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when men say no
April 05 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have said no before and afterwards once I was alone and had time to relect. yeah if possible I would given myself a boot up the arse. but also have felt no connection which you do need to really enjoy yourself. but these situations I can count on one hand okmaybe just the fingers not the thumb.... or maybe just 2 or 3 fingers.
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Mr_MrsAraps
11 years ago
Have happened to have said no tonight .....
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yep..... Usually because I don't wish to miss sex. Call me sad I don't care, but, just because it's on offer doesn't mean I'm going to use it.... Besides..... As I have said in the past using DG's words.....I'd rather not wank into a warm wet hole. I too have a need to feel desired genuinely, not just because I have a dick. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Welcome to a mans world :). If it blows your vanity and shatters your ego, then when you flip the script, you can now understand what it's like. Some women need to learn simply that just because them laying down has worked in the past, it doesn't guarantee you success in the future. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Have said "No" on a few occasions... if I have the opportunity I try to explain why so as to not leave the person feel so rejected (having been on the receiving end of rejection so often I know how much it sucks). Sorry to ask... but am wondering how many women think they can "fuck anything we lay our eyes on"? It will be very interesting to see the ladies response to this thread. (Maybe will help bring Venus and Mars closer together :) ) SG
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RHP User
11 years ago
There is reality hot. The is rhp hot. On rhp it's very easy to bed what ever takes your fancy, lf, you are a woman. It's not that easy offline unless it's closing time at Murphys. Mandurah AND YOU HAVE BEEN PAYING FOR THE DRINKS ALL NIGHT, And you say you have a bisexuals twin at home, and foxtel and more beer! That is why we women get delusions of grandure knowing the boot call odds are well and truly stacked in our favour.
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RHP User
11 years ago
As much as I hate to admit it, I've been knocked back more times than I care to remember. Lots more. But I compliment the men for the way they have gone about it. It's never been a 'Nah you're kidding yourself' thang (let me dream kids). The shittiest part is they actually fancy you more than a shag. Why do you need to respect me? Answer that! How did it make me feel? *insert cute bird emoticon here 'CHEEP'
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
I'm flat out being able to fuck anything I lay my eyes on at all.........😢 and that's with any kind hot, real or RHP lol......
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
we ladies can fuck anything, that takes out fancy and lay our eyes on?? I believe it's not true...please exclude me from that equation. Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Wanted to send you a message but I'm out. You OK? Cuggles x From me & the big guy xxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
about five months ago I met a man from a so called vanilla site....he seemed quite interesting,well travelled and had recently moved to Briz....the plan was that we would meet for a drink and then have dinner at a nearby Japanese restaurant.....over a bottle of wine we chatted away and then came the crunch....his sexual proclivities were in his words"'the dirtier the better"....he wanted to be used and abused,completely humiliated etc...I probably looked a little stunned and suddenly he leaped to his feet.grabbed my hand,dragged me to a nearby taxi rank,opened the cab door and said goodbye with a charming smile......I guess I failed his domme test :-) :-) xx Vanilla Q
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RHP User
11 years ago
Perhaps you should've responded with "now why would I wanna do that you pathetic little dweeb??" Maybe then he'd have reconsidered the taxi bit?? ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Don't be so literal.
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
You just gave me the biggest giggle........still smiling.......💋
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sweetgem
11 years ago
Before I entered into my previous life, I was never the daring woman I am today! Meaning, I didn't think I could have sex with a man whom I wasn't in love with, because that's how I was grew up knowing. Therefore, when I got rejected by a man for a date, I did think it was because I didn't have Jessica Alba's body, even though I have always been confident about my face (looks). However, as I was traveling out the dark tunnel to leave my previous life behind me, my whole perspective about life has made a 360 degrees change, and I could start having sex with different men without being in love with them, and/or having my emotions involved! So these days I won't even bother to try and guess why some men have rejected me, nor do I think it has anything to do with me or my appearance, it's just simply not meant to be :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
There is rejection after you have had sex with someone...sometimes its the mutual ignore...sometimes it's the lack of response...sometimes I have been busily hanging out the washing xx Q
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta2' There is rejection after you have had sex with someone...sometimes its the mutual ignore...sometimes it's the lack of response...sometimes I have been busily hanging out the washing xx Q Suddenly I'm washing my hair or looking for them in a crowd.
