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Out of my league?
February 24 2017
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Smilingwithfun
8 years ago
No one is ever out of your league if you truly believe in yourself
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RHP User
8 years ago
As much as I am wildly attracted to men with superior intelligence (IQ &EQ) I am also intimidated by it - Posted from rhpmobile
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GM4funxxx
8 years ago
Its been my experience, or I prefer to think 😂 that they may consider themselves out of your league. I found out recently a friends late wife though another was up on a pedestal so to speak. Only to find out at the funeral that this other person was in ore of her achievements and generous nature. You never know do you we are our own stumbling blocks most of the time. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Never thought too much about it until l read your question. I rarely instigate the chase, either in here or in real life probably because l know l am not everyone's cup of tea so it's pointless unless the profile is clear that they are looking for TVs. However if l receive a message from a hot person l have no hesitation in trying to make the grade and would not think about being out of their league. My male half is quite different in that respect and does see some women as being out of reach both here and outside. Which in itself is odd as l have confidence and self esteem issues whereas my male half has none of those. So for some reason is in reverse for the 2 of us.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I just fire away, hitting on guys, I'm a very horny woman and always go into it positive, expecting they'll love me 😉 no it's weird, that thought never crosses my mind. I do wonder if our forum presence/notoriety/idiotic behavior/sexual prowess lol might intimidate some guys or just turn them off 😀 but as you can see, I wonder, I don't worry. I like being hunted though, so rarely do the hitting up on here, RL I hit them up 😊 it's a jungle out there though 😉 Being hit on by hot guys is common, never think they're out of my league, I'm usually thinking other dirty thoughts. I always accept with extreme enthusiasm 😜😛
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RHP User
8 years ago
For me it's intellect. I have been quite intimidated by some profiles where I consider their intellect way above my own and that makes me pull back if they have contacted me. If they have not contacted me and I have seen their profile I won't message them. But I'm working on those self esteem issues while I take a break from looking here. And I agree with Annie...great topic!
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RHP User
8 years ago
and will not seek a physical Adonis, simply because I don't offer that in return. I have a mum body, with many a scars, one I consider exceptionally ugly, but necessary. Personally, I don't have a 'look' I go for, but I do feast with my eyes first ... I need to like what I see, attraction is key. I have said 'no' recently to a play with a couple because they 'did nothing for me'. Did I think them out of my league? No just incompatible with what I like :) I don't see what others see in me, in fact I struggle hugely with the 'you're hot, your beautiful etc'. I love the feedback I get from people, whether we play or not, BUT I put myself out of their league because of my own insecurities. I have received feedback, quite negative, which has made me wary. I've also had a person off RHP come to a meet, see me and walk off ... that did wonders for the self esteem lol. If I'm hit up by people and they want photos, I'll more than likely stop conversation coz I hate myself in photos, I'm better in real life and I want people to see that but few people want the commitment of a meet without the commitment of a play :) This is not a pity party lol ... just the reality of on-line dating. I'm as fickle as the next person but I'm my own worst enemy too :) Mary xx
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PurePeony
8 years ago
I've not felt that someone would be "out of my league", but I have felt that many are "incompatible". Rather similar sentiments but it's the half full or half empty thang. ;) I dislike the insecurity and level of self-esteem that "out of my league" connotates. The only types of men I'd feel are "out of my league" would be the billionaire tycoons who go for the blonde leggy models with boob implants and stilettos. =-D Everyone else is fair play, subject to my stringent Quality Control checks, of course! Hahaha! :P All said, when that bothersome hormonal time of month hits, I instantly degenerate into bloated, fat, ugly and dumpy mode and suddenly, every man becomes instantly elevated to "out of my league" status. :P Bloody periods!!! (Pun intended. :P)
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Missb4u
8 years ago
I often think it but it doesn't stop me engaging with them. I have a heap of insecurities about my body but they are just that "my insecurities" it is not how other people view me. I may be blown away that some one so fine would be interested in fat little me and I'll generally say so openly but I wouldn't not talk to them or anything just because of that. I'd chat via message and try to get to know them a little, I have pics of my size and face for them to make their desicion if they want to continue. I think you quickly work out if they are genuine or not. Connection and chemistry is about so much more then looks.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Rather than dwelling on the negatives,look at your positives. Don't mean that in a conceited way,either.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Like some of the other ladies, I too am often really surprised by those that contact us. I also have a "mum bod" and alot of insecurities in my looks. I admit though when I get a positive response from those I would consider more attractive than myself (especially in terms of fitness) then it does boost my self esteem :) But it is nice to know that I am not the only one that feels this way!!!
