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Consensus of a cheating husband
September 07 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'naughtyboysyd000' We were never meant to be intimate with just one person....EVER. I fucked my ex wife friends, almost all of them really, dirty little sluts they were. Some of them I fucked while my wife was right next to me, either kidding them or licking my balls. Fuck everything you want to fuck I say. Do you have a replica model of your amazing, porn-quality dick sitting somewhere in a bedside drawer / garden shed, that you worship / pray to on a daily basis? If not then you really should. I mean, your dick is obviously the equivalent of a deity / God, to be worshipped by all the dirty little sluts!! Take it to the next level dude!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I agree with you that a lot of married men tell so many lies to get there rocks, a simple answer to find out if they are married or not is ask if they can host. when I contact people I always put that I can host and that way you know im single and live alone
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Pink_Lotus' Quoting 'inthekiss' Quoting 'Pink_Lotus'You are not sneaking around behind your husband's back! you could always come over and ask him if you like. He has met many of my friends of RHPbut do i throw it in his face. NO so yes I guess I do sneak around to a lovers house now and again.So feel free to come over and grill us both, so that we can measure up to your standards. Did you misread my comment or did I express myself poorly? What I meant was that (from what I've understood from your comments) you and your husband have a mutual agreement you can/will have lovers.He chooses not to hear any details, but he does know and therefore he has been able to make the informed decision to stay in the marriage, and happily so. (It sounds like you both adore and trust each other.) One of my issues with the OP's situation is that his wife is not able to give informed consent and does not get a choice. I have an my appointment to day with the glasses guy...sheees i am getting so old I really do need thicker glasses sorry about that my bad
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Luckdragon23' Quoting 'naughtyboysyd000' We were never meant to be intimate with just one person....EVER. I fucked my ex wife friends, almost all of them really, dirty little sluts they were. Some of them I fucked while my wife was right next to me, either kidding them or licking my balls. Fuck everything you want to fuck I say. Do you have a replica model of your amazing, porn-quality dick sitting somewhere in a bedside drawer / garden shed, that you worship / pray to on a daily basis? If not then you really should. I mean, your dick is obviously the equivalent of a deity / God, to be worshipped by all the dirty little sluts!! Take it to the next level dude!! focus, foooocus step away from the nice cock...you bad kitty the forum is over here....................>
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madotara69
10 years ago
Quoting 'winging_it' Highpriority gloating was never my intention Please read the other comments I have been on the receiving end Of course it was, stands out like dogs balls, bahahahaha Fucked ten women, three a day, oh so clean and dandy, so fantastic in bed. Gloat, gloat, gloat...... It's the "urge" bit, that also stands out. Surely if you are so much in love with the wife, the first thing would be to perhaps realise she was missing something and fall on your sword, giving her what she desired most, rather than an "urge" to run for the hills and fuck your way into complete denial. Just a hunch, but maybe all she needs is a good fuck. (spare us the sob story, as intentions were clear in the original post) Mado Mado Tara xx
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OPNmarriagecpl
10 years ago
Grow up mate!!! The days of tit for tat behaviour are supposed to end in high school. Stop making ridiculous excuses and man up!!! Your dipping your dick in everything that moves because you like the excitement and YOU want to. Good luck mate, you're going to need it I fear. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Curiousplay1980' Grow up mate!!! The days of tit for tat behaviour are supposed to end in high school. Stop making ridiculous excuses and man up!!! Your dipping your dick in everything that moves because you like the excitement and YOU want to. Good luck mate, you're going to need it I fear. - Posted from rhpmobile I moved and nadda....this is so not fair
