M41
Attached guys meeting women
August 13 2019
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RHP User
5 years ago
Cannibalism is highly illegal and it’s frowned upon in our society, so no, I don’t eat women, married or not. As for your question, on a more serious note; you want to be honest to people. Attached guys who seek sexual satisfaction without knowledge of their partners are not very popular around here, as you’ll find out. Moral issue aside, lot of STD’s are spread by these folks, aka cheaters. Reason being; when you seek sex with motives not so popular, the crowd you’ll attract will not be the kind who will have a very high selection standard. Now, your profile says you are single, so I am guessing either you are not being truthful or you are asking this for someone else -low possibility- In any case, it’s not up to me to judge someone, but if you are going to do something like this, you want to state it on your profile and hope that someone will come along who’ll be ok with it. Personally, we don’t let attached men into our lives if the other half doesn’t know, these things have a way of coming back to bite people, way too much drama, and from what I know from friends, lot of STDs has been making rounds where such men are involved, some of them being incurable.
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DynamicCouple36
5 years ago
OP You could start by changing your profile status to “attached / married”, instead of “single”
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RHP User
5 years ago
You are so attached. Just had a read of your profile. You may as well put liar in big letters across it.So you want us to give our body/mind/heart/precious time to a liar who doesn't respect us or their partner? Good luck with that
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Phoenix_Rising
5 years ago
Most of them do it by lying...😒 Your chances are slim either way but if you’re honest you have way more chance of finding something ongoing and not ending up in a situation where the other party gets pissed off & causes you trouble in your relationship.
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RHP User
5 years ago
'a bit shy at first'? I cringe every time I read that. Translation: I'm either married or disgusting or both so I won't show myselfThrow in your little concocted story (school night? wtf)You're essentially looking for a women who doesn't mind that you're a liar. Wow she must be rarer than a unicorn
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FeistyFatty
5 years ago
Haha .... what DC said..... and, join a site with oodles of ladies. Some will judge, some will not. Roll the dice and have some fun with it. Good luck😊
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Mischeviouslad
5 years ago
“Asking for a friend”.... 😆
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badboyhere
5 years ago
Hi mate.....Unlike ladies who are married or attached and seeking a FWB (who are very popular - as they tell us they get 100's of messages a day), men who do this on RHP are very unpopular. I am one of the luckiest dudes on the planet to have a partner who also plays (and no don't even think about asking as her stable is full and she only plays with single guys), and she encourages me to play on my own too. Unless you are in a very open relationship and you are able to have your partner verify that you are free to play, (and there still is no guarantees ever this will help you) I can say that there is no hope on Red Hot Pie for what you are looking for. The women here both that are single or in a relationship will flatly reject you, not even view your profile or read your messages. As much as this is a "sex site" the best you will get here is ladies offering "sugar dating" in their profile and there is a few of those on here particularly in your age group. I am by no means wanting to encourage you if your partner is not aware but best to try to Google to search out other sites where this is the type of thing you are looking for.
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RHP User
5 years ago
It's better that she hears from you first, for better or for worse, either way she will find out.
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MsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
Island Caribs? Avoid eating the brain. You may have better luck fucking it first, with married attached or other. 🙊😉 Ms Foxy Ms Foxy
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RHP User
5 years ago
If your wife cant trust .. How can anyone else..
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AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
We don't judge but we do call out bullshit. You can try your bullshit lines, shift worker, school night's, blah blah. We have all heard it before. Playing with closeted attached person = getting fucked about
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On_Safari
5 years ago
Yes kinda different set of rules here depending on if you’re a cheating women as opposed to a cheating man.... when in essence it’s exactly the same “sleazy” scenario. I did find this comment above a bit harsh however, even though that couple are talking from their own experiences which I’m not negating. “Moral issue aside, lot of STD’s are spread by these folks, aka cheaters. Reason being; when you seek sex with motives not so popular, the crowd you’ll attract will not be the kind who will have a very high selection standard.” It’s been my experience that some of these people, men and women are actually NOT that stereotype and actually have an extremely high selection criteria and feel they must be referring to the duplicitous “travelling salesmen” type rampant in Pie World. I came here as a married woman seeking a FWB (code for cheating on her wife biatch) the only slight difference being before I found another married FWB I actually discussed swinging with my then husband....he wasn’t into it and truth be told I wouldn’t have been into it either had he participated with me as a couple. I left my marriage and my ex-husband and I are very close friends who care about each other very much. The FWB I found kept me a secret from his wife but we both believe she knew something was going on but due to the nature of his work and their “blessed and fortuitous” marriage and family life chose to wipe it from her mind. After all she had the perfect husband and life right? As for STD’s I’d be more wary of the travelling salesman/woman types. I’m owning my generalisation because they are the sleazy dirty types. Now OP as for your wife/girlfriend, do you love her? Do you think she is deserving of your respect? Don’t you think she has a right to know what you’re thinking or what’s missing for you in your marriage? Don’t you think you owe it to her to have a choice? Unless you’re not going to be happy with her decision for her best life (and that of your children if any) and needs, because ultimately it’s that selfishness on your part that makes this unpalatable. You want your cake and eat it too with as little accountability on your part as possible.....and you don’t want me going into what affects it may have on your lover should she develop feelings, expectations or simply decide she wants to boil your bunny and cook your goose..... Troubled Waters ~ Indy
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On_Safari
5 years ago
Cheating on her husband not wife! My wife divorced me some years ago too 😂
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73bandit
5 years ago
Amazes me the ppl ripping this guy who have fucked " Attached/Married men " . Just saying .
