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Women holding all the cards
November 21 2013
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Women may well hold the cards in here.....because numbers and dumbarse male behaviour favour the selection process.... But guys are usually their own worst enemy. Women WANT men to succeed, and we start with a clean slate, then self sabotage through our behaviour, personality and appearence. Rhp is not a realistic reflection of the much wider world beyond it... I believe in the real world, it very much IS a Mans world... for Men who "get" it. And I'm really starting to think the most attractive trait a man can have in Rhp, is the obvious lack of his reliance upon Rhp. DG- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Nobody likes a desparado, and unfortunately this often comes through on men's comments and messages.
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RHP User
11 years ago
All profiles should reflect the truth of who you are and not what you want. I know i have made this mistake. So herein is a lesson for me and a change to my profile coming up. There should be no need to try hard. If you accept yourself others will accept you too- Posted from rhpmobile
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inspirit
11 years ago
All I hear are excuses.....you blokes/fellas/dudes/bois/men? blaming woman - saying woman are difficult and you have too jump through hoops, have a good sense of humour, have a large cock, be articulate, adventurous and the list goes on..... to score a root on here! Ever heard of being yourself and not some trumped up hard done by twat, because you keep getting knocked back. Give it your best shot - I dare you. Take a different approach even. Yes this is a "sex site" though over the last few years, I have seen it becoming more of a "dating" website. Half of you are on the more conventional sites though your approach is quite different. Eventually you get too the sex though in a slower manner and keeping in mind you are speaking too some one, who you may view as a potential partner. What's the difference here you idiots? Here is some info for free.........Just because we are sexually mature and we are on a sex site...IT does not mean we are free and easy and will let any dick into our cavities. Quite the opposite in FACT! Think about it for ONCE. Majority of woman on here which I have seen are intelligent, sensual, emotionally and sexually mature. Something you may not be soooo allow me too show you the door! Rant Over.
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RHP User
11 years ago
your chances of gaining the interest someone on RHP? Read their profile!!! Understand what THEY are seeking and work out if that is who YOU are (without pretending to be what they are looking for just to get your pecker in a punani). If you're not sure, ASK THEM politely in your first message. I'm guessing this will improve your chances but I really don't know. I haven't sent or received messages in months ...
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inspirit
11 years ago
Clearly you are a little more eloquent than me today. Please pass the paddle..pop
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Plain
11 years ago
I will be interested as to how this topic goes, by and large some of your personality comes through on how you write and its pretty obvious by a lot of the ladies comments, that most guys think they are still at the pub with a skinful. So they write what they want in a particular descriptive and not flattering manner to the ladies and thats why you have to be pretty special to get to first base .Orf me box now!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
..... I reckon the pub is calling me for a counter meal and a delightful perve :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think if you have enough confidence of who you are the rest will take care of itself..Do we need validation from people here to feel better about ourselves ? I hope not .
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him_and_me
11 years ago
That's part of what makes you so interesting. That you are genuinely interested in all the personalities in here, in the people in here, not just their bits. People like to feel valued and showing an interest in them is a sure way to demonstrate that. For me even more so if you're interested in my ideas, thoughts and opinions. You're right it's an attractive behaviour but perhaps not one that everyone is good at (still it doesn't hurt to try).
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Please explain to me Gents. The scenario, guy meets girl, guy likes girl, girl likes guy, girl is as lustful for the guy as he allegedly appears to be for her. They bonk and have amazing sex but it appears that they also enjoy each others company, conversation, outings and companionship. Girls is pretty cool, savvy, together, not clingy or needy but lusty, Guy is the same. Things progress well for, let's say a few months 5 or 6 of them. Girl starts to stay more often or they ramp up the contact. All of a sudden Guy starts to back away, girl is mystified. Hasn't overtly done anything wrong that she can fathom, hasn't asked to move in, buy a puppy, or any of that bullshit so she hasn't gone all territorial. She questions understandably what's up? Guy just keeps backing away. Girl pursues to find out what the problem is, gets blown off with some lame bullshit about not wanting a relationship or whatever when all the girl really wants to do is maintain the heat and lust and enjoy the ride. Guy disappears as quickly as he can extricate himself without turbulence and girl sits there going WTF? Why is it when a together girl, who you guys seem to want; actually exhibits the same masculine lustful traits you do to get our attention (without knuckle dragging or beating hands on chests) YOU all head for the fucking hills? Just be MAN ENOUGH UPFRONT and say your shit and give the girl a chance to make up her own mind, agree or disagree. Most often I think you'll find she agrees and cuts her losses too.....FFS is it that hard? COMMUNICATION how often do we say the WORD???
