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pet peeves 😕 re online hookups and dating
April 16 2017
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RHP User
8 years ago
Dating sites - this one and other more vanilla sites - don't work for me simply because I'm way too lazy and introverted to put in the effort to make it successful. Took me a while to figure that out and now that I have, RHP is the only site I'm on (and that's only because I'm a forum addict). Regardless, my peeve is people who don't read profiles. I do make clear that I'm not looking to meet anyone and that I won't generally respond to messages, but I still get around 3-4 a day.
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RHP User
8 years ago
...in the forums that could be inexorably economized and profiles with more barriers than the beach at Normandy. Oh yeah and using a propensity of exorbitant verbiage! Short form...no matter what you say or how you say it, you're bound to piss off somebody no matter how hard (or not) you try! .......best, CM
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RHP User
8 years ago
Forgot to answer the second part of your post OP about my own progression etc.I've learnt to be open minded; Ive learnt that words can easily be misconstrued, and that something said in 'innocence' can hurt; I've learnt to stand up for myself, and for others too where required; I've learnt that the RHP forum community is full of wonderful, compassionate people who will pick you up when you need it;I've learnt to be more tolerant of people;I've learnt to have a disagreement with someone and move on when its over, instead of holding a grudge;I've learnt that you can never know someone's full story, so don't be too quick to judge;There's so much more that I could list, but those are the key points. And I've taken everything that I've learnt here and applied to my day to day life... I like to think I'm a better person for it, thanks to all of you.
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PurePeony
8 years ago
One of my pet peeves is meeting someone who seems to tick all the right boxes online. After exchanging msgs, you decide to meet and the chemistry just isn't there, which can make it awkward because of all the build-up you've both experienced in the msgs. Worse, you discover that the guys have used old photos and they look nothing like the photos they have shared with you. On several occasions, I've met guys who aren't that much taller than me despite knowing that I really really love tall men. I just do, can't help it. When I meet them and the reality of the height thing and if they are also smaller in physical build, I find it really hard to be excited. I've given guys like that chances - I told myself, "PP don't be so shallow and overlook these physical attributes!" But it just doesn't work for me and I no longer pretend that it's going to work... too much hard work pretending. So now, upfront, I go for tall men, big dicks. Can't help being a height whore and size slut! =D
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RHP User
8 years ago
Pet peeve is men not reading my profile - getting messages for hookups during the times I've put up no messages or flirts or having a break, saying they want the whole package but only want to swap photos - not talk, want to meet after the first message and then get cranky when I say they haven't read my profile. Growth/progression? Gained more confidence within myself, changed some of my sexual preferences and preferences for potential partners, found my tribe - the people I can be completely myself with, and I've become even more accepting of others' sexual preferences and what makes them who they are. I thought I was completely tolerant before, but I've gained a better insight and more compassion for everyone.
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RHP User
8 years ago
And like Purepeony the disappointment when the chemistry isn't there after enjoying the messaging. The biggest peeve I have is men (not saying people because I am only interested in men) not having face pics on this site. They don't have to be in the public gallery. But if I look at a profile and there are no pics or face pics in the public gallery and no pics at all in the private galleries I know it's going to be a waste of time. I have heard all the stories about how they have to protect their identity for work or other reasons and I no longer care. I just feel if they are that worried they shouldn't be online at all. Whoops, almost turning into a long post 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
Now I've stumbled over the forums recently, I'll put peeve number one as the bulk of interesting ladies (one's beyond pictures and a profile) are in another state to me. Boo. I've others. I like a profile that isn't a template, but almost as hard to get through are one's that by the time you finish them, you've had another birthday pass you by. A nice middle ground, is my favourite. There's the superficial one of (very) generous self ratings that don't match pictures. These don't bother me for the expected reason (i.e. he's just chasing the sexy booty), but the deception - either of others, or of oneself. Neither bode well for honesty, which I take as an essential in any potential meet up. And like xxtichlissxx the missing face pics. Or the missing pics in general. RHP don't fool anyone with all the dead photoless profiles hanging around. They just shit me (and I'm sure a lot of both genders). Photoless profiles, with no log on's within 30 days (that aren't paid memberships) should be auto-deleted.
