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A womens secret shared
November 12 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
Agree... pet names should be reserved for couples/partners who have an intimate history, not for introductions and public forums.Noted and lodged in the MANual for future reference.SG
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RHP User
11 years ago
luv,Isaid pet,Isaid dear....I always prefer,dahling
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On_Safari
11 years ago
....love your work Foxxy Lady (winky winky wink)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Same with babe, baby, doll, sexy, hottie... Unless said by a lover. Then it's hot!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm amazed at how many guys do this when they send a message. I'm always tempted to write back and call them "hot stuff", "loverboy", "stud muffin" or something else along those lines, but I know that they would probably completely miss the sarcasm and just see it as encouragement .Actually....the next one might get a bit of Lumpy Space Princess treatment...."Just admit it loverboy, you can't resist me. Well if you want these lumps, you gotta put a ring on it!!! Where's my ring???!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
makes my skin crawl, and if a shop assistant calls me 'Love' .... Im not sure why but it feels like a put down. 'Mamm'... makes me feel about 90
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RHP User
11 years ago
Regardless of what reasons you make for calling women by anything but their chosen name . . . . . . STOP IT! I too can't stand it. It comes across as lazy and disrespectful. Whenever someone calls me hun I think of Attila and frankly I don't want to be compared to a despotic ruler who murdered his own brother so he could have sole control of the throne. He was a sex maniac and that too is a label I would not apply to myself. Babe, I'm neither a baby or a talking pig!Sexy I may be, but if I haven't even met you I certainly haven't given you permission to give me a nickname! Pet . . . . nope, no way. Cringe material.And thanks Foxxy for raising this topic. And c'mon guys, lift your game. We know you can do it.
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madotara69
11 years ago
I am quite touched, when the guys call me Hun, Sweetie, hotty, etc etc. When they message us.MadoMado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I frequently get people calling me sweetheart, honey, darling.... And that's by young 20 something women. I never say anything but I always think, how old do they think I am? I could be their mother and I have to say I do find it a bit weird. Most men are cluey enough not to do it... Well unless they are very camp. I am at fault of calling women girls. Oops sorry. But I used to work with this guy who was probably around my age, and when I and my female colleague had a meeting with him he would say "hi girls" as we walked into his office. Jesus I had to bit my tongue, I wanted to slap his face the arrogant shit, the thing is I am pretty sure he didn't even realise how insulting that was in a professional environment.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Problem is only a few men can get away with it, most of the time it comes across as sleazy.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Honey bunny?? Sweety pie??? Pumpkin??? 😘😘😘😘😘
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madotara69
11 years ago
I reckon it would be Ok to call you fine ladies..... SYNCHRONISED....occasionally, with the utmost of respect of course.Mado
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RHP User
11 years ago
No, this is certainly not the first time this topic has come up. There have been lots of threads about it... And I think it's quite a common thing for most women not to like being spoken to that way. But in the spirit of Christmas, good on you dangly balls for making the effort and lumping all women together. 😛
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think it makes guys look sleazy and me feel like I'm a little girl or there pet - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have played with them ;-)- Posted from rhpmobile
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Cheekyarses
11 years ago
Please don't call me Babe!!! It is like hearing fingers nails being scratched down a black board!! I don't like being called Darl or sweetheart either! Call me bitch if you want to call me something - or cheeky or by my real name! Xxxx
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' No, this is certainly not the first time this topic has come up. There have been lots of threads about it... And I think it's quite a common thing for most women not to like being spoken to that way. But in the spirit of Christmas, good on you dangly balls for making the effort and lumping all women together. 😛 It is an old joke, referring to when the ladies get together for a while they synchronise with the menstrual cycle. It is commonly believed to be a natural phenomenon.In my experience, it is usually the ladies who make the joke of it.It was not intended as any kind of insult to the ladies. And nothing in relation to the threads I think you are referring to.Mado
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RHP User
11 years ago
Male or female, even in a relationship they make me cringe. I personally insist on being called "the Baron".But seriously, usually on impulse I end up pronouncing names(and acting) like a smitten baby. Like I'd call a Lucy, Looothy or a Mary, Maaarwy. Ketherine, Kafren. Maybe I should do this in messages. Think it'd work?