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RHP User
11 years ago
That some women suffer from a similar "dumbarse-ness" as some men do. By this I mean, the generic template profiles, to the very limited "if you like what you see just ask" mentality. Surely it must get tiresome needing to explain the same thing to each man when you have very little in your profile?? To me it also shows you're just lazy. Then there are those(both male and female) that have deeply ingrained insecurities that they aren't aware of, and still can't identify or understand themselves. Hell, I don't mind admitting I'm one of them to an extent. I know what mine are but struggle with a strategy to overcome them. I was talking to a forumite just recently actually about the whole meeting, shagging, interaction with the opposite sex, and I must say that was an eye opener. But education on "how to be successful" I think applies to both sexes not just one. Both have their faults, both have their strengths, but both have a choice. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
That to me is just a guy that has a different perception of your intentions. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
When I mentioned men jumping through hoops in another thread, it was in regards to men trying to get the knickers off women who think they need to play hard to get, because if they don't they'll be labelled as a 'slut' and all the other lovely names that our society still gives to women who have no issue exercising control over their own sexuality. Now, from what I've seen, the majority of women on here are quite comfortable with their sexuality and couldn't give a toss what society thinks of them, so no most of them don't need or want all the crap that guys often spin just to get their end wet, only to disappear into the ether after the deed is done. But, as Inspirit pointed out, that still doesn't mean that the women on here are going to spread their legs for any asshole who sends a "hey babe u look lik fun i got a big cok for u" message. But here's the thing guys, if you're a generally decent human being who treats other human beings in a generally decent manner, then if you just act like yourself that will come across in your messages and your interactions, with no need to pretend that you're someone you're not. Of course you also need to actually read the women's profiles to determine whether you think there is a good chance that you match what she's looking for. And this includes things like age ranges, smoking status etc. If people state certain preferences there's usually a good reason for that but it's amazing how many guys still go ahead and message, even if they're well outside the wanted age range or they're a regular smoker and the woman's profile specifies they want non-smokers. Unfortunately many guys - and these are mainly guys who obviously don't read these forums - treat this site like it should be sex on tap, and all they need to do is prove they have a cock and the women will then be falling onto it. They are stuck in that mindset that women can only be 'sex material' or 'relationship material', either or and never the twain shall meet. But again as Inspirit said, there's no reason for your initial approach to a woman on here to be any different to your approach on a more traditional dating site (well maybe you might tweak it a bit, it just depends). I really did have some sort of point I was aiming for when I started this ramble but now I've lost it. Ah well
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Plain
11 years ago
I am going to get belted for this, most guys just do not have the stamina to keep up with that pace and are just not aware of this failing and ignore it.Its a bit like having a dream come true, then turning into a nightmare(that your performance or libido slows for whatever reason) and you wake up and not have a satisfactory conclusion.Being older I know my limitations and measure things and make sure I can satisfy my partner and listen yes listen for cues and ANSWER them when needed. And this happened with my partner so I ran the gauntlet so to speak and we survived, but it takes patience that dreaded word again on both sides to get to the nub of the problem. I have had this discussion with some of my male friends over the years and yep the staying power or stamina came up, nearly every time another male myth demolished.( bracing myself for DGs riposte).
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RHP User
11 years ago
Seriously why bother... Too time consuming. Just go out and meet people and maybe attend some naughty events and save yourself some time. zzzzzzzzz
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RHP User
11 years ago
I would suggest that both parties hold the cards.Both parties have to be attracted to one another and feel comfortable with chatting first ,to go further.A few attributes i like to have ,and show are... Honesty... tell the person what you want/are looking for,and listen to what they want!Attractive..have pride in the way you look ,carry yourself and manner in how you speakClass...Show yourself as being a gentleman or lady and act in that way in both good and bad situations.Communication.. convey your ideas, and why you feel that way.Listen..sometimes is best to listen and absorb what others are sayingHumour... its good to laugh at yourself and othersProfile...Nothing wrong in showing what you want in your profileDinners/Drinks... life is not all about sex,sometimes its better to learn about someone over dinner or drinks.Expectations..Try not to think ,that your owed something off someone hereCommon courtesy.. we all have feelings,ideas and have walked a different path in life,try not to judge people! And most important attribute to have here is.... Your HAND ... its always there for you bwahahah Live,laugh and learn and don't be bitter or expect anything!
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inspirit
11 years ago
Your comment reminds me off all the people on here who do not go too events... male and female. I don't know how many times I have told/invited people too go.... They register and never turn up the chicken shits. Instead they are keyboard warriors and blah blah or sit in the chat rooms winging lol They just don't get it......
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RHP User
11 years ago
six months, in his mind was moving into ''serious''territory....so he ran...not about you...all about him and his fear..xR
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RHP User
11 years ago
Gwad it irks me when I hear a woman boasting that her iron clad confident is that strong that no man dare venture near her unless us mere males are prepared to receive some tips on how to impress them.. ? WHAT ? That alone is enough to turn me off .. If I ever need to ask a woman how I should approach another womam, shoot me.. because I'd deserve it. Seriously' Who needs to work that hard ? No good relationship ever came about by having to explaining the facts on approaching a woman in one simple lesson ? If a man doesnt know what its all about by the time of maturity he missed out something bigtime. I've said it many times before, it's out there in the real world is where it counts.. Face to face where no one person gives you any of this " how to " BS. Nature has it attraction to one person is another's wonderment. ? When we click, we have a good time, when we dont the silence can be deafening... but at least we know where we stand.. How can any woman ever expect to find the right guy and vice versa ' with so many rules and regulations. ? May I suggest dropping the hardline, lightening up, become feminine, smile, be happy and let nature do the talking ? So much more becoming..
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think this site is a reflection of real life and there are people, regardless of gender and sexual preference who behave badly, and others who are decent genuine people. PS Unrushed . . . . I'm still waiting on some reading matter
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RHP User
11 years ago
even Casonova only had sex with 120 women...according to him...he also had sex with men..but doesn't give a number...pretty tame really compared with RHP standards.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Seriously why bother... Too time consuming. Just go out and meet people and maybe attend some naughty events and save yourself some time. zzzzzzzzz That's easy to do if you live in or near Sydney or one of the other big capitals. Those of us in the more remote regional areas don't have local naughty events, and have to fork out for flights and accommodation if we want to go to any. Even just meeting people in the local area once you're in your 30s is difficult, because there isn't much apart from the nightclubs and a few social events that are more geared to younger crowds. That's why I rely heavily on meeting people online.
