F57
GREEDY COUPLES. SAD SINGLES
July 20 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
Miss Gooey that as soon as a man becomes single ,he turns into an untrustworthy ravening beast...XQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta3' Miss Gooey that as soon as a man becomes single ,he turns into an untrustworthy ravening beast...XQ I that obvious Q?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Ravenous beast is you:-) xQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta3' Miss Gooey that as soon as a man becomes single ,he turns into an untrustworthy ravening beast...XQ but hey there's room for improvement
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RHP User
10 years ago
It all depends on what parties you go to. Yes, the swingers clubs and the larger parties likes Saints and Sinners don't allow single men which makes it a little boring for us single women particularly when the night is very coupley and the couples stick together. The problem with letting single men in is to find the right balance. You only want the 10 men to 1 woman ratio at a gang bang. I can just picture the queue around the block of single guys trying to get into a swingers club - how do you manage that?
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Paradisepair
10 years ago
<br>I'm rather fond of awesome single males, the niche they fill and the mathematics involves in group play which means extra males have a role/hole to fill...<br><p><br>That said, swingers parties have grown from couples parties, and military men looking after their colleagues wives... True story. So they traditionally have been the realms of couples, lots of wives opened relationships due to an interest in bi-sexual play, and again, traditionally, these parties on the whole aren't for male bi-play. <br><p><br>So it's what many couples want, including the people putting the parties on, and as has been discussed thoroughly in the thread about single Jessica Rabbit's meet and greet - the hosts get to set the guidelines, full stop. If you don't like it make your own event. <br><p><br> Additionally, there's the whole ratio factor, where because there are so many single guys out there their presence at clubs is usually rationed to a certain # for the night, and a good club will screen so those guys are someone special. I see that as a bonus. Or they have nights where the guys are welcome, just not that 'primetime' Saturday night.<br><p><br> And I'll add, that my heart doesn't bleed to much for the plight of the poor horny single women. You've got the upper hand here in cyberspace, you've got the upper hand over couples in real life (only the most open or confident couples seek to pick up muggles), if you're horny you can pick up in a normal club with ease... <br><p><br> Plus I think getting back to swinging, I think a lot of couples enjoy the social and sexual interaction with another couple, or two, three, four... and single women don't actually seem to be at too many private couples/swingers parties anyway. They're unicorns remember... rare on the ground. <br><p><br> If we're not talking about swingers parties, what kind of parties do you mean? If your needs aren't being met by the events you attend I'd recommend changing your playground, try social parties like Hellfire if you've got a touch of kink, or Hot Kandi if you like to dance, the rhp meet and greets are entirely single guy friendly...<br>
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RHP User
10 years ago
Maybe they can let them in on a first cum first served basis :-p. but I do agree with the OP, they should let some single men into the clubs. I know that they do on specific nights, but if you are going with a group of friends it would be nice to know that there would be a few single men too.
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RHP User
10 years ago
<br> And I'll add, that my heart doesn't bleed to much for the plight of the poor horny single women. You've got the upper hand here in cyberspace, you've got the upper hand over couples in real life (only the most open or confident couples seek to pick up muggles), if you're horny you can pick up in a normal club with ease... <br><p> I don't know how long it's been since you were single, but nope, it's really not that easy for many of us single women. Particularly outside the major cities where we don't have clubs and RHP events. As you pointed out, the swinging scene grew from a focus on couples and that's where its focus still is. I can't even get an invite to private swinger's parties here because I'm a single woman (it's single males they need more of at events up here). And I have to say, after about a year and a half now, I'm getting a bit over the smug attitude of most couples in the swinging scene, so I'm just about ready to take that particular option out of my profile.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've been to parties as a single man, but I had to be invited by a couple and then vetted by the organisers. So it depends on the party. But yeah, I think the issue is often with containment, and avoiding the whole shebang degenerating into a testosterone heavy bunfight...
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Paradisepair
10 years ago
You're at the top of a pile, you may not think it's too crash hot from up there but it sounds like the grass looks greener below. It's all about your point of view, and I know I don't appreciate quite how often couples get painted for whatever interactions people have had with particular couples in the past. It's generalisation and creates an unnecessary separatism when we should be aiming for a community. It reads if OP's topic title is showing some kind of confrontational approach (in caps too, shock/horror). As is generalizing couples as being smug. There are many generalizations one could sprout about single women based on the forthrightness of opinions by them here on the boards but I always opt for seeing what's written as individual opinions based on peoples' person experience. If a thread was started that by post 9 had decreed single women were both greedy and smug, how far do you think that discussion would get? I repeat single women shouldn't complain too much when they sit at the top in this world they've chose to enter. It is only really death, illness and the cruelty or decisions of others that we are powerless to change in our lives. Everything-else takes willpower, a willingness to work at it or change your stance.
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madotara69
10 years ago
Sounds like enough singles manipulate the couples scene as it is, it all sounds too dramatic for us to go to these events. Threads like these, tend to put us off the whole idea. Mado Tara xx
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festern13
10 years ago
put it this way why do a single male want to go to places like this where a single male has to pay double/triple if not more to get in then anyone else be cheaper to go to a brothel and why is it that most of the places let single females in for free is it really a sexist thing or what?