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RHP User
5 years ago
Anyone fucks ??????
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On_Safari
5 years ago
Mutual and free will noun noun: freewill 1. the power of acting without the constraint of necessity or fate; the ability to act at one's own discretion
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RHP User
5 years ago
If you are lying or deceiving someone you love, how are you going to treat someone you don’t love? I am all for open relationships. Consent. They are a lot of fun. But it takes a lot of trust, respect and of course, mutual agreement. To be frank, I can find amazing guys to have fun with anywhere, who don’t have restrictions on time or all the other problems that seem to come with married men. I would always choose a single guy, less complications.
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NudesRus
5 years ago
Careful you guys standing up there on that high moral ground. You might fall !!!
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Sawadee
5 years ago
Was thinking the same .. ? Dont throw stones if you live in a glass house's.. Franklin619... bet you wont ask that question again.. ?
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cheekky
5 years ago
Hmmmmmm......... how does one know for sure who they are seeing is single?? Like what do they regard as a guarantee that they are meeting up with someone not attatched??? These hookup sites are full of risks and one of them is that the person you are meeting could be married. I don't know what the potential partner could possibly do to make you feel 100% certain they were single. And on a finale note if you are married isn't it easier to meet up with another person that is married too. At least they would understand the risks and possibly be more attentive to the need for discretion. I don't condone anyone cheating. But I do think it comes with the territory of a site like this. 🤷♂️ Cheekky x
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RHP User
5 years ago
I at least get personalised notes from my wife
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MsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
Seeing no one has mentioned: local Meet and Greets, Adult clubs or the event tab for events. Plenty of people go who seek exactly what you stated. Ms Foxy
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AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
Quoting '73bandit' Amazes me the ppl ripping this guy who have fucked " Attached/Married men " . Just saying . It's a personal choice that we can all make wether we want to play with an attached person. Morals aside, it happens. I've done it.BUTPresent us with all the relevant information for us all to make that choice. Don't present your lies to us so you can play people into your web of marital deceit where not only the partner can be devastated but a third innocent person as well. I've seen it so many times in here.So we know the OP is a liar. How about you as things seem to be striking a chord with you? So don't bullshit and people will be less judgmental
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RHP User
5 years ago
What Annie said 👍 It's the bullshit, the lies, that personally piss me off
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Sawadee
5 years ago
SuperFoxxxy is the only one who answered the mans question.. ?
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AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
A woman l have met from in here. Started a relationship with a guy, both from the same regional city. Seven years, still going. He worked FIFO and so saw him for a week every three (something like that, my collection is a little sketchy). One day whilst he was "away", she was talking on the phone whilst in the car. Stops at a traffic light and looks across at the car next door. Him..... So shit hit the fan. Turns out he was 1 week on, 2 off. The missing week was used to spend time with his wife and children who lived a few suburbs across town. That's going to fuck ya day.....
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RHP User
5 years ago
To all of the attached sub group (cheating or not) who are getting up in arms about the apparent moral high ground displayed, there are those of us who have been there, we don't judge why they are here, but the deceit. I ventured into this while still married, but as with every story, ours was unique, he knew, was almost accepting, he knew I needed to do this. The difference was I always stated I was married, on another site, and separated I think when I started on here because I chose to be truthful and end the marriage within a matter of months. It came as no surprise to him, we're both much happier now. But I never lied to my playmates. I have played with attached people and never judged them. How could I, given I'd done the same thing. I agree there is no way of knowing if someone is really single or not, but why add one more liar into the mix? Hence the response to the op
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RHP User
5 years ago
Welcome to being in exactly the same category as most men on here. You'll fit in well with the "cheaters and liars crowd".
