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Are RHP men relationship material?
February 10 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thats always been very hard for me to do, even when married and/or in love. Sad but true
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RHP User
10 years ago
The information I think you are referring to is from a study by Arthur Aron where thirty three pairs of students were posed a set of thirty six questions which were extremely0personal and revealing..after asking and answering the questions the couples then stared into each others eyes for four minutes..The idea behind this process was that mutual vulnerability would foster closeness.Arons found that indeed the intimacy between strangers was accelerated by this process.Not rocket science,but science xxFreya
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Coops27M
10 years ago
I got to the second comment and lost a few minutes pissing myself to quiet intelligent. That there sir is comedic gold. Glad to see your still onto it as usual. I haven't laughed out loud like that in a long time. Brilliant! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Now i finally get it lol..i have only been on this site for like 3 or 4 days and have made my profile invisible, removed all my photos because i was under the impression that this site was a dating site..haha...before becoming invisible i edited my profile specifying what i was looking for and then bang..it was like i had the plague or something..so much for how stunning, sexy and quite fuckable i was... all has changed because i wanted more....and yes i have also changed my username, why? just because i guess lol
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TheLuckyOne
10 years ago
Welcome to my world! It's all good though. I like it here! 😉
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RHP User
10 years ago
That shows they were reading your profile prettyinpink. 😎
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RHP User
10 years ago
I believe this site is a dating site as much as a hook-up one and I treat it as such. It's given me quality over quantity, which is exactly what I was hoping for. :-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
yep that's the one....but I got the impression there were only a few basic questions.... Soooo...that means I need to ask.. Do you fuck on first dates? Does your dad own a brewery?? Can I feel ya tits? Or will you show em to me? - Kevin bloody Wilson... Now... Stare into my eyes!!! 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am a relationship material.. but unfortunately.. the lack of my hot body... override the abundance of my intelligence.. seems to be a rather slight obstacle :) ~Sparty~
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think a lot of men in adult sites are relationship material ... because so many of them (in my experience) are already in relationships. >.< There 'seems' to be a sizeable percentage of guys that are on multiple platforms - often using the same pics - but sometimes presenting themselves very differently in vanilla sites, compared to on adult sites. And often, it seems, they wouldn't date a girl from here, even though they're looking for it elsewhere. But one other thing I've noticed, is that men on adult sites seem - as previously mentioned by posters - seem in a bad place, either emotionally or financially - who don't seem to turn up in regular dating sites. eg unemployed guys / camping out on friends couches / straight out of a relationship and full of angst. Even though this is a thread about Men - I'm sure it's as equally relevant to women.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have met 1 man that I honestly think that I could be in a passionate committed long term relationship with but only time will tell. I have already said "I love you" to him and he hasn't "run" away. We can easily look into each other's eyes for more than 4 minutes but we do have to close them when we kiss. We are now RHP "exclusive" and in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. It seems that we were fated to meet and when we met, we were 100% attracted to each other. He is all that I was looking for in my "perfect" RHP man and it seems that I am all that he was looking for in a woman. If you are wondering, my husband is OK with our relationship too. He understands; having been in love himself for a 2nd time in his life. So he knows I can too. Amy
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RHP User
10 years ago
...I find your comment curious, that "Men on adult sites seem in a bad place-either emotionally or financially". No offence, but if that is your experience, then perhaps that is just the social type you are attracting. Do you proactively seek out the type of man you would like to meet? I met one lovely person who used that approach, rather than sit and wait for the offers to flood in, and it seemed to work well for her. After all, being proactive is always drummed into us as the only sure-fire way to get what we want.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Since we now have a house and a family. I assume he'll tell me if he's not relationship material eventually. MsK x - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I doubt it. I know I'm here because I'm not in a situation to commit to a full on relationship as I'm not over my ex boyfriend yet. I suppose most people on this site are here for the same thing, to have a bit of fun. Sites like this are great, as we are all on the same page. I've seen people on other sites like RSVP, who got involved with someone they thought loved them, but ended up playing them. People like this should go on this site. This way you won't hurt anyone, because we're all here for the same reason.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well Koolgrey you missed a massive bit of context there. There were many groups of men I mentioned previous to that - so that comment about people in a bad place was obviously not commentary on the majority of users, but rather speaking about minority. And the answer your question - one of my factors in meeting a person is that they're able to host. For security and also to wheedle out those who are not honest about their relationship status. It's at that stage you figure out that there are people about the place that are not in a great place. If I didn't insist on that and was happy to end up in hotels etc, I wouldn't find that out. I haven't come across that at all in regular sites. That was my comment. Yes I seek men out - usually elsewhere. I use adult sites for different reasons... I enjoy the forums and I write erotica - so it's a great place for titbits and insights. My profile does make's it pretty clear I'm not here to meet. Hope that fixes the confusion and answers your questions.
