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Married & attached men - what are you looking for?
November 19 2013
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Gets comfortable..... interested to see how many 'single' guys respond ;-)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
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RHP User
11 years ago
You do know, their wives have full knowledge and give them the green light to play.? I think you could ask this question of most of the plethora of women's profiles that have ( in fine print sometimes) that their man is happy for them to play, their man is happy as long as his in the room to " just watch" ... I personally love that one. We had a male profile up for Mr Sat for a while there as honestly for us we prefer separate play as except for a few lovely couples, it's a hit and miss we like both parties of a couple.
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RHP User
11 years ago
This is coming from Mrs Sat by the way..( Mr would still be typing the first sentence if it were him lol )
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RHP User
11 years ago
So why should women meet up with Mr Sat then, what can he offer? Well apart from the fact that he looks like George Clooney when you squint your eyes. ⊂(◉‿◉)つ
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RHP User
11 years ago
I was talking this over with my wife just today. And he said that I'm looking for only what he says I can......- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
And I'll jump off soap box and give some one else the floor. Meeks , I do question the types that espouse their single status yet they are not. Some are quite blatant even though they try and hide fact. Others will practically turn blue in the face with denial. I wonder if those types ever meet people or are happy to live a fantasy life safely behind their keyboard!
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RHP User
11 years ago
And don't forget you have to turn your face quickly from side to side... I don't know, a "good root"? ..now I'm just advertising...seriously though sometimes it can just be as basic as that. We women can just be as primal as a man you know and go " thanks for that see ya" I think you are looking at this from a single woman searching for a connection of sorts over a period of time and I'm looking at it from a connection of a couple of hours. Both are achievable out there.
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Missb4u
11 years ago
For me that's exactly why I won't play with married/attached men as I don't want to risk feelings developing where there should be none. Can be hard though when they con you and you find out after that they are married or attached 😔 MissB- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Perhaps we are not be entirely happy with how our monogamous sex lives have evolved after long periods of time but are certainly not going to shred lives, livelihoods and otherwise happy healthy relationships with wives and children just so we can have a little NSA fun ? We see the hundreds of women on RHP with profess that profess to want exactly all we can offer and think - this might work ... of course we didn't realise when signing up that most were lying to themselves and won't even entertain those who are most suited to being able to maintain a casual relationship without forming the very emotional attachments they seek to avoid.The impression I get is that most see it as an all or nothing proposition .. you either go without or you burn the house down which is a ridiculous duality of false choice.I myself would prefer an ongoing lover if one were to be found because my motivation is a lack of intimacy in my marriage not a lack of variety or desire to rack up notches on the bedpost. In my dreams the lover and wife would become friends - wife wants the family, children and rest of the baggage you share while the lover wants what the wife doesn't anymore ... sex, passion lust etc.. Of course we all hope to get everything we need from a single person but life doesn't follow our imagined rules.Clearly there is no such thing as "No Strings At All" and this isn't a problem unless competing for the same part of the pie. Any mother or father of multiple children can tell you it is entirely possible to "love" more than 1 person simultaneously without it being hierarchical or competitive in nature.
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RHP User
11 years ago
And agree Missb attached/married men are not for everybody. They should be totally up front about their relationship status so any one meeting them should be able to make a decision before hand. Can I add,. so should the ladies on here as well. How far is considered attached ? Quite a few "single" guys I've chatted to over time admit they have a girl friend ..? Personally the more " attached "they are for me the better! For reasons stated above. As there are single/ open relationships/ etc on this site horses for courses... just don't lie it...cause that would suck!
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RHP User
11 years ago
a free hooker?....I think I have compassion fatigue
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RHP User
11 years ago
Married & attached PEOPLE - what are you looking for? Why focus on just married men, shouldn't married/attached women be tarred with the same brush? Why is a married man ridiculed here, yet a married woman is often lauded for being "being in touch with her sensual self"? Mooka (who isn't married, hasn't been married since 2002 and has the necessary documents to prove it)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am not ridiculing anybody. I genuinely want to know, from my perspective because hey I am asking the questions for myself not for you, want are married men looking for and why do the think a a woman should meet them.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Quoting 'Alius' I myself would prefer an ongoing lover if one were to be found because my motivation is a lack of intimacy in my marriage not a lack of variety or desire to rack up notches on the bedpost. In my dreams the lover and wife would become friends - wife wants the family, children and rest of the baggage you share while the lover wants what the wife doesn't anymore ... sex, passion lust etc.. Of course we all hope to get everything we need from a single person but life doesn't follow our imagined rules.Clearly there is no such thing as "No Strings At All" and this isn't a problem unless competing for the same part of the pie. Any mother or father of multiple children can tell you it is entirely possible to "love" more than 1 person simultaneously without it being hierarchical or competitive in nature. Let me ask this then.....What happens if YOU develop feelings Alius and decide you don't want the baggage you share with your wife? What happens when you ask your Lover for fidelity, knowing that you can't offer the same? Cake and eating it much.... I don't wholly disregard your contribution, you do have very valid points. In my dreams the wife and lover would also be friends (I've had this) who share sometimes (without having that) but that's an entirely other chapter and we do not live in a society where multiple "wives" are condoned. Insanity is loving someone you can't have and not being able to have that person can give rise to jealousy and feelings of resentment. I cannot fathom how, after giving of yourself to someone over an extended period of years, should you attain that kind of lover; some men/women DO NOT form attachment? IMHO that's just cold.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
I think it's a valid question. I want to know as well....
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RHP User
11 years ago
I know it sounds bizarre, lots of women are on RHP for NSA sex however I think most women would agree that ongoing sex often results in feelings. And that's a risk because you will never be available to give her what she needs. It's hard enough when you are with someone who is single! Maybe women are always open to something developing even when they have stated NSA? Or maybe women are the ones who are not lying or fooling themselves... Ongoing sex means feelings which can lead to getting your heart broken.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Not true. Sounds awesome to me... The wife gets to cook and clean for him and do all the boring stuff and I get all the good stuff! I like that idea myself. But of course.... I am not going to be exclusive.
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RHP User
11 years ago
You know what, you can absolutely love someone and be their lover but not want them all to yourself. You still want to see them happy, their doesn't have to be any jealousy. Or is that just me? Maybe I like my free life a little too much. Hehe. Admittedly it's not something I would actively go looking for.