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RHP User
5 years ago
Well I think I should have followed my own advice ‘don’t post anything on forums and social media’ For the people who actually answered the question thank you the information was appreciated. For the people who jumped to conclusions and judge before getting any facts there is so much I’d like to say but just go f@$k yourselves if you’ve got nothing nice to say don’t say anything at all.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Quoting 'Franklin619' Well I think I should have followed my own advice ‘don’t post anything on forums and social media’ For the people who actually answered the question thank you the information was appreciated. For the people who jumped to conclusions and judge before getting any facts there is so much I’d like to say but just go f@$k yourselves if you’ve got nothing nice to say don’t say anything at all. And what 'facts' would they be mate?
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RHP User
5 years ago
So you would like to know the facts on why my profile reads the way it does and why i asked the question? Yes I was married for 17 years and in that time we had a daughter, 3 years ago my wife was diagnosed with cancer and lost the battle last year. With all of lifes bills I had to go back to FIFO work so when I'm home the only time I have to myself is during the day while she is at school that is why I am 'shy at first' as I have only been with my wife and 'daytime meets' plus 'school nights' is I spend what time I have when I'm home with my daughter. The question was asked because my best friend had her husband cheat on her and she was chasing an answers. I hope this will sufficient for you.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Telling people to go and fuck themselves when you post a vague post which looks as if it was asking for yourself.....doesnt make you look good. Surely your friend, who is an adult, can work that out for themselves? The forums is a place which can either offend you or give you a thicker skin. Ive had my fair of spats on here, goodness knows, but at the end of the day its only on line banter. Daytime meets on a profile means attached 99.5% of the time. So maybe say that you are a single dad and cant meet in the evenings.
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AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
It was pretty much entrapment. Very sorry for your situation but don't tell us to fuck ourselves because you failed to articulate. All the best
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RHP User
5 years ago
Koko Thanks for the advice I never thought of it that way and I’ll be changing the wording of my profile to hopefully reflect myself correctly
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badboyhere
5 years ago
Quoting 'cheekky' Hmmmmmm......... how does one know for sure who they are seeing is single?? Like what do they regard as a guarantee that they are meeting up with someone not attatched??? These hookup sites are full of risks and one of them is that the person you are meeting could be married. I don't know what the potential partner could possibly do to make you feel 100% certain they were single. And on a finale note if you are married isn't it easier to meet up with another person that is married too. At least they would understand the risks and possibly be more attentive to the need for discretion. I don't condone anyone cheating. But I do think it comes with the territory of a site like this. 🤷♂️ Cheekky x Yes you could assume that "if you are married isn't it easier to meet up with another person that is married too" would make some sense Cheekky, and I went looking mainly for married ladies if the hope that most are in open relationships. I can only speak from my own experience of what I found to be the case for me Cheekky, so I am not going to speak for anybody else, but I have found this not to be the case (married seeking married). If anything I have found from searching and reading through profiles that most (not all) married ladies are not looking for married men, and most are searching on the side. Looking for single men is better option for them as a single guy has more chance of having a place to play discreetly. In reading most married ladies profiles, most advise that they do not want to see married men as there is "too much baggage". I can see their point, as there is a very high perception that guys are cheating on their partners and they have families that could be affected. You are also correct that we are never really sure 100% that the person we are seeing is not already in a relationship and if they are they in a valid open relationship or not, and or does their partner know that they are here. They answer to that is that we will never really know for sure. Good luck in your search......
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The_Antichrist
5 years ago
People who choose infidelity do so because they can.... Therefore no matter the boundaries that they face, they will always find a way to score their next hit... No real different to alcoholics, etc...
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RHP User
5 years ago
You're like the guru. That is so true
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sweetnsensual
5 years ago
We met a guy for dinner and his mobile kept ringing and he wouldn’t answer saying it was his dad lol Failed to message after 630 at night but messaged during the day all the time. So not married lol
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Sawadee
5 years ago
.. and some are not ? Take away the certificate and what do you get ? A man or a woman just like yourself with exactly the same desires .. So who are we to judge the way another person goes about his / her life ? and who knows thier reason considering this world is full of broken marriages ? I dont condone infidelity , but castigation without knowing the facts is just plain wrong ?
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RHP User
5 years ago
So here I am reading some of the posts and I come across this one saying attached guys are not very popular here as you will find out. So I’m thinking is this person for real. What’s the difference between a attached male and an attached female. Well nothing I’m thinking so why are guys are the villains here and it’s ok for a woman to be married , attached. Really are you people here that caught up in your own little worlds you don’t know what’s really going on. As for stds well it’s not only the guys that carry them by the way , and if your careful use protection well you should be just fine. It’s not only guys that sleep around and not everyone’s profile is telling the truth till you actually talk to them and uncover what’s really going on.
