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"Not into one night stands"....
January 20 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
It happens occasionally, though I think because I don't play on a first date, it hasn't happened often. . It's fine with me if the chemistry just wasn't there, though I do appreciate it if the person(s) in question let's me know. I offer the same courtesy.
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RHP User
11 years ago
if it works then great, but if it doesn't, don't force it... if it's an amazing night that can not be repeated - it will live on in my mind!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I just wanted to ask, isn't this a sex site? The majority or most, wanting NSA fun? Ive read a few forums on here and have noticed some of women getting upset or talking about men being "arseholes" because they haven't gotten in touch with them after the first meeting, hook up etc. I'm the woman of our couple and i'm finding this really odd, I really didn't think this was in any way a dating site, there are a lot of dating sites out there. Curious, are woman pretending they are looking for "NSA" fun, when in reality they are looking for a partner? Or do they find it hard to separate sex and attachment, and get upset if the male didn't bother to get in touch and thank them, or ask for another meeting? Or have they had a lot of communication and both have agreed they are looking for more before they meet? If the case is the latter, i wouldn't believe that anyway, this is a sex site, people looking for sex. I'm a female and i would never look for a partner on a site like this, or ever believe, a man I met on a site like this would have "looking for a partner" in mind. I know I'm going to cop a lot for this, but I really am curious.
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RHP User
11 years ago
BTW, I'd feel fine about it, i'm not on here to get a call the next morning, if I wanted to see them again and if not it wouldn't be an issue for me. I'd expect it on this site.
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JessicaRabbit
11 years ago
So many people use the 'this is a sex site' line as an excuse for poor behaviour. Being on this site doesn't mean that we deserve/want to be treated like cum dumps. It's not about being 'attached' to someone. I'm not 'pretending' to look for NSA fun just because I want to know someone before jumping into bed with them. I like regular fun, not once-offs, because honestly - who can say that the sex was the best the first time they jumped into bed with someone? It's always better once you know someone and get to know each other. I never thought I'd find - and I certainly wasn't looking for - a partner on here, but I found one in the past. Why shouldn't you be open to finding one here, if that's something you're looking for? If you're interested in things a little outside of the norm, why wouldn't you want to find someone that was interested in the same things as you? RHP is a great medium for that. If I ever wanted to date someone long-term, I'd be happy to look at people that I'd met through here, as I'd know that they're open-minded sexually and happy to experiment.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'wewantyou23' I just wanted to ask, isn't this a sex site? The majority or most, wanting NSA fun? No, it says on the home page it's an Adult Dating site. And I'm one of the many not into NSA encounters.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'wewantyou23' Curious, are woman pretending they are looking for "NSA" fun, when in reality they are looking for a partner? Or do they find it hard to separate sex and attachment, and get upset if the male didn't bother to get in touch and thank them, or ask for another meeting? Not looking for either NSA, nor a partner. I'm after lovers whom I have regular sex with. And so far I've (luckily) been able to not confuse great sexual chemistry with infatuation. . Welcome by the way!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks for the welcome. I completely understand where you are coming from JessicaRabbit, if we are talking about people who have said on their profile 'NSA" (and i don't know if this is the case here or not). I wouldn't think it's bad behaviour not to get in touch again, if they have stated "NSA" and are looking for this that and the other, doesn't that mean they are looking for these things without the guilt of being labeled an arsehole or bad behaviour? To me they are saying, these are the things i'm on here looking for, and i'm not ashamed to say I don't want to see you again after that, and I defiantly don't want to feel guilty about not seeing you again? This is just my take on the "NSA" on a profile, I want to have fun and not feel guilt if i never call you or get in touch again.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes, Meander you are correct, this is and adult dating site. lol
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MsJonesy
11 years ago
Quoting 'JessicaRabbit' So many people use the 'this is a sex site' line as an excuse for poor behaviour. Being on this site doesn't mean that we deserve/want to be treated like cum dumps. It's not about being 'attached' to someone. I'm not 'pretending' to look for NSA fun just because I want to know someone before jumping into bed with them. I like regular fun, not once-offs, because honestly - who can say that the sex was the best the first time they jumped into bed with someone? It's always better once you know someone and get to know each other. I never thought I'd find - and I certainly wasn't looking for - a partner on here, but I found one in the past. Why shouldn't you be open to finding one here, if that's something you're looking for? If you're interested in things a little outside of the norm, why wouldn't you want to find someone that was interested in the same things as you? RHP is a great medium for that. If I ever wanted to date someone long-term, I'd be happy to look at people that I'd met through here, as I'd know that they're open-minded sexually and happy to experiment. Well said Jessica
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you Meander. I think my head just shot off my shoulders then... Sleazy men and smug married people. What this is a sex site so single people should just open their legs for anybody and not expect a return call. How lovely. I have had a few unintentional one nights stands .. The reason why I don't like them is beside the sex was shithouse and at the end of the day I would have preferred to stay home had a rub, followed by a hot cup of cocoa and a good book. Much more enjoyable. I am relieved when they don't call me because it saves me the hassle of telling them I don't want to repeat the experience.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Men that are looking for NSA or one nights stands often don't make an effort when it comes to sex.... They just don't make it worth our while really.
