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Are RHP men relationship material?
February 10 2015
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On_Safari
10 years ago
Ok so it started off with: receivedreadHi thanks for stopping by xxFeb 07 2015Hi I saw your profile and had to contact. A little about me i am tall, dark, handsome, well hung & built like a league player & quiet intelligent. I am looking for someone i can connect with both sexually and also to have a good conversation. I have had a lot of experience and havent met my match yet. I like to explore and have fun and i am always respectful to woman. Email me on (email address) if you want to contact me or reply back on here. I hope to hear from you. P.s. I gave you permission to see my private pics can i please see yours thanks (Insert hopeful's name here)My rude message: Thank you but I didn't stop by. You're punching above your weight (hopeful's name), but I'm sure some other lady who won't out do you will enjoy your attention. Please read profiles in future and not just go on the pretty pictures, you would see you are entirely outside my preferences. Nice approach though so I wish you well. IOSHis response:LOL, You clearly rate yourself highly for a woman who has passed her prime (middle aged) with tuck shop arms, a nose that requires surgery & a double chin. The most funny thing is i did read your profile, the whole fucking 10 pages of it (LOL). The only reason I sent you a message is like every man if I see a woman with big tits I want to fuck it, don't flatter yourself thats what most men think doesn't mean you are any good. Another tip if you are looking for a relationship or a BFTF (Boyfriend that fucks) as you call it perhaps you should try the normal dating sites such as e harmony, oasis active, & RSVP etc. Websites such as this one or adult match maker is simply for fucking. Now don't get angry or upset about this message I have sent you, go & read the rude message you sent me perhaps then you will understand why. My first message was polite & respectful everything you are not. Good day. (sigh) is there relationship material here? I've met quite a few men here Meeka and I have to say some of them are divine and are now friends of a strictly platonic nature. I met one last year but he was adamant he had too much baggage and was doing his own head in as far as I could see. I'm not going to say there aren't relationship material men here, I'm just going to say I haven't met an unattached one yet. NB: This is not a man bashing thread I hope to hear some hopeful inspiring stories of awesome men who became very desirable partners.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You told him he's punching above his weight after his pleasant (though I agree, unappealing) first message. Did you really expect him to politely agree with you? Meeks, I've met some great guys here who I think would make great partners to someone (or someones) else. I wouldn't mind meeting one who'd become more than a lover and friend. :-)
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Quiet Intelligent... indeed. I accept that people are people... wherever they are. And believe that if a guy is going to be abrupt, discourteous, pushy and takes rejection terribly in here.... or isn't prepared to inset in themselves beyond templates and empty profiles..... then he'll not be much better beyond here because its his attitude that causes that. Same applies for the women. However, as for the chances of meeting someone for a committed relationship in here? I say for me the odds aren't good... simply because under my list of preferences, there are only about 6 genuine profiles in this site that fit..
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lovman8
10 years ago
.......after all I've been married 39 years. I feel I may have opened myself to some questions or worse with that one!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Just don't look in this direction.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Funlover71' Just don't look in this direction. I suppose I should have added, how men have you met who you thought would be emotionally available if they met the right person.....even if they didn't tell you that outright. I mean, a woman always knows right. Bwhahaha
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Quiet Intelligent... indeed. Why thank you......I think? However, as for the chances of meeting someone for a committed relationship in here? I say for me the odds aren't good... simply because under my list of preferences, there are only about 6 genuine profiles in this site that fit.. My mind boggles as to what your preferences are? Or is it that the women have too many preferences ticked that you are not into? Hmmm. Although I am sorry to break your heart DG, no matter how much you pray to the man in the sky, Charlize Theron is simply not going to join RHP.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I couldnt see it ,why not ?! i am in one ...we met through RHP and have wonderful relationship ,i have met few good men on here in the past and just like any other men some of them are definitely BF material , good men with good manners , caring ,intelligent and some i dated them for awhile and didnt pursuit further becouse of distance , anyway good people everywhere including on RHP so you shouldnt be discouraged...and currently i am dating my partner for a year and we had so much fun , and very caring of each other despite huge age difference but yes possible.
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TheLuckyOne
10 years ago
I have been thinking a lot about this lately. I can't remember the last time I met a man from here because even though my profile states that I'm not looking for a ONS, I assume that those few men who do contact me are just desperate and after sex with anyone willing. They are very probably lovely men but after reading their profiles, they are all here for NSA hookups (which is understandable) but that is not what I am looking for. So no, I personally do not believe that any men on this site are relationship material. Not with me, anyway.
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Quiet Intelligent... indeed. Why thank you......I think? However, as for the chances of meeting someone for a committed relationship in here? I say for me the odds aren't good... simply because under my list of preferences, there are only about 6 genuine profiles in this site that fit.. My mind boggles as to what your preferences are? Or is it that the women have too many preferences ticked that you are not into? Hmmm. Although I am sorry to break your heart DG, no matter how much you pray to the man in the sky, Charlize Theron is simply not going to join RHP. The reference to quiet intelligent... was kind of evidence that... he wasn't.... at least not in the spelling department. And as for Charlize..... she was soooooo dumped when she hooked up with Sean Penn.Coz... he went full retard. NEXT!!!!! DG
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RHP User
10 years ago
Men tell me all the time, pillow talk that no they would never get into a relation ship with a woman off rhp. What they put in the profile is a means to an end to get a fuck. Those that I have seen here posting year in year out and still looking for hugh Jackman or the chick that's so perfect it's obviously a fake profile. Let's face it the fake profile is always perfect. That honest man who replied to your rude post. Now I agree with him. We as women on this site punch way way above our weight, and delude ourselves the guy is so into us. If you can't snag a man offline in a normal social setting, if you do not have men slobbering over you when you go out, if your not getting taken home to meet the famy, and all you see us his bedroom. Then turn in the light bulb and take a long hard look at yourself. Your still here? So it can't be working if a relationship is what you want. So meeka, it's a no from me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well I am at the stage now where I have only had FWB's and not any exclusive types for so long that I'm unsure if I'd know how to be in a relationship. I've just worked out it's been 10yrs since I've had a girlfriend. Ok.... Now I feel embarrassed....
