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What is your word today
April 17 2016
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RHP User
7 years ago
verb (used with object)1.to instigate or foster (discord, rebellion, etc.); promote the growth ordevelopment of:to foment trouble; to foment discontent.2.to apply warm water or medicated liquid, ointments, etc., to (thesurface of the body).
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7 years ago
Because I am.
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7 years ago
Word OriginExamplesSynonyms[muh-lahyn] Spell Syllables See more synonyms on Thesaurus.com1.to speak harmful untruths about; speak evil of; slander; defame:to malign an honorable man.verb (used with object)3.having or showing an evil disposition; malevolent; malicious.2.evil in effect; pernicious; baleful; injurious:The gloomy house had a malign influence upon her usually goodmood.adjective
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Word OriginExamplesSynonyms[tren-chuh nt] Spell Syllables See more synonyms on Thesaurus.com3.clearly or sharply defined; clear-cut; distinct.2.vigorous; effective; energetic:a trenchant policy of political reform.1.incisive or keen, as language or a person; caustic; cutting:trenchant wit.adjective
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7 years ago
Word of the Day extravagate Today's word is extravagate: To wander beyond bounds; stray; roam at will.
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7 years ago
lol like a wild dog. Sounds like me 😁
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7 years ago
2. pertaining to, characteristic of, or of the nature or form of rhapsody 1. extravagantly enthusiastic; ecstatic. adjective
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The_Phoenix
7 years ago
Aimed squarely at those who are supposed to know their shit but don’t. - Posted from rhpmobile
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7 years ago
Word of the Day backwardation Today's word is backwardation: The position in a futures market where the more distantly traded contracts are selling at a discount to the nearer dated contracts.
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7 years ago
I read a very long and detailed definition of martyr syndrome or complex. It was very interesting and very revealing. Gave me some understanding of exhibited behaviors. Too long to quote here but gave a heap of examples and covered martyr vs victim or how we can be identified as one or the other. Some of those things jumped out of the page at me, almost to the end and I identified myself as the victim, meaning I have no interest in trying to act saintly to gain approval from other people, nor using people as scapegoats to do that. But as I read on, some other points did pertain to me on the martyr side. I discovered it's not black and white, and my conclusion was that I doubt many people would be entirely one or the other, rendering in my mind, the entire article a bit void. Well not void, it was interesting, just labelling is never the answer, always grey areas. Anyway, just wanted to share that
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7 years ago
paraprosdokian Noun(plural paraprosdokians) "Where there's a will, I want to be in it" is a paraprosdokian.Figure of speech in which the latter part of a sentence or phrase is surprising or unexpected; frequently used in a humorous situation.
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7 years ago
Word of the Day zymurgy Today's word is zymurgy: That branch of chemistry which deals with fermentation, as in winemaking, brewing, distilling, the preparation of yeast, etc..
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7 years ago
Frustrated
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7 years ago
Word of the Day impassable Today's word is impassable: Not passable; that cannot be passed over, through, or along.
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Word of the Day osteoplasty Today's word is osteoplasty: The transplanting or inserting of bone, or surgical reconstruction of bone, to repair a defect or loss.
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7 years ago
Titular ruler A titular ruler, or titular head, is a person in an official position of leadership who possesses few, if any, actual powers. Sometimes a person may inhabit a position of titular leadership and yet exercise more power than would normally be expected, as a result of their personality or experience.
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7 years ago
Slainte. If you don't it doesn't matter.
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7 years ago
Know 🤔
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7 years ago
Victim blaming refers to a practice of questioning what a victim could have done differently in order to prevent a crime from happening, thus implying the fault of the crime lies with the victim rather than the perpetrator.
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
expression used to indicate that something needs no explanation or defence "Even blind Freddy could see it"
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7 years ago
adjectiveof or denoting a type of behaviour or personality characterized by indirect resistance to the demands of others and an avoidance of direct confrontation.
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7 years ago
Thanks for the like, but I don't avoid direct confrontation because I have a great belief in the ability of people to communicate and resolve issues which is why I have done so many courses over the years to try to learn better. That's why I address people here directly, by their name nearly all the time, avoiding abusing them by not swearing when I'm speaking to them and treat them like they matter instead of approaching in a passive aggressive or aggressivemanner that does not allow a back and forth of communication, but instead stirs up indirect resistance. and I'd hardly call my behaviour indirect resistance because there is nothing indirect about it. I'm just looking at assertive communication & conflict resolution because they outline the positive way to approach problems. Because conflict is not a bad thing but can actually form stronger bonds when adults approach each other with the goal to resolve problems. I'm just trying to put across my POV here. National Anti Bullying day has passed without so much as a whisper of concern towards exploring bullying and how to deal with it. That is an incredibly sad thing.
