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Lame messages and instant turn-offs
September 13 2016
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RHP User
8 years ago
The lamest would be "hi, wow what a hot couple of days I just had" Then proceeded to tell me what he could do for me. Cliche would be anyone that calls me Hun or babe. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Ok this is one from last week after I said he doesn't match what I'm looking for. I will have a browse and see if I can find some more corkers for you: Sorry too. I'm a man who can buy you anything you want. And provide a luxurious lifestyle. But I'm sure your'e not that shallow.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm with soft, where do I start. Few of note, telling me I look half normal lol wow how could I refuse, hitting me with flattery like that Then there's offering me party goodies, sorry but you're on the wrong website, or going into a long winded story about what they're going to do to me, when they don't fit what I'm looking for and don't wait to see if I'm remotely interested first, or opening pg with dick pics, same again, maybe wait to see if I'm remotely interested and then we can move to the, no I'll stop there, that's enough to start with
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RHP User
8 years ago
wanna root?
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lovman8
8 years ago
Quoting 'PoisonIV' wanna root? But alright seeing as you offering! This may qualify cheesy message, but if it doesn't I'm sure I have many others I've sent that do.
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RHP User
8 years ago
When the first message doesn't even contain a "hello, how are you" but jumps straight into the contents of a porn movie going through their mind of the description of what they'd like to do to me with an ending of "wanna meet"? Another favourite first message: "show me your PG, babe" *shudders at babe* If I showed you straight away then what's the point of keeping them in a PG? I also hate braggers who go on about the encounters with women/couples they've met recently (very off putting and puts them on the "do not meet" list). I also hate being asked if I've been a good girl and being called "babe, hun, darl" or any other term of endearment unless we're at a close friendship level.
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Cq_cplPlay
8 years ago
Random pics of Dicks sent to my mobile with nothing else then about 5 mins after the queston "You wanna suck my weapon"?Beside being lame it was really sad pic
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RHP User
8 years ago
I laughed when I saw that. God, erotic stories are the worst! Especially when punctuated with emojis and clearly a saved template that they send to everyone. For some reason, lists of adjectives in the first message annoy the hell out of me too. Thank you for letting me know that you're "clean, nice-smelling, respectful, D&D free and a good communicator". Seriously, I'm on fire now! I mean, I understand why they do that but if I'm looking for a room-mate or an accountant, sure, that all sounds great. You know what they say, turn on my brain first and you'll have a much easier time turning on my body!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' I'm with soft, where do I start. Few of note, telling me I look half normal *facepalm*
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RHP User
8 years ago
Pretty much a message free zone.The ones I do get are mostly of the Hi how r u sort..nothing disgusting or exciting at all 👿 Q
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RHP User
8 years ago
"Hi" pusscat xxx
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RHP User
8 years ago
"Hi" Or "hey how are you??" Scared little fuckers they are....so desperate for the dick they can't string anything else together lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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Livingandloving2
8 years ago
Quoting 'Betty7216' But my fav is still "Can I shit on your chest?" Modern day Shakespeare... just need that quote 'to pop up on The Bachelor... Cheers Mr LAL
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
And you risk a message to see what's cookin, you say hi and ask how they are. And you get an answer... " I'm good thanks" and that's it. For some reason i lose any urge to try and get the convo going. I mean i haven't much spare time. Im busy shovelling rocking horse shit over here.....
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RHP User
8 years ago
''DTF?'' And yeah the erotic stories with all the usual cliche phrases, where they lick your dripping pussy until you shudder and moan and cum all over their face and they taste your sweet juices, and then they slide their rock hard cock into you and you can't help it and cum again straight away, clenching tightly around their cock as you're overcome with wave after wave of intense pleasure like you've never experienced before.
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RHP User
8 years ago
My favourite is: "hey" (As a reply to an initial personalised message of a couple of paragraphs etc)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Wanna fuck Him yeh
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RHP User
8 years ago
A delicious arse and I know my arses. Do guys love to lick it? There's nothing I love more than devouring a delicious date 😕
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RHP User
8 years ago
got this do night what do you think you are a skinny bony thing and when they probe your ass they will rip you apart
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RHP User
8 years ago
...from the thousands of unsolicited emails I receive as a single bloke is a difficult task, but here goes: lame emails from Single women, e.g. ...Hi! I am an intelligent, sophisticated, sensual woman who is extensively travelled, well-educated, with a great (sometimes dark) sense of humour. I require a man with whom I can connect on all levels...intellectual and emotional connections especially (p.s. conquer my mind and I'm all yours...baby!). I just love your profile and can't wait for you to take me to Rockpool or Belvior St...or both. lame emails from couples, e.g. we just love sensual, sub-dom men like you who may or may not be Bi or Bi-curious or sapiosexual. We can't wait to meet you! It is just sooo hard being in demand.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'woody_pusscat' "Hi" pusscat xxx I send them but with one of these cute goofy smiley's
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RHP User
8 years ago
is it so bad to get a 'Hey' or a 'Hi' message in the words of Frank Sinatra 'I do it myyyyyyyyyyy way'
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RHP User
8 years ago
relieved to hear I'm not the only one who hates those, cringeworthy indeed
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Tall74nHard9
8 years ago
That was so well said, you must have had those lines many times over. I'll bet you could type that all blind-folded without any problem... Tall
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RHP User
8 years ago
Please don't forget that you registered on a site designed to make money from just that sort of behavior. Also, please do not forget that women also suffer from seriously bad form. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
The message has a pussy photo and the question "What do you think of this?"The answer, is another question "Were you born with that or did you get it in Bangkok?"
