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Women that cry.
February 01 2014
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gazpacho
11 years ago
Women that cry during sex. That's awkward, I have to say. What am I doing wrong? I've got a good sense of humour, least I think so.. what have I done? Oh Gawd... I better stop. It's getting worse! Awkward... very awkward.... when can I leave .... hehe. HugsGazpacho xxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yeah, I cry easily but usually only for a minute or two and very quietly. And rarely about things that happen to me, more often about accidents and other sad things that happen to others. At funerals I just let the tears run down my face, as I know trying to stop just makes it worse. . The only time I do the sobbing thing is when animals* are involved or I'm really drunk. Then I go into the "ugly cry". . . *This also goes for all Disney and Pixar animals. And Wall-E. Especially Wall-E. .
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RHP User
11 years ago
But the crying headache or hangover is horrible though!
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
I believe..When a man shrugs a woman off for having a few tears by saying "Get over it", "Stop being a sook" and "you're just being emotional" is quite very passive aggressive behavior in my eyes. :/ I also believe that these men (not all men, just the ones who shrug it off) who say this, do not understand women at all. I think these men don't know how or know what to do, when they see a woman cry or emotional at that time of month. Quote me if I am wrong, however that is from my own experiences. In-fact when a woman does have a teary moment all went want to hear is "It will be OK" with a little bit of empathy and a good cup of tea. How easy is that?? I agree also with your statement Meeka about if some was to give a hug, sometimes it does make matters worse. I think there is nothing wrong with having a few tears, infact it's quite healthy. I just couldn't cry any tears during my marriage (almost 20yrs), it was not until weeks after I had left, I had a whole day crying by myself with out anyone knowing. Faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaark it felt bloody fantastic! FOXY PS - Oh the Crying hang over is awful. :(
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gazpacho
11 years ago
I gasped. Love that movie. Is it in English because I've only ever seen it in a foreign language... and no sub titles. Maybe I should get a box of tissues and a case of champers and have a good cry? I nearly cried in "the last samurai". I love cherry blossoms Hugs Gazp
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' I agree also with your statement Meeka about if some was to give a hug, sometimes it does make matters worse. I don't like someone hugging me in public when I'm crying for this reason, however when we are alone it's nice. I met a FWB at my house once after a funeral. When I shed some tears later that night, he pulled me in close without a word. Only when I apologized for not acting very sexy (silly, I know), did he tell me it was more than ok. It's lovely to have a man just hold me without offering advice or solutions. . And yes, those hangovers. I find they are the worst when I make myself stop crying before I'm really done.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Goes and puts kettle on. Who's for a cuppa?? FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
thankfully I had a few guy friends that were ever so empathetic and they would come over hug me etc, now they tease me about it and we laugh about it. I still cry now and then, for no reason, it cleanses the eyes. The last time I recall was when I was still living with my ex and I got up to go to the bathroom and well, I dont know why, I started crying in the bathroom, very loudly too. the ex didn't know what to do, he called my mom who is overseas (wtf!); I had to explain to him that sometimes I just cry
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
I understand exactly!! How sweet was that! Sometimes I feel like a goose for having a few tears when someone has shown an interest in me for being upset. It's not till afterwards I've I felt embarrassed. AND GUYS....Do not ever, tell a woman she's depressed when she has a good cry! FMD! I had that said to me a few months ago and I just wanted to throttle that person. I was upset because of their actions and words. When a woman has a good cry every know and again, it does not mean she is depressed!! A woman will love you more if you just let her have a cry time and give her space. We will come around and stop when we are ready. :) Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
I've had a few men cry infront of me. I see it as, that they trust me. Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Can't say I've ever shed a tear without a very good reason except when my menopausal hormones were doing their own dance. Thankfully that is over and done with now. Happy to make any of you ladies a cuppa when you feeling tearful. Hugs (in private) SF x
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy'Goes and puts kettle on. Who's for a cuppa?? That is so British! Anyone want a stiff one instead?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Don't say "Don't cry", "There's no reason to cry" etc. . What you're saying is we're doing the wrong thing, which is unhelpful and won't make us like you. If it was the wrong thing for us, we wouldn't be doing it. Simple. . (Though to those few ladies who cry to get their way or win an argument: You are on your own, no respect.)