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him_and_me
11 years ago
Meeka, Is your question specifically about meeting "a woman" or a woman who is one half of a couple. In all honesty, I couldn't care less if I never slept with anyone else other than Mrs him_and_me. I love her dearly and find her incredibly sexy! We both enjoy the sex we have but we were married young(ish) and never really experienced much in the way of other partners. So we're kinda like best mates going out and finding out what else is out there and also working out what/who else could float our boats. Indy, as far as your question to another poster about what happens if feelings develop with another...then we walk away. We both have veto rights on any given situation, couple or the whole thing. We as a couple is what is most important here and most of all, we're looking for fun and most likely some friends. However, that is something we are both looking for, not just the male half. Him.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I sound like I am someone who goes after married men... Absolutely not true by the way. I secretly don't have much sympathy for people who stay in unhappy marriages, I get it, it's about kids and money but is that enough?
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RHP User
11 years ago
We ventured into swinging to play together with couples, make some FWB that we can catch up with regularly for fun times and basically to treat it as enjoying sex with others..period! We're not out to replace each other with somebody else...life can be complicated enough, and we see no point making it anymore than it can be..
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RHP User
11 years ago
Only one guy brave enough to answer this question, so far. When looking for men to play with, I do my best to avoid married / attached guys who aren't in open relationships. Not because I'm worried about feelings developing (although, of course this is a possibility), but more so because I feel a bit 'ick' about encouraging someone to do the wrong thing, when he's in a committed relationship.I am in a relationship and my partner knows I see other people. He's also free to do as he chooses.Lisa
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'mooka' Married & attached PEOPLE - what are you looking for? Why focus on just married men, shouldn't married/attached women be tarred with the same brush? Why is a married man ridiculed here Meeka is asking an honest question, not even close to man-bashing or ridicule. If you'd like to ask married women the same question, do start your own thread.
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uneventful
11 years ago
Will show you that it totally is possible, to have long term, intimate relationship with a married person, without the rules changing, you simply have to define your extent of your feelings in the begining, and hold true to them. Maturitywill assist as does outlook on life, and communication with other person, in helping to keep it at a suitable level and not to expand past what is acceptable..... not to become clingy and ddependent.
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Chillymofo
11 years ago
I can only answer for myself. I will put it out there that i DO NOT want to meet a woman on the side.My reason for being is rather different from most others i guess.You can see that the profile is verified so my wife does know about this profile, and i now only have MY photo on the profile so as to not confuse or lead anyone on.My reason for being here can only be put down to my upbringing (Believe me i have had a very long introverted look as to why, and this is why i believe i am here)I was raised a very strict Catholic - even did my stint as an alter boy, and was always led to believe that sex was naughty etc etc.Fast forward to my first sexual encounter in my very late teens, and well fuck me if it wasnt one of the greatest feelings in the world - right!I then married my beautiful wife who is older and has had experience in this scene, but for her went horribly wrong.Now i am constantly seeking the taboo, because, i guess, i was brought up thinking sex was taboo, and i love all forms so much that i am always looking for the more taboohope that makes sense!So here i sit on my own and i live my sexual fantasies vicariously through those of you who post on here.I will never cheat on my wife! Ever!And although she doesn't share my love of the wild side, and is quite content with our sex life - She does occasionally allow me to indulge to a certain degree.For example - this Thursday night we are away for work, and we will be camming it up.this is as far as she wants to go at this stage, and i accept that. But i will always keep trying to add spice in whatever way i can hahaBut thats why I am on here - in essence i am amongst peers, and i am allowed to feel normal!
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Enjoylifealways
11 years ago
We are poly friendly people so if my husbands lovers turn into partners we all make it work and feelings are no problem. We lived with one of my lovers before. Just have to learn to deal with the jealousy if and when it arises. You can love more than one person at a time
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Alius' Perhaps we are not be entirely happy with how our monogamous sex lives have evolved after long periods of time but are certainly not going to shred lives, livelihoods and otherwise happy healthy relationships with wives and children just so we can have a little NSA fun ? We see the hundreds of women on RHP with profess that profess to want exactly all we can offer and think - this might work ... of course we didn't realise when signing up that most were lying to themselves and won't even entertain those who are most suited to being able to maintain a casual relationship without forming the very emotional attachments they seek to avoid.The impression I get is that most see it as an all or nothing proposition .. you either go without or you burn the house down which is a ridiculous duality of false choice.I myself would prefer an ongoing lover if one were to be found because my motivation is a lack of intimacy in my marriage not a lack of variety or desire to rack up notches on the bedpost. In my dreams the lover and wife would become friends - wife wants the family, children and rest of the baggage you share while the lover wants what the wife doesn't anymore ... sex, passion lust etc.. Of course we all hope to get everything we need from a single person but life doesn't follow our imagined rules.Clearly there is no such thing as "No Strings At All" and this isn't a problem unless competing for the same part of the pie. Any mother or father of multiple children can tell you it is entirely possible to "love" more than 1 person simultaneously without it being hierarchical or competitive in nature.You can't assume that all single women are lying to themselves just because they're not willing to give you what you want. In fact, most of them have probably thought about it a lot - some may have had previous experience with married men - and have decided for good reasons why they don't want to go there. Also, a man being married is no barrier to emotional attachment developing, and if that happens it can be all the more complicated. There are many valid reasons why single women make that choice and if you recognise and acknowlege that you might have more of a chance, rather than denigrating and berating the women for not wanting to be a part of your complicated situation.I hope you can find the dream situation that you're looking for, but as you know the chances of it happening are slim. Even if a woman doesn't want the children and family (as for example I don't), she will still often want more than you can provide in terms of time and access. And who's to say that if it does happen, the reality is too much for your wife and she decides she can't handle it? There is so much potential for mess and hurt feelings for all, and most women are not going to take that risk. And that's not their fault, or them 'lying to themselves'. It's them looking out for themselves, which they damn well have the right to do.
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Splicey
11 years ago
Biggest issue with playing with someone who is taken is you can't dictate the rules.