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'eukie' It's for reason's like this, being a non-societal norm that guys dont open up to people when they're having problems.. And no, I'm not condoning or endorsing - I just think there's a whole bunch of hypocrites in here that seem to have absolutely no problem throwing stones at others.. I'm afraid you've muddled the definition of a hypocrite. A hypocrite is someone who does the very thing they condemn someone else for doing. So by your logic, the people arguing against cheaters must be cheaters themselves. Probably not, based on the posts. Also, just my opinion, but I reckon the time for someone to open up about their problems is BEFORE they make the decision to betray another person's trust.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'eukie' I find it slightly amusing that nearly 95% of all the berating is coming from the ladies on here... and those ' singles ' on here are giving him a serve about what marriage is, values blah blah blah.. oh please, stop waxing your saddle on your high horse and maybe have a think that this poor bloke is actually giving a cry for help - and instead of trying to shoot him - you should be asking him a few more questions before you light the bonfire and burn him at the stake like a witch.. It's for reason's like this, being a non-societal norm that guys dont open up to people when they're having problems.. I'm really glad that some of the self gratification is being done online - and I hope that anyone who would judge another without really knowing their 'situation' seem to be so morally high... on a site like RHP.. Seriously, get off your high horses.. do your workmates all know you're on here ? how would you feel if those photo's of you in your lingerie were shown to your parents or your friends ? Double standards or what... ( /soapbox ) And no, I'm not condoning or endorsing - I just think there's a whole bunch of hypocrites in here that seem to have absolutely no problem throwing stones at others.. he really sounds like he is crying for help after 15 years of fucking around on his wife. Do you think he all of a sudden gained a conscience? Hypocrite?...I am single who has been married and cheated on so I know what it is like, I have never fucked around on someone else and I wouldn't because I have real standards, not double standards. And as for everyone knowing that I am on this site...they do, I have no reason to hide it, not that I think this has any bearing on the topic whatsoever, it isn't like it is that website for cheaters (AshleyMadison), maybe he should go there for a shoulder to cry on, poor baby.
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OPNmarriagecpl
10 years ago
Maybe you're not jiggling the right bits for old mate to notice........ Or he's probably busy servicing the throngs of women around him begging for it lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
The guy cheats on his wife.....so what?? All that suggests is he doesn't have the same thought processes that others do..... If he didn't admit to it....none of us would truly know right??? It affects my life nada.....it affects HIS and his WIFE only..... I'm beginning to wonder why some of you feel the need to right this mans behaviour when he clearly doesn't see any need to change it himself?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Really listen to all the do gooders that need a sex site to get laid.......either no confidence, cheating or just horn bags that love seeing the naked profiles. Dude your a man does it matter if your a good man or a bad man?? We live we die and unfortunately for this world that's where it ends.......so smash all the pussy you can and lick all the tits there are because one day you gonna wake and say damn I wish I did more! Your children will live their own life and will make their own decisions they will always love their father. As for your partner well if she is not satisfying you then go get all that sweet pussy you can don't feel guilty it's her JOB to keep you satisfied not yours! And if your not satisfying her then believe me on this SOMEONE ELSE IS! Can't believe all the crap I read on here I mean some women have profiles that have their pussy showing and legs spread then you read their profile and it says looking for a soul mate really ahaha after the whole world seen your pink bits??? Since the dawn of time man has had many wives today people around the world still do loving one person is crap and is a today's saying the world ex sister for many years on loving many wives. Don't listen to anyone because when she finds out she will act devistated and well be but she will get over it. Here's some real advice fr all women NO man is faithful trust me no man not one! Men only give a woman one thing not fifty if your man is comin around just to have sex then that's all he wants if just comes around to talk that's all he wants men only have time for one woman their mother the rest of you are delusional. You may think in a pig but it's the truth you think this man is running from the truth well believe me it's you women thy are running from the truth if your single and on here because you can't find a good man well that is because he doesn't exsist trust me he certainly don't exsist on RHP lol. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
