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Name and Shame
July 21 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
But this is an outrage. You should not talk to these imbeciles!. Ma Cherie I would never treat a woman of your beauty zis way. :(
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RHP User
11 years ago
I say no way. Any information about other members would be second-hand and completely subjective. I've heard things about men here before I met them that turned out to be completely fabricated. And that wasn't even from a jilted lover, but from someone who had heard things from someone else. But maybe a star system like EBay? How accurate was the member's self-description? ***** How satisfied were you with the member's communication? ***** How reliable was the member? ***** How would you rate the member's sexual skills? ***** Based on the number of stars, RHP would than calculate your Overall Experience: *****
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RHP User
11 years ago
I say no way. Any information about other members would be second-hand and completely subjective. I've heard things about men here before I met them that turned out to be completely fabricated. And that wasn't even from a jilted lover, but from someone who had heard things from someone else. But maybe a star system like EBay? How accurate was the member's self-description? ***** How satisfied were you with the member's communication? ***** How reliable was the member? ***** How would you rate the member's sexual skills? ***** Based on the number of stars, RHP would than calculate your Overall Experience: *****
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RHP User
11 years ago
What the title says.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes!! Thats exactly where I was going although didn't communicate it but thank u Mesmerised, you hit the nail on the head!- Posted from rhpmobile
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JessicaRabbit
11 years ago
Totally agree with Mesmerised. There's two - sometimes three - sides to every story. I dislike the nasty gossip that sometimes goes on at private parties etc. If you've got nothing nice to say, say nothing. I had a good fwb who had a female on here spreading nasty rumours about him that were complete untruths. I've also had nasty things about me that weren't necessarily true. I'd much rather form my own educated opinion than base it on gossip. Jess xx- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'd like the eBay rating. Sort some wheat from the chaff... Hp xo
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just remember how often it gets bitchy or nasty in the chatrooms or even here in the forums. Half of RHP would have to start new profiles on a regular basis, due to "ratings" by others. All those single men who get bagged for their crap messages etc? Just watch for the comeback if they could rate others. And vice versa..
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Mr_MrsAraps
11 years ago
Not wanting to through a bucket of cold water on the idea Miss M but its still subjective isn't it ?? I can still if I wanted to create half a dozen fake female / couple profiles (that never happens on RHP .... lol) then rate myself as the best ever ....In RL I always try to go into meeting someone with a fresh slate and make my own opinion on someone for the exact reason that there are 2nd and 3rd parties involved when people say whatever about someone. If the person is a tool then that will shine through in 2 seconds. As to online and the bullshit detector ... well leave that to the peeps who are not just forum'ers ATM.Cheers,W
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RHP User
11 years ago
sorry i'm not for it, everyone has a different approach and a different reaction, we cant form an opinion based on someone else's experience. What someone might rate as a 8/10 stars for sexual skills another may find mediocre, and vice versa, and i'm sure we don't want to see our own names up in lights being scored....sorry this happened to you OP, it hasn't happened to me but i can guess how angry you may feel
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chevtrek
11 years ago
But it would be nice to filter some of these people out. I hate the profiles saying unavailable. Oh look 3s a party is one of them should we include those
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is another man's treasure......- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
It would give you ladies nothing to gossip about wouldn't it?? :P- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think getting your chain yanked is just one of those things .... It's a bit like idiot drivers. We all know they exist, we hope we don't come across them too often, but inevitably ... We will from time to time. My guess is the guy you were messaging and who stood you up, just misplaced his guide dog ;)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Araps'Not wanting to through a bucket of cold water on the idea Miss M but its still subjective isn't it ?? I was being sarcastic. Obviously not clearly enough... I'll do better next time.