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Violetincredible
10 years ago
I don't understand why everyone doesn't pay the same at these venues as well... It does seem sexist. I noticed in the wa events the dollhouse had a singles night recently I didn't go because I was kind of scared off by the 100's (literally) if single guys that registered. Did anyone go to that and can report back what it was like with the multitudes of single guys??? Xxviolet
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RHP User
10 years ago
Whilst I understand the points made by my learned friends, paradisepair, I humbly submit that the following lacuna in their arguments: 1. The historical origin of an institution is not a relevant consideration to its current operation. To say that swingers clubs originated as domain of couples does not act as a justification for it to remain that way.2. Whilst a host has a prerogative to set the guidelines, the complaint of the OP is that those hosts fail to consider all of their attendees wishes and approach the subject of eligibility from a flawed perspective ie. to the interests of the couples, who, empirical observation of the predominance of "no single men" warnings on profiles her, have a strong preference for single women or other couples but not single men, whereas the single women, who are encouraged by the hosts to attend, have a preference which includes both couples and single men. As such the only intersection of interests is of the couples, not any of the singles.3. Finally, it is a matter of subjective perspective to claim that single women are at the top of the pile. As LD noted, in her town, the obverse is the case because of shortage of single guys (the curse of living near mine sites). In the capital cities, the single girls are certainly sought after but that does not put them at the apex of the predatory tree. In the economy of supply and demand, the couples are create the demand, the host is the supplier and the single girls are treated as a commodity because the host does not give any weight to their desires for a broader pool to select from. Having said that, single guys at swinger clubs often act like knobs, so I can understand why we get excluded.
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madotara69
10 years ago
See, already the idea that swingers are thought of as substitutes to whores, is why we choose to stay away.
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Paradisepair
10 years ago
Quoting 'Violetincredible' I don't understand why everyone doesn't pay the same at these venues as well... It does seem sexist. The owners know they can make money so they exploit men as common practice, maybe it helps subsidize the single female entry? But totally agree with Madotara's last comment, no woman here is a free hooker, whether at a party or meeting online.
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RHP User
10 years ago
If my experience of past events is anything to go by, probably 90% of those guys probably didn't turn up.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' See, already the idea that swingers are thought of as substitutes to whores, is why we choose to stay away. Comments like that piss me off. If you don't attend swingers clubs you can't assume that this is a common belief or how it feels when you are there.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'festern13' put it this way why do a single male want to go to places like this where a single male has to pay double/triple if not more to get in then anyone else be cheaper to go to a brothel and why is it that most of the places let single females in for free is it really a sexist thing or what? I suppose it is sexist. In fact I know that sometimes the party organisers "choose" which guys get in or who doesn't make the grade. But it all comes down to supply and demand. If guys will pay that, then they will charge that. Women wont pay that because they don't have too so they get in for free or at a discount rate. AND can I say. Tough titties! Do you know about much extra women have to pay for absolutely everything else? Say like a simple haircut? Compared to men, women pay lots more for the same services.
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Paradisepair
10 years ago
But agree with Meeka people should leave their perceptions of things they haven't tried at the door, plus clubs vary tremendously just like the muggle club scene, they're pretty much as good as the people running them and the efforts gone to by management and staff to create the experience for attendees.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Why? Because seeing a sex worker is so horrible? Or the fact that a single guy would go to a swingers club for a root. SHOCK HORROR! NO......... they don't go to a swingers club expecting that do they? For shame. LMAO. You are all assuming that this is some sort of grave insult or something. The man says that if you are looking for some fun, when it comes to money outlay it may be cheaper to go to a brothel. So what? Assuming that all the women are sex workers through choice of course but that is a whole other subject. I don't see his comment as having to necessarily mean that he thinks women at swingers clubs are.......... beneath contempt? Is that what you are implying Mado and Paradise Pair?
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madotara69
10 years ago
fiesty (tongue in cheek Meeka)
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Paradisepair
10 years ago
He sees women there as a commodity, there for his pleasure, and not necessarily hers. (One of my closest friends was a working girl for a while, as was my grandmother's best friend, a number of my girlfriends have been professional doms, in my youth I knew a number of masseurs, or as they liked to called themselves... the receptionist... barking up the wrong tree with the beneath contempt comment).
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Paradisepair
10 years ago
I don't generalise everyone within a label... people are people, who may be a single, part of a couple, a working girl, single guy, black, white, gay, straight, kinky, reserved, whatever... I still see them as a single entity instead of wrapping them up nicely in a label so I can fling distain, stones, bombs or my own insecurities at them in an effort to feel better about myself.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't see his comment like that at all. He is expressing his frustration over single men having to pay more than single women. And if you are going to pay for a night out for "fun" well.............. And sorry, but a sex worker is selling sex. That is a commodity. That is her business. Either way you are paying to get into a swingers club to hook up with people for sex or you are going to a sex worker. It is a lot of money for some single dudes. If anything he may see a swingers club as a night of sex same as he would get in a brothel. Is that really so wrong?
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scubaboy69
10 years ago
Having paid $100 to enter a "couples" party, would he consciously or unconsciously expect sex? If he's a heterosexual single guy, would he get angry if his inappropriate advances were being rejected? Sadly, I've seen it ... and it's always the heterosexual boys (singles and husbands). Rick is right, there are containment issues and one unwelcome move can turn very bad, very quickly. Either ban single guys from commercially-run heterosexual couples parties, or only have a select two of them only (that was the magic number that seemed to work perfectly in Melbourne) ... and don't charge them anything. Why? Because then they won't treat it like a transaction, they'll respect the privilege and besides, they have to work "hard" for the chance of being invited back ;-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
I got to see a swingers party once, and even got invited in for free, strange thing was I was delivering a pizza to the party. I politely declined after seeing the relentless rooting happening right in front of me, over the couch, on the kitchen table, it was everywhere. I was a bit thrown back by it all as I was only 17 at the time. Say what you will about the pizza delivery guys but you'd be amazed at the perks of the job. It wasn't the only time I'd been invited in for a quickie.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You might try a strip club, and I'm being quite serious here, some of the classier joints actually have some really decent single guys there and I'm saying this as a very straight male. I have seen plenty of women walk into the strip clubs and they pretty much get to take their pick. Just because a guy goes to a strip club doesn't automatically mean he's a desperate grease ball.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I got an invite to the dollhouse, I didn't attend but the invite said if I remember correctly the registrations were limited to 30 guys, which does makes sense. I've been there some years ago and it's hard to imagine 100's of people fitting comfortably into that place, it's just too small. Try your luck there on a regular non event night, you might be surprised at who you meet without being over hounded by men.
