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Guys, how do you know she is into you?
December 13 2013
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
(Makes himself comfortable.....) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
HAHA LOVE IT MEEKA FOXY
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Mr_MrsAraps
11 years ago
What, no opinion and fence siting on the couch .... I'm shocked ! :-P - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' (Makes himself comfortable.....) - Posted from rhpmobile Come on pussy whisperer, how do you know if a woman is into you? Well apart from deep throating your chuppa chup.
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wingman2014
11 years ago
Dont try the Blake Ferguson (Canberra Raider) approach. That is reach up and grab her on the twat and wait for a reaction. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am very straight forward...yet still sadly some guys just don't click to it! Maybe they are in shock and not really picking up that I have just offered my body!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
For the first 37 years of my life I spent most of my time being rejected (read nearly all).... add to that being warned/told about the dangers of sexual harassment in all those work enforced courses.This kills confidence and makes one very very shy. This year, for the first time in my life I have been complemented and approached by women... damn sexy women.... women who probably wouldn't have given me the time of day 12 months ago!This along with losing over 40Kg has done wonders for my self esteem. Am still very shy when approaching a woman because I don't want to be disrespectful but am getting there. I think the lack of self esteem breads a level of emotional immaturity which forms a vicious circle which is very hard for most guys to break... we aren't always as emotionally strong as we would like to think we are. If a guy is too shy then the only sure fire way is to jump on him and say "take me now or lose me forever".It has been said before, we men are simple creatures and subtlety doesn't often work on us. SG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'wingman2013' Dont try the Blake Ferguson (Canberra Raider) approach. That is reach up and grab her on the twat and wait for a reaction. - Posted from rhpmobile Funny how this works fine in the reverse.... if a woman walks up and grabs a guy on the wang he'll be more than happy SG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'JayJay_66' I am very straight forward...yet still sadly some guys just don't click to it! Maybe they are in shock and not really picking up that I have just offered my body!! Yes JJ... most definitely shock... and awe. SG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Plenty of us have been bitten by the "oh no, I was just being friendly bug" so I think that plays a huge part. Personally, I have had 3 women in the last 3 months who I know extremely well in real life blatantly telling me that they want this or that from me, then I've said ok let's do xyz, then they back out at the last minute. (no, there were no freaky naked surprises hahaha) Now if someone can be so full on then bail without me picking that to be the case, I've got no chance with subtle hints.
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RHP User
11 years ago
There has been 1 person in the last few years that I picked up on her intentions instantly. There was an instant "something" and it was subtle yet there was no doubt whatsoever.
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RHP User
11 years ago
How does a guy really knows a woman is interested ??? The eyes and the body language , it's just one of them things that happens.. Lady's , you may well give off all the right signals ' but if he's not into you , he will pretend he doesn't really notice which can be mistaken as not very observive or thick... No different to the way females react really... If her vibes are good and she maintains eye contact, that's a dead giveaway.
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RHP User
11 years ago
What chick wouldn't want to hit that?
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RHP User
11 years ago
If the guy can't pick up what I'm putting down, he doesn't get it. It being me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's in the eyes and the body language. What is actually spoken will rarely tell you what she is thinking. When a lady looks at you and she is keen, you can tell it from her eyes. Some women are more forward than others, some are very subtle. Some give strong body language, some might just lean a little in your direction or pay a little more attention to you. I'm not professing to be an expert or a Don Juan, but I can usually pick out girls who like me vs girls who are indifferent/don't like me.
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
I'm a bit like you jayjay, if I like you I'm going to tell. Not that this approach is working for me lol.