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RHP User
11 years ago
No no no. Fraught with danger - lies, subjectivity, thirst for revenge etc. Not to mention time in court. We're adults on a site where we're looking to communicate with complete strangers and hope maybe we click. So, we take our chances - sometimes it works out, often it doesn't. That's life :)
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sweetgem
11 years ago
There are always multiple sides (not just two or three) to a story. I often wonder how can one really find out the truth of the story that they've heard of or been told, by all the parties that involved (if we are lucky enough to hear the story from all the parties that is), when one has not actually involved in the story?! Yes we can use common sense and intelligence to analyse the story and form our own belief, but have we really been told the truth??? Who's telling the truth is always my doubt!!! Therefore, I don't buy into anything anyone says about someone, but to meet the actual person in question and get to know them myself. So OP, I disagree with your idea, but I am not against you as an individual :-)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Mesmerised that's fantastic, I've thought that before.. Would help weed out the fakers! - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lifes_great
11 years ago
It's unfortunate that this has happened to you but 'Name & Shame'? Really?! There's good and bad wherever you go, surely the journey is part of the fun...it's all just experience. At least you'll know who you don't want to be with and better that you found out early on. And I'd have to agree with Kingoftheroad....it's a lawsuit waiting to happen.
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Cheekyarses
11 years ago
I must say I agree with sweetgem. We are all going to have good n bad experiences, the no shows, the time wasters, the fakes😳 but there are also going to be the great, the inspiring, the amazing😜 A friend of mine has had a bad run of no shows n it is very dishearting - but they also have had great times with others 😜 I do think however there should be honesty on here. It's not too hard to just say, I'm only on rhp to chat to ppl, look at pics, read the forums, go in the chat rooms n make friends with the same mind set or to message someone n say I can no longer make it for what ever reason 🌸
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RHP User
11 years ago
LOL @ Meekas strap on!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'pleasurestategrl'Mesmerised that's fantastic, I've thought that before.. Would help weed out the fakers! Sorry, but that was me being sarcastic, and the EBay idea was tongue-in-cheek. There are a few (read: heaps of) problems with idea, people creating fake profiles and potential legal action just being two of them. Yes, we're supposed to be adults here, but I've seen some high school antics here and there. Imagine some people conspiring to give someone a bad rating. It could totally affect someone's self esteem in a bad way. One woman's dud could be another one's stud, right?. (Someone else can come up with a male version).
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RHP User
11 years ago
Appreciate everyones feedback, i still like the idea of the star rating, but not a sexual one, purely 'did they follow through on plans?' I too like to form my own opinion of people based on our own interactions and I know in life you take the good with the bad, it's something I live by, But if there is no way to know these things upfront, I say to the men of Melbourne, man the f*ck up! If you change your mind/get a better offer/get cold feet/get abducted by aliens, be a man and tell the person you have plans with, you don't even need an overly elaborate excuse, just 'sorry I can't make it today' and the rest will fall into place.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
You talking so much sense today.. It's like you read my mind.. Scarey huh ? but sooo gooood... x Jay.. PS.. not that you don't always talk sense.. just saying..
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RHP User
11 years ago
One mans wine, is another mans vinegar??- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
If not a star system, how about something like insight on Jack'd.See reply rates of people, their interests etc... But I beehive a name and shame will just lead to major headaches for everyone.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'sirlurkalot'One mans wine, is another mans vinegar??I like it. Or one man's nightmare is another's wet dream?
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RHP User
11 years ago
It would just be pointlessWith anything in life there are ups and downsand what one person likes or doesn't another will or won't
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1playfulcpl
11 years ago
lot of them r just here for a chat or pic we have had all that an more mostly from couples,the same 1s that wont give time of day on here but wana chat on another site,say we not playing but a friend tells us they r liars an more ppl shud b named an shamed but legal wise we dnt but we say must be more nice ppl out there once u get past the dickheads
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RHP User
11 years ago
I guess there is no escaping these situations, they do crop up from time to time. The best way is to message before hand to see if they will be coming or not rather than wait like an idiot. Then again, there are people who message attendance and never show up. That is why I always take a book with me. If nothing else, I can finish a chapter or two while waiting MissM - One person's spam is another's ham. (Apologies to any Muslim/Jewish/Vegetarian/Vegan/RAW people reading this.)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I like yours better actually :)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
You have to remember that being stood up happens all the time anyway. (Didn't the ABC make that one of the main stories in 'The Time of Our Lives'? Poor Michelle was stood up at the altar, and damn it, I wasn't there to step in!)Everybody else is right - the only winners from such a rating scheme would be the Lawyers.