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inspirit
8 years ago
Inches ... Just Sayin 😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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inspirit
8 years ago
Really long posts. My attention span just doesn't cope theses days. Oh and....... if I've had a drink or 3 (light weight) and messaging someone and send a pic of my huge tits. Hate that shit. 😂😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Forgot about the chemistry thing as PurePeony & xxticklishxx both mentioned. It's hard to gauge via messages/texts or other mediums, including over the phone. Although having a phone conversation before meeting is a useful exercise. I recently got myself into a potentially tricky situation with someone I work with. He's over east, but we have a lot of work related interaction. There was a fair amount of bantering to start off with... at first via e-mail, then via communicator and then via text. Interactions became intensely personal and the chemistry was amazing. A couple of weeks ago, he had to come to my site for work. I was terrified that the chemistry wouldn't be there when we met, and it could have been very awkward if that was the case. Luckily, it turned out ok 😊
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PurePeony
8 years ago
I do write very long posts sometimes. I just type as my thoughts flow and sometimes it's multiple things at once. I forget about constraints when I'm writing. The thing is, I'm withdrawn IRL unless I trust someone and am comfortable with him/her/them. Otherwise, I clam up. I don't see what's wrong with long posts though - just don't read it, for goodness' sakes. It isn't that hard to ignore. I have learnt to ignore the one or two people whom I find antagonistic and it has made me happier because I no longer waste my precious leisure time reading things that aren't constructive nor smart nor positive nor particularly enlightening. I've kept it simple - I'm here for the few people I have grown fond of; I am here to deliberately introduce different perspectives on issues although that gets me hated and ridiculed but hey, how boring if everyone sings the same tune and those who dare to sing different tunes are silenced, eh?; and I'm here on days when I feel too unwell or simply too tired after work to head out or participate in social gatherings IRL. Too many things happening at once IRL. Anything / anyone that's an energy vampire... OUT! Most importantly, I'm here to check out the men and to see if I just might bump into one that I can connect with in here. OP, I apologise if my post has been irrelevant. Great topic.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, honest, good to hear how the experience is for others. It's not easy for me anymore, and almost feel like I'm getting stage fright, which is not like me, just haven't been meeting many guys and what do they say, use it or lose it 😀
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RHP User
8 years ago
Well I am a newbie and not sure what to expect. I am disappointed that I have not meet anybody in 7 weeks. Is this unrealistic ? In life and other vanilla dating sites I have been on I have not had any problems attracting the fairer sex. I have been making a reasonable effort in trying to be creative and have some witt in my messages to make them interesting.I consider myself to be reasonably attractive and enjoy being fit and healthy. I have had a few conversations from my msg's but it ends there, so I must be doing something wrong. Is it my photos or something in my profile? or maybe I am unrealistic and need to manage my hopes and harness my ego. Ultimately I am cool with it but curious to know why. I am being authentic with my msg's not trying to be anyone I am not. It could be just the competition here is really hot. Do Ladies msg many Men or do you just filter and respond to your msg's. One factor could be where I live (an hour out of city) but I am happy to drive for the right person.I am a patient person and just trying to figure out the next chapter of my story. What do people think? How long has it taken others to meet someone? Cheers
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RHP User
8 years ago
I share a lot of your thoughts, nice post. And if I can pluck one important thing from it, moving on. I have also learnt to do that. I go into a new topic afresh, and on that note, anyone I've had issues with, please come in and share your thoughts if you'd like to. I am a bit of a keyboard warrior, self confessed, always have been blunt, all my life, tact has never come naturally lol bit I don't harbour bad feelings for people, new topic, new day, coffee, all good 👍 you're very welcome to contribute here if you'd like to 😃
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RHP User
8 years ago
Mixed feelings about these. Sometimes posts are tl;dr simply because I don't have the time. And sometimes I like longer posts because I get an insight into the poster that I may not have gleaned otherwise. I am guilty of long posts... like PurePeony, I'm fairly restrained IRL and don't open up unless I know people well. It's a different ball game when I'm writing though, so I can tend to bang on a bit.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I like your posts. Even if they are a bit long sometimes they are still a good read. But there are some people that have posts that go on and on and seem to go off track. Back on topic. Another pet peeve is friend requests from people I have had no interaction with. Sorry but I am not your friend so eff off. I now think you are a dick for doing that.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yes, you are a keyboard warrior... no doubt about that. And yes, there have been times when you have enraged me with things that you've said, and we've had words. There have even been times when you are my pet peeve on here lol. But for every post of yours that has enraged me, there have been many more that have had me nodding in agreement, or laughing out loud where that was your intention, or wishing I could be more open to adventure like you are. I have also watched you shake it off like Taylor Swift... water off a duck's back. So you have definitely played a part in my learning to move on, and I'm grateful for it. These days, if I find a particular post of yours too long or too harsh, I simply don't read it... I know that you do the same with mine, which is as it should be. Much love,Elke xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