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Lmao! Give me a good "stiff" any day! ;) Foxy
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Paradisepair
11 years ago
I'm sensitive and might get teary eyed from compassion or the suffering of others but I rarely cry for myself and the load I carry in life, only really when I get frustrated and angry. I had a LOT of teen angst, cried buckets back then, I think I worked out how to process my stuff... I have good friends who suffer from depression and I am very supportive of others' need for a good old cry on the couch, as long as after you can get up and get on with life.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm prone to a bit of eye-leakage occasionally - not the big, heaving, body-wracking type, just a drop or two when I let my guard down - every now and again I find things can sometimes get too much, and it all gets a bit overwhelming. Frustrating when it does, but there ya go. Don't do sad movies and stuff too well, either.....but then, I've always been a big softie. CheersJAB
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MissSarahCurious
11 years ago
I've been so angry/frustrated at times I've had tears. It's like that old saying "stress is created when one's mind overrides the body's basic desire to choke the living shit out of some asshole that desperately needs it". I know I can't tell people to fuck the fucking hell off and die in a fucking fire but sometimes I want to so hard that my frustration comes out my eyeballs. Also I'll cry at someone else's pain or suffering so easily it's embarrassing at times. Compassion is one thing but walking into a room where there's a movie playing and crying along with a character I don't know within 2 minutes is a bit much. Some actors are just really good at conveying pain! xx Sarah
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RHP User
11 years ago
No wonder we can never understand you mob... You're all plumb loco... ! I must admit to crying every time I watch A.I. (Pinocchio) and A fortunate life... Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Quoting 'MissSarahCurious' I've been so angry/frustrated at times I've had tears. It's like that old saying "stress is created when one's mind overrides the body's basic desire to choke the living shit out of some asshole that desperately needs it". I know I can't tell people to fuck the fucking hell off and die in a fucking fire but sometimes I want to so hard that my frustration comes out my eyeballs. Also I'll cry at someone else's pain or suffering so easily it's embarrassing at times. Compassion is one thing but walking into a room where there's a movie playing and crying along with a character I don't know within 2 minutes is a bit much. Some actors are just really good at conveying pain! xx Sarah That's exactly me too! Build up of FRUSTRATION..you bet ya a good cry does wonders. I can build up tears if I have a GF crying on my shoulder...not crying out of sadness more crying with them cause of compassion. FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
That's the one shyprincess... The shit that that poor little buggar went through, and the amazing kindness that he received from total strangers is very moving... And at the end he says he had a fortunate life... 😿😿 I even cry when I reread the bloody book ! Hp xo 💌 But I still believe that you're worth it...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ive cried at movies, poems, books, etc, just means something going on in it has struck a chord at that moment with me. I don't know about others but I feel the passion and emotion behind the cry..(like Ned Stark being beheaded). When a woman cries I feel uncomfortable because I want to fix it but the answer I get back is just cuddle me and let me cry. So I shut up and do so even if uncomfortable. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander'. The only time I do the sobbing thing is when animals* are involved or I'm really drunk. Then I go into the "ugly cry". . . *This also goes for all Disney and Pixar animals. And Wall-E. Especially Wall-E. . The animal thing is me, too. And I haven't seen Wall-E...it's on my list of movies to watch but now I'm thinking that maybe I shouldn't... I actually had a bit of a cry earlier tonight. Stressed about a few things...and then the straw that broke the camel's back, so to speak.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Luckdragon23' The animal thing is me, too. And I haven't seen Wall-E...it's on my list of movies to watch but now I'm thinking that maybe I shouldn't... You must, it's beautiful! . And here: *Gives LD a big squeeze*
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Hope you're OK? Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
when I see beautiful things. Or when I see people doing beautiful things. I get teary when I'm proud of my kids. I don't really have an all out sob fest as much as I used to though. Only when I'm so fucking tired that things become a little overwhelming but that hardly happens anymore. So I get the exhaustion thing Meeka. I just meditate and give myself some loving if I need to. Plus, my kidlets and my Mum give great hugs.
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RHP User
11 years ago
A man that can cry.... I know it sounds weird but that is so attractive! I think letting emotion out, no matter how a person does it is a health thing. I cry at movies, and I get teary sometimes when I hear a child cry, if someone else is upset, hearing a sad song.... Etc. I don't think that makes me weak. I rarely cry for myself but as I said a few times when I have felt quite ill and had a fever. Totally bizarre and I don't know why.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Mind you I do occasionally get the blues due to hormones.... But I am aware that it's a temporary state so usually it passes without too much hassle.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'I rarely cry for myself but as I said a few times when I have felt quite ill and had a fever. Totally bizarre and I don't know why. Mostly when I have a migraine, but I've cried when I had fevers too. I almost made paint_me cry today.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' A man that can cry.... I know it sounds weird but that is so attractive! *knods head* I find it an attractive trait too. As long as it's not a "begging to get back together" puppy dog cry. They suck! Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm highly sensitive and deeply emotional though most of it's well hidden. Most people would describe me as feisty and strong, never troubled by anything. Those few who are really close to me know I'm a complete marshmallow and I'm intensely affected by things. I often need an emotional release. I'll watch a movie, youtube cute animal vids or similar and cry/smile. And then I feel better! Two important crying experiences I've had in recent years - for the first time ever being in the company of a man who simply wrapped his arms around me when I cried. Amazing. No anxiety on his part, no avoidance, no 'fixing', just being there with me. And for the first time ever, emotional shock so intense that I simply couldn't cry. Instead I walked around constantly holding my breath for six weeks, until finally the tears flowed and the healing started. Crying's an interesting thing for sure! Love the topic Meeka