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RHP User
11 years ago
i'm afraid it's a part of these sites, people have an internet personality and once it becomes too real they back awayI have lost count of the times i have been stood up by couples and females, there was the one where i got into the hotel carpark and they said were are not interested anymore when i called to get the room number, the one where i traveled an hour to their house and then got there and the husband didn't tell his wife i was coming and she lost her mind and kicked me out, the time where i took the day off work and then they didn't respond to my text's or phone calls and then blocked me, the time i met a female for a quick drink and then play but she got drunk and then proceeded to tell me she was on that time of the month and then crack the shits when i left and didn't pay for her drinks. now i work on the premises that i get a mobile number at least and then before i even bother making plans i speak on the phone or at least meet for a coffee
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RHP User
11 years ago
Comment. Seriously, maybe it's Melbourne boys who think they're such big fellas but are actually wimps. I've had this happen twice now (which is not bad considering...) and it is frustrating. How hard is it to cancel and apologise? Luckily there are a heap of genuinely lovely guys out there who make up for the timewasters. You do have to take the good with the bad. :-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I won't stand you up:)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Awesome71'Comment. Seriously, maybe it's Melbourne boys who think they're such big fellas but are actually wimps. I've had this happen twice now (which is not bad considering...) and it is frustrating. How hard is it to cancel and apologise? Luckily there are a heap of genuinely lovely guys out there who make up for the timewasters. You do have to take the good with the bad. :-) big fellas? wimps? on a serious note, as you get further entwined into rhp , ur shit detector fine tunes itself and u can pick the no shows etc. and sometimes u just have to roll the die. mr zu, I too bring a book with me. something intellectual and not the harry potter series or 50 shades of bullshit. also, I tend to pick the venue, one that other single types frequent. always have a plan b. hahahaha
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just call me instead, lol, stunt cock to the rescue- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'zu7bcv' MissM - One person's spam is another's ham. (Apologies to any Muslim/Jewish/Vegetarian/Vegan/RAW people reading this.) Spam!!!! Spam, lovely Spam, wonderful Spam... And don't get me wrong, I certainly wasn't complaining. Life is good and no no-shows yet. Honky: "How to cold approach women on the street"?
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foreign_lover
11 years ago
Quoting 'soontir' If not a star system, how about something like insight on Jack'd.See reply rates of people, their interests etc... But I beehive a name and shame will just lead to major headaches for everyone.- Posted from rhpmobile This^Just a discrete thing but of course it would need some boxes to be checked by both parties to confirm their intentions to meet. Afterwards both parties should check another box to say if the other party followed through or not.It's not perfect as the no-show could also rate you as a no-show, but once people have been doing a number of these, the numbers should start to speak for themselves.Hmm, so many male no-shows in Melbourne? Maybe i should relocate as here there are plenty of females doing the Houdini trick
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting '3s_a_party' Appreciate everyones feedback, i still like the idea of the star rating, but not a sexual one, purely 'did they follow through on plans?' I too like to form my own opinion of people based on our own interactions and I know in life you take the good with the bad, it's something I live by, But if there is no way to know these things upfront, I say to the men of Melbourne, man the f*ck up! If you change your mind/get a better offer/get cold feet/get abducted by aliens, be a man and tell the person you have plans with, you don't even need an overly elaborate excuse, just 'sorry I can't make it today' and the rest will fall into place.- Posted from rhpmobile YES , 3s_a_party! I agree! If only they'd just say "Can't make it today, sorry!" & leave out the overly elaborate excuse about their dog being run over or attacked by another dog or having a car crash en route to the destination & landing in hospital..... I was a "no-show" myself last night & it was partly because of stormy weather & partly because my partner in crime was unavailable and had other plans. I probably gave too many reasons but they were actually genuine & truthful but he wasn't very happy & was a bit nasty & accused me of being a "timewaster"!?This from a guy I'd met only once & a quite a few months ago too! Hadn't heard from him in quite awhile either until he decided to shoot me a brief message online yesterday.....
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RHP User
11 years ago
With a star system like that used on Ebay..but also use it for how honest someone is on their profile about their description about themselves...I am honest & I expect others to be honest about themselves too
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RHP User
11 years ago
Can't imagine why a gorgeous woman like you would get stood up! (Shaking head in disbelief)
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RHP User
11 years ago
How the hell can it land anyone in court??? You are on the site under funny name telling stories about others with a funny name??? and who would want to go to court saying "I'm on this sexy swingers site looking to fuck and suck strangers and I have been defamed!!! Really!!! Having been the victim many times of broken promises and grossly exaggerated physical attributes when they do, we think the best defence is not to build your hopes up and expectations above them maybe or maybe showing up and then maybe or maybe not being what they say they are. We have a one drink rule. If after meeting it takes more than one drink to know if they are "worthy", they probably aren't.