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RHP User
5 years ago
It’s funny reading how you guys are just taking the piss calling out a liar and a cheat to those who choose to do it. And you take the moral high ground saying how wrong it is and how cheaters and liars are just scum. Well what about the woman you are all so quick to judge guys. And as mentioned I have no doubt you all have fucked someone married or attached. So get off your high horse people and can the moral bullshit when you are all Hippocrates. You all need to get a life and stop living in a dream world.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Seriously judgemental stuff going on here, no one knows what is happening in someone’s relationship and why they choose to find happiness elsewhere. Be kind, no one has to get hurt if done properly in this day and age. We are all on different paths
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wifeofmine
5 years ago
Maybe unattach yourself first, too hard?? Too fucking bad! I find it a huge turn off that you would make a commitment to someone and then don’t keep up that commitment, it’s a dog act! We had a guy be honest and tell us upfront which I appreciated but I also felt empathy for his partner who would perhaps someday find out about it and I would fucking never want to be a part of that. And if she didn’t ever find out, to be fooled by a fuckwit that she trusted is just heartbreaking! Do you have kids? You’re cheating on them too! That makes my heart hurt for any person. I feel sad that she married you if that’s how you treat her.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Interesting read including all the comments. As a married or attached man looking for something on the side without your wifes/partner knowledge or consent isn't accepted by members on RHP. But if you are female looking for something on the side without your husbands/partners knowledge is kinda ok, you're not looked upon as badly. The reality is there are quite a few people here with double standards. I can understand the STD part, but that's higher in the singles scene then those who are married or attached.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Being a married guy with a wife who has a compersion fetish tends to draw more intrigue than genuine interest in here from my own experiences. In saying that, the number of fake people, or those cheating tend to make it even harder. The number of times I’ve had a woman outright reply with “bullshit” and block me is insane - sadly RHP won’t let me post verification from my wife in the form of messages etc, which those who I have had successfully met state eased their mind a lot - frustrating that those of us who are genuine have been typecast by those less so.
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yep_its_me
5 years ago
Attached guys meeting women I'm now attached to an amazing woman. There isn't one thing that she doesn't know about in regards to who and when i meet someone be it socially or intimately. It took me years of deception and a lot of heart ache, not just mine, I was not the same person I am now. While i can fully understand why people cheat, it is not my place to question or judge but more than happy to meet someone discreetly. It's their choice of whom they want to meet if they are attached. Why did I and why do I still, well there is a few reasons, I'm bisexual and my partner doesn't have a penis, which I'm so glad about😊 she may contest that.... acceptance by others, the feeling of being wanted, nothing about love as I have that. About being desired, someone who understand that variety is what keeps me going. No I'm not talking about 2 different women a day..... well not that that didn't happen for a big part of my marriage, but having a connection other than sexual is as important to me now. I like to be able to have a decent conversation with someone, doesn't mean that we bonk each other stupid all the time. Then there's the question of what's classed as cheating because how my partner and I am, some people would still class it as cheating even though she knows everything. Well thats a bit about qhat I'm like, why i cheated and why I have no objection to being myself. Yep_its_me
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RHP User
5 years ago
It’s mostly always the same “perfect specimens” that rip a newbie or someone who has a difference of opinion, like they are just waiting to jump on you. 🤔 With all due respect to the OP though, probably not the right site to be on if your a cheater.
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yep_its_me
5 years ago
Greeneyedblonde Totally agree. That's what the block button is for. Everyone has an opinion. Right wrong, no one should be judge..... unless you're in court......
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yep_its_me
5 years ago
And for those who actually read this, my ex wife slept with me after picking me up at a bar, yep i knew she was still married to her first husband..... Judge away..........
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CherrySnickers
5 years ago
I would tell them to be honest. You/they might just find someone on the same wavelength who doesn’t judge their situation. Cheers x Cherry x
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Rooter77
5 years ago
If I had a partner & she did that to me, I don’t think I would like it. So I wouldn’t do it, nor do I think it’s right.
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AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
Seems all the attached guys are doing their own judging of those who are opposed. That's fine as long as you have read all the posts as people have explained why that have responded the way they have. By declaring yourselves single to prospective hook ups, you are putting them in a situation that your partner may get a hold off and confront the third party verbally or physically. All because of your lies. So be up front with your status so the 3rd party knows what they are/might get involved with. "Oh you say.....l won't get a root if I'm honest" Well tell someone that cares because we dont
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DarrenMac
5 years ago
There is only one way. Be honest with all parties. If all consent then there are no issues and no cheating.