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Another chapter for the "how to communicate in Rhp" handbook :-)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Another chapter for the "how to communicate in Rhp" handbook :-)- Posted from rhpmobile and others of you could be champions and refer all the men you know to be guilty of this transgression here for their free lesson.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yo bitch with the great titts
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RHP User
11 years ago
'Guys' . Nah, could be worse. MrsP, Peachy. M.E. . It's the tone innit. xxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Foxxy Darlink. You're soooooo totally right. Us men should address you properly. "Woman" works for me.....now get yo ass back in da kitchen "woman" 😜 Disclaimer: This post was proudly brought to you by the word "gest" and the number 5- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU FOXY, IT IS DISRESPECTFULL! HOWEVER SOME MEN RESENT BEING CALLED THESE THINGS AS WELL! MR HERE & I CAN RELATE TO THIS EVERY TIME I ORDER A BEER AT ANY PUB & GET CALLED "DARLS" ETC. AS FOR PREFERRING NOT TO BE CALLED "GIRLS"! OK NO WORRIES BUT CAN'T SEE THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THAT & MEN BEING REFERRED TO AS GUYS! DOESN'T BOTHER MOST MEN AT ALL. GALS, LADIES, GIRLS OR BLOKES, DOODS & GUYS! WHO CARES....WHAT ABOUT OL'MATE! HEAR THAT ALL THE TIME TOO. I SUPPORT THE NO BABES, DARLS, SWEET CHEEKS, CHEAP TALK ETC. BUT THE REST IN MY VIEW IS A BIT NITPICKY DON'T YOU THINK!!! IT COULD BE JUST ANOTHER CASE OF MAN BASHING BUT I KNOW YOU WOULDN'T GO THERE!.....WOULD YOU? Mr XDXEE!- Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
11 years ago
But he's earnt that priviledge. I agree to all 'cept the synchronisation bit "dangly balls" lol (kisses sweet man but Meeks you are hilarious!!) I've decided next time I get approached with the usual "Darl, Babe, Sexy, Hun" that I WILL reciprocate with something like "Hello Fuzz Nuts" (better check the personals though to see if they're clean-shaven or not) or "Sticky Dick" and do the ring thing as was suggested. Hahaha reckon that'll give some pause!!! Yes Maaaam makes me feel 100 as well. I kinda can't buck too much when I hear gorgeous or beautiful though but I usually get that from some incredibly sexy, sassy and hotly seductive ladies we all know and love, Loves!! ~ Excellent topic Foxxy. And delightfully wicked humour ladies, thank you you've made my morning!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Personally, I think it's a bit (ok, a *lot*) presumptuous to call someone "Hun" first time out, and I don't like being addressed in such a manner - it's just a little too familiar.In the event I happen to send a message, I'll always use their profile name, or occasionally a diminutive of it, unless I happen to know that person is a Hawthorn supporter, in which case, all bets are off.Once someone gets to know me, and vice versa, I don't mind so much, although I prefer a nickname such as "You gorgeous hunk of a man" or something similar."Hun", "Hunni" or variations thereof just grate on my nerves!CheersJAB
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Cheekyarses' Call me bitch if you want to call me something - or cheeky or by my real name You can call me c**t. C**t is a great word. Real names are great, but never on the forums. Who knows who reads them a few months from now.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E'But he's earnt that priviledge. Though I will add anyone over the age of 70 can call me whatever they want. They've already earned it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mesmerised' Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E'But he's earnt that priviledge. Though I will add anyone over the age of 70 can call me whatever they want. They've already earned it. And I particularly don't want some old man calling me hun and love and babe. I find it even creepier coming from someone elderly. And I disagree with c**t being an okay word to call someone Mes. When used in making love, its a beautiful word, but that's the only time in my opinion.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Indy. :p I think that deserves a nomination into the "Most inappropriate response to a thread" category. Or "oh shit, did I say that out loud?" Category. LM"little flaps"O!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
manners in Australia ???? towards women.So why is it Ok to call women BITCH or c**t in women s eyes ( I dont like it at all) but not Babe or Honey or Lady Or or or.Ok Girl gets on my nose too I am a woman not a girl Princess is another one.....however we need to ask the men why they use this terminology towards us women.I dont think it is always meant to belittle us. I dont even think men think I will now say hey babe and thinking ohh God what a stupid little baby she is.Please men out there tell us honestly why you call women babe honey.....in a way I think its a cuddle.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I put up a post awhile back on the very same subject. The reaction I received was quite the opposite to what posters are saying this time. Shows that coming from a woman compared to a man can get a different reaction.. Not really surprising. Regardless, Im not the type to go around calling women anything unless I get to know them well and feel they are worthy . I think it would come across as fraternising and quite simply think women deserve better..
