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Are all men the same on this site as far as women are concerned?
May 08 2013
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sweetgem
12 years ago
You've got painted with the same brush! But honestly, nobody knows what one would do and how they would react when they receive a flirt or message from a stranger (I mean it in a good term please don't get me wrong ).For me, I don't normally block people unless I have been forced to do sl with no better choice. If I receive a flirt from people who aren't in the 35-40 age gap, I will just ignore because I have made it clear in my profile about age preference If I receive a message from someone who is within my preferred age group, but I don't find him attractive to me, then I would send him a polite reply to say no and wish he best of luck.So OP, don't worry or even doubt about your way of approaching women on here as long as you know you didn't start your email with saying: "hi sexy, I love your profile and you look hot, want to catch up for some hot fun?" Each to their own and you really cannot predict how one is going to interpret your message and react to it :-) Give it patience and you will meet someone nice :-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am hearing you itsme its a case of dammed if you do dammed if you don't, I have experimented with my messages as to how someones profile is worded, so if the profile title is "horny and in need of attention now" I responded with a message along the same lines but always polite and with tact and still end up with no reply. As with most men on here a thanks but no thanks is fine you move on from there (as you say under your breath oh well honey that's the best sex you will never have lol), yes there are tossers on here that have fucked it up for the rest of us but guess that's just part of the big RPH game that we play.After reading some of the forum replies from the ladies about the messages they have received you do see why some of them are shy of sending a reply to the 99.9% of us that are half way decent. I was a paid member on RPH but have stepped back from that for a bit because I just couldn't be stuffed paying to take the time to read someones profile send a message to them and get nothing back. Its all part of the game mate if you could work it out to have a 100% hit rate you would be a wealthy man by selling the secret to the rest of us poor fools :) All the best and don't let it get you all bitter and twisted just do what feel right to you when you send a message.
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inspirit
12 years ago
I just think some woman get over it and its easier to block. I have been on here a few years and just recently I blocked several men. I just got sick of the constant flirts and stalking. One guy even mentioned in chat he new some one who knows some one who knows me. When I confronted him about it in chat he said " I don't kiss and tell" to that effect. He kept checking my PF as well. Clearly he had been discussing me with people with out even knowing me!! I can empathise with woman who do block for no apparent reason as I am even coming close to it these days. So sorry it is not your fault it is the fukwits who make it hard for everyone else.
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
Putting aside the random blockings, the likelihood of mailing a fake profile, the fact that the few genuine women are inundated by a swarm of dumbarses, and other such weirdness.... .... the fact that many guys are messaging with 'success' by some measure means not all guys are viewed the same, theyre not all acting the same, and at least some women aren't put off by that hoard of dumbarses in here. But I will say... yes, you are going about it a bit incorrectly. And only for 2 reasons. Firstly, is Natural Progression. Think about the nature of your interaction, and you'll see, you've send a message to a stranger, suggesting a meeting BEFORE you've even spoken (via email and/or phone) to learn if they're the sort of person either if you really want to meet. It's putting the cart before the horse. Secondly, "a nice message suggesting we catch up for a coffee and a chat", is no different to a hundred other messages every female profile receives, every day of the week. It doesn't prove you've read and understood her or her profile, and it gives her no reason to be intrigued by you, and compelled to want to learn more. Both aspects are very easily adjusted. DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
If they block me....I've clearly dodged a scud missile. They're clearly looking for something more superficial than I so it's doomed even before it starts..... I just shrug my shoulders and think MEH!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
different, we are pretty much over all the flirts and messages from people that address us as if our profile is a single desperate female.We were on another site where meet and greets were organized fairly often and it really did change our outlook on people. Our take on it was that it's very easy for people to send flirts/messages but most often the genuine types would turn up at a meet and greet. Much easier to assess a future play partner in a mixed relaxed atmosphere in person.
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On_Safari
12 years ago
Instant pass. So are generic profiles.....booooooring!!!!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'On_Safari' Instant pass. So are generic profiles.....booooooring!!!!- Posted from rhpmobile Agree; I wouldn't waste my energy on a message to those profiles, you reap what you sow baby !
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RHP User
12 years ago
with gentlemen a coupe of times and its only to comment on something written on the forums. I am far more likely to respond to someone who does the same. As for the blocking bizzo, maybe they were drunk at the time and are really kicking themselves now for clicking the wrong button. (I'm a glass half full kinda gal)
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RHP User
12 years ago
there was that guy with the amazing smoky eyes. He never responded ...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I agree with DG, if you are sending a lets meet email straight away that tells me you will meet any woman and you are most likely only after sex.... Possibly. Or you don't want to take the time to see if we click online first. I have never ever met anyone from RHP unless I have had a lot of communication first. If we can't converse online we will not be able to converse in real life.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ive sent a few messages to chicks and all i get is blocked no reply and all i say is somthing like hello how are you is that wrong- Posted from rhpmobile
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leeroybbad
12 years ago
Yes, I think being able to converse online in forums and in messages is a good step toward not being blocked and potentially being able to meet up. All credit to the women out there who must cop endless amounts of crap from all sorts of guys. A little respect and understanding goes a long way...
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Goldenage
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I agree with DG, if you are sending a lets meet email straight away that tells me you will meet any woman and you are most likely only after sex.... Possibly. Or you don't want to take the time to see if we click online first. I have never ever met anyone from RHP unless I have had a lot of communication first. If we can't converse online we will not be able to converse in real life. I see both yours and DG's point, I don't just come out with lets meet for a coffee and see if we click.I'll ask "Hello, how has your day been", even what they think of RHP in general and the whole dating scene on here.If that comes over as "how about we meet for sex" then i've missed something and deserve to be blocked I guess.I still think it comes down to women on here and other sites thinking the majority of men consider them nothing more than a quick fuck to tell their mates about..........
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RHP User
12 years ago
I absolutely loath the messages that just say. "Hello how are you? " or how has you weekend been? How is your day? Et etc. Boring!!! I used to have on my profile for a while please do not send me a hello how are you because I will block you. Guys seriously when I am going to respond to 10 - 15 emails at a time and I get 10 of them asking the same question? And what makes it worse I can see that the same guy has sent me the same email a few times. Block. It's just wasting my time. Call me a bitch if you like... But that is just not the way to stand out or to capture a woman's interest at all. :(
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't think it's because it comes across as if you are asking for sex, it just comes across as if you are sending a generic email out. Do you read the woman's profile? Make a specific comment about her profile... To show you have something in common. I think that is much better than a "hello how are you?"