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RHP User
11 years ago
This wrong at least he should have let you know if he can't make it .. I would never fo that to anyone .. As Mikaas said .. Beautiful girl like you .. I would never turn my back on ..- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Who would want to shame or stand you up you are beautifulRob
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RHP User
11 years ago
.... I don't stand people up. Missed one and contacted to say I was ill with a bad cold (wouldn't be popular dribbling out of incorrect oriifice!) I have had it happen - booked a room at a motel, turned up and had no warning, the disappearing profile and not even sorry for not showing. Just a fact of life. But - there might be a reason, and last minute cold feet is always possible and I guess it can happen with all the best intentions. Just gotta find the right people, I guess. I've been with people who were cold about me, and people who were hot - so a 'star' system may not work beccause sex and sexiness and appreciation is personal and subjective. eBay has tons of people who get a bad rating from fruitcakes. How do you get a vindictive, pre-emptory strike or just plain nasty, unfair one removed? Maybe a shag-off in front of judges, to sort out who's sandbagging!
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RHP User
11 years ago
doing tradie work btw , doesn't mean I'll take out an ad in the local rag and dis him. However word of mouth amongst goes a long way
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RHP User
11 years ago
Look at the validations people leave. If you do meet up with someone, leave a validation if they showed/were nice/polite/well dressed...whatever, even if there was no connection. there's no need to write something nasty or rate someone. That someone might not be your cup of fine ass, spunky tea, but leaving a nice little comment about someone who made an effort might actually help someone else. (Steps off soap box)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Nortytwo' How the hell can it land anyone in court??? You are on the site under funny name telling stories about others with a funny name??? and who would want to go to court saying "I'm on this sexy swingers site looking to fuck and suck strangers and I have been defamed!!! Really!!! Having been the victim many times of broken promises and grossly exaggerated physical attributes when they do, we think the best defence is not to build your hopes up and expectations above them maybe or maybe showing up and then maybe or maybe not being what they say they are. We have a one drink rule. If after meeting it takes more than one drink to know if they are "worthy", they probably aren't. I found myself on the receiving end of some pretty nasty false accusations some time ago, including allegations of stalking, vandalising someones car, that i had an RMO taken out on me etc etc. never mind that at the time i was meant to have vandalised the car i actually had my kids over for the weekend and met a fwb straight after who could back my story. while in the end i got over it pretty quickly and had a good laugh about it with my friends afterwards, at the time i was apparently going to be served papers at work,it seriously freaked me out and i considered taking out an rmo on this person.thankfully i had a great friend supporting me through it and the person in question moved on to another victim and he and i found a bit of support in each other over it. Sometimes without even mentioning names you can be subjected to false accusations that can have a pretty bad effect on your wellbeing at the time. So thats a NO from me.. to easy to get back at someone if it was allowed.
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abcplus1
11 years ago
As a couple we get that all the time.... Meh, what can you do, ignore them and move on with the search.
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RHP User
11 years ago
A star system is a great idea 3s a party ....... Just by looks alone his loss I would contact you but, you are specific about your age range .... Don't think I want to P you off. :-)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
As an observation, and from first hand experience, if you're not one of the habitual posters and obsessive inhabitants of the forums and chatrooms on here, you are infinitely more likely to end up on the wrong end of the feedback scale. Its interesting, and more than a little disturbing how these sites are an anathema to why people come here in the first place. The judgement, prejudice and insular viewpoints of many of the people are enthusiastic posters in the forums is pretty similar to the kind of behaviour that can be observed in your average year 8 class. You're either one of the "cool people" or you're not. It's amusing to see the number of people who have a view on everything that is posted. Don't kid yourself folks, NONE of us is that informed, or that interesting !