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lovman8
11 years ago
I find my self sexually attracted to the vast majority of women I find it difficult to believe the reverse applies. I probably have a lack of self esteem and could also do with a small dose of arrogance.So ,being a very simple and emotionless man ( as many of my vintage are ) I often don't realise a woman is into me sexually even after we have fucked.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I will try and answer your question as best I can, but excuse me as I am not so eloquent as some on here... I don't see a need for you to be "flopping our norkes out and twisting our nipples"....but I wouldn't say no if you did, lol... Body language is a big key when you meet...does she move her leg away when you let it lean slightly against her...? Is her body turned towards you or away from you...? Are her arms folded or her legs crossed..? Does she partake in the conversation or does she just answer questions...? Does she look you in the eye..? or appraise you as you talk... And then there's the emails and the texting...if she is interested in you, she will (IMHO) will send you more detailed texts and emails rather than short and abrupt ones... For example...ME: so watcha wearing today...SHE not interested: Clothes...SHE interested: a black lacy cardigan, etc... So I believe that I can tell within the first minute or two whether she is really interested in me... S'nP
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madotara69
11 years ago
Your nipples nearly punch a hole through your shirt, your lips start to swell as your nostrils flare. And when you put your ankles up around your neck, you get this inviting sort of look in the eyes and at that piont we notice that you have a confidant and healthy looking posture. No need for fancy moves we can just fall into you and hardly miss the whole general point in off, and feel that It would be OK without needing to ask. Sometimes it is just polite to not rush and charming like, support the ladies to comfort, while there is nothing of time if we can get a good look at your tit's in the meantime. Nothing to do with body language, there is no way we would risk stumbling and scuffing those stilettos, thay are what they are. And that's why you put them up out of the way too. And we all know they are the whole reason we get ourselves into those ridiculous and uncomfortable positions. Puts the Glamm into a Hollywood sort of energy to feel like superstars for three minutes, then get back to things. Mado, Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Between talking with interest and talking without. I enjoy conversation with anyone on a broad range of topics, from aircraft to trucks to science to movies, music and it goes on and on. However..... These topics don't generate the sexual interest a woman - or a male for that matter - in that person. In my personal experience, I've had a woman who I was madly attracted to, touch me for no reason, play with her hair etc only to have her roll her eyes when that interest was verbalised. That's not entirely a sign of reciprocation. Since then I've always just ignored such signs as they're just being friendly. So...... My question is....how then do you actually know when a woman has that sexual interest?? If not a sexual interest any interest in more than just playful fun times, as I'm even at a complete loss. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Some gents can, some gents can't. Is it an esteem thing? I'd enjoyed an amazing weekend with a lovely RHP gent. We were out having Sunday lunch and he commented "I'm glad this isn't our first date, your current body language says I'd get nowhere with you". I was shocked by his comment but he was right, I had my legs crossed facing away from him and was sitting leaning back away from him. I was giving all the 'don't touch me' vibes out. But I had my reasons
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hmmm. I am terrible at picking up if a girl likes me. The last girl I dated which was a few months ago, acted very into me. I thought so, my friends thought so, even her friends thought so! It never got serious as I made it clear I couldn't do "serious" - nor was I emotionally invested, but she ended up stopping the "relationship" due to "not feeling it". Took me and a lot of people by surprise, as I had never had to deal with so much pda with someone who "wasn't feeling it". And to be honest - I started liking the girl! It's experiences like this which make me take three steps back and never really trust what appears on the surface.
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adam_knows
11 years ago
Im hopeless in picking up the signs .. when i was a younger lad in outback nsw 200km past bourke , i was working at the pub , one friday night after a great night , we closed the pub and went to have a drink with the road crew that was camped close by.On returning to the pub the female manager who was around the age of 40 asked me to come to her room to have a coffee or 2.I tell her I dont like coffee so iwent to my own room .it took me weeks to see my mistake .