Well I just checked out your profile and I'm shocked you haven't had any luck. Great profile. You look amazing and your written part is great. If you were closer, I'd be hitting you up 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thanks and understood, I'm very aware much of my ramlings would either grind gears lol or put people to sleep, I carry on regardless 😂😂😂 I've really warmed to you in the time we've been here, admire your forgiving nature, and love reading your posts 😀
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RHP User
8 years ago
Ramblings 😊
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RHP User
8 years ago
Not just this site, but on all sites I've been on, the worst is lack of clear vision, and feeling guilty after I ask for more pictures, then not attracted, but I hate being made to feel guilty, when if the vision was there to start with, I wouldn't have responded. Along with that, stolen pictures, seriously, how far do they think that will get them 😀 Next would be no shows. Although this hasn't happened to me a lot, just last week a long term friend dropped off the radar. Pissed me off, why not a quick text to say he couldn't make it/didn't want to, whatever, but no communication is just rude and inconsiderate IMO I had him ranked in my top 2 lol well he's not there anymore. Oops sorry for the rant 😊
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OkeyDoke45
8 years ago
I find this whole online dating thing frustrating as do many other blokes it seems. All the usual whinges aside, recently managed to arrange a ''date' with a woman from another site. We had exchanged a few messages back and forth and she seemed like fun. On our date however, a full-tilt rabid Social Justice Warrior showed up. I had my ears battered for three hours about all things to do with wealth inequality, Closing The Gap, marriage equality etc etc - it was like a Greatest Hits reel from Q&A. Apparently all the evils of the world are propagated by the Murdoch press, it all threads back to that evil Rupert. I try not to be rude but found myself looking constantly over my shoulder and checking the time for the last hour, she didn't appear to notice. On and on and on she went. Three very, very long hours. I finally called time and said I was going home. It was like she'd snapped out of a hypnotherapy session. ''oh, talked your ear off have I?". Then there was that other time that a date wanted me to watch the MKR final with her whilst I rubbed her back with her top off, wasn't allowed to look at or touch anything other than her back though. I think the final went for 2 hours? Seemed like forever. She then got all peeved when the final finished and I said I was tired (didn't mention that I had lost interest easily an hour before) and wanted to go to bed (as in, without her). She then stalked me for about two weeks, barrages of messages at all hours of the day and night, every message finished with ''lol''. Oh dear.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I try and keep it simple and positive with all RHP communication: Pet peeves: 1. Demanding profiles - these are often tell the reader 101 things that the person doesn't like and nothing about what they do like. 1.1 The perfect man profile: must be more handsome than Bradley Cooper, Funnier than Kevin Hart, capable of neurosurgery, mixing fine cocktails and have an advanced certificate in back massages etc. 2. A message or return message that says "Hi" and little else.3. Wants to be in a relationship with you 30 seconds after meeting! Cheers Aa x
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OkeyDoke45
8 years ago
I'm hearing you spiritcurious, it is a bit of a slog on here and on other sites. Way more men than women, women are in the envious position of being able to be choosy. I now only advertise myself for couples as an extra, had single women in my original profile as what I was after (with couples as a secondary) and received absolutely no messages, flirts or even looks. Had photos and the lot. I put my profile up for review on a forum here a couple of years ago, the feedback I got from female members was ''all you talk about is wanting sex, women want more than that''. Okay, I thought this was a sex dating site butfeedback received. I changed my profile to something which had more personal depth, feedback I received from female members was ''this is a sex dating site, I don't want anything nearly as heavy as that''. What. The. Fuck. Confusing to say the least. Other blokes on here though have no end of success and don't know what people whinge about. I think the same dynamics apply on here as do out in the pub/club environment - some blokes have that innate ability to just pick up wherever they go, others - like myself - are useless at it (which is why I signed up on here and other sites). I read a post from a bloke on here on one of the forums about people lamenting the lack of any kind of success at all on here, this bloke said ''I get on here only occasionally for a laugh, I learnt long ago that you might as well just go to the pub, you have just as much chance of picking up and at least you're out and about'', these were the wisest words I had heard in a long time. I get on here during the day as I like the forums but I am under no illusions about my chances for success. Bizarrely though, since changing my profile to ''willing extra for couples'', the amount of interest I have had from women that look at my profile has increased. Work that shit out!
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Missb4u
8 years ago
Lack of communication Inaccurate pictures Inaccurate stats (height) Those wanting to engage in lengthy conversations without showing face pics Men wanting you to be exclusive after one or two sessions and I mean exclusive fb nothing more
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RHP User
8 years ago
...only pet peeve, when using this place as a dating site, was that it's such hard work. It's much less stressful interacting with women in the real world with the intention to date. So, practical and lazy that I am, I reassessed why I'm here and pulled back my efforts...finding balance again. And contentment. Like in any endeavour, I think these things need to be weighed against another. The effort and cost put in, versus the results and benefits.
