M56
I think its just basic manners to answer a message regardless if its a yes or no. whats everyones thoughts
August 09 2018
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RHP User
6 years ago
You have to match the people you are contacting... Tailor your approach... Don't count on a reply.. And then, keep moving forward looking for a way that works. Check out the events page! Peachy
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deepestpurple
6 years ago
no reply is a non verbal response, it's still a response. It's easier on everyone to just leave it at at. Do you really want someone to say they aren't keen? A lot of guys actually don't and lash out when they get that reply. Besides, her feelings might be more vague than yes/no and being all needy for a response is only ever going to firm up a no. Ride a face that appreciates you, don't side around waiting for replies.
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
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DynamicCouple36
6 years ago
on a site like this. Yes, it is courteous and good manners to reply to a message. We did, when we were new to this site. However one soon realises that one gets such a high number of unsolicited and often crass & disrespectful messages from people (always a male / the male half going the typing we feel) who have not bothered to read ones profile wording, or simply do not respect what one has written and go ahead a message you regardless. Then on the occasion that you do reply , with a “no thanks “ , you often face a barrage of abuse and questions as to why you have said no , and that you don’t know what you are missing blah blah blah . And so one soon becomes “hardened “ to it all and simply ignores the flood of incoming messages. There are no guarantees on this site. No one owes you anything, not even a reply to your message. Best to have no expectations and no entitlement. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
with you OP in principle however in today’s society, basic good manners have fallen by the wayside. This is proven every day by those who chose public transport as their mode of getting around. Have you ever noticed people don’t even wait for fellow commuters to disembark before pushing themselves on board ? Do school kids stand for adults anymore ? Do people stare obliviously at their phones when in the company of others ? A few gripes of mine The reality is as a woman on here we receive many messages, many inappropriate, many not matching our criteria, many with no effort and many that are simply dumbarse I used to answer every message religiously asked on your thinking, that it was polite, however it got wearisome when men argued my polite rejection, were rude and me constantly justifying for my decision I now reply to about 80 percent of my messages. If a person contacts me where it’s very obvious to me it’s a template message with no effort or meeting my basic criteria I no longer both replying. If they want to waste a message by messaging without consideration then that’s their issue not mine As I’ve read here recently , no reply is a reply
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Zarabyfar
6 years ago
It may be seen as basic manners to reply. But some messsages don’t deserve one. And many guys don’t like the polite refusal and reply with abuse so it’s often just easier to not reply. You just have met o accept that. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MissRedFox
6 years ago
Judging by the amount of guys who ghost suddenly after exchanging a few messages if it was men recieving the amount of messages women do they wouldn't be replying to every single one of them either. It's not a pleasant task to tell someone no thanks - also life just gets in the way. And if you're waiting around for messages then maybe it's time to get busy doing life. And if you're not getting replies maybe consider your profile and the messages youre sending. XX - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
If I'm not interested. It wouldn't bother me if someone didn't reply to mine. This has happened on other sites. Just means you are not open to connecting with this person. Some continue the conversation even after you've said thanks for the interest but not looking atm etc. Sorry if I'm rude - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
A no reply is a no. I don't have to reply if I don't want too, especially if I have never met them or their message is rude/ vulgar or doesn't interest me. There's no obligation too. I do not get emotionally attached to messages. Why waste time on them, when it can be utilized on someone in real life. Ms Foxy
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tcm70
6 years ago
I do think it’s courtesy to reply. I have replied to a msg request here(yes I did get one, lol) stating my thanks but sorry as they were not what I was looking for. They replied with a thank you, so it was a pleasant experience at least. However, after chatting to other people and hearing different experiences regarding some of the hostile replies, I think I’d also go into “not bothering” mode if I was inundated with horrid msg’s. Tho I think I’d still try to reply to those that come across as genuine.
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NewVicCpl
6 years ago
If someone messages us and they: - Have a blank template profile with no pictures and no info - Have had to tick the RHP warning telling them they do not match what we are looking for (hint hint single guys) - Jump straight to the 'Oh hey, here's a dick pic want to fuck?' Then they don't get a reply as the message they have sent lacks manners and respect so why would they deserve my time and respect?
