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hey how are you?
February 04 2012
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playfulminx
13 years ago
I know what you mean. I don't have a whole lot of time to reply to all the messages I get so getting one that says "Hi." (That's it...) or "How are you?" is super annoying. I'd rather have a cut and paste spiel about what's on offer so I can say yes or no. I don't have time to engage in a 10 messages exchange to work out if he's actually after what I'm into. Sigh...How do I answer? If I'm in a good mood, I'll reply "Good thanks." (That's it...). I probably won't bother answering further messages though, particularly if his profile suggests we're not a match. Hey. He got a reply!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have had a few weak/tired moments where i've sent off a rather short message, similar to those above.....Stupidly enough, I've had a lot more replies from shorter, cheeky messages than anything more detailed....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hey Sar. It's a bit like saying "kick it to me!" you know... I'm out on the wing, unmarked, open space in front .... we're all on the same team here. I know it's not "imaginative" to approach with the one line "how are you?", but it is a very typical introduction in our culture... it's not like you actually need to answer ... but you can respond in kind with "good" if you like what you see. Hehe. I can just imagine the developing conversation... the next question being... " what you doing?" .... Your response ... "nothin'. You?" .... "not much. You wanna root or a movie?"... "can't I have both Bazza?" .... "I love youse, Sharon. You make me feel special". It's a marriage made in heaven! Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
13 years ago
if they can't take time to read my profile and give me more than a template/lame opening line, they get my template "thanks but no thanks" reply :) I generally won't give any other reply unless their first message shows me that they have actually read, understood my profile and agreed with what I am here for.so many dumbasses...so little time :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Miss Sarah, if you were ever to message me, "Hey, how are you?" I promise to respond to you, "Horny, come right over!" Okay?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Miss Sarah, if you were ever to message me, "Hey, how are you?" I promise to respond to you, "Horny, come right over!" Okay?
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RHP User
13 years ago
At least it's polite. I don't have a particular issue with that type of opening message. It's better than "let's fuck, I'm free now, here's my number" or some copy and paste job. If they are not my type, then a simple "thanks for your message, but I'm not interested" is what they get, but if the profile sounds good then I don't mind starting a conversation with the basics.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Who cares? It was a male... OBVIOUSLY... he knows one thing... 1) no matter WHAT he says as a furst statement.. he has as much luck with that one for ANY reply as he does with any OTHER statement :) caveman x
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MissSarahCurious
13 years ago
Quoting 'jamesnp' I have had a few weak/tired moments where i've sent off a rather short message, similar to those above.....Stupidly enough, I've had a lot more replies from shorter, cheeky messages than anything more detailed.... Cheeky is something. Hey how are you is .... well it's a nothing message. I'm almost guaranteed to reply to cheeky, witty, quirky.
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MissSarahCurious
13 years ago
Quoting '1moretime' Is'nt "How are you" basic manners used daily.. ? It's just as tedious as " have a nice day" even though we know no one really gives a fuck, but isnt it better than " Here I am wanna fuck" ? OK some girls might like that, but all niceities begin to wear thin because of frequent use... After a lifetime of being taught and teaching our children basic manners.. How are you' is still the start to most conversations...Dont think its anything to make a fuss about ? but if you really think about it, IS it mannerly? To begin asking questions of someone without introducing yourself at all?It might be common but that doesn't mean it makes sense, ya know? And no, it's not anything to make a fuss about. I certainly didn't intend this thread to be seen as me making a fuss, I'm just genuinely a naturally curious individual. But that's kind of the thing, isn't it? Its so not worth making a fuss about that to most of us it's not even worth the bother of answering, so why do guys bother sending it in the first place? What's the purpose of sending a message that you haven't put any thought into? Is it just an exercise in futility so you can complain later that we're all bitches who never answer or that you're all too beat down by the high competition rate here that it's all the effort you can muster and we should be grateful that you did? I'm not taking a shot here, I'm honestly asking. I hate being left wondering about things...
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RHP User
13 years ago
<---will have to take a good bloody hard look at how he responds and revamp the opening sentences of his replies :(
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RHP User
13 years ago
The reason I'm on here a lot is because I can't sleep much, I can't switch off. There is always something going on, a problem to be solved, life, universe and the existential existence provide way too many questions and too few answers...I'm just wired strangely...
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playfulminx
13 years ago
Yes, I'd probably rather a 'how r u' than a explicit and uncouth message but really, as Sarah said, it's got nothing to do with being polite.In their defence, I think they may be used to chatting instantly and use messages like a chat session. The only problem is that I don't want to play one sentence tag which can quite frankly last for weeks before you work out that you're not suited to each other.
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RHP User
13 years ago
... all the numbers on my MasterCard and the three digit security code on the back saying "Hey babe..ya wanna". | I've yet to get lucky but I sure as hell have been fucked...I gave up on that.
