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Something more..
August 02 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hi mojito, i know exactly what you're saying, however you could say we are one of rhp's success stories, and there are some genuine men out there. Good luck in your journey. Lea (ms fun) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
My personal view of this based on women I have met, spoken too and from reading this forum over the last 4 yrs, is that single women come here to find fun, casual sex & to experiential at the beginning. Whether they have been single for a while or have just come out of a serious relationship the main driver seems to be experimenting and good sex. After awhile, and the time period differs from woman to woman, they get to the point where casual sex is not enough anymore. They want more and they want a deeper on going connection. So I think most single women will get to the point where they are open to a relationship. Just my thoughts. :-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hi Meeka and thanks for your reply. I agree with what you're saying. I've been single a long time and have had a few bed buddies but it's not enough anymore. These sites are great for filling the void in between but... I guess make hay while the sun is shining :-)
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Twisted_Mister
10 years ago
+1! That works for the blokes too... - Posted from rhpmobile
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TheLuckyOne
10 years ago
I agree with you, but the OP asked if any men are open to a relationship. Good question and I'd love to hear the opinions of the men of RHP as well!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm on here to eventually finding a compatible partner, its easier to find out what their into etc sexually which is important to me, as we have to be on the same wavelength.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Oops true. It has been on my mind since I read a comment yesterday that a man made that NOBODY is on RHP looking for ongoing relationships. I think a large portion of women are. As for men, I think lots are happy for ongoing friendships, but I think when a guy decides he is ready for a relationship he looks elsewhere. Men seem to compartmentalise things so RHP is for casual rooting only and traditional dating sites are for finding love. Women tend to blurr the lines. I reckon anyway. Of course that is a bit of a generalisation.
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
I think everyone is here for lots of different reasons, whatever they might be. When joining this site it was in the hope of learning more about myself, my needs, my wants and yes for the experiences. Which I've defiantly achieved and like Miss sunrise, I'm hoping to find someone that has similar wants, needs and kinks to my own, who is also open to a relationship. I just figured that RHP seems to be catering more for the open minded, kinkier people, so it made sense for me to look in here. Not that I would know what RSVP or any other vanilla site (if that's what you'd call them) is offering, because I've not looked at them......💋
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RHP User
10 years ago
Like seriously, of course you have to have sexual chemistry, it's in our DNA, primates firstly..." Fuck then Fall " in love...And no matter what the site is, it's just how it is....
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RHP User
10 years ago
If the opportunity presented itself yes I would be open to a relationship. When I first joined RHP the answer would be no. I am warming to the idea of a more meaningful relationship- whatever form that takes. If I happen to find that here or elsewhere is anyone's guess.
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Naughty_nature
10 years ago
I don't dismiss having a relationship with someone from RHP theres no difference between meeting someone on the vanilla sites to this. My initial interest is for just fun but if more develops there's no problem as long as it's what we both want. - Posted from rhpmobile
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TheLuckyOne
10 years ago
I agree! And RHP is as good a place as any to meet someone compatible. And can I just say, your profile pic is very sexy! ;-)
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
Yes of course it makes sense to have sexual chemistry, but it doesn't always happen like that does it? Some people settle, some get bored, some don't even like it, because everyone story is different. I chose this site for a particular reason, I had never done the internet thing before and I can't comment on the other vanilla sites, because I'm not on them. I'm sure everyone has their own reasons for being on whatever sites they are on, but it's not always as clear cut as find "sexual chemistry, fall in love and that's just how it is"........
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RHP User
10 years ago
RHP is just another vehicle for meeting people. If I'm looking for or open to a relationship (which I'm not at present) it doesn't matter at all to me where I meet them. Saying that I would only meet someone on here for sex and only look for a relationship on a vanilla site starts to sound a bit ridiculous when you realise that many people have profiles on both sites. I know that as Meeka pointed out, some guys still have the attitude that a woman on here could never be relationship material and they need to find a nice 'vanilla' girl to settle down with, but a man like that is not anyone I want to know. People who form relationships are often initially brought together by a common interest, and in that respect sex to me is as valid as any other interest upon which people form that initial connection.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I agree. I have male friends who have been on a site like this and have all said that they wouldn't want a relationship with a woman on this site. I find that so insulting. I have brains, a good job, a great family, I've done numerous half marathons, triathlons and cycled over 500km through China to raise money for cancer research blah blah yet somehow many guys wouldn't want to go there. Jesus look at me trying to prove that I'm worthy of a relationship! But you're right. Any guy who has that attitude isn't worth the time.
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RHP User
10 years ago
it appears that men on this site are not looking for anything more than sex and the opportunity to experience some opportunities for less vanilla sex with couples, at parties and with sexy singles. Many males seem to be deliberately choosing to be on this site to increase their chances of getting laid, and NOT find the girl of their dreams. Many guys will find the dream girl at church, work, school, uni, through mutual friends, chance meets, and so on. For many guys, the girl of their dreams is not one seeking multiple sex partners on a site like this - not saying that all the ladies on this site are doing that, that is the perception. We believe that there still exists an unsaid truth that many males hold onto, and that seems to be that men can fuk as many girls as they want and they are studs, while a lady doing the same with guys is a slut or sex maniac who cant ever be fully trusted. We DO NOT agree with this mentality, but it does APPEAR to be true for many guys :( We have found that people who do meet through sites like this often continue their playing, which is great, but not for many guys who would not want to share their dream girl. Just our thoughts...