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RHP User
11 years ago
As a newby to RHP i couldn't agree more Unrushed1, well said. Initial communication for me personally is a winner. Lea - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't know about being belted but I don't think Indy was referring to sex drive or sexual stamina. I believe Indy was talking about was a man simply taking on more than which he was capable of offering and then feeling trapped by his own unwillingness to provide feedback to her that he didn't wish to encourage a potential relationship from developing. I've done this myself. Conformed myself into a relationship then had second thoughts. It ends badly sometimes. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have a few cards. I play them relentlessly. They lead to lovely lustful lovers lapping loudly and licking lingeringly around my loins like its lunchtime, not least from the Literati lot, literally; alas, a little alliteration lures lovers long in tooth, lamentable that little lovebirds are illiterate. Love lamp. RA
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RHP User
11 years ago
In reality they don't deal the joker, at least not to some. Thoughts
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sorry, i have been sitting back eating popcorn. Searched the archives successfully. Incoming.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
And RA two words: Strip Snap
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On_Safari
11 years ago
I know right 🙈🙉🙊 and the pickings aren't too crash hot either!!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well yes, I agree that being in remote areas or if you have young kids getting out and about is hard. Absolutely. But cold calling emails are still boring. I have never been bothered much with it and choose to lock my account most of the time. Too many guys, and most are quite nice but indistinguishable from the other.... So how to decide. Blah blah blah blah. Yep the advantages of living in the big smoke.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Unrushed, I just thought to tell you I enjoy your posts, and the forum (at least from a single male point of view) would be a lesser place without your sensitive meditations. I'm most definitely an in person/sniff the animal magnetism kinda guy. Not normally an online type. Don't even do Facebook. In the outside world meeting people isn't usually a problem. Hasn't been too bad here but I find it very hard to figure out and approach people here. Even just to chat let alone meet. I once sent a polite message to a woman. She responded saying "nice" messages won't get me anywhere here, I had to tell her boldly all the dirty things I'd like to do to her. So I did. Successfully.Then I applied this to other profiles thinking it was the thing to do. Think I made a complete fool of myself. That approach isn't me. I'm generally pretty aloof. I think this comes across in my profile. I'm pretty patient in the real world. Like you said, ease trumps urgency. Think of Miles :) Usually works for me. It's harder here. Sometimes the adventure of "discovery" and coupling on rhp can resemble a Kafka novel.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' I know right 🙈🙉🙊 and the pickings aren't too crash hot either!!! soon you'll be in the big (well, medium) smoke and access to a lot more pickings, you lucky thing
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' Clearly you are a little more eloquent than me today. Please pass the paddle..pop it's been a while Inspirit ... oh fuck now my laptop is sliding off my lap and I've forgotten what the OP was ............
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On_Safari
11 years ago
But the locals are also telling me the pickings aren't that great down there either lol damned if I do damned if I don't. If I may confess RHP is a wonderful networking tool, do I think I'm going to meet anyone for anything substantial here? Probably not but I do love a good laugh and conversation over lunch/dinner or drinks. Friends are found everywhere, and maybe I'll find a FB, FWB, Cuckhold, Bi-Lover, another Couple I can be a Unicorn for, two guys to spit roast me or any combination of the above. Hope to have dates for you soon for The Roadtrip though Thelma, woootwooooo ROADTRIP!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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inspirit
11 years ago
Does your lappy come with attachments.... Please tell
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' Does your lappy come with attachments.... Please tell I'm not sure that my ideas of attachments would sync with theirs .... but if it did, I'd charge them royalties.
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RHP User
11 years ago
damages ...
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inspirit
11 years ago
Damages for the boys
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well fuk it my profile is my heart felt honesty but that don't seem to count much anymore :) or is it the fact I'm not 25 ?? Either way I'd like to laugh touch kiss n yep u guessed it fuk
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RHP User
11 years ago
Do women hold all the cards?A big myth in my opinion .......there have been many posts by women here...even on this thread ,venting their frustration about not being able to find what they are looking for...so,if every woman here, was being contacted by a plethora of men then surely this would not be the case...because there would be at least ten out of a hundred that would be possibles. Although I think what you have offered here Unrushed ,is great advice for anyone male or female the people who need it most will probably not even read it...those that do and who follow it will benefit greatly but perhaps they were on the path anyway.Unfortunately many people,struggle with even stringing a few sentences together...50% of adult Australians are functionally illiterate...hence the profile building help here...clearly most forum contributors are not part of this group,but probably have an aversion to that kind of profile.Do we need to look past this?Are women missing out on some great men due to our perception of someone who struggles with the written word?Just because the advertising is schmick,doesn't mean the goods are...so why not have a re-think about the men who you reject based solely on their poor advertising skills. x R
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Wha????? Relevance factor 0 Promotion factor....? DG - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
... men hold the cards on more regular dating sites :) My experience of them is that re dynamics are reversed - women (a small generalisation) want something more committed and men take their pick of who they want to offer that to.
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
.... we make rapid subconscious decisions BECAUSE of those visual/verbal cues..... that IS HOW attraction works. Life is not a level playing field. If you or I are not happy with our position in life, we have plenty of opportunity and choice available to us to investigate, to learn, to improve and obtain the reward of satisfaction which drives us. Work..... health...... communications.... and attraction/sex are no different. If a person is interested, and wants to improve.... They can. It is an investment in self, to benefit both self, and those you interact with. But how many guys in here at least, keep repeating the same mistakes? The same help topics, the same complaints about being ignored..... it suggests theyre incapable or unwilling to learn from their ineffective approach.... well...... like I said, life is not a level playing field. Darwin had one or two words to day about it.... DG - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
and the world is multi dimensional.... I am merely suggesting that sometimes we need to look beyond the obvious....and don't just have a narrow view..time for the Quantum Physics thread me thinks
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RHP User
11 years ago
WELL NOT FOR ME MY BELIEF IS ANYKIND OF RELATINSHIP IS 50/50 EVEN GROUNDS NOT GIVE GIVE NO GET ...