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wingman2014
11 years ago
I have a wife who I love dearly. She is absolutely wonderful in every way ...but. After we became parents , she switched to maternal mode , as many women do . Her focus was now solely our children , the down side was that she no longer felt the desire for sex much at all . We only had sex 8 to 10 times a year. I tried everything I could possibly think of to try and reignite that spark we had but to no avail. This obviously led to much tension in the household to the extent that we almost separated a few times . Eventually it dawned on me that I had no right to try and change her because she is happy with her sexual side as is. I was the one with the issues . As the frustration built I felt I had to do something . I went in search of a discrete FB. As a very sexual man , I missed the desire , lust and passion that had gone missing in my life. On another site I met a lady in a similar situation to my own . We got on really well and understood each others situation and did not want to complicate our lives outside of our meets. The problem was that despite having set ground rules in place . We developed feelings for each other . Experiencing such intimacy again made it difficult to not give in to . After a year together I decided that we could no longer be lovers for both our sakes. I am on RHP not to hit on women ( fact is I never have) this site is like therapy for me as I can chat and flirt with people with similar attitudes and interests. That's me , I can't speak for others . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
We recently entered into an open relationship, and about 3 months in our marriage is as good as ever.My FWB is exactly after the same as me (Mr Flicka). She doesnt want a man in her life full time, and understands my long term relationship (24 years married, 28 years together).I guess thats what i am after, some different sex that my wife is totally fine with. Nobody will ever come close to the connection i have with Mrs Flicka but my FWB is some one i can visit for a coffee or a fuck.
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erotictouch4u
11 years ago
Appreciation and companionship. I get son ready for school in the morning. I work all day. I come home, cook dinner, clean up and put son to bed. I get no thanks for it. What does she do ? Just sit on facebook and complain if the internet is slow. She doesn't work through the day. Nothing more than happens with most wives get I hear you all say... For me, havng an FWB is just as much about the closeness which is lacking in the marriage, talking about everyday things, sharing likes and dislikes about the day's events and the coming weekend outings. The "benefits" are there to be had between consenting adults for "mutual pleasure". ET xox
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erotictouch4u
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'I secretly don't have much sympathy for people who stay in unhappy marriages, I get it, it's about kids and money but is that enough? For me it is about not abandoning my son's mother who has no job and no money and no other place to stay. We stay friends, almost like flatmates but with the maternal/paternal connection to our son.
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RHP User
11 years ago
on virtually every single woman I have had a long (ish) relationship with. Why? Because I could.. How would i feel if they did it behind my back? I wouldn't give a shit.. OR.. I would ask to join in. I PREFER to play with married and attached women.. and, if I one day get shot by an angry hubby? Once again, I dont give a shit.. It is an honerable way to die.. AND, it wouldnt be with a bullet in my back as I RAN from the house.. :) It would be in the front, as I bragged about his wife being a hot fck.. I believe people take life WAAAAY too serious, and i do NOT believe we should be MONOGOMOUS .. Which of course, is why I am single, and vow to stay that was forever..
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RHP User
11 years ago
I just want to say I think it's very refreshing that Meeka wants to understand what married guys are looking for and why they are looking for it. I don't usually comment in the forums due mainly to the comments I have had from women on the site about being married and looking. Personally I try not to judge these poor souls. They don't know me or my reasons for being here and have probably been burnt in the past so I don't judge them. As with any aspect of life there are the genuine honest people and there are the "others". And there is nothing wrong with that each to their own. Some of us are just looking for an ego boost or generally restless an like I push the boundaries. Others have a need that May or may not be fulfilled at home and are looking at other options. Personally I am happily married in some respects. It could always be better. But there are aspects that my wife has no interest in at all for numerous reasons. I am always upfront about this with anyone I approach. I believe it's always best to be upfront and lay ground rules first. I am not looking for a loving relationship, it's more a need. But there are levels of attachment. If any of my friends feel like they are getting to close I am always upfront with them. I am not looking for notches but I am also not looking for someone to be attached to either. I prefer married women to play with mainly as they understand the need for it to be platonic as possible and not form attachments. It always surprises me when I contact married women and the explain that they are looking for NSA but only with single guys? It doesn't make any sense to me but it's what they choose and who are we to judge if we aren't prepared to walk in their shoes for a bit. - Posted from rhpmobile
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bobbob6969
11 years ago
Its an interesting issue From recent past experience - it is dangerous because it does play on emotions and both FWB parterners well-being. Especially if one partner wants to take it further and the other doesn't. Someone is going to get hurt and you lose a good friendship. sometimes its just best not to cross the line unless you are both prepared for the worst and can handle it. You both have to know the rules and have a backout clause. Both be mature enough to say thats it when its time before you really do damage to both lives. But it was great while it lasted and we both got a lot out of it. ;) its also too hard to lead a double life. So either be open with it all, do something about your own life so you can lead a single life or pay for it. But I am not sure which route to take (cant even take my own advice). There must be some gorgeous ladies out there that just need lots of attention without the baggage. Maybe I am looking for the purple unicorn.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Amongst the many pure casuals I have had, a couple of women have become true lovers... And due to knowing where we stand exactly regarding my family, we can embrace our love with understanding and have experienced some amazing emotional connections that can't be compared... Like being wrapped around each other gazing into each other with pure whole hearted understanding of each other, discussing tips of how they can find there Prince Charming lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
11 years ago
The voice of reason Cavey. 👍- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'luvitruf' You can see that the profile is verified so my wife does know about this profile, and i now only have MY photo on the profile so as to not confuse or lead anyone on. You're profile isn't verified though.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' Quoting 'Alius'Let me ask this then.....What happens if YOU develop feelings Alius and decide you don't want the baggage you share with your wife? What happens when you ask your Lover for fidelity, knowing that you can't offer the same? Cake and eating it much.... I would never expect sexual fidelity (don't recall implying such) ... that would be hypocritical and indeed counter productive. The whole point is different people want different things and as stated the "lover" would probably be the polar opposite of the wife, wanting multiple sexual partners (casual or or otherwise) without the attendant emotional, familial and financial commitments ?You can never say never and you don't choose who you fall in love with. IF something more developed both ways despite the careful planning and ground rules then in all honesty I guess I would be true to myself and go with it ... such is life. Of course the opposite is true also (and has been my experience so far) constant reinforcement that despite the difference in sexual appetite I made the right choice on balance.
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lookandsee12
11 years ago
Well just my opinion but, I have been married 31 years, i love my wife and the sex is good. But I have a need for more than sex with just one woman. We have tried playing with other couples but she is not interested in the swinging thing, so i find myself on here. There are many married and attached women on this site, looking for exactly the same thing as I am, that is, no strings attached sex. Not a free hooker as Freya suggests but someone with whom you can have a laugh, a drink and some good sex then return to your respective wife or husband. I see married women as a safer option when it comes to the issue of developing feelings for each other. obviously feelings will develop but a happily married woman is unlikely to want to leave her husband for a casual lover. One more thing. I make no secret of my married status, so I can't see why anyone other than my wife would take issue with what i am doing.