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RHP User
10 years ago
A few years ago when I was using this site to its full potential I met a number of guys that were definitely good relationship material. However, I found that for them (and for me, now I look back) it was just not where their head was at or what they wanted or needed in their life at the time. Generally they wanted to explore and fuck and ultimately not be tied down or committed to anyone but themselves and that is fair enough because I was the same. As they say 'the timing just wasn't right'. My reason for looking here, I hoped that finding someone on a site like this might help me find my equal, give me the type of long term sexual partner that could be with me and not judge my open mind and my kinks. A guy that would think it was hot! A guy that didn't think it was weird that I was ok with an open relationship, as long as he came home to me after his fun and my fun. A guy that encouraged me to explore and be sexy and be kinky with him and with others and then would take me home after whatever the adventure and fuck me senseless. That's why I used this site and not a regular dating site. I think the key here is that if he is boyfriend material, you click well in all aspects and he feels the same about you then stay friends (with or without benefits), be in contact and you never know where time will take you. The timing may be right at some point. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm happy to say that I'm attending a wedding in 2 weeks time of a couple that met through this site, after I encouraged the girl to get on here and have some fun. She had lots of great experiences, then met this guy, and whammo!!!! Luuuuurrvvve! Love a happy ending!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'HennaJay'... Even though this is a thread about Men - I'm sure it's as equally relevant to women. Exactly what I was thinking, so I started a topic in reverse... My path to this site was through a breakup/separation - although amicable, as I am rather hungry sexual being and did not cope well without it... but now I am starting to realise that the companionship is what all humans are ultimately after - so maybe women feel the same and finding that they do not want to "date" most men from here..?!?The fact that I no longer believe in monogamy is prob the reason women are avoiding me. I don;t believe I need to be the "one and only" for them, but for most women the thought that their man would appreciate and love another human being is not acceptable.
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TallBaldSexy
10 years ago
Ahh are there not people on here who are divorced, separated or in indeed in a relationship?.....If so at some point, for a period of time, some still ongoing, both parties were indeed seen by the other to be relationship material. I find the notion that " men" or "women" on RHP not of relationship material to be a contradiction in terms and absolutely demeaning.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'cairnsgal65' I doubt it. I know I'm here because I'm not in a situation to commit to a full on relationship as I'm not over my ex boyfriend yet. I suppose most people on this site are here for the same thing, to have a bit of fun. Sites like this are great, as we are all on the same page. I've seen people on other sites like RSVP, who got involved with someone they thought loved them, but ended up playing them. People like this should go on this site. This way you won't hurt anyone, because we're all here for the same reason. You have got to be kidding me! We are most certainly not all on the same page, in fact there are so many pages on RHP that it would be hard to pinpoint the most used page. you have married people wanting an affair, wanting a lover, wanting girlfriends or boyfriends to other people who only want to meet other people down in the park for a fuck... please no names required. From people looking for swinging partners to go to parties with to people who wouldn't dream of having group sex. there are such a variety of people here and we are all here for a different reason. Well, the women are in any event.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Kinkstersinc' Since we now have a house and a family. I assume he'll tell me if he's not relationship material eventually. MsK x - Posted from rhpmobile Lucky you.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'bosch_sparks' Quoting 'HennaJay'... Even though this is a thread about Men - I'm sure it's as equally relevant to women. Exactly what I was thinking, so I started a topic in reverse... My path to this site was through a breakup/separation - although amicable, as I am rather hungry sexual being and did not cope well without it... but now I am starting to realise that the companionship is what all humans are ultimately after - so maybe women feel the same and finding that they do not want to "date" most men from here..?!?The fact that I no longer believe in monogamy is prob the reason women are avoiding me. I don;t believe I need to be the "one and only" for them, but for most women the thought that their man would appreciate and love another human being is not acceptable. No offense Bosch. This is quite a typical divorced man thing to say I reckon. Sure it is all good to say now when you are not ready for another serious relationships but it isn't always so easy to see your partner with others when you are in love with them. Sure you could really handle that? Maybe you are genuine in your belief about monogamy....and of course I am probably doing the cynical woman thing. But to me that is a man in the middle of a divorce saying those things, heard it all before really.