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RHP User
10 years ago
It is not fair that one sex is charged and the other is not but it seems as though they need the incentive to get the female unicorns to attend. Most of the profiles I wade through seem to be looking for the single female to add to the FF play rather than the extra male. Finding a civilized group that has sexy well mannered horny males to your tastes is a rarity. Some people assume that because you pay a wad of cash getting some at a swingers club is a sure thing. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Was kind of tongue in cheek ladies. I know why single guys aren't invited. Just playing devils advocate and interested in people's opinions on the subject. Would love to play with couples and ideally have a few select single males too. Never meant to imply couples are smug but it does seem you are the 'chosen ones' in this lifestyle. Perhaps if we could take your husbands home occasionally it would even the score ??
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RHP User
10 years ago
Luckdragon your posts are awash with bitterness of late..... Yes your location makes it incredibly hard we get that..... But the rules are never going to suit all people 100% of the time. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Paradisepair' You're at the top of a pile, you may not think it's too crash hot from up there but it sounds like the grass looks greener below. It's all about your point of view, and I know I don't appreciate quite how often couples get painted for whatever interactions people have had with particular couples in the past. It's generalisation and creates an unnecessary separatism when we should be aiming for a community. It reads if OP's topic title is showing some kind of confrontational approach (in caps too, shock/horror). As is generalizing couples as being smug. There are many generalizations one could sprout about single women based on the forthrightness of opinions by them here on the boards but I always opt for seeing what's written as individual opinions based on peoples' person experience. If a thread was started that by post 9 had decreed single women were both greedy and smug, how far do you think that discussion would get? I repeat single women shouldn't complain too much when they sit at the top in this world they've chose to enter. It is only really death, illness and the cruelty or decisions of others that we are powerless to change in our lives. Everything-else takes willpower, a willingness to work at it or change your stance. Thanks for the condescension, but frankly all your posturing-on-high is doing is reinforcing my view of most (not all - I didn't say all) couples in this scene. You live in a major city, which is within reasonable travelling distance of other major cities; it's a completely different environment to where I live in terms of swinging; maybe single women sit at the top of that world in your environment but they often don't in mine. It's best not to have a go at others for generalising when you are doing exactly the same thing.
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RHP User
10 years ago
..I don't go to parties where single guys are not welcome! I don't like the dynamics of couples only parties…..If my hubby is playing within a woman, her hubby usually expects me to play with him too…regardless of the attraction………sometimes I feel pressured by the wife to "entertain " her husband while she has sex with mine :) I MUCH prefer playing with singles, and I like the idea of variety :) If I host parties, I always provide a few good men for the ladies , and no one ever complains!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm single male and understand the rules of group play... Been trying to find a lady I can take along so we can all enjoy the delights of a evening... Sadly some single males take it to far and fuk it for us honest ones
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RHP User
10 years ago
Because you will end up with the same thing as on sites like these men out numbering women 20 to 1like these site generally women can view and read messages where a guy in most sites have to pay to be able to read a message or even find out who winked at themI'm single and cant go to most of the events planed, but with some parties if you are prepared to pay and arm and a leg at the door to get in. Or you look like a well built athlete you can get in but its at their picking. LD I'll buy a ticket and we will have a party of our own
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sir_stir, LD is making valid points which are supported by logic. It does you no credit to dismiss those arguments on the ground of bitterness rather than the substance of her logic. I am not sure why you said what you did because you are usually not ad hominem in your responses. The legitimate point made is that the swingers clubs and parties are skewed towards the couples. The unicorns are what attract the couples - in LD's town, unicorns are male because of distortions in the labour market. The hosts use price control to attract the unicorns and discourage the other singles. This is always for the benefit if the couples so the remark that single women were at the social apex is plainly wrong. They are there to accommodate the needs of the couples. I also agree that charging a high price for a single creates a sense of expectation of bang for the buck which can exacerbate the situation. At the end of the day, a successful host will seek to accommodate the unicorns enough to get them through the door without adding too many unwanted singles who will not attract or even deter couples from coming. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' Luckdragon your posts are awash with bitterness of late..... Yes your location makes it incredibly hard we get that..... But the rules are never going to suit all people 100% of the time. - Posted from rhpmobile I'm not sure what 'rules' you're referring to stir, but I was pointing out to Paradisepair that their generalisation of all single women being on 'top of the pile' was not correct. I was explaining why this was so, not having a whinge about it. It's quite ironic that you of all people should be having a go at others about being bitter (which I'm not but if that's how you interpret my explanation of my situation in a relevant context and how it differs to most people on these forums, that's your prerogative).