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inspirit
10 years ago
Nope. I am not on here "looking" for a long term relationship. Just friendship, I have met some wonderfull men whom I have been friends with for up to 4 years. (Do the sums) Personally I see men in here looking for just sex unless stated in their profile and even then ............... it is a sex site and I do completely understand that. I have also many of the men in here have loads of baggage. Not just carry on. My due date for caring expired a while ago. IOA _ I think your response was harsh and if some one aid the same thing to me *punching above your weight" I think I would of told them to go fuck themselves as well as it will probs be the only root they will get off her (We are not all born beautiful nor equal)
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Circe
10 years ago
And generally the men here are too damaged to be relationship material. Many are very hurt by past relationships and most are recently separated. Lots of the guys on here know they're not a great catch- they either have financial problems or personal problems and need to sort their shit out before most women will look at them seriously... Its sort of true that most of the good ones are taken... That said.... Nearly all of the guys I've met here over the last few years have been lovely and probably will be relationship material once they pick themselves up and dust themselves off... Also, when I did meet the last remaining good one (only after I'd given up the idea of doing so- just when you least expect it...) i jumped on him. So sorry girls, I'm sure there will be another along with the next blue moon.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Regardless of how you feel when you come on to this site, if you meet "the one" then does it matter where you met them? Im not looking for a relationship, like most of the people on here, but if I met someone on here who blew me away and the feeling was mutual, I wouldnt discount the chance of a relationship just because we met on RHP. Guys on here get a bad name, e.g., just looking for one off sex, will tell you anything to get into your panties, etc, but I have met a few really lovely guys and we are still friends - they will make great partners when they find the right girl for them. Some have told me that they would like to meet someone on here, who likes sex, because their ex wives/girlfriends were never interested? As one put it, he had to wait for birthday and Christmas sex.
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RHP User
10 years ago
A relationship that your discussing is between 2 people yes ?? So i dont know why Op even asked im pretty sure op uses men to try out the latest strap on , and treats there ass like they treat hers . With no respect i would suggest ? And if you dont respect the ass your fucking then how could you possibly respect the person who sits on it ? I would like to know if the women that say no they will never meet any man off here ?? Is exactly what they do never meet anyone off here ? As for men being emotionally able or , in a right frame of mind , well is that why every one comes on any site ? Because they have split up ? Been single to long ? Dont go to pubs and clubs , cant go ? I would suggest man and woman are equally in the same boat at different stages through whatever reasons they are here for or why they are here ? Cracks me up how many women say not into one night stands !! Um doesnt it take two people to decide that ? So you like a man chat then fuck ! Next day you did not like the way he stuck his spoof in your hair ! But he loved it and wants to wipe his cock on your curtains next time but ?? You say no thanks but no thanks in most cases i would at a guess think the man and woman decide and more often than not it would be the woman at a guess . So its up to both sexes op ask the question to men and women if you want no generalisations !!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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inspirit
10 years ago
We became great friends after I got into their pants
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zoe69r
10 years ago
Wow very very tough crowd , lol , Koko I agree with you fully who cares where you met the right guy / girl from , if you are both into each other so much then who cares . Personally if I met a lady off here and we both had feelings for each other then yes I would have a relationship with them . Am I looking for ons no not my style , if I meet you and I dont feel any strong connection then it wont go anywhere. I have met some lovely ladies off here and they have become great friends and when we catch up we have a great laugh , but do we jump into the sack , no , as we arnt connected to eavh other in that way , and im fine with that
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RHP User
10 years ago
Only a handful of men from here in nearly three years..I can't say any were memorable..except one,and we are meeting again tomorrow..But he is not relationship material and fortunately,I am not looking for one...an elevated conversation on the other hand,I am always looking for that...oh and hot jungle sex too xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have personally met 22 men from RHP. My situation is such that I have more "available time" than the men I meet. I can meet a man as much as 3 times a week. If I need to spend a couple of nights away from my family too, that can be arranged. It's good to have my husband as my accomplice in supporting such things. Would you believe that I've even discussed with my husband, going overseas on holiday with a "potential" mate ? I act and behave more like a "single" woman now, that is enjoying life !!! I am lucky. I don't have a jealous husband and he doesn't have a jealous wife. We only want what's best for each other. We only want whatever makes the other happy. As to the men I meet; they are more "time" constrained because of their jobs. Some, though divorced or separated, still have family living with them. So from the man's point of view, it would be difficult to commit to a long term relationship. Whereas, I would have no problem if the man was able to make himself available to meet me at least once a week. I have met through this Site, 2 men out of the 22, that I would love to be in a passionate, committed, long term relationship. They are the ones that I was strongly attracted to at "first sight". But as stated before, it's their circumstances that make this type of relationship impossible. Amy
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RHP User
10 years ago
Couldn't have just said "sorry mate you're not my type"???