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Warning..... generalisation ahead! I occasionally flick through profiles to see what people write about themselves and one thing I notice a lot.... is the reference to being "open minded". I think when many guys are lured towards this site with the promise of easy sex, the attitude will be about pursuing sex as the end goal. Many are attached, many are married.... so relationship is the last thing on their mind.... and while the mind might be open, the opportunity connected to it is not. If I'm not actually interested in a persons personality..... I'm not attracted to them, and if I'm not attracted, Im not going to become sexual with them. I am a single man.... I have the option to meet other single women... and should I so choose to engage in a relationship.... I have that opportunity. Without that opportunity, I don't think you're as open minded as you like to represent to others. DG
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'mojito3' I agree. I have male friends who have been on a site like this and have all said that they wouldn't want a relationship with a woman on this site. I find that so insulting. I have brains, a good job, a great family, I've done numerous half marathons, triathlons and cycled over 500km through China to raise money for cancer research blah blah yet somehow many guys wouldn't want to go there. Jesus look at me trying to prove that I'm worthy of a relationship! But you're right. Any guy who has that attitude isn't worth the time. Hi Mojito, I used to get insutled by this too until i read a few men's comments on this. It went something like this....It's not that they think you aren't good enough. Some men feel that sexually adventurous women of RHP who may be into group sex, swinging, experimenting, bi-sexual,etc, etc may never be satisfied with just one man or be happy with a traditional monogamous relationship.... .which I think most men may ultimately want. They feel that maybe they will never be enough for you. And some men are just sexist pigs.
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RHP User
10 years ago
ThanksJerseyGirl:) I have been on other sites, I find with RHP I'm much more likely to find a partner that is more compatible for me, here's hoping anyway:)
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm looking for a relationship the problem I find the vanilla sites are just the same as this site only difference is the people on this site are honest and open about what they are doing, where as the members on vanilla site wont admit what they are doing. You have just as much chance meeting some one for a relationship here as you do any where else only thing different is you know the past of some one from her and you don't from a vanilla site
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RHP User
10 years ago
That though I'm not wanting a relationship right now - in the future when i am ready for a relationship I believe I would want a man from rhp or similar as I would not want to give this up in its totality. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Red Hot Pie exactly like every other dating site except rated R , and some just think they are a little bit better than the rest !!! But mostly they are not , i am open to a relationship miss or what ever the day brings . Regards Bigocean . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Recently I received s flirt from a 48year old man...his profile said that he was looking for a girl to marry and have children with but in the meantime,he was here looking for a LADY,to fuck.....bless his cotton socks:-) xQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have decided that I prefer to be single. A lady may come along that I can't live without but, until then, I shall remain the ubiquitous Funlover.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm open to a relationship if the magic happens, but not just if the opportunity presents itself. In fact I want a relationship in the long run, but I also want the right relationship, and the theory I'm running with is I'm more likely to end up with the right relationship if I'm open to it, but not searching for it. I think relationship hunger can land people in bad relationships too easily.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think I'd be much more likely to find that relationship with someone from this site than from a vanilla site, for those very reasons, and because we'd probably have a more aligned outlook on life.
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RHP User
10 years ago
But I think they're too busy gagging for the dick :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
You are just after that paddling,are you not? :-) xQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would think after reading your profile you are quite a catch Mojito3, perhaps you might be lucky to find someone who realises that from here, your workplace or the local supermarket... like luckdragon typed, rhp is a meeting spot, albeit online and to that end is somewhat mysterious and has certain falsehoods attached to it (namely potention to make a complete personal profile opposite to reality) and as such can lead to relationships forming. The guys who say they wont have a relationship with a lady is on rhp seems narrowminded and closed to opportunites, I for one had my last relationship because of rhp and still look for another lady for a potential relationship, that is because like attracts like and the woman I want is open minded and doesn't follow the vanilla road of life. What I realise is most people on here from I ascertained is that people close of certain parts after being hurt and play the cards close to their chest... until they find someone they feel they can show their cards to again, that could be why people dont want to get involved emotionally on here so much
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passion8_l
10 years ago
Quoting 'allsorts72' I'm looking for a relationship the problem I find the vanilla sites are just the same as this site only difference is the people on this site are honest and open about what they are doing, where as the members on vanilla site wont admit what they are doing. You have just as much chance meeting some one for a relationship here as you do any where else only thing different is you know the past of some one from her and you don't from a vanilla site Exactly
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
Exactly, I like the way you explained it as open to a relationship and not searching for one......