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes I was bitter myself....quite bitter and at the time that I was bitter and misogynistic; you my dear were one of many people that drew my attention to such things. Quite rightfully so too I might add. But if my memory serves me correctly - please correct me where needed - but I do believe words to effect of "we get that you hate women but please don't bring these forums down with your negativity" could very well be transposed into your posts of late. Whatever is going on in your personal life seems to be entering your posts. They appear bitter, frustrated and reactive. I can only hope that whatever it is that is making your posts appear this way is only short lived and the cheeky, funny and loving Luckdragon that I've grown to have an admiration for - since your words of tough love were spoken a couple of years ago - returns to her likeable self. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Aaron,I remember you,Dougie the Pizza Boy:-) xQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've never been in a swingers club but like most I am curious. I don't actively set about going either but it is on my to do list. When the times right and I find a female just as curious. it will happen. In saying that' and its only my opinion. I view the 'single female' getting in for nix only as the bait and the single males as the big fish.. Let the females in and the paying bigger fish will follow. I agree there would be a line a mile long of males if it was a free for all. If they think there's a root on offer parting with the almighty dollar becomes irrelevant. Mind you , I think only a certain kind of guy would want to do that. Its not for me. I find that kinda degrading and I'm much too proud to line up for anything. I am fortunate enough to not have to be like that. Id rather enjoy my FWB anyday. With that in mind, I can easily understand why a establishment would want to be choosey about who they allow in. Just because a female goes to a swingers club for a root like everyone else' doesn't mean she's there for everyone. Just my opinion...
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Paradisepair
10 years ago
Quoting 'Luckdragon23' Thanks for the condescension, but frankly all your posturing-on-high is doing is reinforcing my view of most (not all - I didn't say all) couples in this scene. You live in a major city, which is within reasonable travelling distance of other major cities; it's a completely different environment to where I live in terms of swinging; maybe single women sit at the top of that world in your environment but they often don't in mine. It's best not to have a go at others for generalising when you are doing exactly the same thing. OP - it's not you throwing 'smug' around... I don't live in a capital city, not sure where you get that from. You've got no clue about how much travel time is involved for us... And LG - you said Most Couples - which is almost as good as saying all... FYI I'm not having a go at anyone, I will happily debate on-line but do not engage in flame wars... I'll get specific with my generalisation then IMO - single girls, aged 18 to 49 with a pulse and who know how to slap make-up on and take a half decent selfie - are top of the pile here on RHP, and in real life you can pick up,especially if you're anywhere near a military base - try being a couple and doing that (except for if they're anywhere around a military base) - and if you go to one of these 'no single guys' parties you'll be popular too. Unless you're social inept or surrounded by droves of other single gals... So I will continue to say 'I don't have pity for single women who want to find a fuck', if you're finding it hard - stop for a second and think how hard it is for everyone-else and stop throwing your own pity-parties, because they're obviously not helping you find what you're looking for and the grass is not greener anywhere-else, swingle women with any degree of personality and charm are the RHP/sexual equivalent of the 1%-er. I'll reserve a degree of empathy for single girls who suffer from social phobias, live over an hour from any town with a population of more than 20,000, especially if they can't drive, who live with physical disabilities which impede communication or play including pain, have kids but nowhere to park them for play nights and so on, but otherwise all I hear is a first world problem. Throwing back to what Meeka was saying about single men, swingers parties and working girls - my reference to women as a commodity - is focused on women at swingers clubs, not working girls, I truly believe a single guy going to a club, shouldn't think paying the entry fee = getting laid, and that kind of comment from Festern's to me read as if it did, maybe I read too much into it... We don't go to clubs to meet single men, so I can't speak knowledgeably, but the single guys we meet outside of clubs aren't looking for a simple poke, they want to feel genuinely desired and appreciated. Rather than saying they could pay for sex instead, I'd be saying they could go to a club and pick up, some gorgeous young girl in a flash because they're always good-looking, buff, charming and more often than not really quite intelligent. They're looking for something different, sexually confident women, they enjoy group play, and are looking to push boundaries. The experiences we've shared have been awesome - I think for everyone. I've not played with singles at clubs but I'll always have a conversation with those who come up to chat - and I think most of those I have spoken to really respect the women at the club. I just didn't get that from Festern's comment - NOT SAYING WORKING GIRLS AREN'T WORTH RESPECTING, just that if you made the same kind of implications of let's say a guy saying I could go out and spend $150 on drinks and dinner a girl and she'll put out, it's easier just to pay someone for it - implies he's detached from any outcome besides ending up with his dick in a hole, that the woman is either an object for taking or prey to be caught for his own outcomes to be met. I find that disrespectful, I wouldn't want to end up with a guy like that or have any of my girlfriends get used by him. Sorry kind of going off topic, I think the whole should 'guys see swingles/swingers as being on the same field as a working girl' is clearly a thread within itself... I can't imagine too many women here feeling like they want to argue a man's right to see them as a 'free hooker' just because they paid an entry fee... I think I might weigh out of this conversation, it seems to be going around in circles (which is boring for me, you guys and anyone-else reading) and it's just a matter of time before someone's going to add some other insinuation to the list of greedy, smug, disrespectful to working girls...
