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Missb4u
10 years ago
That made me cock my eyebrow to... Interesting way of describing us
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ruby_blossum
10 years ago
Oh Bosch.... I think the reason women here dont want to meet you is your attitude. My thoughts...no-one ( male or female) really appreciates being thought of as just flesh. Now that you have actually put your thoughts about rhp women into words on a forum, you may want to find the number of a company that supplies plastic Real life dolls for your life partner. That inanimate object wont ask you to put out the rubbish, ask for a back rub, ask for some intimate time, ask how your day was, wont laugh with you, wont be in love with you....but it will be up for any move you wish to make and sex whenever you want without a condom.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' it's not a question about worthiness.... But a question for the individual.... "Am I prepared to accept them for a relationship??" - Posted from rhpmobile Really? Isn't it a question of shared values, interests and sexual chemistry and both people wanting a relationship?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Do you plan to return to RHP afterwards and join the ranks of sexually unsatisfied married men seeking "flesh" because their wives are not interested?
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On_Safari
10 years ago
Umm not suggest that Bosch devalues us entirely or is not himself a valuable prospect in the "flesh". Peace out
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RHP User
10 years ago
You are in the middle of a divorce? Well, I don't know. I am not sure you would be relationship material really. As anything, it all depends on the stage in life somebody is in. If they are ready or looking for a relationship. Otherwise the women on RHP are sexually open and adventurous and will make wonderful partners for the lucky men who have the balls to accept a strong woman in their life. You can definitely find people here that have the same values, the similar outlook on life and who are into similar kinks as yourself which are all essential characteristics of a successful relationship. Isn't it? It all depends on the individuals. Do they have the balls to risk their hearts? Are they emotionally available? And if men are looking for the woman next door to marry well good luck to them although I doubt a conservative good girl would be too thrilled to find out they are on an adult site trying to root anything that moves. Or is that acceptable that men are players?
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ruby_blossum
10 years ago
the difference being, Meeka's op Are RHP men relationship material was asked respectfully. No mention in her op of rhp men being classed as flesh. It is part of Bosch_sparks question...he himself bought it up for comment. The sad part is many men do think the way Bosch does, RHP for fucking and other sites for life partners. If only many more men realised the absolute treasures they are overlooking because of their tunnel vision. Women realise this...its one of the reasons the women outnumber the men (in general) at Meet & Greet nights, women know the value of the other women they meet and one of the reasons that many women form very strong friendships with other women from the forums. They know the value of a like minded, open minded friend, male or female.... and the benefits of including one in their life.
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RHP User
10 years ago
This attitude is a reflection of the double standard that IMO is alive and well in this country..The Maddona Whore,conundrum...And why when men find themselves with the Good Wife ,they suddenly want more...and yes I know not ALL men think this way,but many do..xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Just because I'm not relationship material today because life kicked me in the ass and left me broken, doesn't mean I won't be tomorrow when I heal.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Look I am not convinced Bosch means it the way it has been taken and probably we are taking it too personally. He is just making the point we are all saying anyway. But I will say this to you Bosch (why do I always think of a dishwasher??) I would definitely never have a relationship with someone who believes that they should be with a "good" girl and actively seeks that, even though it probably means they are sexually incompatible. People who bow down to family and religious pressures. I get it, I can see that family and their expectations can apply an enormous amount of pressure on people, but seriously, you only live once. Don't fall into the "usual" pattern of looking for a life partner. Didn't work for you the first time. Yeah?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Also I have read comments men have made about women, particularly couples, where it is apparent that they are being treating as a convenient cock or service boy. Come on ladies we have all read comments that have made think this as well. I am sure there are women out of long term relationships who come here just to scratch an itch or to find a pretty cock. There are women here who are DTF and don't want anything else. We have to be fair. I think blokes may not always get treated so well on here.... and then you wonder why they get the impression that they do. That this is just a meat market.