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RHP User
12 years ago
Be imaginative when sending a woman a first contact email - make it so that will stand out from the boring ones she receives.....Try something like this....1) Including something in there that you have read a her profile..THINK LIKE A WOMAN - Does a women send out a first e-mail like "How was your weekend"?? NAH don't think so.2) If you find something in common in her profile-include that.3) finally ask her a question - something like "What was the last concert you went to?"Also first e-mails does not have to be long...Keep it simple and POSITIVE.EXAMPLEHi – I’d like to get to know you so here’s your message! I love being sociable too and liked what I was seeing in your profile. What was the last concert you went to?.Now that you have got her attention..She will then look at your profile - so sell your profile..Your profile is your selling point..make it creative - this will make or break her to reply.BEST OF LUCK!Foxy
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inspirit
12 years ago
you blokes just put your big girls blouse on toughen the fuck up. Go and take a course on "How to chat up a potential root on RHP" I agree with MEEKS!!One liners shows NOT one ounce of creativity! Coffee please....
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RHP User
12 years ago
We all know that men are much more simpler in getting our attention.We as women on RHP are all up yourself, because we can. The ratio is, I don't know, but huge.I am sorry Ladies but I think we should be a bit more kinder. As the words go, just walk for a while in the other persons shoes.I know we all get hid by messages daily and some are so stupid you just think what the hack. But come one some of the men have never learned the skill of good communication, maybe blame their fathers, I don't know. Blame Australian society, European men are much more skilled in the way to communicate with women.But don't be so hard on the men, teach em, don't punish them. We want them to kiss our feet, lick our pussies, then teach em.
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inspirit
12 years ago
Apologies though I am just not as compassionate as you. I am maybe 80% there but hey in all seriousness ...It's a dating web site. As far as people not leaning good communication skills, I never did either growing up. I made a choice to educate myself better in communication skills.ANDIn fact I have learnt MEN are not that simple when it comes to conversation. Men hold decent conversations which are not based around shopping, the ex or a fat arse. So I find one liners are just a simply lazy. I don't believe all woman on here are up them sleves either. How about showing some empathy for those who do get bombarded with idiots. After a while the care factor becomes ZILCH.
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inspirit
12 years ago
as many of you will see...I am not a the best at grammar, nor expressing what I really want to communicate and as for typos MEH! At least I give it a go!! Not hard really ......is it??
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Goldenage
12 years ago
Well, after reading all the comments I've gathered that being a gentleman doesn't hit it off with too many but neither does "hi i'm hung let's fuck"So I guess i'll just sit in the sidelines like I have for many years on here, making a few online friends and just leave it at that. Thank you to all for your comments.Cheers
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RHP User
12 years ago
Maybe open a woman's profile with a sexy picture and see what sorts of emails you get.. See it from the other side. Being a gentleman of course will always be better. If you start with a hello, how are you finding RHP conversation that's okay I reckon. At the end of the day it's whether a woman likes your profile or not. Only you guys know, if you are not getting any hits I suggested trying different photos for one.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I absolutely loath the messages that just say. "Hello how are you? " or how has you weekend been? How is your day? Et etc. Boring!!! I used to have on my profile for a while please do not send me a hello how are you because I will block you. Guys seriously when I am going to respond to 10 - 15 emails at a time and I get 10 of them asking the same question? And what makes it worse I can see that the same guy has sent me the same email a few times. Block. It's just wasting my time. Call me a bitch if you like... But that is just not the way to stand out or to capture a woman's interest at all. :(
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
If I may speak on behalf of miss Meeka...What she is saying, is INSPIRE HER with your message. COMPEL her to read, and reply.She has made it crystal clear that even after the multitude of "how-to" and "how-not-to" messaging topics in these forums.......that the majority of guys STILL send her 10-15 daily boring, dull, uninviting, creativity free zone messages that she must sift through, and delete..These includes the "hello, how are you"... the "Hey youre hot, lets meet"... the "We should fuck".. and even those really tiresome and frankly unoriginal porn story template messages.She even used the words "STAND OUT".She has given guys a huge tip.Its up to them, to listen, learn... and employ the tips.. because she WANTS you to succeed.DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sending me a message saying 'hi how are you?' or 'what are you doing this weekend?' or 'nice tits' or 'wanna fuck?' are all the same to me..... uninspiring, unoriginal and boring as batshit. I delete or ignore. I dont receive a dozen daily messages and thats okay. Whats frustrating is seeing that little envelope and having that moment of excitement then the inevitable disappointment.... Yeah im cynical these days.... I assume if you put in no effort to show you have read my profile, that we do have something in common, etc.... that you cant say more than gidday, then you will not doubt be just as lazy in bed. Having said all that, no i wouldnt block you but if your first message only said 'that we have things in common, lets grab a coffee' i would certainly ignore/delete you..... I've had 4 messages today 2 asking 'what are you up to tonight' and the other 2 saying 'how are you?' or thereabouts.... are they serious? Do you really want me to reply saying, 'yeah good'. Cause you will only get from me as much as you give, and if thats not a whole lot... Litonya i love reading your forum posts, you speak from your heart and I understand what you are saying but i get to the stage where i think... why the hell should i educate others? Who is sitting next to me holding my hand? Common decency goes a long way and depending on my mood i will.... but no ... as a rule... its every man/woman for themselves isnt it???
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'I agree with DG, if you are sending a lets meet email straight away that tells me you will meet any woman and you are most likely only after sex.... Possibly. Or you don't want to take the time to see if we click online first. I have never ever met anyone from RHP unless I have had a lot of communication first. If we can't converse online we will not be able to converse in real life. I have to agree to a certain extent Meeka100, yes I agree one should try to establish communication, however, I find a lot of ppl just play games while hiding behind the computer. Whereas, in person meetings get the guess work out of the way quick and easy and stop the game playing fast. After all you get out of the house meet someone new and if you do not click what have you lost a little bit of time and the cost of coffee. I can usually tell with 5-10 minutes if I'm going to click with someone, the real issue is for how long that is where the M&G comes in... I had agreed to meet a woman at a pub for a drink, which turned out to be a nice meeting however, it never went any further because our schedules clashed too much. The one thing she stated was the reason she agreed to meet me was she felt from the initial conversation that I was how I said I was... why lie about it?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad'If I may speak on behalf of miss Meeka... ... .. because she WANTS you to succeed. I just spat out my tea.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hmmm what?!?! Lol. I don't get 10-15 messages a day. Particularly now that I have in my profile that I am interested in something more serious for the right person, I only have one or two photos on show, I have removed all references to wanting fun or NSA or experimentation from my profile which means a lots less emails. Maybe 10 a week if I am lucky. In my hey day I would leave my messages until they built up to 50 emails before answering, I would be replying to guys a month after they sent me the message. I have been here too long and I am over it really. The last time I met someone for a date from RHP was almost a year ago. Inspiration DG? Yes that is exactly what I want. I want something extraordinary, a great passion. I want to be challenged and someone sending a message with. Hi how are you? Isn't doing it for me.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I occasionally will respond with a good. Just one word. The next email is. So what are you up to this weekend or tonight, etc. or an immediate do you Skype to which I reply with a No. Then I get bored..
