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Ghosting
August 11 2019
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mzhapinez
5 years ago
Ghosting gta luvvvv it im on 14 out of 14 No Shows meet n greets luvvvv it at least the Tequilas n Jagers go dwn well considering its always a Pub 4 the so called non meet n greets...Cheerz
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MsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
Refering to my post. It was not refering to you or your recent experience but another. Ms Foxy
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JT_team
5 years ago
Yup this has happened to us also, and all very good in words to say not to invest too much emotion but sometimes it happens. But like most said - on to the next meet (that does happen) to make the chase worth it. Also not to sound like misery loves company, but it is soothing to read lots of people on RHP have experienced ghosting. It happens to the best of us i guess!
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RHP User
5 years ago
Silly boys. Awomanwithneeds and Kittyzkats both ghosted? Some men just don't realise how hard it is to actually get a conversation on here neverlone a meet when all cards are on the table. Soft cocks......or stop cheating on your partners.
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RHP User
5 years ago
I know your pain. It's rude, its horrible and it makes you feel like shit. I started to really like this guy, as much as I didn't want to have feelings for him and I tried not to like him, I couldn't help it. He made me laugh, he was sexy, the sex was AMAZINGLY AWESOME.... The stupid thing was, initially, he chased after me for ages, wanting to hang out with me until I eventually agreed to meet him. So after spending some time with each other and having heaps of awesome sex... I mean, what guy doesn't like waking up and getting a bj before he even realizes he's awake? Not only that but he was awesome in the sense that he'd read my profile and made sure that I experienced things during sex that I'd never experienced. He did everything the way I liked it, how I had written it in my profile... Like he'd studied it... I messaged him after this weekend we'd more or less spent together, to say thank you and sorry if I'd given him the flu because I had it..... Nothing I messaged him a few times... quite a few times more than a few times.. but not like I was desperate... NOTHING.... NOTHING...NOTHING. How stupid did I feel. I don't even understand why he just couldn't say, 'this isn't for me' or SOMETHING... At least that's better than NOTHING! It would also be easier to get over if you knew why. I'm still getting over it.. Ghosting is painful and not easy to get over. I will never understand and I'm not going to try to... I feel sorry for him, that he was too gutless to deal with it and sorry for him because he's the one missing out!!! Know you're not alone Hun. We're better off without the people who can't find the common decency to face up to things and at least respect you as a person and give you a reason or something. I am the most understanding person I know. You feel the way you feel, you can't help or change that.. I don't understand ghosting someone though. Don't let it kill your vibe though, it ain't worth it.
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RHP User
5 years ago
It's unbelievable how much ghosting occurs, talking, trading thoughts, ideas, planning meeting up, then when things get real...... All quiet. It seems that the fantasy is alive, the the act befalls so many. You never know how to handle it, you send one message, wait patiently and no reply, wait a week more then try again, nothing. So being a gentleman, you leave her alone. Frustrating yes, but, you have to accept their choice. Wish it weren't true, but ghosting is the new politically politeness I think.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Grab the pitch Forks and shovels rhp ghosting crew , we'll sought him out for you lil miss, 😄😘 Hey you know what , he probably did you a favour ,
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RHP User
5 years ago
I would say alot of Picture collectors here than less genuine people who are actually looking to meet.
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RHP User
5 years ago
I too have had this happen, unfortunately it happened after a few weeks of us spending most days together, then one day nothing. Hurts when i actually start to have some feels and also doesnt help ur confidence or self esteem. But after a few days its onwards and upwards hehehe walls up and feels out the window
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RHP User
5 years ago
Sounds to me like yet another person who fantasises about sexual liaisons with semi known people , but who either just loves the fantasy to get aroused and cums over the keyboard or gets cild feet and doesn't have enough bottle to graciously back out wirh plenty of pre warning given. It is a right royal pita .... Regardless dont let the actions of these keyboard fantacists undermine your own self confidence, as you do indeed sounds like a delightful and warm givibg person.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Haha @eatingpeaches thanks.