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RHP User
8 years ago
I feel lots are out of my league.... I'm confident, funny and get on with people IRL but find it hard to get that across in messages, I end up sounding boring so think they won't be interested, add that to body issues..... and getting older doesn't help.👵🏻😄 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
If they initiated contact Op then it's game on. What do you have to lose apart from going on a date and at worst possibly make a new friend. ? And if your lucky you get to ride the pony.lol 😉😈 Win Win I say.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I would never contact younger fitter males on here myself because I feel they are out of my league. I know I shouldn't feel anyone is above me but I have always had insecurities about myself and my body. For this reason, i'm glad I have someone who does the contacting for me and, 4 out 5 times, they are younger, fitter and also easy on the eyes (and perfect gentlemen) 😊 The real turning point for me has been meeting up with them and being acknowledged by them that they find my body sexy and hot, and you know what, I believe them. I no longer care what others think about my body as long as I love myself. If they don't like my body, it's their problem not mine. So say f*ck you insecurities! Flaunt what you've got and be confident with yourself. Life is too short. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
NRL and AFL are just that, out of each others league.
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RHP User
8 years ago
A lot of women are too picky so i dont really care and never feel out of league. Im very confident i would ask a super model out .. get rejected and try again with another. Lol I dont have super model looks or body but also im not ugly.. so gotta keep trying. Who knows maybe end up with a stunnah haha - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Man i aint never seeing a woman i didnt like or i ever ignored. To me woman are goddesses, they should all should be worshipped . Ms dragon..seriously . Your hot as hell can believe you posting this.. next time you should let me post a thread like that 4 you.. Aint that true boys. Women saying they feel out of league !!! Ftfoh you feel you outta their league you make sure you come join mine .. lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I've had a couple of initial messages from guys saying they think that I am out of their league, which started me thinking about the topic, as I wonder what would make them think that. I admit that I also think this about some men, but as I have said in other threads I do struggle with my self esteem sometimes, particularly during lower points in my life. To those saying it shouldn't matter if you believe in yourself and have self-confidence, well yes in an ideal world that would be the case. This isn't an ideal world though and I'm not going to pretend that I'm perfect. I've got a complicated history which among other things has often involved me feeling like I am absolute rubbish. That's not something you can easily get over and fix, and although most times I recognise my good points it's a huge work in progress.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I have fit athletic guys messaging me asking to meet but I think they are out of my league. So i politely say no thanks which I know is stupid of me. I wish I had more confidence in myself if anyone knows how to get this please tell me how. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Ooow sweetheart.. :* ( Dont say that - Posted from rhpmobile
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MissRedFox
8 years ago
The perception of being out of someone's league is often based on very superficial things and to a person that places great importance on these things and is more educated and is in the fit category may think I'm not up to their standards, but I generally am attracted to people who can see beyond these things anyway. I more look at a persons character- passion, integrity, honesty and being open minded is most important to me. Education, wealth, looks, age is not an indicator of any of the above XX - Posted from rhpmobile
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langton11
8 years ago
In the scheme of things, I feel my wife and I are not too far down the food chain given our age, especially her as she's damn hot and looks a lot younger than I. So, in my time here I have seen 2 other prospective couples and have made contact with neither. TBH, it's not a feeling of inadequacy on my part (actually, no, that's a lie, it kinda is, but just a little bit) so much as a feeling that they probably have better options out there.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'PurePeony' I've not felt that someone would be "out of my league", but I have felt that many are "incompatible". I agree with Peony. I'm confident enough in myself and know well enough that I'm a mainstream/average sort of personality who is easy to get along with. I have a good command of language and I don't have an outrageous ego. I'm likeable, if you will. Humble too.. But that doesn't overcome what I look like. Looks matter a lot...at first, anyway. What a woman looks like certainly matters to me. That's attraction. And that's subjective, of course.I believe that "Out of my league" phrase is really referring to looks. Like "Punching above your weight."I don't believe that anyone really is out of my league or that I have or could punch above my weight, but until I can get a feel that my looks are someone else's cup of tea, then I'm not wasting anyones time. Mine or theirs. And that's a hard thing to get a feel for online as opposed to meeting them in real life.
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upforthefunxxx
8 years ago
I honestly don't think anyone is out of anyones league. We all have different things that attract us to someone. I think there is something sexy about everyone. Give someone whom you wouldn't normally go for a try. You might be amazingly surprised. I really enjoy surprising others. How good is it when someone says " wow, you are so unexpected " Enriched indeed - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'houndhunter' Man i aint never seeing a woman i didnt like or i ever ignored. To me woman are goddesses, they should all should be worshipped . Ms dragon..seriously . Your hot as hell can believe you posting this.. next time you should let me post a thread like that 4 you.. Aint that true boys. Women saying they feel out of league !!! Ftfoh you feel you outta their league you make sure you come join mine .. lol Thankyou :) I did suspect that in a lot of cases guys are referring to looks when they use that phrase. To be honest that gives me conflicting feelings, because yes it's nice to be complimented on your looks but it also makes me feel a bit uncomfortable that someone would say that based purely on what I look like. Looks are just one of many aspects of a person. If I think that someone is out of my league it may be partly related to what they look like, but there will be other reasons for it that tap into some of those self confidence issues I mentioned previously, i.e. areas where I feel my life is lacking. The thought will be that someone so worldly / sophisticated / well travelled / well read etc, could never be interested in someone like me who is not any of those things.
