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A womens secret shared
November 12 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'WildSong' Is to ask. To me, that is a pretty simple idea and it doesn't take lots of effort. First message should always be addressed to the person's profile name. Regardless of your cultural background, you shouldn't make assumptions about what is ok for someone else and especially if you have been living in Australia for any length of time. We all know how different cultures have different concepts of politeness and individuals too, have different boundaries and levels of comfort about familiarity. Remember, everyone is an individual, don't assume and if in doubt, ask. Those three simple precepts should stand you in good stead if you follow them. Exactly!!
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
Quoting 'WildSong' I find it hard to assess "overtones" in the written word. Anyone else struggle with that? def: Secondary quality or implication I wouldn't have thought that was too hard to understand in the written word, personally...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Amen, that is all!!?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'WildSong' I find it hard to assess "overtones" in the written word. Anyone else struggle with that? I struggle with it as well.Especially if I can not see the person.FOXY
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madotara69
11 years ago
Eg 1# Hi honey, I have read your profile and think you are fantastic, everything you wrote said that you are intelligent, funny, insightful, energetic and confident. You remind me of some of my closest friends, if you would like maybe we could chat more about the things we like and are looking for as it seems we share some similar values. I think we would get along fine, so please tell me your name to start with, my name is .......Eg 2# hi hunee,.; cn i Loock at yer clit pic and i show yoo my cock pic. mmmmmmmmmmmm. and i am fuckn hot.MadoMado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'WildSong'I find it hard to assess "overtones" in the written word. Anyone else struggle with that? Especially when texting. I've learned the hard way never to be funny or sarcastic in a text to someone who does not know me well. It doesn't always translate.
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RHP User
11 years ago
You must be joking! Misunderstanding the tone of someone's message is quite common. I assume you don't communicate much via text and email.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yep..It's how it presented by first email. Two examples, two different ways.Manners and respect.I would take example 1 over example 2 - ANY DAY!Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69'Eg 1# Hi honey, I have read your profile and think you are fantastic, everything you wrote said that you are intelligent, funny, insightful, energetic and confident. You remind me of some of my closest friends, if you would like maybe we could chat more about the things we like and are looking for as it seems we share some similar values. I think we would get along fine, so please tell me your name to start with, my name is ....... No. 1. Don't call me honey. 2. The message is totally generic and makes me wonder how many women you sent it to 3. My profile clearly states I don't chat. Picky bitch, aren't I?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Tall_n_Hard' Quoting 'WildSong' I find it hard to assess "overtones" in the written word. Anyone else struggle with that? def: Secondary quality or implication I wouldn't have thought that was too hard to understand in the written word, personally... Actually, the written word is incredibly easy to misunderstand. Especially given language relies heavily on the visual and vocal. According to communication experts, body language accounts for around 70% of our understanding. In an email or text message, there is no vocal quality to assess, no stance, no facial expressions. And as Mes said, sarcasm and humour can totally backfire. WHY? because the other person can't see you. Meanwhile, you are entitled to your opinion. There is no way I agree with you though. PS I teach communication skills.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't think Mado sends out generic emails.I think he was just trying to give two examples of contact on the manner it is delivered.That is how I read it.FOXY
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madotara69
11 years ago
As I have no practice at wowing the ladies, other than a bit of a flirt in the forums now and then. But that is from us, or better known, I am allowed to, by Tara that is and I have not gotten into.... too much trouble, just a little smack now and thenPlus I would never call any of you ladies a bitch, even if I thought it. I would rather think of you all as exciting.MadoMado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Mado sounds like a wonderful man who adores his wife, and I adore his posts.
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'You must be joking! Misunderstanding the tone of someone's message is quite common. I assume you don't communicate much via text and email. Seems somewhat strange that you acknowledge that it is possible to misunderstand someone, even though I have tried to explain that to you previously. Further, I do my fair share of emailing, not only here but off-site as well, and have learn't fairly well on being able to pick up subtleties in a persons writing. Maybe it has something to do with age and life experience, as well as some well functioning grey matter. No, I don't text as I don't need / have a mobile. I assure you it is possible to understand overtones in writing, if you pay careful attention. Tall
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mesmerised' Mado sounds like a wonderful man who adores his wife, and I adore his posts. I thought you were just taking the piss out of me. That's what I like most with you lot.