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RHP User
12 years ago
Okay 21 messages in the last week. My favourite was from a young guy who wants me to "critique his rod". I am to suggest a number of objects so that he can take pictures of his rod next to the item for the sole purpose of me guessing his size. Haven't answered him yet. Any suggestions on how I should respond. :p
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'My favourite was from a young guy who wants me to "critique his rod". I am to suggest a number of objects so that he can take pictures of his rod next to the item for the sole purpose of me guessing his size. Haven't answered him yet. Any suggestions on how I should respond. :p Tell him to get a range of dildos, as you are an expert on them. If he is mad enough to do so, resond that you don't recognise dildos that small, as you've never thought to buy one. And I'm very sorry to hear you say you're over it. Don't go.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I mean the emailing business and trying to meet people online, I still enjoy the forums which is why I am here. :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Like most things, there is 2 sides to this. I can understand woman getting inundated with flirts and messages, mostly by guys with no intentions of ever really meeting. This would get very frustrating after a while and probably explains why some people block. The other side is most guys get rejected every day of their lives. Some guys, like myself, just accept it and move on with life, other guys may take it to heart more. Another way to look at is that this site is what you'd call a traditional 'dating' site. This really is a site for people either looking to hook up, or meet for play meets. That doesn't mean that just because you contact someone that they have to reply or mean that they will have sex. Everyone is looking for their own thing, and I guess sites like this help to narrow down the options and makes it easier to find like minded people with similar interests. I'm only a guest but if I get a message I always reply even if its to say that I'm not interested. But us guys only get a few rare messages and its easy to spend a quick minute to reply, but for some women they may get 100+ messages a day and it would be unrealistic to expect them to reply to every message straight away. Personally, I think that on dating sites and sites like this, women should actually send the first message to someone that they are interested in, that way the guy knows straight away that she must be at least interested, and helps to remove the problem of guys just sending out the same message to every woman hoping that 1 will accept. The reality is, most people on this site in particular are looking for either sex, or something sexual, so the argument of 'guys just looking for sex' is actually a pretty weak one when you consider its what most of us are on here for. If people are looking for something other than this, then they either will, or should have on their profile exactly what they are looking for. This is just my opinion, feel free to disagree :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Hmmm what?!?! Lol. I don't get 10-15 messages a day. Particularly now that I have in my profile that I am interested in something more serious for the right person, I only have one or two photos on show, I have removed all references to wanting fun or NSA or experimentation from my profile which means a lots less emails. Maybe 10 a week if I am lucky. In my hey day I would leave my messages until they built up to 50 emails before answering, I would be replying to guys a month after they sent me the message. I have been here too long and I am over it really. The last time I met someone for a date from RHP was almost a year ago. Inspiration DG? Yes that is exactly what I want. I want something extraordinary, a great passion. I want to be challenged and someone sending a message with. Hi how are you? Isn't doing it for me. A little piece of me just shrivelled up and died.
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RHP User
12 years ago
we all are getting so serious about all of this.I think we should lighten up a tiny little bit.And why are all this rules.I am getting sick of all the rules.Can't we be, just BE, light an easy, fluffy and happy?Fuck life is hard enough.Yes, I don't want to be treated like shit, and you know what, no one has done this yet to me, I don't know why. Maybe I am lucky, maybe I don't see behind every little word something bad. Maybe of my age, maybe of how I react to people.But why are we making everything so hard.Am I an optimist, or just to stupid to see all the nasty stuff people are dishing out?And why are there some of us who get only shit?And some like me, who get mostly beautiful messages, why is this?Hmmmmm????????????BIG QUESTION
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RHP User
12 years ago
Take that negative thing out of your profileIt may make some women wonder why you are being blockedbe positive and see positivity come into your lifeignore dickheads
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inspirit
12 years ago
Ask him if its a bait caster or an eggbeater. It will make a difference on his fishing skills as it's all about the flick in the wrist
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Litonya' we all are getting so serious about all of this.I think we should lighten up a tiny little bit.And why are all this rules.I am getting sick of all the rules.Can't we be, just BE, light an easy, fluffy and happy?Fuck life is hard enough.Yes, I don't want to be treated like shit, and you know what, no one has done this yet to me, I don't know why. Maybe I am lucky, maybe I don't see behind every little word something bad. Maybe of my age, maybe of how I react to people.But why are we making everything so hard.Am I an optimist, or just to stupid to see all the nasty stuff people are dishing out?And why are there some of us who get only shit?And some like me, who get mostly beautiful messages, why is this?Hmmmmm????????????BIG QUESTION I must be a little lucky too. Generally the messages that I/we get are very kind. When a guy decides he doesn't like the look fo me for whatever reason, I just think..oh well...next. Even if I'm not keen on someone I jsut send templated msg back, saying thanks but no thansk. I try not to be negative in my/our profile either and think this helps. You get back what you give out
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RHP User
12 years ago
biggest turn off for me is a flirt or message,,,"lets fuck: ,,,go away,, i always chat abit first share naughty pics lol,,, see if we click ,,,im not cheap or desparate
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RHP User
12 years ago
What nasty shit? Don't believe anyone has referred to anything nasty. And by the way I am not rude to anybody and I pretty much reply to all messages. But on this forum I have showed my frustration with these messages it's true..... Doesn't mean I am up myself either but thanks for that. >:-(
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RHP User
12 years ago
What did I say that was so bad? I don't understand. :(
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RHP User
12 years ago
I dont see the point of messaging any female's profile. Its like what someone said "damn if you do, damn if you dont"Quite frankly, it IS a waste of time. I rather sit in a chat room. or go out to a meet and greet.. and socialise there. They get to know me .. not the white box with a few text in it. Why not? it is better this way. :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting '50zkool' Quoting 'Meeka100' "I have removed all references to wanting fun or NSA or experimentation from my profile" "I have been here too long and I am over it really." "The last time I met someone for a date from RHP was almost a year ago." A little piece of me just shrivelled up and died. I highlighted the above in my original post but it failed so I have cut instead. Tongue firmly implanted in cheek don't stress xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Maybe 50zCool noticed the same thing in your post I did, that you're over it all. That made me sad too! And I don't think Litonya was specifically talking to you? Lionya, I agree with you, I only get positive messages too. Life is too short for whining, bitching and being negative.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Wouldn't it be fascinating to read some replies from people who are on here to hook up !Instead of the usual middle aged, over educated, cynical forum junkies !So guys, did you score from here ? If so how about you answer !Ladies, did you meet someone, recently ? Tell us about the profile and mail that got you in.Couples, score on the weekend ? Do tell !
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RHP User
12 years ago
Im also talking about 'boring, uninspired' messages.... i didnt say nasty or negative.... i dont think thats what the OP was referring to. He asked a question about the messages he's sending and thats what i was replying to. Sassy
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Life is too short for whining, bitching and being negative. That was not aimed at the OP, nor anyone on this forum.
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RHP User
12 years ago
What about when a male blocks a women for the same reason a women blocks a male
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ocean_man
12 years ago
I wouldn't lose any sleep over it itsmee. I have been blocked by members that I have had absolutely no contact with. I only know this from clicking on cams in the chat room, and getting a message to say they have blocked me.