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ruby_blossum
11 years ago
As JessicaRabbit so eloquently stated...Being on this site doesn't mean that we deserve/want to be treated like cum dumps. Most single women I know have some degree of self worth and esteem and get fed up with being fed lines by the guys just so they can get a root. There is a massive distance between con men and "he is just not that into you" All I ask for is honesty yet it appears many guys dont think that will work for them. It may be one adult site but the dynamics are very different for couples v singles. Expectations are very different.....your uninformed comments are why the label "smug couples" is used at times. It appears you are only viewing the op as half of a couple.....not as a single.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Also can I add if I want a ONS why on earth would I bother getting one from here. I can just go to the local swingers club or pub and meet a man there. At least I can see what I am getting. The joys of living in a big city. ;-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Doesn't bother me. If it was fun then all is good in the world. If it was ho hum then we move on. I actually like a good one night stand. But I have the attention span of a goldfish anyway. What was his name again? *wanders off scratching her head and runs into the wall*
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RHP User
11 years ago
Haha good call paint_me :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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rupamohan
11 years ago
We were brought up in culture where no stand was allowed one might or multi night..so I guess I am not the best person to reply but rather I have a similar question hopefully that helps me to understand diversity among aussie born. Why will you want a one night stand if you really enjoyed or more accurately how it is possible with online dating? My understanding one night stand is a forced condition in following situations a) when you meet someone in real time in a club. You didn't had time to know each other much but you had sex and then you can't re-contact because you didn't exchange contact details. Such scenario doesn't exist in online dating. b) When you met someone in transit. c) When you are desperate to have sex or were intoxicated and later you feel the person is not worth sex again.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Men that are looking for NSA or one nights stands often don't make an effort when it comes to sex.... They just don't make it worth our while really. I have noticed some women say on their profiles that one offs are acceptable. To be fair they are in the minority but they are out there.Anythings goes if it's all up front and involves consenting adults...provided of course that full and open disclosure is a factor too. Deceit is a big turn off.
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RHP User
11 years ago
not into one night stands,,yeah right and im the tooth fairy,,,not having met many people off this site but lost count of others from another site ,,ive found, those that say their not into one night stand are usually the first to get naked,,mabe they say it so they dont come across to easy..
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RHP User
11 years ago
happened maybe 2 - 3 times in a lifetime.. ? By that I mean something clicked to make it happen that way and I never thought of it as something bad ? Come to think of it, most were after 2 or more meetings which I would imagine quite normal. I say ' keep a open mind and go with your instincts. Not every situation is the same...
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RHP User
11 years ago
NSA I think it is a very stupid word. And I believe many men just tick it and don't even think.To be honest....the longer you are on RHP the more you find your niche so to say.....its up to me to get laid on the first night or on many nights, days. I think to, some men have to get it first out of there system this female smorgasbord they think is in here.Hahhahaha I know a hard one to learn for some....but think Girls....we do a lot of teaching on the forum.Men who take the time to read our comments get an understanding how many women think on RHP, and when they don't get it they will find out a root is not so easy to find.For my I love absolutely love the lovers I made on here, and which each and everyone who decided to come for seconds...thirds or who knows how many....my smile is yours.L
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Missb4u
11 years ago
totally agree with Jessica RabbitMeekaMeander and as PaintMe said a good one night stand is sometimes just what you need. I do try to be fair though and give most guys a couple of chances as first time session can be awful.
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
The ugly truth is...... Women use it to try and filter out the blow-n-go types who simply want a hole to masturbate inside of. Men use it to try to present themselves as being different from the above mentioned guys. Honesty feels good.... doesnt it DG
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inspirit
11 years ago
don't hear form me again.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Love the "cum dump" reference. Yes couples have each other and if you're a couple who likes lots of different partners you have no "connection" or "friendship" with than as a unicorn count me out for your next 3-some. Yes everyone here is looking for something different, do you not recall what your life was like prior to marital bliss OP and having to dodge and weave to sort through the detritus to find a few actually worth you? Personally I prefer not being "fuck fodder" for the masses, anyone who wants a piece of my ass has to be worthy of me.....stayers not players
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RHP User
11 years ago
Did we actually answer your question? LOL. Sorry, it doesn't worry me at all because sometimes you realise that the experience isn't worth repeating. I have never had great sex with someone & not heard from them again anyway. The reason why I don't want ONS... well certainly one on one with a guy as group sex is different... is because it isn't that good. My motto is, if I can take it or leave it, I leave it. Okay I have slipped up occasionally on that and each time I have "gone there" I have usually regretted it. So it's not because I am looking for a partner... its because I am looking for an awesome lover. I hate mediocre sex which is usually the result of not enough chemistry or alcohol.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Not a one night stand type my self. If someone is worth having a roll in the hay with then hope they want it to be an ongoing event. Even worse than the ones on the prowl for one night stands are the blow and go requests I get. If someone wants to put me right off then mention those three words. You go straight onto my ABC list (Absolutely Bloody Clueless)A: It means you have not read my profile. B: You have just proved you have no clue how to have good sex.C: Please go seek help as you need to understand that people are not toys for your amusement. I get way too many such requests but I wonder do women have to suffer the indignity of such requests? It goes something like this. I get a message from random guy, I look at their profile and decide, no thanks, and reply politely declining. Then the awful return message "Please, ill just come over, blow and go." gross and block button.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Of self worth/respect. I for one, do not like one night stands, it makes me feel like a "free hooker" as my buddy once posted. I consider myself mature enough to be sexually adventurous and like to make up my own mind who I will share my body with. Guys who tell me, yes, they are looking for regular meets when face to face, but disappear into the night after they have walked out the door are, for want of a better description, dishonest in my opinion. Yes, there are times when no way in the world would I ever go there again with certain people, but if I laid in my bed with them and stated that I wish for further meets and they agree, but never hear from them again, that pisses me off, big time! I am not a disposable entity, I do not like being treated in that manner.