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RHP User
10 years ago
this gonna get depressing ...... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
In all honesty how would you feel if you received a reply to your initial message to someone saying that "you are punching above your weight"? Just saying! Meeka - yes I have met several relationship material men here. Gorgeous, charming, fun, generous in spirit and a lot to offer the right woman. They only open up that side of themselves when they think they have met someone they want a relationship with. Hardly surprising as most of us have some sort of a defensive wall that only trust will bring down. Non- judgemental attitudes will bring out the best in people, even on RHP. It happens when you least expect it. LG
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well I definately punch above my weight here.First to admit it. Thats not low self esteme, thats a fact, and Im loving it.because im offering what the out of leaguers want.But its what I want that they are offering as well, so its win win, and no one gets hurt.( this is how im playing,not talking about other women)I think my profile explains that Im just a cold hearted bitch who wants good times with like minded people( and scares some people away as well)I also will go for guys that I know arent into anything more than that. I dont want the wining and dining.When asked to do that, I discourage it. Its down to business for me,my business.Purely selfish reasons.I do see some guys again,if its mutual( der of course).I dont like to see them too regularly if we do both agree to play again.I did that with one guy and it got too restrictive.Some Ive stayed in contact with, but not as playmates, so I suppose thats still a form of relationship, in a way. One went from fb to become one of my best friends.Not sexual now,since march last yr,but we hang out and talk on the phone daily. Hes like a sister to me now. Haha. But I know that if I was looking for more of a permenant relationship, I would be focusing on different types of men than those Im attracted to now. And I disagree that "love" cant be found on these types of sites.Fuck, love can happen anywhere!!I was on AMM yrs ago, after a divorce. I was only going on there to sow some wild oats, and I met a guy and we pretty much were besotted with each other instantly. We stayed together for 8 yrs. Commited, no one else. That was a great part of my life. Now I am where I want to be, doing what I want to do, when I want to do it. It may change. Who knows what or who's around the corner. But its how I chose to approach it now. So, in summary of this 2.30am rant, some womens approaches on here are no different to some of the mens. Just the way we go about it is different.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
for a long term relationship could work for people meeting on here, would be to have a trailer or truck big enough for all the baggage. I'm reading women saying men have too much baggage, women saying men have too much baggage. FFS. It's life. Everyone has baggage. The right person will carry your bags and stack them on top of theirs. There's no one here who hasn't got a trolley full. And are people in for a surprise if they think e-harmony or any other site is any different. I just think people on here are readily able to admit they have that baggage, are more open about it and therefore may be more able to find someone here more able to accept it and get on with life. Aahh, deep breath. Feel better now Annie xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
But my baggage is a beautiful set of Louis Vuitton,does that make a difference 😉xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Men who are on RHP and are say RSVP are relationship material, its just a mindset that's all. We have set our minds to categorize one side to another, simple as that. Why, because we are still not as free as we believe we are. I have med a couple of men I thought ohh yes this one is totally what I like. I would never categorize males as a "SLUT" meaning in a bad way because he is on RHP....or as GOOD and relationship material because he is on RSVP, this consumption in my mind is childish. YES THERE ARE PEOPLE ON HERE WHO ARE RIGHT FOR ME< BUT WILL THEY FIND ME< BECAUSE I AM HIDDEN UNDER A BODY WHICH DOESN'T STICK OUT this just popped up in my mind. Love L
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am not looking for a get married and settle down kind of relationship so I don't get messages asking for that. I do however get the you are the girl I want to fuck until I find the woman of my dreams ALL THE TIME. Annoying when you get brushed off for someone else. Especially when they expect you to be exclusive to them and they clearly are not. It is getting a bit old for someone past their prime. A tiny bit of respect can go a long way.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Is one of the long term relationships you can find here. The other kind I not so sure. I think that has to do with the nature of the world we live in. Too many choices. Too much stress, broken relationships , financial and child raising issues. The concept of our own individual "ideal partner" We live in an easy get and just as easy throw away culture. We can communicate a storm in this thing, but not know your neighbour. We can show our bits, offer our bodies but curl into our own longing for intimacy yet terrified of it's power to hurt us. Intimacy is something I crave yet am incapable of giving. So I take a path that feeds my addiction to attention and sex. Others here may also be battered and bruised by the crashes they had in the relationship cage fight. When you step into that ring it's win or loose. Either way you take your knocks and have your scars. It's not an easy thing to share your insides and your out sides. Rhp is just a way to express part of you. If you stay to long in the bakery you will get addicted to the French pastry and forget there is more substance and nutrition to be found else where. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Met of couple of guys who would definitely be relationship material, sadly they were already taken. But I am one of the many who are not looking for a long term relationship right now at this point in my life, but I would definitely not discount a guy from here if the chemistry and attraction were undeniable for both parties.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Bigocean' A relationship that your discussing is between 2 people yes ?? So i dont know why Op even asked im pretty sure op uses men to try out the latest strap on , and treats there ass like they treat hers . With no respect i would suggest ? And if you dont respect the ass your fucking then how could you possibly respect the person who sits on it ? I would like to know if the women that say no they will never meet any man off here ?? I beg your pardon! I will have you know, all jokes aside, that I am very giving loving woman and I love and respect men. I know that my strapon jokes can get taken the wrong way by people and I can understand that. I do have a sarcastic sense of humour which I will change for no man. But BigO, I think most men would realise that I am having a bit of a joke. I only meet people from RHP at meet and greet nights and other events. I don't do the online dating thing. Otherwise, I have had one regular lover for FOUR YEARS who I met almost to the day 5th Feb 2011, who has become my BEST FRIEND and who I MET ON RHP. I tell him everything! So.......... miracles do happen on RHP BigO
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think when people say men and women have too much baggage on RHP, it is more to do with the fact that their baggage is still an issue or a problem and it is holding them back from relationships. People that have just come out of long term relationships and have been hurt by someone else, they hold onto their baggage and use it as a way of pushing people away. Perfectly understandable of course. Everyone needs time to get over their hurts and needs time in order to be ready to move on. As MissBlissBomb alluded to. There appears to be lots of men, and I am sure women, who are in this boat. I have seen it from the men I have met, to the profiles I have read. They are under no circumstances looking for anything more than NSA sex.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'willowtree265' But I know that if I was looking for more of a permanent relationship, I would be focusing on different types of men than those Im attracted to now. This is an interesting point. We look for different types of people when we are looking for LTR as opposed to looking for a casual bonk. Do we?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Vaginatarian82' Well I am at the stage now where I have only had FWB's and not any exclusive types for so long that I'm unsure if I'd know how to be in a relationship. I've just worked out it's been 10yrs since I've had a girlfriend. Ok.... Now I feel embarrassed.... Awww Vagina dude! I don't think that would be too different to most guys in their 20s? I wouldn't feel bad about it, you will know when you are ready to settle down. I have heard though that it is become more common for people in their early 20's to settle down and start a family...... something I would never have even contemplated at that age. But that is me. Although I always wonder what comes first? The urge to settle down or the fact that you meet someone you don't want to live without?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' I am not on here "looking" for a long term relationship. Just friendship, I have met some wonderfull men whom I have been friends with for up to 4 years. (Do the sums) Oh so you are not looking for long term relationships but you have met wonderful men on RHP who you have been friends with for 4 years? Oh dear, that sounds like a long term relationship to me Inspirit!