LuckDragon you missed the best bit. He also likes porno sex! lol. Well if I believed him that is, just another troll.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Evening all, Well i'm amazed at the responses I have so far, I surely asked for it I guessI respect all your expressions and opinions.I agree i'm not the perfect husband, I've cheated on my wife on many occasions and I'm a self centered, heartless prick with no morals or understanding of marriage.I dare not to make any excuses , but I thought I might tell you a little story of my wife's situation or I dare say our situation. We have been together for 21 years, I had not been with anyone before I had met her. I was 20 years old.She had 3 boy friends before me, I had never felt the sense of love never even new was it was about.A few things developed over the years that I didn't like about her, I left her once told her it would not work (only lasted a day)Her parents and my brothers told us we were idiots and to work it out. We are not religious people but we had an attraction I can't explain.Sex to me was great and I thought she was satisfied as well. Until a friend got in her ear that sex is not an necessity for a healthy relationship. Which I of course disagreed with.Moving forward it was OK bumpy at times and less frequent.A year later we come across a problem when I found out that she had passionately kissed that same friends boy friend.I said we can't gone on like this we have to move on, but she and I worked it out that night and I offered to marry her in the heat of the moment. Sex become great again and we moved on. We moved to a country town from the city and found ourselves well that's what I thought.Got married and life could never be better... Nobody can tell me and I've heard it all before, from plenty of people in the past.Mining Jobs kill relationships women and men do cheat while the spouse is away.I went out to work one day in the middle of just about the desert, after a week at home,when I had to pry the confession out of her as I could suspect something was going on, that she had been having a sexual affair for a the last 6 weeks I was away with a mate of mine. Here is me working for our future and she is having an affair behind my back.Boy was I pissed I drove 450 km of back roads and bush tracks fuming all the way until my engine in my car exploded and I was stuck for 15 hours on the side of the Road.Just as well because I was in the wright frame of mind to kill her and my mate. Moving on - when I eventually got home her friends were around her, telling her she's not a bad person and I was at fault for being away so much (which I thought to myself bullshit) and I had to make it work and of course I did want to make it work.But then the bombshell hit she was pregnant. Mine or his. I gave her the benefit of the doudt that it was mine. Now you have to realise I could of walk out of the relationship then and there but to death till we part came to mind. I found out that It was mine and the child was born. Life was grand. Sex was great we were experiencing things I never new of. Then over time it got less and even worse. I thought maybe I had done something wrong, we have been to doctors and Councillors to address these issue, I have tried to talk to her about experimenting and/or with other people.I bought things that she wanted to spice up the bedroom eg Vibrators, cock rings lingerie, massage oil and so forth but they never get used, the vibrator hasn't even been out of the box still sealed up.I have asked her what could I do to make her feel better, lots of foreplay, role playing etc but she not interested in telling and has often said sex it is not a requirement to have a healthy relationship. But I have said that i'm wanting more from the relationship and I fall on deaf ear's. Now don't get me wrong i'm not trying to shift the blame to her but I feel in my wright mind I can do no more. Now for the kicker We have 3 kids a house, a mortgage a successful business and toy's Motor bikes cars etc I told her one day that a friend of mine had cheated with another women and he had told his wife what was going on and they parted company. But she then told me this - IF YOU DECIDE TO EVER LEAVE ME OR DO THAT TO ME I WILL TAKE YOU TO THE CLEANERS WITH NO REMORSE. So I now ask you with this bit of information that has come to light (IT IS TRUE WORD FOR WORD) I made a decision to cheat but I don't feel guilt because i'm guilty either way.
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RHP User
10 years ago
At what point do you think this is a good idea. A marriage is built on honesty, trust and respect. A Love for each other that knows no boundaries. Yet, here you are saying poor me, "I'm not a bad person" and stick my dick in just about anything that will tlak to me about poor me Wake up to yourself, find your balance with your wife and kids. If you can't be faithful to them, why are you married. Man up and face the music!!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
It makes me laugh when we judge a man or a woman that seeks intimacy outside a marriage. You don't know their individual situations and everyone is different. As long as it is not just acting as sexual predator, but the cry for intimacy which has become so dysfunctional inside the partnership can be debilitating in the relationship. And I do know of men and women that have turned the tap off and make no effort in sexual intimacy in the relationship but go about the rest of their married life as if everything is alright and it is not necessary. Well it is and effort has to be put in or the need to feel something from someone else becomes a big motivator. To feel desired even for fleeting meetings soothes the soul and can make you feel confident and worthwhile. We all like to feel desired!
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TheLuckyOne
10 years ago
You sweet talker you! How is RHP treating you hun?