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cockasian
5 years ago
Our experience has been there are lots of people (couples and single females) who talk the talk, but the majority are no shows. Perhaps, as has already been suggested, they're simply not who they're purport to be (men pretending to be women springs to mind), or they're married/in a relationship and are lying about their ability to include their partner, or serial picture collectors, but whatever the case it's frustrating enough that we're close to leaving this site.
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Taby_DK
5 years ago
I see a lot of people saying talk to them on the phone first etc which is cool. But why is no one saying to jump on a video call before they meet said person? When I was a single on RHP 7 years ago this was a golden rule of mine for safety purposes and connection. This way a) you can make sure they are real b) make sure they look like their photos c) make sure you have a connection with them before you meet. If any warning bells went off or If they refused to do a cam call with me I never met them in person and as a result I never got ghosted by a single person. As a side note though I always kept cam calls PG rated. As soon as a guy tried to turn it into anything else or got sleezy I immediately crossed them off my list. In saying however I have found as a couple we have not had to do this. It seems couples have a lot more respect, don’t ghost you and are who they say they are. So maybe it’s only a singles thing? 🤔
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RHP User
5 years ago
I haven't read all the responses, but this says everything about him and nothing about you. It doesn't change who you are or the value in you - and the values you hold. Keep those values and keep exploring, knowing some people don't have those values - and many, many more that do. Stay positive and good luck!
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RHP User
5 years ago
Quoting 'awomanwithneeds' Quoting 'Mac555' Oh my goodness thats horrible! Im so sorry you had to go through that. I dont think people realise the trauma that put someone through when they do this to you.... I've been catfished before, this is the worst. I got very intimate with this person. Lucky I did not give up intimate photos or address, Im thankful for that. Yes it was. I was fairly angry for a while but now pity her more than anything. I tried to have her account on the site i met her on banned but the mods wouldnt do anything just on my say so. Thanks and sorry to hear about you experience also.
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ozmelbcpl4cpl2
5 years ago
Its more common than not mostly done by guys but a very few girls have done it.seems a waste of everybodys time but if they've done it to us we just instantly block and give feed back to close friends
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RHP User
5 years ago
Yep.Sure have.Feel for ya.A simple 'No thanks' goes such a long way,doesn't make you feel like a gullible fool,well thats how i felt.Your not the issue,that tool is.
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RHP User
5 years ago
I ghost sometimes with messaging but I have never not shown for an arranged meet. I haven't had too many no shows but the worst was a guy I'd been seeing semi regularly for about 3 years, who just didn't show one night. Our meets were incredible, hence why we chose to continue seeing each other, so his no show hurt. The lack of respect shown, hurt me or more so annoyed me at the time. I assume he had a better offer, or a new filly he was trying out lol but a simple text message?
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RHP User
5 years ago
Oh that’s terrible... I suggest you keep chatting to him the hours before you meet on kik - no response and I would not turn up :)
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RHP User
5 years ago
Shit go! Personally can name 2 profiles on rhp ( I won’t ) It’s not at all a nice thing to do to someone. Would appreciate if people were just up front and honest, if you can’t make it just say so in advance before any commitments are made ( reservations ect ) Both times ended up disappointed and of course complete waist of time. Will be choosing wisely and kinda put off RHP for the time being. Hopefully fun times to come in the future..