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
Don't worry m8, I understood you perfectly well - just don't call me Shurley. Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
Mado,don't forget the vinegar
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madotara69
11 years ago
And wind
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RHP User
11 years ago
Of course it's easy to misunderstand the written word...for example tall you obviously didn't pick up the fact that I was uncomfortable with the things you were saying. So it goes both ways doesn't it, you yourself are not picking up the tone of some posts.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
It sucks how wires get crossed, misunderstandings occur and otherwise good people lose out because we attempt to perceive "tone" and "intonation" via text. (Breathes a sigh of relief!!). Thank fck this never happens to me!! 😳 I hope if I'm going to knife you on paper you feel it just as physically as if I was "knifing you" face to face....just sayin'.....LMAO lighten up peeps. We all know you can't always "know" someone just by what they write and the perceptions gleaned by this medium. After all everything is open to interpretation..... Though....I like to think you can judge wisely enough by whatever standards/values/means/gut feelings you have to discern the shit from the clay. These opinions are then either supported or negated through social meet and greets if you're able to attend one. Soooo I guess I reserve my opinion for a minority until I meet you face to face. I think that's fair. ~ Indy can't spread herself thin, I'm too chunky!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think that quite often people claim they are misunderstood when the reality is,their intention is clear but when others find what they say objectionable, they pull the ''misunderstood ''card.xR
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
have a running relay commentary on the understandings that some people may, and others not, have about the various subtleties in writing. As a number of you have noted, there can be difficulties in understanding via the written medium, and we will not always get the understandings right. Visualization and vocalization is indeed quite helpful in determining what may be intended by a persons speech, but it is not always required. You can normally adequately perceive if there is satire, or sarcasm, or overtones, or whatever, if you refer back to past writing between the parties and you will understand if they are carrying on in their usual mannerisms, or not following pattern. There may be, for example, key words that will be used in normal writing, and these words may be altered by some fashion when other meanings are intended. Wildsong, you may not agree or even perhaps understand, but it is indeed possible in my opinion. The principle is very similar, for example, in being able to read someone's writing upside down, or mirror image, or upside down mirror image. It just takes a bit more effort. Meeka - the communication problems we had stemmed from me using various terms of endearment previously. You did not initially come back to me advising that this annoyed you, but rather waited til I had communicated with you a number of times. Because you delayed your response I could only go by the fact that you hadn't objected and therefore I continued, apart from the fact that you didn't communicate much with me either, so I couldn't assess your views. Mind reading via email is something I have not mastered, just yet. You equally did not understand that I was just trying to be friendly. Indy - you should know better than saying that we can't always know someone just by what they write.... I'm just having a crack at you - but you know what I mean, don't ya my friend. Have a good night all. Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'Of course it's easy to misunderstand the written word...for example tall you obviously didn't pick up the fact that I was uncomfortable with the things you were saying. So it goes both ways doesn't it, you yourself are not picking up the tone of some posts. One man here asked me out four times, not wanting to hear my "no, thanks" until I just about threw it at him. Even then he only read the "You're too old" bit, while completely ignoring the "I'm not in any way attracted to you". On paper I'm sometimes far too polite. Wouldn't have happened if this conversation had been in person.
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
Are you sure that man was actually asking you out ? Perhaps he may have been actually just wishing to simply enjoy some time in your company ? Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
dont for get to mention "keen" and "up for it" "am bored" in teh message content :)oh, i have used full profile names in the mesage heading and contents.. but never got a reply.. So it doesnt matter what you do, beacuse its like the saying: damn if you do.. damn if you dont. personally.. we all blind to reality.... just saying. :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hello Fellow RHP Members This has been a bit of an eye opener for me, I don't normally read the forums but this one I have read every post. It has confused the hell out of me after the first few posts that I had to keep reading. I get called all those names that you ladies are complaining about form women that I speak to and who answer messages I have sent out (not just this site) I always start the message with Hello or Hi and the Profile name and at the end of the message I sign off with my real first name ..... I always do that because I'm not fond of Hon, Darl, Sweetie and what ever else, so I don't call women it..... I have a name and I will tell someone my name the first time I contact them, so it can be used from there on. I Some women wont tell you there name (that's their choice) I have had contact by email and phone and not been told a name till we met for coffee. Sorry ladies but until tonight I only thought it was women who used these pet name repeatedly. ..... Oh don't get me wrong I agree with you totally what you are saying, you should be called by your name or profile name..... BIG BUT it is not a one sided gender thing. I only message women so I haven't had a guy call me darl lol ..... New topic should be why do people use these pet names ... not why do men!!! Signed Olhenry
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ms.Marple and MesCharlie2 will be along shortly to answer your post as well. Do you have a BROTHER?I would love to meet him.Does he like rolls around in the hay as well??FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have never posted a comment on here before and probably wont again. I did it to explain my experience's .. but if you want to mock me for my opinion, when your are so defensive of yours when others have spoken out against them, well that's ok. I agree with what you say as in use my name.. but not out to get into a petty mocking war of words. just not my thing ... have an awesome day
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Tall_n_Hard' Are you sure that man was actually asking you out ? Perhaps he may have been actually just wishing to simply enjoy some time in your company ? Tall Considering he wrote things such as "I could fulfil many of the areas you are looking to enjoy" and " Sex is a given" I sincerely doubt that.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't see a question in your post, but absolutely women use these pet names as well. Though I think plenty of people mentioned this throughout this thread? Welcome!