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
That's the subtle paradox of communication. Looking at, and outwardly professing interest verbally..... is too much. Her subconscious becomes overloaded. Some of one, none of the other. It's a subtle incongruity that ignites her senses. Don't make the mistake of being asexual when talking to women, but don't be a let charity's wanker with it either. :-) More to follow. Maybe
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RHP User
11 years ago
she will leave little puddles everywhere she sits.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Think I'll pass.... I'm not into baking up some chemical recipe... I just want to be me....to be accepted for my warts...to be laughed at as much as with... But accepted unconditionally....without the pressure of "am I doing this right?" Or "have I included enough of xyz" If that means hookers for me for the rest of my life....then so be it. If that means I have only my hands that find me attractive....then so be it. I'm done tryin....I'm done worrying about it... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I will touch them. If we're standing it may be an arm, sitting down my knee or hand will likely be against his or her leg..Actually, no touching is a clear sign I'm not sexually attracted to someone.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mesmerised' I will touch them. If we're standing it may be an arm, sitting down my knee or hand will likely be against his or her leg..Actually, no touching is a clear sign I'm not sexually attracted to someone. I agree entirely, more often thaan not there is physical contact....this is a very good sign. Luv your Christmas lights btw
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Stir_it_alot' Think I'll pass.... I'm not into baking up some chemical recipe... I just want to be me....to be accepted for my warts...to be laughed at as much as with... But accepted unconditionally....without the pressure of "am I doing this right?" Or "have I included enough of xyz" If that means hookers for me for the rest of my life....then so be it. If that means I have only my hands that find me attractive....then so be it. I'm done tryin....I'm done worrying about it... - Posted from rhpmobile Bwahaha. You know what Stir, sometimes when I am at a nightclub or something and a young guy approaches me and makes a blatant play but in an over the top funny way...... it usually makes me laugh. And when they say it was worth a try or something like that. I actually like that. Yeah it can come across as goofy but its light hearted fun. It's when someone is trying too hard or comes across as a little desperate which is really off putting. But then again I don't like to take it all too seriously, but that is my personal style.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' That's the subtle paradox of communication. Looking at, and outwardly professing interest verbally..... is too much. Her subconscious becomes overloaded. Some of one, none of the other. It's a subtle incongruity that ignites her senses. Don't make the mistake of being asexual when talking to women, but don't be a let charity's wanker with it either. :-) More to follow. Maybe Just a few points: 1. Speak a the English! 2. I will give your arse a sensory overload. Why do you always make women sound like we are simpletons. LOL!! 3. You sound like a SMOOTH OPERATOR..... I don't think that sort of thing would work on me. If it looks too practised it comes across as insincere I reckon. I think if you have the knack of speaking to women that's great but if you don't I don't think you should be going for the smooth operator persona myself.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Adam_Knows oh dear!! You missed out on a good thing there it seems.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Her subconscious becomes overloaded. Some of one, none of the other. ...don't be a let charity's wanker with it either. :-) That's rather offensive. And patronising. .And you seriously need to start proofreading and stop blaming your IPhone.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Definitely not the same is you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I guess the trick is to not go for the verbal 'come back to my room' too soon. Maybe that is why the lady rolled her eyes Stir. We like to play a little hard to get you know and enjoy the flirtation for what it is, and if you peak to soon so to speak, it disrupts the whole dance. So it isn't sensory overload, its just too much too soon. It might be easier if you could dip a oil stick in the twat to see how warm she is getting. I know maybe you should be your dates a mood ring. Bwhahaha.
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RHP User
11 years ago
If you spend so much time on analysing what you're doing and how you're doing it, you end up leaving the most important part out.....THE YOU. It's supposed to be fun right?? Not a science experiment in a test tube surely. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Women are not machines. Perhaps your ideas may have been popular during the enlightenment amongst the scotch drinking aristocracy ... but not so much since the 70's.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Oh,,,, you girls are making me feel bad for DG. Don't do that!!!!!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Funlover71' What chick wouldn't want to hit that? Absolutely!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Stir_it_alot' My question is....how then do you actually know when a woman has that sexual interest?? If not a sexual interest any interest in more than just playful fun times, as I'm even at a complete loss. - Posted from rhpmobile I thought we flicked our hair and looked at you positively. apparently not. Apoigies for the sisters that give mixed messages.
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RHP User
11 years ago
That it doesn't work.... I'm saying I don't understand it. Then when it comes to meeting someone, I start thinking "now what did he say I had to do??" "Is she displaying abc reaction? If yes, then I am able to complete xyz" Before I know it I've got a migraine, a headfuck and the woman I've just met shows me her arse as she walks anyway....fuck I can do that on my own lol I also think it doesn't read well, and DG has said that before and I agree. It's probably simpler than a process. But I think it's a process you can't just teach. I think you've either got it or you don't. Or..... I'm just stupid....meh either/or... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
suffering from Hysteria...