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madotara69
10 years ago
No one thinks by using the term "whore" is taken as disrespectful to working girls, whore means a lot more than just that. Whore also means women perceived as sleeping with everyone and somewhat treated as sluts. So if single men are to be thinking of weighing up the cost of going to a swingers club over going to the local brothel, then IMO, those men are treating women as whores. We do however believe these types of clubs and parties filter out that kind of behaviour and cater for swinging couples who wish to avoid all that. If we decide to go to a swingers club it would be on a couples night, as that is the dynamics we would find more of an interest and if there were a few single men and women there it would not really phase us. If there was an open door to single men....not for us. Mado Tara xx
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Twisted_Mister
10 years ago
For single blokes in these circumstances. The same as what happened at school, in the military and in the wider workplace today - a small minority of dickheads ruins it for the rest of us. It's that simple. TM Bottom of the pile *hides* - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Most clubs have a couples orientation...the one in Sydney is called the Couple's Club....the lower price for single women is an incentive....perhaps because single women are sought after by many couples and because thery occupy lower paying jobs single women would be disinclined to go... The higher price for single men is a disincentive....not a guarantee of sex..visiting a sex worker is xQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting Luckdragon23:- "I can't even get an invite to private swinger's parties here because I'm a single woman (it's single males they need more of at events up here). And I have to say, after about a year and a half now, I'm getting a bit over the smug attitude of most couples in the swinging scene, so I'm just about ready to take that particular option out of my profile." The only logic in this passage was her acknowledgement that the parties in her area don't request single women..... The rest is an emotional pity party as paradise picked up on as did I. I'm sorry, if we disagree what substantiates logical rebuttal, but all I see is solicitation for sympathy. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Paradisepair' Throwing back to what Meeka was saying about single men, swingers parties and working girls - my reference to women as a commodity - is focused on women at swingers clubs, not working girls, I truly believe a single guy going to a club, shouldn't think paying the entry fee = getting laid, and that kind of comment from Festern's to me read as if it did, maybe I read too much into it... I agree that someone paying an entry fee should not assume that sex is a given. I don't know what Festern meant but I was just giving him the benefit of the doubt. I can understand why single males would be put out by it though, since they often have to pay $150 more than say a single female. But that's the way it is.
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RHP User
10 years ago
PS. Sorry, I just thought I would add that I wasn't suggesting that you didn't have respect for sex workers... just that you seemed to be implying that Festern did not. And I don't know, not sure you can assume that from the few sentences he wrote. But doesn't matter. I am allowed in and that is all I care about. Whoop whoop.
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rupamohan
10 years ago
I think if anybody is greedy it is the club owners...and why not they run a business not a charity..if patrons are couples..they have to look after their needs..if there is enough business from single girls..I am sure they will cater for this category. Some girls also organise their own gang bangs and few can come together and let club owners know they want men.. BTW if I was a single girl I am not sure...I will need to worry..lol
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RHP User
10 years ago
I see the forums haven't changed much..... Mrs TB_S - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would probably feel more comfortable with males from a couple at an event than horny and aggressive single men expecting me to put out.
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OPNmarriagecpl
10 years ago
By regular forumites!! You know who you are!! Seriously?? Cry me a river that your single and feel all hard done and we couples are smug and condescending (totally summarising and couldn't give two shits about rehashing the spur grapes) Blah blah blah!!! There was a question posted many months ago about why people no longer "weigh in" or frequent the forums anymore........ Bloody simple answer after reading both of your responses (rants would describe better) to people's comments in recent weeks. A word of advice, get off your high horse before you fall off. Soooo bored with this rot. I'm out! - Posted from rhpmobile
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OPNmarriagecpl
10 years ago
Sour grapes..... Excuse the typo. Sorry OP. I feel your topic has been hijacked and now gone a little left of centre. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
A would say a majority of men who go to swingers clubs or parties banning single men, with their wives find single men threatening due to their own insecurities. Sure, other husbands can have their wives, but will always go back to their own wives and have boundaries, single guys can do whoever they want and only have their own boundaries. I cannot tell you how many times ive had the female of a couple message me, we are chatting, general conversation, just being friendly and polite, then she will leave the chat open and suddenly theres a message saying "we dont like single guys! Piss off" and next minute - BLOCKED You can usually tell its not them, as the grammer and spelling often becomes degraded lol And making single women pay less or get In for free, of course! If they are charming attractive women inside and out, They dont have to go, they can get whatever they want outside of the club anyway for free, due to the amount of single guys getting around. To be honest, if they had to pay astronomical amounts to get in, they wouldn't go, because they dont have to, and these couples segregating the swinger community would have only each other. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
greedy co .. invite only. first in best undressed. sure single bis also. and yes with swingers tend to get same people who stick together. you throw the party start 4.4 n see how ya go - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Single guys eager to play outweighs single girls eager to play.... About 300 to 1 lol. Try putting up a "single guys wanted" and you will have six answers in 3.2 seconds..... Put up and single girls wanted.... You will get one response in 3.2 years. It's not greedy, it's just a simple case of supply and demand! Lol
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madotara69
10 years ago
After reading your profile, it's easy too see why you cannot tell us how many times mens wives have messaged you. It would have to be one of the most well constructed profiles for swinging couples, as it must make women so wet and dreamy. I mean, I am feeling totally insecure and just managing to control my emotions enough to hold some composure, to ask out of more so to bettering myself....is it your hot pics or the snazy self description that has the women of all these couples messaging you? Oh, agree that if the couples segregated them selves in the swinging scene, they would only have each other. Very deep thoughts there, I must say. Mado Mado Tara xx
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DTE_couple
10 years ago
Planning on Organising some Full open for all type swingers parties coming soon. Which will be catering For Single guys , Girls and Couples. Follow this topic
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RHP User
10 years ago
With your sarcastic response to someones opinion you have grouped yourself into the negative generalization. Why would you do that? My profile was once detailed and full of images. But I decided to ransack it once, when I became bored with this site. But now im back and just looking around. I hope your profile is helping you find ride on lawnmowers. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Curiousplay1980' By regular forumites!! You know who you are!! Seriously?? Cry me a river that your single and feel all hard done and we couples are smug and condescending (totally summarising and couldn't give two shits about rehashing the spur grapes) Blah blah blah!!! There was a question posted many months ago about why people no longer "weigh in" or frequent the forums anymore........ Bloody simple answer after reading both of your responses (rants would describe better) to people's comments in recent weeks. A word of advice, get off your high horse before you fall off. Soooo bored with this rot. I'm out! - Posted from rhpmobile Yeah, cant honestly say I have seen someone with quite such a condescending demeanour in any forum situation. After the last thing I read with this person having a go at some poor bloke who liked to go down on women till they cant stand it anymore, I thought the same thing, Im not participating in the forums anymore. It can be a Forum of one!