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RHP User
11 years ago
My wife and I are monogamish, we really enjoy being with each other and have really strong emotional and family commitments, these are really important to us. However, we also regard sex as just being sex. Sometimes we both have fun with another couple, sometimes one of us plays with another, but it is always with total regard to our relationship. Our perspective is that one fuck on the side doesn't outweigh fifteen years of being together.
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Plain
11 years ago
My partner for 28 years has had brain cancer for 25 of those years and until about 7 years ago our life was relatively normal, I had a setback developed an unusual blood pressure condition and my partner had the first of three major surgeries as a result of tumors becoming aggressive and spreading. Now my partner is a fighter, she fights for me, with me and for her life and she will do this till the end. However as a result of having to fight a certain hardness has developed a complete lack of interest in sex has also developed not out of disinterest by the way, but of pain and anxiety, brain injuries caused by accidents or invasive operations do weird things to peoples senses and nerves.And in this time being on the straight and narrow, however on a work interstate trip I had met an old friend from school, we had dinner and one thing led to another, yes she is married and we have a giggle about it knowing winks. BUT here is the thing, natural feminine softness came as a bit of a shock to me and I realised I had missed it for a period of life and now crave it. I am old enough and hopefully wise enough to know the signs of an attachment developing. Have met a lady who understands our situation and she has been a godsend over the last year. Do I have open approval from my partner, not quiet, as she eloquently puts it, "you are a man I can no longer give you what you want sexually, find someone who will, but dont ever bring this out in the open, because it will remind me of things I can no longer give you ".If you think this is a cop out and some will, look at it that way try looking from another perspective, am I comfortable no but since you have asked and some barbed replies were given just want to set out a circumstance. RHP gives me room to express myself and if nothing happens cest la vie. And please refrain from saying sorry life is what it is you muddle through as best you can and as I say to my partner I will be there to the end.
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inspirit
11 years ago
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your*
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madotara69
11 years ago
I think this is in a part on topic.Over the years I more so than Tara have lived in both the worlds of an extroverted lifestyle, and more recently to the introverted lifestyle, both fantastic for each to the other.In all the time with being amongst other people, I don't know of many if any at all that are attached/married, that would be considered allowed to play around with someone outside the relationship. So we consider that they would be cheating and certainly would not want their spouse to have any knowledge of the act. Not saying it does not happen,though in reality from experience I would consider it rare.I think that if I asked Tara to entertain the thoughts of me playing with another woman outside of our relationship, it would hurt her, she may say go for it, though a brave face I would guess.I know it would hurt me if Tara chose to seek the same and I would certainly need to muster up a lot of courage to see past the meanings. There would be a lot of feelings to contend with.So what I as the married man look for to RHP, is finding others, so far unattached men that we can form a friendship with together and all. Friendships take a little time at least to form, though once made there can be a lot more of those strings that make experience a well worthwhile happening.Simply we have decided that playing with married or attached men, would be to high for the chance they are cheating and we just do not want to be a part with that hurtful game. It would be naive to just believe that these attached men are allowed to play alone. Same for attached women for that matter.We both still believe and live the life of being happily married, so we chose to live this playful lifestyle together and hope to find a select few along the way who agree with becoming friends with a little but lasting root now and then.The reason I say, I look for, is that Tara trusts my judgement to our best interests, it is our thing that I am enjoying with this place and some of the people in particular. Therefore we plan on having some good times. But it still has to be real and not a lie.MadoMado Tara xx
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precious142
11 years ago
to separate lust from love, the rest came easy..... I have hooked up with a few marrieds, enjoyed their company in and out of the bedroom..... but before they turn up, I go through the old mantra - Fu*k them and forget them -works for me!!!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well these married n or attached guys make it so hard for us guys here that do want sex n laughs n drinks out n the stuff but not wanting a full relationship ?? Anyway my thought on the married / attached guys is they may be looking for more of an ego boost rather then the nooky on the side. I'm sure if there partners did the same thing they wldnt b happy ?? Anyway how does a single guy compete with the married/attached guy :) God this free spirt open minded sex n laughs is so friggen hard
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RHP User
11 years ago
That's tough. I wish all the best for the both of you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
You know what. I disagree, I don't believe that a woman can switch off and expect her husband to be satisfied with having sex 8 times a year. I know I haven't been married for 20 years, and I don't have kids.... But I still don't think it's right. Really puts you in a rock and a hard place really.
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RHP User
11 years ago
What the hell are you talking about? How does a single guy compete? Errr I assume the single guy has an enormous advantage over married and attached guys when it comes to finding women. Being a single father on the other hand... That might be different.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' You know what. I disagree, I don't believe that a woman can switch off and expect her husband to be satisfied with having sex 8 times a year. I know I haven't been married for 20 years, and I don't have kids.... But I still don't think it's right. Really puts you in a rock and a hard place really. I'm with Meeka regarding your situation; I don't think that the problem is solely yours. Ok, I don't have kids myself, but I don't understand why some women end up virtually ignoring their partners after they have children and focussing only on the kids. I can probably understand for the first few months after birth, it's all new and exciting and the mother wants to bond with her baby and all that, but surely there has to come a time when she realises that she still has a partner to think about as well, and even if it's difficult, to purposefully set aside a bit of time for their relationship. Because good relationships do involve compromise by both parties. I think not doing so probably has implications for the children as well, after all it's from their parents that they first learn about relationships and form ideas about how they should or shouldn't work. And then what happens when the kids finally grow up, leave home, and the woman looks around and finds she doesn't have anyone left to spend her time and energy on, because her partner has either already left, or they've basically become emotionally and physically estranged from each other. Now don't get me wrong, in terms of sex I'm not saying that a husband should be able to force his wife in any way to do it if she doesn't want to. What I am saying is that I think a woman who finds that after having kids she doesn't want sex anymore for an extended period of time, should at least be still communicating with her husband and making an effort to understand why that is - is it purely because of being tired most of the time or is there something else going on as well - perhaps with the help of a professional if necessary. I don't think she should just start shutting him out both physically and emotionally, with no explanation or discussion, and making him feel guilty for wanting sex. In those situations yes I can understand why a man would start looking elsewhere for not only the physical closeness, but the emotional as well (that doesn't change my position re not sleeping with married men, whilst I may understand their motives in some cases I'm still not prepared to get involved myself).