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RHP User
11 years ago
How do you all know that there aren't guys sending "wanna root" messages to women who are saying "cor blimey, met cha @ the park in 5" ?? The people who contribute to the forum are only a small part of the membership base. For all we know the rest of them are all bonking each other stupid while us "smart" people are giving them advice. LMAO! Hey DG! We are not the master race yet, so it's reasonable to assumes all the "dumb" people are still fucking like bunnies. (˘❥˘)
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RHP User
11 years ago
The assumption that generic profiles are due to laziness, lack of imagination and creativity or worse fake may be the case for some but not all, as is the assumption of illiteracy. Some of the most amazing and the most unlikeliest of people lay behind generic profiles...just sayn.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Women certainly DONT hold any more "cards" than guys :) Its all about perception.. Get a back bone ...lap dog guys just paint a bad picture for girls.. Most guys can pick and choose who they want as friends, exactly the same way girls can .. Maybe work on YOURSELF instead of trying to work out everyone else and relax...be fun...fun people will come :>
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'How do you all know that there aren't guys sending "wanna root" messages to women who are saying "cor blimey, met cha @ the park in 5" ?? The people who contribute to the forum are only a small part of the membership base. For all we know the rest of them are all bonking each other stupid while us "smart" people are giving them advice. LMAO! Hey DG! We are not the master race yet, so it's reasonable to assumes all the "dumb" people are still fucking like bunnies. (˘❥˘) YOU'RE DAMN STRAIGHT THEY ARE!!!
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miss_tease
11 years ago
The profiles I am most interested in are ones the are humorous, don't mind taking the piss out of them selves and sound like fun witty people. Much more appealing than "I want a chick for descrete sex" or "I love to please" - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
i think, if you are a single woman, who is on here for SEX...that is it..sex and sex only... you are holding all the cards, yes...perhaps...but even then...you don't know, if half of what the guys promised, as far as their sexual abilities, is true... we had met a very limited amount of single guys here...(hubby is straight...so MFM plays are pretty much for my satisfaction only...he's just happy to give me what i want...lol)but often the "magic hands" turned out to be nothing but...rough and rushed...the "won't stop till you tell me to" becomes an hour or so worth of selfish fucking...where having his needs met mattered more, than satisfying mine....the "will eat your sweet pussy till my tongue goes numb" turns into a five minutes obligatory cunnilingus before he wants to get to the main event...etc...just sayin'.... and if a woman happened to want some mental connection too...a chance to get to know the person a little, before she decides to meet...and God forbid...if she wants to feel a little desired...lusted after...more than just the next fuck in line...and she is actually happy, to vocalize these desires...oh, no! now she has become overwhelming......demanding...wanting too much... yes, i do speak from personal experience...and i admit, that i had made my own mistakes , in the past, in this regard...learning along the way, where the limits are...how much desire and lust towards another man is "acceptable and appropriate"...by him and my hubby...and yes,there were times, where my expectations were indeed, too high... but at the end...i like my fire burning red hot...i love the lust, the hunger, the excitement...giving it and receiving it just the same...otherwise what's the point in going there, at the first place? so yeah...i personally think, that there are a lot of men out there, who wants to fuck us...but very few, who is actually willing to put a little effort into getting there...a little bit like "happy to fuck you baby...but don't ask me for interaction...courting...lust or respect...that is too time consuming...hard work...and we are here to fuck after all, aren't we?..."
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well I can't seep myself for the life of me in words written? However those words do not make me a poor choice when it comes to laughter sex or anything else... Actions speak much louder then poor grammar
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well, everyone feeling better after having a vent? Thank you to the posters who were both constructive and on topic. This was my way of trying to address a seemingly necessary need for both males and females to A) have male parties put a bit of thought into their profiles and interactions here and boost their chances of positive responses and enjoyment of the site, and address the gender specific complaints that often arise here, that men find it difficult to get a foot in the door, let alone their end in. Valid complaint regardless of how many counter arguments arise. B) have male parties put a bit of thought into their profiles and interactions here, boosting women's chances of positive interactions and enjoyment of the site, and address the gender specific complaints that often arise here, that women find it difficult to take men seriously who put little effort into their messages and often feel overwhelmed by the number of messages they receive, & often harassed and insulted by the messages content. Valid complaint regardless of how many counter arguments arise. In an attempt at 'unification' of both male and female's underlying complaints and issues here, I feel that neither party likes to feel expendible, that males are a dime a dozen, and that females are just pieces of meat for consumption and discarding. There is a place for men to speak down to women, and for women to be a dirty fucking whore, but that is, in my opinion, when it suits both parties mutually to do so, and this becomes an act of mutual sexual empowerment, though, I doubt this sort of thing happens without mutual respect and trust being laid as foundations for that style of engagement. Not my style of interaction, but hey, whatever floats your boat. Mrs Me has nailed it by saying that feeling valued is probably the panacea for what will ultimately be rewarding interactions. Just as a side note on femininity here. While a woman with a flamethrower is never an appealing prospect (to me), and some men value the traditional feminine version of softness, allure and graceful accommodation, understanding that females can and do have unfathomable depths to their nature, the capacity for being fiery, and the right to be outspoken, opinionated, strong and assertive, is a step forward from only having traditional versions of socially acceptable female expression to choose from, and acknowledging that is surely a step forward in appreciating both women and the complete spectrum of the feminine; deeply warm and nurturing as the stillest waters of a hot spring, wild and untamable like a stormy ocean to the sailor :-D
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inspirit
11 years ago
Please...it makes reading your long posts so much easier Just sayin
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sorry Inspirit, Im on my phone. Note to self: contact RHP and tell them the desktop version on smart phones needs some serious tweaking!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' Please...it makes reading your long posts so much easier Just sayin I knew there was a reason I was tuning out... RA
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RHP User
11 years ago
It can be tough to actually know how to approach someone, when you come across a profile with an attractive female and she has the generic setup, some say I'm attractive but judge for yourself, ask me and I'll tell you. Where do you start? What can you make a conversation from? "Oh I see you like your men within this age group" Sure women might hold some cards, but trying to show through some confidence makes us more appealing? Taking some time to write a few words when setting up a profile would make it easier on both parties...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Come on guys is not the real agenda for women: They want: ALPHA ( Tall, muscular confident men ) who make the 'gina" tingle. as against BETA (AKA "The Good Man") <=== boring and does not make the "gina" tingle. Remember women control access to sex and men control access to commitment.