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RHP User
11 years ago
just like in real life,some men do not get,that no,means no
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RHP User
11 years ago
just like in real life,some men do not get,that no,means no
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have a funny feeling we have met before??FOXY
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mesmerised' Quoting 'Tall_n_Hard' Are you sure that man was actually asking you out ? Perhaps he may have been actually just wishing to simply enjoy some time in your company ? Tall Considering he wrote things such as "I could fulfil many of the areas you are looking to enjoy" and " Sex is a given" I sincerely doubt that. It appears you must have made quite an impression to the gentleman for him to be persistent. I would say that perhaps he may have been quite taken about what he could glean about your personality through your profile and forum commentary. I'm sure he must have been quite complimentary to you in other areas that you have not put forward - surely it would not have been all negative ? Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
You asked a question and I answered it honestly. That you are not happy with the answer is too bad. But I'd like to get back on topic, really. Just got another email from a gentleman calling me sweetie, saying he is staying in a hotel today only and is awaiting my mobile number to arrange some fun. :-\
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hey mes ! (Dollbabe) Why don't you come for drive out to mudgee this arvo... I can give you two nights ;) Hp xo 💌 I think I'll just go hide now... Xo- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
It gets better. We must meet tonight, as he's flying to France tomorrow. He's single he says, yet messaged from a couples profile... Poor snookums.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I would call my American ex "Honey" every now and then, which he hated. Though thinking about it, I would say it in the most sarcastic tone and only when he pissed me off.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Foxy .... maybe we have, but Id hope it was a good feeling Olhenry
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RHP User
11 years ago
It appears you must have made quite an impression to the gentleman for him to be persistent. I would say that perhaps he may have been quite taken about what he could glean about your personality through your profile and forum commentary. I'm sure he must have been quite complimentary to you in other areas that you have not put forward - surely it would not have been all negative ?Does it matter whether he was complimentary or not. Mes had told him NO THANKYOU! And I really wonder why you need to justify the behaviour of some unknown bloke and make excuses for him. Do you defend stalkers as well? Sheesh Wild AS
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RHP User
11 years ago
welcome to the forums olhenry...I am not sure why you were mocked ,a puzzle to me too...please keep on posting
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RHP User
11 years ago
Agreed. :D Although maybe I am dumb, but I didn't think Foxxy was dissing you at all??
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RHP User
11 years ago
That same guy emailed me, however he is staying in the hotel for 5 days now before he is flying back to Belgium. Does he think you must be TERRIFIC too? Hehe. I told him to go hire a hooker.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Tall_n_Hard' have a running relay commentary on the understandings that some people may, and others not, have about the various subtleties in writing. As a number of you have noted, there can be difficulties in understanding via the written medium, and we will not always get the understandings right. Visualization and vocalization is indeed quite helpful in determining what may be intended by a persons speech, but it is not always required. You can normally adequately perceive if there is satire, or sarcasm, or overtones, or whatever, if you refer back to past writing between the parties and you will understand if they are carrying on in their usual mannerisms, or not following pattern. There may be, for example, key words that will be used in normal writing, and these words may be altered by some fashion when other meanings are intended. Wildsong, you may not agree or even perhaps understand, but it is indeed possible in my opinion. The principle is very similar, for example, in being able to read someone's writing upside down, or mirror image, or upside down mirror image. It just takes a bit more effort. Meeka - the communication problems we had stemmed from me using various terms of endearment previously. You did not initially come back to me advising that this annoyed you, but rather waited til I had communicated with you a number of times. Because you delayed your response I could only go by the fact that you hadn't objected and therefore I continued, apart from the fact that you didn't communicate much with me either, so I couldn't assess your views. Mind reading via email is something I have not mastered, just yet. You equally did not understand that I was just trying to be friendly. Indy - you should know better than saying that we can't always know someone just by what they write.... I'm just having a crack at you - but you know what I mean, don't ya my friend. Have a good night all. Tall I can't tell if you are smart or stupid. Are you taking the piss or are you piss and vinegar? I'm confused.The reason these words have the suffix "tone" is because they require sound. Words came out our mouths before they came out our fingers.Still don't understand how you expected to get laid with this post. Do you have any money?stupid words.Love lamp.RA
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RHP User
11 years ago
Im all good with Foxy, no probs what so ever. As for posting we will see, Im all for differing oppinions ... If we were all the same it would be bloody boring lol Olhenry
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RHP User
11 years ago
your perspicacity is only exceeded by your good looks...Jim
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
Quoting 'RandomAgent' Quoting 'Tall_n_Hard' I can't tell if you are smart or stupid. Are you taking the piss or are you piss and vinegar? I'm confused. The reason these words have the suffix "tone" is because they require sound. Words came out our mouths before they came out our fingers. Still don't understand how you expected to get laid with this post. Do you have any money? stupid words. Love lamp. RA I selected the word "overtone" because it is more easily understood in the context of the discussion. Just because you can't understand a concept, does not make it stupid. There are smarter people than you on site - perhaps you should acquaint yourself with some. Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
Meet Freya. She's real smart she is.