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littlenaughty1
13 years ago
i agree with alex2go, and yep cheeky, witty, quirky and lets not forget sexy....not sleazy , cause there is a difference!! will definately get a reply from me no matter what their profile says..... cause i will deal with that later, the good or the bad ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Wrong with your wiring James , it works fine I've sent short messages before, but mostly it's to say "Don't be scared" lol
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RHP User
13 years ago
im right there with you............ all this polite chatting one liners back and forth are getting soo boring............ conversations are great if you know that you are actually going to get some fun fun at least somewhere in the near future lol i have enough polite conversations already i just want Sex and lots of it !!!!!!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm pretty sure I short circuit a lot...might have something to do with the dodgy resistors....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'jdex72'<---will have to take a good bloody hard look at how he responds and revamp the opening sentences of his replies :( Something tells me J ....your one of the few that doesn't have to worry about it honey!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
It may be a Rhetorical question, not rude but not imaginative, common but not invasive. A little hard to judge someone by that short line - I would have thought?
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have found that sometimes a simple 1 liner generates a better response than a well crafted message. If I spend 10 minutes writing a personalised message to a profile I have spotted and get no reply, compared to a 1 liner that takes 20 seconds to do and is almost as likely to get a response which do you go for? The shotgun scatter effect quite often gets better results. I guess as a victim in this internet age we need to cover the widest audience which hopefully will look at my profile before skipping to the next message in their Inbox.
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MissSarahCurious
13 years ago
Quoting '1moretime' Am I missing the point here ? Do you mean guys are sending you a message with ' How are you" only ?If thats the case I can somewhat understand. But if they message the " how are you " then continue on to describe them self in detail.. I still dont see a problem ..Is it because you get so many messages saying the same thing, you become bored then become negative towards them. Im guessing here, I'm only asking ? It's just that one line, nothing more
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RHP User
13 years ago
And admires Chilli's bar.......if we all had ours set at the same height, things have the potential to be mind-blowingly sexy, erotic, intriguing, and anyway else you'd like to imagine. . Boys.....you have 5 seconds to rub our cerebral g-spot, make yours count
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RHP User
13 years ago
the minute the majority of good women folk out there start coming up with profiles that dont begin and end with the generic line of"i want to have fun" what?? as opposed to i hate my life and want to spend every morose moment in a corner, in the foetal position, sucking on my thumb, yelling out for mamma?then, just maybe, then, men might be inspired enough to answer in kind, and absolutely wordsmith the pants off of the women on this site.mind you dgt, id like to think i have rubbed your cerebral g-spot on the odd occasion. besos xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Is that a subtle way of telling me I need to visit Perth and bring dgt with me? That way, she can do all the tricky bits, I'll waffle on and distract you with a whole bunch of inappropriately long words, and wham bam, cerebral and pussy orgasm all in one :-P
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RHP User
13 years ago
....I would suggest I'd do it myself but I'm not quite that talented :-P
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RHP User
13 years ago
...I've heard that can happen and you can be driven to multiple orgasms without even being touched by him or even touching yourself? | Quoting 'ChasingChilli'if he rubs my cerebral g-spot AND gives me absolutely mind blowing screaming multiple orgasms I'll admit it, I'm hopelessly addicted.... | Sounds very primal...I just hope you don't scare the poor dumb-ass out cleaning the pool and I do have a question for you....stop laughing, I already asked you that one privately and would never embarrass you publicly. | Seriously...do you feed potato chips to your goldfish? | | Recovery is for quitters...multiple orgasms are for those that enjoy the addiction.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' ... all the numbers on my MasterCard and the three digit security code on the back saying "Hey babe..ya wanna". | I've yet to get lucky but I sure as hell have been fucked...I gave up on that.
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RHP User
13 years ago
and as per usual Ms Chilli, you nailed it in one post......thankyou
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RHP User
13 years ago
No problems here, I do not care if its a one liner. Being dyslexic I know that its not what you write nor how you spell that determines who you are. I am not a spelling or gramma Nazi, I had all that crap when I was put at the back of the class at school. Humiliation 10I being called a dumb arse. I had a very poor education and it was not till I reached my late twenties that I plucked up the guts to go to university. I had to work at three jobs to pay my way, most of them cleaning up others crap or in kitchens. People looked at my tits and blond hair and make assumptions. I was to embarrassed to fill out forms in front of people and would slink home with job applications. I am in love with spell checker. Sorry ladies but I am not that fussy, my bar is like my knickers down around my ankles Some of the sexiest men I met, especially when I worked on a cattle station could hardly write their names Actions speak louder than words God knows how many times I have meet the slick writer, the slick talker to find out he is really just to slick for his own good, looks good behind a desk but not in my bed. I do agree a profile needs some meat in it, and some guys really do not know how to sell themselves with typing. How many times have you read some guys stuff and thought oh god I want him bad, only to meet up with a guy with a comb over, who is full of hot air and self importance. I like a simple man, just call me honey and brush the hair from my face and kiss me with passion. It does not mean your a lesser person if you do not fill in all the blanks on RHP. I don’t give a rats arse if you cant quote Shakespearian sonnets, have read Chaucer or know what a paradox is.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Gotta love a simple man with a simple plan...