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RHP User
11 years ago
It might be easy for a guy to beleive a woman is into him, but its not easy to act upon.In most government jobs, especially Police, Navy and Army etc, if a woman touches a man its ok but hif he touches her, its sexual assault. If a woman makes a nice comment about a man, its a compliment but if a man says it about a woman, its sexual harassment.People in the private sector might find this hard to beleive, but those of you who work for the government know how true it isIts no wonder why men are considered shy these days, when they are actually protecting themselves from litigation.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Flicking hair just simply means that your hair needs changing so it's not in your face. "Looking at me positively" erm....could you please explain what that looks like?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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chevtrek
11 years ago
Its in her smile /eyes and if you are close itsin her voice and words.On rare occasions if she is shy she will fail to makethat eye contact.
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RHP User
11 years ago
i go out, i see people, hang out, chat, do whatever, etc i dont go looking for hints if someones really that into you that they want something more, theyll make an effort i stopped subscribing to the whole cryptic signals thing long ago especially when people say "oh shes into you" "shes looking at you" blah blah like oh, thats nice, so should i go over there & whisk her away then on the off chance shes actually thinking that? bugger it, if you want someone/something, make it known dont have a whinge when you dont get what you want if youre waiting for it to come
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Aimtoplease83
11 years ago
Honourable mention! A reply will usually suffice. Otherwise, after a drink and some witty banter= seal the deal! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Oh,,,, you girls are making me feel bad for DG. Don't do that!!!!!! You can do it because you put a "LOL" in there, but the rest of us can't?.DG, as long as you keep making those kind of all-knowing pussy whisperer comments, you will get the same responses from me. Come to think of it, that makes us both rather predictable, dang....No personal dislike there, my responses are purely post related. You know that I don't always disagree and sometimes agree with you. And in person I like you..But really, how many times have you blamed your IPhone, hmmm? .
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Stir_it_alot' I enjoy conversation with anyone on a broad range of topics, from aircraft to trucks to science to movies, music and it goes on and on. However..... These topics don't generate the sexual interest a woman Personally I can find talking about music or movies very sexy. And there is a certain Hanna here that really gets off on planes. Just sayin'. .It's all about the how, not the what. If a man has the same taste as me or shares the same views, he certainly has my interest.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Of you lady's flopping your norkes out and twisting your nipples right in front of me, but, that doesn't mean I'm into you!... I only respond to those signs that give a clear indication that my willingness is reciprocated in equal weight. On another note....In fact bring back those notes you girls use to write to us boys and have a friend give too us in the playground at school...at least then I knew and was (in secret) tickled pink and soooo into you too....xknots
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have to say, that to me, it is not about one's "moves", but more about the feeling. I think sex is natural, fun, easy, relaxed. It is desirable and irresistible - if you feel you want to do it - you do it. It is a feeling very powerful and it overcomes any action before it. To concentrate less about the situation or actions leading up to the event, and more about the feeling of sex, then the possibilities are endless.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting '181browny' if a woman touches a man its ok but hif he touches her, its sexual assault. If a woman makes a nice comment about a man, its a compliment but if a man says it about a woman, its sexual harassment. That sounds like you've been on the wrong end of a complaint. There's a big difference between touching and "touching" and compliments and "compliments".Unfortunately there are many people out there that can't distinguish between being genuinely pleasant and crossing the line. I work in the public sector too and think your comment may say more about you than where you work.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'paint_me' she will leave little puddles everywhere she sits. A gentleman will always help a lady around a puddle. SG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting '1829perth' if he/she wants you, they shouldnt be so cryptic I've heard many women say "I gave him all the signs I was into him. I laughed at his jokes, flicked my hair, looked deeply into his eyes, played with my glass, touched my neck, etc".Meanwhile the guys say : She was lovely, but I think she was just being nice. And boy, did she fidget a lot! I must have made her nervous or something".