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7 years ago
To your good health, Cheers... Peachy
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7 years ago
And long may We drink to it. 🍺🍹🍸🍺
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
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7 years ago
I don't get what that means, ok. I'm sorry I didn't offer you cheers too, have a great weekend and... Bottoms up!
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7 years ago
Word of the Day temporomandibular Today's word is temporomandibular: Of, relating to, or formed by the temporal bone and the mandible.
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7 years ago
It were appropriate for the day, ain't no doubt. Cheers, gotta love the Irish. "Being Irish, he had an abiding sense of tragedy, which sustained him through temporary periods of joy." - - William Butler Yeats
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7 years ago
Tired, confused and sad.
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7 years ago
and invisible
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7 years ago
and headache. ---- a whopper
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7 years ago
Word OriginExamples[gas-lahyt] Spell SyllablesgaslightSee more synonyms on Thesaurus.com2.a gas burner or gas jet for producing this kind of light.1.light produced by the combustion of illuminating gas.noun3.gaslit (def 2).adjective4.to cause (a person) to doubt his or her sanity through the use of psychological manipulation:How do you know if your partner is gaslighting you?verb (used with object), gaslighted or gaslit, gaslighting.
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Word OriginExamples[kop-ee-kat] Spell SyllablescopycatSee more synonyms on Thesaurus.com1.a person or thing that copies, imitates, mimics, or follows the lead ofanother, as a child who says or does exactly the same as anotherchild.noun, Also, copy cat2.imitating or repeating a recent, well-known occurrence:a copycat murder.adjective4.to copy slavishly; reproduce:The clothes were copycatted straight from designer originals.3.to imitate or mimic:new domestic wines that copycat the expensive imports.verb (used with object), copycatted, copycatting.
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7 years ago
Adapt
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7 years ago
Relieved
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Seachange
7 years ago
"NARCISSISTIC" When one thinks it's all about them and behaves like a spoilt child throwing tantrums when they don't get their way.. 👎. Grow up. Leading to... 'Pissed off " 😠 Should I say more? time to take a break.
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7 years ago
Conflict resolution is a way for two or more parties to find a peaceful solution to a disagreement among them. The disagreement may be personal, financial, political, or emotional. When a dispute arises, often the best course of action is negotiation to resolve the disagreement.
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7 years ago
Word OriginExamples[ak-yoo-zey-shuh n] Spell SyllablesaccusationSee more synonyms on Thesaurus.com3.the act of accusing or state of being accused.2.the specific offense charged:The accusation is murder.1.a charge of wrongdoing; imputation of guilt or blame.noun
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7 years ago
Word OriginExamplesSynonyms[kuh m-pash-uh n] Spell SyllablescompassionSee more synonyms on Thesaurus.com1.a feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken bymisfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering.noun2.Archaic. to compassionate.verb (used with object)
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7 years ago
/ˌsɛnsɪˈtɪvɪtɪ/sensitivitynoun (pl) -ties1.the state or quality of being sensitive2.(physiol) the state, condition, or quality of reacting or being sensitiveto an external stimulus, drug, allergen, etc3.(electronics) the magnitude or time of response of an instrument,circuit, etc, to an input signal, such as a current4.(photog) the degree of response of an emulsion to light or otheractinic radiation, esp to light of a particular colour, expressed in termsof its speed
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7 years ago
ˈnɑːsɪsɪst/nouna person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves."narcissists who think the world revolves around them"
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7 years ago
A person with low self-esteem feels unworthy, incapable, and incompetent. In fact, because the person with low self-esteem feels so poorly about him or herself, these feelings may actually cause the person's continued low self-esteem.
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7 years ago
monotonousməˈnɒt(ə)nəs/adjectiveadjective: monotonousdull, tedious, and repetitious; lacking in variety and interest."the statistics that he quotes with monotonous regularity"
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Gr8distraction
7 years ago
A person who just likes to talk in the negative and walk over everyones sunshine, hoping to drench others with miserable comments.