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bedsled
11 years ago
Realistically, in my option, one night stands are a by product of a lack of chemistry - whether it be mental, physical, social or chemical attraction. Whether looking for a relationship or not, generally one will be more drawn to indulging in another experience with a partner when enticed by a chemical reaction/attraction of some sort.Whilst for a long while I was very disinterested in a strings attached type scenario, I was always open minded about potential for someone to blow my mind on matters.On a number of occasions I was pleasantly surprised by those I have interacted with, often finding a partner in crime for varying amounts of time, however letting someone down nicely when the chemistry is not interpreted equally from both angles is never an easy task, tho one best dealt with maturely. I think we all need to learn to be less reliant on having someone maturely let us down, as often people shy away from such procedures. Being left hanging and to deal with the unknown plaguing ones mind is a very difficult thing to process, however if we can all find the strength in ourselves to move on from something that has not worked equally, it helps us to remain available for the next great thing yet to wander into our lives. This being said, there will always be people who are not emotionally available that will have feelings stirred up as a result of such interactions which are a whole different kettle of fish entirely..
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RHP User
11 years ago
I can understand the mediocre sex being a reason for not wishing to revisit. I suppise I was wondering why, if it's been good/great/mind blowing, and he has stated he is not into ons, ..... Oh dear.... just answered my own question there! Doh! Blonde's moment. Of course. ... being truthful is obviously not what these peoples are into. Ergo, not worth the bother. Ha! Thanks for your responses prople. Ive started my day with a hearty chuckle.
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chevtrek
11 years ago
Some people just don't have it......
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RHP User
11 years ago
From a males point of view (take it or leave it) I've never once had that one night stand thing... I do however understand both males n females being happy to do so... For me I feel it's better if the 2nd, 3rd or more times around ;),,, Again each to there own but hey
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RHP User
11 years ago
There is a big difference between; * a one night standand * a meet up that didn't connect and you don't go back for more even if that was the intention I've also found on my time here on RHP there is generally a decent pause between the first date and the second contact. I'm very old fashioned (tongue in cheek) and expect the gent to contact me. But after they scope out that I'm not furious they didn't contact me the next day and we reconnect it just gets better between us. And so does the sex. We are all busy people and life tends to get in the way. If I thought he was worthwhile and he didn't call me, I'll bite the bullet, contact him and scope his feelings. Admittedly that happens rarely as to the adage of "He's just not that into you". But as to how it makes me feel, meh. Not bothered.
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
I've had one nighters..... due to timing, travelling, and passion that could only be sated in that time and place. And it was gooooood. My preference is for ongoing exploration, but circumstance doesn't always allow it. DG - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
The reason I like one night stands is because I like novelty, and the excitement of meeting a new person turns me on. I don't advertise it because, as others have mentioned, it attracts the type of people who are likely to see you as a cum dump. This is also why I personally, need to meet someone in the flesh for drinks or something before deciding whether I want to fuck them. My minimum requirement for a potential play partner(s) is respecting their views on sexuality and towards women. Which means I need some conversation before sex. Often ons have happened for me when I meet some one and realize there is some chemistry, but not enough for an on going friends with benefits situation. So I've figured why not have some fun just for that night? Or I've jumped into bed hastily, and later reflected on the night and realized that maybe they're not what I'm looking for in a fwb. Which for me has more to do with the type of connection we had, NOT the quality of the sex. (I've honestly had some really fun sex from ons!) I largely agree with bedsled. I think as adults we should be able like someone, and respect them without expecting to be best friends. Which is why I don't get all that offended when I don't hear back from someone. I just figure that they found someone to play with better suited to who they are, and their sexual desires. And I think its good for people to be authentic to that. I don't need to be everyones' cup of tea. Yes, it's disappointing if I really liked that person, and yes the mature thing to do is to contact someone to let them know that you are no longer interested. But I do think people should be able to change their minds without being chastised. I think Meander has the right idea, it's good to hold off on sex first date if you only want ongoing lovers/ fwbs. I know I usually have no idea what I want on the first date, and I think jumping into bed quickly can lead to problems and hurt feelings if your wants do end up being mismatched.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' I've had one nighters..... due to timing, travelling, and passion that could only be sated in that time and place. And it was gooooood. My preference is for ongoing exploration, but circumstance doesn't always allow it. DG - Posted from rhpmobile I've had better ONS than intended FWB's. You have to deal with the cards that are dealt. Sorry, I'm agreeing with you DG. I'll refrain next time....
