M47
New partner 3some
May 01 2020
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MsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
You wait till she mentions it, grasshopper. Ms Foxy
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The_Antichrist
5 years ago
She’s unaware of your sexual interests ??
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Phoenix_Rising
5 years ago
I feel like that’s something you probably should have discussed before it got so serious you classify her as your partner, but anywho, here we are... Maybe you could try using words, seems complicated I know but if you want her to know something you desire it’s a lot easier than trying to draw it out for her with sticks in the sand. Alternatively maybe you could spend a bit of time getting to know what she likes and what makes her tick so you can get an idea as to whether or not it’s even worth approaching. In discovering her you may discover she’s strictly monogamous, then what? There’s a million different scenarios but I’ll stop there, good luck.
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FeistyFatty
5 years ago
If she wants one, she will tell you.
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Phoenix_Rising
5 years ago
In all fairness maybe she wouldn’t let him know, if he feels he can’t approach it with her maybe she feels the same 🤷🏼♀️
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RHP User
5 years ago
From looks of your profile you want your cake and eat it too. Perhaps the new partner should have come from here. Then at least you wouldnt have to lie about seeking a fwb as well. Just a tip seek a relationship that suits your sexual needs as well. Also one where you can openly discuss your needs and desires.
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luvsilver
5 years ago
Someone has to be the first to mention it.I can't see why it has to be the woman all the time . Mr Luvsilver
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luvsilver
5 years ago
I suppose what i am saying is it shouldn't really matter who brings it up first.The main thing is that it is talked about and both on the same page 100% before anything is initiated.Mrs Luvsilver and i have been together for 27 years and i think it would be a shame if one of us (either way) was too scared to mention something they were interested in and had to wait for the other to say something. Mr Luvsilver
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teamaj2
5 years ago
Dingles Why not just have an open honest discussion about your fantasies , wish lists etc . It’s just chat . I feel it’s important in a relationship to be open about all things . It maybe something she secretly desires . It also maybe something something she’s never even considered. Sadly for you it maybe something that is 100% a no go zone . When I met my husband over 14 years ago from the word go he talked to me about wanting to experiment and experience many different things . It took me years to be comfortable enough in our relationship , secure enough and confident enough to dip my toes in those exciting waters . Be honest with yourself , be patient with her and most importantly be respectful and listen to her thoughts and feelings . Goodluck !
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MsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
IMO yeah, it does matter to me. If I'm in a new relationship (bit different to a 27yr one lol), and I feel I'm being manipulated into a 3some there's no way in hell that is going to happen. It happens when I say and am ready, not when the other is thirsty for it. Plus I need that trust that they will have my back if something goes wrong. It is too easy to say when already in a coupled relationship to do this, do that and that it should be talked about (I agree) but in this case it's a single man wanting his needs met. There's is a Huge difference with couples and singles behaviours having 3 somes. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
5 years ago
My two cents... I had two FWB in the past, lasted about 3 months each. Both ended because he KEPT trying to get me into a threesome; it made me feel like I wasn’t enough (obviously I wasn’t 😂). Mention it once... gauge her reaction. If she’s keen she’ll let you know when she’s ready. If she’s not into it, you risk losing her if you continually bring it up. Just my opinion... ☺️
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FeistyFatty
5 years ago
Luvsilver.... I disagree a bit there. We've been together 27 years as well In August and have been open for 10. For ourselves, and others in our circle, it seems rather common for most suggestions (especially initially) towards group play and non monogamous play are female driven (before you chuck me out of the sandpit, not everyone's of course). Maybe a female can just finesse the introduction more delicately as to not cause any unease, insecurity or concern from the other half. Alot of men have a tendency to be more "bull at gate" which could leave a new partner wondering if she's enough. Just my 2c worth.
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bianca_dd
5 years ago
I am assuming that you have slept with her and if that is the case, how is it that the two of you have not discussed what you like to do, not just in the sack but sexually in general. If you want to be involved in 3ums or group play and you have any doubt that she does then find yourself yet another 'new lady'. No point being sexually repressed. That is never successful.