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RHP User
8 years ago
I also dislike first messages that ask me to meet. I want to chat until i get to a level of comfort with you before meeting -at the same time I'm not going to string it out for months before meeting and i understand that must happen a bit and guys get frustrated but I personally need more than just wanna meet? to actually want to go ahead and meet someone.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' ''DTF?'' And yeah the erotic stories with all the usual cliche phrases, where they lick your dripping pussy until you shudder and moan and cum all over their face and they taste your sweet juices, and then they slide their rock hard cock into you and you can't help it and cum again straight away, clenching tightly around their cock as you're overcome with wave after wave of intense pleasure like you've never experienced before. That's Gold. You could publish this stuff in those magazines where they give you 25 bucks for an erotic story..
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RHP User
8 years ago
I find the initial contact really awkward. I want to convey the fact that I really like someone's profile, but don't want to be a cretin in the process.
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soretongue
8 years ago
What u wrote was when they actually send a msg. Everyones heard the saying "Can't u tell how much I really want you by the way I'm trying to (secretly?) ignore you?", haven't they? Or are the women just playing hard to get?🤔😛
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Betty7216' But my fav is still "Can I shit on your chest?" Summer, my instant turn off is also erotic stories, especially as a first message... Not only are most of them badly written, the assumption that they know I what I want, sexually, does my head in... If they "dress me" in stockings, garter, etc. I'm done... Can't say I've ever had that one. Are you sure it wasn't a typo
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'pleaseuheaps' Please don't forget that you registered on a site designed to make money from just that sort of behavior. Also, please do not forget that women also suffer from seriously bad form. - Posted from rhpmobile we're just having a bit of fun here. I can laugh at myself, we all can (laugh at me that is ). I'm guilty of sending some of these messages lol although I haven't perfected the erotica, working on that. How does this sound "Ooh baby, I'll stroke your manly shaft and gently lick your balls until your full load explodes through my luscious lips past my tonsils and down my throat" It's only a first draft
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RHP User
8 years ago
not lame but made me laugh "Hey babe u talk alot but ur pretty hot" now I don't usually quote but I'm sure he won't mind, particularly since I haven't ruled him out yet
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm leaving the state next week and I'd like to create a fine memory with you before I go, or something like that. So as much as i love a quick send off root, that one didn't get a reply
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm taking a guess you have an outtie seriously, that was a first message
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RHP User
8 years ago
And one word messages. Just a waste of time. No thanks. But.....there are a lot of creative, not erotic, messages that make up for the crap ones.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Had a message from a couple telling me I was so hot and did I want to PRAY with them.... Spell check before sending is always a good thing :) Made me laugh though xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
The worst and almost instant blocking award goes to..... "Hi, I have a thing for Asian women!"
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RHP User
8 years ago
...let me pick up on the point of why RHP exists and whose interests it serves. First and foremost, it is a business enterprise. Its survival depends on paid subscriptions. SS is right in thinking that men, for a host of reasons, delude themselves that it is peopled by legions of nymphomaniacs just waiting to service them. We all know the reality is pretty much the opposite. Keeping this in mind, it behoves paid members to accept this reality who complain loudly about receiving crass emails, poorly spelt profiles, cock shots and all the rest. Without those subscribers there would be no RHP. No threads for people to poke fun at the neanderthals...no chatroom for the usual suspects to use...and no opportunity to form the cliques that are characteristic of the site whereby 'insiders' can go about their business in the knowledge they are subsidised by the very people they criticise....and I have a suggestion for those who doth protest loudly and frequently...set up your own website based on your rules of acceptable contact protocols, profile construction, topics for discussion etc....but be prepared to pay a subscription fee many multiples over what you pay now....and do not put threads on it lest you be accused of not being 'inclusive'. My two bob's worth. My two bob's worth
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RHP User
8 years ago
He asked ...'How much for the both of you?' Mary :(
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RHP User
8 years ago
Is what I get from a few guys and I hate "Gee you look good for a woman your age"WTF!!! Lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'pleaseuheaps' Please don't forget that you registered on a site designed to make money from just that sort of behavior. Also, please do not forget that women also suffer from seriously bad form. - Posted from rhpmobile You're right - people on here totally deserve to be spoken to like crap just because we like sex. It was in the terms and conditions of joining this site - Thanks for clearing that up.
