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How Many Messages
June 11 2019
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RHP User
6 years ago
Today alone i have received 46 however, I actually do reply to each and every one
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RHP User
6 years ago
When u first join u get bombarded. There are so many reasons why reply's aren't sent. Profiles have no pics. Profiles aren't completed. Status is married or attached looking for discreet meets. Age is no where in your preference Messages are basic no effort made. Thing is if u want a reply make an effort. Be in there prefered age range, seeking similar to yourself. Don't treat women like we are on here as a free service Have some respect don't be abusive if their not interested.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I have received 1974 messages since re-joining 13 months ago. (was last on 4 years ago) I tried to respond to all at the beginning but quickly learnt that if I stated on my profile that I would only respond to ones that I was interested in, I received less abuse. Now I generally receive between 3-6 a day. I do think maybe guys would have a better strike rate if they actually read the ladies profiles and took note of what they are looking for before sending a message. For example I am clear in my request for non smokers but still have men msg me that smoke.
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megz85g
6 years ago
My profile states I’m not meeting at the moment, however I still receive multiple messages each day asking when can I meet, or do I want to play tonight? They do not get answered, and the repeat offenders get blocked. At least bother to read people’s profile before messaging and you might have a better strike rate if you are what they are looking for.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I guess the most frustrating part about not receiving a reply ( and it can be as simple as a polite "No thanks") is that men have to pay to have the ability to message. I find that there a very few women that have paid subscriptions to be able to message. Once a message is received as a "Guest" you can reply for free. If there is no reply from the lady, then to send a follow up message is a further use of allowed messages per day that can be sent depending on what level the guy has paid up for.So come on ladies play a courteous game please lol.
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Half line messages get the effort returned. Zero......Unless you are a movie star
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Sawadee
6 years ago
Every man and his dog has free access theres always going to be multiple men vs available women, and woman will always have that luxury to pick and choose.. in amoung them are those who put up almost impossible criteria effectively leaving most men no where to go ? Its only my opinion, but theres almost as many women posters that waste peoples time as men... i guess that happens when social media is treated as entertainment rather than a opportunity to meet the like minded ... Just the way it is ?
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megz85g
6 years ago
Why should women be forced to reply to messages we did not ask for- just to be courteous? Nobody owes anyone anything on here, and just because you pay a few dollars does not entitle you to anymore than anybody else.
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RHP User
6 years ago
In some cases, that is a large number of messages. I don't know how you cope. I do agree with your comments about people not reading profiles. I think it is a common problem with all sites that require the use of a profile. Unfortunately some people have no manners or respect for others and will be abusive and rude.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I do reply to these. But not ones from married men or smokers as I have on my profile that Im not seeking them. " Wat U up 2" wont be replied to either. Everyone on here has their own criteria, thats what profile descriptions are for.
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
I have, to date over 1423 unread messages in my inbox and received over 10.5K messages since my time here. How do I deal with them? It depends on various things like, how I'm feeling that day, their profile (is it completed fully etc), the opening line and my gut and intuition. I try to reply best I can. Plus I have a life out of here like being a full time shift worker, travel heaps etc etc. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
6 years ago
Around 6 a day at the moment although they decrease each year :)
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countrytouch82
6 years ago
Stats... I can only find a total sent and received in profile statistics. Where is the amount that tells you how many unread etc?
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Received 7,847 messages Sent 7,833 messages. Maybe there's 14 still waiting for my reply......dont hold your breath
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
In my in box Ms Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
Maybe that's the number of total messages in there not read. I always though that number was unread not read. Well anyways that number has gone up since I last logged on. Ms Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
It is unread. So there you go folks. If you look in your "Mailbox" (heading Tab above) it will tell you. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
6 years ago
If I average out i have received 1200 messages a year. As a percentage of how many I've gone out and met 0.048. Gee I need to stop working so hard and get out more often 😆
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Phoenix_Rising
6 years ago
@Denied, The fact that people have to pay to message others does not mean women’s replies have already been pre purchased, that kind of attitude absolutely STINKS!! Play a courteous game? It’d be courteous to go away and not message again after being rejected in the first place, no reply is a pretty good indication someone’s not interested, don’t harass them again then complain you’ve wasted money/messages on them, that’s just down right rude. I can’t stress this enough, nobody here owes you even so much as acknowledgement, sure it’s nice when you get it but you should never expect it.