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RHP User
11 years ago
For me, yes women do hold all the power... On this site and other sites, its simple maths, there are 5 men to 1 woman. Take a look at how many women say they are bombarded with messages. Its a given that not all are matches but do women actually take the time to discover if a man is a good match for them? No, they look for there perfect idea of a man. How many times do us average guys read things like: must be hung, must be muscular, must be etc etc. God help us if we are in a wheelchair, women arnt intrested... even if we are able to do everything normally except get around. I have had not a single date in over 6 months.... As for real life, women are very fussy and tend to go for the guys they say they dont want... and then complain to men how they cant find a decent guy like them, even tho we are single and have made it clear we would jump at the chance to be with them, and yes this happened to me 2 months ago. I let her know and guess what? now I havnt had a single visit from her since, even tho she said no to me and she knows I'm not a guy who would not takle advantage of her. So damned if I dont and damned if I do. Take a look at the pub/nightclub scene... women use men for free drinks and then they either go home alone or pick another male that they think is hotter looking at the last minute. Am I jaded? maybe but if I am, its women who have made me this way. I go out of my way to be respectful and I'm a decent guy. Its just that I'm sick to death of women all saying they want this and that but do they give a guy a chance who can provide what they want? no. As for relationships... More and more women dont want a relatioship, they just want sex and lots of fun. I know a woman who can have any man she wants, whenever she wants, all she does is stay single and if she wants sex all she has to do is ask a guy she thinks is hot (stranger) and hes hers for the night. Where does that leave guys who want to be with her in a relationship? with no chance. Its a fact, times have changed. Women used to be serious and ready to settle down at a young age and us men where the ones who stuffed around and had fun. Now the roles are reversed. Maybe I'm just an old fashioned romantic with old ideas on what love and a healthy relationship is but women need to wake up and see how they are treating us men thses days. Next time a guy asks you out give him a chance, he may surprise you.
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
We like what we like...... telling others to give someone a chance when they don't tick those subconscious boxes of attraction.... is incongruous with why you like what you like in the first place. "Go on DG, just give her a chance..... I know you like talk slender elegant but adventurous northern european looking ladies....... but that tattoo'd albino bodybuilding midget from the Philippines just might surprise you". Uh huh. lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
What women want if most often at odds with what they say. They say they want a polite, articulate, considerate nice guy. However their real agenda dictates otherwise. What I'm talking about is summed up in this parody video on you tube. RHP system does not appear to allow links to other sites so if you put "Girls Are Assholes: At a Bar" into You Tube you will be able to view the video. I have seen plenty of that behaviour (more subtle and without the pepper spray) at Meet and Greets. I have had women at Meet and Greets where plenty of men were in attendance ask "where are all the HOT men". No doubt "team vagina" will deny this sort of behaviour goes on either on this site or in other meeting places. What ever happened to Tuscan Red? She was one of the few ladies on RHP that really understood the difficulty men faced and the duplicitous behaviour manifested by many women when faced with an over abundance of choice of men. One wonders how disingenuous women would be if there was suddenly a dire shortage of men. I guess when one holds all the cards (female) often regardless of your SMV "Sexual Market Value" then you can ignore, treat poorly and generally carry on in a mendacious way toward "the good man" despite saying that is whom you want.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm sorry that you so far haven't found what you're looking for, but you also can't put the blame solely on the women. You may like a woman and want a relationship with her, but that does not mean that she should automatically feel the same way about you. The woman that you admitted to having feelings for is now probably avoiding you because a) she does not want a relationship with you, but b) doesn't want to hurt your feelings and just doesn't know how to tell you she isn't interested (no, avoidance isn't morally the 'right' thing to do, but how many of us end up resorting to it when we are faced with a difficult emotional situation). You say that women go for the 'wrong' types of men, but to me it sounds as though you are targeting the wrong types of women. Not all women only care about looks, muscles, cock size etc. Perhaps you need to start expanding your circle of attention to find some of them. As for your comment about women not wanting relationships and only wanting sex, and questioning where does that leave men who want a relationship with her....well I find that question quite selfish. Whether or not a woman wants a relationship is (or should be) completely up to her; it's not up to you or anyone else to decide that she should be making herself available to please those men who want to go out with her. As you say, times have changed and if women no longer want to get married at 20, or don't want to get married at all, that is their choice and that is a good thing. But you regret these changes because of how it affects you....such a man-centric view. Of course though, there are still plenty of women who are open to a relationship particularly as they get older; and again this makes me wonder about the characteristics and ages of women that you are trying to attract.