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Missb4u
10 years ago
You're a dick.... That is all. ... I don't know how many times my now x husband threatened that shit with me. Simple fact is she can't. If you don't agree it gets sorted by the courts. Most she would get is 60-40 in her favour. Grow up dude! I don't give a shit if you cheat that's certainly your decision to make but don't ever try to explain why you do and make it someone else's fault. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Cheaters will always justify their actions. Always Your story may be very true but not once do I see how you contributed to your unhappiness. There is much blamed laid at your wife feet I appreciate that you came here asking your original question . Just another simple cheating question fro which you already knew the answer Now you have poured out your whole story to a lot of total strangers trying to explain your choices. Where is the respect to your wife and children now ? You mention till death us do part, what about being true to the one you love. You are selective on what part of the marriage vows you decide to honor. How convenient. It is still again all about you
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'winging_it' Evening all, Well i'm amazed at the responses I have so far, I surely asked for it I guessI respect all your expressions and opinions.I agree i'm not the perfect husband, I've cheated on my wife on many occasions and I'm a self centered, heartless prick with no morals or understanding of marriage.I dare not to make any excuses , but I thought I might tell you a little story of my wife's situation or I dare say our situation. I stopped reading after this, because I can't imagine it will add anything. Just wanted to say sorry, I kept reading your name as whinging_it!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' I'm beginning to wonder why some of you feel the need to right this mans behaviour when he clearly doesn't see any need to change it himself?? Threads where an OP posts about cheating tend to go one forever, with immensely long posts admonishing, advising, agreeing, arguing, etc. etc. Yet I still haven't come across a single OP who has come back to say he* has changed his behaviour as a result of the responses he received. *Or she
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TheLuckyOne
10 years ago
Why you are still together? Because you don't want to lose half your assets? So what? They are just material things. Wouldn't you feel a lot better being on your own and free to do what you want? Surely life would be happier without all the lying and sneaking around. Just my opinion.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You are are 41... Get out now while there is still time to get and build a new life, because you may not find it so easy to pick up women the older you get. So the question is .... Do you still want to be sitting their with your wife in 10yrs time, 20 yrs time, no sex and no intimacy? how much more time are you going to waste or are you waiting for the wife to meet someone and leave you?
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Mr_MrsAraps
10 years ago
Couldn't agree with you more Meeka and Jersey I split up with my ex 2 years ago. Yes I got taken to the cleaners well and truely but do you know what .... Was the best decision I have ever made (or shall I say the best decision made for me at the time but didn't realise it). I still see my kids almost as much but the time I have with them is really quality time. They still love me just as much as before and I am a better dad because I am a happier dad. Yes I have loss a lot of possessions but you know what I haven't missed most of them anyway and am living a lot more simply. I have found ms_araps who I love, am on the same page as sexually, spent a hell of a lot of time discovering together that I love being kinky instead of repressing it and found someone who loves and accepts me and my kinks. Most importantly for me it also allowed me to truly find again who I am as person. So from before being miserable married to being very very happy being single is a no brainer for me. Cheers, W.
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RHP User
10 years ago
they don't yell they don't telland they are as grateful as bloody hell. Besides that, unless a guy tells you , the guy you are trying to bonk, have bonked or are going to bonk may very well be married. Lust is a tricky business.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I take it this isn't your usual profile on here OP as your only a guest with no pic's so you'd be hard pressed getting a message back let alone a meet. Are you this honest in your real profile?