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luvsilver
5 years ago
Well i do agree with you Foxxxy.It should only ever happen when both are ready and no one should be manipulating anyone into something they don't want (i dare anyone to try that with Mrs Luv and see how far they get-lol)These rules should apply to anyone single,couple,male or female.He did say he has a new lady so maybe get to know each other a bit first and get to know each others likes/dislikes. Mr Luvsilver
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The_Antichrist
5 years ago
I agree with you luvsilver.... A man is seen as being a leader...he’s supposed to be man enough to broach topics of conversation even if those topics are challenging for the other party....and he’s not going to know if she’s at all comfortable with idea if he remains sitting on his hands in fear... I don’t know where on earth foxy arrives at the conclusion that just because the topic is brought up that it automatically indicates a manipulation of the relationship....sure both parties need to be on the same page...that’s not even an issue....but no one is ever going to know unless somebody asks first....so whomever is at the stage they feel comfortable enough with their partner to broach the topic should entirely just do it....
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Phoenix_Rising
5 years ago
I don’t understand how asking for advice on how to broach a topic is in any way implying that he’s trying to manipulate her or pressure her into doing anything she doesn’t want to do and quite frankly it sounds quite sexist to say nothing should happen until the female initiates it. OP, Insecurities in a new relationship could certainly be a thing but that can also happen at any stage when a subject like this is brought up so you might as well get it over with if it’s something you really want.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Get out there and do you; leave her out of it. A new lady and you're unsatisfied still? Can only mean one thing. You need to address what it is you want. Get out there and go get 'em.
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MsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
A man is seen as being a leader. Yeah, righto (*insert eye roll). Thanks, I think for educating me. 😂 Ms Foxy
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RHP User
5 years ago
Problem still exists where men seek a relationship with vanilla woman. Then on the side want to fulfill their sexual desire with another woman who is not still living sexually oppressed life by which our up bringing and society will have us believe is right. While men still put women in 2 catagories of the relationship kind and the sexual kind. They will be doomed to never have a truely fulling partner in life. Women can be both respectable and sexually adventurous. Its 2020 people.
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bianca_dd
5 years ago
for anything that I decide. He also has an opinion on everything. He just has to check with me first as to what his opinion may be.
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nomad2428
5 years ago
TeamAj2 & Mona Lisa...great advice upfront from the start and open discussion along the way. It’s takes age and ‘the give a fuck’ or courage to be our truthful selves in all aspects of life not just sexually. It just sucks that societies idea of sex is so fucking vanilla / constructed in a format by religion and so taboo to do what each individual feels. We’re just animals after all. Enjoy yourself be free and discuss it with her Dingles. Thank fuck for places like here.
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The_Antichrist
5 years ago
Foxy... How else would describe it when a person takes the initiative to raise a topic of discussion? If he has no intestinal fortitude to take control and make that first move, how is he seen in your eyes?? Maybe you could enlighten me as to how you define that leadership quality and what it is that even your person does that you recognise that quality within him ??
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MsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
Thank you. I agree, get to know her first, her likes and dislikes, build a build a repor. Nothing worse than someone too eager, over the too trying to influence or talk another into something (like a 3some) or what they don't want too. It just adds more pressure and a turn off. Ms Foxy
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The_Antichrist
5 years ago
Hahahaha Poor Cunt asks about the best way to initiate the conversation with his new partner; the world thinks he’s going to pin her down and turkey slap her with 5 dicks and 3 vaginas while he’s snorting a line of toe jam from the hoofs of a menotaur until she agrees to it!! Absolutely brilliant 😂😂😂
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aristippus
5 years ago
Disclosure. If your interests re swinging and non monogamous are core values...and you are getting serious with someone... The only way to go is to make sure she's aware of your interests so she can decide if she's into similar things or needs something else. My view anyway
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missy_mo0
5 years ago
Could you not bring it up during conversation, perhaps just mentioning it’s something you’ve tried before with a prior partner or whatever? And gauge her reaction? You never know, she might have had a few herself and be scared she’d be scaring you off by mentioning it.