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RHP User
6 years ago
What's next? Demanding fish give anglers a reason for why they didn't take the bait? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
I totally agreeAll my messages have been polite and respectful, I take the time to compliment them on a photo or something in their profile and am never vulgar or crass. I write to them as I am genuinely interested.If you take the time to write to someone thoughtfully then i don't think its unreasonable to expect the same i return I have had 2 replies in this vain " thanks for your nice message but you aren't what we are looking for " Great no problem I thank them for replying and move on Give each message what its due, if they are rude etc go ahead ignore, if they are nice be nice in return Its not that hard Guess the curse of the single male on here I guess, to many and to many douche bags :-)
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The_Antichrist
6 years ago
I’m not aiming to seduce when I send a message....in fact I don’t have an end goal in mind... So.... I send, and my Alzheimer’s helps me forget, and I’m often surprised when a reply comes back.... No expectations = no disappointments.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Totally agree. Reply no matter what. Be polite if your answer is a no to someone. Shows society these days. Slip in common curtosy generally - Posted from rhpmobile
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Greidiawl
6 years ago
while it its true on the surface that it is basic manners to respond to a message that is sent, other factors come into play. how many messages follow the rulers of basic manners? how many people look at the criteria before sending a message when they are hardly a match? how many react badly to a nicely worded NO? as stated several times above, a no response is a no, and we should always allow people the courtesy of having that option. Steve - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
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Golfpunk71
6 years ago
Have absolutely no expectations going in I say.....it's an internet hookup site after all. I just go with being respectful to everyone, should be a given reallly....unless of course you show me you don't deserve it, then it's hit the road for you!!!! I'm honest and have no want or interest in fucking people over and playing games. And everyone has a past, stories to tell, it's what makes people who they are, I'm in no position to pass judgment it's not the way I roll....from there it is what it is, not everyone will like you, as a single male on here you canbattle under the weight of stereotypes and presumption at almost every turn, end of the day if you are true to yourself who cares if some faceless person on a keyboard doesn't think your god's gift to the world, whatever....the sparks and encounters with genuine, like minded people, you may be lucky enough to find and explore with are what it's about anyway, surely they outweigh the negative tenfold???? Having said all that I'll patiently wait in little old Tassie for it to happen to me hahaha ✌ - Posted from rhpmobile
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Bazingal
6 years ago
Do you call telemarketers back, reply to spam emails or write letters to companies that supply junk mail? I wouldn't think anyone does. So why is it expected a person reply to messages from someone that does not meet their profile outline? It's manners NOT to message someone that says they don't want you to message them in the first place.
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3someparties
6 years ago
Half the people who register to events don’t reply to messages sent. Thats why we have a blacklist and a blockbutton. It’s never going to change so adapt and move on.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Thanks mate. That's what I was trying to get across
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LetsFrolic
6 years ago
Answer flirts and messages regardless .. and I dont judge from someone just saying hi That's how people normally talk - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Why should any one reply .... manners are only necessary when you are meeting people in person .... and maybe you are not reading people’s profiles properly so if you can’t be bothered reading the profile and see if you match watch people are looking g for why should people reply We get messages and flirts all the time from people that are not remotely linked to what we say we are looking for .... so they can keep fishing somewhere else And plus Manchester United shirt guarantees no manners ... never met a Man U supporter yet with manners - Posted from rhpmobile
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megz85g
6 years ago
But these days I’m lucky to even open all my messages, so a very select few actually get a reply. Oops. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
I think its rude of you to expect me to spend hours of my time replying to messages I never asked for sent from people who haven't even read my profile. It's a maths thing. Most women simply can't process the number of messages they receive with a simple reply. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
I'm not entitled to a response to any message/flirt I send by virtue of sending it. And I don't send them out expecting one back. It's nice when it happens, even if it's a no, but no one owes that to me. Frankly speaking, I don't have the time to sit there and get miffed at everyone who doesn't reply. I *hope* people will, but I don't expect it. It's hard to be disappointed in people when you have zero expectations of them. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Eiliethiya
6 years ago
I replied just this weekend to tell someone they want different things to me...and this is the reply from a 30+ year old "man" 'Sorry I dunno what I was thinking your too ugly and fat anyway' - Posted from rhpmobile
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Freaky_Fun
6 years ago
Maybe you should start a forum on why men respond with obnoxious messages. Oh no wait on, thats been done to death as well. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'Eiliethiya' I replied just this weekend to tell someone they want different things to me...and this is the reply from a 30+ year old "man" 'Sorry I dunno what I was thinking your too ugly and fat anyway' - Posted from rhpmobile ____________________ So sorry to hear that happened to you.__________________________ So, Slabster, see now THIS would be precisely why people don't respond to all messages.You unnerSTAND you unnerSTAND????