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have a friend that only meets married men, now I don't agree that she should do that, but it's been fascinating listening to all the stories. 99% of the time it doesn't go anywhere but the amount of times she has been able to improve the guys marriage is amazing. By giving them the female perspective, without the anger and heat, and giving them advise on how to get included back into the family and into the wives bed. Seems like most of them feel left out of their own family, their only role is to bring home the money. They are starved of affection and intimacy and they often don't know how to fix it. Something I was surprised at the number of guys who go onto the cheating sites when they haven't even told their wife how they feel!! Seems bizarre to me, one of the points I also got from her experiences is That most men don't want to cheat.... They all still love their wife and wish things were the same as when they first met, before kids, etc.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I feel that there are varying reasons why people decide what they do. We can all shun it as a society as a whole but the reality is, is that men AND women are often playing around on each other. Who do you think the married men are playing with?? Married women. Personally. I don't feel it is my place to judge what is happening in your relationship nor you on my relationship and I agree that it is possible to love more than one at the same time. We don't live in an ideal world where we get complete fulfillment from one person for the rest of our lives but one thing still remains- we only have one. I know I'll probably be slammed for my comments by all the women who have been cheated on especially and I get that, I've been there too. But I have widened in my old age and therefore don't hold an expectation over anyone I am with and if they expect something from me it's not going to work out. I applaud how brave alius was for sharing his honest opinion - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Agree It is very sad for married men in these situations especially when these married men are great lovers, sexy, caring, great to be with.....just frustrating that their wives cant see it :( Whats worse is when they feel they are in the wrong for wanting intimacy and affection more often and then when they look for it outside of the marriage they have the feelings of guilt to contend with.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Quoting 'shakaG009'BUT here is the thing, natural feminine softness came as a bit of a shock to me and I realised I had missed it for a period of life and now crave it. I am old enough and hopefully wise enough to know the signs of an attachment developing. Have met a lady who understands our situation and she has been a godsend over the last year. Do I have open approval from my partner, not quiet, as she eloquently puts it, "you are a man I can no longer give you what you want sexually, find someone who will, but dont ever bring this out in the open, because it will remind me of things I can no longer give you ".If you think this is a cop out and some will, look at it that way try looking from another perspective, am I comfortable no but since you have asked and some barbed replies were given just want to set out a circumstance. RHP gives me room to express myself and if nothing happens cest la vie. And please refrain from saying sorry life is what it is you muddle through as best you can and as I say to my partner I will be there to the end. Thank you, you explained it very well.
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RHP User
11 years ago
What am I after? Just a chance to experience something missing from home life.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you.. I try.. Some say I am trying... *shrugs*.. Still only profess to be ONLY me :)
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hotcouplewanted
11 years ago
Very good question but seems to me that the answer is so obvious. Those referred man are looking for the same thing that any women are looking for, FUN. It might be turned into many different things, such as a NSA sex,just a dirt talk, to satisfy some curiosity, all of this with different level of intimacy. what I felt a quite strange was the very last question..." Why do you think a woman should even meet with you?"and the answer again is simple as "Why not?". You may have a reason for not be willing to meet someone married/ attached, but there are out there other lots of woman that would be keen instead, for many reason from because the married man has got some "experience to share", or being married give him no right to ask for anything more than just casual sex. Trust me , married man, like any other member of this website, is a human being and has got some needs, fantasies, wishes,desires and their own will to do things that come to their mind at some stage of their life. Let's be reasonable, that same question could be made to you...Why would a man should even meet you? I could give at least a dozen reasons...as the same of any man. cheers
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Playful2looking
11 years ago
what are they looking for, casual sex with married women or single girls. why do they need to explain themselves. they are after some fun, this is a sex site as well as a dating site . Of course people can have on going feelings about the person they are bonking. A free hooker my god do the girls really feel like they are a free hooker. It seems they want more then sex from RHP.
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RHP User
11 years ago
The irony of human sexual attraction is that women need intimacy and connection to feel sexual and men need sex to feel intimate and connected. Each sex has it's reasons why the sex falls away. If the sex stops for any reason, if the intimacy drops away then you enter into a feedback loop that is self sustaining. The solution is as simple and as difficult as just having sex, Unfortunately someone has to make the start. Therein lies the problem in many longer term relationships. I've been that "other woman"...... In some cases I was the delightful lover that allowed him to feel desired and sexy, and returned him to his wife, Sometimes I was the one that he explored the Kinky Fuckery with that the wife just wasn't into, sometimes I was the one who validated him and made him feel important and appreciated, who listened and found him fascinating. Men (and women) wander for a number of reasons. Some facts that you might not be aware of: 1. Women generally “check out” of their marriage two years before they actually leave. When the time comes and they actually leave it is too late for counselling because she has emotionally left already. 2. Estimates are that between 20% and 50% of married people will have an affair at some time in their marriage. 3. A recent Australian study has shown that only 46% of married men consider they have enough sex and 58% of married women 4. 1 in 5 married couples say their marriage is non sexual (less than 10 times per year). These marriages are statistically less happy and more likely to end in divorce. In addition to the these it’s worth noting that the reasons why men and women are unfaithful are different. Top 3 reasons men cheat: 1. They want more sex 2. They crave variety in their sexual experience 3. To feel validated Top 3 reasons women cheat: 1. They don’t feel emotionally supported in their marriage 2. They feel neglected, ignored and underappreciated in their marriage 3. They feel a lack of intimacy with their partner
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Fantasyplus
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' You know what. I disagree, I don't believe that a woman can switch off and expect her husband to be satisfied with having sex 8 times a year. I know I haven't been married for 20 years, and I don't have kids.... But I still don't think it's right. Really puts you in a rock and a hard place really. He is absolutely right. After I had our son (last child), I no longer wanted sex, I just didn't feel comfortable enough in myself, I felt ugly and fat and I didn't want my husband to see that. 3 years later I have lost 30 kilos, I have the sex drive I had when I was 19, and am skinnier and I love it. Women can just switch off, it's not physical it's a mental thing.I have a FWB who was advertised on here as a Single Male, it wasn't until after we hooked up and connected (mentally and physically) that I found out he was attached. I confronted him with the question: "Are you single like your profile says or are you attached?" He never lied when he answered and even ended our FWB relationship/agreement/whatever you want to call it. I wanted to know they same question: Why are you on RHP? What do you want? So I met him for coffee the next day and I got my answer: TA (The Attached as I call her) is Vanilla…straighty 180. He is Kink and needs more than what she is willing to give him, I can understand that…Vanilla is boring, missionary sex all the time? No Thanks! After coming to a compromise, there is me and TA and that is all. The day I found out he was attached he deleted his account on here. She does not know about me, and the less I know about here the better. Mrs Fantasy.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Quoting 'cavey50' Thank you.. I try.. Some say I am trying... *shrugs*.. Still only profess to be ONLY me :)I love that you are quite prepared to take a bullet for fucking me or any married women you come across. Has to beat the hell out of picking buckshot from your arse under a tree a few hundred yards away. gotta love the Shiek from Scrubby Creek. I finally looked at your PG, pheweeee you were quite the stunner a decade or so ago hey? And I love a man who's prepared to get down and dirty with me, in the mud even....