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
Those who chat away quite eagerly for a week, then wish to meet post haste to seal the deal (with sex of course....which means they have neglected to read the part of my profile which says meet first, play later). Who then disappear with a nary a puff of smoke once I either point out my preferences, or politely decline to add them as my plus 1 for an upcoming event.... Only to resurface months later and take up the conversation as though nothing ever happened and only a couple of hours had passed. And then - predictably - pick up where they left off......trying very hard getting their cock near me or in me. Seriously, if your concentration span is that bad that you take off after any new shiny thing, or scroll through your sent mail for the abandoned conversations.....just don't bother with me. I'm just fine with what I already have 😜
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RHP User
8 years ago
No offence meant to you all anyone but in all the time I've been on this site and other's not 1 women I've ever meet has been honest with there age. Double standards any chance. ? Don't agree with it myself. Oooh have i don't lie about my pic's or age. 😂😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Bloody auto correct. Sorry Meander I certainly agree that false information on profiles are a a big peeve off. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Cruisinglife' No offence meant to you all anyone but in all the time I've been on this site and other's not 1 women I've ever meet has been honest with there age. Double standards any chance. ? Don't agree with it myself. Oooh have i don't lie about my pic's or age. 😂😂😂 Are you saying that you think every woman on here is lying about their age?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thanks for support and comments. I laughed my head off at your misfortune with your hot dates with "social warrior" and miss MKR. I am not sure what would be the worst punishment, I am leaning towards MKR but at least she had her top off. Salt into the wounds- you were not allowed to touch. Lol. I had one similar, earlier in the year that I meet at a pub and i had to endure a whole evening listening to Keith Urban. It does feel like the ladies pick and choose and we are left fighting over the crumbs. I have noticed a few blokes that are on a lot of Ladies friends list.I also relate to what you say about profile and photos. Initially I didn't have any full frontal nudity i wanted to keep a bit of mystery and leave something for imagination, but I was being asked for "Penis shots", so I did, but I then got asked for a close up of my penis, which I objected to initially but then relented as i was thinking is this what is expected on this site as I am still learning the ropes. Maybe the best thing is to try and have no expectations, but I am kidding myself as when you see and read about someone that gets your pulse racing and you resonate deeply with what they write I feel excited, and I think that is ok, to feel that passion and the blood rushing around your body. Anyway I think your right, need to get out more.Cheers
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thanks for the reassurance. And If I was closer I would take up your kind offer. You also look delicious and I enjoy your commentary. x
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RHP User
8 years ago
Call me naive but I hadn't thought about cross referencing on other social or networking sites. You would need there name though, would you not?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Did I say all women ? Nor does it matter ? But would be nice to be upfront at least in start of a conversation. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thank you xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'll send you a birthday card or birthday wish but shocking in remembering date's unless we're friends. 😉😂 Have no doubt about your integrity or honesty or age. My point about someone not always disclosing there age isn't always a bad one sometimes. E.g Recently I've meet a beautiful women here on rhp and we have been dating (Shock Horror) Yeah dating for a few month's. Her profile stated she was 50 when in fact she is older. Her public profile pic wasn't her own,for privacy reasons but had me fooled and still does. Should I judge her because she is attracted to younger men yet didn't want the attention of older gentleman.? No why ? Because she was open once we started communication,yet protective of her own security. Yes i do understand why people may not always be upfront, but there is usually always a reason. 7/1/1971 Was a good year for red wine I here. 😉😊😎 Gotta luv a fellow goat Meander. Now i know why we butt heads so much 🐐🐐🐐 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I specifically asked for comments about your experiences with online dating sites, not to be having a dig at other forum posters. I let a few comments slide, including ones about me, but comments about long forum posts, thank you ticklish for your response to that, which WAS having a dig at someone, was it not? or me being told I'm a keyboard warrior? I'm sorry for this, I tried to respond nicely, but wtf This topic is not to discuss the forum or the people in the forum, it then becomes an excuse to vent against other forum people, as shown here already. Your experiences with online dating sites, in the quest to find lovers or whatever it is you're looking for. If the jibes continue, I'll just leave the topic and let it self destruct, like every other venting topic has 👍
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RHP User
8 years ago
to those of you who have shared your thoughts about your experiences, and progression through this tricky minefield of lust 😜
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RHP User
8 years ago