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RHP User
11 years ago
But then again, it could be the fool in me coming out
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RHP User
11 years ago
"Sugar pie, honey bunch. You know that I love you. I can't help myself..." :-*
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Tall I get you.....but as I said, sometimes if you feel you have upset someone you should just back away gracefully and harm none. My mother is HUGE on the old saying, "less said soonest mended" and I tend to agree. Also recalling that I have said I do not get into the politics here and simply treat others as they treat me and find them as I may. I DON'T talk out of school, nor in school for that matter.....maybe that makes me somewhat MUTE.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Pigs arse !! Always telling us how it is :) Passionate but never political. Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Quoting 'Highpriority'Pigs arse !! Always telling us how it is :) Passionate but never political. Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it... I hardly think I ever tell anyone here in this den of deviants "how it is" HP. But I'm a lover not a fighter, unless the fight resembles RA's game of Struggle....lol which I would inevitably LOSE!!! and yes dear friend you are worth it too xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I call myself a girl and I don't mind when someone calls me a girl. I call guys cutie in a first email if they contact me. I don't care what I am called if I can tell there has some thought gone in to it and it's not just a generic email. If you greet me with "hi blondie"... it's fine by me. After all, I'm on RHP to find fuck buddies, not find a husband.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I hate to say it but the reality is pet names are easy as some of these guys have a tendency of Freudian slips with names. Kate I mean Krystal I mean Joan. Shit I'll just stick with babe lol lol lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
Lighten up a bit. I'm surprised at the depth of feeling on this.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I totally undestand where you Ladies are comming from. From a mans perspective, he just wants to be friendly. Ok he may not be much of a comunicator and probably not much in bed ither, but he is trying. On the other side of the coin, I don't like it when a woman (especially if she is so gross I wouldnt fuck her with someone elses dick) calls me "Mate". I get that vomit taste in my mouth. So it cuts both ways. Try not to feel put out by it and just roll with it ladies. Maybe you don't realise just how much harder it is for us guys to get a root. How much extra effort we have to put in. And then you want to give us a score out of 10. Hey, I get messaged from guys I don't want. But we'r all on here advertising ourselvs for sex. Roll with it Ladies.
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RHP User
11 years ago
pimp my sweet tart , lines of lust should get all the closet hiding rooters attention
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RHP User
11 years ago
aren't our handles themselves pet names for our own perceptions of oneself? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I work in a male dominated industry and often get "Thanks Love". The dynamic gets interesting when you call them Love first "Morning Love". Lots of interesting reactions to that one. Especially when said dismissively. xox
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Kinkybinature' I totally undestand where you Ladies are comming from. From a mans perspective, he just wants to be friendly. Ok he may not be much of a comunicator and probably not much in bed ither, but he is trying. On the other side of the coin, I don't like it when a woman (especially if she is so gross I wouldnt fuck her with someone elses dick) calls me "Mate". I get that vomit taste in my mouth. So it cuts both ways. Try not to feel put out by it and just roll with it ladies. Maybe you don't realise just how much harder it is for us guys to get a root. How much extra effort we have to put in. And then you want to give us a score out of 10. Hey, I get messaged from guys I don't want. But we'r all on here advertising ourselvs for sex. Roll with it Ladies. A word can make you vomit?? This place get curiouser and curiouser.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Yeaah! I found it..... I had to bring this FORUM TOPIC up AGAIN! Cause some people just don't get it...women do not like being called Babe! Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
that *possibly* a lot of guys would love a lady to call them by a cute pet name, such as hun, babe, sexy, etc.......I would never feel put down, but rather admired (that's from a male perspective). But then it could just be me But I understand a lot of the ladies don't like it, they feel demeaned
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' Yeaah! I found it..... I had to bring this FORUM TOPIC up AGAIN! Cause some people just don't get it...women do not like being called Babe! Foxy Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' Yeaah! I found it..... I had to bring this FORUM TOPIC up AGAIN! Cause some people just don't get it...women do not like being called Babe! Foxy This little piggy is is on the cyber market....
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RHP User
11 years ago
But you're all just babe-a-lusciously babed out to me :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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