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sweetgem
10 years ago
Luckdragon's, Qefenta3's and DG's comments. I personally do not think that anyone can speak for all, because we all have our own thoughts, feelings, emotions, needs and wants. One man might think of this site as a free brothel to get laid while another might find it an ideal venue to meet his desire lady. It all depends on the individual. However, I do find some men who are on a site like RHP think of women on here as sluts, or non-relationship material, are hell of a joke with their double standard! So yes, like Luckdragon, any men with such double standard are the ones whom I do not want to know or even look at! Answer to OP's question, I was open to a relationship in my times, but I am not now because I have lost my faith in finding love online, and I am no longer looking online, especially on RHP! But all the best to you OP and hope you will find your true match soon :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
A site called "WarmAppleTart".Were the guys and gals can't fornicate on the first date..But a good tongue lash is acceptable..Where no-shows get banned for a year.Sending an unsolicited cock-shot gets reported in your verification window..1000 female to 1000 male members at any time..No guests > No ghosts..Mention of having a relationship is allowable.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thanks everyone who took the time to comment. The replies are very interesting. I particularly want to thank the guys who replied and gave such open and honest opinions. :-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
At the risk of summarising what has already been said and making broad generalisations, from my observations: - I would guess roughly 90% of the people on the site would not be looking for a relationship. That covers the ask m me people who are too timid to articulate what they want , the singles looking for one offs (particularly the young ones), and the couples and the married people who are looking for a little extra but already have relationships. This doesn't exclude these people from in fact finding a relationship despite their initial intentions but the odds are low.- People who have been on the site for a while will be more open to a relationship because the initial rush of expectation of sex on tap will have dissipated. They will realise the limitations of what can be achieved and hopefully will appreciate that quality is more important than quantity. If they are active members of the forum, they will also get to converse with many wonderful people and learn that members not just a collection of genitalia to rub against but are people with interesting thoughts and fascinating lives just waiting to be shared.- There may be gradations of relationships from platonic friendship to monogamous exclusivity and all stops in between. One of the things I hated about RSVP was the expectation of the women I met of immediately jumping to a monogamous relationship, and if you didn't measure up straight away you were cut whereas if you did, the weights were applied to push things along. One of the aspects of RHP I have come to enjoy is making connections with people who do not have such expectations and I can have the time to develop friendships to whatever their natural level may be. I particularly agree with M. Blaine's comments above in this regard.- I have used the word "people" rather than men or women because I don't think we can say it is a male or female proclivity to want/not want a relationship here. At the risk of repeating an old story, the female FWB who introduced me to this site ultimately went to RSVP for the explicit purpose of finding someone to marry within a short time frame (12 month window before she turned 40) and who would not know about her past of loving a lot of cock (both through RHP and the real world). Even though she had had a few relationships with people from RHP, she wanted to present a more "respectable" veneer to the world and said to me how could she tell to people that she meet her husband on a sex site. I don't agree with her reasoning but I do note that it is not just a guy thing.- Finally, real life outside of RHP can be a big inhibitor of forming relationships. Our profiles say what we desire but there is always the reality of finding the when and where to be able to pursue those desires. In my case, being a single parent, immediately limits the time available to get to know someone intimately. You grab the time when you can get it but I have had several potential relationships fall over either because the other person expects me to be on call which you just can't do when you have parental responsibilities, or she simply didn't want the added complication of inheriting a child. Distance is also a killer. I have met a number of people here whom I would love to get to know better but the tyranny of distance that is Australia means that we have to resort to the internet to communicate, which is fine from an intellectual perspective but hardly physically satisfying. Which goes back to the second part of the OP - sexual chemistry is not the be all and end all of a relationship but it is an important part. You need the opportunity to explore that aspect of the relationship to see if your libidos and kinks align. This can make the difference between being just friends and becoming lovers. In short, the spirit may be willing but the odds of successfully finding a relationship are quite small. It doesn't mean you should give up but it does mean you have to reign in your expectations. And if all the stars align, then you should grab the chance with both hands, regardless whether you met the person on a "sex site".
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hardly... I'm just a cynic that there it's even possible to find a relationship on sites such as this.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
sure why not.. Rather be in a stable relationship.. But after getting burnt it makes it kinda hard to trust.But yeah never say never ! No matter how far you may have to travel !
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RHP User
10 years ago
Below is an article from the SMH (Disclaimer: Fairfax also owns RSVP) re the economics of online dating. How often do you think about love? What about the dating scene?One of our federal politicians has been ruminating on both lately and he’s come up with rules to help you find one in the other. Shadow Assistant Treasurer Andrew Leigh, who is an economist, has published a new book called The Economics of Just About Everything. Dr Leigh reckons the economics of dating follow three simple rules: Advertisement 1. There is no perfect match for you, but some matches are definitely better than others.2. You won’t know how well suited you are to someone until you get to know them.3. Time is scarce, so a decision based on limited information is probably better than no decision at all. According to Leigh, the problem with the dating scene is that you don’t have enough information about the people in it, and you don’t have enough time to find out all the information you need to make a good decision.That leaves you in a pickle, which economists call an “optimal-stopping problem”. The idea is simple: you must choose a time to stop looking (for someone) in order to get the best outcome (a match you’re happy with). As Leigh shows, the problem exists everywhere: “If you’re trying to sell your house, at what point should you accept an offer that’s lower than your asking price? If you’re looking for a job, which job should you settle for?” So when’s the best time to stop looking for Mr or Mrs Right and settle down with someone in the dating scene? Well, since you don’t have enough time or enough information, Leigh reckons the best way to help yourself is to use internet dating services or go to speed dating events because they reduce the time spent searching. They’ll expose you to more people in less time so the chance of meeting someone is higher. Then, if you’re lucky enough to find someone you like, the economics of relationships come into play. And Leigh says empirical evidence suggests love matches are on the rise. Considering heterosexual relationships, one of the reasons love matches seem to be increasing is because the traditional breadwinner/homemaker model is breaking down. That model was built on people who specialise in different things – homemaking and breadwinning – so they are likelier to be different kinds of people, with different interests. But these days, with more women working and more men helping around the home, today’s heterosexual couples are more likely to be looking for someone who can do similar things to them. So as Leigh puts it, “More than ever before, young people have the freedom to look for a soul mate.” So if you use internet dating sites, coupled with the modern freedom to look for someone with similar skills and interests, your chances of finding someone special will be higher. With that, he leaves us with a little bit of advice:“There’s only one way to use these economic insights into romance, and that’s tactfully. You may be solving an optimal-stopping problem, but divulging this insight on your first date may mean that it’s also your last.”