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RHP User
8 years ago
with the 'cliques' crap Masculine55 - I think you'll find that quite a lot of the women who post on the forums are paid members themselves. Also, just because someone else is a paying member doesn't mean I have to silently accept their crass behaviour, or that I can never have a tongue-in-cheek laugh about anything they do or say (as long as nobody is being personally identified and comments steer clear of personal attacks). Membership gives you certain benefits...immunity to criticism isn't one of them.
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
We receive dozens daily with opening phrases along the lines of "hot pix wanna fuck ? Will you sit on my face ? Hot camel toe , can I lick your arse, can I fuck your pussy .... The list is long. Then there are the unsolicited penis photos as opposed to face photos. The bad spelling/grammar : Hello how R use / youse ? Etc Opening lines that get right to the point . Opening lines that become erotic stories after just a few sentences. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
agree with Luck dragon, what she said and where's your sense of humour guys? I'd love someone to start a similar thread about women haha I'd laugh myself stupid I think identifying with said behavior You're asking us to be politically correct on the forum, never gasp
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Tall74nHard9
8 years ago
Quoting 'purplehaze4u' Is what I get from a few guys and I hate "Gee you look good for a woman your age"WTF!!! Lol - Posted from rhpmobile Some people are exceptional flatterers with their cunning linguistics, aren't they ! Makes you wonder how well they get on in general... Tall
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RHP User
8 years ago
...by all means be critical. Just remember, it is by dint of the fact that those you mock are paying subscribers that your own membership fee is so modest. You get what you pay for.
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Seachange
8 years ago
Quoting 'Masculine55' ...let me pick up on the point of why RHP exists and whose interests it serves. First and foremost, it is a business enterprise. Its survival depends on paid subscriptions. SS is right in thinking that men, for a host of reasons, delude themselves that it is peopled by legions of nymphomaniacs just waiting to service them. We all know the reality is pretty much the opposite. Keeping this in mind, it behoves paid members to accept this reality who complain loudly about receiving crass emails, poorly spelt profiles, cock shots and all the rest. Without those subscribers there would be no RHP. No threads for people to poke fun at the neanderthals...no chatroom for the usual suspects to use...and no opportunity to form the cliques that are characteristic of the site whereby 'insiders' can go about their business in the knowledge they are subsidised by the very people they criticise....and I have a suggestion for those who doth protest loudly and frequently...set up your own website based on your rules of acceptable contact protocols, profile construction, topics for discussion etc....but be prepared to pay a subscription fee many multiples over what you pay now....and do not put threads on it lest you be accused of not being 'inclusive'. My two bob's worth. My two bob's worth just to inform you that I have been a paid member of this site for a while and decided to give it a break as I really am not fully optimizing the use any of my messages , except to message a poster here and there. Your silly insinuation that rhp women are incapable of paying our way in this site and therefore we just take what we can take and be grateful as freeloaders on the site is most ridiculous and misogynistic. Meh. An the clique again? Seriously, maybe we don't want to mingle with you because of your entitled attitude rather than we belong to a 'clique'. Hohum. You seem to act as though you have a chip on your shoulder. It is getting really tiresome. I give you back you 2 bob's worth and raise it by another 2 bob to keep your silly thoughts to yourself. On topic, Adelaide - I get that all the time, e.g. 'Hi. I am really into Asian women and I like how their pussy taste different' LD - that long winded porn story for a first message. No paragraph breaks or anything so I looks like one big blob on my message page. Same story, different guy. I wonder if the original writer gets royalty payments for it?
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RHP User
8 years ago
...please re-read my post. It says, 'paying members'...it in no way presumes women cannot pay their own way...in fact the opposite. My point is that your membership fee is very modest, and this is because the site attracts a sufficient number of paying members to keep fees low. A consequence is that annoying/crass/barely literate emails will find their way into your in-box, and this is by virtue of the fact that membership is cheap. It comes with the territory. By all means complain, but as I said above...you get what you pay for.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Edit from "tonsils" delete down your throat, insert "explodes out of" your nose?? Ah, past master of the erotic message I hear you gasp. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
lol Im so over the dick pics what would you do with this hard cock babe ahhhhh drives me nuts
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
You should be pleased we receive unpleasant and frass messages. It will make your wonderful messages seem as they are from heaven.......well better at least. You should step away from your fellow neanderthals and wave to us from afar so we see the separation. Sticking up for them makes you appear as one of their tribe.......