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countrytouch82
5 years ago
Non serious response. He's worried her answers will be the same as asking for a first date - being either "definitely not", or "yes... but with people that don't include you". :P Serious response: if there doesn't seem to be an appropriate moment to segue into such conversation, try starting to watch together episodes of "you can't ask that" or SBS Insight etc, or certain comedian shows, that will eventually lead into one of the shows discussing non-monogamy or open relationships, or similar. That or slowly only lead into certain conversations as "pillowtalk" per se. But agreed with most of everyone that building your trust and your own relationship is the priority now. even those that meet within this swinging scene often take time out to focus on their own relationship initially.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Just be up front and tell her. She’ll either be in to it, interested in it or no that’s not her. You just need to be prepared with dealing with it if it is not the answer you want. What if she says she wants a threesome with you and another guy? Are you going to be up for that? Anyway, good luck but best to be honest and open.
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Mischeviouslad
5 years ago
Ummm.....42 and sexually active with a new lady and you dont know how to have a conversation with a woman that includes a simple conversational question like “have you ever had a 3some”? Really???
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Kokoflamingo
5 years ago
A lot of men like a homely woman at home taking care of the house and kids. Someone who looks after him and their happy family and social circle. But they also want the sexy, uninhibited woman who is a bit kinky. Otherwise, why would so many attached guys sign up to RHP? OP, if you had a real connection with this woman both mentally and sexually, would you dump her because she didnt want to take part in a 3some?
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playingwithfire
5 years ago
Maaaaaaate You’re copping a lot of advise from single 40+ women on here. Keep it simple. Enquire what her craziest sexual experience is. She will ask the same of you. Be honest and take it from there. Choose your moment (best during foreplay) Don’t push it. If she’s interested then she will progress it. Sometimes it can be a slow simmer but if it comes to nought, then you have at least layed your cards on the table. Open and honest relationships are the best. One more tip - the moment you go behind her back for intimacy, your opportunity for openness & honesty is gone. ”Just saying”
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RHP User
5 years ago
Hey beautiful people
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EarthQueen
5 years ago
If you want FFM, I think if you go in too quick and she's from vanilla background you run the risk of her feeling she is not enough and making her insecure and question how into her you are. But that would depend on her personality and what groundwork you have already laid and how new the relationship is. If it's MMF again she would need a certain feeling of trust in you to be open to do that and if you push it she will feel pressured and thats a big turn off. If you feel you are with someone who is open I would talk about fantasies first. See what she is into. But again, just because she has those fantasies it does not mean she wants to act on them. Either way it seems like a successful threesome would require a good level of trust and communication and only you can decide if you are there yet before you broach this with her. I think its OK to talk about your sexual interests with her because ultimately you would want to know if you were on the same page if thats what floats your boat. But i would keep it a fairly light conversation with no expectation on her to act on it.
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2EssesExploring
5 years ago
Hmm from the OPs profile and question I wouldn’t have a very positive answer but I find other people’s replies interesting. I think it’s ok for either party to bring it up as a point of discussion but if there’s expectation then that easily lead to coercion. I think if a couple is truly connected and in love they can listen to anything the other partner thinks about and they may agree or agree to disagree without negatively affecting the relationship. For me, I told my wife all about what I’d done i the past as she had not ever even contemplated a lot of it and I wanted her to know me. I didn’t want her to try it, I never expected her to. After discussing my experiences she was the one to open up about all her desires that she had kept hidden her whole life. I never expected that she would be as naughty as she is and my love for her wasn’t based on it, which if I’m to be honest it had been with other partners in the past. This has made our exploration very organic and relaxed as we aren’t dying for the next fix....well we do get awe fully excited anticipating it though :)
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badboyhere
5 years ago
I feel if you want it talk about it. If it is not want the other wants well you have to make a choice if you can do without your needs or not. Simple. If you can’t move on. In the end the first one you have to be honest with is yourself. If you can’t do that, you will never be happy and eventually you will push your partner away. Any relationship that you have will be based on dishonesty, more with yourself than for your partner.