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RHP User
11 years ago
are you deliberately being obtuse,or is it just inherently you...Clarice
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RHP User
11 years ago
thank you for getting it
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RHP User
11 years ago
Firstly, the lady I was talking about is a friend who I've known for 6 months. We have had a lot of conversations about relationships and sex. She has told me her likes/dislikes, we are very compatable. I've had her over and cooked meals for her. She said "why cant I find someone like you" and I told her how I feel and that I was intrested in her. I did recieve her answer, she told me that shes not intrested but didnt say why. I respect her choice and havnt pressured her in any way. If she chooses to avoid me now, just because I like her, thats a bit unfair. Thus damned if I do and damned if I dont. I took a chance and now not only am I not going out with her but Ive lost a friend. Expanding my circle of attention? I dont have much chance of doing that. Its hard to meet people let alone find single women who would date someone in a wheelchair. Its not easy to go out and get around and I have no intrest in pubs/nightclubs. Im also a full time student going for my diploma, so I dont have a lot of time. Secondly, About women not wanting relationships and only wanting sex. It was a genralisation, most women these days dont want to settle down. Go back 50 years and most women would be married by 20, now today's women just want freedom and to have fun. I'm not saying that it isnt the ladys choice or that its wrong. I'm saying its hard for us guys to find women who do want a relationship. As for the selffish and man-centric comments, you have me wrong there. I have just turned 39yo and have been ready to settle down since I was 25yo and have never been in a relationship where I wasnt in it for the long run. In my opinion if a woman says "why cant I find someone like you" it means someone with my ethics/morals/kindness/heart but they must look like Brad Pitt.... and in saying that I know that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, one mans/womans ugly is another hot. Do I expect a supermodel? no. Ive been attrated to most of my past girlfiends after I have got to know them as friends. I dont judge a book by its cover, I like the contents.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I just cook up a storm...albeit a firey one... Freya,popping in from Valhalla
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RHP User
11 years ago
Like it! like you already, what a shame you live so damn far away. A glass of Red and an intelligent conversation - bliss! I agree...let nature decide. I know straight away when I meet a man if I want any further to do with him. I do however have a drafting gate (farmers daughter talk) for the crude names and even cruder emails and full on cock shots....one way back out to the paddock! These guys really do mess it up for themselves but most ladies can generally see the guys who are genuine and honest about what they want without being gross about it. I think they forget we are the female of the same species and have the same needs despite how society would like to portray women who enjoy a sexual encounter. I do read a bit in to the emails that I receive to try to get to know the man a little as despite what people say...sex is not all just about sex, I endeavour to present well and mind my P's & Q's and expect the man to be polite even if he is thinking something else, it's likely that I might be too. My tip for this forum is 'be yourself - if the person you meet is not into you or vice versa, don't take it as a personal insult just move on. You never know who might be waiting next in line!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Cooking is the way to my heart. Please give my regards to Hildisvíni.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I always enjoy your posts, and I think you're spot on this time. Over the years two women close to me have been on this and similar sites, and hooked up randomly with men who had generic profiles but nice enough pics. No names exchanged. They could have been amazing, intelligent, kind, awesome men. It wasn't relevant to what the women were looking for at the time, so the words on the profiles weren't important.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hey StSinner, thank you. That is a wonderful compliment coming from you whom I get time stopping moments of insight from. I really do appreciate it. I had to laugh, out of your post came to me a new mantra... "What would Miles do?".
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Cassy_74
11 years ago
what a crock of shit really, doesn't matter male or female, once they get hold of all the cards they pick choose and make the calls. The trick is I guess is not to make them feel like they get to call all the shots.
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RHP User
11 years ago
A wise lady told me something that I'll honestly never forget.... It's all about perception..... While you perceived you were showing interest in her personally, it was her perception that you were just being a friend. Maybe some men need to think about what it means to them to have someone display an interest in them personally, so that then we as men can project that towards the women we have an interest in to achieve the desired outcome?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is a simple "I'm interested in taking things further with you than a friendship" statement..... Or am I off the mark here? - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Quoting 'Arten' What women want if most often at odds with what they say. They say they want a polite, articulate, considerate nice guy. However their real agenda dictates otherwise. What I'm talking about is summed up in this parody video on you tube. RHP system does not appear to allow links to other sites so if you put "Girls Are Assholes: At a Bar" into You Tube you will be able to view the video. I have seen plenty of that behaviour (more subtle and without the pepper spray) at Meet and Greets. I have had women at Meet and Greets where plenty of men were in attendance ask "where are all the HOT men". No doubt "team vagina" will deny this sort of behaviour goes on either on this site or in other meeting places. What ever happened to Tuscan Red? She was one of the few ladies on RHP that really understood the difficulty men faced and the duplicitous behaviour manifested by many women when faced with an over abundance of choice of men. One wonders how disingenuous women would be if there was suddenly a dire shortage of men. I guess when one holds all the cards (female) often regardless of your SMV "Sexual Market Value" then you can ignore, treat poorly and generally carry on in a mendacious way toward "the good man" despite saying that is whom you want. Come in tight, my centenarian brother.I read that.... and I sense frustration, anger, and intimidation. (possibly due to RHP... hopefully, not from the world beyond). What you call duplicity and disingenuous.... is simply the subtlety of communication between the sexes. Your post.... says.... you dont get it. If you did, you'd not only read between the lines of female behaviour, it would appear like the matrix....... just a simple code of 0's and 1's..... ....ie.... there are no lines. Women are giving you hints and signals with every word, movement and look.Hopefully at your advanced age, you still have time to learn.