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RHP User
11 years ago
hi foxxy - I do personally agree that cold-calling someone using hun, sweetie etc is a bit premature but contrary to what you say for ALL women, I think some of them don't mind it at all and read it with the harmless intent that was intended. Many women use similar terms - its not exclusive to men. In your post, you refer to us as 'guys', yet are offended to be called girls... I note the forum categories - girls ask, guys ask. Girls & boys is a very generic term - such as girlfriend/boyfriend, girls night out, etc and definitely does not imply you are a female child. My take on it is that on an adult site people are likely trying to be informal and friendly. This isn't coles or woollies, its rhp!! I accept your opinion but not that it applies to ALL women :-) my 2 cents worth :) and shhh keep it a secret hehe
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madotara69
11 years ago
Was the theme.Growing up with a whole bunch of men and women coming together all the time. Sometimes the banter would be as such.The ladies gave refuge to men by all joking that they were synchronising with each other. I only learnt that phrase in good humour and from the ladies themselves.So light hearted banter to the ladies, may be tolerated to what, some may only see as being nice Don't yu think. But if the words become agitating and repetitive after a while and the men do not acknowledge that they are saying the wrong things. Then it is not the lady that is really on their mind. Just an image for their own imagination.inappropriate or just another angle for a conversation.Mado
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RHP User
11 years ago
I shall explain myself. This thread is about people using pet names for women they don't know. I know that a man will also occasionally encounter that, but I don't know how men feel about that and in any case that isn't the question. In the past these terms, such as sweetie, darling, etc was used by men to marginalise women and to reduce them to sexual objects. And women still today can feel demeaned and belittled when a stranger or work colleague uses these names. Of course it depends on the situation and tone, and of course as a term of endearment from a friend of lover is different. Foxxy is saying that women don't appreciate or like men we don't know and have never met referring to us as Hun, for example, via email or on the forums. Saying a woman has her period, or haha isn't it funny all the women are synchronised is the same as the above. It can also be viewed as someone marginalising women, belittling them and saying that their views or opinions are not important because it's just their hormones talking. Mado, did you know some women find that offensive? That is why I thought it was hilarious and inappropriate that you has to make that "joke" on this thread, where women are saying we want to be treated like an individual you then go and lump us into the big hormonal group that is woman. I think you didn't mean anything by it? Just making a joke at all the opinionated women?? And yes, dangly balls (used as a term if endearment) I was having a little laugh about it. Just struck my funny bone that of all threads, you did it on this one. :)) Just my sense of humour.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Isn't "having my period" a legal defensive for murder? I think it is. *insert very smiley face here *
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madotara69
11 years ago
crime of passion.And yes Meeka that is sort of what I was saying. I think it is called a metaphor.And you ladies should by now, know that I love you all, you all are "special"
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sorry mods, I will say c**t from now on. But how come Bitch is allowed? Much more offensive in my book.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't view it as the same. Guys is still a male adult not a prepubescent boy. So to me it's different. I will refer to men as dude, but it's used to make a point so not a term of endearment. I don't say it to offend the man but it is used for effect.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'WildSong' I disagree with c**t being an okay word to call someone Mes. When used in making love, its a beautiful word, but that's the only time in my opinion. I was kidding.... In bed it's hot though! (No, I'm not backtracking, nor gaslighting hehe)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have had the same thing. I call fellas by their profile name but get 'sweetie', 'hun' and 'babe' in reply. I detest being called 'Babe' unless i am in a relationship. Just call me 'Von' like in my profile name. It's not that hard and shows you may have read the profile.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Please don't speak for all women on this I personally don't care it's not important. They don't know my name and its irrelevant. I call everyone petal. Names are nothing.- Posted from rhpmobile