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7 years ago
yawnjɔːn/verb2.be wide open."a yawning chasm"gaping, wide open, wide, cavernous, deep; Moresynonyms:1.involuntarily open one's mouth wide and inhale deeply due to tiredness or boredom."he began yawning and looking at his watch"noun1.a reflex act of opening one's mouth wide and inhaling deeply due to tiredness or boredom."he stretches and stifles a yawn"
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7 years ago
Word OriginExamplesSynonyms[hohp] Spell SyllableshopeSee more synonyms on Thesaurus.com5.something that is hoped for:Her forgiveness is my constant hope.4.a person or thing in which expectations are centered:The medicine was her last hope.3.grounds for this feeling in a particular instance:There is little or no hope of his recovery.2.a particular instance of this feeling:the hope of winning.1.the feeling that what is wanted can be had or that events will turn outfor the best:to give up hope.noun7.to believe, desire, or trust:I hope that my work will be satisfactory.6.to look forward to with desire and reasonable confidence.verb (used with object), hoped, hoping.9.Archaic. to place trust; rely (usually followed by in).8.to feel that something desired may happen:We hope for an early spring.verb (used without object), hoped, hoping.10.hope against hope, to continue to hope, although the outlook doesnot warrant it:We are hoping against hope for a change in her condition.Idioms
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7 years ago
Baffled This place is just so ing
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7 years ago
Because they are literally lighter than air, and it stirs my heart to see animals, and heart shapes etc float off into the sky, Peachy
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7 years ago
Cause my nephew got this for his birthday and was raving about it to me. Damn I love that little guy.
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Hawt1
7 years ago
Because I made a chilli chicken coconut rice dish... and forgot to put rice in the boiling water... lolidiotˈɪdɪət/nouninformala stupid person.fool, ass, halfwit, nincompoop, blockhead, dunce, dolt, ignoramus synonyms:
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7 years ago
Do you mean Wubble Bubbles, Google wants to know? PMSL. Nah, I can totally see wobble bubbles as well. You're talking bubbles that have some strength I think? The ones I saw via Google just then were way huger than the small ones we used to get at Australian Geographic. Basketball size, it's the idea of small things... Peachy
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7 years ago
Not to burst anyone's bubble hehe... Word of the Day episiotomy Today's word is episiotomy: A surgical incision sometimes made in the perineum just prior to the birth of a baby, to enlarge the vaginal opening in order to facilitate the birth and minimise perineal tearing.
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7 years ago
Word OriginExamplesSynonyms[plezh-er] Spell SyllablespleasureSee more synonyms on Thesaurus.com7.pleasurable quality:the pleasure of his company.6.a cause or source of enjoyment or delight:It was a pleasure to see you.5.sensual gratification.4.recreation or amusement; diversion; enjoyment:Are you traveling on business or for pleasure?3.worldly or frivolous enjoyment:the pursuit of pleasure.2.enjoyment or satisfaction derived from what is to one's liking;gratification; delight.1.the state or feeling of being pleased.noun
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7 years ago
Word OriginExamples[dom-uh-neyt] Spell SyllablesdominateSee more synonyms on Thesaurus.com5.Linguistics. (of a node in a tree diagram) to be connected with (asubordinate node) either directly by a single downward branch orindirectly by a sequence of downward branches.4.Mathematics. (of a series, vector, etc.) to have terms or componentsgreater in absolute value than the corresponding terms orcomponents of a given series, vector, etc.3.to predominate, permeate, or characterize.2.to tower above; overlook; overshadow:A tall pine dominated the landscape.1.to rule over; govern; control.verb (used with object), dominated, dominating.7.to occupy a commanding or elevated position.6.to rule; exercise control; predominate.verb (used without object), dominated, dominating.
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7 years ago
25-Mar-2018 Word of the Day bluestocking Today's word is bluestocking: A woman who devotes herself to intellectual pursuits.
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sweetgem
7 years ago
Unbelieveable! 😄 - Posted from rhpmobile
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7 years ago
Word OriginExamplesSynonyms[pees] Spell SyllablespeaceSee more synonyms on Thesaurus.com7.a state of tranquillity or serenity:May he rest in peace.6.freedom of the mind from annoyance, distraction, anxiety, anobsession, etc.; tranquillity; serenity.5.cessation of or freedom from any strife or dissension.4.the normal freedom from civil commotion and violence of acommunity; public order and security:He was arrested for being drunk and disturbing the peace.3.a state of mutual harmony between people or groups, especially inpersonal relations:Try to live in peace with your neighbors.2.(often initial capital letter) an agreement or treaty between warring orantagonistic nations, groups, etc., to end hostilities and abstain fromfurther fighting or antagonism:the Peace of Ryswick.1.the normal, nonwarring condition of a nation, group of nations, or theworld.noun
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7 years ago
fannyˈfani/noun2.NORTH AMERICANinformala person's buttocks.1.BRITISHvulgar slanga woman's genitals.verbBRITISHinformal1.mess around and waste time."they were fannying about in the street"
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7 years ago
empathyˈɛmpəθi/nounthe ability to understand and share the feelings of another.