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Swingingnudist
6 years ago
Being a single male on here i get inundated with messages from females and just don't get time to reply... - Posted from rhpmobile
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The_Phoenix
6 years ago
Nothing could be further from the truth. The ugly and fat he’s referring to is his brain and ego. Poor darling got refused entry by a hot, sexy, vivacious woman! Almost needs a topic just like the “ celebrities read mean tweets “ I’m sure you guys “expecting” a response might change your tune, but then again....... actually same goes for the couples too. I’m signing off before I shoot myslef in the foot 🤦♂️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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abcplus1
6 years ago
As a couple we get hardly any responses. And given the 'quick reply' feature that takes almost no time to actually reply, it can be a little annoying. But each to their own I suppose.
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egr2please69
6 years ago
Slabster. I agree with your premise but having been in here for a little while now responses are few and far between. In real normal life absolutely i would hope for some form of reply but in this world where unfortunately there are too many people with delicate egos who can't and don't handle rejection so to safeguard themselves a lot of people simply choose to make no reply as a reply 'no'. I see both sides of the coin and understand both arguments. I think you need to find some sort of understanding that works for you in here or you may become quite frustrated or even angry. Just accept this as the norm in here and you will deal with the lack of replies so much easier that when you do get one, even if its a no, you will respond so much nicer. Enjoy the ride in here, it is fun if you go about it the right way and don't take it too seriously. My experience and opinion mate. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Then when they contact me, because they have done everything a girl could ask for, I do the right thing and decline. I'm worried I might be abused? I think I'll just take option A of then blocking safe in the knowledge I did my best to fulfill my side of the bargain. OR I want to set boundaries within my profile about how I will handle contact, I will be satisfied knowing I have done my best there too. Even if that boundary is that I might not reply. I'd love to see these details offered as perfectly good explanations that are about how we matter rather than how other people behave. Peachy
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RHP User
6 years ago
Oh....you lucky lucky man
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RHP User
6 years ago
Must add, you have always replied to ours 007
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0z_boy
6 years ago
hmmmm what are these mystical things you speak of?
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RHP User
6 years ago
As a couple when we first created this profile we were getting dozens of messages everyday, it was chaos. I don’t think single men realize how much attention women or couples get here. We are a busy couple who works a lot. How are we supposed to respond 200 flirts and 20 messages every time we signed in? And most of these are single straight men who don’t even read profiles. We clearly stated what we are looking for, and if you still message/flirt with us without reading our profile guess what? Not only we won’t respond but we will block you. Other thing is, we message people as well but we don’t go back and check their profiles repeatedly or wonder why we don’t get response and send another message. Not many people rely on this site, specially not the ones who already have other options. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
I know what you mean I always reply it seems that I'd say 90% have bad manners.. I guess it's the world we live in today where men have turned into pussies and women are the assholes!!!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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The_Phoenix
6 years ago
It’s more about expectations. It’s takes time to consider and write a well formed, structured and grammatically intact reply. M - Let’s fuck, I’m free tonight! F - I’m in Zanzibar on holidays. You seem really cute and wow I love your opening message. Which hotel are you staying in? Be here in 15 mins I’m sooo horny. # crickets # Having recently opened a couples profile, one can’t respond to 30 messages a day. Not even practical. We have lives and kids FFS. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
We used to respond to every msg, but got bitten by a few hurt egos that didnt like rejection or just enjoyed stirring the pot so we stopped responding to every msg. We get responses to about 50% of msgs if we contact single women. 99% are rejections. You just have to grow a thick skin and understand that most women are inundated or don't enjoy rejecting people. It's not so much about manners, but self protection. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
It is basic manners. Im polite, respectful and i always just say in my ladt comment in my msg. Just give me a yes or no i wont be offended and then to get nothing from the person that initiates the conversation is rude. - Posted from rhpmobile
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seachange700
6 years ago
Everyone is different. Some profiles would attract more messages and flirts than others and I can understand if those people didn’t reply to everyone. If you match with someone and start a conversation talk about making plans and they stop talking to you with no explanation then that is rude. Give them a yes, no, sorry plans changed but don’t leave them hanging. - Posted from rhpmobile
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abab1
6 years ago
Some people spout that they should receive a message back. We send messages back and we receive replies that are akin to begging. It's polite to answer but impolite to be unable to take a no. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange
6 years ago
Again gentlemen, please don't take it personally. Read above responses from women for non reply. We are avoiding drama based on some men who didn't do the right thing after we have been respectful by replying. Don't give us shit for not replying to you just because you expect one from us. Just get over it. Just today, I replied a 'no' from a younger guy in Melbourne after he sent me a silly message with 'me love you long time'. Wtf! He then bombarded me with nasty messages. I didn't bother reading all but I know the entitled type so I just deleted the other abusive messages, left unread. Then blocked him. So those stupid few do you a disservice. Why don't you guys sort each other out instead of blaming us for non reply? Give us a reason treat you with the respect you deserve.