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RHP User
10 years ago
A little confused because of the NO SINGLE GUYS comment on your profile after stating your intention of organising something to the contrary.. Dont get me wrong, I think your intentions are great . Certainly got my curiosity going.. lol.. The plus was a interesting profile and great pics.. Cheers Jay
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RHP User
10 years ago
We have noticed you like to make light and joke a lot, but you also seem to enjoy tearing down single males. Why not just give an opinion on a subject without tearing others down just 'cause they dont hold your view? We think the op is right - couples tend to be greedy and feel superior to single males particularly, but we have also seen that couples feel the right to NOT have to compete with them by banning them from events. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
sounds like a fun party! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
CuriousPlay and ClassyWicked if you both don't want to participate in a forum where everyone is different and has a different opinion where the occasional spat happens just like real life. GOOD. Last thing we need is more childish reactions.
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OPNmarriagecpl
10 years ago
Much like the vast majority of your reactions Meeka...... Pull your head in love. It's actually people such as yourself that ruin the forums. "Childish Reactions"?? Pot .. Kettle me thinks but thanks for the bite.😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'classywicked' Quoting 'Curiousplay1980' By regular forumites!! You know who you are!! Seriously?? Cry me a river that your single and feel all hard done and we couples are smug and condescending (totally summarising and couldn't give two shits about rehashing the spur grapes) Blah blah blah!!! There was a question posted many months ago about why people no longer "weigh in" or frequent the forums anymore........ Bloody simple answer after reading both of your responses (rants would describe better) to people's comments in recent weeks. A word of advice, get off your high horse before you fall off. Soooo bored with this rot. I'm out! - Posted from rhpmobile Yeah, cant honestly say I have seen someone with quite such a condescending demeanour in any forum situation. After the last thing I read with this person having a go at some poor bloke who liked to go down on women till they cant stand it anymore, I thought the same thing, Im not participating in the forums anymore. It can be a Forum of one! It's getting worse and worse...I've copped it on here before, and took me months to start posting again because I feel my online profile was been unfairly tarnished by the 'Witches of Forumhall.' One young lass in particular who joined recently has been making it a daily mission to come in to these forums and pay-out on dudes....I just wonder what on earth is wrong with these people? Don't you have morals? empathy? weren't you raised to be 'nice' and treat people with respect? These people will never reply to the nicest messages or posts, saying they are 'Oh so busy', but then they find all the time in the world to write nasty shit? It's just awful on here, inside and outside the forums. And like these guys above, I also will not be returning when membership expires.
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madotara69
10 years ago
I have not grouped myself into the negative generalisation, I have grouped myself into your generalisation. Frankly, I am a little tired of reading these generalisations that are of a persuasive nature from single blokes puffing them selves up as something so special by negotiating the dynamics of couples. Majority of the men are threatened and insecure of single blokes in the swinging scene. What is that? What do guys like that think they have that husbands don't, a good body, a nice smile, you can fuck for hours, a personality that is so fantastic. Do they think they have something the wives have never experienced, are these single guys that great at fucking that most of the husbands swinging with their wives don't meet up too? I suppose that was a good question, glad you asked.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' Majority of the men are threatened and insecure of single blokes in the swinging scene. What is that? What do guys like that think they have that husbands don't, a good body, a nice smile, you can fuck for hours, a personality that is so fantastic. Do they think they have something the wives have never experienced, are these single guys that great at fucking that most of the husbands swinging with their wives don't meet up too? I suppose that was a good question, glad you asked. You said it right.You seem a little angry at single men?Single men are hot because they can :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' CuriousPlay and ClassyWicked if you both don't want to participate in a forum where everyone is different and has a different opinion where the occasional spat happens just like real life. GOOD. Last thing we need is more childish reactions. But I like it haha
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Forus1234
10 years ago
We would have no objection to select single guys being invited/vetted into most parties. Although Mrs Forus hasnt played with any single guys at parties, we play with couples, we have to say, the single guys, we have met & talked to at parties have been totally respectful gentlemen, we guess it depends on the parties people attend & the quality of people/singles attending. GREEDY couple.....yes we are, cause we like to meet single men/women privately for a whole night, frequent showering & safe sex is controlled & good friendship is formed!