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RHP User
10 years ago
well said nothing further needed to add Quoting 'EuropianBliss' In Court 20 yrs LaterWhen You saybu but your HonourI met the skank on RHP Fucking Grow up. It aint spank party here
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RHP User
10 years ago
I totally agree with what you have told the OP. OP, I too am "relationship material". But the man who wants to be in a "relationship" with me, must understand my "special" circumstance. He too must have a "special" circumstance of his own. That "special" circumstance is that neither of us want to marry each other. We know where our boundaries lie in that respect. What do you consider is a woman who is "relationship" material ? What attributes do you seek in her ? I am thinking that you feel that a woman who is "relationship material" is one that won't "play around" behind your back ? Is this the case ? I am sure that there are women on RHP, should they find their "perfect" man, who would be happy to do just that !!! I'm a perfect example as I no longer "play" with other men from RHP. I've found "the One" for me who is now my boyfriend. Amy
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RHP User
10 years ago
LMAO Amy. I am sure the first thing a person looks for when they are looking for a serious relationship is someone that is single and emotionally available. So .. not married.
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RHP User
10 years ago
this mystery women that you find after what i call the honeymoon period has subsided. (cunt struck)with the retinue of ever day life and juggling what do you perceive will be different from the previous relationship?From my experience 20 yrs is a substantial length of time don't you think you will go through a grieving process of loss and be in the right head space to accept a new partner.All sounding wonderful you sound like you have got it all down pat - good luck with it all.
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RHP User
10 years ago
"It all depends on the individuals. Do they have the balls to risk their hearts? Are they emotionally available?" In my instance OP, I texted the man and told him that I loved him. I had "the balls" to risk my heart and I was half expecting him to flee but he didn't. He took the "news" like the man he is and gave it some consideration. Obviously, he is at a stage in his life where he is "open" to a relationship with me. We still communicate, see each other and will be exploring our sexual fantasies together. We have much to discover and learn and we are eager. If my husband had not put me on RHP, I would not have met this wonderful man. The same holds true if he had not joined RHP, searched and then found me that very same day. Sometimes when people do have "the balls to risk their hearts" and both parties are "emotionally available" it could result in some wondrous experiences. I took the chance. I risked my heart. Now we are both being rewarded with each other's company and loving it !!! Amy
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ruby_blossum
10 years ago
You are already married and have a life partner. This "love" you have with this other man...is purely a sexual relationship. He gets his cake and gets to eat it as well without any other commitment. I am sure he thinks he has won the lottery.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You texted him you love him? Why didn't you tell him face to face?
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RHP User
10 years ago
That's what I thought too !!! Imagine my surprise when he wanted me to make him my #2 man !!! I didn't think that he was serious and we had only just met !!! All we had was a coffee and chat but I must be honest and say that the "forces of attraction" was already in effect !!! One can still have a "serious relationship" with each other without wanting to get married. Anything is possible. Amy
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RHP User
10 years ago
In a way, I suppose that what you are saying is right. That the "love" is a "purely sexual relationship". To tell you the truth, I don't know. I care for him even when we're apart. If we didn't have "sex" at all, that would be fine too. Sex isn't the be all and end all. I just love him for himself. How about this ? If he suddenly became impotent, I'd still love him. So what type of "love" do I have ? Meeka100; I texted him because I began developing these feelings in between after we had been "intimate" and before seeing him again. Amy
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RHP User
10 years ago
His commitment is that he is "exclusive" to me. As I am "exclusive" to him. It is in writing for my husband to see. It is sincerely written and I believe and trust him. Look.......I am practical. I don't know know how long this "relationship" will last. If I had my way, I would wish it to last forever. After all, neither of us are young anymore. For however long it may last, we just intend on enjoying it and to hell with anyone else's opinions !!! Amy
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm just trying to tell you that I have a "Don't care 2 hoots what anybody thinks" attitude. In Life, this is sometimes the stance that we must take. In doing so, we get to enjoy ourselves. Amy
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RHP User
10 years ago
Big fat NO - Posted from rhpmobile
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ruby_blossum
10 years ago
It would appear you have achieved the ideal that others often seek, a happy open marriage and a committed lover. One from real life and one from RHP.