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HappyCbrCouple
11 years ago
In any forum be it online or at a more formal / social scene there should be a level of respect of others, but the way someone is addressed may vary greatly from one forum to another. No matter if you are a man or a woman, visit any pub in Northern Australia and you will probably be greeted with 'What can I get ya love' from the nice lady behind the bar... Followed by 'That 'll be 5 bucks darl' I dont mind that. Bring me a beer and you can call me whatever you like !! But beyond that environment common courtesy dictates are more formal approach. Now back to this web site... What if you dont yet know the persons or couples names? Addressing them by the nickname on here may seem weird. Is it ok to say 'Hi Guys' or 'Hi There' or 'Hi Mesmerised' but what about ... 'Nice to meet you Miss Puffynipples' Personally, we don't mind being addessed as 'Hi Guys' by people who dont yet know our names. We make a point of introducing ourselves in the first email so after that people may address us both accordingly, but some people we have spoken to have not provided their names so to us, Hi Guys seems appropriate in return. And Hi Sexy, G'Day Beautiful and such should be reserved for those who you have a mutual connection with and who you know would appreciate the term. If in doubt - be polite, not intimate or bogan :)
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fortands
11 years ago
Being from the North West of England, calling someone 'Luv' or your girlfriend 'girl' is actually quite a term of endearment, not the contrary. The men or boys can be called 'lad' in the same way. Not derogatory at all. I suppose it depends on how particular you are and the deliverer of the message. In RHP terms, the man or men in question are presuming that you're already here for party time so why be so formal? Maybe just a touch prescious hun? :-)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sup slut!Wanna fuck?RA
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'xdxee'AS FOR PREFERRING NOT TO BE CALLED "GIRLS"! OK NO WORRIES BUT CAN'T SEE THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THAT & MEN BEING REFERRED TO AS GUYS! Not guys, boys. Would you really want to be called a boy?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'BriAndRab' No matter if you are a man or a woman, visit any pub in Northern Australia and you will probably be greeted with 'What can I get ya love' from the nice lady behind the bar... Followed by 'That 'll be 5 bucks darl' I dont mind that. Bring me a beer and you can call me whatever you like !! But beyond that environment common courtesy dictates are more formal approach. Like! Now back to this web site... What if you dont yet know the persons or couples names? Addressing them by the nickname on here may seem weird. Is it ok to say 'Hi Guys' or 'Hi There' or 'Hi Mesmerised' but what about ... 'Nice to meet you Miss Puffynipples' When a couple writes to me without giving names (which is rare, usually they at least give initials) I will usually respond with "Hi, you two" or something.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Should never be seen badly....I don't know why it is. Caring Understanding Nurturing Type Yep.....call me C**T any day :)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Now fair suck of the sauce bottle gir...errr...ladies...How's a guy supposed to email a hot chick, when her moniker is "IwannaSuckYourCock" or something similar...I can't really say "Hi IwannaSuckYourCock" now can I...but then again, she probably does have one, lmao...I try and always find an appropriate opening (with the email that is, keep it clean please, sheesh)...S'nP
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'fortands' Being from the North West of England, calling someone 'Luv' or your girlfriend 'girl' is actually quite a term of endearment, not the contrary. The men or boys can be called 'lad' in the same way. Not derogatory at all. I suppose it depends on how particular you are and the deliverer of the message. In RHP terms, the man or men in question are presuming that you're already here for party time so why be so formal? Maybe just a touch prescious hun? :-)- Posted from rhpmobile For one thing, we're not talking about what partners call each other, but rather complete strangers. Also it's not a matter of formality, it's one of respect. And just because a woman has a profile on here does not mean that a man can presume that she will want "party time" with him, so he should employ the standard courtesies of messaging a stranger at least until he has determined what the woman's preferences are. Which of course goes both ways. And if you read all the comments prior to yours, you will see that there are a lot of women and men that feel the same way as the OP, so no, I don't think she is being precious at all. Your little dig by calling her hun just makes you appear childish and as lacking respect for other people's boundaries, certainly not what most people want from a swinging partner.