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RHP User
10 years ago
In the kiss... You logic here is so obvious......and yet most people choose to gloss over it 1/ I admit I'm married...why lie about this?.....get less interest than a single guy, 2/ I say my wife gives her blessing......why would I lie about this....but then tell the truth about being married? Seems a bit silly.... 3/ a guy claiming to be single, may be a married guy lying....there is a vested interest. For women I would say there is a greater risk in having sex with a 'single guy'...that is actually married and having an affair, than having sex with a married man in a swinging/poly relationship, who is actually lying about the open nature of the relationship! Putting married on your profile is like putting short, fat smelly and bald ( as far as the amount of women that choose to not engage with us) .why the hell would we lie about that??? I know this is slightly changing the parameters of this discussion (open relationship versus cheating).... BUT I get a lot of feedback that is very distrustful/sceptical, and so just putting this extra viewpoint forward Btw i am tall, well built, smell good, and have hair....in case anyone got the wrong picture! :-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Married, Single, Attached, Unattached, Divorced, Separated, Polyamorous, Open Relationship? At the end of the day people want to know that they are at least communicating with an honest person, on here, regardless of their relationship status. It seems that some peoples lives are such a lie that they can't even remember when the lies started? Where do you start and how does one unravel 25 or 30 years of lies? When did it start and why? Blah, blah, blah....You have to remember there are two sides to every story. Observing the duality and the play in life, the partners of these cheats have a role to play as well in their own conscious, (or should I say unconscious), souls evolution. Nothing in the universe happens by accident. There are always causes and effects. I would never condone cheating behaviour, but will say that, the unconscious wife's part is obviously integral in her own journey. Without getting microscopic about it all, there is a bigger plan at work here. Such deep stuff and hard putting words to the enormity of the play in these situations.
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Quoting 'Stufu1969'Btw i am tall, well built, smell good, and have hair....in case anyone got the wrong picture! :-) Could be just me..... but seeing a guys butt photo and the term " smell good" are oxymorons
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Araps' So from before being miserable married to being very very happy being single is a no brainer for me.
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RHP User
10 years ago
My butt smells like roses....doesn't everyone's ? .:-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' I'm beginning to wonder why some of you feel the need to right this mans behaviour when he clearly doesn't see any need to change it himself?? - Posted from rhpmobile Man asks for an opinion ... he's gonna get an opinion :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'winging_it' IF YOU DECIDE TO EVER LEAVE ME OR DO THAT TO ME I WILL TAKE YOU TO THE CLEANERS WITH NO REMORSE. So I now ask you with this bit of information that has come to light (IT IS TRUE WORD FOR WORD) I made a decision to cheat but I don't feel guilt because i'm guilty either way. ... and since you asked, I would give up every last penny I had to stay true to my personal ethics. A threat like that from a partner would have no bearing at all on what I chose to do. My definition of success and happiness in life is about my spirit and integrity, not my bank account. As an aside, here's what I'm wondering. Why do you still feel the need to explain and justify your actions on this forum? You asked, we all answered, but you seem to want to convince everyone to agree with your position. Some will, some won't, the end. I've always held a simple view about cheating. In my personal opinion it's never justified, however, I don't believe that my personal opinion should matter to anyone else other than my own partner. What I mean by this is it's your life. If YOU can live with yourself and your actions, then you hardly need the approval or understanding of a bunch of strangers. If that approval and understanding is so important to you though, perhaps it's worth asking yourself why.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Pink_Lotus' I still haven't come across a single OP who has come back to say he* has changed his behaviour as a result of the responses he received. *Or she Quoting 'Burning_Love' Why do you still feel the need to explain and justify your actions on this forum? You asked, we all answered, but you seem to want to convince everyone to agree with your position. The day an OP changes their stance on their own actions and reasons after the responses he/she receives here, is the day'll I'll fall off my couch.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Or your unicorn ?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
You are a very BAD person and deserve to be flogged..Mistress Q
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RHP User
10 years ago
I AM a Unicorn, delicately balancing on my high perch, remember? X Lotus
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RHP User
10 years ago
... is the view. On a clear day you can see right up your own arse.
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RHP User
10 years ago
OP, your story is no different to the other married guys on here. ..but the "three in one day" story. ..that is just crass...I am sure your wife would feel very special if she read that tale. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Apparently so lol Are you riding side saddle?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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neroflyer
10 years ago
You say "life can't be happier", yet your cheating on your wife. How would you feel if your wife was cheating on you. You say your relationship is missing something, you know what I say it is, communication!! I'm not saying you're a bad person, I'm just saying you may need to assess your priorities and your commitment to your wife and family.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thanks for your comment neroflyer I agree with you communication would be great but that's what we lack as I'm open to talk about our lack of spice in our relationship and to make it work better but I always get the cold shoulder on this issue. the more I try the more she gets pissed with me. My priorities is always my wife and kids but when it becomes my time its about me sorry if that sounds selfish.