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7 years ago
Literally
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7 years ago
Freya = Friday I hope y'all had a good one
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7 years ago
A "Blue Moon" is a fairly infrequent phenomenon involving the appearance of an additional full moon within a given period. But which period — there are two definitions of the term, and one was borne out of a misunderstanding of the other..The older meaning defines a Blue Moon as the third full moon in a season that has four full moons. Called a seasonal Blue Moon, this occurs about every 2.5 years, according to NASA. Why the third moon? There are roughly 29.5 days between full moons, making it unusual for two full moons to fit into a 30- or 31-day-long month. (This means that February will never have a blue moon.) Seasons normally have three full moons, and some of them, for traditional and religious reasons, must occur at specific times of the year. So, the "Moon Before Yule" is always the one before Christmas..The other meaning is that a Blue Moon is the second full moon within a single calendar month. This definition — a "monthly Blue Moon" — has gained popularity in recent years because of a misinterpretation of an almanac's original definition. .Which one is correct? Well, since language and the meaning of words constantly evolve — take your pick. Both are commonly used today and either definition is considered valid. As Texas astronomer Donald W. Olson wrote in a 2006 column for Sky & Telescope magazine, "With two decades of popular usage behind it, the second-full-moon-in-a-month (mis)interpretation is like a genie that can't be forced back into its bottle. But that's not necessarily a bad thing.".The next monthly Blue Moon (a second full moon that appears in a single month) will be on March 31, 2018. The last one was the Super Blue Blood Moon on Jan. 31, 2018. There was a seasonal Blue Moon on Saturday, May 21, 2016, and the next one will be in the spring of 2019. The third full moon of that season will be on May 18, 2019.
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7 years ago
On Easter Sunday, a bunny will deliver chocolate eggs to many households across Australia.Have you ever wondered how this seemingly bizarre tradition came to be?Well, it turns out Easter actually began as a pagan festival celebrating spring in the Northern Hemisphere, long before the advent of Christianity."Since pre-historic times, people have celebrated the equinoxes and the solstices as sacred times," University of Sydney Professor Carole Cusack said."The spring equinox is a day where the amount of dark and the amount of daylight is exactly identical, so you can tell that you're emerging from winter because the daylight and the dark have come back into balance."People mapped their whole life according to the patterns of nature."(Wikimedia Commons) Piero della Francesca's Resurrection (circa 1463) depicting Christ's triumph over death. PHOTO: Following the advent of Christianity, the Easter period became associated with the resurrection of Christ."In the first couple of centuries after Jesus's life, feast days in the new Christian church were attached to old pagan festivals," Professor Cusack said."Spring festivals with the theme of new life and relief from the cold of winter became connected explicitly to Jesus having conquered death by being resurrected after the crucifixion."
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02-Apr-2018 Word of the Day homotransplant Today's word is homotransplant: A piece of tissue or an organ taken from one individual to be transplanted to another individual of the same species.
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03-Apr-2018 Word of the Day anemometer Today's word is anemometer: An instrument for indicating wind velocity; wind gauge.
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7 years ago
Part of Speech: adjective Definition: surprising Synonyms: abrupt, accidental, amazing, astonishing, chance, electrifying, eye-opening, fortuitous, from left field, impetuous, impulsive, instantaneous, not bargained for, not in the cards, out of the blue, payback, prodigious, staggering, startling, stunning, sudden, swift, unanticipated, unforeseen, unheralded, unlooked-for, unpredictable, unpredicted, wonderful "I wasn't expecting pre-approved posting today"
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7 years ago
[dih-sem-uh-neyt] Spell Syllablesdisseminate1.to scatter or spread widely, as though sowing seed; promulgate extensively; broadcast; disperse:to disseminate information about preventive medicine.verb (used with object), disseminated, disseminating.