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RHP User
6 years ago
You delt with that question really well. And as you said, we have paid for memberships, not for peoples replies. The obvious fact that women get bombarded with msgs, and perhaps a lot of them being trash, shows a woman's resilience and the significance when she does reply.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'megz85g' Why should women be forced to reply to messages we did not ask for- just to be courteous? Nobody owes anyone anything on here, and just because you pay a few dollars does not entitle you to anymore than anybody else. Not ask for ? Your here, voluntarily aren't you ? Your a guest, because you can, if you don't get messages how else are you going to preen your ego ?What pretentious bullshit.
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Mischeviouslad
6 years ago
@usebi Is it though? Just because someone says hello..... should there be an expectation to say hello back? If a hundred someone’s say hello, and 95 of them then go on to make boring chit chat, should you feel compelled to chat back if it hasn’t engaged you? If a hundred people say hello, 95 aren’t interesting enough to have a conversation with and a further 60 make objectionable comments which demand ignoring or even blocking... .. is a woman still expected to continue??? Dealing with that hardly makes someone pretentious It makes them pragmatic in here
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RHP User
6 years ago
Is the “did not ask for” No one is forcing anyone I realise most messages are rubbish, ignoring the trash is a given, but if well written messages from people who meet the brief are thrown out with the rest then crying about the lack of quality in future is a self fulfilling prophecy. I shouldn’t have said anything criticism here it seems is rarely taken well.
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Mischeviouslad
6 years ago
Your assumption is “meeting the brief” Appeal is very individual. There is far more to appeal than just ticking the generalised criteria, and I’m sure someone matching your general criteria doesn’t see you automatically say yes to others. Just as others choose to message, we have a choice to reply. I suspect the “did not ask for” may have been a clumsy phrase..... but you chose to deliberately write about criticisms........ when your own post was ENTIRELY a criticism of someone else’s post Food for thought. 😎
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RHP User
6 years ago
Not into pissing contests Enjoy your win
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LuxurySlut
5 years ago
Instead of replying to messages or even opening your inbox, why not search for the people you want to chat/meet with and if they happened to message you, then reply. Lux
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RHP User
5 years ago
24 msgs today
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RHP User
5 years ago
Obviously the guys to girls ratio is disproportionate. I have tried various means without success. I take it that as I'm not a stud with a 6 pack, 10inches and tattoos that I have little to no chance of actually meeting someone. I've tried the short msgs to try and introduce myself, done longer ones which I get some don't want a novel. Oh how I wish I was able to have the choices that girls have. So if you ladies have any suggestions I'll I'd love to hear them
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countrytouch82
5 years ago
In comparison, I have three inbox messages in the last two weeks. Although they are all Auto event invitations and despite a datefinder lol :p
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Mischeviouslad
5 years ago
Some people just don’t get how discussions in open forums work Sheesh. Ego
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Obi1kenietzsche
5 years ago
Try sendin’ ye messages by bottle likes I does matey, an’ see’s how many replies ye gets! (that’d be fuck all, by the ways!) Yarrrrr! This be Cap’n No Beard.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Lol ZC, be prepared for a LOT of received messages!
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RHP User
5 years ago
Ooops. I mean replied messages. Gees!
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Infovore
5 years ago
Wow, I figured that the women here would get swamped, but it's more extreme than I expected. Thanks for those stats, ladies. I've only sent 28 messages so far. About half (13) are still unread. I only send messages to those who's general criteria I meet. After getting zero replies for a while, I started adding a small note saying I'd really appreciate a reply even if it's "no thanks", and pointing out that I wouldn't attempt to follow up,beg for reconsideration or hurl abuse, as it sounds like that's a pretty common problem for women here. Since then, I've received replies from 4 women. All "No thanks" so far, but not really that surprising considering my demographic. The odds aren't good, but I'm only looking for 1 or 2, so I'll keep rolling them dice...
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RHP User
5 years ago
I think this topic is a good representation of the imbalance in our society. An imbalance which sees the gender gap widening not closing. Men are expected to write open honest messages to women that go into detail and capture the ladies imagination, spark her desires etc when he knows full well its statistically very unlikely that she wont even bother responding. No not even a 1 liner. Lets not forget that often men are here because they have finally reached their perception of "desperation or last resort". To make matters worse, she is a guest and he has paid good money for this " privilege ". I am from an era where I was raised in the traditional way, with the idea that you respect the woman, regardless of whether she has earnt that respect or not.... open the door for her at the shops, give up your seat on the public transport, stop to help her change a tire or offer her assistance roadside etc etc...but by the time I was about 20 i realised that the vast majority of women just disrespected me even more for being weak or what ever their perception was...eg walk straight through the door totally ignoring the fact that you are offering respect in the first place. Etc.. So eventually I lost that respect I was raised with as an adult. (I still stop to help roadside because of safety reasons, their vulnerability for starters, its a dangerous situation for a woman to be in etc) Then to read that women here wonder why men become frustrated and eventually after pouring his pathetic heart out to complete strangers hundreds of times to receive nothing back he twists off and gets abusive? Equality between the sexes, now THAT is the real sex fantasy that turns me on. A woman stopping to offer me assistance if my car ever stopped roadside ha, imagine that!