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Seachange
10 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' this gonna get depressing ...... - Posted from rhpmobile yep. I see it comin...
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inspirit
10 years ago
They have become great friends - I catch up with many of them and will continue to do so for many more years to come. A "relationship" in my book is far different to a "friendship". If we want to get intimate when we catch up, then we do. Who cares - I guess they are fuck buddies - though I don't class them as such as there is more substance. Some of them I have met their families and so on. Can't you make long term friends on here Meeka? For what ever reasons most are single and we singles just mingle
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On_Safari
10 years ago
I don't think it's a crime nor do I thinking telling someone that they are. Alot of you have done exactly the same thing to approaches at some stage so don't play angels. I rarely get messages like that in response and usually the exchanges and shared learning is appreciated. Inspirit no not everyone is born equal, pretty or whatever that's what makes opposites attract. Meander no I didn't think I'd get that venemous a reply but yes it does happen (oh well) he got to vent and I got to see the underlying nature of Mr Honest. Silkpeach you know some of my hopes/needs having discussed them with me, not everything is cut and dried though is it. DG I believe I might be one of the 6 but I'm short and stumpy and not a supermodel 😉. Yes I coukd've told him he wasn't my type or I could've done what most others do and not responded to the message at all. Am I arrogant? Those of you here on the forums who've met me would you say that I'm arrogant, up myself, uncaring? I'm still here because of the forum folk, I meet the occassional man here who via messages and conversation gives me something I can't say no to, usually friendship rarely a sexual encounter. I don't pretend to be something I'm not, I don't approach people where "I'm punching above my weight" usually but I have once or twice and it's paid off. Do I meet men in the real world Silkpeach? Yes, yes I do. And I'm exactly the same in the real world as I am here, unlike quite a few my persona doesn't alter when I step away from the keyboard. Back on topic, relationship material among RHP men, I've already said "Yes there are." Can they see betong the label RHP Woman? Given they're here also? Gosh knows, guess it depends on the level of honest maturity and understanding between the people concerned.
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On_Safari
10 years ago
I totally get that.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' this gonna get depressing ...... - Posted from rhpmobile buck up little camper. Look on the bright side of life. Good things come to those who wait. Why sweat the small stuff. Positive thoughts lead to positive results and good roots. If you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams. And you will always look lovely [Ronald Dahl]
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would have to say no I've met some delicious men on here, 3 of which I saw long term where we referred to each other as partners and of those 3, 1 I played house together for a while, yet still continuing our sexual journey together (swinging) Yet invariably when the shit hit the fan and things fell apart (due to their cheating - yes all 3) I was reminded at some point during the yelling and tears and the recriminations that what did I expect considering where we met ?. Apparently my expectations of being faithful and honest were out of line and unrealistic based on how/where we met So no OP IMHO guys on here aren't relationship material. It is a sweeping statement and of course a generalization and I do know there are some lovely men out there. I've had the pleasure of meeting some , but I doubt many are after much more than a warm body to curl up next to for a night or two.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think some people tend to forget that it is people we are dealing with on here not thumbnails of a preconceived idea. Anything can happen anywhere so why limit your thoughts? For a site that promotes openmindedness there are a lot of closed minded people. I am not saying that a relationship is necessarily going to happen on here but I am open to it and I am not that negative about men that I think they are incapable of it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm here to fuck, suck,lick,chew, and expect the same to be done to me, not looking for a relationship, I have an awesome one, I'm just a greedy cum slut that wants to cum over n over, hope my profile reflects that.... Not in so many words of course!!! If a relationship is what you're after, or something a little special, I believe all good things come to those who wait..... Seek n ye shall find... Bullshit!! It happens when you least expect it!! Only my opinion :))
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' But my baggage is a beautiful set of Louis Vuitton,does that make a difference 😉xxFreya Don't worry, your Louis Vuitton set will sit nicely on the back of my B-double Semi-trailer with all my shit. Annie
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Seachange
10 years ago
yes met a couple of fantastic men who I would say would make great boyfriends or LTR lover. But one is married and the others are interstate. But as I am not in that LTR mindset yet and still exploring, meeting men for fwb and occasional 'dates' are enough for me. I am always upfront to what I want and what I can offer as I am time poor. I will be open to the possibilities as I want to meet open minded men. yes, we all have our baggage but we need to be able to manage them and not bury the men with them. For now, RHP may be the valid way for me to meet my immediate needs and if I meet the right person, who knows.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' I think some people tend to forget that it is people we are dealing with on here not thumbnails of a preconceived idea. Anything can happen anywhere so why limit your thoughts? For a site that promotes openmindedness there are a lot of closed minded people. I am not saying that a relationship is necessarily going to happen on here but I am open to it and I am not that negative about men that I think they are incapable of it. Yes but my question Ralf is, have you met any men that you considered to be relationships material? That you could envision having a passionate relationship with? Okay, maybe he wasn't in the market for a relationship or your planets didn't align for whatever reason but still, have you met anyone that you felt you could have a long term relationship with. That is my question.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I think when people say men and women have too much baggage on RHP, it is more to do with the fact that their baggage is still an issue or a problem and it is holding them back from relationships. People that have just come out of long term relationships and have been hurt by someone else, they hold onto their baggage and use it as a way of pushing people away. Perfectly understandable of course. Everyone needs time to get over their hurts and needs time in order to be ready to move on. As MissBlissBomb alluded to. There appears to be lots of men, and I am sure women, who are in this boat. I have seen it from the men I have met, to the profiles I have read. They are under no circumstances looking for anything more than NSA sex. Baggage never goes away. It accumulates over a lifetime. Time sees those bags put in the wardrobe out of the way, but one can never forget that they are in there.Yes maybe until those bags are put away, they may/will get in the way of a new relationship, usually by continually falling over the fucking things. Then after you start a new relationship, after you put the bags in the wardrobe, things will happen in the new journey and either you or your partner will open a case and release all the shit all over again, or a skeleton will fall out that one of you never new existed.So no use trying to ignore the cases. Both need to embrace what's in the cases like it or not. They wont magically disappear. After all, its all the bad/good shit that's happened that makes us what we are today. Gee, I've tried to make mine go away but the wardrobes threatening to burst with the weight. Don't stand in front for god sake............ And I've said it before, no such thing as NSA. You can say it but it means SFA when you talk about humans. Just that on RHP, NSA gets bandied around a lot more than RSVP. Fuck, ya gotta love all the abbreviations...............