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RHP User
11 years ago
Movies make me cry and my eyes well when people confide in me I am a very compassionate person. Although I had a cruel ex-husband and crying was a sign of weekness unfortunately I learnt from him to hold that in......never show it or he would come over the top of you. I wish I had someone in my life that I could have shown that emotion too....he did me a great injustice. Before christmas it was all I could do to stop myself from crying .....life just didnt add up! And I just discovered that a close family member is about to loose her brave fight against cancer ...I so want to visit her and will within the next week. I will fly interstate for the day with my sibblings to see her one last time.....and I am tearful now and am so worried I will be so overcome............or worse still will I overcome my tears and play the "nothing is wrong game" that I have had to do with other close relatives in the past. They say crying is good for you....it just gives me a headache
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RHP User
11 years ago
It was my youngest daughters 1st birthday. I arrived home in the truck, and I was shivering cold. I had long pants, a singlet, my high-vis shirt and jumper on...even wrapped a blanket around me, and yet still couldn't get warm... My youngest cuddled me, played with my face for nearly all the time I was home, then I left late to get loaded the next day. About a week later, I was heading south from Dubbo when I received "the call." My sister inlaw's voice trembled as she spoke. "Bella's been rushed to hospital after having some kind of seizure. She wasn't breathing, when can you get home?" I made a bee line for home after calling the boss. Parking the truck out the front of the hospital I charged into the hospital. The nurses escorted me to the ward, and walked in, seeing my daughter with tubes sticking out of her was just soul crushing. Her weak moans as she breathed were harrowing to say the least. But..... She was at least out of intensive care, so that's a positive I thought. After checking on my daughter, I turned to my now ex, and just wrapped my arms around her. She just broke down in my arms.... I didn't know what else to say except "let it out....it's okay, I'm here." She never saw my tears as she needed to see strength..... I never feel awkward or anything else when I see a woman cry. It's quite normal to be teary when you're emotionally, physically exhausted.... Or you're just having a shit day.... However, I do get a little confused when it's somehow expected I join in with her shit day, or shed the same amount of tears when all I want to do is take the bull by it's horns, and either fix her sadness or at least try to cheer her up, and not always, but sometimes it's seen as though I don't care. - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
11 years ago
I'm always perceived to be or expected to be a certain way. HAPPY, the confident, life of the party, nothing gets her down, string, yes ULTIMATE woman. Surprise surprise folks.....I'm fucking human!!! With all the normal human frailties and imperfections that "normal" people go through. Disheartening I know. I can go for long long long times keeping up the persona that I project for the rnjoyment of ithers but guess what......I'm as fragile and soft (probably moreso) than everyone ekse out there. My closest friends, people who love me unconditionally love me in all my shades....my bkunt honest humanness and inner strength and resolve to smile though I'mmdying inside endears them to me. On the what would your friends say about you thread would be answered by my vanilla bestie Princess in two words your "Ridicukous Awesomeness" because we can take you anywhere and you'll fit in and be accepted by everyone. All my life I've been led to believe by people who supposedly loved me that I woukdn't fut un emanywher. I went to a fundraiser for a guy who got killed in s motorbike accident last weekend. I was welcomed, included and apparently lightened the mood sbd made everyone happy according to my Princess and Jase. They thanked me for coming and invited me back and wished to meet me again. I knew 2 people there. The whole crew by the time I keft. Yes I cry.....i have my teary vulnerable weak days. But I am me, and love me, hate me or misunderstand me I will always be ME. Fuck anyone who doesn't get that. My Lover will never see me, it would burst his bubble if he ever did. Fuck you I say. Fuck all of you!
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On_Safari
11 years ago
I'm a bit pissy but atleast I'm real and I'm honest
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RHP User
11 years ago
Usually I read all other responses before I write a reply to a forum post, but not on this occasion.I hate, really hate, seeing either male or female cry. Maybe its because at my age I know when I see other people in tears there is usually a good reason for it. For me, when im upset, words mean little to me as the issue is mine alone, and I've found that just someone being there to support me, usually in the form of a hug, is the best medicine. Words, as heartfelt as they may be, just don't cut it. So bearing this in mind, if I see a person in tears I tend to just give a heartfelt hug, and let the tears flow as I do so. I find people let go of themselves in a comforting embrace, which can be the best tonic.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It is my favourite autobiography. (Deep trembly sigh) to be able to say it was A Fortunate Life speaks volumes for everything Albert was as a boy, a man and entirely an Australian. My Mum loves the story too. A must read for everyone.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Not the full on waterworks but a definite trickle down the cheek. The funny thing is, it's never about me and the stuff that's going on in my life. I cry during the show "domestic blitz" everytime I see it, I cry in certain movies and ads too. I always seem to get emotional when some poor helpless person overcomes the odds or something like that.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have a friend who cried for absolutely no reason every single time she drank vodka, it got so bad that her whole friend group "banned" her from drinking it. Now she's a bourbon/scotch girl and I've not seen her cry while drunk in 5-6 years. Before we figured out the vodka connection we were genuinely concerned that she was crying, then eventually it became "Oh she's had vodka, she'll be fine". Sounds terrible when I read it back but even she admits that vodka turned her into a crazy person.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes you did. When people do beautiful things for each other. That gush of love and kindness always makes me teary.