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Infovore
5 years ago
Quoting 'perther'Then to read that women here wonder why men become frustrated and eventually after pouring his pathetic heart out to complete strangers hundreds of times to receive nothing back he twists off and gets abusive? The frustration I understand. Getting abusive isn't justified though, period. You make it worse for everyone, and are making it less likely that people will respond fearing more of the same.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Because there are more men than ladies here on RHP. More demand less supply lol
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RHP User
5 years ago
I get irritated by the messages from people obviously not matching my criteria. I always try to respond but I am also lazy so there’s that lol
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deepestpurple
5 years ago
Here is a fact; writing open, honest, well thought out, interesting, creative, whatever messages does not work. Frankly it's weird and desperate to put that much effort into someone on the internet you don't know, might be a computer program for all you know and will very likely ignore you. At best, it will find a pen pal (who still might be a computer program). Doing this will cause you to get frustrated but it is actually frustration at the loss of your own self respect for continuing to be so pathetic. Don't believe me? Try it. See how it makes you feel. Now don't go taking those frustrations out on the potential computer programs, some of them are real people with feelings and they didn't make you do anything. Your choices lead to your consequences so act in a way that makes you feel good about yourself. Another fact; Wanting the validation of a reply from a random stranger even if it is to tell you they want nothing to do with you is pathetic. Saying you would like that is immediately disqualifying yourself. "Oh yeah I want to go hang out with that dude who's self of self is so weak he is begging for validation from strangers on the internet" - no one ever. Here's how to win this game:First - accept that it is a low probability gamble so find other ways to get the social/sexual contact we all need to not be unhinged. Second - be someone who is attractive to be around, be happy with yourself and your life, generate positive vibes. Third - be someone who is sexually attractive, lots of people on say they can deliver mind blowing sexual experiences and a smallish fraction can. Get fit, at least looking like you might be up to it is a good start. Last, and definitely not least - get lucky, success on here is a lot about being the right person in the right spot at the right time. This requires persistence and not becoming an angry, jaded, cynical creep in the process. Good luck, it's a rough game, I respect all who play.
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Heightenedplay
5 years ago
True that!! I’m a straight up good looking fun dude and can never seem to get a real reply unless it’s a woman that is looking for money for her time !!! What’s the secret lady’s
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RHP User
5 years ago
Think unless you're an above average looking guy fit buffed you're probably not going to go lookin, like myself I'm average and I'm more than happy without but if a female is going to have a rendezvous with a guy shes way more likely to pick the big studmuffin so does online dating work for us average guys probably not but unfortunately.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Don’t get upset to much, more than 70% of the ones you message are probably fake profiles. The best ones are verified and or have a validation on them. Worst case hop on a plane and go to Thailand or the Phillipines, it’s Disney land for men and a lot less frustration. Plenty of guys go from work and now wouldn’t waste 1 minuet on a western woman.