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16-Apr-2018 Word of the Day erotogenic Today's word is erotogenic: Productive of, or produced by, sexual stimulation.
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7 years ago
17-Apr-2018 Word of the Day bibliomancy Today's word is bibliomancy: Divination by means of a book, as the Bible, opened at random at some verse taken as significant.
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7 years ago
27-Apr-2018 Word of the Day pyroelectricity Today's word is pyroelectricity: The electrified state, or electric polarity, in some crystals produced by and changing with temperature. Do you have a word or phrase that you think should be in the dictionary? Send it to us! Macquarie Dictionary Online is the most comprehensive and up-to-date Australian Dictionary available. With access to over 300,000 words and definitions, plus annual updates, you’ll find the right word every time. Find out more or Subscribe now.
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26-Apr-2018 Word of the Day escheatage Today's word is escheatage: The right of succeeding to an escheat.
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29-Apr-2018 Word of the Day interpretative Today's word is interpretative: Serving to interpret; explanatory
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7 years ago
This sounds so sinister... But... Word of the Day literati Today's word is literati: Scholarly or literary people
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usrightnow_Again
7 years ago
Not a favourite, just one in regular use, pain. Think I might have done this constant companion once before, can't remember. Ah, fuck it.Mr. urn. .
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usrightnow_Again
7 years ago
And Meander, if anyone finds themselves feeling that upset and frustrated with their life, they should call lifeline, Beyond Blue, the suicide call back service or any of the other help lines. It's not just the famous. Mr. urn. .
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usrightnow_Again
6 years ago
Brain. I think sometimes we forget how important the word and what it pertains to is. To write a definition as to what a brain is, misses the very thing we often miss, differentiation. .. For instance, my brain is a logistics brain, a brain for the way to get from or problem solve from a to b. And it's good at that. However, there are some things, it misses. Now, they may seem obvious to those around me, I just don't see those aspects of nuance. An example, at the Sydney M&G, Pepper. was talking to us and asked Mrs. urn. if it was okay to rub my back. Of course it was, so she walked over, stood behind me and did so. Now, it wasn't until later, when we were discussing the evening, that that came up. I had no memory of it. None. I truly wasn't aware of it. My focus, was trying to get through the night, as I was terrified being around so many people, and continuing the conversation we were having, with her and Betty. Understanding there is difference, can help in many situations. .. On an associated note, I was lucky enough to have a terrific moment of inspiration during the week. It came from such an unlikely source, however, I know my brain is incredibly creative and might be so, at any moment, so I'm always ready to grab that point of inspiration and take it from it's genesis, to wherever it may go. I love my brain can do these things. I know some can't, so appreciate it all the more. Mr. urn. .
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usrightnow_Again
6 years ago
Like-minded people I guess is a relative term. The mind search continues. It's good to have great dreams, but realistic expectations. Mine are low, to save on disappointment. Well, that'll do.Mr. urn. .
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6 years ago
November 7, 2012 · by Admin NOTE: Roughly 500 people access this page a day. Most comments are about diagnosing people. Under no circumstances should you attempt a diagnosis without the DSM-5 or, if that’s too expensive, the DSM Desk Reference. If you can’t see a psychiatrist, at least buy the tool they’d use to determine your diagnosis.