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RHP User
11 years ago
3 years ago, I had a 2.30am hookup with a guy, we were both online and horny and why not? He was young and hot and I thought I would probably never hear from him again, so I made sure I took my own pleasure with him for what it was worth. 3 years later we are still best friends and fwbs!! NSA for me means, no expectations, if it works it works, if it doesn't- next! But I would always prefer an ongoing no strings, (this time meaning free to see others) fun, and frolicy arrangement than just a one nighter! That being said, I think it's always good manners to send a txt or an rhp message and say nice to meet you, or had a fun night... Then block em!! Why we put it on our profiles, even though we do enjoy the intense heat of a quickie ONS... Is that it continually attracts the wrong kind of fun... "Why call a hooker, hook up with a rhp girl" bahahaha silly boys!!! So much to learn and I can't be bothered with em! Anna Xxxx
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Chev.... Does honest and integrity cover the setting up of fake profiles?.... Just curious ;-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Gold!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well put mischieviouslad
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notsoinnocent20s
11 years ago
I try and go into a first time encounter with no expectations. If it's really enjoyable, then I'm open to something ongoing, but if it only ends up being a one night stand I'm happy with that too. If it's not enjoyable than I'm obviously glad to keep it as a once off thing. Either way I don't go seeking one night stands or an ongoing FWB arrangement, I just go with the flow and see where things go. I'm not going to be disappointed or feel used if you don't call me back. I guess my generation is very used to the one night stand scenario so it's never been a problem for me. Although if it's awesome I'm not going to complain if I'm offered some more of that awesome ;) In response to some comments about why not just go get a one night stand at the pub or swingers club instead of being on here. Well for me even if it's a one night stand situation with someone I meet on here I really enjoy the whole honesty and ability to talk to each other about your wants/needs/desires that you don't necessarily get the time for before a one night stand with a drunken guy from the club that can't even get it up he is that wasted!
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ruby_blossum
11 years ago
love what you had to say... I think what annoys most (men & women), is just the bull shit that is said to get laid. If you are just after a one night stand, say so, be upfront about it..... allow the other person to make an informed decision about jumping your bones and having a wonderful sensual time.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Not looking for either NSA, nor a partner. I'm after lovers whom I have regular sex with. And so far I've (luckily) been able to not confuse great sexual chemistry with infatuation.. I agree totally and this is my philosophy also. What will be will be and having a regular partner and learning about her and her body is far more fun than one night could ever match. Great sexual chemistry is so good when u find it and is hard to replace.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Here, here, so well said Jessica
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RHP User
11 years ago
@notsoinnocent20s Could not agree more very well said😃 - Posted from rhpmobile
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precious142
11 years ago
work for me.....and especially booty calls.....While I have a few regular "irons in the fire"......I like to try before I buy!!!!! (so to speak......and it works both ways)And while it helps to have that spark/connection........lust is also a feeling/emotion not to be overlooked...I'm all for meeting "the one" - wether it be on an adult or dating site.......but if it doesnt happen, it helps to just go with the flow........Í have been pleasantly surprised by that!!!! As long as its enjoyable....who really cares???
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Splicey
11 years ago
If I felt comfortable with never hearing from a guy again and I could happily have a one night stand with him. I'm not a fan of one night stands though. I'd rather find a playmate who I/we can regularly call on. I'm too aware of the risks involved with casual sex to invite that into my marriage. I went home with a guy a few months back and having sex just didn't feel right. So I jacked him off and left him sleeping on his friend's couch. No issues at all with what went down because I didn't step over any line I made for myself. I've had sex with a guy and thought 'If I never fuck him again, I'm okay with that' (nothing against his ability, more about getting what I needed when I needed it). Lucky for me it turned out to be a semi regular thing :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have specifically noted on my profile that I'm not interested in "no strings attached" because it is my theory that guys who state this on their profiles already know that women don't go back for more! Yet to be proved wrong.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm at a stage of my life where I would rather not be subjected to a load of blarney and misrepresentation. There's too much of that in the dating game - I came onto RHP to distance myself from that. Call a spade a spade.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Thank you Meander. I think my head just shot off my shoulders then... Sleazy men and smug married people. What this is a sex site so single people should just open their legs for anybody and not expect a return call. How lovely. I have had a few unintentional one nights stands .. The reason why I don't like them is beside the sex was shithouse and at the end of the day I would have preferred to stay home had a rub, followed by a hot cup of cocoa and a good book. Much more enjoyable. I am relieved when they don't call me because it saves me the hassle of telling them I don't want to repeat the experience. Totally agree Meeka!!!! Smug married people. Wow it is not just me who thinks that. These sites started out as Swinger sites for all the attached and marrieds....guess they then needed to throw in us sad, lonely and desperate singles to get a good jolly rogering from the wonderful sharing and caring attached people. Hey maybe we could meet someone on here and have our own couple profile...yipppeee lets all swap partners(if that's what you're into).....I'll be your Tunnel Buddy..xxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
What Meeka said...... "The reason why I don't like them is beside the sex was shit house and at the end of the day I would have preferred to stay home had a rub, followed by a hot cup of cocoa and a good book. Much more enjoyable. I am relieved when they don't call me because it saves me the hassle of telling them I don't want to repeat the experience" and the added bonus that I did actually cum.....lol. If i see the generic RHP "what I am looking for answer" NSA...I move on and say no thanks to messages.