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Veritas_ergo
5 years ago
For me, it really is an unforgivable act. If someone Has taken the brave step of committing to meet you, then turn up, even if only for a coffee and a chat. Sorry, but awomanwithneeds seems like a wonderful lady and an extremely good reason to show up. If I had the opportunity, wild horses wouldn’t keep me away. please don’t let it colour your opinion of all of us guys - some of us are completely genuine and straight forward.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Quoting 'Indeepurr' I know your pain. It's rude, its horrible and it makes you feel like shit. I started to really like this guy, as much as I didn't want to have feelings for him and I tried not to like him, I couldn't help it. He made me laugh, he was sexy, the sex was AMAZINGLY AWESOME.... The stupid thing was, initially, he chased after me for ages, wanting to hang out with me until I eventually agreed to meet him. So after spending some time with each other and having heaps of awesome sex... I mean, what guy doesn't like waking up and getting a bj before he even realizes he's awake? Not only that but he was awesome in the sense that he'd read my profile and made sure that I experienced things during sex that I'd never experienced. He did everything the way I liked it, how I had written it in my profile... Like he'd studied it... I messaged him after this weekend we'd more or less spent together, to say thank you and sorry if I'd given him the flu because I had it..... Nothing I messaged him a few times... quite a few times more than a few times.. but not like I was desperate... NOTHING.... NOTHING...NOTHING. How stupid did I feel. I don't even understand why he just couldn't say, 'this isn't for me' or SOMETHING... At least that's better than NOTHING! It would also be easier to get over if you knew why. I'm still getting over it.. Ghosting is painful and not easy to get over. I will never understand and I'm not going to try to... I feel sorry for him, that he was too gutless to deal with it and sorry for him because he's the one missing out!!! Know you're not alone Hun. We're better off without the people who can't find the common decency to face up to things and at least respect you as a person and give you a reason or something. I am the most understanding person I know. You feel the way you feel, you can't help or change that.. I don't understand ghosting someone though. Don't let it kill your vibe though, it ain't worth it. I am so so sorry you had to go through this. I know we try o keep emotions out of this and I do for the most part. But it becomes very personal when this happens. This isnt the first time its happened overall, its happened on tinder too. Some people out there are psychopaths.
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honkytonk
5 years ago
one person's ghost is another person's freedom fighter?
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RHP User
5 years ago
Same has happened to me. You can’t worry too much. It has nothing to do with you, they either decided last minute they can’t, something has come up or the honestly forget. Don’t take it to heart! Unfortunately with any kind of online dating/meeting there is always flaky people. Don’t worry! You are a beautiful woman and I’m sure you’ll have plenty more! 😉
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RHP User
5 years ago
How your story has adapted as you've gone along. There's the guy you ghosted yourself. He has feelings too. This meet wasn't the first you'd agreed to at all. Read your profile too where you're looking to have a monogamous relationship. Maybe this isn't the site for you... I can't imagine how many men have gone through similar and cop absolute crap for speaking out but let a woman cop what she is willing to give out and it's all sympathy aboard. 🍑 Men have feelings too...
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RHP User
5 years ago
This is quoted from your profile... ' Please understand I am seeking something quite unique, and if you cannot make yourself available for this arrangement, it will be a very very short one. I'm not huge on communication, so understand I will cut you off if this does not feel right, and I do not give second chances.'
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RHP User
5 years ago
Well I'm more a giver than anything so I'm not going concern myself with that comment. I'm sure why people constantly have to argue every point. If you don't like the comment then don't comment.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Touche to me biting back bahahaha
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RHP User
5 years ago
I was hoping for an unselfish ear. But figured with such a victim attitude it wasn't likely. It has nothing to do with liking the comment but that it doesn't make sense considering the points I've made. You have to be prepared to take what you're willing to give. I have no sympathy under these circumstances. Men matter as much as women. 😍🍑
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MsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
Why made a drama out of being ghosted, when one can just move on. Ones elf worth should never be neogiated or up for neogiation. It is not like being a coupled committed relationship. However it does make me think twice and question, if one reacts to just being ghosted and emotionally invested to a person they haven't met, what will they be like when it comes to a breakup of a coupled committed relationship? Ms Foxy
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RHP User
5 years ago
You do make a good point. A coupled committed relationship is what awomanwithneeds' profile says she is after. Again I'm not sure if this is the right site for what she is seeking. 🍑
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AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