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RHP User
11 years ago
this guy you describe sounds like he has integrity to himself. Im sure there are many of us guys (and girls) who have gone through with a threesome only because we said we would, or we are already there lol. I was in a situation recently where I should have said no after it got weird, but didnt. It ended up being a really awkward and not very fun time (for me at least). It taught me that its better to say no than to feel yuck afterwards. To the OP Id say this guy just wasnt feeling it (for his own reasons) and it was probably not about you or how sexy you are. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
It really comes down to how it is said. I've said no plenty of times, for various reasons, mostly because I just didn't feel the chemistry. While I could say would I have had sex, probably yes, I'd be doing me and them a disservice by saying yes. So I hope I was honest enough to say no. Been said no to plenty of times, and all about the way it is said. Though with so many men saying yes to women, I understand a no can be a surprise. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Find em Fuck em Fuck em off :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I declined due to poor health about 20 years ago :( and do ya think I've had the opportunity since grrrr NO but I'm hopefull I can achieve before I'm to old :)) Any takers lady's
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RHP User
11 years ago
He didn't say no,, he said "couldn't"snip "looked at us a bit sheepish and said, I don't think I can do this." Maybe he failed in awe of your elegance and eloquence, not up to your level.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have rejected some men. And some men have said I am not there cup of pleasure so you said thank you for meeting to each other and goodbye.Chatting on here and meeting in person is so different. Yes it hurts your pride sometimes when the other doesn't want you....but we are not in LOVE with the individual we are just horny , lusty at the moment....so we get over it and move on. :) How dare the last one didn't like me......................me I am so CUTE....how could he....grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr :)
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zoe69r
11 years ago
well I must be absolutely hideous as I seem to get more knock backs than ive had hot dinners , so I don't know were im going wrong or what im saying that turns ppl off
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't think it takes courage to say no, it takes more courage to ask for sex than to say no to sex. If there isn't any chemistry, connection, attraction, or if there is a special someone on the scene then saying no is the easy and obvious option. But....How likely are men to say no compared to women saying no? and also how do men and women usually react to a no? For example if a reasonably attractive man was out somewhere and asked twenty women for sex, he would probably get a fairly high rate of rejection, and would probably brush that off quite easily. I've seen guys do this, play a numbers game thinking all they need is one yes and they're good to go, and if they are happy and courageous enough to play percentages then good for them, who has a right to judge. Whereas a reasonable attractive woman in the same situation, being courageous enough to ask twenty guys for sex, would probably get a fairly low rate of rejection, with most guys saying OK let's go, but would she be more likely to take no's personally? Any thoughts?
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RHP User
11 years ago
So far I have not had anyone say no to me if it's just sex. I find picking up guys easy due to my looks and personality (so I've been told). Even friend's husbands and partners hit on me, and some women too...I've been banned from a few friends's places :( However, I have had one 'NO' when it came to more than just sex (that hurt my feelings actually). The guy just did a Houdini on me :( Mostly I get a yes to just Fwb or FB arrangements. It still hurts because everyone wants to be loved too, well at least I do - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'LadyTuscan' There is reality hot. The is rhp hot. On rhp it's very easy to bed what ever takes your fancy, lf, you are a woman. It's not that easy offline unless it's closing time at Murphys. Mandurah AND YOU HAVE BEEN PAYING FOR THE DRINKS ALL NIGHT, And you say you have a bisexuals twin at home, and foxtel and more beer! That is why we women get delusions of grandure knowing the boot call odds are well and truly stacked in our favour. We don't all have this attitude and sometimes I find it even more hurtful and mentally upsetting thinking that I can /could just be anyones fuck/hole. I so would like to think that there is a man who will choose to have sex with me because he may find me alluring in some way. That the pictures and person I put forward will not only seduce him but make him want me. Otherwise I may as well just put a pic of my vagina and say here here come and get you some.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'zoe69r' well I must be absolutely hideous as I seem to get more knock backs than ive had hot dinners , so I don't know were im going wrong or what im saying that turns ppl off Some girls just dont like a guy to pinch their outfits.
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passion8_l
11 years ago
This has happened to me and it didn't really bother me that much because for me sexual chemistry is a must so if he isn't feeling it then that's cool I get it.
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passion8_l
11 years ago
Amicus, no I do not think that I can fuck anything I lay my eyes on, not that I would want to anyway.
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RHP User
11 years ago
There is nothing as hot as a cock in a frock......Zoe,perhaps you just haven't met them yet xx Q
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' Find em Fuck em Fuck em off :) - Posted from rhpmobile These sorts of guys are dud roots.... they don't get the option to "fuck em off" because the woman usually wants nothing further to do with them anyway. You breath a sigh of relief when they don't contact you again, saves you the trouble of rejecting them.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Once in Sydney, drummer of a band in a pub. Asked him straight out, took him a while to say no, but then told me he was engaged. Respected him for that. Have put the question to a couple of others who also said no, guess they just didn't fancy me but that's ok too. Would rather have someone where the sparks are flying than just a cold root that leaves me wanting. Tuscan, this guy was probably married and having a trip of the guilts.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It may be hurtful....but I do agree with LT here. With an over abundance of choice, brings a level of arrogance that I must say, I dislike seeing, and it turns me off just about every lady on RHP. A little story..... Not too many moons ago. There was a young lady. She had her little harem, and really, why wouldn't she?? She can, and it's her choice... However, through our communications, her claims bordered on using the words "all of my interactions are special." Ok I'm not one to argue, but it occurred to me as time went by, that while she was feeling "special" as having said options would, her distinct lack of investment into even the basic essentials, ie making plans to chat on the phone, when she was clearly "double booked" with a date, only made me feel like a number, and not a person at all. How could anyone say that their interactions were "special" and have it apply equally to both parties with that level of self inflated entitlement?? Irrespective of gender. If the idea of "being invited" to share a sexual interaction was in fact the way this woman expected me to feel special, desired, etc, she well and truly failed. But let's even flip that script. That would lead to the same level of arrogance, and it would be no different than going into a brothel and having the workers line up like they're a lamb to the slaughter. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Maybe with the guys you have come across, but not all women would agree I'd bet. It could also be, that those men may not "connect" that easy. Or.... It may just mean that he's playing before he gets played himself..... :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
We have all been rejected.We have all been told "YES"We have all been told "NO" Anyone who thinks they have a 100% Strike rate is just kidding them self.Its just as easy to say NO if your a man. I have said NO more than YES in my sex life.Why? because i can understand and have a feeling if a person wants more and im not wiling to give that.I know what i want, and i know not to take advantage of someone for a bit of pleasure.Affairs of the heart can turn ugly if you do not set the ground rules from the get go!