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montyv12
11 years ago
Can not agree more I am not looking for one night stands but some times you need to find out that he or she is not the right one for you And dare I say is every partnership started on a one night stand because if they are not the right fit be it personality or looks it may be a once off anyway I am a try before you buy type and if some one wants a partner they a looking in the wrong place I am afraid To people that just want to chit chat and are just looking on this site you are fooling yourself Facebook is where you do that being on here means ya looking and are interested in some way other wise ya would not be on here
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've had a small number of unintentional one nighters and as meeka said, they're often not that great. But sometimes circumstances dictate that one night is all that eventuates despite intentions to the contrary. Could be scheduling, travel or just a lack of chemistry. Regardless of how much I dislike one nighters, I'd rather leave it at one night than try to force something that isn't there.
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RHP User
11 years ago
no matter the title of the site the women should still b respected....
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abcplus1
11 years ago
We don't want one night stands, we have had a couple because sometimes that is all that's on the table. To us that has always been a disappointment, we would have preferred to explore the relationship a bit deeper. We are looking for something regular, but without any sort of commitment so by our definition, NSA.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'ruby_blossum'love what you had to say... I think what annoys most (men & women), is just the bull shit that is said to get laid. If you are just after a one night stand, say so, be upfront about it..... Has anyone else found that on "Regular" dating sites where people are supposedly looking for relationships this bullshit is much more... elaborate?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hahah Loving the "smug couples" quote, we are a couple that is very far from "smug", what we are is time poor. As a couple we have 2x the work, 2x the family, 2x the friends, 2x the emotions, 2x the events, 2x the organisation of it all and 1/2 the time. We are very, very honest what we are looking for, if its good we would defiantly go back again. Like some have you have said and we completely agree, it's always a lot better 2nd and 3rd time around. What we don't have time for is op emotions, lives, day to day communication or week to week updates, we have double what you do already= NSA Can also assure everyone, we are by no means trying to drag singles kicking and screaming to spend time with us and will never try too. Our profile says it all, we don't need to lie, we are very happy easy going people who most people enjoy spending time with. We are also not "cum dumps" etc etc hahah far from it, and we are not expecting anyone else to be or feel that way. Only just got the time to read all the other posts, like I've said too busy, 1/2 the time. It's defiantly put a smile on my dial. P.s Stop taking life so seriously, it causes heart attacks and wrinkles. :) From one of the supposed "Smug couples" xxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
One other thing, while I have you all here. Believe it or not, most things start as a one night stand, no matter what is previously said or done, no contracts have been signed (unless you have an arranged marriage) no rings have been traded etc etc. It really doesn't matter how much contact you have had with another until the actual, first night thing, that both or either actually cements it in their head they want seconds. There is never, ever a commitment on either side that if you both have sex you have too repeat it. They may realise you're a cat lady, and they hate cats, you might realise they are into dogs and you love cats, they might say anything in that first encounter or do anything for that matter that puts the other person off, but would be so highly offensive to tell you, but they don't want it again. Anyway have a great day, oh and remember the majority of marriages where they promise and sign on the dotted line at some stage renege, and stop wanting to go there for some reason or another. Have a great day everyone, just keeping it real.
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RHP User
11 years ago
There is a difference. A man who intentionally is looking for one night stands.... Whether he is honest about it or not.... Doesn't usually make much of an effort when it comes to the sex part. They are often selfish and are not overly interested if the woman comes. In my limited opinion anyway. I started a thread on it recently where a survey was conducted and the men stated that they do not make as much effort during sex when they know it's is just a casual encounter. If the sex was awesome than I would have ONS... But then again if it was that great than they usually lead to more ONS with that person. ;-) If you really hit it off with someone I don't think there is a problem having a night of passion even if you do know that for whatever reason you will not be seeing each other again. You only live once right? :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
How many NSA times do you want?... How many try outs is too many?...Do you want your bed to be a 4 poster carved Balinese canopy bed that is forever worked on? Like how many are you going to try before you buy? Do you want someone who has had sex with 100 different people? I am sure the answer would be no and I am sure if you told a prospective partner the truth...they would run for the hills.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Meeka, yes you are right, and agree. Fortunately, I have been one of the lucky few, if going by your poll counts? Iv'e never had a ONS where the male has been this way, quite the opposite, won't leave, won't leave me alone, find it very hard to get away and they want my number etc. hmmm on reflection, I probably haven't been lucky, trying to get away awkwardly, and trying to explain how busy I am and really need to go asap, and thanks for a nice evening but ill probably be too busy to see them again is very uncomfortable...