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IamMrSilly
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' there are such a variety of people here and we are all here for a different reason. Well, the women are in any event. In my humble opinion, the same applies to the men on RHP as well, and there are so many different people in different circumstances, carrying different baggage but on a trip to different destinations... RHP is just the airport lounge of relationships? hmmmm and so many of us without a ticket or sure of which plane we were meant to be on or if we already missed it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' ... but it isn't always so easy to see your partner with others when you are in love with them. Sure you could really handle that? ...Yes, we have been non-monogamous for about 18 month before separating. And no - that was not the reason why we decided to separate, just don't have the personalities as compatible as we'd need to to sustain another 2 decades or more together...
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have met a couple of really nice men who would be great in a relationship. I'm emotionally not in a place for a relationship and put no pressure on anyone to attempt or consider a relationship with me and I ask the same in return. I guess we are all here for our own personal journey. If you are open to opportunities they will present themselves. Interesting topic and has certainly generated much discussion OP!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' ... but it isn't always so easy to see your partner with others when you are in love with them. Sure you could really handle that? ... Curious you seem to be implying that non-monogamous is a short lived situation based on a current relationship status, I would suggest (politely) that it is a sexuality identifier as much as being Bi, gay or straight. Those that genuinely see themselves as non-monogamous enjoy the idea of sharing, feel they are putting sex in the right context within their relationship. A relationship itself has far more important elements than sex but conventional monogamous society dictates that sex is the most important and therefore must be exclusive no matter how boring or incompatible people get. The difference between men and women is often clearly displayed, women are more likely to be concerned about companionship particularly in later life, whereas men feel the dawning of age sexually more obviously as they see the young get so much more than they do. You can have a genuine long term relationship with someone that gives both parties what they need, some people need to have a side serving of variety to sustain the everyday.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Quiet Intelligent... indeed. I accept that people are people... wherever they are. And believe that if a guy is going to be abrupt, discourteous, pushy and takes rejection terribly in here.... or isn't prepared to inset in themselves beyond templates and empty profiles..... then he'll not be much better beyond here because its his attitude that causes that. Same applies for the women. However, as for the chances of meeting someone for a committed relationship in here? I say for me the odds aren't good... simply because under my list of preferences, there are only about 6 genuine profiles in this site that fit.. Well I am single and whilst I have not set out to meet someone for a serious relationship here on RHP I would not be against it..It has to be someone I am compatible with (click with) and that for me includes a great deal of brain and compatibility in sex - so RHP is just as good to find someone for a serious relationship as any other dating site, isn't it..One just have to keep on trying :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Brunnication' Quoting 'Meeka100' ... but it isn't always so easy to see your partner with others when you are in love with them. Sure you could really handle that? ... Curious you seem to be implying that non-monogamous is a short lived situation based on a current relationship status, I would suggest (politely) that it is a sexuality identifier as much as being Bi, gay or straight. Those that genuinely see themselves as non-monogamous enjoy the idea of sharing, feel they are putting sex in the right context within their relationship. A relationship itself has far more important elements than sex but conventional monogamous society dictates that sex is the most important and therefore must be exclusive no matter how boring or incompatible people get. The difference between men and women is often clearly displayed, women are more likely to be concerned about companionship particularly in later life, whereas men feel the dawning of age sexually more obviously as they see the young get so much more than they do. You can have a genuine long term relationship with someone that gives both parties what they need, some people need to have a side serving of variety to sustain the everyday. Sorry, but the guy has been monogamous his whole life except for the last few years when he hasn't been "in love" with his wife no doubt, so you will forgive my cynicism. He is saying he now is non-monogamous? I can tell you that this is not an uncommon thing for a newly divorced guy to say to be honest. I am just putting it out there that if he met someone and fell in love again....... he may think differently. That is all.