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
Well I'm a big sook, I will cry at movies/TV shows, if I read a sad story whether it be a book or a newspaper article, at my kids because they're all quite remarkable, at sad things (like death, sickness, heartbreak, of not only mine, but family, friends and complete strangers) at happy things (like beautiful acts of generosity, kindness, selflessness) if I'm angry enough (only a couple of people can make me that angry but) and like you Meeka I will cry for no apparent reason other than being tied or when I'm not feeling well... I think they call it being human....can make you feel so much better after a good cry.....💋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
11 years ago
When I'm drunk please! Crying days, sometimes the tears just build to overflowing, I think of those moments as "cleansing" and purging the soul of it's worries. Luck, Meeks I hope you're having a better day today (virtual hugs and kisses xx to you and my JayJay) My roomy had me in tears most of yesterday in between checking out new places to live then got to the Goldie and my gf here did the same whilst plying me with wine and vodka. My mouth tastes like someone took a dump in it BUT I also feel stronger again. Glad some of the guys have posted too. It's nice to get your perspectives on this phenomena ~ Indy xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
And the make up sex after crying is the best, especially if nobody did anything wrong in the first place
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wingman2014
11 years ago
I was always brought up to be emotionally tough , old school typical male thing don't show your true feelings. But the day I had to take our little family terrier to the vet and received the worst possible news . I held her while they gave her the injection .... One of the toughest things I've ever had to do. I cried like a baby and didn't care who saw it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
It's funny to see a lot of women posting in this Forum...and very few men! Why is that?? I believe it's because we women understand and get it when it comes to "emotional" crying etc and when we have bad days. To be totally honest, I really don't think SOME men get it, nor know what to do??? Would like to see a few more posts in here from the men who want to know what to do and some questions. :) FOXY
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
I'm sorry to hear about your terrior. :( Bravo to you. xx FOXY
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'Stir_it_alot' It was my youngest daughters 1st birthday. I arrived home in the truck, and I was shivering cold. I had long pants, a singlet, my high-vis shirt and jumper on...even wrapped a blanket around me, and yet still couldn't get warm... My youngest cuddled me, played with my face for nearly all the time I was home, then I left late to get loaded the next day. About a week later, I was heading south from Dubbo when I received "the call." My sister inlaw's voice trembled as she spoke. "Bella's been rushed to hospital after having some kind of seizure. She wasn't breathing, when can you get home?" I made a bee line for home after calling the boss. Parking the truck out the front of the hospital I charged into the hospital. The nurses escorted me to the ward, and walked in, seeing my daughter with tubes sticking out of her was just soul crushing. Her weak moans as she breathed were harrowing to say the least. But..... She was at least out of intensive care, so that's a positive I thought. After checking on my daughter, I turned to my now ex, and just wrapped my arms around her. She just broke down in my arms.... I didn't know what else to say except "let it out....it's okay, I'm here." She never saw my tears as she needed to see strength..... I never feel awkward or anything else when I see a woman cry. It's quite normal to be teary when you're emotionally, physically exhausted.... Or you're just having a shit day.... However, I do get a little confused when it's somehow expected I join in with her shit day, or shed the same amount of tears when all I want to do is take the bull by it's horns, and either fix her sadness or at least try to cheer her up, and not always, but sometimes it's seen as though I don't care. - Posted from rhpmobile That story Stir, brought a few tears, to the visions, just quietly. Nothing to do with just parking the truck out in the open, vulnerable and all either. Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
While there are some physiological differences between men and women, as far as I know, physically the process of crying is exactly the same. Yes, there might be some different hormonal stuff going on due to menstruation/menopause and so on. That aside, I think the 'difference' between men and women crying is completely socially constructed. One is more acceptable than the other, and therefore one occurs more frequently than the other - or at least when others are around. Meeks, I think you're right, a good cry every now and then can be very therapeutic. There must be some good reason humans do it. Lessons learned in early childhood can carry through and shape us all our lives - and crying is pretty much all babies do! As we get older the reasons for doing it change and it's appropriate much less frequently, but I think it's unrealistic to expect that after the age of ten or so it's never to be done again. (Or only on very rare and exceptional circumstances.) Maybe it's meant to happen more frequently than many of us allow? Maybe the people who have a good, solid weep every now and again are on to something, and have some kind of benefit that others don't? While tearfulness for no or an insignificant reason can be a sign of clinical depression, having a cry now and again doesn't necessarily equal being depressed. The 'rules' doctors use for diagnosing 'major' depression say they need to find four other symptoms at the same time, which occur more often than not over a period of two weeks. So if it's just the occasional cry without loss of interest in previously pleasurable activities, self-loathing, sleep and eating disturbance etc - even the medical profession says it isn't ill. So have it!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'wingman2014' I held her while they gave her the injection .... That made me cry.
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Missb4u
11 years ago
I hate crying, I super detest it! I hate the way it makes me feel, the headache, the sore puffy eyes...arghI hate the way in makes me vulnerable.But I do cry.Anything to do with ANZAC day makes me cry or any remembrance day really. Loss of a loved one. and as MissSarahCurious so aptly described the frustration cry, I have been this one a lot lately. Time to move on me thinks.