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RHP User
10 years ago
The way I'm feeling now, I feel that it is I who has "won the lottery" !!! Mind you, knowing him , he will beg to differ. Let's just say that we both feel "privileged" for each other's company and thankful that we met. Amy
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RHP User
10 years ago
That is good Amy that you don't care what people think. What I think is that you are so desperate to be in love that you have latched onto the first available person. I have seen this a lot. People are so needy that they can confuse their feelings and think they are in love. No need to respond. You obviously will not agree with me, and of course I don't know you so what I think is not important. Time will tell.
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RHP User
10 years ago
yup I agree....but my viewpoint is more from the angle that before you can explore compatibilities and sharing; both parties must be equally open to the possibility of that occurring.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
In all of my life, I didn't think that such a thing would happen to me. Far less, here on RHP. My husband warned me that RHP is a "Sex Site"; even he believes that "serious relationships" seldom develop out of here. But my love for this man comes as no surprise to my husband as he is able to love another too. It seems that it is now "my time" to have another "Lover" too and a "serious" one at that !!! RHP has certainly been an "experience" for me. At least I got to meet 23 different men !!!How different each is to one another and I thoroughly enjoyed the social contact !!! At least I got to have numerous ice coffees !!! I will still partake of some of the Forums; after all, I still have nearly 9 months worth of Membership left before I revert back to being just a "Guest". Amy
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RHP User
10 years ago
BTW, he was not the first "available" person. Sir_stir , both parties are "equally open to the possibilities of exploring compatibilities and sharing". I assume that you mean both him and me. Amy
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RHP User
10 years ago
How is someone on RHP any different to someone you meet a pub or a club? standing in line at the shopping center or some bling date your Mom organized.People are people and working out if they are "relationship" material is the 50 million dollar question. I mean really, I think that you have a far better prospect of meeting someone on the same wavelength as yourself online. I mean male or female if your main avenue to finding a life partner is getting dressed up and hitting the town on a Sat night.. You really are limiting your field.. People can lie straight to your face, they don't all hide behind keyboards.
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RHP User
10 years ago
... if you can find someone mutually suitable and both (or more) are prepared to work at it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Serenity That you have got the whole "love and lust thing" mixed up ? Just asking
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't see any difference between here or there. There being the rest of the world. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Im not sure with that description you are thinking about a positive outcome. If I meet a woman on here that I connected with, it would not alter pursuing that relationship for all it could give. That woman is no different to any other lady on any other site or indeed the woman that walks through a shopping centre. I believe that first, we have to be open to the possibility that the person we don't want to live without, could be the very next contact that I have. Im not saying that I will treat every woman I have contact with as the next life partner, However I will certainly never rule out it happening.
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RHP User
10 years ago
To be honest I'm not looking for a relationship on here so I can't say either yes or no to the question. I don't think I'd look here if I was seeking a long term relationship though. Don't get me wrong women here have a lot of similar sexual interests as me but I'm willing to bet that's as far as the common ground goes.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm definitely relationship material - I've made a habit of being in relationships for long stints; 3 years, 25 years and 5 years, so building something lasting and meaningful comes naturally to me. However, I'm puzzled as to how being 'relationship material' might make someone different to being a long term FWB - isn't that still a kind of relationship, even if it might only be viewed as friendship from the outside looking in? I view a relationship as a deep and enduring affection and commitment to someone but that doesn't necessarily entail exclusivity/fidelity or living under the same roof as that person. I think that for those of us who have exhausted our enthusiasm for meaningless sex, without any real intimacy or affection being involved, a relationship would make a refreshing change. However, being older and wiser makes some of us fussier, and far from being desperate for a relationship, the mistakes of the past have led me to frame a very clear picture in my head of the person I would like to share my life with, and I think I'm very unlikely to meet him on a site where so many men are very clear they're not looking for a lasting partner. Quite frankly this strikes me as a bit of a waste. I would much rather have a relationship with someone who rocks my world in the bedroom than be with some passionless drone, whereas men seem to marry women who after a few years, go off sex, and then they end up on here looking for a fling! So many married/attached men, who really should've made better life choices...