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RHP User
12 years ago
But this is an artificial environment, by that I mean there is an over abundance of us blokes & very few women. As such some women feel they are their own demi gods in this environment. But the reality is that once you press the off button all the elegant words, phrases etc disappear & you have to walk out of the front door into the reality of he real world. Think of been blocked as a screening method, again by that if someone isnt going to get "you" in a few bantered words I doubt you'll get along in person. Sure it would be nice to know why you were blocked but is it really that important? its easier to click "next" and move on. As to the age limits, I recently messaged a women who while having a specific age range had friends on her friends list older then me, I got abused for daring to contact her. I did bite back a lil & pointed out the people older then myself on her list, her reply was "i can do as i please" and sure that is everyones right to my mind she is a hypocrite & not worth wasting any more time even thinking about. And to the women who have blocked me I say Thanks for saving me a lot of time & eliminating yourselves to the "also ran" pile.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'SassyMissM' Im also talking about 'boring, uninspired' messages.... i didnt say nasty or negative.... i dont think thats what the OP was referring to. He asked a question about the messages he's sending and thats what i was replying to. Sassy Not picking on or having a go at you Sassy, but personally I treat online very similar to real life, ie I (and I doubt too many others do either) walk up to a woman in a bar/club/pub/coles/ in the mall etc & start reciting all their vital statistics & then pull out their phone to back them up with photo proof. I will say "hi" to a woman & then add more based on her reply. So while a simple "hi, how are you" message might seem uninspiring it is a precursor in opening up a dialog. And actually building a "conversation" with both sides exchanging ideas/ thoughts/ wants/ hopes/ desires etc
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RHP User
12 years ago
I get that it can't be easy for you blokes... The ratio is ridiculous, which means girls get to be all Simon Cowell... But just like my fellow lovely ladies said we are bombarded with Do you wanna's? And 3 line messages and here's my numbers... Yep this site is for sourcing sex, but we, all of us, should be respected... And I get why would you write a big long "hey girl" to every one, that may be just as ludicrous as expecting us to respond to every message. Blokes - may I suggest - read Super Fox... And have a cut and paste blurb about you and what your expectations are - if you just want anonymous sex - then put that out there... And sell why we'd want it - and not the "I won't stop until you're satisfied" line... If you do write something original and thoughtful that tells us who you are and we don't respond - message again and ask for feedback.. Just be willing to hear it... And lastly - you may think your moniker says everything you want it to, but stop for just a second and tell me if you'd walk up to a girl at a bar and say "hi I'm massivecocktostuffinsideyou" (please don't let that be anyone's name..) ??? That's usually the first hook or massive dodge for me...
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RHP User
12 years ago
All I can say is if your message is genuine that you will always get a genuine honest reply from me. Sorry cant say the same for the winks though. Not much effort to send one and if someone is truly honest well they will write a message .
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RHP User
12 years ago
Are all men the same? Are all women the same? Is everybody the same. For the most part they're all very similar ;) All men are six foot tall with cheeky grins, huge dicks and a degree in whatever-makes-you-happy. And all women have a perfect hourglass, talk like angels and like to be spanked. What planet are you guys living on? ;)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi! Itsmee:) I can only go by my actions Hun and won't say for others. As far as I'm concerned I always acknowledge the flirts and MSGs If a Guy has opened himself up emotionally to say Hi! to me Then the least I can do is reply. I admit sometimes their MSGs need expanding "Hi!" only , can be a dead end not an opening for a Chat Online.I know this and I do give them a bit to reply too Haaaaa! .. I receive more than a few MSGs from Intelligent, Fun Guys with substance most of the time .There's always a stray he! he! I don't receive so many MSGs that it gets overwhelming and tiresome. We all have Lives In the real World and possibly this is the reason those Females who tend to do this. need too, due to time allotted for the site... Good Luck! finding the Women who are Interested enough to reply to you ..Enjoy Lu :) if nothing else
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RHP User
12 years ago
I agree, not even a polite NO !! I think that there are many woman out there that get their "HIGHS"by having men chase them by messaging them with nice comments etc. when they really don't intend going the distance. After all if you are on here you are surposably here for sex !!!!- Posted from rhpmobile
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passion8_l
12 years ago
due to message i got from a man who mentioned one of my likes from my profile, he opened up his private gallery and said to message him back if I was interested. He was was sweet, respectful and not at all pushy. His profile was to the point without any bullshit. Seven months later we're still seeing each other.
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Wenuready
12 years ago
Hi everyone. I can empathise with a lot of the responses on this topic but rest assured 'itsmee' us men are not all the same as far as women are concerned. The points raised by DG are certainly some good tips though if you are having setbacks. Also remember that it can be the same when the shoe is on the other foot. I myself have had an online conversation with someone that says she was quite pickie but after some more correspondence she said she was happy to pass on her mobile as long as I kept things extremely discreet (of course). I agreed and said 'here's mine' and gave her my number. She was never to be heard from again. Maybe there is a lot of women out there who wish they weren't so quick to block/ignore. Lets keep it all in perspective....look at this game we play.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Anyone who doesn't reply obviously isn't worth your time. These girls who go about posting a big shopping list on their profile usually have to high of a price tag on themselves. From a guys point of view, most female profiles on here are way to long. You don't even know what to ask, because they have written about 2000 words on themselves and you basically know their life story already OR they have really hot pics, but their profile is so damn boring you don't even know what to send, and they wonder why they get generic messages. Internet Dating - Where everyone thinks they're a celebrity
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RHP User
12 years ago
Not all of us are the same, Men or Women, we are all looking for different things, have different tastes and expectations. If we were all the same what a boring world RHP would be........ don't you all think??I came on here really not expecting to meet anyone, and I have to say my first few weeks were that of the "Wanna Root" messages.......Yes adults actually use that as an opening line.....I know this is probably predominately a for want of a better term a "HOOK UP SITE" - but there are some of us that are not after just the one night stands, but not ready for the full commitment of a relationship when they sign up....... so taking the time to actually communicate a little first, comment on profile, show some interest, make a comment on shared interests, shows you took the time to actually read their profile. I am sure that would go a long way with both Males and Females that are not just looking for One Nighters...BUT there are the Polar opposites that give out WAYYYYY too much information in first message, Phone number, Skype account, email and a very very detailed message about what they are doing to themselves whilst looking at your profile...EWWWWWWWWWW seriously too much info.... needless to say he got blocked after a courteous message to say .... that was Over the top......I suppose I have been one of the lucky ones, I don't get many of those messages, and have met a very intelligent and very sexy guy who knows how to communicate intelligently and captured my imagination with his first message..which sparked me to want to know more about him ... and our communication keeps getting stronger as we both listen to each others messages and respond in kind...not to mention the fireworks when we are together....So I guess what I am saying is that each of us are different and looking for different things, might just take time to find those you click with and not to expect an instant meeting or to take it personally when you are ignored or blocked, people have their reasons, and they are most likely not necessarily about you..... Basic Generic Profiles don't help though as it doesn't give you much to start the conversation off Or the Criteria list of wants, to check off if you are suitable to message them in the first place. Be yourself, if they don't respond to what you say, or block then there are Plenty Of More Fish in the Sea and they could be out there waiting for you!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi to itsmee, I am sorry you have been treated that way and no its not right, I think some women are just tired of the rude bullshit stuff but a decent message or flirt I think deserves an answer even if its a thanks but no thanks, the do u want to suck my cock, lets fuck like bunnies etc intros deserve a block or go fuck yourself reply but genuine decent people deserve better. I have been on RHP just on a year now and have met and hooked up with alot of people, but that's what I wanted at the time, after a 20yr marriage I wanted to let my hair down an experiment and learn and I've had a blast, but now that's out of my system I've moved on to the more picky stage and knowing what I want etc so my age bracket changed because I prefer older men with more experience manners and no head games, young hot bodies while very flattering for a while just don't do it for me mentally and physically so we grow and change what we want and need out of life and I think if everyone just took the time to read the persons profile before sending messages and flirts it might help and we could all be respectful of what other people are and are not looking for, I have looked at guys profiles and thought ohhhhh yes I like very much only to read Im not in there age bracket even too young for a recent one and so I don't annoy them avoiding that rejection etc. Another guy blocked me after I caught him out lying lol had been in contact on another site then found him on RHP completely diff character exposed lol so we live and learn just try have fun with respect and feelings for everyone, "Put the shoe on the other foot," so true.