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Yes. It IS selfish..... but I don't think you're sorry at all. What if she said "We need to change things in our RELATIONSHIP to bring us closer together." Immediately, your head goes to "yes, we need to change our sex life"... .....doesn't it. (If you're sincere with us, you are nodding to yourself right now). Ive been in your shoes. I know what you're thinking. You want what you feel you don't have, its all you think about and you're prepared to cross any line to make it all about you to get it. And you get it because you disregard the facets of respect and trust that a relationship is built upon to find that gratification from outside. When you do that, you devalue her... she feels it... you act it out.... you lose her trust,... you lose her respect.... you lose her inspiration to express her vulnerabilities and sexual expressions with you...... note WITH.... not for... you. I took a different path, and this is the point I'm making here.... You've also said......"if she was to suddenly turn around today and say we need to change things in our sexual relationship to bring us closer I would stop at a drop of a hat". You have a relationship that is built on pillars that include, but are not limited to sexual enjoyment. So....... man the fuck up..... and drop that hat yourself!! If you're prepared to do whatever it takes..... for the relationship and not simply for self oriented sexual gratifications..... ......... go monogamous. For two years. If you can do that, THEN, I'll believe you're genuine and selfless and committed. Its going to take at least that long to undo the lack of trust your attitude and behaviour has grown within her. Take the time, invest effort in her as a person, a friend, a wife, a partner.... and not merely as the unsatisfying sex object you live with that fails to satisfy you. Because I can tell you one thing with absolute certainty.... you are failing her at a LOT more than merely sex. They way your topic, and subsequent comments all reads to me, is like this: - (A) You feel a lacking of "spice". Thats code for "I don't get what I want so I am "forced" to get it elsewhere, often, and without regard. So I pressure her with MY idea of what I want sex to be. (B) She lacks trust and respect.Thats code for..... you have lost her respect, she doesn't trust you, and these traits fail to inspire her. A & B..... never the two shall meet...... without significant pattern changes on your part. Tough love, because.... you asked.Now..... its up to you to figure out if you.... are worthy..... of HER. DG
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RHP User
10 years ago
Cup of tea anyone?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Obi1Kenietzsche' Cup of tea anyone? green please
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Obi1Kenietzsche' Cup of tea anyone? Rooibos, please. But keep the cake, you can eat it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
according to wingy's profile,all he is looking for here is a chat. Perhaps a cuppa and a chat?...!I am partial to Earl Grey with a slice of lemon:-) xxQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting Pink Lotus: "but keep the cake, you can eat it", According to this thread..." No. You bloody well CAN'T!" :) (I suspect I ran straight into that one though, eh Pinks!) The art of subtle wit is alive and well. Obi1 (Slipping out the open window and running pant-less through the woods)
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eukie
10 years ago
hey OP, you know how the asshole's always seem to get the girls ? maybe try playing that line instead of the concerned / wimpy husband at home - and she'll be all over you... Lord only know's the number of bone head's I've met who's girls just drool over them and they treat them terribly.. ( I've heard of how some even lay the hand down, yet the girl defends the douchebag ). If you give them power, then they have the power - so you should role reverse, become an ass to her - and then you have the power.. reverse psychology that shit !