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RHP User
5 years ago
...maybe start by looking at some of the guys on here and ask yourself "Would I be Ok if these guys were fucking my wife - and not me?"
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RHP User
5 years ago
You will attract women under 30. They're not as discerning as older women. This is purely anecdotal as I've discussed this topic with a number friends but there is definitely an allure to the secretive nature of an affair. Also, most have found that married men tend to have the ability to read women well (so they should, they live with one), are generally more patient, make more wholesome interactions and prefer regular fwbs as opposed to NSAs (which actually contradicts the whole std/sti argument). It's not something I'm proud of but I've been there and so have mannnnnnnnnyy acquaintances of mine who are under 30. I would advice you not to do it, but yeh it's your life.
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sweetnsensual
5 years ago
Quoting 'Rooter77' If I had a partner & she did that to me, I don’t think I would like it. So I wouldn’t do it, nor do I think it’s right.
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sweetnsensual
5 years ago
Quoting 'ghost_rider' It’s funny reading how you guys are just taking the piss calling out a liar and a cheat to those who choose to do it. And you take the moral high ground saying how wrong it is and how cheaters and liars are just scum. Well what about the woman you are all so quick to judge guys. And as mentioned I have no doubt you all have fucked someone married or attached. So get off your high horse people and can the moral bullshit when you are all Hippocrates. You all need to get a life and stop living in a dream world. Why no pic Ghost Rider???
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AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
Quoting 'yep_its_me' And for those who actually read this, my ex wife slept with me after picking me up at a bar, yep i knew she was still married to her first husband..... Judge away.......... Hmmmm. Glad things worked out well then....
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RHP User
5 years ago
Ive talked to plenty of guys on here who wouldnt meet a married woman. This post was about attached guys, if you are all taking it personally why dont you start your own thread about married women having flings? I have been the cheated on partner and it was a horrible thing to go through. Even worse if there are children involved. If you are not happy move on and give your lady the chance to meet someone who deserves her respect.
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yep_its_me
5 years ago
Well Anniewhichway, it actually has and now it couldn't have worked out any better than I thought, as i can now be who i am instead of someone I protray. So while it created turmoil in my life, it also made me realise that I need to just be me, open and honest. I wouldn't have met my amazing partner if I was still the old me. Btw, I hated the old me, who i was and the things i did to the ones i did love. And from my experience, most people who deceive actually don't like themselves or just can't leave their situation. That's all up to them, it's an individual choice, right or wrong, the only person you have control over is yourself (well other than my sub, lol) so your actions have consequences. Probably just like my comments 😊👍
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yep_its_me
5 years ago
Kokoflamingo; Agree 100%. It's devastating for all who are the innocent ones and it goes further than just the partner and children, if there are children. It carries on to other family members, divisio of friends, the list goes on..... I can't change my past, wish I could and have full remorse for all the hurt i did. Fortunately I was able to see the right side of life, thats the right side for me.... that may not be the same side for others.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Quoting 'ghost_rider' It’s funny reading how you guys are just taking the piss calling out a liar and a cheat to those who choose to do it. And you take the moral high ground saying how wrong it is and how cheaters and liars are just scum. Well what about the woman you are all so quick to judge guys. And as mentioned I have no doubt you all have fucked someone married or attached. So get off your high horse people and can the moral bullshit when you are all Hippocrates. You all need to get a life and stop living in a dream world. We're not the ones living in a dream world Mr ghost
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RHP User
5 years ago
who those perfect specimens are. Annie?