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RHP User
12 years ago
We get alot of messages and flirts, if I don't like your profile picture I just delete them! You need to stand out! And writing something like " wanna suck my dick " as your subject will get you nothing ! - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
Sits here, shaking my head. There are some REALLY jaded, bitter and fragile egos walking around in here...... consider, how is THAT appealing to others?!You send an email, and they dont reply?Why not?The options are: -* They're inundated with mail and havent had time to reply...* Theyre inundated.... and you're not what theyre seeking... profile is like every other profile in here.... and same same doesnt stand out.* Your profile makes you look like a douchewad, with douchewad pics and a douchewad attitude...* Your email was borrrrrrrrrrrrrring, uninspiring, and failed to show you read their profile...* Your email smacked of desperation...* Your email was self absorbed, telling her what you'll do to her, how much she'll love it and how she simply wont regret it if she only gives you the chance.... ** the profile you contacted may have been a fake anyway.... and youre getting cranky that a fake profile didnt reply?!!! Seriously?!!!People dont join this site JUST FOR YOU.... so excuuuuuuuuuuse them for exercising their own list of preferences and dare I say.... Standards...... and for whatever reason, you dont size up to them.Sheeeeesh. So.... someone doesnt reply. So what?!Its not ONLY that person youre emailing....... thats for damn sure.... get over yourself.DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've lost count of the number of e-mails I've had from males who obviously don't read my profile carefully and don't get what I'm looking for! The fact that I have an 'I want' list on my profile and am very specific in what I'm after, is because I've had sooooo many bad experiences, know what works for me, and am not going to waste my time with anyone who doesn't fit my 'age/looks/relationship' criteria. If someone bothers to write me a genuine, considerate message I will usually reply with a 'thanks but you're not what I'm looking for' and it depends on how 'up' themselves a guy is, if he takes this badly, or accepts it. We females are not all 'up' ourselves either - a lot of us lack confidence, but are tired of timewasters and a lack of genuine men who are actually interested in more than a quick shag! And when I say I've had my share of bad experiences, this means I've also had a million knockbacks too - men do not have the market cornered on that one! One guy wrote to me a few weeks back, I let him have access to my galleries, and 'POUF!!!' he disappeared in a puff of smoke, never to be seen or heard from again!!! Gee, am I really THAT unattractive!!???
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RHP User
12 years ago
To all the people who say they obviously didn't read your profile, your profile is probably a novel. Anymore than 250 words and I just close it, to much effort.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'BeMyDessert'To all the people who say they obviously didn't read your profile, your profile is probably a novel. Anymore than 250 words and I just close it, to much effort. But the men that make it all to the end are the ones that I want to meet. I find having such an extensive profile is a great way of weeding out the people who I would not have much in common with. So a win-win for both you and me.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Quoting 'BeMyDessert'To all the people who say they obviously didn't read your profile, your profile is probably a novel. Anymore than 250 words and I just close it, to much effort. But the men that make it all to the end are the ones that I want to meet. I find having such an extensive profile is a great way of weeding out the people who I would not have much in common with. So a win-win for both you and me. You may think that, but i bet a lot of the people you have met probably read the first and last line, or looked for something to get a reply out of you and didn't read it in it's entirety. Either way, everyone is unique, but it's impossible to tell why when reading text on a profile, no matter how short or long it is. My view is that the ones who don't reply, miss out. So yes, win-win for both too :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Did I say you up yourself? I have not said this words to you.Should you find in anyway I have upset you then I apologize this was and is not my intention.For all of you out there on the Forum I am not into being mean to anybody.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Darwin_Bread' Not picking on or having a go at you Sassy, but personally I treat online very similar to real life, ie I (and I doubt too many others do either) walk up to a woman in a bar/club/pub/coles/ in the mall etc & start reciting all their vital statistics & then pull out their phone to back them up with photo proof. I will say "hi" to a woman & then add more based on her reply. So while a simple "hi, how are you" message might seem uninspiring it is a precursor in opening up a dialog. And actually building a "conversation" with both sides exchanging ideas/ thoughts/ wants/ hopes/ desires etc Well DarwinBread if you walked up to a woman in a pub surrounded constantly by 10 guys how far do you think you would get by saying hello how are you? You don't have to recite your statics but you do have to present a good profile picture the same way you have to look good in the pub. You need to make an effort, I mean most women do with their profile pictures don't they? I make an effort to look good whenever I go out and I care how I present myself. If a man feels that a blurry photo of himself in a wifebeater if front of a dirty mirror is acceptable, well good luck to him. Your profile also has to be well written. Doesn't matter what you write, as always some people will get it and others wont. But you do have to say something about yourself as women like to know a bit about a man. For me the profile picture is always the deciding factor in whether I actually go and read their profile. Sexy young bodies of course normally get a quick look and I am attracted to certain types of faces so I always read their profiles and definitely if the picture is of a man doing something different or in a interesting location gets me interested too.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'BeMyDessert' To all the people who say they obviously didn't read your profile, your profile is probably a novel. Anymore than 250 words and I just close it, to much effort. Yeah...I mean really, who do these chicks think they are??? Expecting you to read more than 250 words so that they can have the privilege of sucking your amazing cock!!Me....well I'd probably give it a couple licks and be done with it. Too much effort.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Completely agree with Meeka's post above.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think we have to accept the fact that the sun shines out of RHP member's assholes. There are no winners or losers here, we all know everything, and everyone else is wrong. Generally it's these people who have long checklist's who are always the most dull and boring individuals, each to their own.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Darwin_Bread' Quoting 'SassyMissM' Im also talking about 'boring, uninspired' messages.... i didnt say nasty or negative.... i dont think thats what the OP was referring to. He asked a question about the messages he's sending and thats what i was replying to. Sassy Not picking on or having a go at you Sassy, but personally I treat online very similar to real life, ie I (and I doubt too many others do either) walk up to a woman in a bar/club/pub/coles/ in the mall etc & start reciting all their vital statistics & then pull out their phone to back them up with photo proof. I will say "hi" to a woman & then add more based on her reply. So while a simple "hi, how are you" message might seem uninspiring it is a precursor in opening up a dialog. And actually building a "conversation" with both sides exchanging ideas/ thoughts/ wants/ hopes/ desires etc man thank you i was abought to say something very similar and you put it very well ,and its true females do have the power in these environments after all they have a lot of practice with how to take the right photo's they practice very young especially with Facebook and social networking sites and also what gets guys going "not a lot at all" and their is fewer of them way more of us so they can focus on the purely physical aspect if their just after sex nothing else this will work but as far as a connection to another person which is already way too hard as it is, well your just cutting down your own chances even more so its yourself your fucking over ladies