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Brunnication' Curious you seem to be implying that non-monogamous is a short lived situation based on a current relationship status, I would suggest (politely) that it is a sexuality identifier as much as being Bi, gay or straight. No, I am implying in this instance, that is due to Bosch's history from what he has said above, that it may be short lived situation. I don't know for sure of course as I don't know Bosch. Again, a divorced man saying he wants to play the field, that he doesn't' want monogamy, that he doesn't' believe people should be monogamous, that he is not meant to be monogamous is a common thing. Whether all these guys maintain this view when they meet and fall in love with someone new. Well who knows? Just pointing out that it is easy to say this when you have a partner you are in like with........ not everyone can do this with a partner they are in love with. Just being realistic here.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Quoting 'Brunnication' Curious you seem to be implying that non-monogamous is a short lived situation based on a current relationship status, I would suggest (politely) that it is a sexuality identifier as much as being Bi, gay or straight. No, I am implying in this instance, that is due to Bosch's history from what he has said above, that it may be short lived situation. I don't know for sure of course as I don't know Bosch. Again, a divorced man saying he wants to play the field, that he doesn't' want monogamy, that he doesn't' believe people should be monogamous, that he is not meant to be monogamous is a common thing. Whether all these guys maintain this view when they meet and fall in love with someone new. Well who knows? Just pointing out that it is easy to say this when you have a partner you are in like with........ not everyone can do this with a partner they are in love with. Just being realistic here. Let me answer for myself. We all wish when without a partner that it would be a short-lived situation. It;s the best thing to share life and the fun it brings with someone. However, even while I am keen to meet a person for long term, everyone I become friends with (whether it develops sexually or not) will be told that I do not intend to make a promise of monogamy. Women often just assume that the promise was made - and might get disappointed by the nature of men (not wanting to generalise just observe). But everyone (man or woman) would love to have that ideal partner at all times with whom to share everything openly and deeply... we're just not all that lucky ... but we live in hope ;-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Sorry, but the guy has been monogamous his whole life except for the last few years when he hasn't been "in love" with his wife no doubt, so you will forgive my cynicism. He is saying he now is non-monogamous? I can tell you that this is not an uncommon thing for a newly divorced guy to say to be honest. I am just putting it out there that if he met someone and fell in love again....... he may think differently. That is all. Has he ? Is it only the last few years ? I'd put it out their that those who genuinely hold the view that love is distinctly separate to sexual exclusivity, (yes agreed a small number of people hold that view and predominantly men) do so because it makes sense to them. Whether they live that way full time is a balance between choice and practicality. For example if Bosch tells everyone on a first date he intends to be non-monogamous forever I'd suggest he won't have too many more LTR's. However if they openly and continually discuss their sexual requirements from the relationship as it develops, explain the context sex should hold, then who knows he might just find the one that eliminates the need to look elsewhere.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Brunnication' Quoting 'Meeka100' Sorry, but the guy has been monogamous his whole life except for the last few years when he hasn't been "in love" with his wife no doubt, so you will forgive my cynicism. He is saying he now is non-monogamous? I can tell you that this is not an uncommon thing for a newly divorced guy to say to be honest. I am just putting it out there that if he met someone and fell in love again....... he may think differently. That is all. Has he ? Is it only the last few years ? ... Might as well tell you all - yes, few years, mutual agreement, I had friends, my partner had some, and we knew/talked about it... However, her friend developed a more emotional attachment, while all the time failed to discuss with his wife... What can I say? Men ! Bloody cheaters. So it did not ended nicely for him and her having to break it up.Can love be distinct from sexual relationship - yes, correct, and I know people like that. As long as the primary relationship is strong both partners can have friends with physical attraction that is kept at the level they are both happy with. I know it sounds like playing with fire but isn't life meant to be exciting..?!? Or would everyone just like to keep things "safe" and "ordinary"..?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I will ask my married boyfriend shall I? 😝