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RHP User
10 years ago
you are seeking similar interests ??? ..well ...guess then she would be on here somewhere. ..after all, if you were just after someone to help soothe your wounds there are many other sites available to meet woman, Just saying. .. . .some of us are attached and seeking fun with or without our partners, some of us are open and honest with our partners, and some may be more discreet, some woman on here may be single and enjoying some fun until they meet someone they could see themselves being in a relationship with, and would love to continue this lifestyle with that someone , best of all worlds. .. .Just giving you some food for thought, We are all ladies , and we all deserve to be treated with respect. and if one of us appears headstrong, direct, or nasty, spare a thought for maybe why ???
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RHP User
10 years ago
yep 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
In the shop serving you. The woman in the art gallery. The woman teaching your kids. Some ines mother, daughter, sister . We are exactly what a man should want. And more important we are strong to voice the sendusl sexy side that all women can be. If they shrug if the bullshit confinements, labels and stupid double standards. Sexy stong women are dangerous. Best to go find one that fits the conservative mould so mum will like her, and you won't be wondering if when she says u am just going for milk. That she is not going to a gang bang with your foot ball mates. No we make crap wives, mothes, daughters, sisters cause we in a skanky ho web site. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
In the shop serving you. The woman in the art gallery. The woman teaching your kids. Some ines mother, daughter, sister . We are exactly what a man should want. And more important we are strong to voice the sendusl sexy side that all women can be. If they shrug if the bullshit confinements, labels and stupid double standards. Sexy stong women are dangerous. Best to go find one that fits the conservative mould so mum will like her, and you won't be wondering if when she says u am just going for milk. That she is not going to a gang bang with your foot ball mates. No we make crap wives, mothes, daughters, sisters cause we in a skanky ho web site. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Indy, you are 100% spot on. I couldn't have said it better myself! OP- yes I have become an RHP girl but I do have a life outside here and any man I choose to spend my time with is a lucky son of a b**ch because I have a hell of a lot more to offer than a bit of 'flesh'.
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RHP User
10 years ago
They are all meat to me. Poor luvs. If they did not have a cock I eoukd kick em to the curb. Ir make em my best gurkfruend Beaty. I think ruby blossom nailed it in that women in here become great friends with no judgements - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
With living in a bubble is that while its all shiny and pretty with rainbows when you look out....the bubble will unfortunately eventually burst..Amy I have read many of your posts where you have talked about your pain and loneliness....if this man can bring you happiness for even a day,then that is not a bad thing..but you also need to be a little realistic ...xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Not good wife material..But I am good friend material...and I love sex but not with just any old or young random dude..too much time energy and effort just for a random fuck...it's always tempting when some young hottie messages me,but nope,not for me...and Ruby B I can't remember exactly what you said about older single men on another thread but it resonated with me..xxFreya
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ruby_blossum
10 years ago
from Meekas thread Are RHP Men relationship material.... "At now 56 and my preference is to meet with men around my age, I have found the majority of the men are just seperated and no where near thinking about another relationship...or just serial sluts. As much as I would love to think I could meet a man that would be boyfriend- husband material on rhp, so far I have found the men I have met in my age range appear not to be in that kinda headspace."
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RHP User
10 years ago
You only have to read someone's profile to know what they are open too or not. There are actually so many guys on here that I know are on other apparently normal dating sites saying they are looking for a relationship & have messaged me not knowing that I am on here as my face pics are private. Now that is irony lol. How you meet is irrelevant in the long run if you can find the one & make it work. We are all on here as we love sex & because of various circumstances have found it harder to get that through other channels ie kids, work etc. We still all have basic needs we want met and to have fun with it just adds to the build up & excitement of the chase & lead up. At least we are all open & honest on here about it and not afraid to voice it. Why does that make me less appealing than the town bike who goes on RSVP or POf or ZOOSK hoping to attract some a guy who is blind to her past & what she is really like in person until months down the track. Get real I say & if you meet the one you will know regardless of what brought you together.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thank you Ruby xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
that you are exactly what I am looking for. That doesn't mean you are looking for me. But regarding the topic of this thread, women are women whether they are on RHP or not. At least if we are both on RHP we have that much in common. I have always said that the best way to meet someone is when they are doing what you do. Or when you are doing what they do if that sounds better. Have something in common and a few mysteries and maybe the magic will happen.