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RHP User
12 years ago
After five years and many mistakes, this is my view on how to effectively use social/dating/sex sites like RHP, and avoid the dating site blues.There are way to many guys that see sites like this as a line up in a brothel. I understand that many new members, enticed by the prospect of a "sex site" will make this mistaken assumption and rush into a quick negotiation, only to find rejection. Many guys have come out of long term relationships and have never learnt or have forgotten how to communicate with women. There is also a sorry list of guys that are just stupid and think of women as nothing more then quick release. Take your self out of these mind sets by learning, practice, and taking advice.Women come here for sex, casual encounters, experimentation, friendship, love and a host of other reasons, but be assured they are not here to work. Women on sites like this have gained a lot of power and freedom and the vast majority know this. How they use that power is entirely up to them and rightly so.New members both male and females, to "sex sites" need to learn how to develop a profile, many only have a vague idea of what they are after and what is up for offer. Many profiles do not express, or represent the true goals of the member. Update and modify your profile as you learn and gain experiance. The miss communication from inexperienced members results in many new users leaving after a short time, never to come back. Which is a shame for all members. Men need to learn how to cope with rejection and women need learn how to deal with the crass, confronting, blundering of rutting men. The more active members the more effective the site becomes for all. A very small number of bigoted self centered judgmental people, by not giving members a right to make mistakes, be inexperienced, or just taking a casual semi involved approach to their profile, are responsible for so many lost members. There are no perfect profiles, long or short, elegant and well written or short and simple, images or not. Each member has there own way to interpreate a profile. So for all take your time, learn from mistakes, understand other's mistakes. Getting upset at rejection or a block will not teach you anything, think about how you approached the other member, re read their profile, remember and modify your next attempt, and dont "as many in this thread seem to be saying" don't stereo type people, there is too much variate in the members here for that to ever work for you.Take your time to think about the person behind the profile, read it all, try to empathize and imagine their reason for the profile, think about what you want from the member, so many make contact with out any clue as to what they really want to happen. Understand that sex is different for each person. Men there are very few women here that think sex is just an unattached quick and sweaty rubbing of bits. If you cant understand that sex is a connection of minds, well you are not going to get it. Go to a brothel if you want empty emotionless sex. Take a chance and try members that may not grab you at first glance. We are all deep and complex and a profile is just a cover of that life long book. So many miss out on meeting people that you can really connect with because of superficial judgement.Oh and my worst and most hated male attribute that internet social networks are infested with. LIES.... DO NOT LIE!!! you will always get caught out, it will always backfire. Lies breed mistrust that hurts all members. If you get cold feet or change your mind, just say so. Truth and honesty, even if not presenting what you may think someone wants, will find you connections. Don't compliment if its not heart felt, its a lie and will catch you out. Reducing the lies increases the level of trust for all and increases the chances for every one to find what they are looking for.Enjoy using this site, enjoy the interaction. Be ready to make friends, don't quit if you can see you are not going to get your end wet. Friends have friends, most of which don't come to this site, who knows what wonderful person you may meet via friendly networking. Don't rush, some great encounters may take months or years to develop.I think that the most important attribute a guy should have to find what you are after is RESPECT. Respect the member you are interested in, the online community you are part of, and your self. The general feel of this thread is that blocking or no reply is disrespect. This presumption is the real disrespect. By assuming the reason for being ignored you are disrespecting the persons privacy and freedom. You disrespect the site community by harboring resentment. No one needs to give reason or is bound to you in any way just because you contacted them. Respect their option to do nothing and move on. OK now you are ready to initiate contact. What you say does not really matter, some here say don't say this or that, there are no rules to this part, what is off putting to some is another's turn on. Contact many or just a select few. First impressions do matter but if you follow the guidelines above you have a much greater chance of getting a response. From there via communication first impressions can and are forgotten. For each person, from the confident to the shy, young and old, cleaver and not so, pretty, ugly, big or small, there are many others that are a match. The odds are very good that everyone will find someone in time.Groove on and rock the world hipsters. Its easy and lots of fun for each and every one of us.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Luckdragon23' Quoting 'BeMyDessert' To all the people who say they obviously didn't read your profile, your profile is probably a novel. Anymore than 250 words and I just close it, to much effort. Yeah...I mean really, who do these chicks think they are??? Expecting you to read more than 250 words so that they can have the privilege of sucking your amazing cock!!Me....well I'd probably give it a couple licks and be done with it. Too much effort. Oh i get it, the more you read, the more plentiful the head jobs. Interesting.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Blindman67' After five years and many mistakes, this is my view on how to effectively use social/dating/sex sites like RHP, and avoid the dating site blues.There are way to many guys that see sites like this as a line up in a brothel. I understand that many new members, enticed by the prospect of a "sex site" will make this mistaken assumption and rush into a quick negotiation, only to find rejection. Many guys have come out of long term relationships and have never learnt or have forgotten how to communicate with women. There is also a sorry list of guys that are just stupid and think of women as nothing more then quick release. Take your self out of these mind sets by learning, practice, and taking advice.Women come here for sex, casual encounters, experimentation, friendship, love and a host of other reasons, but be assured they are not here to work. Women on sites like this have gained a lot of power and freedom and the vast majority know this. How they use that power is entirely up to them and rightly so.New members both male and females, to "sex sites" need to learn how to develop a profile, many only have a vague idea of what they are after and what is up for offer. Many profiles do not express, or represent the true goals of the member. Update and modify