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SilverFoxx51
11 years ago
Hi Lady T, I think your own story is a good example of when a man will sometimes say no. I know it's not true in all cases but oftentimes men like to be in control when courting and in seeking a new sexual encounter. It could well be that the gent backed down from a threesome in the end cause he just didn't feel like he was in control when it was actually time to make it happen. You know the man and the circumstances, I don't, but even if that wasn't the case that time if I felt that I didn't have enough confidence to proceed with some new sexual activity, even if excited about it, then I'd consider saying No under those circumstances, and especially if I couldn't get it up! Brian - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'bi_for_cpls' this guy you describe sounds like he has integrity to himself. Im sure there are many of us guys (and girls) who have gone through with a threesome only because we said we would, or we are already there lol. I was in a situation recently where I should have said no after it got weird, but didnt. It ended up being a really awkward and not very fun time (for me at least). It taught me that its better to say no than to feel yuck afterwards. To the OP Id say this guy just wasnt feeling it (for his own reasons) and it was probably not about you or how sexy you are. - Posted from rhpmobile actually the question was not so much about how I feltto be honest, I was not attracted to him , and neither was my other woman friend. We were all just lucky that he felt the same as was up front about it first. I agree that people do get into situations and part way into the play think, gosh I am not feeling the love here. I am pretty much instant attraction first , I am a bit older and wiser and know exactly what I want.in the past yes, not so wise and ended up in the sheets a few times with men that did not float my boat. Does not happen to me now. My vanity, yes I think like most people I could take a hit to my ego, shit happens and as I have someone to love me and I love its no big deal, but I would think it would be if I was every really attracted and wanted a man and he said no. I would just have to accept that fact like it or lump it , just like most men have to.I do not feel I can bonk every man I see, but I do believe that you can seduce most men even if its just ONCE as its new pussy and that's the excitement. I am a realist.Besides that I don't see most men in a sexual way. I just see men as individuals and some I find attractive and will act on that, others I do not so never put out any vibes to encourage a man if I don't want to go there.I read this mans body language he was very tired and there was no chemistry at all at the table.so what I am saying is that I think he did the right thing in speaking up before he was in a hotel naked and getting his cock sucked to exhaustion by two women he did not want.poor luv, it could have been terrible for him.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Traum246' He didn't say no,, he said "couldn't"snip "looked at us a bit sheepish and said, I don't think I can do this." Maybe he failed in awe of your elegance and eloquence, not up to your level. he really was a very nice man. I think it might have been that bit of spinach in my teeth put him off.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'zoe69r' well I must be absolutely hideous as I seem to get more knock backs than ive had hot dinners , so I don't know were im going wrong or what im saying that turns ppl off the shoes with the frock and handbag and shave those legs...you tease
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Kizza1973' We have all been rejected.We have all been told "YES"We have all been told "NO" Anyone who thinks they have a 100% Strike rate is just kidding them self.Its just as easy to say NO if your a man. I have said NO more than YES in my sex life.Why? because i can understand and have a feeling if a person wants more and im not wiling to give that.I know what i want, and i know not to take advantage of someone for a bit of pleasure.Affairs of the heart can turn ugly if you do not set the ground rules from the get go! I like the fact that your perceptive enough to see if a woman wants more, and honest enough with yourself about what you want. Then drawing the line in the sand. and NO is a complete sentence , not a definite maybe like some people may like to think
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Shazza85'Even friend's husbands and partners hit on me, and some women too...I've been banned from a few friends's places :( I've heard about this sort of thing a few times. Seems ridiculous to me. I'd be much more inclined to ban the guy that hits on my friend (assuming a monogamous relationship where that sort of thing is frowned upon). It seems pretty obvious that if he'll hit on his partner's friends, then he'll hit on other women as well, and most of it will be in situations where his interactions with the other women can't be prevented / controlled (unless she installs a tracking device on him, puts a leash on him, etc).