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RHP User
8 years ago
This is a bit confronting for me, admitting to these insecurities and self confidence issues that I have, particularly given that this forum and society in general are usually telling us how important and attractive confidence is. I think I'm also over pretending to be something I'm not though, and in a way I find it quite cathartic to admit how much I do struggle with this stuff at times.
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PurePeony
8 years ago
Your profile photo is stunning! Of course most guys would think they are out of your league! You've got a lovely hourglass figure in a world where most women are pear-shaped or rectangular (a close cousin of the hourglass). I think when it comes to the physical aspects, you really have no grounds to feel insecure at all.
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PurePeony
8 years ago
When I made that comment, I forgot something important- if the guy liked like Bradley Cooper/Hugh Jackman/Brad Pitt, then yeah, hands-down they are out of my league! But if the guy looks like the Minions, well problem solved! Hahaha! Kidding! I won't be interested in a Minion-sized cock! :P
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langton11
8 years ago
Quoting 'PurePeony' Your profile photo is stunning! Of course most guys would think they are out of your league! You've got a lovely hourglass figure in a world where most women are pear-shaped or rectangular (a close cousin of the hourglass). I think when it comes to the physical aspects, you really have no grounds to feel insecure at all. Physically, at least, you are gorgeous
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RHP User
8 years ago
And thought yep she sounds really cool but probably out of my league. My loss I guess for lacking confidence
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RHP User
8 years ago
I suppose men have insecurities too. Your profile pics are gorgeous; your profile wording is well-thought-out and well-written; your contributions to the forums tell people you are highly intelligent, strong-minded and an independent woman who speaks her mind. Of course you would be out of a lot of people's leagues. Take it as a compliment 😉 It's not unhealthy to feel insecure and have self-confidence issues. I'm quite sure we all have them at one point or another in our life, but I do admire your bravery to share your struggles with us. Not all of us would but it helps others in the same boat to know they are not alone. It's one of the reasons I love the forums. Thanks Ms_Dragon 💐 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Sorry, my post will probably only make it worse for you 😳 I hope you meet more people like your last date 😉 Hugs 💜 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
So happy for you, I actually have tears in my eyes lol (Been feeling like a soppy little puppy lately - silly hormones 😛) Have fun tonight! 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
The thought will be that someone so worldly / sophisticated / well travelled / well read etc, could never be interested in someone like me who is not any of those things. Well lets be pragmatic, if you want to attract these types then get to work and get to their level, dont do nothing about it and then feel sad that they might never be interested in you, so either work for it or do nothing and move on and dont even think about them, or you can just dream about them and feel insecure whike doing nothing. Doesnt heart to dream. You said " I did suspect that in a lot of cases guys are referring to looks when they use that phrase. To be honest that gives me conflicting feelings, because yes it's nice to be complimented on your looks but it also makes me feel a bit uncomfortable that someone would say that based purely on what I look like. Looks are just one of many aspects of a person." Now about the compliment part, i can see your looks in a second and complimemt you, or other material aspect like wealth, but your personality is something that takes time to see in a person. Thats why men will compliment you on your looks only, because they dont know you yet. For example all my life people always complimented the purity of my soul or that i have a good heart, and i take pride in that , some even called me buddha haha.. now thats all after many discussion with me or dealings with me.. For this reason also i would never date a vile evil person especially those who are opportunistic, and id never marry such and have kiids because it will ruin my dna regardless how pretty they are. So it takes time for such compliment.. its the last that will come. For me id take a good hearted woman whos average in beauty and isnt well read travelled or sophisticated as long as i see the good heart, if i see a good person i will ignore everything good person means loyalty too. Im the type whod givd his life to show his loyalty to someone who trusts him id do everything to never be the disloyal because without it we have nothing. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Summer_in_Sydney' Seeing him tonight, hopefully we can make each other good about ourselves. Thanks xx Hope you have an awesome time!
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RHP User
8 years ago
They think that because your pics are some of the sexiest on here. You have an extremely attractive figure and you wear a body stocking like few others. Seriously, your pics look like an ad for the body stockings, you literally look like a lingerie model. Perhaps they have also seen your forum posts and so know that you are also funny, smart, passionate and real. They also know that as you are on here you are most likely sexually liberated and open minded. From this information they are probably imagining you to be somewhere on the line between wife zone and unicorns on the hot/crazy matrix. Women like this are rare and highly sought after. Now, I don't know you other than your online presence here but that is my inference from it and I imagine most other guys come to a similar conclusion.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Has probably been the cause of me missing some fun times but I think that is better then meeting and seeing that look of disappointment on a guys face.