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rupamohan
11 years ago
Naming and shaming is open to abuse and opinion. One should be allowed to give positive rating only. The only practical way is to add "Likes" with following rule- a) Likes need to be approved by rated member just like validations. b) Rating member can't be anonymous to rated member but should have option to remain invisible. This will encourage members to rate others with privacy. c) Rating can be done by verified members only just like validations or have two separate ratings. Total likes. Verified Likes
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RHP User
11 years ago
i think you learn by experience and you can sort the chaff from the wheat, name and shame and ratings can be subjective , and open to abuse.
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RHP User
11 years ago
We shouldn't have to just accept the "no-shows". Things do crop up and plans change and some do get cold feet. But it shouldn't be hard to let the other person know you can't make it before the scheduled meet time. It's basic courtesy - and yes, it does take a bit of courage! No-shows are simply cowardly and rude. I've cetainly been in the situation where I've had to change plans, for a variety of reasons. But I always let the other party know- and If they are genuine, it usually leads to another opportunity when things do fall into place. And if they can't accept that you've had to change plans and want to call you a time waster, they weren't worth knowing anyway!
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RHP User
11 years ago
supposedly if your a regular contributor or peruser of forums on this site then your part of the "In Crowd" - (great song by Bryan Ferry btw).That's what the forums are about isn't it, a place to vent, rant and contribute. Forums are today's soapboxes, where opinions could be expressed openly just as you have, and your opinion is welcomed. Regardless if I agree with yours or anyone's opinions I respect your right to have and express them.There's one thing worse than being talked about, and that is not being talked about, so said Oscar... Have a good day
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RHP User
11 years ago
Poor thing! maybe the quality of people you are choosing is sadly misguided,this site is full to brim of time wasters and unscrupulous people whilst genuine guys like myself are overlooked or not given the time of day!Baby turn that frown upside down and take stock of your poor decisions yes excellent idea name and shame people but do we have a big enough data base for these people? i think not!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'candytalking' Look at the validations people leave. If you do meet up with someone, leave a validation if they showed/were nice/polite/well dressed...whatever, even if there was no connection. there's no need to write something nasty or rate someone. That someone might not be your cup of fine ass, spunky tea, but leaving a nice little comment about someone who made an effort might actually help someone else. (Steps off soap box) you have to be a verified member to validate and great swathes of the female profiles remain un-validated and at guest membership indefinitely ...The validation process should allow you to "accept" or "reject" validations from non-verified members or show them in a second category maybe ??
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RHP User
11 years ago
i can't imagine a scenario where i would stand you upthat is all
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm serious! MSG me :)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
perfect analogy,the Queen,her workers and those gorgeous drones......and don't forget the honey
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RHP User
11 years ago
Why bother with anger and resentment just move on, I have not had this problem, and in some cases there were extenuating circumstances so perhaps give the guy a chance to explain, if it happens a next time then sure give him the flick, I have messed up on occasions, but I am talking coffee and meet here,when we get to the next stage there is no problem
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RHP User
11 years ago
Nope just can't do. Not for me - I think it's an unethical thing to do - shows poor character.Not only that...really at the end of the day, they are not worth my time and energy!!I know I am worth more.My time and happiness is too precious, to have it ruined.FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
There is a danger in naming and shaming, if a person has an issue with another ie they had a good time but the other is rejected they might have resentment issues and decide to take revenge, they could easily slander the other person and cause malicious gossip harming the others reputation,so that can be the danger of naming and shaming and of course it can happen in reverse to yourself,just put it down to experience.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Maybe then we can RATE each others sexual performance!! That orta open areal can of worms!!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
OP do you not know that RHP is a business and as such needs to make money. There is no way in hell that they or any other dating business would ever allow negative feedback on customers. Shit customers would just leave and go else where. Even guests are worth money, the more members the better. If you want that sort of thing look for sites with a .org in their URL.So many forum posters seem to think that the brilliance of RHP is a charity. Keep up the good work RHP you are a shining star in the online adult dating world.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Standing someone up for a date ! Criminal , standing someone up against a wall ....... Slightly sinful Naming and shaming , nah not for everyone . A sexual rating should be oohs and Aaahs only !- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
In WAwe have a pretty good one, Girls coffee days etcThats also good for safety issues, like the guys that try to get it on without a condom etc and yes there are a lot of them.Guys that do not show upGuys that will take you to their house with a dirty house and dirty sheets, and yes there are a few of those.But we do not say what a person is like in bed as that is subjective. But if the same guy is wasting peoples time with the now shows then others need to know this, as its time and sometimes even money etc on fuel that the time wasters seem to forget. Even when people get baby sitters and then there is a no show.The duel profiles, I go to my friend who is the who who of RHP and has a mind like a steel trap. So those that duck and weave are soon found out if they hide under another profile name.Networking offline is your friend. But no not on a forum post not ever, if you have problems just message other women in your area ask them about someone that is of concern.Also share the positive things with other women. I always am happy to share good news stuff with other women. If the guy gives me permission to do so so. If he has been my lover and we had a nice time then I am happy to share information and him as well if that comes up
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mvagusta9
11 years ago
Just block them.