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fortands
11 years ago
I don't believe my comments were mocking at all, I was highlighting certain peoples reactions to being addressed in a particular way. I referred to party time as, correct me if I'm wrong, RHP is predominantly a hook up site which asks for preferences of the individuals or couples who register? Some choose code names, others choose random sequences. My opinion, for what it's worth, was that it's a touch hypocritical to be put off, offended or uneasy (again, in my view) by a welcome that is not specifically as you request it. Wouldn't the offended individual just ignore or block such advances? Luv to all xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Mr, Ms or Miss (insert profile name here) unless you are a couple and then it's Mr & Mrs (profile name). Maybe I'm just old fashioned.....but it sure would make a favourable impression over the "usual" familiarity faux pas made by people trying to get your attention here. And yes Miss Luckdragon you are very correct, just 'cos we men/women have a profile here on this "sex site" is NO GUARANTEE anyone is getting their rocks off. It's simple really, would you approach anyone from anywhere else in that manner and expect any less negative result? So to all you Mr & Mrs, Mr's and Miss' and the Mizz's out there, here's a Heading Tip: "Hi there, I liked your profile Mr, Miss, Mr & Mrs" then "I notice we may share some general interests, I hope you don't mind my approach but in all honesty I wanted to drop past and say "hello" and thanks for the interesting profile." Bound to get a response.....err I think. I dunno, I'm usually the approachee, not the approacher. 😎 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
We hear women calling other women babe, girlie, hun, gorgeous, chickie, and so on... Somehow its not sleazy when a female does it to female?? The meaning placed on it when men do it is different somehow...??
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cbteager
11 years ago
Miss Meeka I generally agree with you and on the whole I do here but I think you are seeing it from a feminist attitude where you are presuming a woman is being put down. Sure some guys do that but I think there are a ton of us who don't. You don't like "girls", this is a term that has been used for women for as long as I can remember, all manner of women use it as well as men and I wonder if it comes from a desire to make ladies feel they look younger, ie a compliment. You say men are called "guys" this has only come about because of American television shows saturating our lives. When I was younger all blokes were either blokes or boys. You would here the term "let's get the boys together" refering to a friday night out or similar. Blokes implied men, boys implied male mates. Besides, what is the alternative informal word for use on women. I personally think it much friendlier to say "Hello girls" to "Hello women" although if the gathering of women is not, how shall I say, less that qualified, I might say "Hello ladies" but that implies deep respect on my behalf and I don't give it away too lightly. Having said that I do tend to use "My Lady" in any introductory message I might send a lady because it implies the respect I have for women. Might that be considered offensive under the terms of this thread? I do agree that all the sex based nick names tend to imply, "hey when can we f**k" and the senders need to grow up just a little but you have commented that you want someone to show they have read your profile. Might I suggest your best course of action would be to put in your profile that if you get called love, pet, hot stuff etc you won't be replying and then you will know straight away who has read it. For what it's worth I too hate some things women call me, mainly older women who call me love or worse, LOVER! "Madam I am certainly NOT your lover and nor do I wish to be" races through my head. I find younger women don't tend to be so inappropriate. In a nutshell we are all different and one cannot speak for all so perhaps it is your first way of vetting contacts, ladies who like being approached that way will accept that contact while ladies who don't will probably reject it. It's the way the world works. Steve
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Can I just say now how juvenile it is for a man you've had little to no contact with signing off with "xoxo" seriously it shits me to tears!!! Do you think that wins points? Honestly it irks the hell outta me, it might work on the needy, the clingy, the desperate, younger ladies and teenage girls but FFS really?? Yes the regulars use it to soften the blow of a forum post, show their caring side, flirt a little and give support. This is an acceptable use because after time they have come to know each other on and offline and face to face so that interaction is mostly par for course. When you are making that initial approach with someone who IS a stranger don't shoot yourself in the foot prematurely by becoming too familiar too soon. It's bloody off putting and disappointing and leaves me thinking are you a boy or an adult male. You'd impress me more if you txt " hiya wana b bffl's like ya no" ~ Indy's Pet Peeve voiced- Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Mr (insert last name here) and I actually think they like the respectful and dare I say endearing gesture. I do call them by their first names or even initial (if it's a habit we have fallen into) but rarely, if ever use Lover, Babe, Darl, Hun unless taking the piss and having a stir. And if experience is anything to go by, it works a treat!