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MissSarahCurious
11 years ago
Quoting 'Findingmemo' I have a friend who cried for absolutely no reason every single time she drank vodka, it got so bad that her whole friend group "banned" her from drinking it. Now she's a bourbon/scotch girl and I've not seen her cry while drunk in 5-6 years. Before we figured out the vodka connection we were genuinely concerned that she was crying, then eventually it became "Oh she's had vodka, she'll be fine". Sounds terrible when I read it back but even she admits that vodka turned her into a crazy person. Gin brings out the tears in a couple of my friends. Maybe there's something in the clear spirits that does it, like the high sugar content in rum negatively affects some people? Bundaberg Rum: Helping you punch your mates in the face since 1888. xx Sarah
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madotara69
11 years ago
Cool pic Lovinit Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have even there. It's heart breaking isn't it. Big hugs. xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sorry. That was meant to say "I have been there"
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's so hard and I suppose you won't know how you will react until you are there. Big big hugs. xxxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am a bit of an internaliser too. When I am really really worried about something I don't tend to talk about it at all. Lots of people, or maybe I should say women, can't understand that.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Kentavious' Usually I read all other responses before I write a reply to a forum post, but not on this occasion.I hate, really hate, seeing either male or female cry. Maybe its because at my age I know when I see other people in tears there is usually a good reason for it. For me, when im upset, words mean little to me as the issue is mine alone, and I've found that just someone being there to support me, usually in the form of a hug, is the best medicine. Words, as heartfelt as they may be, just don't cut it. So bearing this in mind, if I see a person in tears I tend to just give a heartfelt hug, and let the tears flow as I do so. I find people let go of themselves in a comforting embrace, which can be the best tonic. I just fell a tiny bit in love with you :D
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
I actually agree with what you posted. Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'wingman2014' I was always brought up to be emotionally tough , old school typical male thing don't show your true feelings. But the day I had to take our little family terrier to the vet and received the worst possible news . I held her while they gave her the injection .... One of the toughest things I've ever had to do. I cried like a baby and didn't care who saw it. - Posted from rhpmobile Oh wingman I'm so sorry, I know how that feels We got our first 'family' dog when I was 10 years old. I was 23 when he finally reached the stage where he was in too much pain and we couldn't help him anymore. He had primarily been mum's dog, but she couldn't face taking him to the vet so dad and I took him. I didn't want him to be alone without any of his family with him in his final moments so I stayed with him while they did the injection. I was a mess for the rest of day.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Wingman, getting our dog put down a couple of years back and delivering dad's eulogy last year, on top of what I'd already been through... Yep... hard. Plenty of tears there... But not generally on a day to day basis... As mentioned Anzac Day will do it too... And back to a fortunate life... When I hear some unemployable, dole bludging leach on society whining that life's not fair... I just want to stuff that book down their throats... Page by page... After reading it to them first of course... Just so they understand where I'm coming from... Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...
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On_Safari
11 years ago
I'm laying down now with tears peacefully slipping down cheek into my hairline near my ears and running coolly down my neck. I don't think I'm sad, just ....... overwhelmed a bit. Stir I txt you this morning and got alphaghetti again, sending love and light to you, my beautiful Wings hazel or blue I've made you glass up briefly. I think everyone owes thenselves to have a pass for good cry anytime they need......it's better out than in. ~ Hugs and Foxxxy I'll have that cuppa please, blonde with a pair (white and 2) xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's called HORMONES.......I find I get very emotional before that time of the month, as most women most likely do......a certain movie, a certain song, a certain memory that flashes in the mind. Worst thing is crying when you're driving. I don't recommend it!! Could well be the cause of a terrible accident.......aside from that, I think it's healthy to have a cry and men are learning that it's okay to cry too. For your woman to cry in front of you, most of you men feel very awkward and don't know whether you should hug her or leave her alone to cry.......HUG HER!! Believe me, that's all she wants from you. You're not being a fool if you do, you're showing your compassionate side. x
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RHP User
11 years ago
In the last two years , I split up with my Girlfriend (9 years) , my Mum died and then my Dog died . I cried when I split up , I cried during my speech at my Mum's funeral and I shed a tear when I left the Vet's . I don't have a problem with Men being able to cry , it's better than holding it back . Got no time for Sooks though . Fortunately I have an abundance of Humour within me , so a few Eye Squirters and then I'm done . And hey , a good cry feels sorta like a good Orgasm ! GG♒️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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wingman2014
11 years ago
I just had a problem with a contact lense 💋 Thanks HP and ladies , hugs back - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
that made me cry
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'slippery_halo' While there are some physiological differences between men and women, as far as I know, physically the process of crying is exactly the same. Yes, there might be some different hormonal stuff going on due to menstruation/menopause and so on. That aside, I think the 'difference' between men and women crying is completely socially constructed. One is more acceptable than the other, and therefore one occurs more frequently than the other - or at least when others are around. Meeks, I think you're right, a good cry every now and then can be very therapeutic. There must be some good reason humans do it. Lessons learned in early childhood can carry through and shape us all our lives - and crying is pretty much all babies do! As we get older the reasons for doing it change and it's appropriate much less frequently, but I think it's unrealistic to expect that after the age of ten or so it's never to be done again. (Or only on very rare and exceptional circumstances.) Maybe it's meant to happen more frequently than many of us allow? Maybe the people who have a good, solid weep every now and again are on to something, and have some kind of benefit that others don't? While tearfulness for no or an insignificant reason can be a sign of clinical depression, having a cry now and again doesn't necessarily equal being depressed. The 'rules' doctors use for diagnosing 'major' depression say they need to find four other symptoms at the same time, which occur more often than not over a period of two weeks. So if it's just the occasional cry without loss of interest in previously pleasurable activities, self-loathing, sleep and eating disturbance etc - even the medical profession says it isn't ill. So have it! Was an apprentice cabinet maker, we had a large order of tables for a restaurant in Darling Harbour (all new then) Jordans was the restaurant. Part of my job to that, was spraying shellac on to the timber, was wearing a mask, but feeling ill and a horrible taste in my throat. The Dr explained to me, the fine particles of the shellac were getting into my eyes and passing through the tear ducts into my throat. Had forgotten that till, you posted the above. Food for thought, thanks good post. Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'MisterGreen' I don't have a problem with Men being able to cry , it's better than holding it back . Got no time for Sooks though . Mr GreenAre you sure you understand women? This is quite an insensitive comment. I feel that women who have the ability to cry are sensitive and can show emotion. And to be called sooks is a degrading comment. This tells me that you don't understand women. Are you capable of meeting a womans' needs when she is upset? Remind me not to cry in front of you.Or are you referring to men who cry??????