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Chillymofo
5 years ago
Just broach the subject with her. Let her know that you find it a turn on if you and another guy were to make her the center of attention. See where she goes with it! - You never know your luck. She may be secretly harboring this same fantasy but is unsure how you will react. Let her know you are comfortable sharing her with another guy Good luck
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inspirit
5 years ago
Mail. You cant reply any more? They have chat now that you cant reply to? Can someone advise please n thanks.
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RHP User
5 years ago
I would start by telling her that you're on rhp, if you're worried about her reaction id br assuming that shes unaware you're on an adult dating site. So that's probably a good place to start, your partner needs to br able to trust you finding out down the track certainly won't help the situation.
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gazpacho
5 years ago
Fact is, I think she wants you to watch. Maybe you could put a shortcut in her mind and suggest it to her?
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nothing2serioRHP
5 years ago
Uhh, you need to see if you can open the conversation around fantasies, maybe ask if she has any or if she has ever done anything wild. I have raised it , it just gets blown over As pillow talk. I would easily accept her playing with another female in the mix. I would see that as a turn on. She can be the centre of attention, she can make the other girl centre of attention, I could watch and would like to participate and share. If she wants that Experience I would be happy to oblige. If no one else knows it’s between the three of you. Do you just want 2 girls fussing over you? Will she be happy to watch you penetrate her friend? What if she turns around and says yep , I want to see you interact with another man? Is that a deal breaker? What if she wants DP? She gets 2 guys doing here you just have to be agreeable. Not knocking you I wish you luck. But will you elaborate on what you expect? Then how do you find the third party Is it a deal breaker if you have to approach a bloke and engage him , and then interact with him? Eg, suck him off or take anal so she can watch. My conversations only ever go around my fantasy of women interacting, no 3rd part knocking the door down and she has not suggested any male inclusion but what if?
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mikesplace01
5 years ago
Gently, plant a small seed fort, don’t push.... just wait.
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20is20loll
5 years ago
Nice
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curiousnhorny05
5 years ago
Why not just chat about preferences and general relationship stuff. Eg mon vs non monogamy. Past experiences that type of stuff
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HolyFunk
5 years ago
Just ask can I ask you something, ask her the question and say i respect the decision and that final. If it's not something you can keep to best not be in that situation.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Simple Ask her if she would like a Mfm. Let her be in control. Then go from there 😛
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bobbyisurneed
5 years ago
Haha
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RHP User
5 years ago
No good if she dont do anal....
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FitSydneyGuy
5 years ago
It's easy. Discuss sex. Tell her its Important, talk about all the things you like, listen to her. Then mention you like the thought of a 3some. She will either love it , or tell you no way.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Just corrupt her🤣
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RHP User
5 years ago
Maybe mention casually, like talking about your sexual desires. Make sure to be casual, to make it feel like a 'meh' moment. Hopefully she'll show her approval or not through her body language, if not words
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MissMasBeach
5 years ago
There's no single answer. Some of my playmates are into 3somes and groups, some aren't, I respect their wishes either way. But you do need to find a way to ask. Just think carefully first - is this all about you? If it is, then A. she will be able to guess that when you bring it up, and B. it won't be very good if/when it ever happens. Be honest with yourself. Are you really, genuinely at ease with the idea of her having pleasure and orgasms with someone else, and maybe even hooking up with them privately later? If not, what makes you think she'll be ok with you doing those things?