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RHP User
5 years ago
1. I haven't counted messages but it's a lot2. Don't have emotional reserves or energy to reply to all. If I tried to I'd never leave my phone/PC.3. However, I'm not obliged, nor is anyone on here, obligated to reply to messages from everyone. I could send a message and that person may not respond, I don't let it bug me - I move on. It's really important to not get emotionally attached to someone on here you haven't met, in case they suddenly disappear. 4. We pay for membership, not to automatically expect a response from everyone, when dealing with free will and agency of other adults and the individual private lives of adults and all their potential ups/downs/work-life social-projects and businesses - having no Expectations is very beneficial. 4. Reasons not responded to: person ignores your profile requirements, they don't use an original or intelligent opening sentence ........they try and send you some fantasy or filthy message with no relation to your profile interests 5. Just the fact they send me a sleazy message is a turn-off, it's clear I don't want that. 6. Their Profile: no picture, no interesting wording or effort made to convey a 360deg human. I try to make an effort. 7. They decided to give me a Label and it's rude to label someone - you shouldn't label anyone but yourself. Someone on here told me that I was a Domme even though I don't call myself a Domme - I told them off and cut contact quickly. 8. You're just not attracted to them: that's life, we all have preferences. 9. I've messaged people many times on sites and they haven't responded, I don't get upset, I have no expectations and move on, I don't let myself get attached to profiles on a website. 10. You speak to someone you like on here and when you want to have a coffee-meet/get to know them - they can't commit but they will send you a sex message, because safety is apparently not an issue they have comprehension of. That's a turnoff for me because it screams "hey i'm horny and you're an object to get me off, so hurry up". 11. They think because it's a sexual-site they can immediately go into sexting mode and I can't do sexual things with people I don't know unless I'm attracted to brain/mind/have familiarity with them as a human. I'm big on EQ. 12. Because of hookup culture being prevalent: more people expect an immediate date/fuck and I'm simply not interested in this and don't respond if I get that vibe. 13. Sometimes I get so overwhelmed by messages that I lose track and just shut it off for a few days as it drains me - as also an introvert - not extrovert / spontaneous as to constantly mingling with strangers. As my profile says: I'm not dependent on sex, I'd rather wait and have quality over quantity really, so don't care. I also care greatly about my health/safety and wellbeing and hence I have strong boundaries pertaining to that and so I don't feel I'm obliged to be nice to /answerable to all. So, on The Big 5 Personality Psychology Scale - I'm not an Agreeable Woman, you might say ;-)
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RHP User
5 years ago
I do get annoyed that the majority of my messages are not replied too but also feel for the ladies on here who as such have pointed out, are inundated and would struggle to reply to them all even if they gave up working, sleeping and their life.I only message those who meet my criteria and I theirs as that's the reason for the profile....isn't it??? I do, however get confused sometimes when the profile says Men, Woman, Couple but you get a reply saying not interested in men, only woman or couples?Like a lot of the males I am no model with a 6 pack (its there just a bit hidden) so am unlikely to get positive message responses anyway.From what I have been told, meeting at the events is the way to meet rather than hoping for a reply to a message that may be lost amongst hundreds of others.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Seriously for guys on here you better just going to a brothle for a root and go home and sleep like a baby rather than send shit loads of messages when its clear than women a getring a ton of messages cam only answer so many as i dont think they signed up on here to be a full tine secretary so all in all go pay for it at least you know what your getting and when!!
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RHP User
5 years ago
Oh... it's just our nature.. We hunt... the problem is if it didn't work we wouldn't keep doing it! Ladies have the luxury of literally swiping the dude physically right or left... lol
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beachgal20
5 years ago
I used to try to reply to all messages, but it got to the point that if I replied and said, " thanks for your message, however ?....(add various applicable responses), the abuse would start rolling in....or they ask why they weren't my type etc etc...... I also simply don't get excited about replying to a 'hi, how Ya do in' message from all sorts of guys, many of which do not match my criteria and probably haven't fully read my bio....... Sorry guys 😳
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RHP User
5 years ago
Second post on this topic .. it's a numbers game. There's a ton of guys on here and probably half as many ladies so the numbers won't add up. A chick thats a 5 here is like a 7 or 8 .. all these websites will favour the ladies .. the power of the Psss
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beachgal20
5 years ago
PeggyPersuer....your reply is spot on!!! Thank you for spelling out all the scenarios ☺️
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RHP User
5 years ago
U don't need to be buffed or younger or really good looking. But u do need to be respectful of what each person is seeking. Seems to me a few bitter men here who think they have an entitlement to grab a quick shag for there paid membership. But if u think a OS trip for a guarenteed paid relief is much easier. Then I expect a trip to GP for a prescripton to fix up whatever dose u get while your at it.
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Paulus
5 years ago
I make a date with the scammers to meet me in the lobby cafe at Interpol but they always stand me up. People have no manners nowadays.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Lol ... great way to get woman to respond and see who is reading blogs ... now u can see who .. bet u contact them
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RHP User
5 years ago
Hi do you know where Jordan smith is
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RHP User
5 years ago
Hi I love how you try to get the dick out off your pants
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MzRizk
5 years ago
What @ms__silk said🥂
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MzRizk
5 years ago
Nailed it @PeggyPersuer!💥🥂💫
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RHP User
5 years ago
No one is obligated to reply, just like no one is obligated to send a message... If you don’t get a reply, move on. No point whatsoever getting butt hurt about it & if you DO, it’s probs an indication you were waaaaaaaay too invested to begin with!