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RHP User
8 years ago
I agree with you on the forums. There are free sites that are similar that don't have them. But apart from that? Are you suggesting because the fees are cheap the quality of messages should be? That because it's cheap - it's expected that people can't be bothered to show some common courtesy or that it attracts a bunch of twats with no filter? And does that mean if we paid $50 a month to another site we could expect nothing but intelligent well constructed messages?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' I'm with soft, where do I start. Few of note, telling me I look half normal lol wow how could I refuse, hitting me with flattery like that Then there's offering me party goodies, sorry but you're on the wrong website, or going into a long winded story about what they're going to do to me, when they don't fit what I'm looking for and don't wait to see if I'm remotely interested first, or opening pg with dick pics, same again, maybe wait to see if I'm remotely interested and then we can move to the, no I'll stop there, that's enough to start with
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RHP User
8 years ago
those with poor writing skills, there are those with poor (or perhaps selective) reading/comprehension skills and a propensity to vigorously (and sometimes personally) attack anyone with a view different to their own. Masculine55 did not identify any particular individual in his post(s). Given the number of threads and posts in the forum which already articulate objections to the behaviours demonstrated by both senders and recipients of private messages/introductions, I think his post was largely pretty innocuous. His comments with respect to subscription numbers and pricing as compared to site operating cost attribution is entirely plausible (irrespective of gender). It would appear tensions arise in the forum here due to an expectation by some that all participants should fit a particular mould, and those people bear little tolerance for variation from their own ideal. That in itself might be seen to constitute a sense of entitlement...
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'SoftandCurious' I agree with you on the forums. There are free sites that are similar that don't have them. But apart from that? Are you suggesting because the fees are cheap the quality of messages should be? That because it's cheap - it's expected that people can't be bothered to show some common courtesy or that it attracts a bunch of twats with no filter? And does that mean if we paid $50 a month to another site we could expect nothing but intelligent well constructed messages? you are more likely (though not guaranteed) to encounter a different type of person in a more expensive environment. You all would surely be aware it is quite common practice to price certain people out of all sorts of markets in this and many other societies. This site is a market of sorts (even though money is not exchanged between the individuals meeting and participating in activities organized via this marketplace). Caveat Emptor.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Masculine55' ...let me pick up on the point of why RHP exists and whose interests it serves. First and foremost, it is a business enterprise. Its survival depends on paid subscriptions. SS is right in thinking that men, for a host of reasons, delude themselves that it is peopled by legions of nymphomaniacs just waiting to service them. We all know the reality is pretty much the opposite. Keeping this in mind, it behoves paid members to accept this reality who complain loudly about receiving crass emails, poorly spelt profiles, cock shots and all the rest. Without those subscribers there would be no RHP. No threads for people to poke fun at the neanderthals...no chatroom for the usual suspects to use...and no opportunity to form the cliques that are characteristic of the site whereby 'insiders' can go about their business in the knowledge they are subsidised by the very people they criticise....and I have a suggestion for those who doth protest loudly and frequently...set up your own website based on your rules of acceptable contact protocols, profile construction, topics for discussion etc....but be prepared to pay a subscription fee many multiples over what you pay now....and do not put threads on it lest you be accused of not being 'inclusive'. My two bob's worth. My two bob's worth And I still have to deal with crass and often abusive emails (when I say a polite no thanks)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Speaking from a guys point of view, I believe one of the issues stem from how to start the conversation/message that would provide some interest. Do you start off by saying Hi/Hello how are you? Do you comment on the persons appearance? Do you comment on the content of the profile? When you don't know the person at the other end it is difficult to strike the right cord to get their attention without falling into the trap of being too forward, not forward enough, being polite, not being polite enough.Agree that some of the messages leave a lot to be desired and for all the first impression matters and will either get a 'No thanks' or a response. I wont start on spelling and grammar as texting seems to have created a whole new way of communicating that is now transferred to all mediums of communication.......sadly
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RHP User
8 years ago
...I do not know whether paying $50 per month would elicit better emails...I suspect there's no necessary correlation between higher fees and a better clientele...However, RHP is pursuing a classic ratchet-clause subscription strategy. That is, once they've hooked unpaid members it becomes abundantly clear that in order to make proper use of the site, one must pay. I never looked at how this works precisely on RHP, because I'd already been through the process on AFF...So I simply took out a paid membership from the outset. Consequently, I have presumed, perhaps wrongly, that the 'right' to view profiles, send emails, post on threads and enter chat rooms must be paid for on RHP. Of course, none of these rights actually confers instantly reciprocated access to nymphomaniacs. That is dependent on the next level of communication skills...like writing emails to females (I've never sent flirts but I presume some people do), posting on threads and so on...with the object of gaining female attention....and so the process goes. There is nothing sinister about this; it is simple economics from RHP's perspective that, unfortunately, clashes with the delusional expectations of people who have paid and expect a conga line of open legs. All of this seems plain to my unromantic mind...but given the reactions to my posts it seems that others do not see things the same way. So be it. I do want to reiterate my points that paid memberships keep prices low, so it is a tad rich to expect that one will receive pearls when paying for potatoes...and add to my comment that 'you get what you pay for' and additional rider...if you pay nothing, what on earth do you expect in return?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Wow guilty as hell of most of the things listed (lol I think some of you even are my victoms) But I also send a message to a lady saying think I think she's very attractive and I leve it there if she messages great if she doesn't then its just a passing compliment - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'ontology' ...Masculine55 did not identify any particular individual in his post(s)... as a subject for criticism. Whilst he did mention @Summer by name, he appeared not to be levelling any accusation at her. It would seem to me his comment wrt @Summer draws conclusions from the tone and implication of some of her (and others') own posts in various threads over a period of time. Still, I don't think it is particularly controversial because the objectionable behaviours cited are now broadly known and largely self-evident.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'ontology' Masculine55 did not identify any particular individual in his post(s). Given the number of threads and posts in the forum which already articulate objections to the behaviours demonstrated by both senders and recipients of private messages/introductions, I think his post was largely pretty innocuous. His comments with respect to subscription numbers and pricing as compared to site operating cost attribution is entirely plausible (irrespective of gender). It would appear tensions arise in the forum here due to an expectation by some that all participants should fit a particular mould, and those people bear little tolerance for variation from their own ideal. That in itself might be seen to constitute a sense of entitlement... People can send whatever crap they want to in messages and say what they want to on the forums (within certain parameters). I don't expect everybody to be the same. However, I have the right to respond to them, to disagree with them, and to express my amusement at the way some people approach others on here. If you and Masculine55 are suggesting I should just shut up, be a good little woman, and accept it all quietly because 'what else can you expect when membership is cheap on here', well sorry it ain't gonna happen.