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would love to get to know someone on an ongoing basis and at a deeper level again, all that's changed from the last time is that I would prefer someone who swings or at least would like to explore said fantasies together. Anywhichway is right about baggage, you never lose it but your ability to continue in life regardless is what makes you who you are. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
what I meant....was that this probably will end up with guys saying that that's what they're after and yet they don't get replied to and blah blah blah.... Which I'm guilty of in the past I know; but it is kinda depressing seeing the sexes saying the same thing as the other....yet I see a lot of inaction to do anything about it.... The guys that aren't honest with themselves; the women that aren't proactive etc... I'm all good with 27 subs and a happy meal with 3 nuggets lol 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
10 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' what I meant....was that this probably will end up with guys saying that that's what they're after and yet they don't get replied to and blah blah blah.... Which I'm guilty of in the past I know; but it is kinda depressing seeing the sexes saying the same thing as the other....yet I see a lot of inaction to do anything about it.... The guys that aren't honest with themselves; the women that aren't proactive etc... I'm all good with 27 subs and a happy meal with 3 nuggets lol 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile Stir that just flowed as though you pulled up the prime mover, hopped out and stood by the edge of the road to look at the memorising mountains, sunlight flickering steam, butterflies dancing about the flowers, while you had a wonderful piss. Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Anywhichway has nailed it. Life is always going to be full of baggage - it is how you deal with it that counts. Honestly why does it matter to people so much what site you are on? I am sure there are heaps of people that are on this site and all the other "vanilla" dating sites. I met my man on here 6 years ago and prior to that I met wonderful men on this site that I would of considered dating. Life is what you make it! Pusscat xxx
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RHP User
10 years ago
I, M, used to have a single profile on here and another well known site. I was flicking through the profiles in my local country area when I spotted one very different to most others. A lady who had very similar interests to me, and a profile that was funny, intelligent and witty. We exchanged several messages before agreeing to meet at a central, neutral location. We'd both had busy days and were contemplating postponing, but decided not too. When I first saw her I was pleased, her pics had not done her justice. We sat and spoke for hours, sharing stories of our lives, and as we did I was mesmerised by her smile, the way her mouth opened slightly more on one side as she did. Her eyes were big and bright when she laughed. Her voice intoxicating... I digress... As the evening came to a close I walked her to her car. We kissed. Gently, at first. I will never forget my body's response to her touch, or hers to mine. Our kiss became one of the most intense, passionate moments of our lives. It was primal. It was sensual. I have a small scar on the inside of my lower lip that serves as a reminder of our first meeting. We met again a week later and continued where we left off, this time consummating our relationship. Since then we have shared amazing, mind blowing moments. Full body orgasms at a mere touch... Our connection and depth of emotion continues to grow daily. I know it's early days, but I love this woman more each time we have contact, whether it be in person, on the phone or via text. I've met plenty of women since separating a number years ago, in real life and on this and other sites, with varying levels of intimacy following, and wasn't looking for a relationship in the traditional sense. This relationship found me. I fell in love. I wake up thinking about her and it makes me happy. I enjoy the banter and play we share between dates. I digress again. I believe that being upfront about what I liked and wanted physically led me to this beautiful woman I now call mine. I'm grateful that we met on a "sex" site, as it allowed us to communicate our wants and desires directly, openly and honestly. I don't know anyone in their forties or older that doesn't have some baggage, but I believe it's how we carry it that matters. All that I've experienced in the past has led me to where I am right now, and for that I'm also grateful. Life is good. So, to answer your question Meeka, Are RHP men relationship material? Yes, some are. I'm living proof.
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Taleros
10 years ago
Of course there are some people on here that can be potential relationship material. It wasn't on RHP, but we originally met on another RHP-like site so it should apply since they all seem relative. We started out as just playmates then moved to friends with benefits, and after a couple of years of that tried out an actual relationship with one another. Just last month we celebrated two years of officially being together as a couple.