I agree this is wrong and could easily be stopped by the websites. Particularly because members have to be 18+ why can't they properly verify with a driver's licence, photo and date of birth could be shown when joining? The only problem there is not everyone has a license, but lying about age grinds my gears 😉 plenty of men and women shave off a significant amount of years, 10+ in a lot of cases. I think that sucks balls 😊
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RHP User
8 years ago
Although I agree in part with what you said, there is no reasonable excuse to justify stealing someone else's photo. It's fraud, and did she ask that person if it was okay to use their picture? How would they feel about that? I have started contact with a few guys who aren't the person they display, and for me, the deception is a deal breaker. That's the last they hear from me. Liars continue to lie, and they justify it with all kinds of excuses. Happy for you but you know that old saying, you make your bed, you lie in it? Be careful, you might wake up one day and regret letting that slide 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
Lucky I'm not you and judge a book by it's cover. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
But pic sender's. Where it's the thrill of sending pics of their dick to us. They want nothing more but to constantly send different pics of their same member. Different strokes l suppose. Had one guy on another site with about 12 pics which I presume were dic pics (I am a guest)and l asked for body and face pics. He asked for my email or phone number so he could text but l never give it out. I said use Kik but refused. After a week of him asking for it, he asked why am l so paranoid? I said you don't get calls at 2am asking for a fuck. I relented and gave an email address. Got body and dic shots. Both very hot. Just needed a face to match and bingo. Asked for face? Said sorry l only text my face, what's your phone number. I said nice cock, pity you won't be using it. He said my cocks better looking than my face. Then he said I'm very hard to please and goodbye. WTF? Long post.....sorry.......Suck it up
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Eiliethiya
8 years ago
Nothing's ever as it seems and to never take it seriously. People lie, omit the truth, and sometimes just tell you what they think you want to hear. My pet peeves... Are the very rare fun and interesting conversations where I'm actually hopeful of meeting this person, then out of the blue...nothing...completely ghosted. And as much as I can think to myself "their loss", I'm still left wondering wtf I said that changed things?! The age thing. Your age is your age. Some people age gracefully and may look younger than they are. Other's look like they're 10yrs older with sundried, leathered and weathered skin. It is what it is. And a lie is still a lie. I did have a guy justify lying about his age by telling me he says he's younger to attract younger women who's age range he may not fall into. But he met me, knowing I was 3-4yrs older than him! Of course there are more annoying lil pet peeves...but I'm trying to control my ranting b!tchy side. ;-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Guys that don't send a message or sometimes even a flirt, but message me on Kik and then get butt hurt when I won't talk to them on there.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yes, yes and oh god yes!!! I can't comment on women being deceptive because I haven't yet looked for one. But these things are so so common. And then men wonder why women on this site are a little jaded. Yes it's not all men, but we've heard all of the genuine stories before that turned out to be complete lies. I still hope for the good in people and like to think it's what I focus on, but I'm no longer naive.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Why the need to rush off site, even to kik? That immediately makes me think they have something to hide. Conversation and vetting, needs to happen here first now, for me to trust them 👍
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RHP User
8 years ago
Don't be worried about ranting, I have a lot more peeves 😉 stay tuned 😇
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RHP User
8 years ago
You certainly inferred that Meander was lying about her age by saying that she had double standards, and also inferred that your past experiences lead you to believe that all women lie about it. You knew what you were saying even if you didn't specifically say 'I think all women lie about their age'. And yes, it actually does matter, I'm sure you wouldn't like somebody assuming that you're a liar based solely on their past experiences.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Where do they get your kik ID? Is it passed on by someone you've been in contact with? I imagine that happens. I've only just started using kik, have one contact 😎 so a newbie to kikking 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
Being the newbie I was to the whole online hooking up/dating world, I made my username very obvious (you can probably imagine what I chose) So they search and score. Which is why anyone doing that is completely ignored by me. But I keep them there in case they message me later, and that way I will know they tried to bypass previously ;)
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think they've just about all been mentioned already. I don't get as many messages as the women in the big cities, sometimes when I change my profile pic or put up a travel profile I get more coming in than usual but just temporarily. I think like many my big ones would be to do with photos - having no photos at all, or very bad photos, or no face pics. Also just the lack of effort put into writing a profile...there's so many with the same generic few lines (not talking about the templates), with the same words and phrases showing up again and again - respectful, fun, gentleman, gym, fun, 'no strings', fun, 'I won't bite hard / unless you want me to', fun, 'I guarantee you will be satisfied', 'going down on a woman for hours is my favourite thing', fun (not kidding I've seen the word fun appear about ten times in a five line profile).