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theasianunicorn
5 years ago
Right now I have 397 unread messages in my inbox in 2 weeks. It’s too overwhelming.
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3someparties
5 years ago
Is very much in the minority as most women will indeed chose the buff young stud over the average joe. For every 7-8 guys on here there is one woman who probably doesn’t find the majority of guys on here attractive. And yet its the single guys who pretty much prop up the site financially 😂. It’s sad amd funny at the same time.
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Hellsbella
5 years ago
I received 314 in my first day averaging about 30-40 per day now.....
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RHP User
5 years ago
I've read many comments and I wish some of the women woukd get of their high horse about having to reply. You don't have to reply to anyone so chill out .. but if you were sitting in the shoes ofnthe guys that sign up to these sites and the supply and demand is 10 to 1 you might have something to bitch about as do some of these guys. As far as im concerned I see an opportunity to create a site that has a more even spread pardon the pun lol .. have fun finding whatever your looking for as most are waisting their time .. go to a brothle boys and get a root, quicker, easier and probably cheaper !!!
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RHP User
5 years ago
Good day to everyone. As a human person I was taught to answer when talked to. However that was before this "insidious" form of communication came into being but I have to agree with the women who have replied. I will not contact someone who states quite clearly non smoker etc.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Supply versus Demand - men are as grains of sand as women are to gold nuggets. In a market economy, it is what it is. So for guys, distinguishing one’s self is absolutely essential.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Yeah online dating is a farce I think how are you too meet people these days ? Not like this I'm thinking reason why women on here have so many messages is becourse there are not many on here.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Donald Draper. WOW you are what I call a misogynist. If I had sevaral thousand messages I'm stuffed if I'd be trying to respond to someone like you, ps your spelling is appaling.
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RHP User
5 years ago
@havedick - 11/10 for the name bud 👍🏽🤣
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RHP User
5 years ago
Wow. Why do I even bother. Mite as well give up and delete.
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justforme63
5 years ago
Certainly a site heavily weighted towards woman ... and lots of profiles that aren't , let's say, legitimate
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MsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
I agree with Donald. I do not have to reply if I do not want too. It is not up to you to decide for me. As for noting on someone's spelling, that is rude. Use your manners you were taught. please. Ms Foxy
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Supernova
5 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_silk' U don't need to be buffed or younger or really good looking. Bahahaha That's a good one...joke of the day right there :P Sorry ms silk, but yes, we do have to be in that criteria, absolutely. Hypergamy is very prevalent in Aussie society, and in western societies in general.. 80% of women will go for the top 5 -10 % of men, and its evident more so than ever when it comes to online dating. To be a man in the top 5-10% you need to be Tall, handsome, and wealthy. It is then, AND ONLY THEN, that 'personalities' come into play. What frustrates a lot of men, I think, is the unrealistic standards that are set out by some of the women... ..I've seen some rather unappealing profiles, overweight, unattractive, poorly written, terrible blurry photos...just BAD female profiles, listing what they want in a man, it usually goes something like this: * Tall men preferred - I like my guys over 6ft!* athletic or muscular build* non-smoker* Tattoooooooos ERRRMAGGHEERD* Good communicator * makes me laugh*Tradies and manly men * family values* At least 8 inches * Wants ongoing arrangement - no ONS!* volunteers at puppy adoption farms on the weekends And here I am thinking to myself as I read these profiles: "And what exactly do you have to offer that warrants such a pre-defined list of unrealistic standards? Unless you are tall, rich and attractive yourself, what makes you think you deserve this?" Imagine this gals. A thought experiment, if you will... Picture George Castanza on a dating profile. You browse his photos, and then read what he looks for in a woman: * Must be under 60kgs, I like my women petite!* Must be shorter than me (5ft6) * At least C cup boobs*Athletic or Slim build* Tattoos ERRMAGHERD* Doesn't talk too much* makes good meals* Doesn't watch trashy TV* Has perfectly smooth skin and a good ass! Now, ladies, would you read this and nod your head in agreement that this is what this guy DESERVES!? No...you wouldn't. I imagine you'd be thinking "What a fucking wanker..." The problem is that, with sooooo much choice available, and so many messages flooding your inbox, it's giving some women a false sense of their market dating value. A woman who is a 5/10 looks and a 5/10 personality now honestly believes she deserves a 9 or 10/10 guy with all the attributes of batman. So, when she looks through her inbox, of course only the top tier guys will get a reply. Why bother with less attractive men? Why settle for a just a 'good personality" when a "hot guy with a good personality" is just a few clicks away? So, for the last time - just enough of the " I fall for personalities" tripe. ...Actions speak louder than words, and we are watching ;)
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RHP User
5 years ago
Because men it would seem do not read profiles. Mines set up KISS style for any that may struggle. Its not hard to get past a photo and actually read. 🙄