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RHP User
10 years ago
...I respect your balanced comments. And such a shame I'm in a time zone 8 hours in the past...I would have liked to have been present at the beginning of this topic...but all has been covered anyway, I think..and I agree with the general consensus. "Flesh" really was such a poor choice of word, and clearly raised blood temperatures by a few tenths of a degree. RHP should have its own "Urban Dictionary"....one of the uses of the word "Flesh" would be "How to shoot one's self in the foot" or "How to alienate women". : )
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RHP User
10 years ago
All answers are right or wrong at the same time depending on the observer.
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
I've been single for 7 years, so I guess not...... The truth is I've been singe for the last 7 years by choice, if I met someone with whom I was compatible with on all levels, someone with an open mind, someone that made me rub my feet together in glee, then I would gladly give it a go......💋
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RHP User
10 years ago
Overall I think the truth came out - women on RHP are just as much relationship material as women anywhere else. This question was not asked because I thought it in a particular way, but because it was asked by someone else about men... While my opinion is women here are no different to women out there this place provides a better choice for me, as I see myself as more adventrurous and open minded than an average person on the street... Over time I had met great people here and on other sites, not just adult ones but social meetup ones - groups that go to see burlesque shows and visit adult night clubs as a group without expecting everyone to hookup (some do if they feel compatible). I know swingers (yet have to try a couple though I have to admit) and sex workers, and porn producers - each of them has a special place as a friend but it does not mean that I have (or will) met that special someone ...So - enjoy life and best of luck! PS: Just as Amy's contributions and answers to them show people in polyamorous relationships must feel same way as gay people felt 20 years ago... but that would be another question :-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
But all I can say is based on the balance of probabilities 6 Billion people live, breath and currently suffocate this planet.At any one time, there is an average of between 4 Thousand and 6 Thousand people hopping around on RHP at any one time.Clearly, common sense dictates that the ‘real world’ is going to offer you a wider range of human beings to connect with. However, let me point out that these humans in the real world are exactly the same creatures in inhabiting the world of RHP.So, if you met Little Bo Peep here on RHP she’s rejected because she is supposedly a sex crazed and deranged slut.But you meet Little Bo Beep while sipping a Soy Decaf Latte at your local café, click and feel like you’ve known each other for a life-time, she’ll stand a chance of getting a leg in, because you’ve met her in conventional surroundings. Quite frankly, life is short, brief, and ends way too quickly.The older I get, the less concerned I am with living by the conventional rules dictated to me by a society that I generally see as being out of control. I’m always open to the possibility of a serious relationship, it could happen through any mechanism but if you refuse to have an open mind and keep your possibilities open it will never happen. I guess what it comes down to is wanting to be with someone spectacular rather than just anyone for the monotonous sake of swanking round and saying, “I’m in a relationship.” At the end of the day, I’m not prepared to sell my soul to the devil to be with just anyone, anymore. If that be the case, I’d rather continue on in life beating to the tune of my own drum. Forever, if need be! And no, I will not accept anyone who sips Soy Decaf Skinny Lattes - that defeats the sole purpose of drinking coffee!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I do understand. I understand that "Nothing good ever lasts". BTW, I am "good wife material".I must be for "putting up" with my husband for 33 years and counting !!! No ........jokes aside I'm actually a very loving and devoted wife. I try my best to understand my husband's point of view though sometimes he doesn't understand mine. I exasperate him most of the time.What can I say ? I'm a woman !!!I think that sometimes we are put here on Earth to exasperate our men !!! This man does bring me happiness; a kind of happiness that I haven't experienced before. Plus, he is in the "right frame of mind". He's no "youngster" either.I think we have a lot in common personality wise. I bet he's wondering too, "How long will this last ?" Like you say, Freya79 "...if this man can bring you happiness for even a day,then that is not a bad thing." I'm sure that he realises that the same applies to him with regard to me. So.....we are "taking it slowly", one step at a time. We are trying to prolong our "happiness". We are thinking of new and exciting things to do each time we meet. Even when we have "deep" conversations, there's always something more to learn about each other when it comes to opinions on things. As I stated before, he isn't the "first available man". I have been "intimate" with 2 others but this man is remarkably different. He holds "an interest" for me. Each conversation with him is a delight and his mere presence just thrills me. Looking back, I can't honestly say that this happened with the other 2 RHP men !!! I honestly think that this man feels the same way about me. I know for a fact, that I'm not like any other girlfriend that he's ever had and that admission, pleases me. Amy
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RHP User
10 years ago
RHP women are relationship material. Lets not get all upset about the flesh comment....just poorly phrased...we all do it! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
still sends mail to me addressed to Mrs P*@#r, as in her son's wife. I still have better connections with his family than he does. I must have been a terrible daughter in law!!