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RHP User
11 years ago
Assuming the partner of said man is actually a partner and not a bunny boiler :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
WOW,,,so many people and all their opinion,,,I wish that sometime someone will reject me and it does't happen.I go to meet man and i would always have coffee as when you reject its was not expensive outing...I sit there with a man and pray please REJECT me as baby you are not what i want thou its only a fuck but man you got to connect if you can't its not going to happen is it ? But i respect man who have the balls to reject as they need to connect to....Some yummy looking man i have rejected BECAUSE they have so much fucken drama and shit that i can't be bothered with their SHIT,,,please give me a break...... Well is their a drama free,,,hassle free,,MAN out there ???????? Geeeessss i don't think they exist... Rainbow7
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've said no many at a time, not every guy has no self control.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Take my hand little lady and I lead you to it ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I haven't met up with plenty of people for hookups, most were friends already, hence why I haven't yet had a 'No'. Obviously if I did get out more and put myself more out there, chances are I would probably get a no here and there As for being banned.....it beats me and yes most of these guys tend to cheat on their partners. I was only the fool to warn these friends about it and somehow I ended up being the bad guy. I guess not everyone wants to know if they are being cheated on - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I turned down a good friend of mine who wanted to sleep with me. I'd just gotten out of a relationship and her marriage was falling apart at the time. We both had a very close friendship and probably both had feelings for each other at certain points but one or the other was paired up. Saying no was probably the hardest thing I've ever had to do, because to be honest if we were both single I wouldn't have even had to think about it, but in the end it would have been wrong of me to A) be a party to adultery, and B) take advantage of her turmoil at the time. I don't regret it, but by god I have to wonder...
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RHP User
11 years ago
If I was to decline an offer of any nature would that make me not interested ? NO it wldnt at all it wld either be a decline of respect of self or as for one lady here (hope she knows who she is) a string sign of respect for the lady ?? Yes I'm male but is getting my cock wet the goal here or is it earning respect for a possible play mate ?? Weather it's a female of couple I think it takes a strong gut to say not right now?? But rest assure peeps where all different on so many levels :)) yes it's Sunday evening yes it's been friggen long time but well worth the wait :) A silent message to the lady I mentioned here ? If your heading to meet n greet let me know so I can arrange sitter for kids :))
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RHP User
11 years ago
This is such an insult to a profile view ? I clicked onto a profile to have a look see after reading there post in forums just now ? Shock I never made any form of contact yet I was blocked st8 up sorry don't see the point in taht rejection at all :))
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RHP User
11 years ago
To think like that or live with that mantra. I believe that all sexual adventures should be treated with respect for all parties involved. As why would you want to give up having another sexual adventure if it was so dam hot the first time. Quoting 'sir_stir' Find em Fuck em Fuck em off :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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Missb4u
11 years ago
Sometimes it bothers me sometimes it doesn't. I don't have a problem approaching and asking if they are interested. Most guys reject courteously. But I have had ones that say "no way, your kidding yourself" that's a bit rude I think. I don't mind if they say I'm not their type that's fine I get that. The ones that really shit me are the ones that say they aren't interested on other sites and then approach on here themselves. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I remember one lady I knocked back, told her that her offered wreaked of pity(which I don't do), then the straw she grasped was "omg!!! You're a smoker!!" Lol that showed me two things..... She felt she was entitled... And.... She hadn't read my profile..... I don't think it was a bullet I dodged....it was closer to a cruise missile!!!! :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I was rejectedWhat made it worse was that we both had feelings for each other, but he had his reasons for saying no...Regardless of his reasons I have to say I cant remember ever feeling such pain.To be rejected by someone that I had such strong feelings and desire for was literally like having my heart ripped from my chest.I started doubting my desirability and just couldn't understand how he could say no if he had the feelings for me he claimed to. I then started to wonder if he even ever felt anything for me.It affected me in so many ways. I lost my confidence and with it all desire for sex, I built a wall around myself and refused to put myself in such a position again.It took me quite a while to get past it and even now....the wall around my body is down ...............but the wall around my heart remains intact.
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wannabyummymummy
11 years ago
Yep i have met a few guys who have turned me down, i dont take it personally, most of the time i would have said no to them also as i just wasnt "feeling"it so its not a big deal, there was one time where i was a YES and he was a no i was a little stunned as it was the first time it had happened but then i looked at it from his side of things and realised that he has just as much right to say no as i do. I would never let a 'rejection' make me feel unattractive, because my husband thinks i am the hottest thing on two legs and that is good enough for me
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inspirit
11 years ago
I meet to fuck. I probably have been rejected but I don't remember. We are talking about first meets RIGHT!! I have been rejected after a few meets - at the time my head was in the wrong place. Thought the world owed me a favour. Something like that anyway.... Made me feel the usual feelings you have with rejection tho you eventually recognise them/own them and move on. JayJay - Your story is one if tragedy and I fully empathise with you. You will heal! xoxox
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RHP User
11 years ago
I can't go any further and I'll try very hard to let her know in the nicest possible way... Many years ago , I knocked back my then wife's cousin. At first she was a lil angry and told me I was up myself because of public persona. When I explained it was because she was my wife's cousin, she settled down and I drove her home.. When she was getting out the car , she told me she hadn't finished with me yet , but it nothing ever happened.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi T Sorry to hear about your story - Wtf - say no to a ffm threesome- did he have a pulse - god hopes he paid for the drinks - - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have also been rejected by a man or 2 with whom there were no feelings and after the initial fleeting thought of "omg why does he not want me" I've just thought "well his loss.....Next"!