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RHP User
10 years ago
A lot of people join because they are newly single or separated. Going into a new relationship is the last thing on their minds, especially if their previous relationship consisted of little to no sex. Suddenly they discover RHP and it's "Yay, for very little money I can have as much sex as I want, when I want it." Then reality sets in. As Meeka said, given time some people do get tired of it, and might start to look for something that is longer term and more fulfilling. Or it just happens when you're not looking at all.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You just took the words out of my mouth.... But you worded it better than I!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' But I think they're too busy gagging for the dick :) - Posted from rhpmobile how is that a problem?Do you not have one to offer those gagging
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RHP User
10 years ago
Love can find you anywhere, even here.I think there is more chance of love finding you by simply doing what you love. Love is more likely to find you on RHP if you an honest, open minded individual with few, or no hang ups.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Warning..... generalisation ahead! I occasionally flick through profiles to see what people write about themselves and one thing I notice a lot.... is the reference to being "open minded". I think when many guys are lured towards this site with the promise of easy sex, the attitude will be about pursuing sex as the end goal. Many are attached, many are married.... so relationship is the last thing on their mind.... and while the mind might be open, the opportunity connected to it is not. If I'm not actually interested in a persons personality..... I'm not attracted to them, and if I'm not attracted, Im not going to become sexual with them. I am a single man.... I have the option to meet other single women... and should I so choose to engage in a relationship.... I have that opportunity. Without that opportunity, I don't think you're as open minded as you like to represent to others. DG Well said.
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Missb4u
10 years ago
I read that as saying we should settle for something less than we want.....not this little duck been there done that. I will stay alone rather than settle.
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RHP User
10 years ago
The article was seeking to apply Game Theory from economics (which was first espoused by John Nash) to personal relationships. Of course, economists are very good at predicting the past, but not the future.
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On_Safari
10 years ago
and trying to establish a relationship I've found is very hard. The mindset that we ladies are all easy which os why we're on a sex site seems to prevail among the men and the women do the same generalising tjat the guys just want to fuck as many as possible. Regardless of the site however this is the case even on RSVP, Oasis etc etc. it seems most still believe the only way to meet relationship material is by old fashioned means but newsflash folks. Some of them church going bible girls have their bits on here looking for it too. I'd love to find a great guy.....have even met a few among the forumites but even they shy away from the idea of a loving, ongoing, exciting partnership with us forum girls. Why? Because even knowing us and being friends with us somehow we still have the stigma of this site attached to us. Correct me if I'm wrong please. Thing is....there's heaps of singles here well worth the time and effort to get to know and even fall in love with, having met alot of you I know this is true. Being on RHP doesn't cheapen us it simply makes alot of us more open to meeting and giving you a chance to sweep us off our feet and for those who only want to fuck and run it seems to satisfy that as well. Let's drop the stereotyping and just go with your guts. ~ Indy fucking tired of being told how amazing I am and not having someone who wants to love me deeper than 6/7 inches and not as shallow as a kiddies wading pool. Lol xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Lol never said that that was a problem.... But more referencing to those men and women who have allegedly been "missing out" due to some form of oppression during a marriage or other long term relationship; so they join sites like this....aim for the attention/validation they so desperately crave and then become bored with all the choice.... Then they miss something more....as it has been suggested by others as well.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I do also looking for a relationship.but important is chemistry respect to each other needs,but,unfortunately i've never to meet someone that same thinking,i did one,but not from this site,to be be honest i fullinlove.with him,it's broke my heart when,he has to go,but i know that,that kind of guy I'm looking for respect you and treat you good,even now talking about it,i can't help myself teary it's just something about it,it's makes me cry,yes,any site,somewhere out there that will also looking for on going relationship,till you all ,i never give up,i still have a hope, FILIPINAASSASIN😊😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'SimpleNeeds2'At the risk of repeating an old story, the female FWB who introduced me to this site ultimately went to RSVP for the explicit purpose of finding someone to marry within a short time frame (12 month window before she turned 40) and who would not know about her past of loving a lot of cock (both through RHP and the real world). Even though she had had a few relationships with people from RHP, she wanted to present a more "respectable" veneer to the world and said to me how could she tell to people that she meet her husband on a sex site. I don't agree with her reasoning but I do note that it is not just a guy thing. It's such a terrible shame that many women still feel this way about sex, and about admitting that they actually like sex. Yes I can understand why they feel they need to hide it and put on the 'good girl' veneer...because women are still judged on these things and sometimes to the extent that it can affect their jobs, families, etc. Like your friend, many still believe that if they actually show their sexual side, they won't find a husband (and in some cases it's true). It's a cycle of societal attitudes which influence individual behaviour, which in turn perpetuate the attitudes. These outdated ideas and stereotypes that we hold onto about both female and male sexuality are so ridiculous and damaging for both sexes.