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RHP User
11 years ago
Because lots of women don't want to meet a married man because you are taken. Now if you and the wife are here for the swinging lifestyle. Well that's awesome and that's your answer, meet "us" because we can offer you group sex. I think a lot of women don't want to be with someone who is lying to their partner, and they don't want to risk getting their heart broken ... So again. Why should a single woman hook up with you when you are not emotionally available and can only offer sex? Correct me if I am wrong but a lot of women want more than just sex. As can be seen things are not just black and white, and I can offer married guys who are not getting their needs met at home my sympathies.... But at the end of the day. That's your problem not mine, why would I risk getting involved with that?
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RHP User
11 years ago
RE Your second paragraph? I would suggest to the lovely ladies out there, if "the man" looks too good to be true, odds are they are " attached" "married" have a gf!.... or they have issues ! OR they want you to hook them up with yourself and your girlfriend for some FMF fun!!! I'm generally talking of the mid 20s to 30s bracket here.....older then that and they are generally guaranteed married divorced a suit case of baggage oh and did I mention issues? Mrs S ( typed with tongue in cheek) p.ss and if you think they are just bonking you... good luck with that! .. ok now my hands are over mymouth
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RHP User
11 years ago
What's that mean? They are doing more than bonking? Oh no, does that mean I have to listen to all their baggage. * Sigh *
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RHP User
11 years ago
This is why I want more, because I like to go out and having a drink or a meal, or a dance, or doing something social occasionally with my lovers because it's fun. And I am single and free and I want to have a good time. I don't want to meet married men in dingy hotels, bonk in car parks, sneak around then go home. All married/attached men are offering is just sex, a commodity in plentiful supply. Would that be fair to say?
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him_and_me
11 years ago
Hey Meeka, One thing I alluded to in a previous post was the prospect of making friends with broader horizons too. We stumbled into this after being together for 15 years or so and I'm not sure we want tonchat to our current crop of friends about it. However, it would be great to be able to chat about it with likeminded people who enjoy the same kind of experiences. Maybe over dinner, at the pub or even a weekend away. It doesn't even have to result on sex. We were chatting about this just last night abd saying how we thought some couples just seem like they'd make great friends with broad horizons. If sex would in someway complicate that, the I'll opt out of that and just have them as mates. Him.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
not you per se meeka, I meant the "ladies in general" the too good to be true "single" types out there.
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RHP User
11 years ago
And if the "attached/ married" types were smart they'd stay away from singles such as yourself purely for all the reasons already stated..emotional attachment , the ability to be wined/ dined etcetcetc.. On RHP , there is room enough for all sorts. the key is to be upfront and honest. Have your bull shit radar on with whomever you come into contact with and decide from there whether you wish to move forward.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Freya77' a free hooker?....I think I have compassion fatigue OK I've not been paying much attention to this site of late and only just caught up with this thread. Before replying I have read all of the thread and if there's one post that I feel the need to comment on the above is it!I have spent a lot of time and a certain amount of money on these sites...enough to have had a few sexual experiences with working girls. I have chosen not to go with the working girls as I want to be with a girl who is horny and wants to be with a man not just is money which she may well either spend on her kids of her habit. In answer to the OP I am looking for a friend with benefits and would quite happily have an ongoing affair with just one lover. As for the feelings I/she would develop they are inevitable but a pre-bonk conversation should lay out some ground rules..and an exit clause too. As I said to my wife I will develop feelings for "her" but Mrs Fitzzz has got a 25 year head start on any other girls so that along with Mrs Fitzzz being the mother of my children and my best friend and soul mate put er well ahead of the opposition. So why should a girl even meet with me? Only the girls can answer this one. In all the time I've been lurking on theses sites I have only met one woman face to face, her husband has a medical condition and is impotent (ED). When we met she had also met someone else, but wanted to meet with me too. At the time of our first meeting my consent to screw around was conditional on my resolving my then lousy employment situation! As Mrs Fitzzz said she had bigger problems than my sex life! We have discussed the matter again a few times and the last time was at Mrs Fitzzz's instigation. She doesn't want to know anything about it other than that which is strictly necessary...I'm going out and I won't be back tonight...Mrs Fitzzz has completely lost interest in sex and has only been giving me sympathy fucks out of a sense of duty. Sometimes she have a "few" drinks before coming to my bed, all in all a bit sad,especially the time she fell out of bed.I love her all the more for her giving me that hall pass. Also since we've discussed these matters the elephant as left the room and we're getting on together a lot better than we have in years. Now if I could find someone who wants be friends with Ben_E_Fitzzz. Que sera sera what ever will be will be...hoowhee did I lust after Doris Day in that film (Move over darling) Oh and I couldn't give a toss about anybody's value judgement on this matter and this post.I have enjoyed reading all this thread so far and will follow it with interest.Anyone who s in the least bit curious can check out my profile it hasn't been altered recently and won't be in the near future.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Freya77' a free hooker?....I think I have compassion fatigue I happen to know a certain up market establishment charges $350.00 per hour per girl, but I do believe that hookers are available for less. I really don't know.
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RHP User
11 years ago
now I will bake my own cake and eat it too. I'm proud.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I raced across the room.. as I felt something hit me.. I heard and AWEFUL "Boom" *grins*
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RHP User
11 years ago
I just threw my best baked cheesecake at your head. I'm a good shot. Now let me strap you down while I bite the pastry off your face, because that's the best bit.