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Totally 100% agree! Well said Foxy. M x- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Okay, so basically what you are really doing here is giving the boys a heads-up on how to manipulate you more effectively. "What women want" should be a secret handbook only the chickie babes have in their posession.Also, if a guy doesn't want to say "Hello I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E, how are you today?" Because he feels its ridiculous or embarrassing for him or weird or pretentious or a turn off for you or him, or any other reason he might have, cut the poor prick some slack! We've been raised this way. Instead of decrying someone's obvious desire to make contact in the manner they have learned, and not the prim and proper codified, enscriptured, dogmatised or legislated manner which meets your approval, perhaps you should maybe possibly look at the content of their words rather than their use of them. And stop giving the creeps more tips on how to ensnare their prey more efficiently!! Traitor!On a lighter note I often call other men "babe" "darl" or "honey" when trying to get my way. It puts them off, and they generally will aquiesce to my requests simply to get away from their own percieved prejudices and notions. If that fails to rattle them, a quick underbreathed "suckmeoff?". "What!?". "Nothing. Can I get the green one cheaper please?" usually does the trick. Boys are stupid.RA
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RHP User
11 years ago
In general that is correct. There is no sexual connotation when a woman says it. Same as I prefer to go to a female gyno or masseurs.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ladies I know that you all are all .... this is where is butter you up. I come from old fashion values even for my young age :-) and maám is a polite a respectable greeting. I use excuse me maám when I am out and moving around as I don't know your name and won't go excuse me babe. With my work, maám is used in a professional way when speaking and replying to superiors. For the rest I agree that unless you know a woman on a intimate level it is a fubar to use them. Jiggler
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RHP User
11 years ago
And what pray tell is a feminist attitude? I am aware that not all usage of pet names is meant as a put down. But sometimes it just isn't appropriate. In a professional or work situation Hello Ladies is much better than Hello Girls said in a smarmy "Geez I am so fucking good" tone of voice. Okay.... part of that is because I didn't like the guy to start of with. And I actually use girl and boy all the time myself. To be honest, if someone sent me a message with starting with My Lady, my first thought would be that it is a lame opening line. Sorry Steve, however I have had a few guys start this way and the followed up with a quite a funny message so I knew they were not serious.Everyone is different, some people don't mind and some do. So probably best to err on the side of caution.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree with the women that have said any messages they receive calling them Hun or hunni is an instant no from me. I admit, I don't even bother to look at their profile before flicking back a template no thank you response. I only tell someone I don't like it if they keep doing it, otherwise people in shops, pubs, old men and women, etc doesn't bother me. Even though I still find it odd for young girls to call me darling and sweetheart.... it makes me feel like a child.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Have people forgotten that we are Human Beings who want the same respect and dignity as another person?? That. there is a Human Person sitting on the other end of a keyboard? I think respectfullness of others gets forgotten sometimes..FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
Cringe, spew. I don't like it even within coupledom, unless it's ironic and meant to be flirtatiously insulting in which case...it's excellent. E.g. my currently partner always prefaces a favour with "darling", i.e. "Darling can you put the kettle on" or "Darling, can you clean the shit that the cat did in the bath" or "Darling, sweet pie, do you mind calling my mother and letting her know we won't be coming for lunch as I don't feel like getting nagged by her today..." Hilarious. :P
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RHP User
11 years ago
Not everyone is creative or articulate. I tend not to sweat the names I'm called. I'm not big on using pet names unless I know you well. My lovers get called Babe, Lover and my personal favourite which is Besutiful Man.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm sorry SUPERFOXXY but this is hardly a gender specific issue here as many women do exactly what you are speaking about. So if you are unaware of this then so be it but some of the women you are speaking on behalf of, are guilty also. Fair deal if you don't appreciate it and I respect your (and any other persons) right to not be called by such names. I personally couldn't care less that the lady in the smoko truck called me sweetie today, she meant no harm by it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Kaleidoscope' My lovers get called Babe, Lover and my personal favourite which is Besutiful Man.- Posted from rhpmobile Same...I would someone whom I have an intimate relationship with that as well.FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
call everyone possum,it works for Aunty Edna,
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't mind how I am addressed on here, because it always speaks volumes about the person who is contacting me..Hello Freya however, is always a good start
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'd prefer not to refer other guys to this subject, I personally dislike pet names and refrain from calling others by them, if other guys continue to do this it makes me look better as I don't do it, means there's more chance the fine women I try to chat with will reply :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'In general that is correct. There is no sexual connotation when a woman says it. Same as I prefer to go to a female gyno or masseurs. So its about women's ego then? Im confused is this a sex site or a therapy site? Women - as a female, I ask you to not speak for me or 'all women'. If it is YOUR view say it is YOUR view, not that its WOMENS view....