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6 years ago
So..You’ve probably interacted with the kind of person who looks up some kind of psychological disorder and applies the diagnostic criteria to you in an effort to feel like they’ve won something. If they want to say you’re egotistical, but aren’t satisfied with the label “egotistical” and want something much more forceful, they might say you have narcissistic personality disorder. Take the exact same situation, replace “egotistical” with emotional, and they’ll invoke histrionic or borderline personality disorder..You can continue the same process to infinity, for every disorder, because disorders have broad criteria. For psychologists, broad diagnostic criteria are not an enormous problem. These criteria aren’t vague to trained researchers who know what to look for, but if you don’t know what to look for, they can lead you into a realm of false diagnoses like saying your spouse “has narcissism” because you read the Wikipedia page..This has rightly earned the term “armchair psychology,” but the armchair aspect doesn’t stop at psychology. Any kind of word that aims to categorize a kind of behavior as abusive, dysfunctional, or simply bad is likely to find its criteria abused by laymen, due to a diagnostic vagueness that exists when diagnostic criteria only list what something is rather than what it is not..“Gaslighting” is a mental health term that originates from the 1938 play Gas Light and has exploded with popularity on the feminist / social justice / progressive blog sphere. There are several definitions of this term, but in a nutshell it refers to the act of trying to deceive someone into a false reality by discrediting their emotions. Like most mental health terms, it describes something serious; also like most mental health terms, it is ubiquitously misused..The Google trends search for gaslighting shows it experiencing a surge of popularity in the last two years. What is more likely: a term describing a serious mental health threat has become popular on feminist, social justice and progressive blogs due to a growing concern with mental health issues in general — or because a lot of people have found a term to categorize behaviors they don’t like in a cognitively lazy way? I’m going with the latter..It’s not difficult to find a social justice advocate who has accused someone of “gaslighting” someone else because that person said they are being too sensitive, too dramatic, or unable to take a joke. The added gravity of this accusation is that gaslighting is deemed a form of abuse by some mental health professionals. Domestic abuse in particular, since it is likely to occur in that setting. Like typical armchair psychology, accusing someone of this is a lot like accusing someone of having a personality disorder because you read the symptom-based diagnostic criteria in Psychology Today. Actual gaslighting is pretty serious, but virtually everyone who uses this term cannot distinguish between “domestic abuse” and “telling me I don’t have a sense of humor,” so the dilution of the term here isn’t helping anyone..A definition that describes “gaslighting” as “trying to discredit your emotions” is not rigorous. What the more rigorous definitions of gaslighting are referring to is specific: attempting to deceive someone that false events actually occurred, and that real events are false. It is ongoing and requires some prior knowledge of at least one participant’s experiences; you can’t “gaslight” someone in an anonymous internet argument, and simply telling someone they’re being too sensitive lacks the denial-of-reality aspect. There needs to be a deliberate, dishonest aspect to it — in other words, there needs to be lying. Simply telling someone they can’t take a joke doesn’t qualify as lying, nor gaslighting, nor abuse..The vast majority of resources you will find online attempt to the abusive nature of gaslighting are not actually describing abuse; most of these entries are the worst sort of pop-psychology and pseudoscience, because they will say things like “you’re overreacting” qualifies as this. Something like “you’re being crazy” can be as simple as a refutation in an argument to say that the emotions in a response are disproportional to the thing evoking the response. That is not abuse. That’s not even close to abuse..I define a “good” definition as a precise one. And by “precise”, I mean you narrow down the possibilities of behavior it is describing so that the definition is very clear about what it means and doesn’t mean..Wikipedia’s definition of gaslighting is actually useful in this respect. As per the current revision, it reads:.“a form of psychological abuse in which false information is presented with the intent of making a victim doubt his or her own memory, perception and sanity. It may simply be the denial by an abuser that previous abusive incidents ever occurred, or it could be the staging of bizarre events by the abuser with the intention of disorienting the victim.”
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6 years ago
There is a definite marker here: the doubting of memory and perception. In other words, the gaslighting needs to be aimed at denying something factual, not simply the emotional state of the person receiving the criticism. .Contrast the Wikipedia definition with the unspecific definition by Yashar Ali, in an entry that was lamentably treated as a standard:.Gaslighting is a term, often used by mental health professionals (I am not one), to describe manipulative behavior used to confuse people into thinking their reactions are so far off base that they’re crazy..The difference here is drastic: in the Wikipedia definition, there needed to be an aspect of reality-denial. In this one, there is no mention of reality denial; “thinking [your] reaction [is] far off base” can mean something as simple as “thinking I have an exaggerated emotional response.” Which is to say — this is the kind of definition that makes women on tumblr believe they can say someone is “gaslighting” them when they’re told they’re being dramatic..The instances of this definition falling short are numerous. There’s this implied one from Clutch Magazine:.Sound familiar? It certainly does to me. I’ve always had a difficult time articulating an offense in the first place, so it’s been fairly easy for others to convince me I’ve misread an offensive situation. I can attest that too many comments like: “I was just playin’! You need to learn how to take a joke” and “Wooow. I was just tryna keep it real with you, but