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littlemissj
5 years ago
If the partner knows, all good. But dishonesty is not cool. It puts ur partner at risk without their consent and is the lowest betrayal in my book. If you’re unhappy, you need to leave or have an honest talk. It is not fair to cheat. No one deserves to have the person they trust most shatter their ability to trust again.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Quoting 'ImUnderYourBed' You will attract women under 30. They're not as discerning as older women. This is purely anecdotal as I've discussed this topic with a number friends but there is definitely an allure to the secretive nature of an affair. Also, most have found that married men tend to have the ability to read women well (so they should, they live with one), are generally more patient, make more wholesome interactions and prefer regular fwbs as opposed to NSAs (which actually contradicts the whole std/sti argument). It's not something I'm proud of but I've been there and so have mannnnnnnnnyy acquaintances of mine who are under 30. I would advice you not to do it, but yeh it's your life. although more patient is a bit of a stretch. I no longer choose to play with attached guys but have done and my experience was they are great to begin with, give you the time, nice long meets etc but after a while once the little arrangement is singing along, you then start to get the sense they're calling in for a quickie on the way to the shop to get milk One guy I saw, who was incredible, was never in a rush, but a few years along, he called in one night impromptu, I was free so bought him in. I then brushed my teeth given I wasn't expecting him, he was sitting on the bed trying to rush me, telling me not to worry. Kept telling me to come and sit down with him. I wanted to get the tuna out of my teeth godammit but from there it got worse. The next meet he never showed up, then wanted to see me again without much notice. Married men are never going to work around your schedule, it's all about them. I have little respect or patience for them anymore. I understand people doing it for a short time while they get their shit sorted, but long term it's just selfishI do agree older women are more discerning, I certainly am anyway
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jenlea72
5 years ago
Found out my other half was on here as a bi cross dresser asking for gangbang hookups and asking for a male his age well hung, also was sending erection pic of him to other girls and was going to hookup with them when I found his profile and messages on his mobile from other girls guess what this lying cheating arse has the last laugh😜 I ended up hooking up with a guy had the best sex so it's funny how karma works in mysterious ways....
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jenlea72
5 years ago
By the way I'm a female tried to change profile it keeps coming up as male, admin can u please change my pic from male to female please
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AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' who those perfect specimens are. Annie? Never said l was perfect. I know you are no angelI'm probably in the same boat as Yep_its_me. I've caused chaos and pain but very much wiser for the experience. We can't change what has happened but we can modify our behaviour for the future and try and share our knowledge.Having been down the road, l can see others taking the same route, carnage is just a bit further down the highway. Life changing for some, but definitely not always in a positive manner. A few will not make it through.
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sensualplay
5 years ago
I'm discrete about it, as in we don't go broadcasting it to the world that Mr is enjoying some time with another woman. But perhaps you are suggesting discretion as in hiding it from your wife, if that is the case I imagine it will only be a matter of time before she finds out or at the least cotton onto things not being right. I find honesty with my wife and a new woman I am meet is reassuring for both. Trust is something I value in my play for things to be satisfying. In my experience too, in my much younger days had cheated and slept with people cheating .... while there was some level of thrill there was guilt, and it was never as good where there is clean honesty about what is happening. that is my 2cents on how to go about things :-)
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RHP User
5 years ago
One thing I told myself when I joined this site is “ I DONT DO MARRIED OR ATTACHED “ In saying that I am almost 99% sure there are guys on here who lie about their relationship status so I am very choosey and I can usually pick a liar and a cheat almost straight up And your right you are not very popular around here ... well with me anyway !!!
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MsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
The OP asked one simple question and did state in his opening, "how would you go about meeting women for a discreet affair or NSA fun or more?", so who is going to actually answer besides myself. Ms Foxy
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AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
Well you answered it for the OPs friend, the rest of us are just calibrating the moral compass so his friend can find safe passage through the rocky straits.We don't want another Costa Concordia. After all, the captain on that occasion left a trail of destruction but managed to fall into a lifeboat to save his sorry arse. There are a few parallels.......
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Sawadee
5 years ago
This topic screams of the them and us depending on the level of emotional involvement. . Naturally those who have been hurt by infidelity cry the loudest and with good reason. At least this topic gives them a platform to hit out and cry foul. As I mentioned earlier, l dont condone infidelity ' but one hat doesn't fit all . I know of situations where if that person didn't find outside love , thier lives would be baron of any kind emotional connection what so ever ? So is this fair ? Of course not ? and im sure if there was a option that no one gets hurt , thats the option most would take . It's quite clear reading some posts of who's been hurt and who hasn't .. but please don't judge everyone by your own experience.. No two situations are ever the same even if it appears that way.
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yep_its_me
5 years ago
Ms Foxy To simplify my answer, i would go about it honestly. I've done it both ways and being open and upfront before anything happens is much more rewarding. Communication and honesty is the key. In the past, I didn't say to my wife, hey I'm having problems with my sexuality, I'm not sure about it.... I'm satisfied sexually but I'm craving variety. I'm not looking for someone to love.... so on. That then would have created communication about it before anyone cheated.... and surprisingly the other party might actually be feeling the same way but too scared to mention it in fear of being accused of cheating before anything happen. Shit that wasn't so simple.... Play with fire, someone eventually gets burnt. How do I go about it. Put myself out there and yes I'm on multiple sites let who ever is interested in being involved in my world (RHP world) that I'm available and what I am looking for. The ones in my world know that I'm a full disclosure type. Yep_its_me
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RHP User
5 years ago
But if you are unhappy and theres no emotional or physical attachment whats the point of staying? Ill tell you why......most men like the cosy home life, being looked after in every other way and the status of being in a "happy" couple. If the relationship is strained and devoid of any physical affection then you are kidding yourselves that its better to stay in that situation. If you havent experienced being lied to, cheated on and had you and your childrens lives turned upside down then you will continue to think that there isnt really anything wrong with having a bit on the side. Its called having respect for your partner.