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
OBI...forget the kettle, cup of tea and cake! Pass me a bottle of your finest will ya - I need a STIFF alcoholic drink! Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'eukie' hey OP, you know how the asshole's always seem to get the girls ? maybe try playing that line instead of the concerned / wimpy husband at home - and she'll be all over you... Lord only know's the number of bone head's I've met who's girls just drool over them and they treat them terribly.. ( I've heard of how some even lay the hand down, yet the girl defends the douchebag ). If you give them power, then they have the power - so you should role reverse, become an ass to her - and then you have the power.. reverse psychology that shit ! your arse then in the back of that fire truck. ohh sorry you meant be an arse...darn the fireman thing got me all confused
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' OBI...forget the kettle, cup of tea and cake! Pass me a bottle of your finest will ya - I need a STIFF alcoholic drink! Foxy ohh drink, silly me
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sorry ladies, just polished of the last bottle of Grange! (But had I known you might be dropping by.. well...!) What about a stiff alcoholic instead? ;) Xx Obi1
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RHP User
10 years ago
Bring out that Dom you've been hiding! ;-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Its a known fact intimacy dies and frustrations wiggle's its way in. Smart couples recognise this and either allow each other to seek sexual release outside the union or open up and play together. Remaining in denial and holding a partner to their ideals only leads to resentment.. I have no right to hold anyone to my ideals and vice versa... The solution is to have realistic ideals and allow yourself and your partner the right to live happily ' then the divorce rate will drop dramatically.. Thats my rant for the day..
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RHP User
10 years ago
Lotus....don't you mean Domme:-) xxQ
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TallBaldSexy
10 years ago
.....Champ, im not going to comment on the cheating. Mate serious, do you want an answer to act on. OR do you want sympathy? If first option.... Mate "find" the "best" FAMILY LAW solicitor. Not a family law sometimes guy. If done then youll get some good advice. Note the emphasis on "find" - i should say hunt and hunt and seek out! Once done you are Then armed with knowledge. Make your decision. Mate believe me if you do this correctly your kids may "love you more" - you think this is total crap? I tell you right now its very very possible. Critically - do not take legal advice from this forum. & you MUST WITHOUT FAIL EVERY SINGLE SINGLE SINGLE TIME make your kids feelings paramount over your own and your TBA (ex) wifes. 12 months later you will reap the rewards. This means never ever ever run Their Mother Down. This could only make them feel sad, and YES. Resent YOU. THERE ARE ZERO benefits. It Can Work v v well! TAKE CARE! SD
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RHP User
10 years ago
Oh ok, Domme Perignon :-P
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RHP User
10 years ago
Cheaters will get caught out eventually , thanks to the age of technology ... Sadly With disastrous effect . Being a cheater is the same as being an addict and addicts always have justifiable reasons , but at the end of the day they are weak , insecure and suffer from low self esteem . I don't have any sympathy for cheaters and their secret lives and if you knowingly get involved with a cheater .. You should be asking yourself WHY - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Stop it! you made me spit my tea, I laughed at that last one.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Ms Q missed the Pirate Quest thread.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sort of Lotus....I just had a twinge of cabin fever..while contemplating this consensus....so far I think there is none and the aye,ayes seem to have it......oooo...just seen the nekid Cap'n Obi running g down the aisle :-) xxQ .
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RHP User
10 years ago
...I don't care what your value judgement is. It's yours and your entitled to it, even to share it if you will.I don't care about getting caught as I've got a hall pass but still feel the need to be discreet. I went out with a lovely lady last week we met in town for a public event, a first meet before a possible play meet later on.I guess Mrs Denials and I may well part ways one day when we're empty nesters. I can't say I don't care but come what may I can and will handle it.
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inspirit
10 years ago
Who gives a toss what you do.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' Who gives a toss what you do. ...under the bed, making an informed observation. She may or may not have been living a lie but she isn't at present.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I can't throw stones as I am in the same boat . Everything is great but there is that missing thing and it's quite hard to pin down exactly what the thing is . But it's there and it's noise is deafening ... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think your choices are bad, very bad, but that doesn't always mean you are a bad person. However, I think your bad choices show that you have absolutely no respect for your wife or your marriage. What would your children think if they found out you had been cheating on your wife? Is that the sort of role model you want to be? I say shame on you, and I feel sorry for your wife.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Saturdayrain' I can't throw stones as I am in the same boat . Everything is great but there is that missing thing and it's quite hard to pin down exactly what the thing is . But it's there and it's noise is deafening ... - Posted from rhpmobile Talk about it with her...then here.