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' and trying to establish a relationship I've found is very hard. The mindset that we ladies are all easy which os why we're on a sex site seems to prevail among the men and the women do the same generalising tjat the guys just want to fuck as many as possible. Regardless of the site however this is the case even on RSVP, Oasis etc etc. it seems most still believe the only way to meet relationship material is by old fashioned means but newsflash folks. Some of them church going bible girls have their bits on here looking for it too. I'd love to find a great guy.....have even met a few among the forumites but even they shy away from the idea of a loving, ongoing, exciting partnership with us forum girls. Why? Because even knowing us and being friends with us somehow we still have the stigma of this site attached to us. Correct me if I'm wrong please. Thing is....there's heaps of singles here well worth the time and effort to get to know and even fall in love with, having met alot of you I know this is true. Being on RHP doesn't cheapen us it simply makes alot of us more open to meeting and giving you a chance to sweep us off our feet and for those who only want to fuck and run it seems to satisfy that as well. Let's drop the stereotyping and just go with your guts. ~ Indy fucking tired of being told how amazing I am and not having someone who wants to love me deeper than 6/7 inches and not as shallow as a kiddies wading pool. Lol xx I think you're probably right in essence, Indagine, but there's a few details here that don't ring true for me. Mainly there's a suggestion that falling in love with someone is a matter of added time and effort. I don't think that's the case at all. The times I've fallen in love it's happened quite quickly and without any forcing at all. The flip side of that is I've had some really amazing girlfriends whom I really wish I'd fallen in love with, because they are fantastic women in every way, but the spark just didn't happen. Also, I don't think there's a general feeling that the forumites are easy. Even if a man comes on to RHP with a general feeling that the women on this site are easy (an illusion that will usually be pretty quickly disavowed), a cursory perusal of the forums will establish that the women who post are a diverse bunch with distinct personalities and strong opinions who will make up their own minds for their own sakes. This, of course, can be threatening to some men, but if they're threatened by it you're better off without them anyway.
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beachgal20
10 years ago
Like many of the gals have said, I too would like to find a relationship...I am on several sites, but it seems that there are so many guys just wanting the 'bang factor' and think that if we are on these sites that that is what we are after also...WRONG...I thought I had found someone....but he was a two-timer......I don't see why a relationship cant occur off here with single guys who are willing to just ponder it- yes it's a sex site but that doesn't mean we are just here to please guys or to be seen as sex on legs. I agree with a lot of Indagine's sentiments and others...and easygoing- it was refreshing to read your comment ( and yes, I checked you out!)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Luckdragon23' Quoting 'SimpleNeeds2'At the risk of repeating an old story, the female FWB who introduced me to this site ultimately went to RSVP for the explicit purpose of finding someone to marry within a short time frame (12 month window before she turned 40) and who would not know about her past of loving a lot of cock (both through RHP and the real world). Even though she had had a few relationships with people from RHP, she wanted to present a more "respectable" veneer to the world and said to me how could she tell to people that she meet her husband on a sex site. I don't agree with her reasoning but I do note that it is not just a guy thing. It's such a terrible shame that many women still feel this way about sex, and about admitting that they actually like sex. Yes I can understand why they feel they need to hide it and put on the 'good girl' veneer...because women are still judged on these things and sometimes to the extent that it can affect their jobs, families, etc. Like your friend, many still believe that if they actually show their sexual side, they won't find a husband (and in some cases it's true). It's a cycle of societal attitudes which influence individual behaviour, which in turn perpetuate the attitudes. These outdated ideas and stereotypes that we hold onto about both female and male sexuality are so ridiculous and damaging for both sexes. Agreed, LD. The worst part is that her new boyfriend is incredibly jealous and possessive. She thinks she can change him but at the same time, she won't dare tell him the truth because she is worried he will flip out. If I had done what she has, I would be regarded as a sex legend. She has to keep it suppressed because of the double standards of our "liberated" society. One of the benefits of RHP, at least in this forum, is that those activities are the norm and not something which would cause negative judgments.
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On_Safari
10 years ago
I'm not disillusioned Rick given most men don't do the forums and just go on a few provocative/sexy/alluring pictures.....I do value your insight and perspective though.
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PhillipWA
10 years ago
Mostly just echoing what others have said. I'm open to a relationship if it develops, am on here as sex is a huge part of the relationship to me personally. I want to meet someone who enjoys it as much as I do, and is a whole lot more open minded and honest about the experience than most people seem to be. Have also tried the 'vanilla' dating sites, my profile probably still exists on those but as they don't seem to place much importance on sexual compatibility, I'm no longer a paid member. There may still be come stigma around 'online dating', but it certainly seems a lot more acceptable nowadays. If someone was worried about meeting someone thru a sex site, it's the whitest of white lies to claim you met on eharmony, who's to know ?