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RHP User
11 years ago
At night you can call me whatever you want . In the morning you can call me MISTER Green ;) GG♒️- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just don't call me late for dinner... Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well, of course, all men of any perception will address your wonderfulness in an appropriate manner, beginning with something like 'May it please the Empress of the Universe, your subject would like to say hello and my goodness the Imperial body is looking fine this morning.'After that, the communication may proceed in less formal terms, subject of course to being allowed remove the shackles so as to permit typing.The only other comment I have is that words like 'hun', 'cutie' etc must be a useful filtering device. Having said that, there is always a question of the appropriate register for the context. In the bar of the pub in Winton, outback qld, customers and barpeople probably use 'darl' as a respectful and informal term. Other places have other formal or informal rules. I dont't like to start a message or an email with 'Dear ...' cos 'Dear' belongs in letters. I often say 'hello ...' or simply use the first name. If a long compound name made up of a number of words, I just use the first bit.Terms like 'girls' are also a useful filtering device; they indicate someone who has not taken notice of women for the last 40 years.May it please your Delightful Impressiveness, those are my poor submissions
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RHP User
11 years ago
Haven't read all the comments but I don't sweat it too much if someone calls me by hun, babe, sweet whatever.... There are worse names I could be called and thankfully no one on here has said any of them so I guess it's a step in the right direction :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
If you are in FNQ I think you'd have to cop 'darl' on the chin. When I moved to the UK, I walked into a bakery in Bristol and a woman in her 60's said "What can I get you my Lover" (in full pirate accent, I swear) I got used to "My Lover' eventually..... it's West Country speak. But, otherwise agree Foxy.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I always thought pet was short for petal....lol. How about Miss or Mademoiselle? Same ring or no no? I agree you can say to a female "I find you sexy" not "hey there sexy" *wink wink* lol- Posted from rhpmobile
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JessicaRabbit
11 years ago
Doesn't bother me in the slightest. Call me what you will! It's the intention behind the words that matters most and mostly these names are used harmlessly. Jessxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
People whom I meet face to face are either addressed as ma'am which is from my days spent in the air cadets. Our SKB(service knowledge basic) stated that civilians are to be addressed as Sir and/or ma'am. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'RandomAgent' Okay, so basically what you are really doing here is giving the boys a heads-up on how to manipulate you more effectively. Boys are stupid.RA Wad-up BroLOL @ Manipulate???Is that what you call it?? I would like to think it is called "show a little R-E-S-P-E-C-T".*whistles Aretha Franklin song...RESPECT*YAY! you got that right...BOYZ ARE STEW-PID! cept when they pull my hair. :)FOXY
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Violetincredible
11 years ago
I think I call everyone pet names... I got into the habit when I was teaching and kept forgetting everyone's names.. I still do it.. But only to people I like or don't know. If I don't use a pet name it generally means I don't like you :/ I like being called pet names it denotes familiarity unless it is said with contempt... So I agree with Jess - it's the intention and tone, not the words themselves that affect me! Xxviolet
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'GavinMcSparkles' I'm sorry SUPERFOXXY but this is hardly a gender specific issue here as many women do exactly what you are speaking about. So if you are unaware of this then so be it but some of the women you are speaking on behalf of, are guilty also. Fair deal if you don't appreciate it and I respect your (and any other persons) right to not be called by such names. I personally couldn't care less that the lady in the smoko truck called me sweetie today, she meant no harm by it. Was it said in a derogatory tone??Did it make you uncomfortable orWas it said in a sexual undertone?So if it said to you in this way - how do you react?Does it make you feel uncomfortable?FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'MisterGreen' At night you can call me whatever you want . In the morning you can call me MISTER Green ;) GG♒️By the looks of your pic...MISTER Green "hat rack"?FOXY- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I honestly can't answer to what kind of tone it was in, I really didn't pay that much attention to it. So no, it didn't make me uncomfortable. Something like that is the least of my worries during the day. Thinking back now I think it's just habit on her behalf, as it is for plenty of people.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
I wanted to send you a flirt but they haven't got one that articulates exactly what I'd like to say to you sooooo here goes, "Kiss my fat one." ~ Indy xx- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Pmsl indi :) Xo Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...