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RHP User
13 years ago
It's not how they say it Tuscan....it's WHAT they say, I don't care if he misspells his own name, but his words HAVE to get me I've had some fantastic mail lately, yes yes in amongst the usual shit, but these good ones have left me with, "OMG there are some great guys on here" . A how are you , or how was your weekend shits me to tears though......is that the effort they are going to give our hot sexual romp? christ I hope not
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RHP User
13 years ago
Simple and effective - a cheeky message -, not for everyone - and that's the key, I'm not after just anyone - similar personalities will get the message, my message *wink* It takes time and effort, and it's fun too! Challenging when I get a reply: make me interested in u, the response reflects who I am, and it will b cheeky & sexy -not lame or uncreative - td&h
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RHP User
13 years ago
No, really, I do. It opens the window of opportunity to rant and vent and tell someone EXACTLY how I am. "Moving interstate in 3 days, like it says on my profile, if you'd bothered to read it, now unemployed and about to be homeless for good measure, fanfuckingtastic, obviously" was a template reply I was very tempted to set up :P Sorry but "not looking right now due to BUSY" isn't that hard to get, right???? It's the obvious "haven't read your profile, don't give a shit what you are like, you have a cunt and I have a cock and I really really want to shove my bits in your bits" approach that shits me. I fuck people, not genitals ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'jamesnp'I have had a few weak/tired moments where i've sent off a rather short message, similar to those above..... Stupidly enough, I've had a lot more replies from shorter, cheeky messages than anything more detailed.... OMG!!!!!! WOW!! You could send me ANY message you liked & I would reply... cos you are a very, very sexy looking guy mmmmmm.... Sorry, but just had to tell you. Hope you don't mind..LOL.. Such a damn shame you are so far away... If you ever get to WA.... heeeeheeeee xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting: Tuscanred: 'Some of the sexiest men I met, especially when I worked on a cattle station could hardly write their names Actions speak louder than words' Succint & to the point......well said. If you are not looking for a relationship with a guy, then why is the conversational part so damned important???? Met some 'nice' guys, who can make great conversation, but are below average when it comes to the physical..... Now give me a guy who is cheeky, has a great SOH & is good in the sack & we have a winning combination. So, asking me how I am & then maybe a quick cheeky one-liner, is enough to get me interested. It's tough enough out there, without us girls being oh so precious about ourselves. Many women need to stop playing mind games etc, know what they want, stick to the plan & we will all be so much better off!! OH DEAR, I'll move on.....can feel myself rising to the soapbox....heehee.. XX
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting: Tuscanred: 'Some of the sexiest men I met, especially when I worked on a cattle station could hardly write their names Actions speak louder than words' Succint & to the point......well said. If you are not looking for a relationship with a guy, then why is the conversational part so damned important???? Met some 'nice' guys, who can make great conversation, but are below average when it comes to the physical..... Now give me a guy who is cheeky, has a great SOH & is good in the sack & we have a winning combination. So, asking me how I am & then maybe a quick cheeky one-liner, is enough to get me interested. It's tough enough out there, without us girls being oh so precious about ourselves. Many women need to stop playing mind games etc, know what they want, stick to the plan & we will all be so much better off!! OH DEAR, I'll move on.....can feel myself rising to the soapbox....heehee.. XX
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RHP User
13 years ago
*runs off to send Bratzilla a 'how ya doin' message just to watch her blow her stack . Now Boombag, you know I wasn't talking about you I'm talking about inital messages. They have the same effect on my cerebral clit as a bullet with no batteries, just this......................................... zero lol
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hang on a sec and I'll charge my phone and call you and you can listen to how I'm doin ;P
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RHP User
13 years ago
I agree with Sarah. What is worse though is that when you take the time to send an individual message based on stuff mentioned in their profile and you get no response at all. Just a polite no thanks would be nice from time to time. Common courtesy I would have thought? Dave
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'll set it on vibrate
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well I would like to know if any women have had a fantasy to be seduced by their Gyno ?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Ill be done well before you. I can sit back and listen :P
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RHP User
13 years ago
"Now give me a guy who is cheeky, has a great SOH & is good in the sack & we have a winning combination. So, asking me how I am & then maybe a quick cheeky one-liner, is enough to get me interested. It's tough enough out there, without us girls being oh so precious about ourselves. Many women need to stop playing mind games etc, know what they want, stick to the plan & we will all be so much better off!! OH DEAR, I'll move on.....can feel myself rising to the soapbox....heehee.."In our general defense, it's the 4 word messages that we are currenty discussing, no cheeky one-liner in sight ;) If a guy could get me interested in one sentence, I'd probably be so damned impressed that I'd send back my hotel room no.I know exactly what I want :) I want intelligence. That is what I find sexy :) no mind games involved, honest! Nowhere in my profile does it say "huge cock attached to hot body no brain necessary plz msg". I mean, if it did, then fair enough. But it doesn't :P
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RHP User
13 years ago