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On_Safari
10 years ago
Sometimes, if you're lucky; it just happens naturally 😏
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RHP User
10 years ago
Could not agree more with your post ! rsvp sucks lol, ok filling in the void is fantastic and lucky to have met wicked bed buddies but ideally I would love to find a like minded woman with the personality ,kinkiness and humour as myself hence why I am on here , not the case so far but I am an optimist :) I agree with what Mischeviouslad had to say and in fact I think mischeviouslad is bang on in many of his replies on here but not all men are solely here with the promise of easy sex..
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PL1963
10 years ago
I plan to spend the next 5-6yrs, travelling Vic & sometimes beyond. I'm hoping to meet ladies & couples from all walks of life, races, cultures, big, small, even tall, I wanna' meet all. I prefer FWB, but NSA is Ok too. I want ladies that have their own life, but want share a small part of it with me, dinner, drinks, chats, lots a laughs & of course good sex. I'm sure I will meet a lot of nice ppl, I will be open minded about a relationship, but more likely to contact the ladies I got on well with in the future, if they've settled, well so be it. If I don't meet the lady of my dreams here, she will be just like most of the ladies on here, attractive, dresses well, GSOH, open & comfortable with her body & sexuality, or I'll die alone. I plan to marry, as I never did that before, move bush & live a subsistant, nudist life style, involving the least amount of $ & the most amount relaxation possible. Might sound like a pipe dream, but without dreams, ya got nothin'. P.L.
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RHP User
10 years ago
To a relationship from here... Or similar location... What I don't want is some closed minded, closed legged type... Because I do want a sexually confident, assertive woman... Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
10 years ago
At all....and not it's not a monogamy type of trust at all.... Too many are fresh out of relationships.... Too many see sex as validation... All under the guise of "finding myself" Why don't people just say it like it is ?? I'm going to fuck my pain away..... ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am open to a relationship over a one night stand, its a lot better to be in a relationship than single.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'd definitely be willing to settle down to an ongoing relationship with the right Two or Three, whether I found them on here or from numerous places :) Shine on you crazy diamonds. Silva xxx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sir_Stir you say it like it's a bad thing? Don't they say the best way to forget a man is to get under another one? It all depends where people are in their life. Now that you older and wiser you can recognise when people are not ready for a relationship or are not ready to move on from the hurt. Most people would probably go through this stage as I am sure breakups, etc can knock people's self esteem around a bit for both men and women.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sorry, I forgot to address why I was responding to you in the first place. Not every person on RHP is bitter, or lacking self esteem or is here just for validation.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'd say I'm in the same boat as you Mojito. Having a quick glance at your profile, you're probably the type of woman I expected to find when I joined. Where I'm at in life right now, I'm open to the idea of partnering up, whether it be on here, another dating site, or the social maze of the real world. Not being in a relationship, or having a sexual partner for quiet some time, I figured this site would be a good way to ease back into the game. Ultimately to find a lady with an above average libido, similar to myself, so we can click sexually, as well as have a laugh. It's fair to say, I'm still looking :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't necessarily see them as bitter....but just lost.... But from where I sit.....it's just not entirely truthful.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' I don't necessarily see them as bitter....but just lost.... But from where I sit.....it's just not entirely truthful.. - Posted from rhpmobile Hindsight is a lovely thing isn't it Sir_Stir. I don't think people are purposely being deceiving.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I. Think we are all open to relationships. However this is primarily a site for our sexual Adventures . With respect to everyone on rhp. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Harrisson68' sure why not.. Rather be in a stable relationship.. But after getting burnt it makes it kinda hard to trust.But yeah never say never ! No matter how far you may have to travel ! LOL yes distance can often be an issue we all have to face
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'boingboingboing' Love can find you anywhere, even here.I think there is more chance of love finding you by simply doing what you love. Love is more likely to find you on RHP if you an honest, open minded individual with few, or no hang ups. so true, well said
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Missb72' I read that as saying we should settle for something less than we want.....not this little duck been there done that. I will stay alone rather than settle. Im with you, Ive been down that road and never want to settle for something less
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' At all....and not it's not a monogamy type of trust at all.... Too many are fresh out of relationships.... Too many see sex as validation... All under the guise of "finding myself" Why don't people just say it like it is ?? I'm going to fuck my pain away..... ;) - Posted from rhpmobile I like your honesty but for me its not about fucking my pain away nor is it about me finding myselfI like sex, I find when im single my libido is high and when Im in a relationship my libido seems to dwindle to nothing. Im not sure why that is.. probably cause the person ex is not really a good match for mebut this site makes it easier to meet people without the pretences of all the other stuff on the vanilla sites
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RHP User
10 years ago
It is indeed - Posted from rhpmobile
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PL1963
10 years ago
Do you wanna' borrow my "flak jacket"? I'm not using it atm. Meeka, I hope someone want's to get under me to forget life's little woe's for a nite, even an hour. Ffnnnnaarr. P.L.