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you for telling that story. Although sad, it was beautiful to hear. There is nothing worse than getting a phone call telling you that one of your children is sick or injured. I once got a call from a complete stranger saying that my oldest son had been in a bad car accident. This lady told me that he couldn't talk to me as he was about to be put into an ambulance. All she could tell me was that he was alive. I managed to drive myself to the hospital and hold back the tears until I got there, and then I became the hysterical mother. Even after the doctor took me to see him and I saw for myself that he was okay , it still took me about an hour to stop crying. Although I usually feel like absolute shit after crying I do also feel better afterwards. It is definitely cathartic.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I was talking about Men . GG♒️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
There was a situation in 09 where someone hurt me and the ambos had told my wife at the time that it was possible that I wasn't going to live, she rang my dad and told him, he met us at the entrance to the emergency room, seeing my father cry for the second time in my entire life scared me more than the conversation with the paramedics and cop in the back of the ambulance. He told me recently that he occasionally "sees" me in his mind sometimes, on the gurney covered in blood. Before they took me to surgery I remember holding my dads hand and telling him that I was going to be fine. Clearly he didn't have much reason to believe me because he was still crying. We both cried discussing that day.
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madotara69
11 years ago
The Dr said a little more to it. We cry all day, mostly the tears run into our throat through the tear ducts. Crying is a little like sea sickness, not an illness, more of confused thought processes and natural mechanisms built into our beings. Sea sickness is the brain confused to signals from leveling fluids in our ears, balance, up and down etc etc. Without a solid point of reference the fluid signals to the brain become confused and the brain sends an order that something is wrong and needs to be rejected, hence nausea and throwing up all stomach contents, it will continue until no longer confused or dead. Nothing actually wrong. Crying is another mechanism with purpose and the brain functions determine if it is warranted, emotions as in children have not yet become suppressed, cry for attention tears part of it, the brain again uncertain of the eyes job being vision, becomes confused and attempts to flush the obstruction impairing a clear vision of what is wrong. We see things not just through our eyes, so seeing an emotion, can be perceived as sight. We cry because we see things to the emotions within our thought. Think with no emotion, no welling up of the tear glands to wash the eyes. Thats how I remember to asking the Dr why? He seemed excited by it all, so from then was I. He might have been pulling my leg Onions will do it too, he he.