Quoting 'PeachyPearL' How your story has adapted as you've gone along. There's the guy you ghosted yourself. He has feelings too. This meet wasn't the first you'd agreed to at all. Read your profile too where you're looking to have a monogamous relationship. Maybe this isn't the site for you... I can't imagine how many men have gone through similar and cop absolute crap for speaking out but let a woman cop what she is willing to give out and it's all sympathy aboard. 🍑 Men have feelings too... Your version of ghosting is totally different.She cancelled a week out. And told him. How is that ghosting?Her story hasn't changed throughout topic. She may have agreed to meet and cancelled. I do that all the time but same as the OP, l let them know.Why is it you are being so harsh? The OP is a relative newbie here. It takes everyone a whilst to settle in.And not for this site?I've seen many a person come through the revolving door with a view to a mono relationship with the opposite gender. Before long they are getting a gang bang and have a fwb with the same sex. So settle your white horse Peachy. I've seen you go down this path before. We don't need another episode
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RHP User
5 years ago
It is absolutely not my place to say that this is not the place for you. I do know people who have formed long lasting relationships here, even though that wasn't directly what they were looking for. 🍑
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RHP User
5 years ago
I should have known you'd pop in to sort me out as you seem to have made that your personal mission in life. Thanks...Quoting 'AnnieWhichway'Quoting 'PeachyPearL'How your story has adapted as you've gone along. There's the guy you ghosted yourself. He has feelings too. This meet wasn't the first you'd agreed to at all. Read your profile too where you're looking to have a monogamous relationship. Maybe this isn't the site for you... I can't imagine how many men have gone through similar and cop absolute crap for speaking out but let a woman cop what she is willing to give out and it's all sympathy aboard. 🍑 Men have feelings too... Your version of ghosting is totally different.She cancelled a week out. And told him. How is that ghosting?Her story hasn't changed throughout topic. She may have agreed to meet and cancelled. I do that all the time but same as the OP, l let them know.Why is it you are being so harsh? The OP is a relative newbie here. It takes everyone a whilst to settle in.And not for this site?I've seen many a person come through the revolving door with a view to a mono relationship with the opposite gender. Before long they are getting a gang bang and have a fwb with the same sex. So settle your white horse Peachy. I've seen you go down this path before. We don't need another episode You know you'll be confusing the real Peaches right? Check them out a page or two back. Now let's pretend I can respond to actual points and not just personal attacks. I'll give you that it was a very different situation having reread over the point I missed that the guy was advised after reading your post. Thanks for that. Sorry for acting on my misinterpretation with that awomanwithneeds! I've already apologised for my comment about this site not being for awomanwithneeds. I was busy cooking dinner and having a bit of a think and could not get back sooner but posted as soon as I could before I read any other comments I still have reservations about the outing of someone who can't give their side of the story. Two things are that we only get one side of the story and he doesn't get to put across his side. Once upon a time I might have taken someone in the cyber world at their word but history has proven that is not a wise thing to do. The profile does say that people will be cut off if the author has any doubts... What's not to say this is what happened here from his side. Just one potential that this named and shamed guy shouldn't have to put up with. We all know guys are made out to be the problem but that isn't always the case though posters will more often than not leap to the defenseless females defence. Excuse my lack of 'episode', I've been fucked over by the worst and they don't deserve that much of my passion. Peachy
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AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
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AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
I must have missed the outing of the name or lost my glasses.
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Cucknshells
5 years ago
I was to meet a man. We chatted, talked on the phone and FaceTime. He was a fifo so was flying in that day. That night I waited for him to text me but he didn’t. I then rang him and he said he missed his flight and forgot we were catching up. It’s not ghosting as such and I wasn’t emotionally invested by I still felt like shit. It’s being treating with disregard. That you are insignificant and easily forgotten. That’s what gets under my skin. Shells.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Am I supposed to not reply to you? You know, whatever I said I was never going to win. Lost your glasses? Read back, the comments relating to it are still there last I looked. Plus some cos that's how we roll in the forum. 🍑 xo
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AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
You can reply. That's the way we roll in the forum
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RHP User
5 years ago
Yeah. We're human, we're living breathing human beings with feelings, opening our hearts to people before we even meet them. I don't care what anyone says about emotional investment, if you don't invest, you don't get the dividends 😉 That disregard does leaves us feeling irrelevant. I think in a lot of cases, it would be because they've had what they perceive to be a better offer. Of course that's just their perception. We know the others couldn't be better than us lol 😄
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RHP User
5 years ago
You two wanna get a room 😉
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RHP User
5 years ago
make room for me ☺
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RHP User
5 years ago