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RHP User
11 years ago
you reject people because you don't like the way they look - simpleyou don't like the way they actyou don't like what their partner has in mind for you you detect something abnormal or risky about the whole thingORyou are simply nervous and just not up to it on that day for whatever reason - but you should make this clear so as not to offend or cause grief. Its the same as guys who don't have the guts to meet up - its a big deal for some but best answered honestly To try an avoid all this I always meet up with people first just to sift through the BS and usually you can tell straight away if the people are cool with things or not. Its worked well sifting out weirdos too because I've been abused on here by the male of three couples for not wanting to meet up without a simple coffee style meeting beforehand - people who wanted to meet first up sight unseen at a hotel room ffs - that ain't me I"m afraid - I need a connection or it aint gonna work. One other guy wanted to do double pussy stuff an so on -and apparently the issue is there for with me and I shouldn't be on this site etc etc. It makes me laugh a bit actually I've never even met these people why ?? LOL. Its out of my comfort zone, sorry find someone else Note that I'm only talking here about emotionless encounters and not any sort of personal relationship, that's another thing altogether and I'm not here for that at all even though I know others are mostly the girls I suspect. I usually do form a pretty solid friendship with those that I have met and pretty much stick with those I know and that is very important to me for some reason
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
I believe that saying NO to someone and having NO said to, can be a good thing. I think because people see it as negative feelings of rejection, when infact it makes room for personal growth. Sure I have had no said to me before, it's taught me over time that I get better and better and dealing with rejection each time..so there for having no said to me, is a good thing not necessary a bad thing. So I say thank you to those who have said NO to me. However I believe it is the there is a right way and a wrong way to say No to someone. It's how the tone and message is sent, it can be cruel sometimes and other times it's not. One can say it without being an arsshole/nasty bitch about it and then there's a way without feeling guilty about it. So for me, it just depends on the person saying the NO and how it is delivered. Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'bi_for_cpls' this guy you describe sounds like he has integrity to himself. Im sure there are many of us guys (and girls) who have gone through with a threesome only because we said we would, or we are already there lol. I was in a situation recently where I should have said no after it got weird, but didnt. It ended up being a really awkward and not very fun time (for me at least). It taught me that its better to say no than to feel yuck afterwards. To the OP Id say this guy just wasnt feeling it (for his own reasons) and it was probably not about you or how sexy you are. - Posted from rhpmobile I am guilty of only saying yes because I feel obliged to. Afterwards end up feeling like, why did I bother??
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RHP User
11 years ago
some positives in our life....too many rejections,disappointments do not necessarily make us more resilient,IMO they have the opposite effect....we loose heart and stop seeking....Jay jay I understand completely how you feel,and yes it is a shock and a puzzle.....even though he probably didn't mean to hurt you,the reality is he did...Conventional wisdom and the platitudes of many will say that you will get over this,and maybe you will...eventually....but for now,it hurts and allowing someone else into your heart will require bravery hugs xx Q
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RHP User
11 years ago
rather say 'no' and risk hurting someones feelings...(lol)....than lie by pretending to be attracted or aroused by them...i think the discovery of the latter to be the case, would be much more insulting and confronting, than being shown the consideration of honesty ever could be..... have I said 'no'? absolutely...with ease... and felt good about it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Earth calling, pilot to co-pilot ;) Any man you laid eyes on :p A threesome is statistically less likely as you have to fancy both girls and you have to be in the mood to put in twice as much effort, in other words, you have to really like the girls, an awkward threesome isn't sexy. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
A very good friend of mine once declared after a few drinks that the woman always decides... Although I've also been known to say that the only difference between no and yes is a few more drinks. However, sober and alert. If you're not feeling that little bit of frission between your ears and between your thighs, the best answer is always "I don't think I can do this" regardless of your gender.
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RHP User
11 years ago
for me to say yes to a women I would need some sort of connection something in common to chat about sex is great when you have it with some one you get along with not so great when its meaningless and for the sake of it its just bang, bang. and your done what was the point.