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Sawadee
5 years ago
I've had all those things you mentioned. So it's not as if im poking my finger in fresh air. But I refuse to re live it over and over. It's what you do and how you handle things after the event which makes the difference to you and those around you. I always tell my kids ' you cant change what other people say think and do , but you can change your own ?
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RHP User
5 years ago
By refusing to see any attached or married guys, no matter how barren their home lives are. I dont relive it, I just hate seeing guys on here not giving a crap. Different if the wife is aware of what you are doing, but most of the time thats not the case. Anyway, Ive rambled on enough, but for me, personally, theres never a good enough excuse to cheat instead of being the bigger man and moving on.
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RHP User
5 years ago
I prefer to play with Married guys to be honest. I do not need any drama or hassles. I don't care their reasons, they are their own. The lovers I have are amazing, and yes, totally in love with their wives. But they are not getting intimacy at home. I am a safe bet because I do not want a relationship, just sex with a friendship. I do not judge anyone. Each to their own.
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yep_its_me
5 years ago
Sawadee: I have been the cheater, I'm not proud. I posted my comments because it might actually save someone's marriage Because they took the steps before. Key word.... before..... The thing is, everyone has is an option. Koko's opinion is valid. It's how she feels. You can give someone the most amazing orgasms and have the biggest dick but thats not going to change her mind. I wish i was a "bigger man" then, a lot of heartache would have been possibly prevented. You say how they react after the fact. (Back to cause/reaction.), proactive in saving a marriage would be to actually discuss it before not after. Cause like me, now I'm assuming but wtf, you haven't just cheated once. I was a serial cheater. I know Koko, I was an ankle, 3 foot lower than you know what. I can change past. I changed the way i live and I can now sleep comfortably not worrying if my partner/wife will ever know....... Oh and yes, it always gets found out. That's called karma. No one has control over that. Ok thats me. I hope that anyone considering cheating, please from someone who has been there..... really think hard about who it will effect. Yep_its_me
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RHP User
5 years ago
How hard can it be?....be honest.
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devilblond68
5 years ago
Yep this site doesn’t work if you put married been on here for ages nothing think there’s a lot more men than women on here huge selection for women fuck all for men only the occasional one answers a message also a lot of scammers ie send me some money or card no so I can do blablabla and we’ll meet 😂😂 also very hard to cancel. The high moral ground is taken around here you will find (just watch them shoot me down) good luck👍
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RHP User
5 years ago
Boooo to cheaters, yay to mutual consent. Ethical and honest is the only way for us so we won’t go near cheaters. No advice from us as we wouldn’t know how to go about it 🤮
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Sawadee
5 years ago
No body wants to cheat , but it does happen .. Next time you take the high ground and gloat about it not happening to you dont be too sure because it does have a nasty habit of sneaking up when you least expect it to ? Kudos to those who sail through unscratched..
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DadBodnHotWife
5 years ago
I’d suggest focusing on your current relationship first and foremost. Lots of open communication, compassion and compromises are paramount. Every marriage is a two way street, if you aren’t getting everything you need from the relationship then it’s almost certain your partner isn’t getting everything they need from you too. Try counseling or end the relationship. I’d never recommend cheating, but if you’re gonna do it anyway despite all the reasons why you shouldn’t, then I’d suggest you see a professional sex worker. Do some serious research and find one that can provide a service specific to your needs.
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yep_its_me
5 years ago
Sawadee: I don't know who you're referring to regarding the high ground, but every one has a right to their opinion, agree or disagree, the question was how to go about it and unfortunately it's turning south...I agree with some of your comments and many of others, been on both sides, but is repeat behavior healthy if there is an easy alternative? Being honest. Yep it may end your marriage. It may not. My ex wife and I tried another 3 years after she found out. She knew I was still playing. I walked away from the marriage, she didn't leave me. I couldn't keep living like that. It would of killed me. I couldn't sleep at night..... Fortunately for me, I have found someone who excepts my sexuality and kinks because of our openness and honesty. I know which I choose to do now. And I'm my own biggest critic and I'm the only person I judge. I know Karma is a bitch. And what ever the reason that people say, thats fair call for them. I wish you all the best of luck.