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rootratandlady
11 years ago
As the female part of us, I am looking for regular playmates and I do state that. I don't need another husband /boyfriend but I am wanting more than complete NSA fuckbuddy. I give respect and expect it in return. You make me feel good and I will return the favour. I don't rule out one night stands or two night stands, I just want to know before hand and I go into a hook up not expecting anything more than that. I don't like to go into a hook up thinking one thing then feeling stupid because it was never that. Just tell it like it is. Yes this is a site used for finding people to fun with....doesn't mean you cant be respectful to your playmates.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Oh, btw, I'm speaking for both of us, before and after, we were a "smug married couple" haha
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ruby_blossum
11 years ago
yes...the "regular" dating sites, their lies and deception are more elaborate...lol Ofcourse many of us know the same men are on both sites....on rhp they may admit they just want NSA, on the regular sites they want a partner, yet again they just window dress their approach to get sex. How many times have we been told here by the guys they get more sex of the regular sites....
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree... Roll with the flow . Personally ' I prefer to meet over a coffee or drink to gauge if I want to go further and vice versa... I'm a fussy bugga , so the meets important. But I'm sure if I click with the lady a fuck isn't out of the question. Jay
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ruby_blossum
11 years ago
the term has nothing to do with you being time poor. It has to do with all the couples who post going "wah wah wah, he - she (not your actual full time partner ) did me wrong. Singles dont have the other half to go home to and snuggle up with like couples do. Many here have said that ONS are ok and if that is what you are seeking that is great. Its just the lack of honest communication that irks most folk.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ok, you might have got us there, we do no, wah, wah, wah, no one has done us wrong, and we have done no one else wrong. But if that happen's, I can absolutely guarantee, there will be no "wah, wah, wah" from me, I try to never "future base" things, if it happens, I roll with it. Getting upset and complaining about how others have treated me bring me absolutely no satisfaction. Que Sera, Sera, Whatever will be, will be The future's not ours, to see Que Sera, Sera What will be, will be. My Moto for everything.
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RHP User
11 years ago
My 10 cents worth... 1/ Isn't the whole point of sexual liberation for women that if they want a one night stand they should be just as free to have them as a man... And should be judged by no one for that? Same rules for all?.. That's how I see it? 2/ every woman I have met on this site has been different...so I'm presuming that's the same for men? Are men really all the same??? (Genuinely intrigued and curious) 3/ 'women are like x, and men are like y'....that's just stereotyping and is against the spirit of freedom, and individuality. 4/ don't most individuals have different moods, and desires from time to time? Also part of being free and alive! On any given day can't we meet someone and 'bail', meet someone and have a one night stand, or meet someone fall in love and live happily ever after? 5/ I don't look for one night stands...but what if it just didn't rock your boat enough to do it again...(I'm sure this must be the same for women as well?)....I think a lot of one night stands, were intended to be more...but just didn't have enough chemistry for it to continue.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Doesnt bother me
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Rare_Bird' Quoting 'Meeka100' Thank you Meander. I think my head just shot off my shoulders then... Sleazy men and smug married people. What this is a sex site so single people should just open their legs for anybody and not expect a return call. How lovely. I have had a few unintentional one nights stands .. The reason why I don't like them is beside the sex was shithouse and at the end of the day I would have preferred to stay home had a rub, followed by a hot cup of cocoa and a good book. Much more enjoyable. I am relieved when they don't call me because it saves me the hassle of telling them I don't want to repeat the experience. Totally agree Meeka!!!! Smug married people. Wow it is not just me who thinks that. These sites started out as Swinger sites for all the attached and marrieds....guess they then needed to throw in us sad, lonely and desperate singles to get a good jolly rogering from the wonderful sharing and caring attached people. Hey maybe we could meet someone on here and have our own couple profile...yipppeee lets all swap partners(if that's what you're into).....I'll be your Tunnel Buddy..xxx Sounding a little bitter there. That chip on your shoulder weighing you down? You do know that this is a sex site? Maybe your 1950's mindset would be better suited to a proper dating site.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Rare_Bird' How many NSA times do you want?... How many try outs is too many?...Do you want your bed to be a 4 poster carved Balinese canopy bed that is forever worked on? Like how many are you going to try before you buy? Do you want someone who has had sex with 100 different people? I am sure the answer would be no and I am sure if you told a prospective partner the truth...they would run for the hills. Is there a limit? How many is too many in your narrow judgemental little world? Do you even know what NSA stands for?There is a difference between NSA and ONS and as someone else said, every first time you have sex with someone new could end up being a ONS. I suspect that most people on here don't go out and specifically intend for a new encounter to be a ONS, but if the person they play with turns out to be a starfish or a victor, chances are they won't go back for seconds. For those who actually only want a ONS, who are you to cast judgement on their choice?