How'd you go with the naming and shaming or are we moving on from that now?... 😘 Touch 😂 You devined my wicked plan. 😈😉
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RHP User
5 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Yeah. We're human, we're living breathing human beings with feelings, opening our hearts to people before we even meet them. I don't care what anyone says about emotional investment, if you don't invest, you don't get the dividends 😉 That disregard does leaves us feeling irrelevant. I think in a lot of cases, it would be because they've had what they perceive to be a better offer. Of course that's just their perception. We know the others couldn't be better than us lol 😄 If your right and they drop you like a sack of potatoes for what they think is a better offer. The blatant disregard for the person he/she is ghosting smacks volumes what sort of a person they really are and may'be going no further with such a callous twat is overall a good thing. I would never do that, and wouldnt commit to a meeting unless i was absolutely sure i would actually turn up. Lets just hope Karma bites them in the arse sooner or later.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Quoting 'Mac555' Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Yeah. We're human, we're living breathing human beings with feelings, opening our hearts to people before we even meet them. I don't care what anyone says about emotional investment, if you don't invest, you don't get the dividends 😉 That disregard does leaves us feeling irrelevant. I think in a lot of cases, it would be because they've had what they perceive to be a better offer. Of course that's just their perception. We know the others couldn't be better than us lol 😄 If your right and they drop you like a sack of potatoes for what they think is a better offer. The blatant disregard for the person he/she is ghosting smacks volumes what sort of a person they really are and may'be going no further with such a callous twat is overall a good thing. I would never do that, and wouldnt commit to a meeting unless i was absolutely sure i would actually turn up. Lets just hope Karma bites them in the arse sooner or later. Absolutely agree. Maybe not quite as black and white as that though. My feeling is that because of the casual nature of the interactions we look for on here, that the time period you see someone overall, has an expiry date. When years elapse, to be fair they are probably just bringing in new recruits and treating them as a priority to lock them in, but still not wanting to completely let go of the others. Not the way I would operate, I'm a firm believer in if something is good, don't bloody stop. Hard enough to find people we have that chemistry, or sexual compatabiility
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badboyhere
5 years ago
Well just happened to me again today. Been chatting to this lady for over a week from here. Confirmed the meet up and time last night, just a coffee, and seemed like all was okay. Sitting in the coffee shop by myself like a nigel no mates and nothing. Time came and went and no contact. Just wasted 3 hours getting ready, travelling and waiting. Could have been doing something better for myself. Moving on, but really needed to vent yet again.
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brokenhands
5 years ago
Thats fucked... The sad truth is that some people (especially new people) can talk the talk but once its time to back it up they get scared/overthink it/shit bricks/panic etc etc.. and then its the shame/guilt of is why they delete/ignore because
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Dubbleyew
5 years ago
Been ghosted by a number of people on here, even after meeting and having a great time. Even finding partners for fun is too hard to meet someone with common human decency, so over it. 🙄🙄🙄
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RHP User
5 years ago
If everyone had to pay for membership and be verified I’m sure there would be a lot less of this and a fair bit more manners as well, don’t feel to bad there just as many rude obnoxious woman on these site as guys. Having said that I’ve been lucky enough to meet a few nice 1’s. Internet is the cowards castle 🏰 inhabited by a large number of socially and emotionally retarded people.
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MsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
Not necessary. Anyone can be ghoster or ghostee, paid membership or not. It is not going to fix the problem. The only way to fix it (as per my 1st post here), is just don't do it to the next person. Ms Foxy.
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MsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
I'm blessed, my recent 1st meet, didn't ghost me. (phew). Ms Foxy
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Acucullophiliac
5 years ago
I've been ghosted on here too. I honestly don't get it. A simple no would suffice. And I won't even get offended! I had one guy even make a date with me, the time came and went and he stopped replying then!! SMH. Then he had the balls to reply eventually, saying he couldn't afford the room, and was embarrassed. (I could have paid). But the clincher was, he tried for a second date! Another type, are the ones to whom you tell you are not interested, then they call you names. Hang on, u contacted me. Then when I decline I'm an asshole? I'm not a charity to bring sex to the unfukabke! I reply to ppl, until they start harassing me for a date when I'm not interested. Then I block them.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Wow. Your hot. Why would anyone bail on you. Unless their a shit head. That being the case better of without them.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Picture swappers and time wasters unfortunately. The phone call trick works well. They don’t call, move on. It’s a blow to the ego but as time goes on you learn to keep moving forward.... must of been a dumb ass to stand you up! Idiot!! Keep on searching hun xx
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RHP User
5 years ago
Thanks I will only open my face gallery up to anyone until I meet them now.