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him_and_me
11 years ago
My kids get lots of little names from me, poor loves. I used to have a dentist that always called me pet. I hated hated hated it. But maybe it's partly because I hated him for causing me pain every month... I don't mind nicknames too much, it's just the over familiar ones that are a little odd.
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
what sort of responses would come on this topic. It appears to generally fall into two distinct 'camps', and is not overly gender specific. There is the one that do not generally feel comfortable with the use of pet names, and the other where there is no apparent ill feeling towards the use, although the men seem to be more at ease with the receipt of these names. There of course will not be any hard and fast rule for the continuing use of the pet names, as we are all individuals here. We have been raised to understand and appreciate different facets of life and language; many of us have various cultural backgrounds where certain forms of language use and behaviour have different meanings for us; and even for the Aussies here the area where you were born or brought up can instill various values with regards to language. Even the idea of 'respectful' use of language can vary wildly - what is interpreted as one persons respect can be anothers' vulgarity. That has been demonstrated fully in the forums and chatrooms. How do we know what is acceptable to whom ? I sure as hell can't think of any 'tried and true' methodology to let others know how we wish to be called. Many of us are complete strangers to each other, some of us have met and understand each other reasonably well, and many will fall in the middle grounds. Our various relationships with each other will determine at what stage we would be comfortable with various formal or pet names. Can I suggest that when someone contacts another, that it is usually understood to be a genuinely friendly greeting, unless there are obvious overtones to the contrary. I'm up for other ideas. Tall
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Id like to post a comment about giving everyone a nicname relevant to our encounter....but It gets me in trouble
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RHP User
11 years ago
Nooooo you better not!! ;) FOXY- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' I wanted to send you a flirt but they haven't got one that articulates exactly what I'd like to say to you sooooo here goes, "Kiss my fat one." ~ Indy xx- Posted from rhpmobile You have a penis!?RA
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RHP User
11 years ago
I awoke to a text this morning that said, Good morning sexy fucker. Coming from him, I love it lol- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is to ask. To me, that is a pretty simple idea and it doesn't take lots of effort. First message should always be addressed to the person's profile name. Regardless of your cultural background, you shouldn't make assumptions about what is ok for someone else and especially if you have been living in Australia for any length of time. We all know how different cultures have different concepts of politeness and individuals too, have different boundaries and levels of comfort about familiarity. Remember, everyone is an individual, don't assume and if in doubt, ask. Those three simple precepts should stand you in good stead if you follow them.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I find it hard to assess "overtones" in the written word. Anyone else struggle with that?
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inspirit
11 years ago
man are simply creatures. I did read it here on the Forums so it must be true. I do understand what you are saying Foxy though...Personally.... I don't really let it bother me too much. In fact I usually ignore it and step over it. If it does bother too the point off creepiness I will let them know. Is it condescending?? I guess that depends on your own personality. Sometimes I forget given names so they end up with a pet name. When you are dealing with many people it is just as easy too call them all "lovely".... I find it easier than telling them I forgot their name.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Some Random Agent wants to kiss it. Lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
to be addressed as Empress Blah Blah...thank you in advance minionsand felicitations your Maj.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Indy. It's in the mail.... Express post.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Oooohhhhh Random Agent, my Lord you're in for a treat!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Freya77'to be addressed as Empress Blah Blah...thank you in advance minionsand felicitations your Maj. Like!
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