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RHP User
11 years ago
This subject brings back a funny memory of the only time I have said no... I met a young lady while in Israel, and she had recently broken her foot (it may have been her toe, but no matter)... Anyway, she had these old, busted - arse crutches that went under the armpit.... Well, she kept complaining about how stiff she was in her upper body, so I asked her if she would like a massage... now I can hear the collective groans... but honestly, it was not a pick up line... SO..... She agrees, and we wonder into her room, she lies down (face down) with her top off, and I proceeded to massage her back... shoulders, arms etc.. Then I asked her if she felt comfortable with me massaging her front...(OI!! enough from the peanut gallery) She rolled over, and I carried on...... bearing in mind I was still fully clothed. I made my last languid sweeps as I called it quits, and out of the blue she askes: "Well, aren't you going to fuck me then?" to say I was shocked was an understatement, before I knew it, I heard my voice say: "No" (My mind caught up about a second too late and tried to salvage the situation) She said: "But I have never had anyone play with my tits before and not fuck me" My stupid chivalrous mind did the talking from then, and I heard myself saying that she was probably only saying that because I had had intimate contact with her, but that was not the intent. If, in the cold light of day, when she had had time to think about it, she wanted me to fuck her, that she had but to ask..... Needless to say....she didn't. Sigh!! Should've done it when I had the chance!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Haha BUUUUUUURRRNNNN it's about time some of you women got your own back.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I met a girl from here once a long time ago and had to do the old fake phone call to get the hell out if there as she was a weirdo.
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Violetincredible
11 years ago
It really doesn't effect me too much.. I have a feeling I kind of push people into saying "no"... Because if they said "yes" I would actually have to do something :/.. I feel a sense of relief when they say no... I know I'm strange! Xxviolet
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RHP User
11 years ago
You and me both - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I met one female from red hot pie, she had hundreds of photos on facebook where she looked good, I went to her apartment one night but she answered in pajamas, no makeup and had a few coldsores, I went up to her apartment and we chatted for an hour or so, we then went to the bedroom, where I said I had to go, if she had of made an effort to look good I may have been interested but she obviously thought since I am on here that I will have sex with anyone which is not the case... I will say no now and then, depending on my mood, or I will just try something like mutual masturbation for safety purposes. I have high standards so I can pick and choose, I find myself telling a girl I will have sex with her yet have no real intention. Seeing one girl is enough unless she can convince me otherwise (rum is a good start) haha.
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GezWouldGo
11 years ago
I don't care where i put it, so long as i get back!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is there anyone here that wld say mmm yep yes please :) or should I call it a day... Fuk I'm over being rejected grrr lol Coupes or single lady's :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'JayJay_66' I was rejectedWhat made it worse was that we both had feelings for each other, but he had his reasons for saying no...Regardless of his reasons I have to say I cant remember ever feeling such pain.To be rejected by someone that I had such strong feelings and desire for was literally like having my heart ripped from my chest.I started doubting my desirability and just couldn't understand how he could say no if he had the feelings for me he claimed to. I then started to wonder if he even ever felt anything for me.It affected me in so many ways. I lost my confidence and with it all desire for sex, I built a wall around myself and refused to put myself in such a position again.It took me quite a while to get past it and even now....the wall around my body is down ...............but the wall around my heart remains intact. It does change so much doesnt it Jay Jay I can so relate. When I met you before all that happened you reminded me of me. I still dont know how I let myself go there.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Sailin_by' Earth calling, pilot to co-pilot ;) Any man you laid eyes on :p A threesome is statistically less likely as you have to fancy both girls and you have to be in the mood to put in twice as much effort, in other words, you have to really like the girls, an awkward threesome isn't sexy. - Posted from rhpmobile but I think I should just add that to my profile Beware if I lay eyes on you, I can fuck you...especially if I put chloroform over your face. It was NOT meant to be a literal statement. Do you honestly think that a 62 year old woman that looks like me can fuck any man I lay my eyes on? I could if I was in a male prison! no wait I did work in several male prisons...nope never got lucky even there , now that's tragic I have been lucky so far on rhp, but that is due to the numbers game and so in time yes, every one gets their reject slip.LadyT crying into her soup over it all
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'talldark25' I met one female from red hot pie, she had hundreds of photos on facebook where she looked good, I went to her apartment one night but she answered in pajamas, no makeup and had a few coldsores, I went up to her apartment and we chatted for an hour or so, we then went to the bedroom, where I said I had to go, if she had of made an effort to look good I may have been interested but she obviously thought since I am on here that I will have sex with anyone which is not the case... I will say no now and then, depending on my mood, or I will just try something like mutual masturbation for safety purposes. I have high standards so I can pick and choose, I find myself telling a girl I will have sex with her yet have no real intention. Seeing one girl is enough unless she can convince me otherwise (rum is a good start) haha. and will go buy some flannel Pjscould top the look of with red nose and hair rollersand a yo ho ho and a bottle of rumwell maybe two bottles to convince you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