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yankmychain56
11 years ago
I have been stood up a few times, and it is REALLY annoying. you get 'ramped up' to meet this person...and they dont show.are they just having a cheap thrill?cold feet at the last minute?never intended on meeting up in the first place?I had considered paying for a full membership but sometimes feel it is not just worth it.I have met many more people by just 'meeting peopel' by random chance and when you click, you click.Have never been stood up by someone I just happened to meet, the relationship might just run its course, but never been stood up when just meeting someone that is not on RHP
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Him4fun' As an observation, and from first hand experience, if you're not one of the habitual posters and obsessive inhabitants of the forums and chatrooms on here, you are infinitely more likely to end up on the wrong end of the feedback scale. Its interesting, and more than a little disturbing how these sites are an anathema to why people come here in the first place. The judgement, prejudice and insular viewpoints of many of the people are enthusiastic posters in the forums is pretty similar to the kind of behaviour that can be observed in your average year 8 class. You're either one of the "cool people" or you're not. It's amusing to see the number of people who have a view on everything that is posted. Don't kid yourself folks, NONE of us is that informed, or that interesting ! Seems like you'll fit right in!
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RHP User
11 years ago
sorry, dont know how to do it. new to this site. Ill try to figure it out. Where in Melb are you?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Again the star system is a good idea but way to easily played with. There will always be people with jilted opinions. Maybe just didn't like the person etc. I always am left gobsmacked when I hear stories like yours of people making tha dates etc then just not turning up. My guess would be that these people have fake pics etc and just like the chase. Unfortunately as with the rest of life, there are simply some imbeciles out there. Hopefully you will never come across them but mor than likely you will. Just don't let the bad experiences ruin the chance of you having many more happy ones. You just have to have faith in the person you are talking to at the time. Maybe have a chat to me would be a good start :P
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RHP User
11 years ago
Kizza1973 he was the prick!
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
One mans 5 is another mans 10 Pardon the simplification of that principle..... but it shows how much perception can vary from person to person, and why any rating system is destined to be corruptible by its relativity. I don't compare myself to anyone.... and don't compare others either, and that's what any rating scheme is designed to do. So why rely on the ratings if others who's standards may vary significantly to yours?! No thanks..... I make my own decisions. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mesmerised' I say no way. (...) But maybe a star system like EBay? How accurate was the member's self-description? ***** How satisfied were you with the member's communication? ***** How reliable was the member? ***** How would you rate the member's sexual skills? ***** Based on the number of stars, RHP would than calculate your Overall Experience: ***** People took my crazy and totally sarcastic suggestion as gospel and ran with it. Is this what Brian felt like, I wonder?