since you can’t take it without getting your feelings hurt, I’ll fall back” will make anyone second guess herself..and even this one from a proposed mental health dictionary:.Example 1: If an abusive person says hurtful things and makes you cry, and then, instead of apologizing and taking responsibility, starts recommending treatments for what he or she calls “your depression” or “your mood swings,” you are in the presence of a gaslighter. Example 2: If someone insults you or criticizes you, and then pretends it was a joke and asks “Don’t you have a sense of humor?”, that’s gaslighting..These definitions fall short because they lack the necessary aspect of reality denial and ongoing deception. It is not sufficient to say that because someone is downplaying another’s emotions they are gaslighting you; there must be an attempt to establish a fake reality and make the person believe that reality. In other words, to lie on a large scale..There are some sources on the web (such as this academic’s work) which approach a rigorous definition of gaslighting, similar to the Wikipedia one I linked earlier. Most definitions, unfortunately, are more along the lines of this one in Psychology Today:.“Instead of addressing the issue, he tells you that you are way too sensitive and way too stressed…”.In an argument or conflict, there are absolutely situations where someone’s sensitivity can be at issue. And expecting someone to “address the issue” or otherwise be guilty of abuse is absurd, because “addressing the issue” is something distinctly in the realm of the collegiate; the educated. It relies on at least some implicit understanding of informal logic to understand what “the issue” is. Most people don’t know the precise distinctions between premise, conclusion, and proposition; most people don’t understand how to attack the main point of an argument, in fact. This is true with or without emotions. Most people focus on motive at expense of the point. This is something typical of the general population, not an abusive relationship..Don’t get me wrong: it would be great if most people understood logic so well that avoiding the point qualified as abuse, but unfortunately that is not the case. A simple instance of ad hominem circumstantial, more easily understood as “motive fallacy”, is not psychological abuse. Nor is it psychological abuse to tell them that they don’t get a joke, or that they’re crazy, or that they’re being too sensitive..If you wish to apply gaslighting to a set of behaviors, simply discrediting someone’s emotions doesn’t qualify as gaslighting. The litmus test for gaslighting by all authoritative definitions has been a dishonest and manipulative attempt to deny reality to the person on the receiving end of gaslighting. So, for example, an attempt to make that person believe that actions which most certainly happened haven’t actually happened. You can understand how some people would get the impression that calling someone crazy qualifies as this, because someone could say “you’re crazy, that never happened” — but merely telling someone they are being dramatic does not qualify as abuse, in any way, nor does telling someone they are being too sensitive qualify as abuse on its own..Let me reiterate: no matter what you define gaslighting as, telling someone they are being dramatic or too sensitive or that they can’t take a joke in no way, shape or form qualifies as abuse on its own. Even repeatedly. There must be an aspect of denial of a factual event integrated with the accusations of oversensitivity. .To clarify what I mean by “denial of a factual event”, I have constructed a set of examples to distinguish between actual gaslighting and not gaslighting at all..Actual gaslighting: A wife witnesses her husband cheating on her. He starts an ongoing campaign to make her believe this event was false and that her perception of reality is incorrect. “No, you’re crazy.” When she insists that she saw what she saw, he retorts with “why are you being so emotional?”.Not gaslighting: A husband repeatedly tells jokes that offend his wife. “Why are you being so sensitive?”, he asks. “You take offense to things way too easily.” She starts to doubt her own judgment — but not because of any abusive reason..Actual gaslighting: A boyfriend and girlfriend are having an intense argument when he hits her repeatedly. Several days later, she calls the police, but there is no proof. He insists that she is delusional to the police. When she confronts him about this in private, he insists that she imagined it, and repeatedly calls her crazy for recalling the event. She begins to doubt her own memory..Not gaslighting: James is dating Rebecca, whose political ideology he opposes. James frequently comments on Rebecca’s articles with dramatic and overblown emotional language. Rebecca insists that he’s being overly emotional, and that he should stop doing that. He says she’s trying to diminish the importance of his point by gaslighting him..Actual gaslighting: A son witnesses his mom snorting meth in the pantry, when he previously did not know his mom did drugs at all. Since this event is so anomalous, he has a hard time believing it. She insists that he imagined it — she was just dusting the pantry. But since this image was so vivid, he insists he believed it. She starts to discredit his statement, saying that he is delusional, that he is too emotional, and that he doesn’t have a grip on reality. He begins to doubt his own sense of reality and she uses this as a basis for additional lies..The point: abuse is very specific. “Gaslighting”, as it is applied by far too many internet commenters, is not abuse. There is a form of gaslighting that qualifies as abuse, and the popular blog application of this term is not it. Much like “narcissism”, it has come to be diluted by pop-psychology such that talking about real gaslighting or real narcissism is next to impossible. The bloggers who scream “gaslighting” from the mere utterance of “you’re crazy” are unanimously wrong; the pop-psych writers who tell wives to look for cues like “you can’t take a joke” are being erroneously misleading; calling an emotional response disproportionate is far from abuse..These commenters are wrong on a massive scale in their application of the term “gaslighting.” It is certainly possible for ongoing and systematic manipulation by way of breaking down a partner’s sense of reality (actual gaslighting) to be abuse, but not without rendering virtually all applications of the term by internet feminists and political bloggers woefully invalid.