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Geek_on_wheels' Firstly, the lady I was talking about is a friend who I've known for 6 months. We have had a lot of conversations about relationships and sex. She has told me her likes/dislikes, we are very compatable. I've had her over and cooked meals for her. She said "why cant I find someone like you" and I told her how I feel and that I was intrested in her. I did recieve her answer, she told me that shes not intrested but didnt say why. I respect her choice and havnt pressured her in any way. If she chooses to avoid me now, just because I like her, thats a bit unfair. Thus damned if I do and damned if I dont. I took a chance and now not only am I not going out with her but Ive lost a friend. In my opinion if a woman says "why cant I find someone like you" it means someone with my ethics/morals/kindness/heart but they must look like Brad Pitt.... and in saying that I know that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, one mans/womans ugly is another hot. Do I expect a supermodel? no. Ive been attrated to most of my past girlfiends after I have got to know them as friends. I dont judge a book by its cover, I like the contents. One of my very best friends is male. He has a terrific sense of humour, tells a great story, is open, honest and loyal as a friend and I suppose I would very much like to find 'somebody like him' in that he shared some or all of those qualities with my friend. The thing is, while we have a strong friendship and few secrets from one another- I have no attraction to or sexual chemistry with my friend. I don't think it has anything to do with the way he looks - granted, he is no Brad Pitt but then he's not hideous either! It just isn't there and never has been, even when we've been blind drunk together. We've been great friends for many years and will be for many more, I hope. I'd like to think a friendship of a couple of decades could survive if one or the other of us suddenly declared an interest and was rejected, but it's a big test of a developing friendship. She may avoid you because the context of those conversations and sharing has changed - she might be comfortable sharing some things with you as a friend but not as someone who views her as a potential sexual partner. If somebody said to me 'why can't I find somebody like you' I'd probably take it to mean I'd been friend-zoned. Big time! I wouldn't try to push it any further. And for the record, I don't think us women hold all the cards - we win some and we lose some. Even on RHP.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Seems we see eye to eye on this one, and yea' why so far away ? Who needs all this complicated , what she wants , what he wants rubbish. Why not just pop a bottle of red, ozze down and let nature take care of the rest.. Some of the best times I ever had was with females I thought Id never look twice at.. How the hell can anyone expect to hit it off with all this type of crap going around in their head ? Get back to our roots when we first started.. we bumbled our way through but in the end it was worth it.. So ladies' confidence is one thing, being difficult on everything is another.. lighten up.. goes for us all...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Women hold the fanny power ..... Men hold the emotional power .... For me I have been on dating sites and dealt with men for years in my personal life obviously .... I came on this site because it's up front ... I'm sick of the lies I've been told , that I'm intelligent, beautiful, desirable, rare, etc. and I'm "the one" all to get in my pussy ..... Over here on rhp it's different ... It's all up front ... No need to lie anymore .... Guys are more vulnerable here cos they can't lie their way emotionally into our pussy ... The cards are on the table ... No emotion involved ... It's sex for sex ... The guard is dropped and the fascard.... Women will always have pussy power and if u have the goods on a sex site you'll get the interest from them.... It's boy meets girl stuff ... Simple ! Without the usual emotion... It's what you wanted isn't it? U only wanted sex all along ? Or at least no strings or baggage ? So learn the rules , play the game ... If u want purely physical interaction with us learn to BE what you are looking for .... What's that ? You say ... What do you want? Well we like the same ... Let me give u a clue ... Sexy, desirable, hot looking , visually stimulating ... Think about it ... Everyone can look hot If they choose ... If we went on a purely physical site with a beer gut and ugly looking appearance ( even if your not gifted in that department u can improve your appearance) we wouldn't stand a chance ... And guys put a damn picture up will u and make an attempt to look attractive and if u don't then stop wondering why u don't get sex... Not rocket science! Have some self respect in your appearance ... We do! And tired of guys getting offended when I tell them I am a visually stimulated Han being .... Why is that such a surprise ... Unless u have heaps of money and can buy a young hottie ( and she won't want u in bed eventually anyway lol) u are gonna have to put in the effort of a gym membership lol and some new clothes and a stylist - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
While I agree with some of what you say, I do have to ask, do you even lift bro? :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
And please don't come back with " so I don't look brad Pitt'! As I said everyone can look good if they try.... It's in the trying boys ... I'm not perfect and we are not expecting perfect either ... But u can tell if a guy exercises , eats well ... Is willing to spend money ... Yes money boys !! Lol on nice clothing and skin care .... I might sound shallow but then ask urself if ur being a Hipocrate if that's the case.... Society has told us only men are visual in these areas ... Society is wrong ... Only men are allowed to be like this .... Society needs to change .... Believe me women like a hot look as much as guys do .... Sick of unattractive men approaching me and then getting incensed when I say I'm not attracted to them an going down the road of " oh it's what's inside that counts ' if they believe that truly what made them like me? My personality? Lolol yeah right ...so all u non brad Pitts ( who is too good looking for my liking , not real enough) give urself a scrub and polish an a long term yummy boy plan and watch ur life change.... Or else face it it's lazy ess and lack o f real effort that keeps u sexless an lonely... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'KiwiBred' The assumption that generic profiles are due to laziness, lack of imagination and creativity or worse fake may be the case for some but not all, as is the assumption of illiteracy. Some of the most amazing and the most unlikeliest of people lay behind generic profiles...just sayn. So sick of generic profiles on this site. I'd say a lot of them are placed on as to show fresh meat/ profiles/ people. Pure laziness in profiles will transfer to the same laziness/ boredom/ one liners in company and bed. The best people I've meet are ones that I must say use no generic phrases what so ever and that allows one to be quite genuine, in my case witty in initial contact to say the least. Think the site needs a MAJOR CLEAN OUT of TRASH PROFILES
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Geek_on_wheels' I dont have much chance of doing that. Its hard to meet people let alone find single women who would date someone in a wheelchair. Its not easy to go out and get around and I have no intrest in pubs/nightclubs. Im also a full time student going for my diploma, so I dont have a lot of time. Have you considered dating someone else in a wheelchair? I know its a limitation you would prefer not to have to submit to, but lets face it, its hard for any of us to see eye to eye when we're not on the same level, and someone with full mobility might not see you clearly. They're going to see you sans the freedom they take for granted, and will pity you for something out of your control because they can't comprehend that you are capable of being a valuable, loving partner and friend from that chair. It sucks, hurts, and yes, this is a super broad generalisation I make, but its fairly true I think, and that's their choice to make. A wheelchair-bound lover, however, will understand instantly and intimately exactly what you are facing, and you her. And she won't give a damn about your chair! Firstly you'll save on chair lift vehicles, ramp costs and bathroom facilities. Secondly, and I think most importantly, if you both fake a little 'der' for the cameras you can both get government supplied carers, and you can get them to help you fuck, which is hot. Roman slave style, ya dig?"Titius, you may begin to thrust my buttocks. Harder, man, or I will have you flogged!"Its not always sunshine, but its not always thorns. RA