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Stir_it_alot' when it comes to meeting someone, I start thinking "now what did he say I had to do??" "Is she displaying abc reaction? If yes, then I am able to complete xyz" Ask DG to make you a flowchart.
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madferrret
11 years ago
In Europe we look for the subtitle changes in stance, mood ,and look. You may find that your not even in the market for women but...... If she's decided your it the firstly she will tell her friends in the toilet . That way there's no competitors. She will position herself opposite you in a crowd so she can have your attention . When your engaged in conversation she may excuse herself . If she comes back with fresh lipstick ., slightly deeper cleavage and hair popped then maybe just maybe ..... It's for you. As you talk she may turn her head as she adjusts her eyes to you( coy maybe) a blush or a smile at something amusing you've said..... ....after taking a sip of wine licks her lips and smiles....flicks her hair.........you girls are amazing creatures, I just can't get enough. Pikey - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
*adapts sexy husky phone sex voice* So....between the Lockheed SR-71 black bird and the stealth bomber which is your preference?? That would sound better than.... *Normal voice* So....between the Lockheed SR-71 blackbird and the stealth bomber which is your preference?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
11 years ago
Your not stupid, and you have got it in you. This has been me. So you to this, is and was really me I think your more worried about how and what to look for, already convinced that you won't be sure enough to see something unless like a bright green light. Feeling like a dope if you move towards a lady and the awkward moment if she knocks you back. Then carrying that with you, to do some head miles over. Especially if you really like her. So liking her is good enough for you, and giving time to that probably glad to be near her with some chit chat, some flowers, food, a ride in the merry go round, if lucky to find one. That could work for or against as If the time together, does not show any signs for coming closer to each other, just one, only starting to move away. It is most likely you both will. What it is and keeping it simple, is the easiest thing, instead you have all but complicated and more so missed, because you sabotaged it, to worry for a whole bunch of guesswork not showing any favours. Awkward and uncomfortable, nervous to little time left for the way it was going to be a no go. Knew it before it began, why even bother. Same shit different day. 1# and 2# Make it simple and keep it simple. 1# You both, know it is a date. (Friendliest place, with something, you can do like friends) 2# (There is no 3# to be worrying for,) Spend all that time, getting to know each other as friends do. Talk open and honest about what ever you find yourselves doing together and when you share smiling eyes, that is the time to show your smile, which is happy, to her smile also happy and ask with some nous to the tone, for making a good time of things together having fun, ask for a kiss to see how it feels when your happy. That's about it. 3# is going to happen. Then you put some thought to it, her. Mado
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RHP User
11 years ago
Girls, my experience has been that guys need a 4 x 2 between the eyes. Failing that, a note pad with clear instructions . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
We need more flowcharts.
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inspirit
11 years ago
when she gives awesome head and wants too.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Stir_it_alot' Flicking hair just simply means that your hair needs changing so it's not in your face. "Looking at me positively" erm....could you please explain what that looks like?? - Posted from rhpmobile Body language isn't subtle at all, especially considering most of us are not self aware of our actions at the time. The hair flick, the licking of lips, stroking the stem of your wine glass suggestively, legs crossed towards instead of away, leaning in not leaning back, maintaining eye contact. The conversation flows freely, no awkward silences. I dunno, I'm surprised how many gents here don't see and/or feel these not so subtle nuances. I don't 'mean' to do all of those things if I'm into you, I just do. None of it's intentional. I just get a feel for a person and know if we click or not. It's either full of warmth and promise or you can't wait to finish your drink and get the hell out of there. Sure I've had dates where I've had a great night in good company but I wouldn't want it to go to the next level. Is this the confusing bit? It's been fun, just not awesome.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well Stir, you could always show them a preview of the goods. I was having a lovely drink at the Opera Bar earlier this year with friends when these two young guys approached us. And yes one of them was very smooth in a goofy kind of way. I was being very standoffish as it takes me awhile to warm up to people some times. Anyway, he ended up showing me a picture of his dick, all hard laying there on his 6 pack which he had on his iPhone... Bwahaha. Not sure if he was trying to shock me? But it almost worked.... Damn his 23 year old come fuck me eyes. :p
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am sure his trust fund was bigger though.... Hmm maybe a missed opportunity? 😆
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Thanks for all of your consideration...... Im ok.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've been reading this topic with great interest, I wanted to ask though.. how do women know if the guy is actually interested or just looking for a hook up? What are the signs?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sorry to disappoint you Mes, but No, i have never been on the wrong end of a complaint.I do however, happen to be involved with our union and have had to represent members at interviews regarding this exact thing. Yes i will admit some of the guys went overboard, but there were many many more that were cleared of any wrong doing, but still had to face the trauma involved with such a claim. Men (including one i worked with) have taken their lives when an allegation of this nature has been made about them, only to find during investigations, that it was made out of maliceQuoting 'Mesmerised' Quoting '181browny' if a woman touches a man its ok but hif he touches her, its sexual assault. If a woman makes a nice comment about a man, its a compliment but if a man says it about a woman, its sexual harassment. That sounds like you've been on the wrong end of a complaint. There's a big difference between touching and "touching" and compliments and "compliments".Unfortunately there are many people out there that can't distinguish between being genuinely pleasant and crossing the line. I work in the public sector too and think your comment may say more about you than where you work.