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RHP User
5 years ago
I get ghosted all the time - it sucks!!
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RHP User
5 years ago
I've been ghosted a few times. I don't get annoyed or take it to heart. It's their loss, I just block them. Besides, there are bigger things in life to worry about.
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cat_n_the_hatter
5 years ago
It is rude and immature. However, give up the quest for closure. Bring your book with you. Have your passions. It’s funny but I think nowadays that old rule of not sleeping straight away makes sense. There has to be a connection and it cannot be forced. Indeed, sometimes it can be scary. For men a moment matters (same as for us), and they realise – “She totally understands me.” They know that they are ready. The scary question for them then is - Is she? There is no point in thinking about “why” afterwards. So, do not let this damage your self-esteem or allow bitterness and malevolence to be your companions. He was on this site for a reason and he did not want anything else, which does not mean you cannot find it here. (Ms)
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archandrews
5 years ago
Wow. I just got ghosted and while trying to send a last message on RHP, I read this post. I feel exactly like you. We’ve been chatting for a few weeks and I extended an invite for a coffee catch up. She was the one who said why don’t we just cut the chase, grab a drink and go back to my place. Don’t really want to take a person in meeting for the first time back to my place so I booked a nice hotel room for us to go back after. We were even messaging each other this morning!!! Waiting at the agreed bar for about an hour and I gave up. No response to any messages. Really feeling a bit down now. I feel like a super idiot! Anyways, hope not all are like this.
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The_Antichrist
5 years ago
I get ghosted all the fucking time... Rhp events sends me messages and I reply, then nothing... What the fuck is with that ?? 😂😂
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JT009
5 years ago
I suspect that there are a lot of people on here who are pretending to be what they are not. Pretending to be single, younger, fitter, richer, or whatever. When the time comes for reality they cant be who they said they were, so they ghost. I would take it as a reflection of them not of you. The old adage, "If something seems too good to be true, it probably isn't true"
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Playful2looking
5 years ago
Ghosting to me sounds a little creepy but thinking about it maybe its not.. There could be a lot of things going down but the no show people should text or message and say they can't do it.. some people are very shy and have an anxiety attack therefore freaks out or the person is married and and has a guilt attack.. or is just a key board surfer that gets their kicks by just looking, chatting.and cannot commit. The worst no showers could be people with a chip on their shoulder.. Their attitude is I get stood up so when someone shows an interest in me.. I'm gunna stand them up.a .sorta strange revenge .. Please don't take it badly getting stood up or Ghosted.happens. It is their issue maybe you dodged a bad experience.....good luck
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MsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
Easy, simple terms, it is called "Catfish". Ms Foxy
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RHP User
5 years ago
New to this , and this is a concern for me. I don't think it derives from you though. Just another's self worth. It's hard on everyone trying something new or different with someone new or different.
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agebefore
5 years ago
I think if there are 10 profiles on a dating site then 3 will be fake and 5 will be big talkers bit too frightened to go through.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Wow
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Acucullophiliac
5 years ago
Ive been ghosted before many times, on here and on other platforms. It sux. I'm after some quite specific things, and I think that the idea of them appeals to many, but when it comes down to it, guys freak out. That said, I find it super rude and frustrating when it happens. Ive had guy stand me up as well as ghost me. And that really sux, Esp when you make the time available, and make the preparations, only to find yourself alone. I had one guy, he was supposed to meet me at 5pm, messages flying back and forth all day, then at say 4pm radio silence. I sent a message saying:. You are either driving or Ive been stood up. Nothing. 5pm comes and goes, then 6, 7, 8..... I finally heard from him. He had some excuse or another.... I told him after this stunt I'd not feel comfortable making another date as I'd worry ABT a repeat performance. With the ghosting, guys will be super into it then, I think, at least some of them think about it, and worry about putting their words into actions. Some will cancel a date, then just ghost. Others don't even get to the making a date, they just stop replying. I had a couple I was chatting with recently. She was pushing to meet straight away, but I had other commitments. He was really really into it too. The last messages before I went to bed on our 3 way Kik chat were of him asking her to blow him in graphic detail, which I found a bit odd, but whatever. When I looked at my Kik the next day both had left the chat, and she's sent a final message saying I'm not into it. I was fine with the 'no thanks' from her, but weireded out by the way she went about it. In this case Im quite a bit younger than this couple, and i suspect that she got a bit miffed that he was into it, saw it as him being too into me, and the green eyed monster decided it wasn't a good idea. They were new to mff 3 ways, and tbh I really don't want to play with ppl who are uncomfortable or jealous, as that's just not fun. That same couple had contacted me after I'd trawled the friends of one of my favourite lovers.... This isn't a ghosting bit, but weird so I'll share:. She had wanted him for a mmf with her and her man. I'm cool with that. Ive no claim over him. Then they wanted to play couple on couple, and I said I was a bit unsure of that dynamic, but I'd ask him when I saw him next. Next minute, she has contacted him without me. That wouldn't have been strange had she wanted to contact him for a mmf with them, but I found it super out of line for her to do it in the context of a mf mf, when I was the f of the second couple. I think at the end of the day with all the benefits a hook up site offers, you get all types. Individual users need to do their due diligence in weeding out the wankers. Better luck next time hon. And don't let one rude creep spoil your fun next time around.