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RHP User
11 years ago
During sex if a guy gets too me and I have that earth shattering big O I cry when I see my girls as the live east and I miss them. I cry when I read my credit card statement...... I luuuuuuv Melbourne shops! Movies And yes Meeka when I am exhausted and alone and want a guy to enfold me in his arms kiss my forehead and stroke my hair. Without then grabbing a hand full off tit! My husband hates it when I cry it pisses him off. He goes ohh bring out the tears that will work. So I go ok and bring out the frying pan!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I can be talking to a particular close friend about something and not even feel like crying, then all of a sudden I start tearing up and crying!!! I could have the same conversation with someone else and not even think about crying!! Sometime it's nice to be so comfortable with someone you can just have a good sob and not even need to explain! But it's harder still when you can't control the tears and there is no one there to hold you or wipe those tears away So Meeka , please hold the tears call me , and I'll be there with the biggest hug x. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
*Shoe on other foot* I remember reading and article years ago (think when I first started working in my role) where it talked about crying actually brings people together, as in bonding. It spoke of how, when someone sees another crying it brings out empathy more and that this trait is healthy and great for the soul. It also spoke also about women and their bonding with babies and responding to their crying. Hearing babies cry made women more empathic to others, that maternal thing. I can't for the life remember who wrote the article, I know it was a female psychologist and was part of my training days. I actually tend to believe that seeing another cry does make one feel empathy. I also believe empathy is a good trait to have, shows compassion. FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'wingman2014'I just had a problem with a contact lense 💋 Quoting 'First_Base'that made me cry I'm sure Wingman fixed his lens issue x
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'wingman2014' I just had a problem with a contact lense 💋 Thanks HP and ladies , hugs back - Posted from rhpmobile That will teach you not to clean them
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RHP User
11 years ago
Since I took it. Lol told ya you looked cute girlfriend and it'd make an awesome profile pic, that dress was beautiful!! Taken with ❤️ ~ She_Shift xx (wink wink nudge nudge)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I had a few "minors" and one "major" while watching "About Time" with "YouKnowWho". It would've been nice if she'd held me, but ... Male or Female, watch "Same Time Next Year". It's probably the first movie about FWB. A really nice movie spanning a 30 year FWB. On the topic of crying, those who have seen "Same Time Next Year" will know the exact moment I'm talking about it. "Michael"
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him_and_me
11 years ago
was a weepy week for me. Feeling swamped, feeling inadequate, feeling disorganised and unprepared and unenthused. It was the sort of week where the chin wobbles and tears were just being contained and all it would have taken was for someone to ask with genuine concern how I was for me to puddle on the floor. As it was, Wednesday afternoon saw me sobbing and snotty in my privacy of my room. I find it helps to let it out like that at times. To give those feelings "space", as a friend put it. They are valid and need to be aired at times in order to be able to sort through them and move on. I don't cry like that often. x Me
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PL1963
11 years ago
Yeah Wingman, that's hard shit, I held my dog when I was 8, after he got hit by a car. He ran 200m to our house. He was a Terrier, for 8yrs he patrolled 400m of street, convincing dogs 3 times his size that they best go home. That's why "Titchy" was so good, a liitle dog with a big heart, I'm crying now, from 42yrs ago. Cheers PL
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RHP User
11 years ago
I once had an ex who seemed to think isolation was the best approach to me crying. All I needed was his arms, but I found myself crying alone every time. I seem to do way too much crying alone, anyone wanna have a cry party with me? A bit like group masturbation, lets all get together in one room and shed some bodily fluid in synchronisation?
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RHP User
11 years ago
CravingTouch, that sounds like a great idea, given that in my 20's, a partner of mine found orgasm quite cathartic, and would cry afterwards [pictures 40 sobbing people at the mosh pit at the couples club] It was a bit like a character from a subtitled sexy French movie and I learnt to take it as the sign of a job well done :-) Animal stories. Always a tear jerker. [hugs all above-been there :-(] Back when I was living in Sydney, I had a incredibly well loved pet who was sick and was trying to nurse back to health. I got a call at work to say the little fella had gone. I remember excusing myself from work and heading home to see him and attend to him. As I left the building, the tears started to fall. And fall. The streets were busy, cars, buses, people, loud noises, hustle and bustle, my face was streaming with rivers of sadness that I didn't want to stop, and amongst the hundreds of people in a busy city, they flowed all the way from my place of work at Central, on public transport, with the offer of a tissue or two along the way, to Circular Quay. Someone dropped an angel in there. I heard someone call my name, and it was a friend from my home town who was a regular at my feral commune style quarters that I lived in, and who loved my pet as well. She offered her shoulder for my tears to fall. I cried all the across the water on the ferry, and when I returned home, greeted my fallen friend with a warm smile, wrapped him up and took him down to my secret place, a small hidden valley that was forested by the water, put his small body into the earth at the base of a tree that I would climb and sit in to contemplate life, love and the universe. I carved his name into the base of the trunk, and sat there with him for the rest of the afternoon to watch the sun go down over the water. ❤️
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RHP User
11 years ago
You had me all dewy eyed just picturing you..... I just want to hug you..... My family always know when I'm at that point and just need a good cry, they see me pull out a tear jerker movie, hubby announces that mummy needs to have a good cry. While I watch the movie, hubby discreetly places the box of tissues beside me, keeps the children occupied and organises everything....... Always feel better afterwards, then at night, when in bed hubby will hold me and ask what brought them on........... Never cried much as a child, always hid it away.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am an emotional pleb and cry all the time. Not usually the sobbing kind, my eyes just well up. Whenever there is ever anything going on with any emotion in it whatsoever I tear up. To the point now if anyone ever says anything emotional around me, or if I'm watching a sad news story, friends/family/neighbours/family/my kids all look straight at me, and yep, There's tears. So this thread did me no favours.
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wingman2014
11 years ago
Anout that contact lense issue.... It didn't help with you and Indi holding me in a squirrel grip - Posted from rhpmobile
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gazpacho
11 years ago
Quoting 'CravingTouch' A bit like group masturbation, lets all get together in one room and shed some bodily fluid in synchronisation? Is that an open invitation cause it's my kind of scene... No seriously... I'm in love with you again! :) HUgsGazpacho
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'CravingTouch' I once had an ex who seemed to think isolation was the best approach to me crying. All I needed was his arms, but I found myself crying alone every time. I seem to do way too much crying alone, anyone wanna have a cry party with me? A bit like group masturbation, lets all get together in one room and shed some bodily fluid in synchronisation? *puts hand up* I'm in...