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6exxy
10 years ago
Yes definitely. There are people here that want NSA but it would be nice to meet ms normal. Everyday funshine with a little twist 😘
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6exxy
10 years ago
Yes definitely. There are people here that want NSA but it would be nice to meet ms normal. Everyday funshine with a little twist 😘
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RHP User
10 years ago
Maybe on other sites both parties are not willing to admit they are after sex so there may be some false pretences as to what they are after. I think rhp takes away some uncertainty and let's us see the people for who they are. Obviously if sex was not a big part of a relationship in your eyes you wouldn't even be on here . I tend to think it is a very important part of a relationship so I would seek a partner that feels the same, hence my profile on here. I think we all are looking for a relationship whether we know it or not, the fact that I might meet 1,2,10 maybe more people off here doesn't mean I'm not looking for a relationship. If the right woman came along and we clicked like no other then you couldn't help but have a relationship and no doubt if she was from on here she would be great in bed :) So in answer to your question I think yes we men are after a relationship, just give us a chance and you may be surprised - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Is RHP a SEX SITE!!!???Well.... that certianly explains a lot! Obi1
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RHP User
10 years ago
Flak jackets are for those who are scared :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I completely agree with what you're saying and feel that exactly way myself. Unfortunately it's highly unlikely with current playfriends & so I am quite unaware of how the men around me few about Jr. I hope you find someone of interest though :-) x - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hi , good question , it would depend a a few things , like is the sex hot , how many times a day / week u want it , I would always keep my options open
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RHP User
10 years ago
Mojito3... I think you have some consensus from the forum masses... agreed this isn't RSVP and yes there are some men who, like myself, are open having a relationship. I think one of the biggest differences between RHP and RSVP etc is on RHP people are more likely to admit what they really want... since "this is just a sex site" (insert disdaining 'pfft' here). So my question to you is... are you coming to the Sydney Meet and Greet in two weeks to meet these nice relationship ready guys? SG(Gratuitous plug of the upcoming event... done!)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Is that the one on the 16th August?
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RHP User
10 years ago
After starting this discussion there seems to be a lot less men interested in my profile. Oh dear
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Seachange
10 years ago
Quoting 'Rick_Blaine' I think I'd be much more likely to find that relationship with someone from this site than from a vanilla site, for those very reasons, and because we'd probably have a more aligned outlook on life. I concur with your thoughts and reasoning. Aligned outlook and the more honest open approach to a relationship is most appealing to me the more I think about it. I just realized that after being exposed to the openness of this site, to go to a vanilla site like RSVP or eharmony will not suit me as the pretense will make me gag. IMO.
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Seachange
10 years ago
Quoting 'silvangold' I'd definitely be willing to settle down to an ongoing relationship with the right Two or Three, whether I found them on here or from numerous places :) Shine on you crazy diamonds. Silva xxx Just two or three? Why limit yourself?
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Seachange
10 years ago
Quoting 'james37900' Maybe on other sites both parties are not willing to admit they are after sex so there may be some false pretences as to what they are after. I think rhp takes away some uncertainty and let's us see the people for who they are. Obviously if sex was not a big part of a relationship in your eyes you wouldn't even be on here . I tend to think it is a very important part of a relationship so I would seek a partner that feels the same, hence my profile on here. I think we all are looking for a relationship whether we know it or not, the fact that I might meet 1,2,10 maybe more people off here doesn't mean I'm not looking for a relationship. If the right woman came along and we clicked like no other then you couldn't help but have a relationship and no doubt if she was from on here she would be great in bed :) So in answer to your question I think yes we men are after a relationship, just give us a chance and you may be surprised - Posted from rhpmobile Women will give you a chance if you start off honestly. Honesty and openness is the start of the establishment of trust and friendship which could lead to a long term relationship. Just a quick question though, why have you got the very famous SA model Zack Van Der Merwe as your profile pic? That is such a dead giveaway as he is super famous. Not a good start to establishing an honest and open relationship?
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Seachange
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Sorry, I forgot to address why I was responding to you in the first place. Not every person on RHP is bitter, or lacking self esteem or is here just for validation. Meeka, Beat me to it. Sir stir, you are entitled to your opinion but that is such a lowly regard and view you have of ladies from RHP. Not all are like that, but there may be some. You may have just been unlucky to hook up with them. The women on the forum, as Rick Blaine has mentioned in his post, is far more cluey and in touch with their sexuality and their self worth than the women from the vanilla dating sites. I see myself as giving myself a choice, empowering myself to choose a lifestyle that works with my my current situation with regards to limited time due to work and family commitments. As another poster has mentioned, they are also in this site! In this site, we are more expressive and open of our sexuality and desires and how refreshing is that. Not every man I chat to will lead to any sexual coupling, Far from it. We are not all willing to open our legs for any Dick (pun intended) who comes our way. I am open to a relationship.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Haha nice one Lilyorchid. Man Zack is incredibly hot!! :-)
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