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RHP User
11 years ago
The problem is alot of people aren't honesty about what they actually wanted... I'm with a few ladies here...looking for fb/fwb ....in saying that could still add nsa LOL unfortunately men will say anything that will help them get an end in ....and I'm quoting a male friend...also an ex fwb.. We are still good mates I've tried the nice dating sites same crap and as one lady said coming on her can find someone with same interests most of the men that really take my interest don't live in my area :/ anyway it's all about honesty....a rare commodity these days!!!! Not just here :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Bwahahahahahaha
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hahahahahaha That cracked me up. My views are definitely 1950's... Just because I want good sex.
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RHP User
11 years ago
NSA = no satisfaction at all. 😛
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RHP User
11 years ago
No Spooning Afterwards?
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RHP User
11 years ago
No Strapon ay? What like never? Not even the tip? Hehe
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RHP User
11 years ago
No anal sex !! That is a deal breaker for me. You no like anal... I no like you. :p
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RHP User
11 years ago
Oops that would have to be NAS.... For the dyslexic. >:-)
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On_Safari
11 years ago
(Takes deep breath) shut the fuck up Indy shut the fuck up!!! Grrrrrrrr
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On_Safari
11 years ago
The 1920-30's were pretty spectacular too.....and if what I saw and experienced on the weekend with other antiquated and less smug couples is anything to go by.....I'm happy stuck in the time warp, so's Lover actually as he puts on his tiny gold Rocky Horror shorts for my amusement.....honestly wondering where you're gonna pack it all in 💋 and about time people focussed less on the sex and more on the adult fun component. Fuck fodder I'm not and quality Lovers tend to agree.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I can't seam to have any luck at at. I'm not in to one night stands it's a waist of time. I just want friends and if it turns in to more grate but I don't seam to be having any luck at all - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Stufu1969' My 10 cents worth... 1/ Isn't the whole point of sexual liberation for women that if they want a one night stand they should be just as free to have them as a man... And should be judged by no one for that? Same rules for all?.. That's how I see it? 2/ every woman I have met on this site has been different...so I'm presuming that's the same for men? Are men really all the same??? (Genuinely intrigued and curious) 3/ 'women are like x, and men are like y'....that's just stereotyping and is against the spirit of freedom, and individualityWe shouldn't judge people by how many sexual partners they've had, whether it be many or few (though I think having at least a few is good for figuring out what you like). And yes, men vary just as much as women. There are some that prefer sex only with a few people they have emotional connections with, and others that like promiscuous sex. The perpetuation of stereotypes is one of my big pet peeves. I agree with rubyblossom and meander, its the deceptive people we should be judging! Which, do seem to be more elaborately deceptive on dating sites...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Hahahahahaha That cracked me up. My views are definitely 1950's... Just because I want good sex. Unsurprisingly, you fail to comprehend. My post was directed at Rare_Bird.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' That cracked me up. My views are definitely 1950's... Just because I want good sex. The 50's, when housewives ran on sherry and amphetamines.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sorry ... I thought you were talking to me as you had quoted me. Although I do have a very short attention span and only scan so must have misunderstood. Oops sorry :p
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's not so much the NSA or one night stands that bother me, it's more the lies and deceit and the silence If we both meet and agree that it's not NSA, if after the meeting your feelings have changed, at least just be honest rather than just disappear..... And how hard is it to just be upfront and at least I'd know what I'm getting into Sometimes it's just that little bit of honesty that makes the difference to leaving someone feeling satisfied or feeling like a piece of shit - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is there an Ignore Button....oh that's right it's the clitoris!!! 1920's , 1930's ,1940's ,1950's and earlier was sexy...silk underwear, stockings and suspenders under all the ladies clothing.....Hot as!!! The men would have loved that. Can you imagine the horniness it would have created in both sexes. Stockings were a lovely gift back then from your sweetie especially around the war years. The most reliable way for a woman to obtain nylons during the war was to live in a country where US troops were stationed. GIs earned a decent income relative to the war-ravaged economies overseas, so they often could afford to spend some of their disposable income out on the town and still have money left over to buy things. The post exchanges, or PXs, on their bases typically offered nylons, as well as chocolate and cigarettes, at low prices. Many of the men purchased these small luxuries to give as gifts to female friends. With the dawning of peace, the stocking situation improved in the States, but not overnight. “I remembered…after the war was over and we heard that Penny’s had nylon stockings,” wrote Helen Beaubier at kaccdouglassclan “I ran out of the house and was going to run down to the store and get nylons and I got a pair and they were thick and they wouldn’t stay up; they were terrible; they were…just awful those first nylons that came.” Stockings survived for another two decades before they virtually disappeared. By then, DuPont had invented Lycra, which was added to hosiery to allow it to stretch to fit. Now, stockings could be made to fit snugly all the way up the leg and, in the form of pantyhose, continue over the hip. As skirt lengths rose higher and higher, stockings became obsolete. Pantyhose took over, relegating stocking sales once and for all to the likes of Victoria’s Secret. For American women, a shortage that affected daily life was the shortage of stockings. Before the war, no well-dressed woman was seen in public without hose, and silk stockings were a necessary part of every woman’s wardrobe. Jacqueline Sprung, an 18-year-old city switchboard operator, told the Star in 1942 that she cut down on entertainment, cosmetics and silk stockings.“It was a little embarrassing with bare legs at first. But most of the girls are doing it now, and it saves worry about runs as well as money.”At the University of Toronto, girls painted their legs, and included a seam to mimic the stocking, remembers Evelyn Cotter, now 88.“I remember girls in the bathroom at Whitney Hall slapping this stuff on their legs. It seems so strange we’d want to have the appearance,” she said. Those were the days.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I for one am all for courtesy.. you wanna spend the night in my bed, my one free night a week, spend days/weeks chatting to me to then never hear from you again?! Well for fucks sake, have some courtesy, if you can spend however long feeding me your lines, grow a set of balls and tell me what it really was.. Four times now i've had this happen, guys are fucking useless, and i am yet to find one that isn't. Like Jessica Rabbit so aptly put.. we aren't cum dumps. I would like a friend who i can also have sex with.. no feelings.. considering i have just come out of a 13 yr relationship .. i think its safe to say i don't want another anytime soon.. I JUST WANT A FRIEND WHO CAN SATISFY MY SEXUAL NEEDS!!