Take time Miss Bratz . Ummmm my gyno? not while I'm on the table with the speculum no......but on the weekend, well shit!!! at least he'd know what he was looking for....AND how to spell it
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MissSarahCurious
13 years ago
but I'll take a look for ya...old jokes never die if you're the one telling them, they just don't get you laid
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RHP User
13 years ago
i really do ask how people have been over their day or weekend and i guess people on here aren't very polite.That is alright but do they really want "wanna fuck?"no i didn't think so.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Cerebral Orgasm! Is that like a 'Mind/Head-Fuck'?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi bratz, How are you?I am a cheeky, sexy guy with a great sense of humour and you would have to ask Bratz about what I am like in the sack. I might have a bias opinion of myself.Any how, hope everyone had a great and safe festive season.Brad
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hiya Bratz,How are you going, hope work has finally eased off for you enough to live a little.I am a cheeky and sexy guy with a great sense of humour, as for in the sack, ask Bratz as I might have a slightly bias opinion of myself ... heheheheAnyhow, hope everyone had a great and safe festive season.Brad
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi how are you?hahahaha,just kidding,had to say that,was just reading the comments and thought id be a little cheeky with all this how are you business.tehehe,
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RHP User
13 years ago
Brad, you bugger, I'm sooooooo tempted to stop packing in favour of "a quickie" :P You know full well that you are one sexy manbeast ;) but no, free time is not my strong point, as well you are aware. 2 days and way too much to do is a boring Bratzilla indeed. On the upside, I'm officially unemployed for the first time in YEARS!!!! :D on the downside, I don't have time to appreciate the fact! Make sure you shag some poor, unsuspecting lass senseless in my honour ;) I'll let you know when I'm back for a visit... Oh, and DGT... I'm sure you're good, but I'm impatient. Pants off, bitch. Now.
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RHP User
13 years ago
In our general defense, it's the 4 word messages that we are currenty discussing, no cheeky one-liner in sight ;) If a guy could get me interested in one sentence, I'd probably be so damned impressed that I'd send back my hotel room no. Yep, you got me.....that's a very fair point. The worst one-liner I have had was 'wanna fuck'!! I know I won't be the only one who has received this fabulous, intelligent & unique chat-up line...... Needless to say, it gets a big DELETE... from me.. as I'm sure all the other ladies out there will attest. But....for you Bratzilla.....I need a cheeky one-liner that will gain your interest, as I am curious about you.......heehee... S xx
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MissSarahCurious
13 years ago
First message of the day was a local couple I haven't seen on the forums saying. "Hi. How are you?"and I honestly don't know if they're lurkers just taking the piss. LOLxx Sarah
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RHP User
13 years ago
...if you are trying to jump the border here. We're pretty strict on folks from WA moving here...kind of like trying to sneak fruit into Queensland. | Quoting 'Bratzilla'Oh, and DGT... I'm sure you're good, but I'm impatient. Pants off, bitch. Now. | I happen to be the one that issues your VISA....and that one, she's in charge of Immigration and Naturalization. | You'll probably end up in quarantine for a week or so....I'm sure you'll get used to calling her Mistress Bitch and if you survive that, getting stamped is going to be a whole lotta fun. Well, I'll enjoy it and she can take pictures (just not with that farkin' iPhone) and you may even eventually learn to enjoy it too...so see you at the border and god help you if you come in on the plane. The compulsory "body cavity search"...we call in the whole team for that one. | Travel safely.
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RHP User
13 years ago
...Sarah, like when I'm just standing there minding my own damn business trying to pee and some half-assed "bloke" steps up next to me, whips it out and says "How ya goin' all right". | Quoting 'MissSarahCurious' ...and I honestly don't know if they're lurkers just taking the piss. | My point exactly...so I just kind of point to the yellow river and say "I'm fine. thanks" then belt him in the chops if he grins. Think I'll start using the Ladies Room...might help me get through my court ordered Anger Management Program without flunking out yet again. |
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RHP User
13 years ago
Your dam lucky you get that..... How are you.... Now that would be a nice way to start..... As a bisexual male all I get from a lot of guys is: I love to fuck you OR Would you fuck me.... 9 out of 10 guys dont have a pic up so how the hell would I know if he even looks nice and yes everyone does go on looks too...... Sorry I like to meet people first to see if I'm going to like them or they like me..... Yes I would like to see guys put together more than 4 words.......
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RHP User
13 years ago
If someone sends you an instant message and you don't respond, then it will go to your inbox. So that's maybe why you're getting simple one lined messages? I just tried to send you an instant message then without realising that it will send you an invite to chat, to which you can accept or reject, I sent a message anyway thinking that's how it worked. So that message will now go to your inbox.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I know I'm demanding and fussy, but really, it's not too much to ask for a message that makes me smile (as opposed to throwing up in my mouth a little), is it? It can be done. It has been done ;)
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MissSarahCurious
13 years ago
Nope, it doesn't do that.You have to accept a chat for anything to come thru. If I ignore, miss or decline a chat, nothing happens, it doesn't go to my inbox at all.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Let's try one sentence, 5 words...... . "What is your Safe Word"?