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blackunicorn
5 years ago
If the relationship with your new lady is mainly sexual, then I see no reason why not to ask. In the worst case she’ll say no or stop sleeping with you. If there is love involved and hope for future together then I’d say say the chances are very low she will take it well. Just because statistically most people are conservative and she is likely to be humiliated
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RHP User
5 years ago
Say it once and then change the topic. If she's keen she will want to revisit the topic
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Subaquatic69
5 years ago
Interesting conversation and some cool responses. In our case, we both wanted it but we’re both too shy to bring it up. Eventually, during a pillow talk session, we decided to “list our top 3 sex bucket list items”. We both had 3 somes in the list and have never looked back!
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Beingjustme
5 years ago
I met a man who I adore, he was upfront from the start, he introduced things only I was willing for and it was wonderfully sexually exciting. He was experienced and wanted me to explore further afield, I didn't. We broke up but are in contact regularly. I appreciated his honesty with me and Im grateful I'm not holding him back from what he needs, we are lovely friends. Who know what our future might hold?... For you... Gentle discussion and honesty as soon as possible otherwise someone remains unsatisfied/unhappy.
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vanillanot
5 years ago
Good luck with that..
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RHP User
5 years ago
Do she do anal?
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starboy427
5 years ago
Looking for 3p
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starboy427
5 years ago
Looking for mmf
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joanne1991
5 years ago
New lady and trying to bring in a third person, oh get real. Have you discussed this with her? Does she know your intentions or ambitions? Think you need to settle into the relationship first unless it’s been discussed.
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Notsocurious
5 years ago
Maybe discuss your single profile you have on here as a starting point?
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RHP User
5 years ago
So u have a new lady and straight away u want to introduce her to threesomes WOW
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RHP User
5 years ago
Looking for fmf or mfm
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Rachenz
5 years ago
I dreamt of being one of those dancers when I was a little girl
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RHP User
5 years ago
Slow and patiently is always the key we found
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Globetrotter2020
5 years ago
Honesty is the best policy - because there’s only two types of people Sharers And Carers 😉🤭
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DeanandDana
5 years ago
Ready in Brisbane
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RHP User
5 years ago
moan_a_lisa you are absolutely bang on the money with your input. The old saying 'lady in the streets, freak in the sheets' didn't invent itself 😉
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funnsexy16
5 years ago
Wasn’t she aware of your interests prior to dating you...seems a bit shady you wouldn’t have had that conversation at the start of your ‘thing’...
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Champagne333
5 years ago
Emphasise that its about her pleasure and her being the centre of attention... I’ve always loved making and seeing my lady cuming and lost in passion and desire and it’s even hotter when it’s two of us making that happen and omg seeing her being fucked by a guy she thinks is hot is amazing
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RHP User
5 years ago
Invite 2 women to your house and just see what happens lol they will either both walk out or both join in.
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melbcpl01
5 years ago
What sort of 3some a extra guy for you and her , Extra female in the hope of seeing her get it on with another woman . etc etc
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RHP User
5 years ago
Be honest otherwise don’t be in the relationship!
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shells69
5 years ago
That topic should have been discussed before you became "partners", Frank and open discussion about sexuality, kinks, fetishes and desires only make for a great relationship. Going into a relationship thinking that you might be able to get a person to fulfill those for you is going to wrought with disappointment. I really hhope it does well for you.
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Kittylick
5 years ago
You are using her as a piece of meat, a hole. Just because you have a fantasy does not mean it comes true. Conceited and selfish.
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xxxciteu
5 years ago
If it's the first time even talking about it, maybe instead of suggesting a 3some FFM (which could come across as being advantageous to you if the third is a female), throwing in a suggestion about a discreet couple play FMFM (as you both can have fun equally), may receive a less shocking/even a thought provoking response back from her possibly? If you are o.k. with couple play that is.. And, If that goes well, maybe then try speaking about FFM again (if you really still want to then)? It's like a slow considerate build up of the idea, instead of throwing a big shocking (could come across as selfish) bombshell..?