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RHP User
10 years ago
are you stalking me again?? 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Assuming that is what most women consider to be relationship material. If there is a fair share of women here who share those same values( decency and honesty ), then it stands to reason that there are at least as many men...especially considering there are far more males. Or so I've heard.Surely we, the sexes, are not that different, incompatible or inflexible, otherwise we wouldn't thrive as we do. By the way, was that woman's comment suggesting that 99% of RHP men view RHP women as sex objects? I don't. I'm just here to be social. I don't think I'm a 1 percenter...I'm not that special.I think I'd recognise if I was.How many people does one need to meet to make an educated opinion?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I meet people all the time, most are just faces a brief chat and a little socializing, then some are very good looking and a pleasure to look at, some make me laugh out loud all the time, others fascinate me with every word they say. But out off all these people I seldom meet someone that pulls all my strings that makes my heart race. I would guess only about 1 in 100 people would do it for me, if that. RHP is no different and it seems to me that many come here with expectations of easy access to good meat. No way! I would say its around the same, 1 in 100 and as this is a dating site so you cant just meet, there is that extra expectation of something maybe happening. Shit what a waste of time sometimes, all the communication, the complexity of meeting, then finally face to face and 30 seconds later I want to go home. Of all the guys I have meet on RHP of which I have no clue how many only two ever made me want more, and as luck would have it they were as nuts as me so it went no where. With all the whinging I just did I will say that for the very few that make me go zing, it is well worth the 99 others that don't. Not saying the 99 are bad, just that they do nothing for me.
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madotara69
10 years ago
Just love the poetry and charm when you are on fire.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Would I think men on RHP are relationship material...although they don't even want to be fwb it seems...just too much of a commitment. Makes me laugh when the same guys on here want nsa fun and also have a profile on oasis looking for a relationship. Hedging their bets both ways perhaps ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
As my life is still finding its redirection, I can honestly say I am not here for a "permanent relationship", which I understand to be an exclusive arrangement with rules agreed to, because you love each other. I agree that we all collect baggage as has been said, whether its Louie Vuitton or Kmart .. but its whats in it, that has old relinquished values and memories .. You can stack it nicely with a new fellow travelers' if you want, but I think it better to leave it at a station with out a forwarding address, and detach, leave, forget, forgive ... otherwise the chains of parties and pain past will follow you around and impede you. Not always possible, but one must try. .. Having said that, the lovely people I am connecting with are becoming better friends each week, with benefits, because of the above reasoning. So there is a growing pool of friendships, all of whom have potential of some sort .. beyond the immediate mutual satisfaction. They are the relationship potential, but will anything happen? Who knows ! I'm just enjoying the liberty and laughs, no wish to be possessive at this stage, but I don't want to stay in this state permanently, so does that make me potential ? I'm not sure ... time will tell. Waaay too many hot ladies still to meet before that happens !
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inspirit
10 years ago
Great read and I agree. I do think if you are upfront and honest you can find a relationship anywhere, if that is what you desire. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Great story ... and I agree ... I have found the same and wouldn't have wanted to meet any other way. LG
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RHP User
10 years ago
Apologies for the cum slut in me rant... Slightly off topic... Where that damn delete button??!!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've had a couple of LTR's with guys in this scene, and both ended just as Twinkes mentioned. Still, I'd never say never, that's generalising too much. As has been mentioned, relationships can be found and started anywhere. And there are some really wonderful men on this site, I'm aware of that! ☺️ But statistically... most men aren't really on here looking for a relationship. (Same for many women - thanks Willowtree, my thoughts exactly).
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RHP User
10 years ago
I was not having a shot. You know me, as subtle as a train wreck! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'treegirl' Apologies for the cum slut in me rant... Slightly off topic... Where that damn delete button??!!! Naughty naughty girl! Your cum slant rant will be on the net forever!!!!!!!
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On_Safari
10 years ago
If we all agreed with each other all the time the fora would be a dull place indeed. Any chance of packing Inspirit into your luggage and dragging her over here too?
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RHP User
10 years ago
That I am the Born Again Virgin Queen here..sigh 😒xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
There is someone for every one. People that I would not notice even if I tripped over them are someone's knight on shining armor, someone's sex god, someone's "I do till death." I am amazed so many times at what some of my friends find attractive. They tell me about a wonderful guy they have meet, tout the seemingly endless positive attributes. Then when I finally meet the guy I try to suppress my shock. OMDG girlfriend you have just redefinded bland and dull. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and thus for the question "Are RHP men worth it?" Off course they, every single one of them, the same goes for the women. To imaging that someone is not worth anything to anyone is just too horrible to contemplate. Yes we all judge and assess people, but there is something very ugly at work in the mind of people that make their concept of ideal as the only perfection. Ask your self are you worth it. I do hope you all, every single, tall, short, wide, thin, young, old, dumb, smart, male, female one of you say yes. If you say NO please talk to me and I am sure I will find reason for you to change your mind.
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inspirit
10 years ago
Get ya vag out there. It is just sex and we all need it? I don't know? Don't you woman use men as well. Not that I do They are good company over a few wines and a some use. Disclaimer: I do not use men for sex. It is the mental stimulation and that leads to errrrrrrrm .......
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have only met a handful but of those handful I have found a couple of real gems, two of the sexiest men i could every lay my hands on, my knight in shining armour and my toyboy.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit'Disclaimer: I do not use men for sex. I do! is that wrong????
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ruby_blossum
10 years ago
I started meeting online when I was 48....met some great guys but they still wanted more children so that ruled me out straightup as full time relationship material. At now 56 and my preference is to meet with men around my age, I have found the majority of the men are just seperated and no where near thinking about another relationship...or just serial sluts. As much as I would love to think I could meet a man that would be boyfriend- husband material on rhp, so far I have found the men I have met in my age range appear not to be in that kinda headspace.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Inspirit I would if there were any here to use...that was my point ..most of my mail is not of the propositioning kind..I paid for a membership,I thought I would be proactive but after twenty ages of trawling,I fell asleep..I know this makes you impatient and dismissive,but not every woman's experience is the same here xxFreya
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LightCatcher
10 years ago
Reading this thread I just realised the last 8 months has been the longest I time I've not been in a LTR- in fact in over 25 years my total time out of a LTR would be less than 18 months and the minimum duration for the relationships was 5 years and the longest 12. I"ll more than happily settle into another one too and am completely open about how that may come about - maybe someone here (but least likely simply because as a single guy you get least noticed here by girls than on any other type of site) or on a vanilla site (more likely as I get 20 times the responses I get here) or just by chance. Love LTRs but in the meantime may as well have some fun :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Quoting 'ralf74' I think some people tend to forget that it is people we are dealing with on here not thumbnails of a preconceived idea. Anything can happen anywhere so why limit your thoughts? For a site that promotes openmindedness there are a lot of closed minded people. I am not saying that a relationship is necessarily going to happen on here but I am open to it and I am not that negative about men that I think they are incapable of it. Yes but my question Ralf is, have you met any men that you considered to be relationships material? That you could envision having a passionate relationship with? Okay, maybe he wasn't in the market for a relationship or your planets didn't align for whatever reason but still, have you met anyone that you felt you could have a long term relationship with. That is my question. I have met quite a few really lovely men and as much as I harp on about how crap some men are in bed, some are great out of it and when they find the right person, they will be ready, just hasn't been me yet.