Quoting 'mojito3' I agree. I have male friends who have been on a site like this and have all said that they wouldn't want a relationship with a woman on this site. I find that so insulting. I have brains, a good job, a great family, I've done numerous half marathons, triathlons and cycled over 500km through China to raise money for cancer research blah blah yet somehow many guys wouldn't want to go there. Jesus look at me trying to prove that I'm worthy of a relationship! But you're right. Any guy who has that attitude isn't worth the time. Many above have put in very good comments to your dilemma. What it boils down to in part, is the maturity of the guy responding to your profile (apart from their circumstances ie as in already in a relationship, or married). As you have stated, you say some guys wouldn't want a relationship with a woman on this site. True, some may fall into that category, but to me, who like yourself, is also interested in the sexual compatability of a prospective partner, I would be inclined to be perhaps more open to you as you are showing that you are open minded enough to consider sex as part of the equation, and you are open about this aspect. You can't really mention that part of your personality in a 'plain' dating site. You can also be more open here about your general wishes and desires to include your complete relationship listing, rather than having to be more selective about it on other sites. I think the guys on sites like this should be more inclined to consider you for a relationship as you are able to cover much more in chatting to them without having to mind what you say, and they would already know that you are open to more. By the way, I think you have done a nice job with your profile to let the guys know what direction you are heading. Hope you have some good luck with it all. Tall
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RHP User
10 years ago
If you fall for someone it's almost out of your control. What is in your control is sabotaging the relationship, men and women do that. So it stands to reason that you might easily meet someone and fall for them straight away or over time. If you're open to a relationship and they are too, great! I can't see why being on here would negate the opportunity arising... Except that, some people are here because they're not ready or are unable to commit to a relationship, but as I said, when you fall you fall. So if you meet someone who falls then runs because they're not ready or unwilling to have a permanent partner, that's just them and they would be like that off the site as well. In reality, people behave online just as they would offline. There are nuances of both of course, and online does enable particular behaviour (like the fakers trolling for pics), but even that behaviour would be mirrored in sme way off line
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'mojito3' After starting this discussion there seems to be a lot less men interested in my profile. Oh dear Are you surprised? LOL. I deliberately put in my profile once that I would be willing to consider having a relationship if I met the right person. All I heard was crickets,.... hardly any emails at all. Oohh okay maybe I need to put that back into my profile.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Actually that does is change the demographic of who may be interested in your profile. So when you first join and decide to be all sexy and use the work FUN and EXPERIMENT in your profile you end up attracting Howard Hollowitz men of RHP. The sleazy slimy pick up artists that makes you go. Ewwwww Then you decide to tone your profile down a bit and you get both Howard and Raj trying to pick you up. Now that you have added emotions, and feelings and relationships into the mix you attract the desperate Rajs and Leonards who are searching for a girlfriend to love them. Can't win really. LOL
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PL1963
10 years ago
That's a bit harsh, leaving out Sheldon. He'd be disgusted that he wasn't the centre of your comment's. As for me, I think I'm an FWB Howard, missing the company of a nice lady, but don't want commitment. I hope there is a "Penny" out there somewhere for me. Another in a long series of pipe dreams. But without dreams, you got nuthin'. P.L.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Haha you absolutely nailed it! No I'm not surprised at all. I feel like revamping my profile to the following: "Yes, I'm happy for something casual but would ideally like a guy that I can frequently watch the rugby with at the pub while holding an icy cold beer while his hand is planted firmly on my arse. Someone who will whisper filthy things in my ear at half time and can't wait for the game to end so that we can go home and get our freak in "
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RHP User
10 years ago
Have to admit that I have found women on here more honest than what you find on vanilla sites. That's what happens when you can show you do have balls - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
@lilyorchid - beautifully said xo Personally, I think people get a little confused between the idea of 'love' and that of a 'relationship'. It's fair to suggest that we can be actively looking for a relationship at certain times, and not at others. It also fair to say that we can consciously choose who we enter into a relationship with, but who we fall in love with? You'd be a fool to believe you had any conscious decision over that! IMO, you're more likely to find a relationship on sites like RSVP (I don't class RHP any less vanilla than RSVP, though it amuses me that people do :P) but more likely to find love on RHP. On strictly dating sites, it's more about the car you drive, where you work and how much you make. Do you want to get married and how many kids do you want? "Oooooooh you want a big wedding and 3 kids! I only want a small wedding and 2 kids soooo we couldn't possibly fall in love!!" What the actual beeping...what?? On RHP, people are forced to bare themselves a little and not just in body, but what's really going on behind those eyes! And I don't care who you are, when you share yourself with someone sexually, you're sharing far more than any meaningless banter about the future! That man, the one who clearly states "I'm happily married and seeking discreet NSA fun" - he's at risk! That girl who protests "men are only good for one thing" (a mindset I've been guilty of in the past) - she's at risk! All those people claiming "I don't ever want to fall in love" (guilty again) - all at risk! I noted in these comments, someone trying to explain that he had 'naturally fell in love' in the past, and another person challenging him saying 'relationships don't naturally happen! You have to work at them'. I think, they're both right but are talking about 2 different things... To the OP - your question, are men on RHP open to relationships? I've no idea. But EVERYONE who puts themselves out there is open to falling in love, whether they like it or not. And to all those "I'm going to fuck everyone and never fall in love" types - Don't be a fool!! Get yourself a blow up doll and run! RUN FAST! Oh, and never mind about those guys who leave RHP looking for a 'nice' girl. They're also the ones who'll be back in a few years time with that 'I'm happily married and looking for discreet NSA fun' profile :P - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thanks ShySub for your thoughts. I tend to agree
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RHP User
10 years ago
Never say never. Life happens, closing off possibility is a pretty shuttered existence. Still, each to their own. I went on about half a dozen dates with a really attractive and intelligent woman from oasis only to find out she was totally disinterested in anything sexual. Never again. The people here are much more open I believe, much more betterer
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think honest and open go hand in hand here I am relaxed letting people know what I like and for me straight up is the best way .
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RHP User
10 years ago
The best kind of relationship could possibly be when you each other more you need each other - Posted from rhpmobile
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