your profile as you learn and gain experiance. The miss communication from inexperienced members results in many new users leaving after a short time, never to come back. Which is a shame for all members. Men need to learn how to cope with rejection and women need learn how to deal with the crass, confronting, blundering of rutting men. The more active members the more effective the site becomes for all. A very small number of bigoted self centered judgmental people, by not giving members a right to make mistakes, be inexperienced, or just taking a casual semi involved approach to their profile, are responsible for so many lost members. There are no perfect profiles, long or short, elegant and well written or short and simple, images or not. Each member has there own way to interpreate a profile. So for all take your time, learn from mistakes, understand other's mistakes. Getting upset at rejection or a block will not teach you anything, think about how you approached the other member, re read their profile, remember and modify your next attempt, and dont "as many in this thread seem to be saying" don't stereo type people, there is too much variate in the members here for that to ever work for you.Take your time to think about the person behind the profile, read it all, try to empathize and imagine their reason for the profile, think about what you want from the member, so many make contact with out any clue as to what they really want to happen. Understand that sex is different for each person. Men there are very few women here that think sex is just an unattached quick and sweaty rubbing of bits. If you cant understand that sex is a connection of minds, well you are not going to get it. Go to a brothel if you want empty emotionless sex. Take a chance and try members that may not grab you at first glance. We are all deep and complex and a profile is just a cover of that life long book. So many miss out on meeting people that you can really connect with because of superficial judgement.Oh and my worst and most hated male attribute that internet social networks are infested with. LIES.... DO NOT LIE!!! you will always get caught out, it will always backfire. Lies breed mistrust that hurts all members. If you get cold feet or change your mind, just say so. Truth and honesty, even if not presenting what you may think someone wants, will find you connections. Don't compliment if its not heart felt, its a lie and will catch you out. Reducing the lies increases the level of trust for all and increases the chances for every one to find what they are looking for.Enjoy using this site, enjoy the interaction. Be ready to make friends, don't quit if you can see you are not going to get your end wet. Friends have friends, most of which don't come to this site, who knows what wonderful person you may meet via friendly networking. Don't rush, some great encounters may take months or years to develop.I think that the most important attribute a guy should have to find what you are after is RESPECT. Respect the member you are interested in, the online community you are part of, and your self. The general feel of this thread is that blocking or no reply is disrespect. This presumption is the real disrespect. By assuming the reason for being ignored you are disrespecting the persons privacy and freedom. You disrespect the site community by harboring resentment. No one needs to give reason or is bound to you in any way just because you contacted them. Respect their option to do nothing and move on. OK now you are ready to initiate contact. What you say does not really matter, some here say don't say this or that, there are no rules to this part, what is off putting to some is another's turn on. Contact many or just a select few. First impressions do matter but if you follow the guidelines above you have a much greater chance of getting a response. From there via communication first impressions can and are forgotten. For each person, from the confident to the shy, young and old, cleaver and not so, pretty, ugly, big or small, there are many others that are a match. The odds are very good that everyone will find someone in time.Groove on and rock the world hipsters. Its easy and lots of fun for each and every one of us. I think you really lived up to your name on this one, Blind man.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'BeMyDessert'I think you really lived up to your name on this one, Blind man. Thank you, your insightful cynicism really made me re-examine my bleak out look on life. I open my eyes and I can see now. I can see that happiness, or call it success ,is measured by the brief glow of conquest not the pointless journey and hapless adventures on the way. Now that I can read and understand your handle "BeMyDessert" I see it is not a blunt expression of a sociopathic journey, but a kind and caring metaphor of how sweet you think we all are as we wait for you to gorge your self on the sloppy main course of life. I do hope you leave room for dessert.You will go far young man, let me sprinkle a little more sugar on my ass for you, would not want to leave a bitter taste on your refined palate.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Darwin_Bread' Quoting 'SassyMissM' Im also talking about 'boring, uninspired' messages.... i didnt say nasty or negative.... i dont think thats what the OP was referring to. He asked a question about the messages he's sending and thats what i was replying to. Sassy Not picking on or having a go at you Sassy, but personally I treat online very similar to real life, ie I (and I doubt too many others do either) walk up to a woman in a bar/club/pub/coles/ in the mall etc & start reciting all their vital statistics & then pull out their phone to back them up with photo proof. I will say "hi" to a woman & then add more based on her reply. So while a simple "hi, how are you" message might seem uninspiring it is a precursor in opening up a dialog. And actually building a "conversation" with both sides exchanging ideas/ thoughts/ wants/ hopes/ desires etc While i understand what you're saying to a degree, its as someone else has said - its about opening up a diaglogue. Sending me a message saying hi how are you.... doesn't do that in my opinion. When i open a message like that, it makes me feel as though its going to be up to me which way it will go. I can either answer 'yeah good' (being as boring as their message) or try and lift the diaglogue into a conversation - have a chat, ask a question etc... I dont walk up to a guy in a bar, say hi, stare at him blankly, then expect him to carry the conversation... I also dont pull out my phone to show him pics, cause well im right there in front of him! lol. As for vital statistics, i can read them in your profile so again thats not what im expecting. I think we're going to have to agree to disagree.... i just find it lazy... and dont get it...... Saying hi how are you makes me feel as though my response will carry the weight of the conversation... i copy the messagee and say 'good' and thats it, or its up to me to use my conversation skills and have a 'chat', ask a question... carry the conversation
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Blindman67' Quoting 'BeMyDessert'I think you really lived up to your name on this one, Blind man. Thank you, your insightful cynicism really made me re-examine my bleak out look on life. I open my eyes and I can see now. I can see that happiness, or call it success ,is measured by the brief glow of conquest not the pointless journey and hapless adventures on the way. Now that I can read and understand your handle "BeMyDessert" I see it is not a blunt expression of a sociopathic journey, but a kind and caring metaphor of how sweet you think we all are as we wait for you to gorge your self on the sloppy main course of life. I do hope you leave room for dessert.You will go far young man, let me sprinkle a little more sugar on my ass for you, would not want to leave a bitter taste on your refined palate. Cool story bro
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RHP User
12 years ago
Loved the sarcasm. :)Now there's a man who might actually read my entire profile, lengthy though it may be!