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RHP User
10 years ago
No. Do I think you should reconsider what you are doing? Yes. Even though I am young, I cheated on the love of my life a while back. I have heard all sorts of things from all sorts of people such as "You obviously didn't love her if you cheated on her" etc. It's just not that simple. It's not black and white. Some may think this is a cop out but it's true. All I know is that I NEVER want to put someone that I love through that again. So my suggestion is this: come clean to your wife, or stop your philandering and pray to god that she never finds out. If you truly love your wife, you need to consider the effect that this will have on you. You can't even comprehend the affect this will have on her and yourself if she were to find out from someone else.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm curious, and only if you feel OK to share ... Why did you do it? - Posted from rhpmobile
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Darkerthangrey
10 years ago
Wing away but leave your wife before hearts are broken Purely my opinion
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RHP User
10 years ago
As you are entitled to your opinion regardless of who you are commenting on...I don't intend to reveal my circumstances either. I'm a sexual being she no longer is I am what I am and refuse to feel guilty for being me. Quoting 'Kisskiss80' I think your choices are bad, very bad,
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yankmychain56
10 years ago
WHEN THE SHIT HITS THE FAN...... will all that fun have been worth the PAIN you are going to have to endure not if, but WHEN your future ex finds out?as they say;' hell hath no fury like a woman'.IF you are really lucky, you might NOT get drained of every cent you have, and just dumped.be certain, there will be years of pain for you both. If she really loves you, she with be devastated, and if she finds out who the women are that you were with, well..... their lives won't be worth spit, as she will go after them.... AFTER she goes at you with the first kitchen implement she can get her hands on, and hope it is a frying pan and not a butcher knife. What do YOU think the first thing is she will try to cut off?I too, had felt like something was missing in my marriage, and had access to boat loads of women who would throw themselves at a guy in uniform with a foreign accent. If i would have been single it would have been great as I would have been able to freely do what i wanted.And yes, IT IS FUN, but just consider the pain she is going to go through if she finds out. YEARS of suffering for her (and you, because she is going to make you MISERABLE).You will live in pain and regret for a long time.I speak this from first hand experience.So maybe you might want to consider either 'keeping it in your pants', or maybe try to get her in to having 3-ways, but even some couples have trouble with that and it causes problems in a marriage.Not trying to rain on your parade, but just want to let you know what is headed your way,
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RHP User
10 years ago
How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot? Would you like the thought of your wife fucking 15 different people behind your back over the years, cause "There was something missing" in your marriage? What really is missing in your marriage for you to do this, Communication? Hope you can lye straight in bed each night, without any guilt..
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RHP User
10 years ago
You have more than you & your wife to consider. If she is exhausted from full-time mother duties, get a babysitter & go & rekindle the passion that started you on your journey of family, or leave, move on & allow her the privilege. You seem somewhat sensitive to her needs to ask, but you have still violated your marriage vows, Being a mum is hard, being a working mum is harder, but being a neglected, feeling not sexually appreciated, got mummy body going on is worse. If this is the case look beyond this & appreciate the woman of your children, my husband does & it prompted me to get my sexy back & put the kids to bed early & get hardcore sexy, help her out when you get home. Bath the kids, help them brush their teeth, give her a wine to sit down, relax & get in the mood. Do this & enjoy your wife, please her & yourself. It will lead you to ecstasy (my husband & I are here now, 2 young children, both 40, so kids & age no excuse), & a commitment to your wife and yourself that you vowed to however many years go.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thank-you all for your comments a lot to think about cheers
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6exxy
10 years ago
The pain on all sides of this issue is heartfelt. Those that despise the behaviour that has been chosen. Those that see but don't condone. The few who echo the op'er. Many here live an alternative lifestyle, many. This is not main stream. Multiple fwb's, swingers that swap, swingers that play alone and married who are in search of. Compassion, empathy, understanding and choice. While the OP'ers choice is not my path need we condemn him? Will it lead to his self destruction? I hope it leads to something more positive. At some stage we all find enlightenment. Whether that be through experience, understanding or guidance we find that which we need. It is human nature to seek that out. Winging It may your journey bring you and your wife peace, balance and love in the end.
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