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So, how sexy are you?
November 17 2013
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Agrees with Meeks.... That fb is acting like a dumbarse at exactly the times when his verbalizations are required to convey the connection you two are making...... and they have their most effect at that time.... as you noted by his refusal to share them. I'm sorry he treats you in such a manner... I expect he simply doesnt know any better. Women deserve better than ignorance.
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RHP User
11 years ago
...however Mesmerised, what you have written makes sense and no you aren't being needy. Complementary comments should not be made to make someone feel sexy and loved, they should be given to let the person know that you feel they are sexy and loved and let that person make of the comments as they will. I hope your FWB one day comes to understand why it is important and learns to share more freely. SG
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RHP User
11 years ago
You guys are brutal!
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RHP User
11 years ago
He's very good in showing his appreciation, in bed and anywhere else, I'm merely talking about the verbal aspect here. . Not to minimise that, just saying his treatment of me is pretty awesome.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I just emailed my FWB the link to this thread, to make sure I have represented him fairly, and so he can read the responses. . It's interesting, as another man I was texting did the same thing this week. (This was actually the reason I raised the topic with my FWB). . He sent me a pic of him wearing nothing but a low-hanging towel. Me: That's hot, great body. Him: I won't tell you your hot, because you already know. When I commented on his remark, he replied that him assuming that I must be aware I am beautiful is a compliment in itself. . What's up with that?
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RHP User
11 years ago
(sic)*
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RHP User
11 years ago
It is complimentary but it's never taken that way as people want to hear the compliment, not the complimentary insinuation. Although too many compliments can be detrimental too because like most things they lose their meaning in saturation.
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RHP User
11 years ago
If I had to choose between actions and words I would always take the first. . I do believe that compliments only become meaningless when not said with sincerity and conviction. . Another FWB whom I've been seeing for a long time is quite vocal and praises both my body and mind easily. I don't think his compliments will lose their meaning anytime soon, as he comes across as totally sincere.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
...it's nice to hear. I'm sure if you didn't compliment on or pass appreciation to him verbally as well as physically then he wouldn't like it much. FFS Mes, he must have been vocal about his attraction to you and how beautiful, stunning, pretty you are when you first started out otherwise why the hell would he have made it into your bed? Not knocking him just alluding to a facet of the gentleman "taking what you share" for granted. Just sayin'. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just having huge boobs causes people to say you're sexy rather than cute.
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RHP User
11 years ago
In my opinion are emotionally stingy... It's really mean spirited. I'm all about building up the people around me and its not bs or smoke up your arse. I find something sexy about most people and I'm happy to tell them about it. I've had a lover who doesn't give compliments and I find that, even though the sex is good, I'm over him because of it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
im definitely not the best looking bloke out there and sexy is far from my physical appearance, but id guarantee my other touch and taste senses to be "oh , that's so sexy".
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RHP User
11 years ago
Im as sexy as you think I am. If you tell me that Im hot, then I feel hot, and become sexy, but I need you to want me first. Does that make any sence?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I also believe its healthy to think you're sexy without someone else telling you
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RHP User
11 years ago
Being sexy is expressed in different ways I think, depending on how confident the person is. For me, dressing in lingerie and sexy outfits makes me feel sexy, but most of all, being with someone who you share a deep connection with is the most sexy thing of all......