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madotara69
11 years ago
CravingTouch, sounds like you're talking about flooding the joint. he he Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Gaz, as if you stopped. And of course it's open. LD, long distance skype cry party! Mado, who needs to squirt, eh?
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madotara69
11 years ago
Wonder if good criers make for good squirter's, I see a link, but I see lots of things.
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RHP User
11 years ago
That was Thelonious, my free range talking budgie. He was always free whenever I was in the house and would follow me around, chatting in my ear. He would also rock out with me when listening to heavy metal. Fuck, that kid had some dance moves! Like his owner, he had quite an extensive vocabulary. He did have a cage, and he would put himself to bed in it, more of a roost than a cage. He'd mutter quietly to himself in the mornings when the sun was rising, but wait until he saw I was awake before flying down to my pillow and repeatedly greeting me by name. He was the man. Then there was Herb, my short haired Guinea Pig. He was a little less expressive than Thelonious, but lovable all the same. He got sick and started losing lots of weight. The vet wasn't able to help. A week later, he was having trouble shitting and was in pain. I sat with him for 6 hours doing Reiki on him before becoming exhausted and having to go to sleep. I told him "mate, I'm sorry, but I have to sleep. Don't die before I wake my friend. I want to be with you when you pass". I made him a cosy box and put it beside my bed. During the night, I awoke to his calls, and picked him up and talked to him. He relaxed, then died in my hands, little trooper. I have a bad joke about girls crying, just gotta remember....
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RHP User
11 years ago
So, a man does a good deed that gets God's attention. God rocks up one night and says "My man, for that I'll grant you one wish! Ask me for anything you want". The man thinks long and hard. A light goes on in his mind. "God, I would like you to build me a highway that goes all the way from my front door to my favourite golf course in New Zealand". God says "Hang on a second. Do you know how much that would cost??? What about saving the whales from extinction, or world peace or something?" The man is embarrassed, then totally remorseful, realizing how selfish and greedy he had been. His head was bowed. He said "God, could you tell me why my wife is never happy? Why nothing pleases her, and why she cries at the slightest thing?" God sighed deeply. There was a long pause, then he said "Um..... would you like that highway in 6 lanes, or 8?"
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On_Safari
11 years ago
I love you, lol x
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting Han Solo to Princess Leia: "I know" ;-)
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madotara69
11 years ago
We were kids, granddad lived with us, and had a pet peach face parrot, Rasputin it's name. My brother and I were playing with Raspo and had his door to the cage open, well he got out and his wings had not been clipped for some time so he could get quite a good flight, so off he went. we chased him around for a while, not having a chance in hell of him giving up, so we came up with a plan. It was to muster Raspo to the bathroom, being the smallest room and had a sliding door, I started heading him to the bathroom, my brother ready at the sliding door. As raspo was flying and the door was sliding, "kadionk", there was half a body of a bird caught in the almost closed door. Don't cry, he was OK, got him back into his cage and he only had a couple of black eyes for a short while. Got away with only granddad a little concerned at Raspos health for that short time. he he. We all cried when we lost our long time companion, Ridonicus the family member and Magpie, a real character he was, understood English he did. Mado Mado Tara xx
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wingman2014
11 years ago
👍 bro - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Kentavious' Usually I read all other responses before I write a reply to a forum post, but not on this occasion.I hate, really hate, seeing either male or female cry. Maybe its because at my age I know when I see other people in tears there is usually a good reason for it. For me, when im upset, words mean little to me as the issue is mine alone, and I've found that just someone being there to support me, usually in the form of a hug, is the best medicine. Words, as heartfelt as they may be, just don't cut it. So bearing this in mind, if I see a person in tears I tend to just give a heartfelt hug, and let the tears flow as I do so. I find people let go of themselves in a comforting embrace, which can be the best tonic. Just to let you know I am about to cry..sniff sniff
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
I actually shed one wee little tear last night, then I rolled over shut my eyes and went to sleep. Foxy *two nights in and missing daughter* :(
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RHP User
11 years ago
Drunk crying into your Lambrusco.... mmm...sexy.
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RHP User
11 years ago
But I have watched many mums and dads cry over their sick newborns. I even watched a consultant cry with helplessness as we watched a newborn die of infection which we could not halt. It can be very hard to hold back tears in that situation, and I feel it never hurts for others to see that even hard old nurses like me can be moved to tears at times.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It is entirely natural to cry, both for men and women. My understanding is that it is the human bodies natural way of shedding excess hormone. Some cry, others go to the gym and many guys have a wank. All of these bodily secretions help us shed the excess to restore balance. I guess if us guys wanked less often we would cry more often too. A woman crying is completely understandable, speaking for myself it is only difficult because there is not always a discernible reason or course of action for us guys to take to make her feel better. I guess its just frustrating for us guys as there is nothing we can sometimes do to fix the problem we just need to realise that nothing may need fixing and give you a hug or simply hold your hand in silence.
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