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N4November
10 years ago
My man I met through RHP and been together for 4 years now. I love that we can be totally honest with each other and bust each other perving all the time lol! We don't play as much as we'd like to but when we do we absolutely love watching each. RHP is just a medium to start a conversation. How someone accepts and interacts with others is their choice. But I have no doubt that those on here who complain about lots of things are exactly the same in their real life. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
to generalise. Not all white men have small dicks and can't dance. For example, I only live true to one of those gross generalisations. For both sides of the 'are rhp men/women' relationship material you need to considera) Everyone here (and in the broader community) has a relatively unique view of what a 'right' relationship isb) In any pool, be it a cesspool or tropical plungepool there will only really ever be a small number of mates which fit into your wants or expectations of a relationship anywayc) Those wants are compounded by the fact that two people have individual wants to consider. So that's a lot of things working against you regardless of where you are. Why do you think dating agencies / websites / Perfect Match ever existed? Because so many people think we need to devise a formula, or use a devised formula, for us to find someone 'compatible'. To say rhp is or isn't a place where relationship worthy men exist is like saying f'book or the library is a place where relationship worthy men don't exist. fwiw, I must be relationship material. I am in a relationship, which originated here, and I think I remain suitable material - in fact I would say I have improved as a person in that relationship. So not only did a relationship worthy man exist here once, but the open views / different lifestyle that rhp introduced him to made him even better. Anyone who generalises that women / men of rhp are not relationship material is probably the problem in the relationship
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RHP User
10 years ago
Jean_Girard, well said. Food for thought.
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On_Safari
10 years ago
Jean-Gerard the perfect answer : Thank You
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hi Meeka100: Maybe you should conduct your own social experiment and find out? How many men have you actually taken the initiative to write on here and have proposed meeting up to? I consider myself relationship material, and haven't seen any messages from you. Currently though I'm "in between" relationships, hence why I'm on here because, well, one never knows, and in the meantime, I find it's more fun to meet women here than go to a skanky bar. I've read a few posts on here from women complaining about men, their rude messages, manners, etc. But I think more experimentation and technical validations are required before any such wide and sweeping statements are made. Some men on here are classy, respectable, earn a good living, and can carry a conversation. If you would like to take the "red pill" over the "blue pill" to get started on such a journey, click on my profile name.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'KnotSmiths' I, M, used to have a single profile on here and another well known site. I was flicking through the profiles in my local country area when I spotted one very different to most others. A lady who had very similar interests to me, and a profile that was funny, intelligent and witty. We exchanged several messages before agreeing to meet at a central, neutral location. We'd both had busy days and were contemplating postponing, but decided not too. When I first saw her I was pleased, her pics had not done her justice. We sat and spoke for hours, sharing stories of our lives, and as we did I was mesmerised by her smile, the way her mouth opened slightly more on one side as she did. Her eyes were big and bright when she laughed. Her voice intoxicating... I digress... As the evening came to a close I walked her to her car. We kissed. Gently, at first. I will never forget my body's response to her touch, or hers to mine. Our kiss became one of the most intense, passionate moments of our lives. It was primal. It was sensual. I have a small scar on the inside of my lower lip that serves as a reminder of our first meeting. We met again a week later and continued where we left off, this time consummating our relationship. Since then we have shared amazing, mind blowing moments. Full body orgasms at a mere touch... Our connection and depth of emotion continues to grow daily. I know it's early days, but I love this woman more each time we have contact, whether it be in person, on the phone or via text. I've met plenty of women since separating a number years ago, in real life and on this and other sites, with varying levels of intimacy following, and wasn't looking for a relationship in the traditional sense. This relationship found me. I fell in love. I wake up thinking about her and it makes me happy. I enjoy the banter and play we share between dates. I digress again. I believe that being upfront about what I liked and wanted physically led me to this beautiful woman I now call mine. I'm grateful that we met on a "sex" site, as it allowed us to communicate our wants and desires directly, openly and honestly. I don't know anyone in their forties or older that doesn't have some baggage, but I believe it's how we carry it that matters. All that I've experienced in the past has led me to where I am right now, and for that I'm also grateful. Life is good. So, to answer your question Meeka, Are RHP men relationship material? Yes, some are. I'm living proof. the cynic in me just got knocked on her bum. thank you so much for your post
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'On_Safari' If we all agreed with each other all the time the fora would be a dull place indeed. Any chance of packing Inspirit into your luggage and dragging her over here too? she so should come over, that is for sure. I think quiet a few west ausi gals are heading over. I have still to get her down to here, that woman is always on the go too busy for us country folk down here in bumfuck. pack ya bags Inspirit I think they need you over east.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' That I am the Born Again Virgin Queen here..sigh 😒xxFreya thats my job, remember I had a nic on here virginqueen, now it should be IceQueen
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sneaky_n_ZZ
10 years ago
im going to chime in, i have been a member of this site for 12 years, first on a single profile and now obviously a couple. i played the game i met a lot of great guys to have a lot of fun with. and can say while neither of us were looking with intentions to gain more then a bit of fun, i met ZZ here. nearly 8 years later we are still together. i wouldn't say rhp men or women are not relationship material, i would say its not going to happen if its not what they are looking for. while we were not looking for it, it just happened that we met and have worked for a long time now. i know a lot of people who have met on rhp and had long term relationships, some married and still together, some are not, as far as i see it rhp is like standing in a pub, you can take plenty of people home for a bit of fun but don't write off the possibility that 1 person in the pub may be the one who hangs around. Sneaks.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Or chat queen??