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'zappeddancer' I have met a couple of really nice men who would be great in a relationship. I'm emotionally not in a place for a relationship and put no pressure on anyone to attempt or consider a relationship with me and I ask the same in return. I guess we are all here for our own personal journey. If you are open to opportunities they will present themselves. Interesting topic and has certainly generated much discussion OP! Thank you - same here really, I'm open to opportunities and trying to find friends along the way... It;s not always sex, or if it is then it does not have to end and I keep a few friends still that were FWBs before...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Single man here that's relationship material *puts hand up* 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'ManOfColours75' Single man here that's relationship material *puts hand up* 😊 Yes, we were all there at some point in time (or several points)
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TheLuckyOne
10 years ago
I may just have to change my opinion on this. Maybe ☺️😜
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'bosch_sparks' Quoting 'zappeddancer' I have met a couple of really nice men who would be great in a relationship. I'm emotionally not in a place for a relationship and put no pressure on anyone to attempt or consider a relationship with me and I ask the same in return. I guess we are all here for our own personal journey. If you are open to opportunities they will present themselves. Interesting topic and has certainly generated much discussion OP! Thank you - same here really, I'm open to opportunities and trying to find friends along the way... It;s not always sex, or if it is then it does not have to end and I keep a few friends still that were FWBs before...
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RHP User
10 years ago
In the big world, boy meets girl, they have coffee, they see each other, start dating, develop a relationship, grow together and then the BIG DEAL is .. do we have sex. Either before marriage or after. In here, we meet for coffee, decide if we're gonna have sex, then after, the BIG DEAL is, do we continue to see each other and build relationship .. and then wonder about quality ... I think it's just funny ... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would certainly hope I am to some lovely lass out there. But compatibility in the life I choose to lead needs to be there.
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Dryphuz
10 years ago
And i'm not going to. Just surprised this thread is still kicking. So i thought I'd add my 2 cents. Some men are relationship material, some men aren't. Some of both will be on RHP. I don't think RHP skews the percentages by any appreciable degree. I haven't seen any real douchebags on here, not nearly as many douchebags as i see at the pub or club, so it's quite possible the men on here are even more likely to be better relationship material.
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RHP User
10 years ago
The kind of traits that draws someone here, slutty (op's word) is one but I would also add open minded, courageous, confident and intense as others. All these things are traits I would look for in a relationship partner.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Men on RHP are definitely relationship ,material and so are the women.......really.....everyone is if they are open to it. I joined RHP just to "hook up" as I was over "looking for the one".....I had been doing that for over 11 years. When I met my current boyfrined (male part of this couple) it was only meant to be a hook up.......but it was a mutual attraction from the start. We didn't turn it into a relationship straight away (or didn't admit to it), nut it was definitely going to head that way as we were doing everything we could to spend more and more time together. We have been together for 18 months in July and haven't looked back. We are very much in love with each other and fully enjoy this lifestyle together.......neither one of us were looking for anything more than a casual fuck......we certainly didn't expect this but it has been absolutely perfect. So yes......men on RHP are relationship material....especially if you happen to come across the person that will be your "one".......just like I did.
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RHP User
10 years ago
It doesn't matter where you meet, if a relationship is going to develop it will, if both parties allow it too. I'm open to a relationship, and if I meet someone on here and I develop feelings that are not reciprocated I'll happily walk away. If the feelings are returned then fantastic. 2 like minded individuals make a sexually compatable relationship. In the mean time I have needs. - Posted from rhpmobile
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