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Starlet1
8 years ago
We've often walked into a room and though "that couple is crazy hot. We're going to need to lift our game!" It's part of what makes this fun. It's even better when a seriously attractive couple like you back. What a rush! 😮😍😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm clearly way out of every ones league on here, but in a bad way..seems it takes being totally ripped or a young as F pretty boy,, people have way to high standards and expectations.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I don't class anyone as "out of my league", just either they are for me or they're not for me. Intelligence, charm, good in bed aren't always of equal standard. Usually what one "lacks" in one area, they make up in another... comparing only to what I like, not anybody else. If it's dirtiness and the guy forces me to be equally dirty, instant block. If a guy is talking over my head.... um see ya later, if a guy is extremely corny and clingy or totally distant - bye bye Mr. If a guy is good-looking, intelligent, charming... there's gotta be something he's looking for and whether I'm a good match would be to contact them. Pffft I don't care if he doesn't like me, plenty do 😉 so I'm ok with that. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
We are talking physicality then probably most men.:) But if we are talking about other aspects of self,then I doubt that anyone is out of my league ..I am also extremely modest :) Q
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'PurePeony' When I made that comment, I forgot something important- if the guy liked like Bradley Cooper/Hugh Jackman/Brad Pitt, then yeah, hands-down they are out of my league! But if the guy looks like the Minions, well problem solved! Hahaha! Kidding! I won't be interested in a Minion-sized cock! :P ..But how big are Minions? 3ft? More? I haven't seen the movies so I'm trying to imagine some relative-penis-size. Or maybe they're hung completely out of proportion..
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RHP User
8 years ago
out of league to almost every woman here, and the ones who think I am in there league "change there mind" after a few days of chatting. Why? Oh yeah I am 78.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yep defiantly, while we believe we are great people we are also a little older and have the scars of time. Shame but you look at young bodies and go "I don't want to scare them" Is was it is.
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cat_n_the_hatter
8 years ago
People are beautiful in so many different ways. Someone intelligent can intrigue you, someone fun can make your life bright again, someone talented inspires you. and someone warm makes your heart grow. How can you possibly turn away, leave and not care about people’s feelings. To meet someone over coffee doesn’t mean that we will end up in bed. My self respect won't let me tolerate everything, so out of my league are those who are rude, misogynist or racist. I don’t think men, especially men in a position of power (regardless of their age) have those insecurities like most women. What really annoys me is that some men think money can buy everything and allow them to freely approach me. I do not know if someone didn’t contact us because they thought we were out of their league, but I do know how someone who I considered to be my friend moved away from me in a room full of people, because her fitness coach had told her to avoid standing next to a thin beautiful women ( I certainly don't think I am something special), to have a better chance to get “noticed”. (Ms)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Agree with many comments, I have body issues and low self confidence so I will see a profile, sometimes with a great looking lady and think I can't offer him anything. Or just think that physically he is too perfect to want my imperfections. Tough world, it shouldn't matter but physical attraction is the first signal you get before anything else. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yes. Looks, athleticism, age etc. Yes, it does alter our approach to further contact.
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upforthefunxxx
8 years ago
Quoting 'norush66a' Has probably been the cause of me missing some fun times but I think that is better then meeting and seeing that look of disappointment on a guys face. Oh lovely. Any guy would be lucky. You know I wish I was ;)
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cat_n_the_hatter
8 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Dragon' This is a bit confronting for me, admitting to these insecurities and self confidence issues that I have, particularly given that this forum and society in general are usually telling us how important and attractive confidence is. I think I'm also over pretending to be something I'm not though, and in a way I find it quite cathartic to admit how much I do struggle with this stuff at times. This is so refreshingly honest.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Depends on your self esteem and confidence. Being a former nurse and having health issues that have caused havoc with weight been there done all the doubting issues, have the wrinkles and crinkles and a few odd scars too. No matter who you are younger older black white or brindle. You still have to breathe and we all have red blood. As long as there is respect wouldn't worry about it take the plunge you might be pleasantly surprised. Or not, if so move on and enjoy life. After all we only get one shot at it 😎 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
A lot of people need to forget about scars, forget about the extra 5kg they might have put on last season, forget about what they might think are saggy body parts, and do something that makes them feel sexy! Now me, I'm far from being a supermodel, but I get hit on left right and centre! Not just on sites like this, but I was even hit on by a young guy at the supermarket the other day! Why? Self confidence! I'm happy with the way I present myself, and am consistently called beautiful, gorgeous, and sexy as hell. These comments in turn build up my confidence even more. I haven't always been this confident in myself, it took a lot of soul searching, trips to lingerie stores, and online shopping 😜, and surrounding myself with people who build me up, not put me down. So ladies, go to your favourite lingerie store, and buy something sexy for yourself! Go and get your hair and makeup done! Go and get those legs and bikini line waxed! And go and surround yourself with your girlfriends for a night on the town! Same applies for men! Go and get a makeover, buy some new clothes that make you feel and look great! It's all a start! And never, ever think you're out of anyone's league!