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RHP User
5 years ago
Just invite 2 women to your place at the same time it can either go well or... not lol
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Sexystuff
5 years ago
Why don’t you just ask her what her sexual fantasies are and take it from there, maybe she will reply asking you what yours are which is when you would mention 3 sums etc
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Ocellatus
5 years ago
Tequila
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Nightoffun
5 years ago
You are in a relationship yet on your profile you are still seeking a FWB until she’s ready? If you haven’t told her about wanting this I highly doubt you’ve told her you are also wanting to sleep with others on the side. Doesn’t seem like you really want a relationship more that you’re seeking someone who wants an open relationship.
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Happydaze61
5 years ago
I am in a similar situation... during some pillow talk I casually asked what is the sexiest thing she has ever done? Threesomes was her response and she enjoyed it...I'm sure we will have fun with others at sometime in the future...and at least it is out there and the honesty and openness is there too....
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Brazilian_87
5 years ago
Gold Coast
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pkShaChat
5 years ago
You have to make the horse thirsty, unless it won't work.
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joemanaro
5 years ago
Very good idea small hints at the time when watching a movie
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Travis31
4 years ago
Leading her firmly By her hair, legs open and guide her face into soaking pink sex ..fucking and eating ...so non verbal intro I think🔥
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bothbi69
4 years ago
What if she agrees to a threesome but wants to explore with two guys instead?
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TomBelin74
4 years ago
I think your not ready for this type of play if you can’t communicate about it with your partner. Communication is key !
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RHP User
4 years ago
How would you feel if she told you she wanted another cock other than yours in the bedroom?
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RHP User
4 years ago
How would you feel if she told you she wanted another cock other than yours in the bedroom?
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RHP User
4 years ago
Take the focus off the event and instead arrange a gathering or a visit from a chicky to pop in later, choose her beforehand by sussing out a participant who has has other interests and responsibilies and nore experienced. Do question your own desire and reasons why your wanting it to happen, what outcome arevyou looking for? Note it to yourself or share with someone you trustfocusing more on your new ladys experience with another woman, encourage her to explore her sexuality but also let her know who is boss and remind her she needs to follow your rules andvif she does you will then be telling her that you will be giving her pleasure later and take out the rubbish and do some sweeping. Us chicks want and need you wonderful lads to satisfy our mental and emotional health and support as well as our physical touch and sexual intimate desires it can be a meaningful and delightful experience
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Layoo
4 years ago
Woe
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Mischeviouslad
4 years ago
Travis..... take a break from the porn sites dude 🤦♂️
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Uncomplicatd_fun
4 years ago
Its all about communicating with each other. Really if your intention was a 3some from the start, its something you should have openly discussed then. If she is not interested in that, accept it. Being with a third is not on everyone's bucket list, everyone is different and you have to repect that and her.
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Hotasianwife
4 years ago
Is it Mmf or ffm?
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RHP User
4 years ago
Ask her if shes done anything kinky before like a 3some. Her answer... you say have you ever thought about one or one again?
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RHP User
4 years ago
AandS probably say it best. A few others mention it similarly as well. But talk about sex and sexual interests, such as naughtiest things she’s done etc, then she might ask the same of you, then you can mention 3sums and if it’s some she might be interested in. As for the people having a go at you for wanting to introduce your new partner instantly to 3sums... perhaps that’s just the lifestyle he would like, and would rather bring it up sooner than later??? Save waiting 5 years where he’s married and mentions it... she flips out, thinks he’s cheating her, blah blah, loses half his shit and goes through hell lol. Nothing wrong with wanting to be open with your partner from the get the go. So get off his back.
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RHP User
4 years ago
If it's a new lady you should be able to talk to her about this. I would understand if you knew her longer then a month and not said anything. Her opinion counts though so if she's not ready then don't push it...esp if you like her. So have that conversation may not be as bad as you think she maybe into it lol
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RHP User
4 years ago
I am assuming it's for MMF. Start with roleplay during sex. Play more a third guy. Dirty talking will help. If she got vigorous in sex, you are good to go. Follow up in suitable time and propose the idea.
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ozmelbcpl4cpl2
4 years ago
Open up an honest dialog with her
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clitonclit
4 years ago
Omg so sexy
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