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RHP User
10 years ago
That is all.... ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am ruining it all for you. Awwwww
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RHP User
10 years ago
Care for a little detente?:-) xQ
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OPNmarriagecpl
10 years ago
@Meeka...... Thanks for the laughs again but I am by no means any ones diddums. Looking forward to adding that word back into my repertoire though. Don't think it has had a run since high school. So, if anything, you have had a win there. We're still pretty chuffed that you realised it was you (amongst others) that we were shaking our heads at the initial post lol. If only you had that much significance to be able to ruin anything for us though...... Ciao Bella
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RHP User
10 years ago
Simple really?With all these great EVENTS organisations on here for SWINGERS!!!Far too many to mention.......Why not organise a SINGLE MALE / SINGLE FEMALE Bash, one night only!!! that if done correctly with the right guest lists etc could possible be the BIGGEST EVENT of the year!!!!! Imagine how many hook ups and marriages that could come of it then these poor SINGLE GUYS and GIRLS that feel left out of ut will end up SWINGING as a NEW couple anyway LOL!!
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madotara69
10 years ago
We are making a pear crumble, I did the pears and Tara is doing the crumble.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Curiousplay1980' Much like the vast majority of your reactions Meeka...... Pull your head in love. It's actually people such as yourself that ruin the forums. "Childish Reactions"?? Pot .. Kettle me thinks but thanks for the bite.😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile LOL.... thats a tad hypocritical Meeka. Sadly, Id pretty well put you in the same boat as the other one. Righteous and opinionated and unnecessarily belittling to others that have, or offer a thought different to yours. I have to agree with Curiousplay that it is indeed a select few that ruin the forums on here. They are meant to be fun and a place to discuss, share opinions and sometimes debate. I have learnt alot about how others think and interact on here, and enjoy reading the candid, funny and sometimes deeply shared opinions on here. Debate is great, and Im all for it, but not when people such as yourself attack others because they PERSONALLY might say they like or dont like something. Get a life. Childish.....pfft!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' We are making a pear crumble, I did the pears and Tara is doing the crumble. Ill take some Detente as a main thanks (if there is any left as plenty is needed) thanks Qefenta and also some pear crumble sounds great ! (but can I politely ask if you can do apple next time ?) Madotara, you guys are the bomb. Keep the comedy relief coming and yummy desserts!
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Swingingnudist
10 years ago
DTE couple-count us in for your party, loved the last party we attended at your place. We run parties and always have single guys attending, we have found that all the guys who have attended very well mannered and behaved themselves. The ladies that attend like the attention of extra guys and thats not in a gang bang way either. I love to have a chat and one thing I do notice in quite a number of the conversations is that the male half of a couple who don't want single guys attending mentions that he doesn't want to see single guys screwing his partner. Then when I chat to the female half I get a "i don't mind single guys but we have agreed couples only" and an offshoot of that is that a lot of the females also say that they are not that interested in bi play but do it to please the partner. Yes there is a need for different style parties but I feel the negativity surrounding single males is way over the top and yes in my opinion is male partner driven is most cases (now watch all the posts start piling up against me :) ) As for Madotara69 your post do seem very critical of the single males out there, not hard to tell which of the couple is writing the posts. Fin and Kally
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RHP User
10 years ago
You're ok hehe
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RHP User
10 years ago
The deeper the insecurity...... If I call bullshit or I call raise an observation about someone/something I don't expect them to take it on board.... It's my opinion/view etc. Much like meekas is.... However..... Only those that are too invested emotionally into discussion groups such as this will take things personally..... That to me ruins it more than meeka the tyrant comments..... :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
10 years ago
If I got angry, then would have left these forums a couple of years ago plus I/we hold high regard for most of the single men that participate in these forums. I have as well mentioned a billion times, if not more that we are very much in love, so often Tara and our best interests I take to heart. Dunno, maybe I should start posting in a warm pastel colour or something that seems rather soothing in nature.
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OPNmarriagecpl
10 years ago
@Madotara69..... Keep the light hearted cheekiness coming please. Have always enjoyed reading your posts on the forums. And I'm with Tigeroo..... Apple next time would go a treat😋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Plain
10 years ago
In the mid eighties commercial swinger clubs started having day time meets and there were some private house parties around Sydney Metro area and single men were invited, yes you had to pay, the vibe did vary and the ratio was on average 2 to 1, and everyone had a great time, now a lot of wives attended some with hubbys blessing most times not, a few times I volunteered to drive ladies back home or around the corner from the kids school and for them to continue the rest of the day, but I digress. What has changed and everyone has mentioned bits and pieces of how society has changed and unfortunately single males behaviour has deteriorated in their treatment of the fairer sex, some cultures have imported this attitude in where they assume all ladies are fair game at these venues.One of the last times I attended one of these clubs there were some single younger guys treating all females with disdain, now one of the married ladies took a fancy to one of these guys and ended up in the same room as myself and this guy treated her like dirt and tried to force himself upon her without consent, now I leave it to your imagination as to what he wanted her to do, but the lady had never experienced it. That was enough for me, stopped what I was doing and picked the guy up and threw him out of the club, before he realised that he had committed a mortal sin. I also think that most single guys think what they see on internet porn sites is what will happen at a swingers club and walk in thinking they have the rights to relive a porn film.My Observations sorry about the saga but its the only way I can relate the difference, manners politeness seem to have been dismissed for instant pleasure and there in lies a conundrum. Yes I would like to attend a venue but totally understand the reluctance to invite single guys, sorry about that ladies.
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Seachange
10 years ago
I am saddened by the turn of events as I have been reading the thread (sorry not all of it) and would be saddened if some of the forumites decide to leave the forum due to some disagreement. I like the fact that even if the discussion gets volatile, some people put their views forward regardless of consequences. I appreciate that and although I do not agree with all the views, I am open to discussion and understanding differing opinions. I hope you guys, Classywicked and the rest, do not leave the forum as your input is important and give this forum some diversity. Else, there is no point to have a forum of a few. Take some time off, cool down but Please stay....