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RHP User
11 years ago
You should do a forum asking that exact question!
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
Yes was thinking the exact same thing, because I've been a little confused as well....see I'm one to come out and just say it, but then you have some that say one thing and do the complete opposite....fucked if I know...
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RHP User
11 years ago
but poorly....
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RHP User
11 years ago
I forgot to ask DG for flow charts!!! Note for an addendum.
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RHP User
11 years ago
You don't need a desperate thread.... If they're interested, they just turn up :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
And it were empty....I'd say that's more of a suggestion to fill the bastard up. If her legs are crossed toward me, what exactly is she saying other than it's closed?? Why else would she be trying to cover it?? Eye contact.....well some people don't talk to tits....just sayin. Licking of the lips??? Lmfao give her a Chapstick or a glass of water. The hair flick is suggestive of sexual interest??? Hmmm a lady with short hair would look like she had a neurological condition... What's next?? Oh the leaning in....I lean in as I'm interested in the conversation....how does that exactly denote to interest in anything but the conversation?? For all I know she might be avid Thomas the tank engine fan... Free flowing conversation lol once again just because you're enjoying the conversation, doesn't mean you're aching to get to my loins... Ok.... Now have you got some real signs?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Spiceyanpassion, you hit the nail on the head. You certainly know women
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm little slow on the uptake there so I guess she would have to grab my arse or even cock maybe simply whisper into my ear lets go warning ;),, Any takers lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
In my humble opinion I think women can be overly subtle a lot of the time, however some are easer to read then others. Im not entirely sure why this is and perhaps they don't understand it themselves. All I know is that I usually lose interest if they are hard to read, looking for male attention, playing "hard to get" or just very bad at flirting. I'm also under the impression a fair amount of the guys on here don't spend much time picking girls up in the real world. Not to stroke my ego but a few years ago I would pick up women obsessively anywhere anytime and it became a game I enjoyed and was very good at. tip number 1, women enjoy the courtship, the chase, mind games, banter, almost more then sex in many cases. much love,
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Stir_it_alot' And it were empty....I'd say that's more of a suggestion to fill the bastard up. If her legs are crossed toward me, what exactly is she saying other than it's closed?? Why else would she be trying to cover it?? Eye contact.....well some people don't talk to tits....just sayin. Licking of the lips??? Lmfao give her a Chapstick or a glass of water. The hair flick is suggestive of sexual interest??? Hmmm a lady with short hair would look like she had a neurological condition... What's next?? Oh the leaning in....I lean in as I'm interested in the conversation....how does that exactly denote to interest in anything but the conversation?? For all I know she might be avid Thomas the tank engine fan... Free flowing conversation lol once again just because you're enjoying the conversation, doesn't mean you're aching to get to my loins... Ok.... Now have you got some real signs?? - Posted from rhpmobile 1. Lingering physical contact. Leaning my leg or arm on you, even with the slightest of pressure. Test this by shifting so you touch me slightly and see my reaction, if I move away quickly, it's not on. If I linger and let it sit there for a while, DING DING. 2. Blushing, smiling and unable to hold eye contact (have to be these three together otherwise the lack of eye contact may mean I'm really NOT into you). Test this by leaning over to me while we're on a date in a public place and whisper something suggestive or flattering in my ear, you can test the touch at the same time with a hand on my back. Something like "Your lips are delicious, I can't stop thinking about kissing them" . If I'm into you that would have me nervous and exhilarated and I'll blush, smile like I have a big naughty secret (which is that I REALLY want you to do it), and suddenly find eye contact excruciating. Stir you're right that the signs are plentiful and they can all be interpreted and delivered differently depending on the individuals. That's why they are just "signs", use them as a guide but they aren't IT. You have a be brave enough to run a few tests if you REALLY want to know before you make a move. x CT