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RHP User
6 years ago
victimologyvɪktɪˈmɒlədʒi/noun2.a mental attitude which tends to indulge and perpetuate the feeling of being a victim."conservatives reject victimology and the idea that state-sanctioned victim groups are entitled to compensatory privileges"1.the study of the victims of crime and the psychological effects of their experience."specialists in victimology will gather to consider how best to help the victims of crime recover"
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usrightnow_Again
6 years ago
Didn't manage to get in here on the eighth for my word, sorry, so, it's : Amiens. Lest we forget. Mr. urn. .
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6 years ago
Urban Dictionary: Snaughlinghttps://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=SnaughlingLaughing so hard you snort. Then Laughing because you snorted. Then snorting because you're laughing.
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RHP User
6 years ago
It is finally OK to use OK in Scrabble after they introduced 300 new words... You'll never guess who thinks that's A OK... :-P
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6 years ago
Pluviophile. New Word Suggestion. a lover of rain; someone who finds joy and peace of mind during rainy days. It was rainy today and I felt so good, and here I come across the description for how I felt.
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0z_boy
6 years ago
love rainy days and sundays :D
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
spurious ˈspjʊərɪəs/ adjective 1. not being what it purports to be; false or fake. (of a line of reasoning) 2. apparently but not actually valid. ‘this spurious reasoning results in nonsense’. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
6 years ago
Jump to navigationJump to searchContents1English1.2Adjective1.2.1See also1.1EtymologyEnglish[edit]Etymology[edit]perfect + -amundo as an intensifier. Popularized by the character Fonzie on the sitcom Happy Days.Adjective[edit]perfectamundo (comparative more perfectamundo, superlative most perfectamundo)(slang) perfect quotations ▼See also[edit]exactamundocorrectamundoI love this word, thought I'd look it up today, lol. Now I see where I got it from... Perfectamundo
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0z_boy
6 years ago
superficialˌsuːpəˈfɪʃ(ə)l/adjective1.appearing to be true or real only until examined more closely.
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usrightnow_Again
6 years ago
Today, at the eleventh hour, of the eleventh day, of the eleventh month, we commemorate and remember, the end of what we now call The First World War, World War One, The Great War. It was a war to end all wars, sadly, that was not to be. .. One hundred years ago today, The Armistice was signed, declaring an end to that war. A war my grandfather fought in. He was one of so many, who decided to volunteer to fight across the other side of the world, for a cause he and so many, were prepared to give their lives for. My grandfather, like millions of others who found themselves on those battlefields, was just a teenager. .. He was there, voluntarily, many would have found themselves there, with little or no choice. The fields and towns where they lived, suddenly battlefields. Homes and businesses damaged or taken from them, friendships, relations, lives lost. We should never forget the civilian toll, from a conflict, that marched across their doorsteps. And how must parents have felt, upon hearing their young boys were lost, how did they find sense, in that which, although complicated, makes none? .. Some who joined up, prepared to serve their country, whichever side they were on, would have done so as a result of feeling pressured or with a wish, to support their country, support their community, support their friends. .. None of those who fought, none of their parents, are alive today. Today, we remember the price they paid, we remember those rat infested and so often cold and wet trenches, we remember their sacrifice, we remember their hope for peace. .. Too often, we forget how fragile life is, how precious life is, how little respect we pay, to the lives of others. .. My word today, Peace. We would do well, to remember it. Lest we forget. .. Mr. urn. .
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RHP User
6 years ago
adjective : having shapely buttocks While just how common callipygian folk are is in the eye of the beholder, your humble dictionary ventures here to suggest that callipygian folk are common enough to justify way more use of this word than we currently see. The less common variant callipygous is also a reasonable option. English got both from the Greeks of long ago, who clearly knew how to appreciate shapely buttocks. The Greek kallipygos has its origins in kallos, meaning "beauty," and pygē, meaning "buttocks."
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RHP User
5 years ago
Protagonist and antagonist and are nouns that refer to characters in a story. The protagonist is the main character, often a hero. The antagonist is the character who opposes the protagonist, often a villain.
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