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RHP User
11 years ago
Who doesn't like to be told that they are sexy, beautiful, amazing in bed ......and countless variations. Let's face it. It makes us feel good and it lets us know that we are appreciated. It's only when you can't live without the validation of another that it becomes a problem. We've all met that person who just has to have someone in their life because they don't feel validated without the reflection of admiration in someone's eyes. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've thought about this topic a lot, it makes sense to me to be sexy to me, for me, because I am me. I love me and feeling sexy whether or not there's anyone else around is a healthy part of that. I decided sexiness comes from within (google it, I did :-D). <3 . I think the quality of sexiness comes from within. It is something that is in you or it isn't and it really doesn't have much to do with breasts or thighs or the pout of your lips. Sohia Loren . In any event, this blog is about allowing your sexiness to come back. I am not talking about with men, bullsh*tting your way through life, wearing the right clothes, being handsome, smooth talking or facelifts. And I am not talking about women having to wear push up bras, getting facelifts or wearing high heels. Sexiness comes from within. You can’t buy it. You can’t make it and you can’t copy it. It’s an amazing lust for life, aliveness, enjoying your body and not shutting it down. It’s being able to experience yourself as your own lover; sexiness is falling in love with who you are. It’s a sense of confidencewhen you walk into a room.There is no need for someone to tell you how wonderful you look, you just know it. You aren’t dependent upon the latest fashions, you take care of yourself and you know who you are. And it’s not about youth; sexiness is at any age. It’s not being afraid of being authentic. It’s not about being thin, having the best body, having the best abs. You just know when a man or a woman is confident in who they are. They don’t even have to say a word, it’s in their body language. . Part of a blog by Sherri Rosen
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RHP User
11 years ago
Bless you for finding those two wonderful references. You sexy thing (to the tune of the hot chocolate song)
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RHP User
11 years ago
When you have boobs as big as mine they seem to define you as being super sexy and a crazed sex manic. They are right, I do love sex, but not sure how boob size can determine the kind of person I am.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Love the song! ~~~ I believe in miracles!!! ~~~ ~~~ Wild thing... you make my heart sing ~~~ ~~~ So come on and hold me tight, you move me ~~~ . Hugs
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RHP User
11 years ago
MsPeachyPear - I totally agree with everything you wrote!! Sexiness does come from within, and comes with self confidence. I hear so often that men find women who are self confident and who know what they want more sexy than anything else....after having said that though, we all have our yucky days when we feel ugly and old.....I've had days where I step out with no makeup on and feel extremely sexy, then there's been those Friday nights out where I've got the makeup on and getting told by my friends who gorgeous I look when inside I've felt frumpy and fat.....so yes, to sum this up, it all comes down to how one feels about themselves deep inside......
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RHP User
11 years ago
Do heads turn when you enter a room? Do you feel their eyes on you as you walk past them? Anyway, sexy to me is someone who knows what they want and it shows in all that they do! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm totally enjoying the responses to this thread. I love reading the comments from people who are confident and relish their sexiness. I hope those who haven't reached that place of knowing their magnificent sexy selves, have taken on board some of the suggestions offered by our more confident contributors. Thank you all. And please, keep the conversation rolling, rolling, rolling
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Kaleidoscope' Who doesn't like to be told that they are sexy, beautiful, amazing in bed ......and countless variations. Let's face it. It makes us feel good and it lets us know that we are appreciated. It's only when you can't live without the validation of another that it becomes a problem. We've all met that person who just has to have someone in their life because they don't feel validated without the reflection of admiration in someone's eyes. - Posted from rhpmobile All I need to hear laughter in bed and moans and groans at other times..... Hmmm I think I meant that to be the other way around.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Traditionally i've Never really felt "sexy" as such. I think I just become more confident at certain times and that shows through as what some might consider to be sexy. Whether it be all dressed up in a nice suit or decked out in my riding gear and getting looks as I jump off my motorbike and walk into the nearest cafe. Sounds a little stuck up, but it's true. The attention is intoxicating.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Findingmemo' Traditionally i've Never really felt "sexy" as such. I think I just become more confident at certain times and that shows through as what some might consider to be sexy. Whether it be all dressed up in a nice suit or decked out in my riding gear and getting looks as I jump off my motorbike and walk into the nearest cafe. Sounds a little stuck up, but it's true. The attention is intoxicating. Its not stuck up! It really annoys me that so many people have been programmed to believe that its "stuck up" or "arrogant" to feel sexy or even generally good about themselves. Enjoy what you are feeling, its yours to revel in.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Immmmm dead sexy.....oooohhh yahhh look at my tit eeeeeee's :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
...my panties evaporate multiple times a day....I make men "jizz in their pants" (Reference: Lonely Island) with just a look....I wear protective headgear at all times outside my house to stay safe from cocks hurtling at me....when I get naked you need to hold on to something 'cos the earth moves....I make passionate love to myself because I'm only human. Can I just add, I HATED myself in high school, disliked myself in my early twenties and found myself disgusting in my late twenties (psychological effect of being in the WRONG relationship for too long). Loving yourself takes time, forgiveness, healthy headspace, and a good measure of humour. Loving my thirties and finally loving myself, for all my sexy AND not so sexy bits :) x CT
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RHP User
11 years ago
I struggled to feel sexy in my ten-year marriage because my husband never wanted sex. Ever. That does a thing or two to your self-confidence. When my marriage ended it took me a little while to shake all that off and then I discovered RHP - what a way to open up again. Naughty people, awesome, open forum discussions, r-rated web chat and more. It really helped me reconnect with the sexy woman inside me. When I used to cam I did it to watch myself, not to have others watch me. It was like I didn't even know the woman who was flirting and moving seductively on cam, until eventually everything gelled and I realised "that's me, sexy as!". Some sexy, fun, light-hearted casual hook ups later (including a special thanks to Lee, who brought me back to me) and then whooshka, I met the love of my life on here. We had exceptional chemistry and I felt unbelievably sexy. It's like someone flicked a switch and everything I'd always longed for sexually was right there for the taking. I was bold and confident and sassy and completely comfortable being a sexy woman. Then it ended, I was wracked with guilt and I haven't felt sexy for a single minute since the. Here I am a few years later thinking I really must find a way to reconnect with my sexy self and open up to men again, otherwise I'm going to wither up into a sour old spinster. Feeling sexy is totally an 'inside job', though of course outside validation and being desired is a great help and just lovely. But if you're closed up and not receptive, no amount of lust coming your way will help you feel sexy. So, any tips anyone?