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On_Safari
10 years ago
Do you and your husband have children? or he with his other partner? Just Curious
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RHP User
10 years ago
Guess I'm an old romantic..But i don't really think there is the perfect place to meet a life partner...Especially as you get into middle age and beyond.. You just tend to be a little more skeptical and cautious lol! God luck my fellow fishy's G x
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RHP User
10 years ago
I will add that the concept of being in a relationship with someone that is not a RHP member is impossible to ponder. I have to say RHP women are eminently more relationship material then any other site. Last time I entered a relationship with someone I met on a vanilla site it was a disaster, I swept her of her feet it was not a plan it just happened, but then I had to tell her I was Bi, i was a swinger, I have male and female lovers, would you like to met them. OMDG Well not going through that shit again. Vanilla site women are a mind field of closed minded sexuality, bigotry, and unrealistic expectations. OP you will not find any relationship material when you are looking for flesh. It is not the RHP women that are not relationship material, it is your attitude that is making it so. If you treat anyone as just flesh you will not find relationship. Change how you see the ladies here, they are not warm lumps of lubricated flesh, they are modern progressive open minded sensualy mature women. You will find them much better lovers than the buffet of desperate anxiety riddled women with hooks set with hair triggers, and morality learnt from woman weekly, on other sites. When I meet someone and they do not have an RHP account, its a good sign that I will never be a friend, let alone a lover. What a nightmare.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Vaginatarian82' To be honest I'm not looking for a relationship on here so I can't say either yes or no to the question. I don't think I'd look here if I was seeking a long term relationship though. Don't get me wrong women here have a lot of similar sexual interests as me but I'm willing to bet that's as far as the common ground goes. the thing that defines who you are and your goals, interests and aspirations? If I were to meet you, can I assume the only thing that is interesting about you is your sexuality? That we couldn't possibly have anything else in common because we both like sex? Because that's basically what you're saying about women who are also members of this site.
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MsJonesy
10 years ago
Quoting 'Vaginatarian82' To be honest I'm not looking for a relationship on here so I can't say either yes or no to the question. I don't think I'd look here if I was seeking a long term relationship though. Don't get me wrong women here have a lot of similar sexual interests as me but I'm willing to bet that's as far as the common ground goes. Why would there be no other common ground? Or is it that you only ever scan the sexual and fetish interests and skip past anything else....only looking for the common ground for sex? This is the attitude that gives people the absolute shits. Here's a tip - try looking at women as a whole rather than a sexual commodity. You may be surprised to find that there is more than enough common ground to build something.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' But I will say this to you Bosch (why do I always think of a dishwasher??) I? For me it's an alternator
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' But I will say this to you Bosch (why do I always think of a dishwasher??) I? For me it's an alternator
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RHP User
10 years ago
Is indeed a powerful word,yes words have power of course...but it's also in the context that the word is used...Walt Whitman said...To be surrounded by beautiful,curious,breathing,laughing flesh is enough.....a little different to equating casual sex with women as "flesh"...I don't believe it was inadvertent on the OPs behalf...read into it as you will xxFreya
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ocean_man
10 years ago
If you think of all the ladies in here as flesh, then that is all you will find.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' OP ,do you think you will find what you seek here?..If there is a woman waiting for you to find her...she will be wherever she is ,here there,or any where xxFreya If there is a person out there who you are meant to meet, you will meet them, wherever that may be. Mr sinquisitive and I met on here. Neither of us was looking for a relationship, but it just happened. From a casual hook-up to FWB to a relationship. A lot of little things had to fall into place before we met (I won't go into details here) and that makes me believe we were meant to meet. Any person, man or woman, on here is just as much relationship material as anyone you meet at a pub or wherever else, it just always depends on the personal circumstances.... Mrs sinquisitive
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RHP User
10 years ago
No - Posted from rhpmobile