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RHP User
10 years ago
Im not angry, never am such. Just speaking my mind. Its been a while coming, as I think it has for a few others in the Forums. Peace love and happiness!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'classywicked' Im not angry, never am such. Just speaking my mind. Its been a while coming, as I think it has for a few others in the Forums. Peace love and happiness!!
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OPNmarriagecpl
10 years ago
Classywicked....... Well said and we feel the same👍👍 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
all trying to be right :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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threesixty
10 years ago
You are correct that the male species are discriminated against in regard that couples and single females are kosher at events. But in saying so, it would turn out to be a Post Office.... Full of male!!!! If enough support is generated and members are willing to put in sometime and effort, I believe an event that caters for the male species as well as couples & single females could be arranged. Keep in mind that the Meet & Greet on Saturday 26th has overwhelming male interest.... So it can be a doubled edged sword...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'classywicked' Quoting 'Curiousplay1980' Much like the vast majority of your reactions Meeka...... Pull your head in love. It's actually people such as yourself that ruin the forums. "Childish Reactions"?? Pot .. Kettle me thinks but thanks for the bite.😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile LOL.... thats a tad hypocritical Meeka. Sadly, Id pretty well put you in the same boat as the other one. Righteous and opinionated and unnecessarily belittling to others that have, or offer a thought different to yours. I have to agree with Curiousplay that it is indeed a select few that ruin the forums on here. They are meant to be fun and a place to discuss, share opinions and sometimes debate. I have learnt alot about how others think and interact on here, and enjoy reading the candid, funny and sometimes deeply shared opinions on here. Debate is great, and Im all for it, but not when people such as yourself attack others because they PERSONALLY might say they like or dont like something. Get a life. Childish.....pfft! OMG... I just read your personally email to me WickedClassy telling me you hoped you hadn't caused me any offence and how you love my comments on the forum.... and then I just read the above? What the? Hahahaha. Are you two serious? That is very strange behaviour I have to say. But it did make me laugh. But just because I am a mean bitch, that nice reply I sent back to you just now. Discount it.. cause I take it back. ner ner ner ne ner ner.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Tigeroo' You're ok hehe Thanks Mr Spunky. You are okay too.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Awww I though people were calling me tyrant when I read your comment. Sounds pretty cool to me. I got ganged up on this forum a few years a go too, although back then they told me I thought I was Queen of the Forum but I definitely like tyrant better. And to the curiouscouple I don't care what you think diddums (That is good word) I will express myself and say what I like. Why shouldn't I?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Unlike a lot of people on here, I enjoy a good debate and a bit of a fight. In fact I love the big fights... and when we used to have really crazy people on here. It's what makes the forum interesting for me. Otherwise it's all nicely nicely everyone tip toeing around each other which is less interesting. You know what that just isn't the way I role. And yep, that absolutely annoys some people. I can totally understand that, and look I am sorry about it but I just don't care if I bug people or not. I don't care if you don't like me. I don't deliberately troll around I am expressing myself and expressing my opinion the way that I know how. Just like everyone else on here. So Curiouspair, you are not very nice for saying otherwise. ner ner ne ner ner! Love this childish gig diddums. It's fun!
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ruby_blossum
10 years ago
Aahhhh yes Meeka, the glory days of the forums, back in the day before all the Womens Weekly crew came on board.Now everything has to be so Politically Correct. Obviously, some folk here have not seen how you bring a wayward single male back into line. lol I think there is always room for extra, well behaved, single guys.
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RHP User
10 years ago
All I heard was WHACK WHACK!!! See?? I remember ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Where have they gone Ruby? Where is Chucky? He was always good for a gasp ... errr laugh.
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OPNmarriagecpl
10 years ago
Meeka; you are quite a conundrum of a person and I can appreciate that. Life would be quite dull without people such as yourself. Unfortunately, in my profession, I'm surrounded by them. I fight all day and every day for people and causes and beliefs much more significant (in the global sense) than these forums. Hence, why I shake my head at those that take it soooooo seriously. It's meant to be light hearted discussion, debate, advice and understanding ..... Or so I thought. I have only been on the site for about 6 months and have been privy and subjected to a few of your tirades. All for a difference of opinion. You have come across very bitter and twisted on anyone that doesn't seem to take the same stances as you AND as vehemently as you. I thought all this frackar was over and done with. I said my piece, you said yours...... Done! Happy to walk away with the title of "not being nice for saying so". ... Saying what?? That your an absolute bully, that you're a condescending and pious woman who does appear to "troll" looking for opinions to shit on. Once again; hypocrisy has taken over your game because you said I "was not nice" for saying I don't like the way you communicate to others (not all) on the forums. Your a clever girl, I surely don't have to spell that one out for you? Going forward, I will take my leave from here because I just don't have the grey matter left at the end of the day for the nonsense. I'll save my energy for more meaningful battles. And childish games are always fun... My god yes on that we agree. But only when they are played with my beautiful children.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
As a Newbie to the scene I get a little nervous reading this forumAs a single in a rural area I don't have trouble finding men to play with as I am prepared to travel to have fun. It worries me that their appears to be so much tension under the surface of these gatherings that I am feeling put off by attending. I have recently had a few invites to private parties and have been considering trying them as a new experience but after reading what you all have to say ... well Im not so sure now.I do like the suggestions of hosting private parties and even single minglesMaybe its just everyone's preconceived notions at play or maybe people have had negative experiences... Id love to hear some really positive stories/ experiences
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ruby_blossum
10 years ago
Maybe the NO Single males have driven them all away.
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