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RHP User
8 years ago
...no, I am not back-pedalling or being contrary for its own sake. I simply wish to point out that complainants need to acknowledge that they are complicit in calling out the afflicitions of crass emails, illiterates and other plagues that bedevil them. The economics of RHP make it so.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Summersolstice' Quoting 'somuchfunforus' Speaking from a guys point of view, I believe one of the issues stem from how to start the conversation/message that would provide some interest. Do you start off by saying Hi/Hello how are you? Do you comment on the persons appearance? Do you comment on the content of the profile? It's tricky. Could someone convince RHP to put my "Ten Commandment for writing Messages" on their home page already? You only have 10?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' ...If you and Masculine55 are suggesting I should just shut up, be a good little woman, and accept it all quietly because 'what else can you expect when membership is cheap on here'... I neither state, nor suggest that at all (of any particular individual) ! Rather, I have declared my some of my own observations. I too am one of those willing to offer a contrary view on occasion, and I appreciate posts that display considered thought on the matters at hand (in any given thread topic). If considered thought either requires or justifies someone putting forward another perspective, I am all for it. I think some contributions are out of order, and therefore do warrant criticism/correction. Some other contributions ought not be dignified with any form of response. (That said, I know I've sometimes been guilty of taking the bait when presented). I simply point out this site is a facility for people to make acquaintances, meet and/or (in the case of the forum) discuss a range of adult matters. We all would agree not everyone is the same, or share all of the same views, knowledge, experience and interests. It is through discussion (and perhaps debate) that people learn something of one another, and this might help to determine personal interest/attraction/compatibility. Sometimes the tone and trajectory of discussions in the forum indicate some people respond vehemently to perspectives that differ from their own, where I think perhaps this should merely indicate incompatibility and/or lack of interest to actually meet. Sometimes the disagreements appear to stem from simple miscommunication (in either transmission or reception end of a dialogue). I hope I have articulated this sufficiently clearly. (FWIW, it would absolutely shit me to receive copious numbers of inane messages and dick pics ! I do not envy any of you girls).
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RHP User
8 years ago
...from memory, I paid something like $150 for 6 months. As with other RHP sales strategies there's a sliding scale....One month represents the highest monthly subscription fee...6 months equates to a lesser monthly cost...12 months is the best deal from a price point of view. I took 6 because I thought that would be sufficient to tell me whether RHP is better, worse or about the same as AFF...and I also took into account what that amount represents spent otherwise. So, when weighing it up I compared the outlay to a typical day at Royal Randwick. Such a day entails cab fares (at least from...), entry fees, $10 sandwiches and $40 something bottles of bubbly (with fillies in tow)...and I pursue an extremely optimistic wagering strategy; I put $20 on the nose of the horse with the longest odds. Wonderful when the hag salutes, but that is rare. So, I usually lose $160 on the punt and spend somewhat more victualling the outing. From this perspective, a 6 month RHP membership makes some sense.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'somuchfunforus' Speaking from a guys point of view, I believe one of the issues stem from how to start the conversation/message that would provide some interest. Do you start off by saying Hi/Hello how are you? Do you comment on the persons appearance? Do you comment on the content of the profile? When you don't know the person at the other end it is difficult to strike the right cord to get their attention without falling into the trap of being too forward, not forward enough, being polite, not being polite enough.Agree that some of the messages leave a lot to be desired and for all the first impression matters and will either get a 'No thanks' or a response. I wont start on spelling and grammar as texting seems to have created a whole new way of communicating that is now transferred to all mediums of communication.......sadly I am no wordsmith and find it difficult to express myself in writing.....I struggle with forum posts and messages. I get really intimidated when I have/want to send a message. Composing a message with the thought in mind that it's probably not going to get a response would be even harder. I Appreciate a message that contains more than one sentence and the writer has made some attempt to show me they have read my profile.It's usually what they have written in their profile that matters more to me....as long as the message is not Hey/Hi!