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inspirit
10 years ago
Though as Meeks said some of us ate just here for sex, therefore it does cum across as a "meet" market. Apologies to the men I have used and let use me. Fuck we had a good time tho.Best I put my halo back on and sister up. :-p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Nope on both counts. Amy
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hope you dont mind the personal question, but you seem pretty open in expressing yourself on here. I was just wondering, as you have stated that your new boyfriend is being exclusive and only seeing you. If I read it correctly. So if he said to you that he wants to see others as well as you, would this be ok with you?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't think it matters where you meet whether it's on RHP or outside somewhere, it's important to be able to openly communicate, share & express yourself sexually with your partner as well as having a connection with trust covering all that.
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RHP User
10 years ago
... sort of in line with asking "Are RHP women left-handed?": In that the distinction is entirely pointless. The fact that a woman is on here has no more or less bearing on her suitability that if she was left-handed. If your consideration of someone's suitability for relationship is seriously taking into account their membership with this site, the problem is you.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I broached this subject with him before we began our relationship. I told him that if he wanted to see other women, that is his prerogative. After all, who am I to control him ? He is an individual with rights of his own. No one has the right to "control" another person. It goes "against the grain". I am not a jealous person in that respect. However, it is he that chooses to be "exclusive" regardless of what I have told him and I am very happy with that !!! It is important to have "Freedom of choice". Amy
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RHP User
10 years ago
Serenity has nailed it. Freedom of choice is the key.
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RHP User
10 years ago
if you are on rhp....and so is she.... doesn't make you bad people just shared interest in sex ....a commonality, so to speak. if you want a partner that doesnt look at porn/ sex sites (which most healthy women do) then ...best be off to another site then..
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Serenity2000' I told him that if he wanted to see other women, that is his prerogative.... However, it is he that chooses to be "exclusive" regardless of what I have told him and I am very happy with that !!! Good attitude, and has to work both ways if needed. But if/when a couple gets to the stage of living together, if I had a lovely lady in bed with me every night, I don't think I would have any need to go anywhere else! Of course, I would certainly be happy to play elsewhere, but as a couple to share the fun.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm positive that "he" would agree with your sentiments wholeheartedly. Amy
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RHP User
10 years ago
What is important as you already know is communication, I suspect most women will be open to ltr if you present as an appropriate candidate. However if you don't talk about that then it won't work, especially if you act like a pole dancing porn star that will shag a rock if it looks female.... I suppose the real question is can girls really share ? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Brunnication' I suppose the real question is can girls really share ? - Posted from rhpmobile yes. As long as he doesn't want to take over my life I don't want to take over his life either.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Brunnication' What is important as you already know is communication, I suspect most women will be open to ltr if you present as an appropriate candidate. However if you don't talk about that then it won't work, especially if you act like a pole dancing porn star that will shag a rock if it looks female.... I suppose the real question is can girls really share ? - Posted from rhpmobile I am sure the number of women who can really share and the same as the number of men that can really share.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Quoting 'Brunnication' What is important as you already know is communication, I suspect most women will be open to ltr if you present as an appropriate candidate. However if you don't talk about that then it won't work, especially if you act like a pole dancing porn star that will shag a rock if it looks female.... I suppose the real question is can girls really share ? - Posted from rhpmobile I am sure the number of women who can really share and the same as the number of men that can really share. Totally Meeka - although many men would pretend to be open to sharing it is more a fair attempt than a genuine feeling... It will take decades to make real polyamorous relationship accepted - just as it took decades for people to accept gay relationships and marriages...
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