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happywithlife21
11 years ago
I believe a rating system like ebay on a member is a good idea, sure you can rate their profile why not other things just to give others a heads up.This is what literally just happened to me in the last half hour.A member had contacted me and over the last few weeks we have been exchanging messages, eventually mobile numbers. There have been message and texts between us for awhile trying to arrange a time to meet, we eventually decided last Thursday night but had to reshedule to this morning, which was fine. So after texting the guy this morning to make sure he was still OK to meet I arrived at the suggested meeting place on time at 11am. While sitting there and waiting I received a text telling me he'd waited and where was I, I text back saying I was there and waiting. I then received a further text asking was i the one with the blonde hair, text back yes that was me and was he going to show himself, the gutless spine didn't. On the way back home I called him to see what the story was and he told me that I looked different from my pics, that I had put on weight and was bigger, lol, After making sure he was in the right place and had the right person he hung up on me, tried again but wouldn't answer, what a complete tiime waster. That's why a rating system would be could so other members are weary of what some people are like.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'happywithlife21' On the way back home I called him to see what the story was and he told me that I looked different from my pics, that I had put on weight and was bigger, lol, (...) That's why a rating system would be could so other members are weary of what some people are like. Don't you wonder what his rating of you would have been? How accurate was the member's self-description? * How satisfied were you with the member's communication? * How reliable was the member? *
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Him4fun' As an observation, and from first hand experience, if you're not one of the habitual posters and obsessive inhabitants of the forums and chatrooms on here, you are infinitely more likely to end up on the wrong end of the feedback scale. Its interesting, and more than a little disturbing how these sites are an anathema to why people come here in the first place. The judgement, prejudice and insular viewpoints of many of the people are enthusiastic posters in the forums is pretty similar to the kind of behaviour that can be observed in your average year 8 class. You're either one of the "cool people" or you're not. It's amusing to see the number of people who have a view on everything that is posted. Don't kid yourself folks, NONE of us is that informed, or that interesting ! Bloody interesting, and got to year 7 I will have you know young fella! and I know thee fifths of fuck all, so that should be enough for anyone.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'imdown88' I'm serious! MSG me :)- Posted from rhpmobile Yes Sir..boy are you bossyohhh you meant the op?silly me
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RHP User
11 years ago
ummm why would anyone want to stand you up? god, if you said meet me, Id drive from canberra just to meet you LOL So definitely have a rating system, if they are dumb enough to stand you up, they certainly should be shamed!!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
if your a man of your word and actions who cares what people wite and say because nothing will be written about you lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
3 sides to every story and they simply go like this! His story Her story And somewhere in the middle is the truth Simple as that :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'happywithlife21'I believe a rating system like ebay on a member is a good idea, sure you can rate their profile why not other things just to give others a heads up. This is what literally just happened to me in the last half hour. A member had contacted me and over the last few weeks we have been exchanging messages, eventually mobile numbers. There have been message and texts between us for awhile trying to arrange a time to meet, we eventually decided last Thursday night but had to reshedule to this morning, which was fine. So after texting the guy this morning to make sure he was still OK to meet I arrived at the suggested meeting place on time at 11am. While sitting there and waiting I received a text telling me he'd waited and where was I, I text back saying I was there and waiting. I then received a further text asking was i the one with the blonde hair, text back yes that was me and was he going to show himself, the gutless spine didn't. On the way back home I called him to see what the story was and he told me that I looked different from my pics, that I had put on weight and was bigger, lol, After making sure he was in the right place and had the right person he hung up on me, tried again but wouldn't answer, what a complete tiime waster. That's why a rating system would be could so other members are weary of what some people are like. Do you look different to your pics? Have you noticeably put on weight since they were taken? MSfun
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loveprod
11 years ago
Say it was me everytime. I want to be the bad boy from the wrong side of the tracks!
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loveprod
11 years ago
Quoting 'loveprod' Say it was me everytime. I want to be the bad boy from the wrong side of the tracks!I assume there is a place in the forums to name and shame. Isn't the a secret womens section, like the one for men?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've been in this scene for over 6 years. Never have I ever been stood up.... My only method is not judging a book by its cover. If you only base the people you communicate with, on their pictures then that is a recipe for failure. Try this for a change, and see if anything changes. Read people's profiles first (they are there for a reason) no matter how tempting it is to check out the pictures first. If you think the person is worth talking to based on the profile then look at the pics.. Sounds crazy..but works... If you only base everything on physical attributes and they do that to you in return, remember they are going to bail should they get a better deal... Before naming and shaming just check your own backyard to see what you could be doing differently.. Good luck..