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Sawadee
5 years ago
I'm not referring to anyone in particular , just a overall observation. No need for concern.. ?
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yep_its_me
5 years ago
👍
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RHP User
5 years ago
I always said no married men but I was inexperienced at identifying the signs and a few have slipped through. And all of them were weak pathetic liars. If they can lie to someone they apparently love, of course they are going to lie to others and treat them like crap to. Men or women in open rehatinships - good on you for being honest, open and secure enough to pursue pleasure without jealousy. Men or women here for the ‘thrill’ of cheating or for a little excitement wake up to yourself. Either put more effort into your relationship or get out, your partner deserves better than your lies and deceit. And so do we. It’s the ultimate in disrespect and incredibly selfish. For those who don’t know how to pick a liar... I take my cues from a few things: 1. Do their kik messages go ‘D’ or ‘S’ usually if it’s S they have their kik turned off when with their partner. 2. When do they contact you? During work hours? When do they want to meet? Why do they refuse to meet at their house? 3. Condoms essential - yes they are, in all cases, but married men don’t usually try the bare back road as they can’t risk getting caught by taking home an std so they are extra diligent with protection. 4. My nails. If they are scared of them or suspect I will leave marks.. it’s a dead giveaway.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Thank you Kokoflamingo, This is my situation being a single dad day time meets are better for me. I have always thought it best not to say I’m a father as I adore my daughter and have always kept distance from this site for her protection. Well time to change the profile if any single or attached ladies looking for day time fun 😉👍
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MsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
We all have our own preferences. Not all day time meets mean people are "married" and deceitful. A lot of people on this site do assume that. As a single woman and a shift worker and sometimes day meets suit me too. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
5 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' You are so attached. Just had a read of your profile. You may as well put liar in big letters across it.So you want us to give our body/mind/heart/precious time to a liar who doesn't respect us or their partner? Good luck with that Why can't people just say it how it is? "I'm married and looking for a fling on the side that my wife doesn't know about", at least then prospective play mates can make the decision for themselves if they want to be in that situation.
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2hotforit
5 years ago
I have got a lot of couples profiles message me and all of a sudden bam, it’s the male looking to have sex without his mates knowledge or consent. Why would you play with a liar and a cheater...when there are a lot of single males out there. I could not do that to another person full stop...bad karma and one of my boundaries.....either they are playing together or I don’t play end of story...you will be blocked.
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Magicmicah
5 years ago
Just go to a brothel and save the drama
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RHP User
5 years ago
Interesting read. As we had a very open and frank discussion a couple years ago, we have 'saved' a marriage and friendship by deciding to be open and adapting to the new circumstances (and we tried several different options). Now its open communication where I tell her that I'm going to meet someone, or going to stay over, and she's happiest not to know the details. Its really not easy at all though as, in common with most men, I get very few replies to the messages I send out (and I don't send out so many). In fact, I've never actually met anyone off RHP - possibly the discussions above explains why. Or possibly, after developing some empathy for my partner, I'm expecting too much from possible partners on a site like this. Or i'm turned off by the profiles that have 467 'friends'...(really?). So yeah, I flail about and get judgemental too while trying to figure out what in hell is going on.
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RHP User
5 years ago
With all the effort and bullshit that goes with sneaking around, the risk of getting caught and the stress involved why not just go to a brothel, easier, spontaneous and far less chance of getting caught well unless you pay by credit card
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RHP User
5 years ago
Wow. Just viewed your profile and it has so many red flags. Have you considered opening up your relationship or swinging together. Many couples love swinging together. It is honest. No one needs to go behind each other's back and you can both have fun together. I would strongly suggest you speak with your partner. I, Xanthea, the girl, have played with married women. Both our husbands were there and seemed to enjoy it as much as we did.
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RHP User
5 years ago
I don’t fully understand why does it matter to anybody on a website like this whether somebody is attached or not. Most encounters are casual one only anyways so why to question anybody whether they are cheating in their partner ? If somebody cheats, that sucks and that person will cop consequences later on but it’s not for anybody else to try to save somebody else’s relationship. Sex is for fun and in some cases cheating can save relationships ! I really don’t know who are the people thinking they will save somebody else’s relationship by judging them.
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Insatiable0488
5 years ago
Nothing like browsing the RHP forums for a bit of late night cringe reading 😂 OP was pretty silly to ask the question, because even if he is innocent and actually a FIFO single parent, all the white knights on here are going to scream “burn it with fire!!!” regardless.. and now his credibility is fucked either way 😂
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RHP User
5 years ago
...”burn it with fire !” Lol.
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