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RHP User
11 years ago
... Beatifully worded advice... I hope that you are taking notes lurk, I'll be asking questions next time we meet... 😄 Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'CravingTouch' Test this by leaning over to me while we're on a date in a public place and whisper something suggestive or flattering in my ear, you can test the touch at the same time with a hand on my back. Something like "Your lips are delicious, I can't stop thinking about kissing them" . If I'm into you that would have me nervous and exhilarated and I'll blush, smile like I have a big naughty secret (which is that I REALLY want you to do it), and suddenly find eye contact excruciating. Agree this would be true for a lot of women. Though if you whispered to me you couldn't stop thinking about kissing my lips (and I was into you), I'd lean forward, raise an eyebrow and whisper back "Then why don't you?".But I agree Lurk, raising an eyebrow might be too subtle. Maybe I should be a bit more direct?
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RHP User
11 years ago
And the offering of these such subtle "signs" are too ambiguous and are open to way too much interpretation. No offence..... But I ain't a mind reader. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Languid
11 years ago
well being a how can I put it a more mature guy maybe the signs change over the years. Recently I have noticed attractive younger (ok ok for me thats under 50) women smiling at me in the street. And I would think to myself wow you sly ole devil. I really must be the hoochie coochie man. And then I read in the Mens Health Section of the Australian Financial Review that its because they don't think you are dangerous any more. Ah well. And whooooooosh. This is the sound of an ego deflating.
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RHP User
11 years ago
If you're waiting for a woman to club you over the head and drag you back to her cave by your hair, it aint gunna happen. Your hair is too short anyway.
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RHP User
11 years ago
But the idealogical notion that by flicking ones hair, leaning in whilst in conversation, battering the eyelids will tell every man that you're interested is just a little.....well....fairytale like don't you think?? I just think, that if I can't expect a woman to be a mind reader, then why should a woman expect me to be?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Or there are a lot of men that fail the man test..... In which case those that don't pass, should just step aside for those who can.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Stir, you are just being silly now. zzzz
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RHP User
11 years ago
Try this:.Learn forward and say "So... reckon?", while raising your eyebrows twice in quick succession, Magnum P.I. style..If she slaps you, she isn't into you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Boy: so.....sex, coffee, my truck?? Girl: *slap* Boy: wow....if you didn't like coffee, a simple no would've sufficed :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's hilarious!! Too funny!! I'm a compulsive hair twirler so I'm probably giving off wrong signals all over the shop! I'm not sure about some of the advice here... I can get a bit like a startled deer when I'm with someone I'm attracted to but if I don't know that they're into me... Shy and skittish... So if you touch me I might startle away... Not because I don't want you to but because I do! I'm working on it!! Lol! If I'm into you I'll probably hold your gaze just a bit longer than usual. I'm not aware of it until I do it... I think I get a bit giggly too... But that can be alcohol 😝. Stir... Full of crap, you are. At the Melbourne meet and greet you had all the ladies eating outa your hand boy!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Think I've covered that already...that there's a difference between having an interesting convo....and having a convo that drives interest... - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Lurk..... you MUST express your sexual being (without being creepy about it)... it you'll quickly be labelled just a flirty fun friendly guy. Enter......The Friend Zone. And even though there have been topics about the dreaded Friend Zone, and women have agreed with what ive said about why guys are relegated to it... if I go on with hypothetical examples to validate that WHY you need to express your masculine element to avoid the FZ and spark sexual potential... well, you know how that will turn out hahaha
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