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RHP User
12 years ago
we treat all men here the same... with a healthy amount of scepticism and doubt..... until or unless we can trust that their profiles are accurate, and what they are telling us, actually has some basis in truth...we wont even entertain the idea of meeting with them...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I actually can't believe just how many alluring, sexy and interesting women there are on RHP. I'm not interested in just trying to get someone i can fuck, i see it more as a way to meet the crazy sexy cool types that I enjoy as friends but obviously with a view to pleasuring the fuck out of each other if that energy is there. Because of that an the fact I prefer to only be making contact with a couple ladies at a time, I enjoy putting a short email together based their profile and how creative I'm feeling at the time. And if I get no reply or a knock back that's cool, I don't expect anything and its only a few minutes of my time that I enjoyed anyway. As for the 'shopping list' on profiles that's cool, tells me what you are looking for or want. The fact that my email may be one of ten on that day doesn't bother me, as we all know most of them arnt worth reading, an if a few others are then I'm up for the challenge, it's just fun! :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Best go to the toilet and wipe all the shit off your nose
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RHP User
12 years ago
One thing I can't understand is the women with the mentality that "all men are the same", yet then have on their profile "looking for a man" ? So WHY are you on here if you believe we are "all the same" ? I'm 36 and have NEVER cheated on a partner. I have NEVER abused, or physically harmed a partner. I was brought up to never hit a woman, but my dad pull me aside and tell me that that rule only applies while she is acting like a woman, as some women like to take advantage of their position and push the envelope a little too far and need to be kept in check. I never expect sex on the first date, if it happens then great, and I never date someone JUST for sex unless its mutually agreed upon before hand. So with what I have just said, please enlighten me as to how I fall into the category of "all men being the same", because I haven't heard a logical argument to this in my 36 years so far, yet its all us men every hear, nearly every day of our lives. From previous personal experiences, the more open and honest I am about myself, the less "action" I get, yet the guys who blatantly lie in their profiles but tell the women what they want to hear seem to be the ones getting all the "action" and having all the fun. Then the women realise it was a lie and then say "all men are the same". Its the old saying, "damned if we do, damned if we don't !"
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'DJB76'I was brought up to never hit a woman, but my dad pull me aside and tell me that that rule only applies while she is acting like a woman, as some women like to take advantage of their position and push the envelope a little too far and need to be kept in check.Um, so your father told you it's ok to hit a woman and 'keep her in check' when she isn't 'acting like a woman', or is 'taking advantage of her position' or is 'pushing the envelope' too far? For one thing, what in the hell do all of those things mean?? When is a woman not acting like a woman?? When is she pushing the envelope too far?? If she criticises you? If she has an opinion that differs from yours? If she doesn't stay in the background like a good girl should?? What exactly does a woman do that makes it ok to hit her? I would really like to know.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'DJB76' I was brought up to never hit a woman, but my dad pull me aside and tell me that that rule only applies while she is acting like a woman, as some women like to take advantage of their position and push the envelope a little too far and need to be kept in check. Im with you Luckydragon... cant wait to hear this.... very big hole you just dug for yourself DJB76, i hope it was worth it
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RHP User
12 years ago
To be avoided at all costs. What an unbelievable statement.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'DJB76' I'm 36 and have NEVER cheated on a partner. I have NEVER abused, or physically harmed a partner. I was brought up to never hit a woman, but my dad pull me aside and tell me that that rule only applies while she is acting like a woman, as some women like to take advantage of their position and push the envelope a little too far and need to be kept in check. What I'm reading is: "Never ever hit a woman, unless she deserves it." How do you feel about what your dad taught you?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Not aimed at you DJB76, When it comes to domestic violence, THANK GOD not all men are the same.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Lol, of course that's the only thing you all read out of his entire post, and took it out of perspective, but you're women on RHP, you're welcome to do so. "From previous personal experiences, the more open and honest I am about myself, the less "action" I get, yet the guys who blatantly lie in their profiles but tell the women what they want to hear seem to be the ones getting all the "action" and having all the fun. Then the women realise it was a lie and then say "all men are the same"." This was the part I enjoyed, and I couldn't agree more.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'BeMyDessert' Lol, of course that's the only thing you all read out of his entire post, and took it out of perspective, but you're women on RHP, you're welcome to do so. Glad you approve.
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RHP User
12 years ago
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'DJB76' I'm 36 and have NEVER cheated on a partner. I have NEVER abused, or physically harmed a partner. I was brought up to never hit a woman, but my dad pull me aside and tell me that that rule only applies while she is acting like a woman, as some women like to take advantage of their position and push the envelope a little too far and need to be kept in check. your dad got it wrong, in every possible way....its NEVER ok to hit a woman, come to think of it....its NEVER ok to hit anyone....man, woman or child.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's odd how many women took issue with that part of my response, yet not ONE of you addressed the question of if women on here think that "all men are the same", and their profile says "looking for a man", then WHY are you on here if you believe we are "all the same" ? In regards to the responses to my other comments that seemed to attract quiet the reaction. Do YOU believe its woman like behaviour to just slap or hit a guy because they can, but then expect no back lash JUST because they are a woman ? If you think being told to "never hit a woman but only while she acts like one" will make guys then just go around hitting women, then tell me why I have been brought up with this but in my 36 years have NEVER hit a woman ?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'To be avoided at all costs. What an unbelievable statement. What is so unbelievable about my statement ? Are you against men being able to defend themselves against a woman abusing her position or taking advantage of one of societies rules ? Do you think men shouldn't be able to DEFEND, not attack, but DEFEND themselves ? So I ask again, what is so unbelievable about my statement ?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Quoting 'DJB76' I'm 36 and have NEVER cheated on a partner. I have NEVER abused, or physically harmed a partner. I was brought up to never hit a woman, but my dad pull me aside and tell me that that rule only applies while she is acting like a woman, as some women like to take advantage of their position and push the envelope a little too far and need to be kept in check. What I'm reading is: "Never ever hit a woman, unless she deserves it." How do you feel about what your dad taught you? What you read is hopefully what I wrote, but if you choose to take my comments out of perspective so you can re-word it into what you wrote, then that is of no issue to me. You have obviously over-analysed my comments to suit your own argument, which again is no issue of mine. Please show me where I said 'never hit a woman, unless she deserves it" with a direct quote. That's the opinion YOU formed due to over-analysing my comment. I feel fine about what my Dad taught me, because as I've said several times now, I was brought up with that advice, yet have NEVER hit a woman,, deserving or not. Maybe its because I refuse to associate with women who think they can hit a man for no valid reason and escape any reaction. I prefer associating with real women, rather than women who think they can act as man does but then hide behind "being a woman" if a reaction comes, despite being the one provoking the situation.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Bitches, how about you try to be BI for a while. Will give you a lovely insightful perspective of what women have to put up with. 5 minute wonders, self centered, unimaginative, demanding and pushy. Most guys have no clue how to make love, most guys think lust starts with pants down and ends with the blow then time to go, not even a kiss good bye. LOL thanks BeMyDessert and DJB76 for your informative argument. When you learn to fuck without your cocks out come back and try again.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Don't beat yourself up over it! Some people can't handle hurting people's feelings and may have said they would catch up with you to be polite and not have to 'reject' you. Some women may have had every intention of following up and meeting, but had a better offer in the meantime. RHP is a huge ocean, plenty of male fish out there as you well know. Then I suppose there's always the scenario that we are all sadistic bitches and want to f**k with your mind... Just because we can. But no I suspect it's probably one of the more reasonable alternatives offered. That's life... You just gotta roll with the punches and give it your best shot.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Hellenheels' You just gotta roll with the punches and give it your best shot. Considering the comments above, are you sure that was the best choice of words?
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