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FeistyFatty
8 years ago
Will often respectfully decline really attractive men that have messaged me for that exact reason. I know my level..... I'll stick with my level and I'm Comfortable to swim around there. I need to feel comfortable with the person I'm playing with otherwise; I've wasted my time. And I'm probably one of those rare creatures that's not actually attracted to someone "outta my league".... they don't even come into my radar to be honest. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'houndhunter' The thought will be that someone so worldly / sophisticated / well travelled / well read etc, could never be interested in someone like me who is not any of those things. Well lets be pragmatic, if you want to attract these types then get to work and get to their level, dont do nothing about it and then feel sad that they might never be interested in you, so either work for it or do nothing and move on and dont even think about them, or you can just dream about them and feel insecure whike doing nothing. Doesnt heart to dream. You may mean well hound, but this is a very patronising comment. Don't assume that I am doing nothing, that I'm not working towards anything, or that I'm spending hours lamenting over the possibility that certain people may not be interested in me (which is just my perception anyway....some of them probably would be interested). With all due respect, you don't know me, my history, the challenges I may be facing, or anything else that may be going on in my life, so please don't throw the positive mantra, self-help guru style advice at me. I appreciate that you are probably trying to help, but my comment wasn't actually an invitation for you to dissect my life and give me a Tony Robbins style lecture. I also didn't want this thread to be so focused on me, but rather a general discussion of the topic. So, let's move on.
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RHP User
8 years ago
great question and as a first time writer to anything on rhp i thought i would reply to this. Its been my experience on here so far that when reading profiles and looking at photos having thoughts of they are way out of my league but ill give it go anyway. Cant say i have had much success either as yet. I have been told that there are way more guys on here than woman so they can pick and choose who they respond to which i understand. Does it stop me hell no ill give anything a go even when i know id have no chance whatsoever i like the thrill of at least trying cause hey lets face it you just never know who might reply with a yes. I guess being the shy quiet type doesn't help my cause but hey once i get chatting its all guns blazing and i know i never pretend to be someone I'm not to bag the babe I'm always myself. So still have hope that one day i will have success. lol
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RHP User
8 years ago
After a 5 year relationship it has taken me 2 years to get back in the game. For me I still hold insecurities even though I've lost most of the weight I put on during my relationship I'm still very shy. I am a very outgoing, bubbly and social person and during my time being single I have grown so much and become very strong that I don't fear rejection but I struggle with the being comfortable aspect after having a partner so long. In saying that I will always have a conversation with those who contact me and my initial discussions with them determines if they stimulate my mind. If this connection is made then I'm more inclined to feel comfortable meeting. If someone send me message or a flirt and they are not my type I will always respectfully reply explaining that. Something I learnt many years ago is our body is just transport for our soul and that shines from inside to our outer being. If we compare ourselves to anyone we will always come off inferior. Last year was the first time I could say I really love who I am as a person. Love yourself and others will see that and want to get to know the amazing person you are ❤️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I knew these exact 2 points were gonna come up.. dont assume im doing nothing , i didnt want this thread to be about me. In all honesty im just going with the flow here you posted something and i replied , when i reply i like to dissect someones post so i can be clear. Just remember if you post about your life here we going to break down your post about your life and also sometimes someones post becomes the focus of this thread. And people will make assumption about you. As i was writing that commen I knew and i could see you replying with dont assume im doing nothing , and , dont make this thread about me.but you didnt mention anything about improving or working on your chances and i came up with that conclusion by how you dissected other peoples comment about your initial post here and when they said words of encouragement to you and complimented you you just brushed it off as comments that doesnt help and you dont know me you only met me once and you were actually blunt and rude to them and i was actually taking back and thought how rude , so treat others how yiu like to be treated, i just become blunt and direct to you and dissected your post like how you did to others when they werr nice to you. Even the last lasy who threw a word if encouragenent to you went back and read some your previous post she missed where yoy wee bit rude and she retracted her compliment and said sorry i realize that would not help your case. Your brave for posting, but like some, yoi dont like your post to be the focus of the thread or for people to throw assumption at you or nreak down your post. This is a risk you took for posting. Cant have the cake and eat it Im just going with the flow here, not targetting anyone. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
That person who i thought was rude us summer-in-sydney.. I confused her post with you. Sorry there isnt delete or edit button here. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
To be of the opinion that someone is out of your league is doing yourself a massive disservice, no matter who you are. It's taking the ability to choose away from your potential playmate/partner and therefore ensuring you have zero chance of contact/playtimes/or whatever the goal may be. Every single person has their own likes and dislikes regardless of their own appearance. They may find something that you aren't particularly proud of to actually be quite attractive! I think confidence is sexy, work with what you've got, be able to accept rejection and let your potential playmate make the choice. You may just be surprised at the situations you end up in ;) Mr fc - Posted from rhpmobile
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ready4allfun