Quoting 'Stir_it_alot' *adapts sexy husky phone sex voice* So....between the Lockheed SR-71 black bird and the stealth bomber which is your preference?? That would sound better than.... *Normal voice* So....between the Lockheed SR-71 blackbird and the stealth bomber which is your preference?? - Posted from rhpmobile My man, they're both different planes - one's a high altitude spy plane, and the other is a low altitude night time bomber. So how exactly are you trying to compare them ? Just pulling ya leg Stir - I know what you're trying to say. Coming across in the right fashion can be a bit fraught if you can't read the signals right, or are being given ambiguous ones you can't easily fathom. Just find some solace that you're to alone in this field - most of us guys will end up getting our face slapped at some time or other. Tall
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
Quoting 'Stir_it_alot' Boy: so.....sex, coffee, my truck?? Girl: *slap* Boy: wow....if you didn't like coffee, a simple no would've sufficed :p - Posted from rhpmobile know that she didn't like the looks of your truck ??? Or maybe you should have offered the coffee first before the sex ? Is the sleeper in your truck a decent size ? LOL Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
So and so has just joined RHP and is looking for you. So and so is looking for a date with you in DateFinder.So and so is travelling to your area & wants to meet you. Gents, we don't need to look for any subtle clues.....RHP will tell us.....'cos they know what's best for us after all.. CheersJAB
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RHP User
11 years ago
They both shared a common intent..... Stealth..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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Playful2looking
11 years ago
Yes you can tell when the girls are flirting with you but it is hard to tell whether it just prick teasing or whether its the real thing. Girls are usually in groups either with girl friends or mixed company. They will compete with each other for a guys attention that's when its hard to tell. Often when in mixed company they don't want everyone at the table to think they are hanging out and will bonk anyone easily. The only time I can be certain is if they make an effect to talk you when you are alone or follow you to bar. That's when they need to give you their phone number so you can organise a date. otherwise it could just be the drinks talking. Or been competitive with their mates by trying to get more attention but not keen to go further. Often the drop dead absolute hottt girl will try and dominate the flirting but has no intention of going further where as the girl in the group that does want to bed you wont get a chance to get it across to you. guys can have their beer goggles on and all they can see is those yummy breasts bobbing around in front of their eyes. Those breasts might only be flirting look at moir sort of thing but she has a boy friend or hubby at home so once she is all sexed up goes home and jumps his bones. which means you were only foreplay for them. which is cool but you get mixed messages from her.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am, more often than not, completely oblivious and have more than once misread someone being friendly as something else entirely. It's not often (read. Extremely bloody rare) a woman asks me out for drinks, so when they do I tend misjudge the situation and have been shot down in flames. There's also been many an occasion when I haven't noticed she's trying it on, I go to say good bye and either get dragged off and called a dumb ass or get the text messages saying "are you not interested in me?" To which my response is "...? I didn't think you were interested in me that way...". Even the lads at work reckoning oblivious. Apparently I get a lot of looks and they here more than a few whispers about me from the nurses. None of which I pick up on. Yeah, I'd say I'm oblivious.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Reckoning = reckon. Along with anything else that doesn't look right. Damn you auto correct.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'SirSwan' more than a few whispers about me from the nurses. Can't blame 'em
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RHP User
11 years ago
☺️ thank you Luckdragon.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I usually can just tell from a variety of things like body language, how attentive and responsive they are. They might even get all touchy feely... Mind you I do hold back but am myself in my opinions, jokes and etc. I also usually play the card Im dealt. All women are different in a persons company. Make em feel at ease, something comical, something you both can relate to (apart from RHP) The rest? well that is for me to know and for you not to play me on it Guys who dont have a clue (even with a neon sign beside you), well, they are a worry and will probably say they are not SNAG type or are real blokey men... PLEAAAASSSSEEEE!
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