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RHP User
8 years ago
I truly and honestly can say I have no regrets even after two failed marriages. (We weren't right for each other.) If i was to become bitter and jaded because a relationship failed then I'd never be happy within or willing to open myself up to someone again. Or abe to give the best of me. To answer your question abut fraud. The picture of her profile wasn't recognizable by face or body to anyone and she has deleted her profile since we have met. (Her choice there.) She actually looked better when she showed me her real photo's. I agree a lie is a lie but as a women yourself Itm2 could you not understand her protecting her identity due to her work profession and wanting to attract a younger man. I thank you for your best wishes. And that sincerely comes from the heart. 😊😊😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Of course, in my best Homer Simpson voice, duh 😊 I got a text yesterday from someone 'Hey, how are you? Who is it? Absolutely no clue, assume one of my stalkers, or someone I haven't heard from in a very long time, third possibility is someone here who didn't text when I gave them my number, and a month or two later, remember they have my number, wake up horny, and the list goes on. If you're a previous fb, ffs announce yourself, say who you are. I won't reply anymore otherwise 😃
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'll ignore that troll comment Luck Dragon.Read into what you want.! Had no reference to meanders age.Suggest you pull your head in again. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thanks, yes I'm very sincere wishing you well, but again, there's no excuse for that, no matter what reason is given, work, privacy etc pfft they're all excuses. It's not her place to be helping herself to someone else's pictures. Who would have recognised her body anyway? Do I judge her, absolutely, a liar is a liar is a liar. Your choice but I do feel probably a poor one, one you may regret. Your life, your choices. If you're happy, I'm very happy for you, just watch out for you 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
That sounded harsh, I am happy for you and hope it continued to go well for you 👍
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RHP User
8 years ago
I have to say that your comment in response to Meander's... "No offence meant to you all anyone but in all the time I've been on this site and other's not 1 women I've ever meet has been honest with there age." ...made me also think that you were suggesting that all women lie about their age. Whatevs, just don't think LD's comment was in any way random or misdirected.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Dishonesty is top of the list. Side note: I wonder if it's easier for men to be cavalier about dishonesty (as being lied to, rather than lying themselves) because they generally feel physically safer? For me, it's an instant deal breaker too. I also do not, in any way, understand someone simply disappearing without explanation. I mean after you have met. I admit that I find it very difficult to let someone down, but I'm an adult so I suck up my discomfort and let the other party know why. It's basic respect, imo... General peeves, mostly all covered above, I believe... not reading my profile, or ignoring what I've said, template profiles and/or 'Ask Me' as the answer to everything, then expecting me to drag information out of the question by question 🙄 Ohhh, and my all time fav - some self important crap in their profile about how very important their job is, so can't possibly have photos on here! Puuleeease! Also not at all fond of those who project their poor behaviour on others *looks up*
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RHP User
8 years ago
Typo 'continues' I meant 😊
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RHP User
8 years ago
My point had nothing to do with me questioning Meanders age at all as LD claimed !!! As i said before I have NO DOUBT about her integrity,honesty or her age.(And I meant it.) I didn't ask Meander to confirm it in anyway whatsoever. My point was that I've meet alot of women who aren't totally honest initially for various reasons which I've already outlined. And I'm also sure alot of men do the same for there own reason. Good or Bad ! Will leave this topic here as i really don't appreciate people reading into my words and making up there own perceptions on what I meant.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' I think they've just about all been mentioned already. I don't get as many messages as the women in the big cities, sometimes when I change my profile pic or put up a travel profile I get more coming in than usual but just temporarily. I think like many my big ones would be to do with photos - having no photos at all, or very bad photos, or no face pics. Also just the lack of effort put into writing a profile...there's so many with the same generic few lines (not talking about the templates), with the same words and phrases showing up again and again - respectful, fun, gentleman, gym, fun, 'no strings', fun, 'I won't bite hard / unless you want me to', fun, 'I guarantee you will be satisfied', 'going down on a woman for hours is my favourite thing', fun (not kidding I've seen the word fun appear about ten times in a five line profile). YES!! That's another one! Being told I look 'fun' or 'naughty.' I now have a healthy dislike for both words...