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RHP User
13 years ago
See you at the closest motel half hour later ;) room 69
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RHP User
13 years ago
see. . . Why do they think it's so hard?
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RHP User
13 years ago
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RHP User
13 years ago
ChasingMidnight....I have to say, you always have the most gorgeous photos..... I really love this particular one... No it's not a one-liner chat-up line, honest... Lubes x
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RHP User
13 years ago
Come over and see my etchings
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MissSarahCurious
13 years ago
"Fuck that stings" is not a safeword ;)xx Sarah
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RHP User
13 years ago
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RHP User
13 years ago
tuscanred I would love to see your etchings As long as you use my face as a soft cushion and sit on it... "lol"
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RHP User
13 years ago
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RHP User
13 years ago
Fuck that stings" is not a safe word ;) That cracked me up as I laughed so hard, thinking of a friend that went to the USA to a bdsm thing. Thought it would be good to try a cane on her bottom. When the guy did the first cut to her peaches and cream bum it hurt so much she forgot the safe word She went through the dictionary trying to remember was it ruplestiltskin? Half dozen welts latter one guy realised she was yelling stop for real, she sent me the pics of her very red stripped bottom. Oh look a face cushion , settles down to a nice warm seat and goes ahhhhh that feels sooooo good. that must be my gtbi-mm special cushion.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Every word I type amounts to nothing for they are just 2 dimensional letters arranged on a screen and lacking emphasis. Words can only convey there true meaning when they are spoken and heard. Come fuck me... Come fuck me.... Come fuck me.... Come fuck me.... Come fuck me.... If you heard my voice and how the same 3 words were said ......you may well have said "yes yes yes"........ Actually if you heard my voice you would never forget it.....it's a hell of a lot sexier than letters on a screen.
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RHP User
13 years ago
As a woman, I feel quite justified and have the right to say this: I seriously think that I am the ONLY female, on this site, who is NOT oh so precious!!!! Come on girls. is it any wonder guys have given up with the long chat-up speil? We really don't need to be this complicated. IT's A SEX SITE>>>>>>>NOT A ROMANCE SITE. Get over yourselves and move on. Case in point: If I send a message or a flirt, I really won't be offended if a reply comes back in the negative. But, at least have the common courtesy and good manners to reply. You're not that special, that you can be rude.....you know who you are A good case in point is the fact that I joined RHP with a view to having some girly fun. That was back in May last year. Well have a guess how many girls/women have actually bothered to go through with the meet up......A big fat 0. Oh yes there are lots of messages exchanged & flirts etc, but when it come to the setting of a date....it all suddenly dries up (so to speak). Now call me a freak of nature, but I say it like it is. If I like a profile/fancy the person/say I will meet you, then I will. So to all those women out there, who seem to have such a high opinion of themselves.....have some common courtesy and don't lead anyone on...be that a guy or another woman. 2 words spring to mind 'Integrity & Honesty'. If you don't like a message, don't fancy someone, it is still ok to let them down gently, rather than not at all. Guys.... I feel your frustration at the way us women mess you around. Lubes xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes insatiablex2 people need to lighten up not only you girls but the guys too.... I always say if someone send you a message this means someone is wanting your body or like what you have on offer... Its not the message you get thats is annoying, its when they dont turn up to meet thats the let down...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes a lame intro I have been know to answer "how are you" with half left and half right
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well, I may be a lump of coal, but I'm sure I'll eventually turn into a diamond :P I just don't see it as "precious" to have standards for what I'll let enter my cunt. I like intelligence. It turns me on. If you do not show me what turns me on, why on earth would I want to email you? Let alone give you my number? Let alone meet you? If I organise a meet, I show. Full stop. End of story. If I message someone and don't get a reply, I assume "not interested". Big deal. It's just sex. Send another message. To someone else, to clarify. (in interesting side notes, this assumption led to me missing an opportunity with a very hot guy... ce la vie). I see alot of people getting very worked up over what amounts to the cyber equivalent of walking up to a chick at a bar, buying her an unsolicited drink, and getting confused face as she walks off because you just aren't her type. Why the drama? Just because she's in a bar doesn't mean she's going to fuck every guy that buys her a drink or talk to every guy that gives her the "bet YOU aren't wearing underwear" comeon look. Maybe she's there to meet that one guy that gets her panties set via her brain and give him the experience of a lifetime...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Wet!!!! Fuck you once again, autocorrect...
