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"trapping" an Elusive unicorn

June 16 2013

I read on the forums about how sought after by (couples and single guys) these remarkable (seemingly mythical) "unicorns" are, and I can't help but scratch my head.   Here's my question:   when happening upon these rare and "timid" beasts, would you think it best to immediately don your Elma Fudd hat (and matching flannel jacket) un-holster your fire-arm and start you 'ah blazin' hoping to nail the beast before she knows what hit her or has a chance to get away?   OR!   Perhaps, might it be an idea to listen to her, consider her situation and what she says she wants/needs in order for 'lations to successfully occur and try to be accommodating to her and her situation?   ya' see, I'm pretty sure I (somehow) "classify" as one of said (mythical) beasts, I DO live the life of a single woman/female, I have no kids, I AM keen to meet AND play with the right person/people under the right circumstances, IE: MY circumstances, the circumstances that won't see me labelled a "slut" in my small local community, due to people's uncontrollable need to share their experiences (and my details) with their friends (who may end up being my boss or neighbour), that won't see me getting stalked by men who've been told I'm "easy", and/or end up raped or having to uproot my life and try to rebuild.   Pretty much, That won't see my life destroyed simply because you wanted an orgasm!   OK, so that said, I've posted two topics on these forums in the past week, and I've lost count of the amount of men and couples who told me (and other unicorns) that I am the problem, that I need to "grow up", mature, lower my expectations, take a bath, etc etc etc. Basically, that I need to be someone I AM NOT and CAN NOT be simply because it would suit THEIR needs (IE, I need to be them! but that wouldn't work for them now would it, kinda defeats the point huh?) . here is the simple truth folks: LIFE IS NOT FAIR! if you want something, then typically you pay a price for it, that price is typically a sacrifice and compromise on the "ideals" you have and are able to compromise on. if you can't, then it's likely not going to work out how you want it too. believe it or not, we unicorns are NOT exempt from this! in fact! (you'll probably find this difficult to believe but!) 99.9% of the time, it's harder for us to make things happen "successfully" (IE: without it coming back to bite us in the arse in our real life) than it is for any of the rest of you! So next time, before you shout down that lowly single woman who got on and wrote a light hearted and sarcastic post with a serious undertone, try! try REALLY HARD to get the heck over yourself for about two minutes, and consider what she's REALLY trying to say. you might end up amazed at how clever you were, how you managed to catch the Elusive unicorn! Happy hunting!!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    sorry to see you go Yep, unicorns can be male too, the first urban dictionary result I came across had the man as the unicorn

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    i took an interest in this post after having some friends of mine, a couple i met on oasis and some other singles call me a unicorn and im thinking its pretty awesome :) i do however feel sorry for all the couples looking for that fun but not being able to find it. and in my defense i agree with some of the other women on here when i have to be extremely careful who i have relations with, its those bad apples that sully the experience and ruin it for others. i do get alot of offers, being single, no kids, bi and also having a bit of experiance with mmf fmf fff and obviously single fun with both men and women equally, though i do favor sex with men i still have fun occasions with women as well. i think people can forget that because we are all on a dating website that we have to be more cautious, especially us single girlies, but for the couples out there and single guys and girls looking for a woman labelled a 'unicorn' all i can say is keep trying im sure one will come along either on here or in your travels as society is becoming more open minded when it comes to their sex lives.Best of luck! and this was a kool and interesting forum to read :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Never heard the saying Unicorn before,think i like it lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    It's all very intriguing. When I first saw this topic (looking for a different one, I still haven't got the hang of finding the topics I'm following), I thought it sounded like it would be interesting. An ethical or rather more practical discussion. "We're a couple trying to find a single bi-girl and having no luck, any advice?" Imagine my surprise after six pages and being little wiser of what mis_u is hoping to get an answer to.I wasn't aware you needed to treat people any differently on here. I thought option #2 ("Perhaps, might it be an idea to listen to her, consider her situation and what she says she wants/needs in order for 'lations to successfully occur and try to be accommodating to her and her situation?") was standard for *anyone* you were talking to and hoping to meet.We all have our reasons for being here. I think I know what mine are and I'm acting accordingly: flirting (until I'm a paid member) with paid members I think might be interested in me, while keeping an eye out for guest members I might contact once I'm paid up; reading the forums, etc.; seeing how things go from there. I have no rifle or Fudd-esque hat. I'm just an average guy approaching 40, who doesn't have a six-pack, who lives (otherwise happily) a small-footprint, relatively quiet life. I'd like a little more than I have but not much more. I'm not having any sex at the moment and I'd like more than that... which is why I'm on RHP!I've heard the term unicorn before and always acknowledged it as a reference to the single bi-girl (hopefully nymphomaniacal) that so many people seem to be seeking. I know plenty of single bi-guys are starting be thought of as such too. Even couples with bi-guys. It's not a term I use comfortably because as soon as I label someone in an unthinking, assumption-filled way, I'm labelling myself as unthinking too.I'm a person, looking for sex with other people. I like to have sex with people of a different gender to my own but also enjoy being in mixed company. Feel free to say hi if my profile clicks with you. Thoughts?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    wow - what a topic... but I found that the subtle question in the original post has not been answered : those looking for the elusive unicorn (being couples looking for single bi-fem), should they come out with guns blazing or should they entice quietly and lovingly..? Well - it has to be done to show your style, some people are more meek and slow, others are more gung-ho... As for me, I prefer others to go quietly and nicely, think about my username and give me a hoy - those smart enough would know... but then again, I'm not a unicorn:-)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    wow...interesting...deep...wicked for posting...nice to hear real thoughts...worded with intensity!

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