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Cruisinglife' I'll ignore that troll comment Luck Dragon.Read into what you want.! Had no reference to meanders age.Suggest you pull your head in again. - Posted from rhpmobile You don't like my comment so it's a troll comment? And more gaslighting again. I posted a perfectly reasonable response to your comment and there was certainly no trolling involved so no, I don't need to pull my head in but thanks for the suggestion. Sorry OP, won't be continuing with that little discussion.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Not when you twist people's words and make up your own shit.! Maybe not a troll comment but incorrect and not appreciated 😊 Sorry Op to hog topic. lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
Because good and bad interactions interest me. I like watching how people operate even if I can't always figure them out. Nice photo then a stock template profile, boringWinge more than a peeve, distance from me. Not fun.Frustrating At least half the men I have met on here have lied about their age but only by a couple of years which I don't care about. If I meet them and like them I don't care how old they are and they are up front once we meet. I just think it might be about fitting into a certain age bracket or insecurity about getting older. Whatevs. How I have grown - more open, less judgemental, take more risks in general, getting a thicker skin and not taking stuff as personally BUT can also let self doubt creep in if I'm not careful and overthink which was already a character trait before RHP. Just one I need to observe and keep check of.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Only a grasshopper master 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
** No "fun" or "naughty" with Betty... ** Duly noted and stored away in The Betty file. On the middle shelf, for ease of access.. 🙄
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RHP User
8 years ago
Don't worry about hogging, I'm the biggest hog of all 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
That wasn't a very good self advertisement 😕
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RHP User
8 years ago
Pet Peeve on another dating site was men who decline to meet but keep messaging. I'm not a your pen pal. Grrrr.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Meander'Why 23? Is it a code? OMG, somebody tell me!!! he's talking about age, maybe he assumed that you weren't interested because he's older. He is right though...you do need to find someone who can match your intellect
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RHP User
8 years ago
The stock templates are plain lazy, but there's the 'hidden' template responses. By that I mean the ones that seem to crop up over and over. To single (ha!) them out, whilst outside stock templates there's a great variety for single ladies, with couples profiles, so many blend into a mass of biege. Putting in their profile if they AREN'T a professional couple, D&D free, who take care of themselves and expect the same or others would result in a large number having just about nothing left. I don't generally read male profiles, except for the few who've sought opinion (so immediately outliers), so can they ladies tell me if these 'dime a dozen' non-template template answers litters most single males profiles? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Add to your Betty file - nawty, norty and hawt
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Koolgrey' ** No "fun" or "naughty" with Betty... ** Duly noted and stored away in The Betty file. On the middle shelf, for ease of access.. 🙄 I like to think my file is under your pillow I'll allow you to be 'fun' and 'naughty' with me on your birthday - my present to you
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Cruisinglife' Will leave this topic here as i really don't appreciate people reading into my words and making up there own perceptions on what I meant.. People saying they will leave something and then continuing to post, on exactly that topic... clearly not leaving it...
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RHP User
8 years ago
People who have forgotten the art of seduction and think that the point of being on this site is to get laid without all that "hassle".
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megz85g
8 years ago
A massive turn off for me is single guys having pics of them with other woman in various sexual poses. I wonder first whether they know their pics, some nude, are being shared around, and do the guys really think that's gonna turn me on to know you're with others? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Betty7216' Quoting 'Koolgrey' ** No "fun" or "naughty" with Betty... ** Duly noted and stored away in The Betty file. On the middle shelf, for ease of access.. 🙄 I like to think my file is under your pillow I'll allow you to be 'fun' and 'naughty' with me on your birthday - my present to you Your file is in between my well worn copies of "How to impress women and make friends" and "12 steps to a ginormous penis." Essential bedtime reading.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'SoftandCurious' Add to your Betty file - nawty, norty and hawt Hmmm...Ok. But what about "Dawg" and "Bitches-be-like..?" Because there's some quality conversations we could be missing out on there..
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RHP User
8 years ago
'People who have forgotten the art of seduction' Yes, I've had a run of them in the last few days. The 'what are you doing today' or 'what are you up to today'. I'm flat out horny and desperate for sex, but I'm not meeting anyone unless they put some effort into winning me over first. Lazy profiles, lazy messaging/communications = selfish/lazy lover IMO 'just ask if you want to know anything' yeah nah, next 😇
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Eiliethiya
8 years ago
Quoting 'lu_lu82' Pet Peeve on another dating site was men who decline to meet but keep messaging. I'm not a your pen pal. Grrrr. I agree! But I've had this penpal for a few months now...the conversations are fun when I'm bored and no one else wants to talk to me at least!
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RHP User
8 years ago
I would say they are also a no.....however S seems to use "Bitches-be-like" according to some of his posts, maybe ask what his strike rate is? And I read your previous post initially as "12 steps to a gnome penis" I think I need more caffeine.
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On_Safari
8 years ago
Guys who sign off with an "x" (kisses) FFS you're a stranger mate and that shit isn't going to score points here!! I DON'T use them often not even with people I adore.....though some of you have gotten them at times. Yes it's just A LETTER, but c'mon do you think it makes you cuter, sweeter, more endearing/interesting than the next bloke and all those previous? HELL NOOOOOO!!! ~ Indy
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Eiliethiya
8 years ago
What does a gnome penis look like?!? Surely not 12" !!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lifes_great
8 years ago
Quoting 'On_Safari' Guys who sign off with an "x" (kisses) FFS you're a stranger mate and that shit isn't going to score points here!! I DON'T use them often not even with people I adore.....though some of you have gotten them at times. Yes it's just A LETTER, but c'mon do you think it makes you cuter, sweeter, more endearing/interesting than the next bloke and all those previous? HELL NOOOOOO!!! ~ Indy Wouldn't want to peev you off sweetheart Your cuter, sweeter more endearing and interesting friend xxx
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RHP User
8 years ago
I use x's 😊
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'megz85g' A massive turn off for me is single guys having pics of them with other woman in various sexual poses. I wonder first whether they know their pics, some nude, are being shared around - Posted from rhpmobile There are photos of multiple women in his profile...solo, full nudity shots with face included. I actually messaged him to ask if those women had given him permission to include their photos and he just said yes, which I can only take his word on. I told him he should state that in his profile or he'll probably have people reporting him. Even they did give permission it's still a huge turn off for me personally.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' 'People who have forgotten the art of seduction' Yes, I've had a run of them in the last few days. The 'what are you doing today' or 'what are you up to today'. I'm flat out horny and desperate for sex, but I'm not meeting anyone unless they put some effort into winning me over first. Lazy profiles, lazy messaging/communications = selfish/lazy lover IMO 'just ask if you want to know anything' yeah nah, next 😇 Yeah, some people get it, most though, really don't. Sorry to hear you've been uninspired lately. New blood joins every day though, you never know what's about to hit your box ;) Having said that, we're all vastly different people and we're all here for different reasons so it's about finding common intentions and communication styles. Some women respond to the hard and fast approach, just gotta find the right match.