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RHP User
13 years ago
@shyboy! Loving the new pics there mate. Mighty fine.HUgsStalky
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RHP User
13 years ago
Heyya - how are you all hehe??Actually I never start with that, but I pretty much always start with something special I liked about the person's profile I'm replying to (which is why I'm replying...). And only then do I say something about myself..Manners are partly a ritualised way of thinking about, addressing and acting thinking about the other person before yourself... It's true that words like "how are you?" have lost their meaning, but the essence of being other person focused, rather than self-focused I think is kinda nice...Hope you all have a good day (would never end with that either..)Joy & juice to one n all xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Now I have to swallow crow about guys from over east contacting. Girlfriends home from pub last night, onto rhp and there you are. No body had a good sleep that night I can tell ya. I think I heard one of them moaning from the spare room give it to me shyboy! Very nice pictures , I could work with that at the Studio and do more artistic shots with Artistic Wench , they turned out pretty darn good I think. I need to take some lessons on photography to get up to speed, learn more tricks like how to unzip a man’s fly with my teeth. Well I have to hold the camera in my hands!
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MissSarahCurious
13 years ago
"As a woman, I feel quite justified and have the right to say this:"As a member of the forum you have every right to join in with any discussion, but if you're going to make a hypocritical rant about how people should be nice and aren't entitled to have their rant, can you at least make it funny? :P "I seriously think that I am the ONLY female, on this site, who is NOT oh so precious!!!! Come on girls. is it any wonder guys have given up with the long chat-up speil? We really don't need to be this complicated. IT's A SEX SITE>>>>>>>NOT A ROMANCE SITE. Get over yourselves and move on."Or at least well informed. I'm the last person you'll find looking for romance but that doesn't make me obliged to fuck people people who lack intelligence or charm. Guys who start out with "hey how are you" and nothing else are going to take longer for anyone to get to the nuts and bolts of whether they're worth getting naked with than a guy with real brains and confidence. "guess how many girls/women have actually bothered to go through with the meet up......A big fat 0. Oh yes there are lots of messages exchanged & flirts etc, but when it come to the setting of a date....it all suddenly dries up (so to speak). Now call me a freak of nature, but I say it like it is. If I like a profile/fancy the person/say I will meet you, then I will. So to all those women out there, who seem to have such a high opinion of themselves.....have some common courtesy and don't lead anyone on...be that a guy or another woman."Regardless of the loftiness or lowliness of anyone's opinion of themselves, they don't owe you a fuck just because they exchanged messages and engaged in 'get to know you' conversation with you. Don't confuse wanting to make an informed decision whether or not to fuck you with someone 'leading you on' "2 words spring to mind 'Integrity & Honesty'. If you don't like a message, don't fancy someone, it is still ok to let them down gently, rather than not at all."It's also OK to laugh at stupid when you think it's funny. That's honest too if it's how you feel. In most cases the 'nice' or 'gentle' answer isn't the most honest at all. xx Sarah
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RHP User
13 years ago
@ MissSarahCuriousAs you so rightly point out. There is a difference between being lazy and Bertolt Brecht..I love it when i read a profile and someone has put some thought in to what they've posted. The same goes for messages. Lets not let conversation become a lost art.
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RHP User
13 years ago
MissSarahCutious Thank you for that, I consider mysef well and truly put in my place......what was I saying about girls being oh so precious... We all have opinions (like arseholes) & I said it as I believe it is. Maybe it is a generational thing, but I was brought up to be well-mannered and show common courtesy.....call me old fashioned, but it has certainly served me well in life. No, I agree, they don't OWE me a fuck, just because I have contacted them, but I can take rejection. So, just say 'no thanks'. how hard is that....really, come on... Lubes
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi Miss Sarah Curious firstly hows it going? You are on a sex site what exactly did you expect? I have read your profile there is not alot to it other then you like good times, good people and want play mates. From what we have to go on should a guy send you something sleezy or would you rather a passage form the note book? Ladies on this site seem to complain they don't have enough time to read and respond to all the messages they recieve but now you say you want a wall of text telling you how wonderful you are or you will just ignore the message all together. If a guy sends you a short polite message it may just mean that he has read your profile and is interested. Interested in what who knows but that might just be a reflection of your profile. At such time you could click on his profile and have a read if you find he has some quality you desire or has an excellent cock shot as his profile pic then you may choose to send him a polite message back like "im fine and you?" at this point the man could initiate a more indepth conversation as now he knows you will be listening. Instead of writing his life story just to not recieve a reply wasting both parties time. Alternatively "thanks but no thanks" would be fine.