8 years ago
The simple answer is yes But I still put myself out there but unfortunately either they are out of my league or my selling skills have a lot to be desired ,but I keep sending the messages ,would be nice to occasionally get and response even if it's a thank you but no thank you lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
God, I just woke up and saw you'd left and I'm reallybupset. You don't have to leave. Things don't always pan out the way we want them to on the forum but that's okay, we're like a big disfunctional family. We fight, well me mostly 😜 the dust settles and we carry on. You're part of that family, you don't have to always say the right thing, but what you see as words you might regret, words are always real feelings and help us work through our feelings. People are more understanding than you might think, or not, who cares, you have as much right to be here as any of us. And Godammit you were like a breath of fresh air and your variety of new topics were a lot of fun, much needed and enjoyed. Please come back. If you want your same user name, message the site in the help section and ask to resume this same profile. You have a window of time where they'll usually do that. But please come back. We need fresh thoughts and identities to brighten the forum 😢
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm going to mention a couple of examples. I hit on a forumite lol don't worry your identity will remain private, hope you haven't told anyone cause that would be embarassing 😀 but the reply was a no, that he thought he wasn't up to my usual standard. I didn't reply. No offence dude but don't you want a root 😝 men are always whinging they get rejected or no replies, trust me on this, you would have enjoyed my company 😉 but I took it as either you weren't interested or protecting yourself being rejected further along, didn't matter, all good. All this just for reference, tongue in cheek, all good fun, of course I respect you and understood/understand your choice to turn down widdle ol' me 😢 😀
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RHP User
8 years ago
sadly i am guilty of this. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Love that comment GM. There are so many self esteem issues that seem to be the biggest topic for passing by a person who one thinks might be "out of your league". I use to do it. Then after watching an awesome doco called Embrace. Omg I just thought fuck it. If I feel like I want to get to know a guy...regardless of what my little scared brain might try to tell me...I hit the message or flirt button. Challenge yourself. What the worst that can happen from giving it a go! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
We always respect age and gender options on profiles as everyone should. However apart from that we approach anyone looking for us and would hope they do the same. Those that think they are out of our league can then decide and miss out on us. Xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Over time I suppose you get a general feel for who you might have a chance with and who you probably don't, although you never know unless you try. That said, in this environment everyone has the chance to lay their cards on the table and describe on their profile what attributes they are looking for, whether that be physical and/or intellectual. Unfortunately it seems to us as though the majority (of men mainly) must think they are exceptions to these and message us anyway, often with a one sentence message that reads like it was written by a 13yo sending a text message. We get probably 100 messages a week from guys, maybe 5 might be written in good English, and out of those 5, 1 or 2 of the guys are what we are looking for (on a good week). Guys complain about not getting replies, but seriously, if they send messages to people who are not looking for them, or send a message at pre-school level English, what do they expect is going to happen? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Got another message saying this topic inspired him to contact me, that he'd always felt I was out of his league. First, I am going to reply, I'm not ghosting 😉 just not much time to reply to messages atm I like to consider my replies more in messaging and only reply when I'm not distracted. Unlike on here where I can just spew shit 😂😂😂 so second, I'm not out of your league, I have lots of floors lol won't go into those, have to keep the image up 😉 but I'm normal most of the time, a pain in the ass the rest of the time 😀 and I will be replying. I hope this topic gives people the courage or confidence to go ahead and make contact. Nothing to lose and everything to gain. Most of us are respectful, we get rejected too, I don't worry about rejection. I'm quite used to it now lol and it's fun. There should never be any embarrassment associated with it. We're all just trying to get a root 😝
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'funcouple8792' To be of the opinion that someone is out of your league is doing yourself a massive disservice, no matter who you are. Mr fc - Posted from rhpmobile I'll never be in six feet and over league. IIWII
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' God, I just woke up and saw you'd left and I'm reallybupset. You don't have to leave. Things don't always pan out the way we want them to on the forum but that's okay, we're like a big disfunctional family. We fight, well me mostly 😜 the dust settles and we carry on. You're part of that family, you don't have to always say the right thing, but what you see as words you might regret, words are always real feelings and help us work through our feelings. People are more understanding than you might think, or not, who cares, you have as much right to be here as any of us. And Godammit you were like a breath of fresh air and your variety of new topics were a lot of fun, much needed and enjoyed. Please come back. If you want your same user name, message the site in the help section and ask to resume this same profile. You have a window of time where they'll usually do that. But please come back. We need fresh thoughts and identities to brighten the forum 😢 It's also possible he really didn't like it here and isn't going to stick around long enough to become desensitised.Good luck out there houndhunter, another RHP'er who had enough of it and moved on.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'cat_n_the_hatter'I do know how someone who I considered to be my friend moved away from me in a room full of people, because her fitness coach had told her to avoid standing next to a thin beautiful women ( I certainly don't think I am something special), to have a better chance to get “noticed”. (Ms) Wow...that's just...wow. I have no words...