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RHP User
8 years ago
More coffee required? 😉 Know that feeling, on my second now 👍
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RHP User
8 years ago
God sorry, forgot to sign off xxx 😂😂
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RHP User
8 years ago
I have up until recently, responded to the hard and fast, but after a few uninspiring encounters, I took a pretty big step back, also because I don't have a lot of time, so if I am going to put the time into meeting someone, I'm not wanting a 5 minute fuck, all that does is leave me unsatisfied and horny for more. It is largely my fault, I have a bit of stage fright at the moment, just because I haven't been so sexually active. I'll get back on the horse 😉
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Missb4u
8 years ago
the ones that are so good with the words and say all the right things in person then screw it up because when you are apart their actions (or lack there of ) speak so much louder. So disappointing
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RHP User
8 years ago
I am on two sites. Here obviously, which I was a couple of years back for some time. The other I use as a social chatting site. I get a lot more interaction on the other site via just messaging as it is a dating site not chat site. I have also met a lot more women. Here it's very slow and sadly hardly any replies when messages are read or flirts received not even a thanks but no thanks. I tend to just go, everyone has their reason but I really stay for these forums as I did last time round. Again I get that reply on the other site. Now whether this has anything to do with numbers and statistics I do not know. So I have to sum up what the differences are between the two sites. So my conclusion only points in one direction. And this is not a broad blanketing statement in any way just my summation It seems to me that women looking for friends right through to dating are willing to meet and see if their is a connection if not move on. Here when it is mostly sexually connected in many different ways but very few looking for relationships (kudos to those that are) women I feel are a little more fussy and shallow (bad word but you get the gist though) when it comes to sexual relations the attraction factor seems so much higher. Now I'm not the best looking rooster around and my profile is me plain and simple but I am one of the more genuine, friendly and gentleman like but this doesn't seem to make much difference here for me but they certainly do on the other site. Been some interesting reads here only just came across the thread. Cheers ITM2
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On_Safari
8 years ago
Quoting 'Lifes_great' Quoting 'On_Safari' Guys who sign off with an "x" (kisses) FFS you're a stranger mate and that shit isn't going to score points here!! I DON'T use them often not even with people I adore.....though some of you have gotten them at times. Yes it's just A LETTER, but c'mon do you think it makes you cuter, sweeter, more endearing/interesting than the next bloke and all those previous? HELL NOOOOOO!!! ~ Indy Wouldn't want to peev you off sweetheart Your cuter, sweeter more endearing and interesting friend xxx You know I want that meat
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thank you and nice post 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
Also to Meander, I've seen a profile just in the last week, don't think it's the same one, but with a picture of a chick on her own. I found that annoying but didn't think to report it. I will if I see it again. That's another peeve of mine, multiple guys or a two or three standing together, we're supposed to guess which one? This has already been talked about but it shits me, and I have a guy who Flirts or messages, with the main picture of two guys. Rushes for the back arrow 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' That's another peeve of mine, multiple guys or a two or three standing together, we're supposed to guess which one? That shits me as well, and even when they message they don't tell you which one they are. Plus you can bet they haven't asked the other person / people in the photo if they're ok with their face being up there in public on that site. A big red flag for me actually.
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Missb4u
8 years ago
Finding a guys profile that has one of my pics in his public gallery and no I don't know him... what the actual fuck?
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RHP User
8 years ago
No way?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Same, it's an instant no 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thank you and hear hear. There is a scroll function on computers and phones for a reason, it's not compulsory to read. Re rudeness, well I'm guilty of that on occasion 😇 but you are an inspiration for me to correct my ways lol and much loved on the forum. The way you speak of Mrs Urn also makes me go all gooey 😀 look forward to reading more of your posts 👍
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