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RHP User
5 years ago
I won't reply to messages if they haven't read my profile. This is almost 100%. I have replied to only 2 people since rejoining and that was only because I had been in contact with onewhen I was on here previously and the other stated they looked different in their pictures and I questioned why it was difficult for them to upload a new photo. Fact is, if guys are not prepared to put in the work to read what a woman is looking for, how in the hell are they going to be able to please them? Sorry but blunt truth you all need to hear.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Donald Draper Mr Ad Man has some good advice People, read and learn! Here's the thing too: some men do this and I realise not all - BUT it's really really grotty to send women booty-call texts while at the same time refusing to meet even for a platonic coffee. It shows zero respect, an unhealthy emotional attachment to sex as a commodity-related activity, and ones that do are treating women like a kink machine to throw coins in, like we are mere objects at their beck and call. And the fact they try to after reading my no-nosense profile speaks to their amazing egos in play. And in the end, they miss out on a potential new connection with someone, as I am aware of my worth. If someone is compelled to do this, while they also claim to work full-time, be professional etc, why don't you just book a SEX WORKER, seriously, you book in,no coffee or chit-chat necessary, oh oh I forgot - the Ego craves the need to feel sexually desired by private citizens and it's a SHAME to have to pay. There's nothing wrong with sex-work, nothing! Support SW and SW decrim. But please treat the workers with respect or maybe ask "could you help me please? I have issues around any sort of emotional vulnerability when trying to meet women for potential play,any tips?". Be prepared to learn something besides just focusing on getting a Root!!
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RHP User
5 years ago
And to add to supernova.. What an absolute load of shit. As I said mg criteria is you read and acknowledge that you meet my criteria, yes I like tall men, no I don't and won't date in the top percentile of the male population. That, physically would be you, right? Well hard truth-men who spend as much time as you working on their physique actually have no clue how to use their cock or navigate a vagina. If you're so hung up on not getting replies that you have to be a judgy prick then maybe you should work less on your appearance and more on your personality.
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Deepestdesire
5 years ago
This is such a good question. My upbringing dictates I respond to all of them. From my experience on other forums, if I responded by saying no thanks, it was like a challenge to the guys and they wouldn't stop until I blocked them. So I learnt to rather just not respond at all. Which is what ive done up until recently on this site. But, what I've come to realise is that on this site, no is no. It's been enlightening. And refreshing. Although I do agree with what many of the ladies have said above, I'm quite specific in my profile about what I'm looking for, but this doestnt seem to register with many guys, or they just don't read it.
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AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
The comment about being a wanker. Maybe you should own it? You have some clue but is let down by the part that has no clue. Work on it
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Supernova
5 years ago
Can easily tell who falls into that category by those that were triggered by my honest statement 😂
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Supernova
5 years ago
Woah awomanwithneeds. I don’t believe I mentioned your name anywhere in my post. What gives you then the right to accuse me of: *not being able to use my cock to navigate a vagina *needing to work on my personality (ummmm you don’t know me?) * not getting replies (I never mentioned I personally was struggling for replies) One read through your profile and it’s quite obvious as to why you were triggered. But To then go on to make a personal jab looks petty, immature, and basically reveals a lot more about your personality than mine.
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Supernova
5 years ago
https://youtu.be/H6ONHDmDD8s I should have just posted this instead. Better to hear it from your fellow females I think... men saying “hardline” truths on here only ends up triggering people and making things personal. This woman gets it 👆
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RHP User
5 years ago
Why should we bother wasting our time writing a novel every time only to get no reply.and have to pay for it also.😏.so frustrating and it's all dating sites preying on the lonely.😔
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RHP User
5 years ago
Completely agree with some other articulate women above, indicating to @Denied that we are under no obligation to provide a reply just so that a second (unwanted) message from the same man doesn’t cost him anything....! Just today I’ve received several messages that criticise or make fun of the length/detail in my profile. I’m not sure why a man would think that is a great way to get me interested, but there you go... Im just trying to ensure I don’t waste anyone’s time (including my own) When I first joined rhp (a few years ago) I genuinely felt bad if I didn’t reply to all messages, and so I would even reply to those men who had clearly ignored my profile details or who had been rude or creepy, and carefully provided feedback on why I wasn’t interested. I was hoping to be helpful, but it elicited some really scary, aggressive messages. So what’s a woman to do - we can’t ignore, or provide feedback, or we are stuck up bitches..... Are we to hook up with every bloke who types out “Hey hunni wotz up free for sexy times?” Don’t think so! Articulate, thoughtful messages always get a reply. It’s just not always immediate.