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RHP User
11 years ago
Any rating system at all is going to be abused by the Bitches and the Arseholes. Innocents will get slandered and hurt. End of story.Use your networks, like RL word of mouth rules.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting '50zkool'Any rating system at all is going to be abused by the Bitches and the Arseholes. Innocents will get slandered and hurt. End of story. Use your networks, like RL word of mouth rules.Finally.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'loveprod' I assume there is a place in the forums to name and shame. Isn't the a secret womens section, like the one for men? Naming and shaming is not allowed. And it shouldn't be.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Some people have had a hard time by others and have been wrong done by, as well as private clashes from here in R/L etc etc...not everyone will get on with everyone. I get that. However, to slam someone on here, I don't think its an ethical thing to do by posting their actual name or profile name. That's just wrong in my eyes and a little personal. What ever happened to peoples privacy- everyone has a right to that??? FOXY - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'Him4fun' As an observation, and from first hand experience, if you're not one of the habitual posters and obsessive inhabitants of the forums and chatrooms on here, you are infinitely more likely to end up on the wrong end of the feedback scale. Its interesting, and more than a little disturbing how these sites are an anathema to why people come here in the first place. The judgement, prejudice and insular viewpoints of many of the people are enthusiastic posters in the forums is pretty similar to the kind of behaviour that can be observed in your average year 8 class. You're either one of the "cool people" or you're not. It's amusing to see the number of people who have a view on everything that is posted. Don't kid yourself folks, NONE of us is that informed, or that interesting ! Supercalifragilisticexpialidocius In other words A Terminological inexactitude, we are adults in the RHP party forums, And you are sounding like a party pooperMado
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well I'M kool !- Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Read from the bottom up: i removed this poor misguided dick's username so the Mods wouldn't punish me. You say you're new to this .... Sep 13 2013 receivedreadRe: You say you're new to this ...Haghaha yeah r you trying to make your self feel better I think so !!!! Good luck with that !! sentreadRe: You say you're new to this .... Sep 12 2013 Me: I have 29 friends here dear.....most I have met. Validations because I walk the talk and don't play with young men ...well.....because of thier immaturity (case in point) As for wrinkles baby, they are a sign that I have lived a full life, lain under thousands of starry night skies and laughed, sung, danced, indulged and fucked my way through a damn fine life which keeps getting better :) now run along and play with yourself..... receivedreadRe: You say you're new to this .... Sep 12 2013 Hahaha your weird!! I seen your page and you have 12!! U sure your 41!! You sound like a kid!! 41 your over the hill!! Good luck with them Wrinkles!! Bahahaha Me: You say you're new to this .... but you have 34 friends.....you know this isn't facebook hey? Sry young man, no thanks. He initiated contact with : Sep 12 2013 With a body like that don't think ill be doing much talking Hmmm poor boy and to all the under 38's out there who aren't "challenged" please understand why I lole "old wrinkly men" OVER 38. Much love abd a bit of an indulgent chuckle, Indy On Safari
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On_Safari
11 years ago
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happywithlife21
11 years ago
He would have had a pretty poor rating believe me. Truthfully I don't even think he was there at all. The sad thing is, he was no Brad Pitt and I probably get more hits then him. His lose.
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happywithlife21
11 years ago
I don't put anything up that isn't true on my profile and I had just posted that profile pic which was only 2 weeks old.So if I had put a couple of kilos on in that time, I'm sorry.The guy was just a losing time waster.
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just_sayin69
11 years ago
Spoken to a few new couple and they as us have had instances with single females and couple have shown initial interest lots of mail exchange mobile numbers ever an initial meet then nothing Understand all the chemistry has to be good but even then far more failures than successes We all have busy lives but a grading scale with different aspects such as turn up for meeting etc would help and possibly make people more likely to follow through with commitments We always update the people we are due to meet if we can't make it not difficult these days to communicate text email site mail phone call Have strongly considered finding another site and subscribe to it. feel we are paying for not a lot joined to Rhp
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hmm.. it's a tricky issue isn't it? . I'm not in favour of name and shame (although it is tempting) as others have mentioned there are far too many out there willing to spread salacious BS based on hear-say. But.. . Yes, I've had couples and singles show enormous interest exchange many msgs, galleries, more msgs etc, then completely vanish. . It is frustrating but I just assume 90% of RHP profiles are sad lonely DHs pretending to be something other than reality. That way I'm never disappointed. LOL. . Would be nice if verification (via the post a pic of yourself with profile name - ia easy) was mandatory but until the (minority?) of genuine RHP peeps insist on it, the trolls, fakers and playes will thrive. . Just my 2c
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RHP User
11 years ago
Er.. Ms 3s I forgot to mention - standing you up is quite obviously the weirdo faker's loss! : )
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