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youngsapio
8 years ago
I'm glad I came across this topic. You guys, I mean ladies have helped clariify a lot. Was under the impression my age, physique was being perceived negatively as a overzealous/ cocky "young buck looking for a quick f***. I guess I'm not the only one who struggles with self confidence at times. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I did not find Summer nor Ms_Dragon's posts rude nor disrespectful in any way. They were both expressing their insecurities and struggles with body issues. I thought it brave of them and commend them for doing so. How anyone would interpret their honesty as rudeness is beyond me 😑 @Summer, hope your date went well last night 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Hank_E_Panky' It's also possible he really didn't like it here and isn't going to stick around long enough to become desensitised.Good luck out there houndhunter, another RHP'er who had enough of it and moved on. If you want to continue with your regular whinges about the forums / forum posters please take it to the Anything thread. Or start your own thread on the topic.
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RHP User
8 years ago
houndhunter said he thought Summer had been rude but I'm really not sure what he was talking about there. As for my second reply to him, I wasn't rude but I will firmly tell someone if I find their comments patronising, as I did with his. Perhaps he had not had someone react negatively to his giving that sort of advice before. I think when people first start posting on here they can be taken aback when some responses may not always be as positive as they are used to or expect. I can certainly see how it can be confronting for a new poster, and it's not surprising that the forums aren't for everyone (note however, I am not condoning aggression or rudeness from current posters towards new people, that's another issue). I certainly have no personal issue with houndhunter whatsoever and would welcome him back should he choose to give it another go in the sandpit. I'm glad to see many comments on this thread from new posters and I hope there are more to come, I'm really enjoying reading the responses!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Im the same purplehaze4u. I feel that the hot fit women on here are out of my league. Im not an ugly guy and have a reasonably good body but just feel that there is absolutely no way they would even like me. There are alot of beautiful women on here. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I find it hard to contact men, wheather it's the generation I grew up in or I'm not that confident at first, I'm not sure. I guess as I'm curvy (which I'm happy with) I feel most men aren't interested. There are a few men who I have chatted with who I feel are out of my league even though I'm confident about my sexuality so I have put up road blocks. This was a very good question and thanks for posting it. Fe - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
thanks, I'm enjoying the topic too and agree new posters can find certain comments or replies to their posts confronting, and even the most seasoned posters, if something strikes a nerve or hurts for some reason, well don't need to explain that one lol the skirmishes are here for everyone to see, but no-one is perfect and no opinion is right or wrong, it's a forum. I was enjoying having a few younger contributors to the forum, I think it needs that to give different perspectives and inject a breath of fresh air. Hank, not your finest moment, nasty to me and that guy who has now left, hope he comes back with his head held high. Also need to clarify that I hadn't read what played out in the comments leading to his departure, but he was/is a really nice genuine guy, lot of fun too, and should be encouraged to come back 😃
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RHP User
8 years ago
Very interesting question. I think beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so naturally everyone has different tastes in bodies, faces etc. I also think you gotta keep in mind that sometimes people are more photogenic and visa versa lol. This site is all about physical attraction but if everyone thought everyone was out of their league none of us would ever get laid haha! I say go for it, send your flirts and if ure not their type then just move onto someone else but don't dwell on it or get offended as we're all more interesting and fun that vanilla people anyway! xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I took the time to check out your profile Doll, and can see why you would get such offers & compliments.In saying this there is a common denominator here ! And that would be you.Same go's for you Ms Dragon wow what beautiful pic's with a nice insight to who you might actually be.so when your looking in the mirror just believe in the girl that's looking back at you XXO
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FunseekersAgain
8 years ago
It is pretty easy to see if someone considers themselves to be out of our league. They don't answer our message. There are so many great people who do that it's probably better that way. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Eiliethiya
8 years ago
to think and agree logically that no, no one is out of anyone's league. We're all human, all here for the same or similar reasons, etc... And on a site like this?!? Then definitely, we must all be sexually confident and confident in ourselves.Uh...no. I am only now just begining to have the confidence to want to learn and explore sexually. But I still have waves of insecurity hit me before I meet anyone (and that's not just men, it's also women whom I'm 'only' wanting to meet for friendship).My past in general, my previous marriage, and my past experiences with men since becoming single...all contribute to my insecurites.No matter how many compliments are given on pics (and all profile pics are going to show the best view of you, aren't they?), or your intelligence or witty contributions to the forums; nothing is simply going to erase years of self-doubt.No matter what someone else sees, you are (I definitely am) your own worst critic...in every sense.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Not out of my league , but probably not compatible. Mostly in regards to ladies in their forties looking for younger guys , some much younger . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'cass27' Im the same purplehaze4u. I feel that the hot fit women on here are out of my league. Im not an ugly guy and have a reasonably good body but just feel that there is absolutely no way they would even like me. There are alot of beautiful women on here. - Posted from rhpmobile It can be very difficult for single men on here, given the skewed ration of men to women. Even the so-called 'Adonis' can struggle. Try not to take it personally, and not to take it too seriously. One thing the single men can do is attend the meet and greets that are often held in some of the capital cities. They are a really good opportunity to meet other people from RHP in a social, no pressure setting, and if you hit it off with someone who knows what can happen. I've been to a couple of the M&Gs now and have had a great time, wish I could get to more of them but my location is a barrier. It's definitely something worth considering.