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inspirit
11 years ago
I do require a Plumber and a Sparky though
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' I do require a Plumber and a Sparky though Trees need lopping? Hedges need a trim? Garden? Lawns?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Don't forget the happy tiler... 😄 Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
11 years ago
while I understand your situation,you need to answer the question...why should a woman meet with you?...Your wife is your soul mate and best friend and will always come first.. most single women want to be more than second best...so what are you actually offering? ...a pre-bonk conversation, ground rules and an exit clause ....puhleese...I refer back to my free hooker comment....sounds like a business transaction to me Ben.
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RHP User
11 years ago
When a women says a man is after a free hooker what she means is that you have made her feel cheap and undervalued and that she is just a hole for you to put your penis in, who she is and what she is like seems to be of no consequence and is unimportant to the guy. We are sometimes made to feel this way from messages we receive from what I suspect are usually married/attached men, at least a sex worker is paid well for her time and no doubt is treated with more respect. So it kind of rebounds on them because they are the ones that look cheap and nasty and slutty. I AM NOT SAYING THAT YOU DO THAT, OR ALL ATTACHED GUYS DO THAT, just addressing the free hooker comment.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit'I do require a Plumber and a Sparky though That works!!! Service for service, nothing free, cheap or easy about it.
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wingman2014
11 years ago
Hope you pay your GST? - Posted from rhpmobile
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Chillymofo
11 years ago
Crap, you are rightmy last one was, and we ended up changing some years agoWill have to re-verify - That said, our other profile on another site IS verified - just checked it haha! Quoting 'Mesmerised' Quoting 'luvitruf' You can see that the profile is verified so my wife does know about this profile, and i now only have MY photo on the profile so as to not confuse or lead anyone on. You're profile isn't verified though.
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Plain
11 years ago
Keep lurking away there mate, you never know, what may happen , and I am glad you have approval from the missus. See what happens when you ask and tell the truth. Yep the soft gentle intimacy of a a willing and understanding partner sure beats paying and feeling depressed afterwards.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' When a women says a man is after a free hooker what she means is that you have made her feel cheap and undervalued and that she is just a hole for you to put your penis in, who she is and what she is like seems to be of no consequence and is unimportant to the guy. We are sometimes made to feel this way from messages we receive from what I suspect are usually married/attached men, at least a sex worker is paid well for her time and no doubt is treated with more respect. this is so true for some guys, which is why I personally will not entertain any advances from attached guys. In my opinion, any pre-bonk conversation or laying down the rules etc is all BS. at the end of the day Mr married is just after sex without the guilt or cost that might come with having to go with a professional sex worker. I mean, whats really in it for the single ladies? equally good sex can be found from single guys or from playing with a couple not one half of it only. as mentioned before, often, these sex hook-ups with married men involve meeting in discreet places or at the lady's place and often all under the guy's terms. If it were me I would feel used in the end, worse still after what Ben just said about his wife which to me sounds like if a single girl was to hook up with him it would purely be for him to have somewhere to relieve himself and not much is on offer for the lady apart from just sex. which makes me wonder too why RHP and not the pros?
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inspirit
11 years ago
Plumber and Sparky still required.... Indi..I think you are on too something... Barterpussy lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
I was about to say something similar but you did such a good job of it I thought 'why bother!'Quoting 'Alius' Perhaps we are not be entirely happy with how our monogamous sex lives have evolved after long periods of time but are certainly not going to shred lives, livelihoods and otherwise happy healthy relationships with wives and children just so we can have a little NSA fun ? We see the hundreds of women on RHP with profess that profess to want exactly all we can offer and think - this might work ... of course we didn't realise when signing up that most were lying to themselves and won't even entertain those who are most suited to being able to maintain a casual relationship without forming the very emotional attachments they seek to avoid. The impression I get is that most see it as an all or nothing proposition .. you either go without or you burn the house down which is a ridiculous duality of false choice. I myself would prefer an ongoing lover if one were to be found because my motivation is a lack of intimacy in my marriage not a lack of variety or desire to rack up notches on the bedpost. In my dreams the lover and wife would become friends - wife wants the family, children and rest of the baggage you share while the lover wants what the wife doesn't anymore ... sex, passion lust etc.. Of course we all hope to get everything we need from a single person but life doesn't follow our imagined rules. Clearly there is no such thing as "No Strings At All" and this isn't a problem unless competing for the same part of the pie. Any mother or father of multiple children can tell you it is entirely possible to "love" more than 1 person simultaneously without it being hierarchical or competitive in nature.
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RHP User
11 years ago
After a while of being with the same partner you sometimes get into a sexual pattern where you are both happy and satisfied afterwards but playing with another person now and then might just give you some thing you have not done before and you can try with your main partner (yes we have a great sex life also) we both have no intention of leaving each other for another person on here, so its just seek the new FWB partner for added spice, and if they are happy to play with us both then thats great also. Our biggest thing is if the people we contact think we are doing it behind each others back then they are more than happy to speak to either of us on the phone to confirm we are both happy to let the other play!! Funnily enough if we did not try swinging about 5yrs back we probably would not be together today and that is a true story!! We are more happy and sexual now than what we ever were!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
that the majority of responders are from 'couple' profiles. Admittedly a few target market people have answered the OP's question, and the few have been honest and unabashed and I appreciate it. As a single lady, I get regular contact with gents who, at the last minute before a meet suddenly admit to being married and ask if it's an 'issue'. I respond asking why they feel the need to cheat and they 'all' (god forbid my generalisation but I can say it's a regular occurrence) suddenly back pedal, say they haven't 'done' anything wrong by their woman and are only chatting. (The guilt is palpable) Really? Tut tut, as a woman who was trapped in a sexless marriage due to mediocrity, forgive my sarcasm, why do we always assume that 'she' has kids and loses her libido????? I was the one climbing walls desperate for attention whilst he shut down. And it's not uncommon. Lets shake those labels off. But still want to hear an answer to Meek's question - why would we even want to go there? All benefits are negated with breath.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Some great comments there and some cynicism too. Enough said! The burning question, Why would a women even meet up with you? I've have only met up with one woman who I have met on the net, her with the hubby who's got ED.As per my prior post I have met her face to face three times, 2 coffees and a lunch. We've hugged and pecked and that's it for the physical side of things. I met her about six months ago and keep in touch with her firstly by email then recently by phone. Not surprisingly she has had more male attention than she can handle...it's my privilege to be one of her friends. The first time I met her face to face was when my "leave pass" was "suspended" due to circumstance. We had coffee at Ikea, I told her prior to the meeting what my circumstance were. Her reply was that there was no harm in two pen pals meeting up for coffee,and anyway she was already seeing someone, Mr Guilty, a married man. Recently she's sort of beeen seeing a married man who's FIFO worker.Bla bla bla I spoke to her on the phone on Friday again she's a good friend to talk about things I most certainly couldn't talk about with almost anyone else. There is someone else whose feminine advice is available to me. Anyway I think she wanted to meet meet me because she liked me, initially the chats flowed freely, easily and comfortably. The Catch-22 is that now that I have resolved my job issues and got a new job I'm just too bust to meet up with her as she can only meet during business hours Monday to Friday. As I type this she is probably out having an anniversary dinner with the old man. Happy anniversary babe, maybe one day... The friend I am looking for here is someone who might meet up to do some laps at the pool, go skinny dipping at Swanbourne or come for a ride with me on my motorcycle, the Triumph Trident 900. I am not a sleazy buzzard and I'll not impose myself on anyone. I'm not particularly interested in single girls, but more interested in those other women who have men in their past who are not in the picture now. The woman I am looking for would like a man in her bed but not so much in her life. I am told these women exist. If there's any truth in the formula that men should not keep with "young women", that is half your age plus seven so I'd be pretty wary of women younger than 37! 40's OK, 50's yeah yeah and to find a good keen girl in her 60's would be just be great...Enough for now, great thread!