When a man has clarity about himself, what he likes, what he wants, how he wants to spend his time, AND can say no to me if I'm not for him or if now's not a good time, my respect for him grows significantly. Providing it's not about being careless towards me but rather about being true to himself. I experienced the worst rejection I've ever known a few years back (and handled it terribly!) and in that rejection I also witnessed the greatest strength and self-truth I've ever seen in a man. It was a beautiful, painful thing. It raised the bar from me in terms of the conviction I look for in a man. If he doesn't know what he wants and can't articulate it, I'm not really interested. I'd rather hear a clear, conscious, kind 'no' than a vague 'I don't know' or worse still, silence. The uncertainty of silence, especially when the silence represents 'no', is bloody awful. Having said all that, rejection is my Achilles heel. It terrifies me and the pain of past experiences has led me to build a wall or two, much like JayJay's. Oh well, it's character building at least :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I just realised that I am pretty horrid when it comes to saying no. I am blunt, I don't even bother with the coffee meets much at all. So to the nice guys that I was a pretty blunt with, well I need to be more diplomatic I guess. but to be honest I never even considered at all that it was me they were interested in, I only thought of it as random sex.I have learnt that its more than that for some and they continue to be my lovers. Even after 2 years I see the same guys now and again. the worst I would think is when someone does not invite you back to their bed for another round.I don't care one way or the other, as for women it is easy to get another lover from here, plus my needs are not emotional. but I do get emotional support , as a side line of the great loving I am getting. I cant always go a second round for a whole range of reasons, and its not that the guy did not put in his best effort, it just turned out that for me it was a one off. It can get awkward when people ask why? I can see how hurt it can make some people feel. Especially if they start to find they are getting close to that person.Its a definite mine field at times, not to hurt another person. My blunt approach has worked for me, and in this case I did tell the guy to be blunt, as my indifference to any situation means you can cut to the chase with me. but hey if they said, your a fat old cow and go fuck yourself, well I would slink on out of there and never have sex again in my life! not even with myself! LadyT knowing she has to make more of her meetings in a pitch black hotel room
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think Nietzsche was wrong....what doesn't kill you doesn't necessarily make you stronger....it makes you wary....I think many people have been hurt too many times to want to feel pain again.....xx Q
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Weekendhussler79
11 years ago
No to those women who think every man would have sex with them. Yes to those women who think we wouldn't.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta2' I think Nietzsche was wrong....what doesn't kill you doesn't necessarily make you stronger....it makes you wary....I think many people have been hurt too many times to want to feel pain again.....xx Q We learn a great deal from pain, be it emotional or physical. those that have felt it are often the most empathetic people. its the too high and the too low of emotions that can impact on us and others. some people never get over a hurt and who can blame them at times. but if you don't get over a hurt, then in the end they win as they have stolen your future. we all struggle with intimacy and communication, on here its a great place to shine and get attention but its offline in your every day ordinary lives, where you do the most good for yourself and for others. rejection is a bitter pill for some, for others its a shrug of the shoulder but it all depends where you are in life at the time and who rejects you. My husband left another woman for me, it hurt her a great deal but the worst thing was, he was the third man in a row that had left her for another woman. she snapped and became my own personal stalker for nearly a year, she only stopped when I became pregnant with our first child. so rejection can really change a person. LadyT
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta2' I think Nietzsche was wrong....what doesn't kill you doesn't necessarily make you stronger....it makes you wary....I think many people have been hurt too many times to want to feel pain again.....xx Q It most certainly changes you. In some ways my most difficult experience changed me for the better. I finally learnt the reality of compassion, rather than just the theory. I was in a god-awful state, barely functioning, and making poor decisions. I was aware of it but couldn't do anything other than go.through.it. And I had such compassion for myself as a human being in pain, which led to real compassion for others for the first time. I had always believed in compassion but I didn't necessarily know how to feel it. Now I do. And it changed me for the worse. I'm seriously wary of men. I'm hyper-sensitive to any form of rejection very early on. I know I don't want a man who's not entranced by me, but perhaps I'm not giving men enough time to even work out whether they are or not. And I'm just generally closed off emotionally from people - all people. I feel stronger and I feel weaker. At the time I believed with conviction that I'd rather I hadn't met him at all, and had missed out on the exquisite joy, than have that joy but have to follow it with the pain. I wondered at the time if that would pass and eventually I'd be able to look back fondly. Not yet, unfortunately. I think the way people say no can be unnecessarily cruel, too. Why be cruel to others? If it's just an ending because it's time to end things in your mind, why not take the extra time and invest a little bit of extra consideration, to ease things for the other person? I don't mean take responsibility for them, but just be a little considerate. That would have made a world of difference to me and I know I'd be much better off now if I'd received a hint of concern or consideration. And then, Ms Q, there's the truth as we know it, that the weakness and pain lingers because of our attachments, which is entirely our own responsibility ;) Mixed feelings. Stronger and weaker. Que sera sera. x
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RHP User
11 years ago
how incredibly self absorbed are people? we arent universally attractive...not everyone is so wonderfully put together that all men...or all women, for that matter...fall in a swoon at the idea of sex with them....lol... hurt because someone said no? really? seriously?
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RHP User
11 years ago
That level of pissy petulance was uncalled for. Pull your head in..... If you can get it out of the darkness... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I actually say no to more women than I actually have sex with
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RHP User
11 years ago
Totally agree with that.