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RHP User
11 years ago
i think all you women are sexy in your own way... :) confidence can also make a person alot sexier too
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RHP User
11 years ago
a woman laying on white sheets, 11.20am sat morn, blue cotton nighty, no knickers, thinking about masturbating sexy. :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
If someone tells you you're sexy ' you must be ? At least in their eyes. Been on the receiving end of some complimentary comments over time.. Good for the ego of course ' but never taken too serious .
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Halcyon_days' But if you're closed up and not receptive, no amount of lust coming your way will help you feel sexy. So, any tips anyone? I remember this being your name when I first joined..You've made some references in the past to what happened in your last relationship and I understand you left, then when realising you made a big mistake and wanted to go back, he did not want this. Is that right?. Forgive me if I'm out of line, but it sounds to me like you feel you are a bad person for causing him pain and you've not fully moved on because you haven't forgiven yourself. I also got the impression you would have him back in a second if he asked. Again, sorry if I interpreted your posts incorrectly..I think (and this goes for everyone) if you don't like yourself you will never feel sexy or desirable and attract the people you want to attract. Instead you might find yourself with someone who feeds of your lack of self esteem. I've certainly been there myself..My tip to you would be find what it would take for you to really like yourself. From your posts you sound wise and giving and caring, with a very big heart, and I can't imagine you'd be much different in real life.
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RHP User
11 years ago
One of the first things I was taught in my job was to not believe all the compliments given by clients..If you believe all the nice things said to you by someone, you will also take the negative ones in, which can be detrimental to your self esteem. I've never forgotten that, as I work with some manipulative people who will build staff up, then tear them down in order to try and control them.
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RHP User
11 years ago
The fact that I feel sexy. Went through that horrible dry spell in marriage of nearly 4 years of no sex..... NEVER AGAIN I roar, I am sexy, I am strong and I love that about myself now. I must say though, it was swinging and RHP that saved us, helped us explore and see that we were actually normal, with drives, kinks, hang ups etc. Enjoy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Given that I only feel sexy when I'm getting sexy, its all about being in the moment or me, and for others to comment decide, cause I am way too busy focusing on how sexy I am finding my partner in crime at the time 😃
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RHP User
11 years ago
or=for
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RHP User
11 years ago
Good for you.. Seems you're now a liberated woman.. Cheers. Jay
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RHP User
11 years ago
You know what's really, powerfully sexy? A sense of humour. A taste for adventure. A healthy glow. Hips to grab on to. Openness. Confidence. Humilty. Appetitie. Intuition. ... Smart-ass comebacks. Presence. A quick wit. Dirty jokes told by an innocent-looking lady. ... A women who realises how beautiful she is. Courtney E. Martin
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you sharing so honestly. I'm really sorry to hear that you are feeling the way you do. You come across, as Mes says, as a very sensitive and caring woman. I always enjoy reading what you have to say. You also look gorgeous! I don't know what else to say other than I empathise and hope you find your way out where you are at right this minute. Honesty and courage are two traits I think are sexy.
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RHP User
11 years ago
There is a festival in Victoria from March 28 -31 inclusive called the Seven Sisters Festival. Google it. If you can, go. Its all about women feeling good about themselves in every aspect of their being. There are workshops and creative activities and lots of self exploration and healing. For some reason, I think you might enjoy it HalcyonDays. And for other women wanting to experience a weekend of amazing dynamic feminine energy, get yourself along. I'd love to go but I'm a bit too far away this year. I was going to offer a workshop, Exploring the Wild, Wise Self but. . . . .2015 methinks.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've just had my nails painted bright red and for some reason it makes me feel really sexy. Just having manicured, slut red nails... Go figure. This also happens when I have my hair 'done', I feel very sexy with my hair looking extra lush... Such a sexy beast me! Lol
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