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RHP User
8 years ago
It would be lovely to have a message initiated so I am afraid I have nothing lol I am scared someone may quote me 😨 Thank goodness I don't use any of the methods shown here... actually it is embarrassing as a bloke to read them but I assume it must work on someone otherwise they wouldn't do it? Opening with a dick pick? Maybe its just me but that is just plain wrong.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'ontology' Quoting 'SoftandCurious' I agree with you on the forums. There are free sites that are similar that don't have them. But apart from that? Are you suggesting because the fees are cheap the quality of messages should be? That because it's cheap - it's expected that people can't be bothered to show some common courtesy or that it attracts a bunch of twats with no filter? And does that mean if we paid $50 a month to another site we could expect nothing but intelligent well constructed messages? you are more likely (though not guaranteed) to encounter a different type of person in a more expensive environment. You all would surely be aware it is quite common practice to price certain people out of all sorts of markets in this and many other societies. This site is a market of sorts (even though money is not exchanged between the individuals meeting and participating in activities organized via this marketplace). Caveat Emptor. You might simply consider, in the same manner as Gym memberships, there will be a proportion of the total membership of this site who have paid, but are inactive. The ratio of fixed costs to variable costs of operation will likely not vary significantly until a particular membership threshold is reached (which would trigger further capital outlays for infrastructure, and additional operating costs such as staff etc etc etc). This site caters to a niche market which currently indicates an approximate maximum of 5500 people online at any given time. This will likely be a small proportion of the active membership, and represents just 0.022% of the total Australian population. Clearly it is the case there is only a small subset of that figure (active members) who actually post to the forum, though there will also be 'lurkers' who read but do not post to the forum, and members who send introductions/private messages but who also do not post to the forum. The point is, the content and tone of forum posts is not necessarily truly representative of the views and/or attitudes of the total site membership. You could look to the ABS for statistics that would indicate the number of adults who might be eligible to subscribe to this site, though you would need to estimate how many might actually subscribe to/participate in this niche market. If subscription prices were to increase to a level above which the people @Masculine55 terms "Neanderthals' would drop out, the total fixed and variable cost base (which would remain relatively static) would necessarily need to be met by the diminished number of subscribers who do not engage in the unpalatable behavior so frequently highlighted. Therefore (strictly speaking), @Masculine55's comments regarding 'subscriptions' and 'subsidising' are plausible.
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RHP User
8 years ago
When I was a couple, there were a couple of time when it was suggested we get together for a few "leg-openers"
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Quoting 'Betty7216' But my fav is still "Can I shit on your chest?" ... Can't say I've ever had that one. Are you sure it wasn't a typo It might have been... I would have said "can I sit on your chest", so I can get my dick between your breasts :)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Are to me, much like humour. It's incredibly personal, because it has to be. It has to be personal, as that's what makes a connection to someone in order for them to relate. But..... I could make jokes about 1000 different topics, including myself, and we're bound to find a group that thinks we're just a fuckwit. That group is usually quite small thank fuck. When writing messages, all I can ever expect, is that their message is speaking from them!!!! This maybe off topic but fuck it I don't get these blood rushes very often so I post it when I'm feeling it Lol I've sent "wanna fuck??" Messages before, most are responded to with the good jest it was written in and some replies have cracked me up......others have been met with a message from the irate partner puffing out his chest like a typical twat....not that I can blame them, as I did poke the tiger lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I also agree that it is difficult to to articulate that first message. As a guest for a long time, I was used to sitting back and waiting for messages, was never able to send a first message. To a degree, I still do that, rarely hit on guys, wait for them to hit on me, but I have my moments So when I was able, I found it incredible difficult to know what to say. Like you say, some will be okay with the full on sexual first message, some won't, some will think a message is too short, some will think it's too long, so what do we do. We do the best we can and take a punt, that's all we can do. My messages depend on how much time I have, which is usually nil these days, so I keep them fairly short, just express interest, let them know I like what I see and read, or just see if it's good enough lol call me shallow and wait to see if I get a response, but I never go back and check sent messages, they'll either respond or they won't, all good. It isn't easy though, I appreciate that.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Hank_E_Panky' The message has a pussy photo and the question "What do you think of this?"The answer, is another question "Were you born with that or did you get it in Bangkok?" what d'ya thinka mine
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' not lame but made me laugh "Hey babe u talk alot but ur pretty hot" now I don't usually quote but I'm sure he won't mind, particularly since I haven't ruled him out yet ...And that's the lead up to his second message, "Hey babe, I have this gag thing. You wouldn't mind wearing it while we make magic, would you..?"