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RHP User
10 years ago
I recently read that generalisations are not offensive because generalisations are generally true, they are just not the whole truth.
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inspirit
10 years ago
I will get there soon Peachy lol ........
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witchy_woman
10 years ago
It maybe possible but most of the people here want NSA or a fuck buddy. The mistake is made when you stop !#$fucking#@! and start making a passionate connection on another level... intense & involving other things besides how many different ways and places you can get his cock in your body😊😈 generally one party feels emotions changing and unless you can communicate. 1.You'll lose your best friend 2.you'll agree it's too crazy and you stop before you fuck the friendship too. 3.you rely on past experiences for guidance, realize it ends with hurt and RUN! Or 4. Good old self sabotage will step in and sort it out for you... So what are the odds you're both on the same page and can communicate openly and honestly?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I recently read that generalisations are not offensive because generalisations are generally true, they are just not the whole truth. I admit that I was generalising about the generalisations.
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RHP User
10 years ago
To the OP, I can only look at myself and not of others when answering your question. Currently for me, I am not "relationship material". Perhaps in a year or two (or even three), or perhaps not at all. I just ended a 13.5 year "relationship" so I had to of been relationship material at some stage leading up to saying the words "I do" and I am currently on RHP. This is assuming the definition of relationship material is anything to do with boyfriend/girlfriend possibly marriage or even monogamy and exclusivity?? So to categorically say men (or women) on RHP are not relationship material for me does not ring true. It has everything to do with timing. We are people after all, just living our lives and going through the motions of what "should" happen. However if you see past the social constructs of what defines a "perfect" relationship and just look at the pure raw almost transcendent passion (with kink thrown in) then yes, each and every single one of us on RHP is of "relationship" material. We are animals after all. We just need to find the right ones to click with. There are a myriad of possibilities and being on RHP gives a higher chance of finding it, compared to sitting at a bar for example. For me I do not handle social constructs very well, if you couldn't tell. :P
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RHP User
10 years ago
Lucky me....... I met him here 5 years ago!
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Plain
10 years ago
and damaged wheres the gun. Of course we are relationship material you never venture onto any site like this or for that matter an RSVP type site and accept what is being thrown at you. At least on RHP you can measure some what may say controversial items that are important writing, communication skills for a start. Profile if it is written properly and honestly can also help in working out if there is a chance of a relationship with a prospective meet.Define relationship friendships are enduring I have a very special ladyfriend, yes we have kissed and cuddled in the earlier days and are still good friends 35 years later. My partner and I being together 30 years and we have been put through the wringer relationship wise and still survive and we are probably more open now about needs and wants etc. And mea culpa I am on here to keep my mind sane not to go bed hopping as I will disclose everything before we further for e.g. during a first up meet.As I wrote in my profile you dont know what could happen Knotsmiths example illustrates this.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Vaginatarian82' Well I am at the stage now where I have only had FWB's and not any exclusive types for so long that I'm unsure if I'd know how to be in a relationship. I've just worked out it's been 10yrs since I've had a girlfriend. Ok.... Now I feel embarrassed.... Vaginatarian82 I totally get what you said...I have been on my own for so long (15 years)I really don't know how to be in a relationship, OR if I even want be in one ...lol... I live in rural area and well this is my social outing and how I meet guys... AT least guys on here are mostly upfront about what they want...other dating sites say they want a relationship but they don't they just want to get into your panties...
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RHP User
10 years ago
I met my bestest wonderful friend here 5 years ago. She and I are still great friends and see eachother regularly.We do not live together ,but our kids know and respect us. We eat out and go away when we can. A wonderful loving thing has happened.As much as men here can be absolutely disgusting, some women have done terrible things to me here too! sadly I have been here for many years....generally I am good at being careful..I am used to men being callous and rude often......BUT.....women have been even worse!!!!!Vicious.It works both ways.......I woman has hurt me so badly here i cried.......and this after meeting in a cool bar, nights of intimacy, calls and texts.....one simply has to be more careful.....
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've met a couple of incredible men on here that I would definitely want to play long term with. However like most men on here, as their profile states, they are not looking for anything like that. So it's never mentioned and I'm happy with the play meets and flirty text banter - after all it's better than Nothing. Just have to remember not to get attached when they have been open and honest from the start. - Posted from rhpmobile
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6exxy
10 years ago
We are here among you. In order to be relationship material you must meet him. You must talk face to face. Look into each other's soul. Swim in the same waters, believe in each other's depth. Touch each other's soul and rise to your place that you call home ❤️
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RHP User
10 years ago
if you know some basic info about a person then all you really need to do to fall in love with them is to stare into each other's eyes for 4 mins... Wtf??? It's not like cooking 2 minute noodles ffs 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' if you know some basic info about a person then all you really need to do to fall in love with them is to stare into each other's eyes for 4 mins... Wtf??? It's not like cooking 2 minute noodles ffs 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile Although there are something like 100 questions to be asked and answered, so it passes 'basic info' level... I thought it was fascinating that feelings could be created that formulaic-ly, just goes to show that emotions really are fickle bloody things...
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Those people who are in a relationship.... or... longer term FB..... next time you're shagging the hell out of eachother... try to hold a solid 3-4 minutes of eye contact without looking away or closing your eyes. Bet you can't.
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RHP User
10 years ago
One of the things I like to do with a lover is to get her to open her eyes and hold my gaze as we make love. That would explain a lot !
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