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RHP User
13 years ago
OK.. for those who were watching. It's not Bertolt Brecht who said.."this letter is long because i lack the time to make it short" or something like that anyway..It was Blaise Pascal.Sorry for being a twat on one of my first posts here
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MissSarahCurious
13 years ago
"Maybe it is a generational thing, but I was brought up to be well-mannered and show common courtesy.....call me old fashioned, but it has certainly served me well in life."How is it a generational thing? Surely even in the pre-internet days you didn't just bump into a stranger on the street and start questioning them before introducing yourself? And where in my stock response to their dumbass question to I fail to show them common courtesy? Where do I drag out communications and fail to meet? Where do I NOT tell people "thanks but no thanks"?If it's precious to actually THINK about messages, words and meanings objectively I'd happily take on that title, but I think it's your own disappointing experiences that are making you trot out these labels and try to paint them on every woman here. This thread was about the one-liner, non-introductory first messages and you used it as a launching pad to vent your frustrations about people who don't follow through with meeting and try to insult women who are selective/hard to get. (or one particular woman, someone other than me, if I'm reading that right..)By all means, trot out your bitter assh...opinion but do be prepared to have it read and answered constructively. Somebody86Dear god no, save me from the wall-o-text messages! My point, if you were to read and understand my previous posts you would have gotten this already but obviously not so I'll point out the important bits, is "hey how are you" as the SOLE CONTENT of a FIRST MESSAGE is NOT an EFFECTIVE INTRODUCTION. I'm not talking about OTHER short polite messages, just that one.Short and polite is absolutely fine, short polite and interesting is better, but as proven by the women who've answered here, "hey how are you" is definitely short, dubious in politeness, and not at all interesting.If the idea BEHIND it is to say "Hi, I'm ___. check out my profile and let me know if you're interested", why not say so rather than play at a faux-consideration when your inquiry into someone's state of being today doesn't really have any bearing on what you're after?Sure, it would make it easy if the recipient were to respond as you suggested but the question I asked about how many women actually DO that has been answered. So if you know it's not going to work, rather than trying to tell women how they SHOULD answer, my advice to you is to take the initiative and change the thing you can control, your opening message.xx Sarah
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well Sarach Curious in truth judging from the strength of your first post I didn't bother reading your others ;) My previous post was simply from the perspective of "the male", you know perspective the thing you lack? Also just because my opinion is counter to yours does that mean that I am automatically the ignorant one? because there is no way you could be wrong is there? I mean c'mon its you after all right?
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RHP User
13 years ago
I love to see a man bend over ......and get a foot right up the arse . somebody86... sometimes the pigtail pulling to get a reaction works and sometimes it doesn't.......making Sarah want to bang her head into a brick wall at your audacity to comment and then admit to not reading her ensuing posts doesn't exactly look like a 'win' from these seats Lol Better luck next round hey?
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MissSarahCurious
13 years ago
You wanted to argue a point without actually reading any of what I had to say and despite the consideration I gave before posting and the helpful advice I offered you and other men who may be frustrated by the lack of response to the 'hey how are you?' message. This is what makes you the ignorant one.Congratulations, you win 6 internets. Use them wisely.xx Sarah
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'D_G_T' Wrong with your wiring James , it works fine I've sent short messages before, but mostly it's to say "Don't be scared" lol I reckon Short messages work quite well from time to time, as through experience in the face to face dating scene and online dating scene, the moment you seem interested in the person and wanting to get to know them.....you are pushed off to the side with the 100 other wussies that tried the same thing. The short message works if you can read the body language of a persons profile and find out what exactly they are trying to say. Some have really short and simple ones that say "Come and get me," however they tend to give off different ideas. Then you get the long winded ones that talk about expectations, their ideal soulmates etc blah blah blah and they tend to be the most impossible people to contact regardless of the method used. My short messages involve a quote from their profile and a cheeky remark, with an invitation to expand........I have tried the "hi how are you?", "how was your weekend?" etc and they almost never get replies, in fact the only people who do reply do out of courtesy and five messages later nothing happens. The short cheeky messages can go on forever and usually have a higher chance for a meet up than anything else I have tried
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well to be honest I actually don't mind these messages as it's not as dirty and straight to the point as some ppl are it kind of shows me that they are more genuine people and would like to converse a bit first?
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RHP User
13 years ago
yep, you got it in one, the main point of this thread is that the very basic (and not one jot of thought put into it) "Hey how are you" can be so easily modified into a quick ,cheeky, but pertinent to the profile type message with just enough characters to catch the eye. .......... Hey how are youPlease tell me you don't wear socks with those Italian Sandals
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hahaha so I am guessing the socks with sandals is from personal experience?