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gazpacho
11 years ago
Quoting 'venus2point0'We shouldn't judge people by how many sexual partners they've had, whether it be many or few (though I think having at least a few is good for figuring out what you like). And yes, men vary just as much as women. There are some that prefer sex only with a few people they have emotional connections with, and others that like promiscuous sex. The perpetuation of stereotypes is one of my big pet peeves. I agree with rubyblossom and meander, its the deceptive people we should be judging! Which, do seem to be more elaborately deceptive on dating sites... I really agree here with your points. A person's number is immaterial evidence and if it please the court, erase those figures from the record and the jury is directed to disregard them in its deliberations.I also prefer to have sex with a few people, rather than just the one. It may turn out that we really have something going on long term... you know... as a group. Who's to know really? We're all capable of loving more than one, so why not indulge your senses and grab a bit off many.Man do vary as much as women! [We have so much in common Venus, it's like we are twins or something] I wouldn't have it any other way... enjoy the men, as much as you enjoy the women! Not once, but even over the whole weekend would better suit.I think we should judge those cheeky arse bug gas that lead us all along, making us think there's a reasonable prospect of a good thing, when all along they're playing the field and sneak off in the dark of night with a couple of boozed up floozies leaving us with our strap ons and dicks in hand, wondering where he went. Name and shame [enter YOUNG STUD's name here]... name and shame. All I have to say is NEXT ! {time Mr, next time}. (I couldn't resist your profile PIC miss venus. You look so incredibly naughty for such a young innocent orchid)HugsGazpacho
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gazpacho
11 years ago
That's different.Gazpacho
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ruby_blossum
11 years ago
when you hit the "post" button gazpacho
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'msbehvn85' I for one am all for courtesy.. you wanna spend the night in my bed, my one free night a week, spend days/weeks chatting to me to then never hear from you again?! Well for fucks sake, have some courtesy, if you can spend however long feeding me your lines, grow a set of balls and tell me what it really was.. Four times now i've had this happen, guys are fucking useless, and i am yet to find one that isn't. Like Jessica Rabbit so aptly put.. we aren't cum dumps. I would like a friend who i can also have sex with.. no feelings.. considering i have just come out of a 13 yr relationship .. i think its safe to say i don't want another anytime soon.. I JUST WANT A FRIEND WHO CAN SATISFY MY SEXUAL NEEDS!! Oh dear me such bitterness. You want sex without feelings, you want your sexual needs satisfied, but you are not a cum dump. If I may in equal colour say, maybe you have your knickers in a knot. Guys are not at all useless, maybe you should look at your attitude for what you write here certainly would cause balls to retract and desires to shrivel. little wonder you cause men to think twice and turn their backs. It takes a little more than popping in two cheap batteries and flicking on the on switch for men to want sex.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm not a fan but most women seem to think one night with me is more than enough........and not in a good way.
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RHP User
11 years ago
To the first person to show me where it is written "sex site". Kudos though to Stufu1969, Terrylamb and montyv12, great comments.
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RHP User
11 years ago
There is one good thing about one night stands, at least you can hold on to the hope that sometime there could be a second.
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RHP User
11 years ago
We all need to feel loved,respected and desired as people.Some times people don't know how to handle a situation where its "only sex"They put up walls and the defence's kick in to protect our feelings.If you want a one night stand ,that's fine just communicate this with the person so you both know where you stand. I for one admit i have done one night stands ,but i get no mental satisfaction and my moral compass takes a bit of a dive.I like to befriend someone first ,ensure we are both on the same page and go from there.So if your just after a one night stand,i think its only fair to project that to your .... err.... prey ! So who wants to take me out to dinner
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm buying
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RHP User
11 years ago
I can not help that i have CrAzY EyE!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'maturecpl52' You do know that this is a sex site? Maybe your 1950's mindset would be better suited to a proper dating site. Quoting 'maturecpl52'Unsurprisingly, you fail to comprehend. "Unsurprisingly". A very childish comment from someone calling themselves mature. Bitchy, one might even say.
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