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RHP User
11 years ago
From the coalface........truth?? well inmost case's it's a is a question human needs, you enter a partnership, and the moral side of you wants to keep the partnership going.... but then the physical and sexual intimacy slows or stops... after few months or more with the arrival of kids, most Married guys expect physical intimacy to drop off - but when it never resumes it makes problems.. hence Married guys here... seems to me many women equate kids with the cessation of intimacy... sometimes weeks ( fair enough) sometimes months ( OK.. you should be able to deal with advice/ support) but when its years...........? I'm assuming no-one wants to hear this - and yes. with the right person, you would have a "rethink"
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RHP User
11 years ago
This is a great question, and a great discussion. I am a married man, and agree with the comments made by Alius, but will go one step further. I am a bisexual male, and as such enjoy men and women. Throughout my life I have been involved in many different ways with different people, and have many loved ones in many varieties of life. I love my wife, and don't seek to change my situation, but am looking for a lover to enjoy sexually the things my wife doesn't enjoy. I keep this discreet and hidden to avoid upsetting her feelings, and know she has done the same for me in the past. I am a kinky sexual man, and love different varieties of pleasure than her, and wish to sate that desire with a lover/s. That said, I know that feelings will develop, but this is where it gets interesting. Sex without passion is exactly what the ladies of the evening offer, and not what interests me. I'm looking for a passionate, sexually adventurous lover, and was hoping a site like this would offer similar people chasing similar arrangements. I get endlessly annoyed at the judgemental character of many discussions on this website, and think it is fair to say everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but not to judge another person or their opinions. To clear the air about cake and eating it, how ridiculous is it to say you are looking for no strings lovers, as long as they are single, available and willing to take things further. I think this is the "ego boost" of our generation. So many people want to be in control, and I find that sexy, but you cannot have it all, either you can be no strings, and enjoy the attentions, affections and passions freely offered, or you can be honest with yourself and others and admit you are looking for a relationship in which you are in charge, and will take what you want, when you want it and with no responsibility, commitment or accountability for your own actions and there impact on others. This goes for men and women equally. So now I've had a rant, i'm seeking open healthy passionate people for sexually adventurous encounters. I am hoping to find someone with similar tastes to myself to become an ongoing lover, and satisfy each other in many ways. For the right person I offer sexual intimacy, passion, pleasure and exploration, along with the care and love one devotes to intimate friends. This will never replace my wife, or take precedence, as she always come first. If the lover I take finds this painful or difficult, then we can discuss and resolve at the time. I make it clear and up front from the beginning, and expect mutual respect and honesty of all people I meet, in relation to feelings as well as tastes etc. This means if you are struggling to cope with the emotions involved, talk about it and if they are still too much, have respect for each other and end it. Just my opinions and advice, but that's what I want, and how I see the world. xx
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Quoting 'wingman2013'Hope you pay your GST? - Posted from rhpmobile I used to pay the average person's yearly wage in tax....and then some. As far as I'm concerned whatever you can get achieve for a minimal outlay is a "great deal"!!! I can't use my body, so I just rely on hooking people up with other things that might come in handy.....like a coffin. Since the only two certain things in life are death and taxes.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I would love to have a tax problem.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am a married woman. I'm not getting sex at home and currently have a boyfriend I adore. He gives me what I need emotionally and physically. For reasons I don't want to break up my marriage I need to get those 'extras' to stay sane. Ok, I'm not a guy but I am married so I thought I'd answer.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I have a friend that only meets married men, now I don't agree that she should do that, but it's been fascinating listening to all the stories. 99% of the time it doesn't go anywhere but the amount of times she has been able to improve the guys marriage is amazing. By giving them the female perspective, without the anger and heat, and giving them advise on how to get included back into the family and into the wives bed. Seems like most of them feel left out of their own family, their only role is to bring home the money. They are starved of affection and intimacy and they often don't know how to fix it. Something I was surprised at the number of guys who go onto the cheating sites when they haven't even told their wife how they feel!! Seems bizarre to me, one of the points I also got from her experiences is That most men don't want to cheat.... They all still love their wife and wish things were the same as when they first met, before kids, etc. Let me know when your friend has 5 minutes spare......
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'flicka69' ...I guess thats what i am after, some different sex that my wife is totally fine with. Nobody will ever come close to the connection i have with Mrs Flicka but my FWB is some one i can visit for a coffee or a fuck. Exactly the same, and my wife is fine with it. So there - and I always make sure that I ask a potential FWB if she is after a relationship, in which case I will make it clear she's only getting a friend (not enough - then move on please, I value friendship, some people obviously don't) And one more thing - the comments about a "free hooker" - yes, it can be seen that way, but it works very well if the other person is also looking for a free (male) hooker...?!?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Meeks ask Why do you think a woman should even meet with you? Answer= Great anal sex
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RHP User
11 years ago
cynical me sums up most comments from the married men as.. I will always love my wife...she will always come first....how dare you suggest I just want a free hooker...I want passion ,and connection...however if you develop feelings for me..move on. Of course single women will jump at the chance to experience this,why would they not?
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RHP User
11 years ago
why RHP and not professionals?...a friend of mine after his divorce spent $30,000 in one year .
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