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inspirit
11 years ago
Quoting 'friskyeatin' The best people I've meet are ones that I must say use no generic phrases what so ever and that allows one to be quite genuine, in my case witty in initial contact to say the least. Think the site needs a MAJOR CLEAN OUT of TRASH PROFILES Lucky you .... Some of the best meets I have had are with people who have written generic profiles
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RHP User
11 years ago
My last GF was in a wheelchair as well. It worked great but she had a extremly low sex drive, so after 3 years we broke up.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad'Women may well hold the cards in here.....because numbers and dumbarse male behaviour favour the selection process.... - Posted from rhpmobile lol dumbarse behaviour! I agree with you there. The numbers are in our favour but I don't want a guy to jump through hoops. If I like you, I chat with you and if we get on ok then we meet soon. There's a 95% chance I'll fuck you if we meet. I am not planning on marrying you so don't need that super mega marriage chemistry. I just need to find you hot and sexy and we're on.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I love that term...Battle of the Sexes....lol. Battle???? Man it's a war most of us average looking blokes lost ages ago. After 30 years of marriage, I find myself single again. I am in my late 50's, I am in ok shape and health (no 'roid bod or 6 pack here though) and I have a very engaging and outgoing personality. My boss once described my personality as 'sparkling'. I am assuming that's a good thing right?? Anyway, that sparkling personality? I may as well shove it in my ass, not worth a pinch of piss in this modern world. My experiences in this modern dating world so far have shown me I am judged by the gym junkie body I don't have, the badge on the bonnet of my car, my post code, and the length of my dick. Something went seriously wrong in the last 30 years whilst I was married and raising a family. I don't remember it being that materialistic? Was it??? Nahhhh I don't remember it being like that at all. What the hell happened to us as a species where we are that shallow that no matter how honest, forthright, hardworking and decent you are, if you don't tick those boxes baby your history with the ladies. Man I can't even get women on here to respond to my messages, let alone think about a little bit of horizontal mambo. Of course no doubt some of you will say it's my approach, or something like that, and you may be right, to a point. Remember??? I am new at this game. But I try and make my approach messages interesting and hopefully splashed with a tad of humor (laugh and the world laughs with you, cry and your on your own) but 9 times out of 10 I get no reply at all, and the few replies I have had have basically said thanks but no thanks. And all the young ones out there are telling me "do it online man, it's the modern way to meet the chicky babes" Really? I dunno fellas, I am not that impressed with online dating so far!!! The more I learn about women, the more I love my motorcycle :-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
@ Cycledemon. There is one woman on here that specifically states in her profile that she likes to do the horizontal tango. Can you dance to Bolero?
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RHP User
11 years ago
ARE YOU SERIOUS!!! It's different if you state that's your opinion, or is it the group of people you've been hanging out with? Don't think that's a generalisation. Seeing eye to eye, that comment makes me see red, you know to look someone in the eye you only have to adjust where your eyeball is pointing....... I had the wonderful pleasure of dating a guy, who just so happened to be in a wheelchair, we went out for a great 10 months and enjoyed all aspects of a relationship, we only ended because he had to move interstate for work and before you ask, no I did not have any contact with persons in wheelchairs before, we met through a friend and just clicked. Whoops, sorry i blew my top, I just get furious at people who can't look past the physical shell!
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team_Pringle
11 years ago
More like couples hold the cards...... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Spot on... The ones who think women hold the cards should say they hold the cards when it comes to them.... Why I do have no problems , why does a very close mate of mine have no problem? Our only problem is deciding who to meet out of all the options we get presented!!.... Have they stopped to think they might not be worth it lol I'm not saying I get any woman I want... Far from it.. I might get half a dozen no replies or thanks but no thanks before I get a yes , when and where.... Just stop sooking and get on with being yourself, and find the fun.... Because there is lots and lots of women on here looking for fun!!!' - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
How many cards they hold as long as they leave one hand free to
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'team_Pringle' More like couples hold the cards...... - Posted from rhpmobile Go the couples Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
RandomAgent, that was wrong of me to attack like that, everyone has a different outlook on things and I shoved mine in your face and not in a nice way. I'm a bit strong willed, again I apologise.
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RHP User
11 years ago
RA is a guy next door type guy working hard on a stand up comedy act by developing a character set to top Borat in the comedy world. I really do hope that its a fictional character. No one in real life could be that..... Hey! Look over there!
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RHP User
11 years ago
@ Freya77 - you're welcome I would say that our experiences (that being the royal 'our') differ in relation to the type of people we attract. I have had more interaction with people that have little to nothing in their profiles yet their initial and ongoing communication never ceases to amaze me and completely contradicts popular assumption. Until proven otherwise, I maintain that people with so called 'great profiles' pale in comparison when it comes to effective communication. @Sun_Kissed - thank you, appreciated ...back at ya with that . @friskyeatin - I totally get where you're coming from with your assumption/attitude towards generic profiles...my views are based primarily on initial messages received which (as stated above) completely contradict yours. Oh and between the lines...I saw what you did there...I got that too... @Unrushed1 - I couldn't agree more with your approach to messages although I think it goes both ways (regardless of gender). Personally if I perceived someone to be holding all the cards, I would walk away as I think that says a lot in itself.
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Rockin heels...... .... but Im still taller
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RHP User
11 years ago
take off the sunnies,show us ya baby blues,I love sarcasm but it scares some women and as for the Mambo...well for me it is the tango
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RHP User
11 years ago
Why thank you .......... ............... I should hope so
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
You can climb me like a Californian redwood
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sooo, about 15% of respondents gave constructive advice, 5% jestful banter, 80% commented on the topic heading. And you all complain about people not reading profiles all the way to the end! LOL 😉
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