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Eiliethiya'No matter how many compliments are given on pics (and all profile pics are going to show the best view of you, aren't they?), or your intelligence or witty contributions to the forums; nothing is simply going to erase years of self-doubt.No matter what someone else sees, you are (I definitely am) your own worst critic...in every sense. Sums it up perfectly. When your self esteem and self confidence has been extensively knocked around in the past, it's not going to bounce back in a hurry. Plus the self doubts lead you to do and think things that just create more self doubt, so it's a really vicious cycle. Not an easy one to overcome.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Eiliethiya' No matter what someone else sees, you are (I definitely am) your own worst critic...in every sense. So very true. Its something that I've been working on lately. Focussing on accepting the things that I can't change about my body, like the fact that I'll never have a perfectly flat stomach again, my freckles/sun spots/age spots, my various lumps and bumps. And then working on the things that I can change, like getting better muscle tone and improving my self-confidence. I read this in a book just recently (buggered if I can remember which one): "Why not assume from now on, until you have evidence to the contrary, that every man [person] you meet finds you irresistible?" Maybe a bit arrogant, but its very simplicity made it stand out for me. I love it as a mantra, and its helping me to fake confidence until such time as I do truly feel self-confident again about my body.
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RHP User
8 years ago
No one is out of anyone's league. That's a bit of an American pop culture construct I think. We're all human, no matter how perfectly we present ourselves. You have a chance with anyone, just try. Whether you're their type though is another story. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Apologies for repeating what Eiliethiya already said, but I didn't see that till after. Great minds...
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RHP User
8 years ago
I don't think you'll need to worry about your location. Your new profile pic will have them boarding planes to get to you. Stunning 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
love the colour too 👍
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yep
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RHP User
8 years ago
It's quite unique and you wear it so well - I like both... couldn't choose a favourite. The blue one is eye-catching though, don't see much blue lingerie. Nice taste 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
We tend to have a little more confidence in the flesh but on here as you can only judge on the physical (yours and theirs) and from the conversation between the 2 parties we tend to not meet alot of people either as we have no connection with them or as we think they are out of our league and dont want the posible rejection that could come should they turn up and be dissapointed - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Wether you think they are "out of your league" or not you have nothing to lose and everything to gain by putting yourself forward, right ? How many times have you been to a bar and seen the hunk/spunk standing alone because no one had the guts to say hi ? Fortune favours the bold, right ? If only I was bold enough to follow my own advice ! 😗😖
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting Do you ever think that someone is out of your league - based purely on their profile - and if so what do you base this on? Does this stop you contacting them or not, or if they initiated contact does it affect how you respond to them? As I've told you before - you have nothing to be afraid of in that department, you look amazing in your pics and always come across level headed, of sound mind ;) and very nice in the forums. But they do say that you have to learn to love yourself before you can love anyone else... maybe take some you time I sometimes think people are "out of my league" - but then think fuggit.... we all come from the same place afterall
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RHP User
8 years ago
Just booking tickets to Townsville ;)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thankyou. I think you may have me mixed up with someone else though, I don't believe we've ever communicated before.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Dragon' Thankyou. I think you may have me mixed up with someone else though, I don't believe we've ever communicated before. No worries - maybe I didn't make any impression at all :(
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RHP User
8 years ago
The long answer - I usually assess if she or they will be compatible with me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' thanks, I'm enjoying the topic too and agree new posters can find certain comments or replies to their posts confronting, and even the most seasoned posters, if something strikes a nerve or hurts for some reason, well don't need to explain that one lol the skirmishes are here for everyone to see, but no-one is perfect and no opinion is right or wrong, it's a forum. I was enjoying having a few younger contributors to the forum, I think it needs that to give different perspectives and inject a breath of fresh air. Hank, not your finest moment, nasty to me and that guy who has now left, hope he comes back with his head held high. Also need to clarify that I hadn't read what played out in the comments leading to his departure, but he was/is a really nice genuine guy, lot of fun too, and should be encouraged to come back 😃 So we've been rude to each other, you get that in big dysFUNctional families.You'd have to be a bit tender to say I was rude to/about houndhunter. I stand by my comments of him not feeling comfortable enough to stay here. Just another one who got hounded out, pun intended.
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RHP User
8 years ago
impressed with your lack of response 😒 stand by it all you like, we'll have to agree to disagree on this one. Wouldn't be influenced by the young studs cutting in on you now would it? Weed out the competition, one less young hotty to contend with? 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
"Oooh isn't that all warm as fuzzy" 👎 What it was, was my feelings as I felt them at the time. My comment was genuine and came from the heart. To ridicule that and to trivialise it, and the loss of fresh young input on the forum, was poor form
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