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MsJonesy
5 years ago
Your misogynistic tendencies are showing again.
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Bazingal
5 years ago
I have received nearly 7000 messages in the years I have been on RHP and that's not including messages on kik, fb or my phone from prople I am still in contact with not even mentioning family and friends. I am very particular with what I am looking for and yet still receive messages from people that do not fit my criteria. I used to respond, but was met with abuse or messages requiring justification to my decision. I am by no means desperate for company and have a life outside RHP so won't be wasting my time on people I don't find suitable. At the end of the day if you do match what someone is seeking why message them and expect a response? Btw I am a paid member and instigate messages when I desire.
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AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
Getting a message from Supernova...... No wonder we don't reply. The very example of the existence of the problem.
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curiousnhorny05
5 years ago
It’s interesting how some feel entitled. Yes you have a quota but that’s not a bad thing. Personally I get over the ppl who can’t read my profile and don’t look at my location (when I have a date). For the guys who aren’t buff, women aren’t as superficial as you think. But we’d like to see a well composed photo or a few and a witty intelligent, sexy conversation. I recently enjoyed a guy who wasn’t my “type of man” but he was respectful, witty and made me feel sexy, so guess what he had a good night! My suggestion don’t over invest in a message. Indicate what you like about a person, and ask if they are interested in getting to know you more. You’ll be surprised about how someone paying attention to your bio etc... indicates respect and a certain level of care and attention. Good luck to everyone out there :)
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SarahandSteve
5 years ago
It extends to couples too We received 20 or more a day, at first wevtried to reply to the more intelligent messages. But we soon had to change that idea Our membership gives us 6 messages a day That left little for us to contact others. Then there was the abusive messages Such as What’s wrong with just meeting to see if we click etc My partner soon tired of this we don’t bother much with the site now As others have said Don’t send a I’m horny want to meet up Read the profile If it says looking for a professional type of person then please consider if you fit that description We have met several guys from the site It’s more about being the right person at the right time
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lickyousilly181
5 years ago
A person joins fills in a profile up loads a picture to either meet a partner or play friend then receives a message from an interested party....yes if it's a two word message like "wana f..k" or the like well that's justified with immediate delete ( and you can usually identify them as part of the message is shown in the first line of your inbox) but surely if you've opened the message and seen a profile pic ( not just a dick pic ) then is a no thanks really that much of an inconvenience...you've advertised yourself the person hasn't just come up to you... create a no thanks template if it's all to overwhelming.... just saying
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deepestpurple
5 years ago
This thread is a perfect illustration of why the ratio problem is not nearly as great a problem for men as it is made out to be. There is an example here of every version of pathetic male that seems to flock to these sites like moths to flames. And threads like this are the brightest of flames for these moths. It is truely spectacular how utterly emasculated the typical Australian male has become. Seriously, any guy out there who somewhat has their life together, doesn't hate women for being what they are instead of what it would suit for them to be, can write a legible sentence, takes ownership of their own actions (good and bad), at least sorta tries to learn from mistakes and doesn't turn into a pissy complainer the second something gets a bit difficult, take heart from this thread. You will look very attractive here compared to these idiots. If you add in knowing where at least 3 female erogenous zones are and the emotional intelligence to understand that different bodies respond differently then the ratio equation is probably getting close to favoring you. There are plenty of attractive women in this thread saying fairly reasonable things.
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RHP User
5 years ago
I just flat out don’t message anyone, nor does anyone message me. Oh hang on. I’m a guest. 🤭😂
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CD_SwallowUnow
5 years ago
best fuck a tranny.. no moaning from them :)... well, erm.... only when balls deep :)
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AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
Starting to warm to you. You are not such a big dick after all. You're probably a good root too.......at least l reckon you'd think you were.....
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AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
I should complimenting everyone. I'm getting too soft...