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RHP User
11 years ago
This is a response we got recently after saying (Sorry you don't match what we are looking for. Good luck with your search) . Sorry that I'm not, had I thought that you would only consider my suitablity had I suggested that I wanted to fuck you like a pair of cheap bar wenches or simply wanted to mount you and fill you with my cum, would have redefined my opinion of two women who sort to find their desires meet by a bloke who had read and considered the reality of two women whom had realised their sensuality and sexuality are theirs to seize and not just to do gifted to the serviance of the male ego.Pity ladies I was just intrigued by the proposition to presented but obviously a mindless beef cake pounding you is more appealing that a bike who wishes to embrace your journey and be a servant master and help navigate this journey with you.Good luck and I truly do hope that you get what you think you want rather than ending up compromising and just being fuck toys to some mindless cock. Our response We don't have a problem with what we are seeking and are enjoying. Just seems you cant accept that you cant be everyone's idea of what is attractive in mind and body. As we are well aware of for ourselves and yes have been said No to at times via message or in person. The difference is how you take it on board and react and not so well by you as you so kindly pointed that out to us. Regards reverse harem
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' how incredibly self absorbed are people? we arent universally attractive...not everyone is so wonderfully put together that all men...or all women, for that matter...fall in a swoon at the idea of sex with them....lol... hurt because someone said no? really? seriously? strike again! Nasty post. Uncalled for.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' how incredibly self absorbed are people? we arent universally attractive...not everyone is so wonderfully put together that all men...or all women, for that matter...fall in a swoon at the idea of sex with them....lol... hurt because someone said no? really? seriously? I think you just missed a point. that's not what the post is about at all. I do not thing people are upset at all if others say no to sex, go back and read the posts and those that were hurt are talking about emotional connections. the topic is this, about men who have had to say no on the odd occasion as we all do, and how they felt about it.how women felt about it, and mainly due to the fact that for women on RHP its not that common due to the sexual nature of what people are looking for. I guess you might find that out sometime if you ever meet anyone of this site. But then some guys just have to say no to their right hand, that has to hurt like a bitch ps, your pictures are good but they are very old, are you Dorian Gray?
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RHP User
11 years ago
we all say no....and if we dont, then someones telling lies.....have said no myself, sometimes happily, sometimes not, but every time its been honestly.... for me as a guy, its never been an issue, i'd rather tell someone straight up than lie to them and have them believe everything is good...when in fact its not. honesty is possibly one of the most attractive human traits....my wife said 'no'...to me for months...she wanted to be sure, having been thru the most vicious and destructive relationship I've personally ever heard of...'no' is the simplest, easiest, shortest answer any of us can give, and to read more into it than exists is potentially damaging...for everyone as for our pics? really? dorian gray?....thats low, and bloody rude....of the 2 dozen in our public gallery...more than half are much less than 12 months old... what business is it of yours what we show and how new or old they may be? ffs back off.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have decided that the internet dating thing is just too exhausting and inevitably ,for me has just lead to disappoinment for all sorts of reasons..........Whether it's being rejected or doing the rejecting it's a bit like being the mouse on that little wheel.....so I have decided to hop of the wheel......I found this quote by Jane Austen yesterday and it pretty much sums it up for me.....The more I know of the world,the more I am convinced that I shall never see aman who I can really love,I require too much xx Q
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think if I was 99 I would give up to. Internet dating sux big time.............just take your clothes off and walk around ....as you can see I have no idea.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I actually don't mind the after sex text :) be it a day, two days meh.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Oh no! So texting my lover to say "I can still feel your cock as my arse is so deliciously sore" is a mistake?
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Oh no! So texting my lover to say "I can still feel your cock as my arse is so deliciously sore" is a mistake? It might have been better if you wrote it on his cock before he left, just to remind him in the case he went out of satellite service, he may just miss the moment.
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RHP User
11 years ago
my name is Panda... "Never say no to Panda"
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RHP User
11 years ago
this heterosexual play is so hard to play? Who sets the rules? who makes it happen. You text them after a nice sexy session and the male thinks .....oh my god she wants to marry me.You don't text him after a good sex session.....he thinks ohh god I was shit in the sack.So what should a woman who just had a great bonk say??? Why is it so hard? And twofor normal looking women, like me, who have never been a beauty queen in life....being rejected or hearing a No is quick ok. I believe for people who are the hunks and beautiful sexy females all there life its much harder someone says No to, because it will happen they only don't expect it.For me the hardest is to say No to a nice man, the shit heads don't hurt at all.....and to send him on his way and see in his eyes how hurt he is....this is very hard to do.....because you know yourself what it feels like. You know how disappointed he will be, and all his dreams are shuttered because in his mind he had beautiful sex with you. And to say no to a person who is really nice is not easy.
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perthangler
11 years ago
I have said no when the lady was very much drunk that is just taking advantage of someone. I like to think that sex between 2 or more people is something that they all want and not something they will feel bad about after - Posted from rhpmobile
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