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hot1handle
8 years ago
I find it funny that there are a lot of (as 1 said) people who don't like how people talk what they ask or how they ask yes some ask in a way that could be said way way better not be a creep or creepy but also at least they are willing to contact and even give there details (not trying to be a creep) but genuine, real they see a beautiful woman on here (and we are all looking for the same(whether we admit it or not)) send a message and under the pump (just an thought not knowledge) don't think how to make it sound shall we say "wonderful" to whom you are sending it to don't get it right not everyone is a dictionary of words or charming with them I know i'm not but I try and i'm willing to get it all out there (details and all) I know I've seen a lot of beautiful women on here but i'm not 1 to be crass as some say I believe that all women have a sexy quality about them (every woman) and you just have to have an eye for detail to see and I believe this and it's also why if you want respect you also have to give respect not snigger just remember this in the forums love to all hot1handle xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'PhoenixGirl' Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' I'm with soft, where do I start. Few of note, telling me I look half normal lol wow how could I refuse, hitting me with flattery like that Then there's offering me party goodies, sorry but you're on the wrong website, or going into a long winded story about what they're going to do to me, when they don't fit what I'm looking for and don't wait to see if I'm remotely interested first, or opening pg with dick pics, same again, maybe wait to see if I'm remotely interested and then we can move to the, no I'll stop there, that's enough to start with
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Koolgrey' Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' not lame but made me laugh "Hey babe u talk alot but ur pretty hot" now I don't usually quote but I'm sure he won't mind, particularly since I haven't ruled him out yet ...And that's the lead up to his second message, "Hey babe, I have this gag thing. You wouldn't mind wearing it while we make magic, would you..?" ooh kinky
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RHP User
8 years ago
...offline for 7 hours and when I log back in it's like "Survivor...Forum Island." Riveting. I don't have any cheesy tales to add to this thread, sorry, I must come across as too highbrow or something . But I remember the mid-20's woman who messaged me first, then when I replied, "Thanks, but I don't really want to meet anyone at the moment...I've just ended a relationship not long ago and I still miss her. **Smiley-face**."Which got the response, "Well, I'm not interested in anyone with baggage.." Errr....righto then....I thought...I just said...I wasn't interested...first..
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hot1handle
8 years ago
what about all the boob and below shots of women to (not that I don't like them) I mean you look at most of the female profiles and that's what is there I mean we are here for pleasure really but put those in the private section (as I have) let who you like to see them then that fixes that by the way I very very much liked your pics in your profile wish we were closer but can still chat if you are interested I would go down (pardon the pun)that path first before asking to meet first so don't count everyone with dick shots even though I have 1 but is in the private section as not to let the cringe look out lol and be flexible on your choices the cover of a book doesn't tell the story eh? hope to speak to you soon I touch my self (rather call you something better but it's your choice) lol xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' Quoting 'ontology' "...If you are suggesting I should just be a good little woman..." "Cos' two out three aint' baaaad.." Meatloaf Sorry to butt in Luck_Dragon, but I'm a big fan. It's late...and over peanut butter, water crackers( i'm trying to diet ) and a VB...this is what I pay my subscription for. Love your work.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Masculine55' ...I do not know whether paying $50 per month would elicit better emails...I suspect there's no necessary correlation between higher fees and a better clientele...However, RHP is pursuing a classic ratchet-clause subscription strategy. That is, once they've hooked unpaid members it becomes abundantly clear that in order to make proper use of the site, one must pay. I never looked at how this works precisely on RHP, because I'd already been through the process on AFF...So I simply took out a paid membership from the outset. Consequently, I have presumed, perhaps wrongly, that the 'right' to view profiles, send emails, post on threads and enter chat rooms must be paid for on RHP. Of course, none of these rights actually confers instantly reciprocated access to nymphomaniacs. That is dependent on the next level of communication skills...like writing emails to females (I've never sent flirts but I presume some people do), posting on threads and so on...with the object of gaining female attention....and so the process goes. There is nothing sinister about this; it is simple economics from RHP's perspective that, unfortunately, clashes with the delusional expectations of people who have paid and expect a conga line of open legs. All of this seems plain to my unromantic mind...but given the reactions to my posts it seems that others do not see things the same way. So be it. I do want to reiterate my points that paid memberships keep prices low, so it is a tad rich to expect that one will receive pearls when paying for potatoes...and add to my comment that 'you get what you pay for' and additional rider...if you pay nothing, what on earth do you expect in return? I was a guest for a long time and I expected a whole lot, and got it lot of my current contacts are guests, so yes, one or the other has to be a paid member to initiate contact, but it doesn't have to be a guy. You also don't need to pay to be on the forum. Chat rooms yes, but I have never been in the chat room anyway, doesn't interest me. I fail to see what paying has to do with any of this
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RHP User
8 years ago
With summer coming on, I'm trying to watch what I'm consuming too. I love your water crackers and VB haha I had a junior whopper today, with a large fries how do you think I'm going so far?