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RHP User
5 years ago
What deepestpurple said ☝️
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RHP User
5 years ago
Wow just wow No bloody wonder I rarely get a reply The women are bombarded with msgs Basically unless you’re a stand out model bloke you just won’t get noticed to get a reply :/
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kco782
5 years ago
Who’s in perth
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RHP User
5 years ago
I like it
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TheGentleTouch69
5 years ago
I think that many men on here are showing exactly why women don’t respond, if this is how you respond in public I would hate to see the private messages that you send people!
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RHP User
5 years ago
Hmm its seems i am late to the party here but what the hey. This topic is never going to go away is it? I must say the numbers quoted here do start to put it in perspetive. I get frustrated with a couple of messages from friends in the real world let alone being bombarded with these numbers from unknowns. I guess from the male side we just need to be respectful but perseverant. Nothing worth having is easy to get.
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kynkyfun
5 years ago
So much truth here. The skeptic in me wonders if some of the profiles are not real but posted to pad out the numbers of female participants on the site and so are not likely at all to reply unless the administrators decide to reply. Yes, there are real ppl here and I have recieved messages from them but I do wonder sometimes. Have a great day everyone and play respectfully, safe ,sane and consensually. Kynkyfun
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non_such
5 years ago
This question is asked again and again: ‘why won’t women reply to me. What am I doing wrong?’ I don’t need to answer that. The women on here will tell you again and again what you are doing wrong. But there is always a sense of entitlement from the guys: ‘I paid my membership and the least I deserve for my investment is a polite reply.’ It’s like saying: ‘I put my chips down on the roulette table and so I deserve to win something.’ Guys, you need to realise that this place really is roulette. I don’t know what the ratio of male to female is here, but there are way more men. And most of those men assume that because a woman has joined this site, she is up for casual sex with very little wooing. The numbers quoted by the women writing here agree with what I’ve been told by girl friends who have joined RHP, and from women I’ve spoken to here. Within the first few days of joining, their inbox is buried under an avalanche of several hundred flirts, dick pix and ‘hey babe’ messages. Of the five new profiles that RHP post on the front page every day, at least one will have already deleted or hidden her profile out of sheer disgust at the volume and shallowness of the messages. ‘Hey babe, wanna hook up?’ seems to be the most common, and it is clear that the sender has shotgunned the same message to as many women as possible, often without reading the profiles properly or even checking whether they are within the right age range. And the fewer replies they get, the more messages they send, hoping that by spraying out enough messages they will eventually get a hit. Apart from the sheer volume of messages received, the second most common reason I hear why women don’t reply is the fear of abuse. Every woman has at least one story of declining a guy and getting a reply that says: ‘Fuck you bitch, you’re not so hot.’ The fact that this subject gets raised again and again suggests that men have not got any better at understanding and dealing with rejection or silence. Every guy on here should remember Margaret Atwood’s maxim: ‘Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them.’ So here are my estimates of numbers: I reckon about a third of the women on here are ‘just looking’ or ‘dipping a toe’ to see if this place is right for them. Mostly it’s not for them and they move on. Another third are using RHP to find a long-term partner, as an alternative to the vanilla sites, or often using RHP and vanilla sites at the same time. I’d say about of the remaining third maybe half are on here out of boredom and not really that keen on meeting anyone. I have had a couple of female friends admit that they use RHP as ego balm. If they are feeling a bit low they will log in and enjoy a little flirting. There are a few rare women on here that enjoy making the guys jump through hoops to get their attention. That leaves maybe one-in-six who are sex-positive and open to meeting for something casual and NSA. I live out west and there just aren’t that many members here. I only see a handful of profiles that I consider worth writing to. Looking through my mailbox I write to maybe four or five women each week. That’s less than one per day. I always reply in detail, introducing myself, chatting about things on their profile that I like or that we have in common. Even so I rarely get a reply, and often the message is not even read. That’s just how it is. Only about one-in-ten messages will get a reply. Of those only about half will develop into a conversation. And of those conversations only half will result in meeting. So over the last couple of years I’ve been on here I estimate the numbers are: (4 or 5 messages sent per week) x (52 weeks) x10% x 50% x 50% = 6 meetings per year. So that’s one in 36: exactly the same odds as my number coming up at roulette. So I might meet someone every couple of months or so. Not stellar numbers but these are usually worthwhile and rewarding encounters and I’m still in touch with many of the women I’ve met. So guys, remember this: ‘If a door doesn’t open, it’s not your door.’
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