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BlackWolf80
5 years ago
I’m getting used to getting ghosted. Figure that’s how women drop you. It used to be a conversation on why it’s not working abd we move on but now I guess, it’s delete and block. No exit conversation. If a guy / girl reached out to find out what went wrong, you’re a stalker and creep. It hurts and creates bad experiences.
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ED003
5 years ago
Having being the first time you have experienced such immature act, it will hurt mentally and emotionally but it will develop your understanding. Understanding that the majority of people are shit people. Its not your fault he's shit but is your fault for not accepting he's shit. Im sure its a daily occurrence by the hundreds. Ghosting by text is the same thing and i have been many times lol big deal it is what it is. You just never know who's going to waste your time next.
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RHP User
5 years ago
There are so many cocky pricks around these days! This has been a repeat scenario:....I meet a guy, we have wild sex (make him cum once, twice, three times)...Messages continues and he says how he wants to do it again, messages get hot and vids swapped and meet again, wild sex (again)...messages continue again, and then...crickets... Shits me off big time! What is with this??
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annaxv250
5 years ago
It certainly hurts & causes more pain than I care to endure. It seems to be common place at the moment. I don’t mind if you don’t want to meet me or you just want to chat but don’t lie to me. Especially when I put time & money into organising my time etc.
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Laura98
4 years ago
Too many times. I don't understand why, but it just happens.
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jessica__rabbit
4 years ago
That's being stood up and then ghosted. That's abhorrent behaviour. I think everyone's been ghosted when the other person decides they're not interested anymore, or gives the app a break etc but being stood up....hell to the no. There's no excuse for failing to take a few seconds to send a message and cancel plans. That's on them 100% not on you for failing to see "warning signs" or anything else.
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fitman2230
4 years ago
Unfortunately ghosting is a daily occurrence. Have been stood up numerous times. Even after confirming hour prior to meeting. Also too many chat.. things going great n then u never hear from them again Is it too much to just say no?
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Badsitefguys
3 years ago
It happens frequently with women and I'm surprised it happens with guys also
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RHP User
3 years ago
Been Ghosted into double figures now. Starting to think that people aren't real and as a result feel broken. And damaged goods. To the point its become unsexy. As a paid member, its frustrating, hurtful. And deceitful. We came here to make a dream become a reality and have fun. We haven't met a single person on here yet. We even question ourselves on giving up all hope. As the saying goes you can only fuck with the dick God gave you. We're no supermodels. But we though our values would be more liked apon. Happy for any pointers.
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JaviersDouble
3 years ago
We've had it happen a few times, but before we've got to the meeting phase. Twice now with single girls, we've have incredible banter, shared pictures, confirmed we were all real people, organised to meet up. Once we even organised a babysitter...we were ready to go. And then, two or three days before the meet, BOOM, everything disappears. Chat history. Friend connection on Snap chat. Happened to us literally twice in a row. Almost made us give up on the whole thing. We don't have time to be messing around like that.
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