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RHP User
13 years ago
insatiablex2"Come on girls. is it any wonder guys have given up with the long chat-up speil? We really don't need to be this complicated. IT's A SEX SITE>>>>>>>NOT A ROMANCE SITE. Get over yourselves and move on."Couldn't agree more with everything you said. I find it quite humorous how some people on their high horses and think that they will actually meet someone with such high demands. What I found is the people less likely to reply are the ones without pics. One thing that really irks me is when you exchange several emails, it then comes to the exchanging of fave pics, and then there is nothing but silence. I find it pretty weak,
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RHP User
13 years ago
"PLEASE DON'T SEND ME EMAILS WITH "How are you?" or "How is your weekend?" or some other inane message when I don't know you. Now back to business....."This is the first line of a lady on here's profile who shall not be named....but I find it quite funny considering the topic we are discussing
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RHP User
13 years ago
i just wish i didnt have to pay to chat
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RHP User
13 years ago
jokerza Well now, if you are ever in Perth, let me know.....mmmmmm yummmm.... Lubes (also insatiablex2)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi! Miss Sarah! It maybe an age thing ....but I appreciate it when a Guy says hi how are you ..tells me why he wanted to get intouch ...and his Name....I've found that a Guy who takes time to atleast make an attempt to be nice and seem interested are also attentive Lovers ..especially if they have an informative Pofile... Guys who are lazy say hi! nothing more...... what's that about a waste of a good msg...But.If they hit on me with wanna Fuck! etc then they tend to be lazy self absorbed lovers ...They would be deleted... Enjoy cheers Lu ;
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm only a guest and cant message you anyhow. hehehe
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RHP User
13 years ago
I can tell you are frustrated, albeit IMO about something other than the original topic. I see your frustration and raise you... on the topic of manners and tying it in to the original topic.As a single woman who's profile clearly states I am only interested in straight and unattached men, I do experience frustration at the lack of manners demonstrated by the experiment/bi, married/attached men that send me flirts/messages every day. Where are "their" manners in ignoring the effort I put in to my profile which clearly shows they don't match what I seek? Where are their manners in ignoring the red flag alert that shows up on their screen when they send the message/flirt which informs them they are not meeting the criteria I set for my profile?Here's the thing. I "do' value manners and integrity. I fail to see how rewarding lack of manners displays any integrity, nor does it fall in to showing "common courtesy". I am astounded at the attitudes of people who seem to think that simply because they are 'seeking sex' it justifies lowering of morals and manners (and this applies to both those who put no effort in to contacting a stranger - most often without even bothering to read the profile - and also to those who simply can't be bothered replying to those who have taken the time to ensure they have common interests AND put effort in to the contact). You may say that I am being precious about it - I say it's hypocritical for anyone to say it's bad manners not to reply when they have already been shown (by my profile and the RHP alert) that they don't match what I am looking for. There's something about receiving a flirt from an 18 year old, bi guy that says "you are exactly what I am looking for" that irks me 'and' makes me think he's not exactly going to be someone who matches my sexual needs - could this possibly be because he's already ignored what I asked for? Now when you get heaps of these per day, can you understand why I also feel frustrated (especially when I have limited time to be on here).Alternatively, there's the guys who contact me and when I politely reply declining further contact (after having read their profiles and seeing we don't match and/or zero physical attraction) that launch in to a barrage of abusive emails with namecalling. I may have been originally slow on the uptake but I am much quicker to block those with abusive tendencies.I appreciate my profile is detailed and it is that way for a reason. Some will find it tedious and long winded (but those people most likely won't have read this far in to my post ;p) and it's those I have no interest in meeting. Call it an initial filter. Secondly, it enables the reader to to learn more about me and what I am seeking so they can make a more informed decision whether to contact me and/or how to respond to my contact. Those that have no interest in such profiles would surely increase their success rate by only sending flirts/messages to people who's profiles 'do' match theirs. Unfortunately it's usually these people who cry and whine the loudest about how poor the response rate is.On the topic of stating this is a 'sex site' and not a 'romance site', that is how you (and many others) use it. That suits you which is wonderful, however, to judge others for seeking something else is very narrow minded IMO. You may find it interesting to know that the following quote is a direct copy and paste from RHPs homepage.RedHotPie is a premier internet dating site for hot girls, hot guys and sexy couples. Whether you are looking for free sex or adult personals RedHotPie will help you find friends, romance & relationships.RHP market this angle and this is what newcomers are told this site is for. I see nothing wrong with people looking for different things from RHP as long as they are honest about it (if someone is looking for a 'romance', LTR etc with someone open-minded, lets say, with the view to swing, where else would be a better place?) There are endless possibilities that can be achieved if people keep an open mind and as you pointed out, maintain integrity and honesty.Tying this all back in to the original post, when I receive messages that purely contain "how was your weekend" or "hi, how are you", while 'polite' in the words, coming from someone I have never had contact with and that doesn't match my profile, the 'politeness' tends to lose it's shine after a while. It means I look AND read their profile and then compile a message back. 99.9% of the time it goes along the lines of a) they either don't respond or b) they send another couple of four/five word messages before all goes silent. Yep, I do have a template reply I now sometimes use but I fail to see how that qualifies as anything more than 'lip service' as opposed to manners and integrity. (Seriously, I sometimes wonder if these guys are real estate agents and if they get all cranky and sooky when they do a letter box drop asking the 'resident' if they would like a free appraisal... and only 1 out of the 1,000 bother to call them?!)Oh and the best experience I have had from this site has been from a guy that didn't match a few of my criteria, but I guarantee you his first message wasn't four words. He put effort in and 'he' showed integrity and honesty and even addressed the "non matches" which was truly appreciated. Not surprisingly he demonstrated those same attributes in person ;pMutual respect goes a long way - putting as much effort in to a reply as was taken to send the message isn't unrealistic to expect.ps. totally agree with you on the mind games / leading on thing if they never intended to meet. It's such a rude thing to do and waste people's time. Some people only think of their own egos and what they want and have no consideration for the person they are contacting and what that person wants.
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