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RHP User
8 years ago
just thought of another one when they throw their phone number, email, kik, tax file number lol all at you in the first message
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RHP User
8 years ago
...your last sentence cracked me up. Clearly I am on a hiding to nothing in trying to explain myself. So why don't we just agree that I am a sexist dinosaur bordering on misogynistic (with more than a whiff of the elitist about me too).
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RHP User
8 years ago
well aware that guys have it tough on here and it is difficult to know what to say in a first message. I explicitly state that in my profile. As also mentioned, the way sites like this promote themselves can give men a certain idea about what to expect when they join, although I think most usually find out pretty quickly that expectations don't equate with the reality. However, all of that still isn't reason for women to silently accept all the crap that comes their way. I also think you'll find that fundamentally there's a big difference between the type of guys who've posted here about not being sure what to say, and the type of guys who send the crass, no introduction, 'come on babe I'll pound your pussy good' sort of messages.
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RHP User
8 years ago
...I am still wondering whether females pay the same, more or less than males. At the risk of sounding sexist yet again, most businesses that aim to attract male paying customers tend to offer discounted rates to females...think of strip clubs where female patrons enter for free (and I know that's a boorish analogy). I have also wondered what Platinum subscribers get for their money...do they pay for higher-level screening services, e.g. only emails sent from people matching their criteria are allowed into their in-boxes?
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RHP User
8 years ago
At the success rate of the crass message..why would you keep on doing something over and over again if it wasn't working for you? I would love to hear from the men who find that if they send a hundred similar crass messages how many women respond in the positive . Curious Q
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RHP User
8 years ago
Haha not sure were i have gone wrong , BUT IVE NEVER HAD ANY ONE MESSAGE ME !!!!! let alone try n hit on me So i can not comment on this , any takers , I am only a guest as i fly away to work soon never to bee seen for some time . but i would be flattered to be asked out , i am an interesting person
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Koolgrey' Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' Quoting 'ontology' "...If you are suggesting I should just be a good little woman..." "Cos' two out three aint' baaaad.." Meatloaf Sorry to butt in Luck_Dragon, but I'm a big fan. It's late...and over peanut butter, water crackers( i'm trying to diet ) and a VB...this is what I pay my subscription for. Love your work. The way you have employed the quote function here, would actually give the false appearance that I am being quoted in your post here (and beyond being factually incorrect, it would put matters completely out of context as a result). That wouldn't be deliberate now would it? Since you're one for quoting Meatloaf; wasn't it he who said/sang, he "... won't do that..." (I'm not particularly 'big' on his music, but there you go. Additional pun thrown in for ya at no extra charge. Call it good measure). At the very least, your example here helps demonstrate very clearly how communications between people may become garbled in this forum. That is a situation compounded by timing issues due to 'instant posting' privileges of some posters versus delayed, moderator cleared posts of others.
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RHP User
8 years ago
What do woman want (Be realistic) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Offer to wash my car in exchange for sex....not on here. I found the message insulting on many levels, not the least because I can get my car washed for $25!
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RHP User
8 years ago
that I rarely get any really bad messages these days. It's probably a combination of the fact that being in a regional city I don't receive as many messages in general as the women in the big cities, plus my specifically stating in my profile that I don't respond to crude messages and that I'm not into the 'erotic' stories. So, from my perspective most of the guys on here are generally quite respectful and do at least read profiles.
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Tall74nHard9
8 years ago
Q, I wonder too at the success rate of guys who do send considered, polite messages. Tall
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Tried to prompt the guy to tell me a bit about himself in a message rather than the lame half line he sent. He replied... "You want to fuck or not? I'm here for sex not chat." Looked like he's not getting either......."fuck off you're blocked. Bye bye xx"
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
While not Whole.....derrrr
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tylannister
8 years ago
Quoting 'Stirry'....as I did poke the tiger lol Was the tiger a good root, at least, Stirry? ;) Hell, I think we don't see more stories from the guys in this thread because most of us are just grateful when we get a flirt! ;)
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RHP User
8 years ago
M55 don't sell yourself short
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Tall_n_Hard' Q, I wonder too at the success rate of guys who do send considered, polite messages. Tall damned if you do, damned if you don't huh? It is hit and miss, there's no doubt it's just random who's attracted to who, long as we keep our sense of humour along the way, it's all good fun. I actually offered sex this morning to get help moving my couch, is that a bit much do you think Said I'd be VERY grateful haha omg I have to explain that one, it wasn't a first message so I'm cheating, long term friend, but the rest is true. But he can't help, working, so I'll just have to extend the offer to someone else. Maybe I'll copy and paste it and send to half a dozen guys, see what sort of response I get, or put it in datefinder
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RHP User
8 years ago
moving it out permanently I mean to the skip bin. All else fails, just have to put on my Wonder Woman undies and do it myself, I do have Wonder Woman undies btw
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