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RHP User
6 years ago
personally if you dont get a reply just take it as a no.. i mean the ladies probably have to weed their mails like its spam lol.. some reply and say no some dont.. the ones that reply i say thank you and just move on - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
I don't even answer the door 100% of the time when someone knocks - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
I state that id much prefer a polite no then to be ignored. However, I do realise that some people get a lot of abuse when they give that polite no. I realise that I wont be what some people are looking for and I totally get that. I guess having that line in my profile is trying to let people know that I understand that we are all looking for something different and I wont be offended if im not "it". - Posted from rhpmobile
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sensualjs
6 years ago
We always reply to messages. Flirts are just too many. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Reply if you have a chance ... all polite & rude messages ... in fact, I reply more to rude messages like ... free tonight? Or want to fuck? Lol... literally, those only a few samples very rude for first messages from strangers I have had received... I gave them a piece of my mind & blocked straightaway so no chance for them to reply .... too easy 😈 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Not at all,reply as you please,if anyone on this site is offended by anything then possibly wrong site....manners are fantastic on initial meeting however...very sexy!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Read some of the messages from the men its alot different if you,ve started a conversation and then nothing just to leave you hanging thats just plain rude. I have no expectations thats when some of the guys egos get hurt just say not for me and I'll move on. - Posted from rhpmobile
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PassionFreaks
6 years ago
"Ive been waiting for this topic, couldntagree more." Seriously it only gets done umm, ohhhhh let's say every other week. And the comments are exactly the same, men complaining, women explaining. Same old, same old. If l received the same replies at the pub as l do from keyboard warriors l would end up decking someone. Ms PF Ps. Gawd Lily read your messages so you can reply lol.
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RHP User
6 years ago
To add to the above, it’s even more annoying when people don’t read your profile and then send a message anyway. Or send a message with a one liner like “hello”. It’s a different scenario if someone suddenly stops replying because they aren’t interested anymore. The adult and polite thing to do is to say so. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
I don’t reply to all messages as some are just downright stupid with no thought put into it, as MissRedFox pointed out perfectly the amount of men that ghost after a few messages probably out weighs the ones we don’t reply to - Posted from rhpmobile
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sweetnsensual
6 years ago
We try and reply to any message we get and generallyget good responses but do get the odd rude response - Posted from rhpmobile
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Pervertedsuit
6 years ago
Dont be so self entitled. If you can’t hanfle rejection get off the site - in fact probably get off the internet. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
So my wife and I have our own pages and we also have a couples page. And some of the messages my wife gets in her page are not worth replying to. She shows me a few of the messages, and I’m like really dude! “Come sit on my face and I’ll make you orgasm” your idiot! But of course there are other people that write respectful message and I think that they deserve respect back with a yes or no. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Um. No If I don't reply I'm not interested and would expect people to do the same to me. Members on here do not owe you anything. I'm not into men, my profile outlines it Clearly. I still get men sending their junk. I do not have to reply to anyone. Especially not rude and UNWANTED messages. I state what I'm into and no one reads it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
I get more messages from men then women. Im not into men... I like women I should NOT have to reply to every tom, Harry and george that sends me a message, when they CLEARLY HAVEN'T READ A THING. whats worse is the 10 men a day who say they can turn you If the last 3 cock pic weren't enough to turn me then this next one won't be either. No one should be forced to join into a conversation just because you popped up on an internet chat box... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
There are literally an infinite number of reasons why a profile hasn't messaged you back. Does it feel better to get a response? Yes, no and maybe. Personally if someone doesn't reply then they're not interested... that's fine. If you're getting offended by no responses I would be questioning whether you're really secure enough for this lifestyle. (Unsolicited 2 cents perhaps) A complete non issue in our eyes. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Always reply to messages. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Females that are so called Unicorns are a funny bunch on here. Some i belive actually think they are gods gift to the majority of single males. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
We have a couples profile but my wife simply wont even log on anymore.Theres just too much signal to noise for her to make any sense of. So, it's left to me (husband) to play bullshit filter.I probably reply to about 30% of messages. Personal gripes almost ensuring I don't bother - - single M account makes contact (has no pics on profile) with message "nice pics, got any more?"... Maybe, dunno, what you got?- No effort put into the profile or original message.- Guys who are outside Tee's clear outline of what shes after, and then also take a no badly. "Why not", "shes a slut anyways" etc etc.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'PeachyPearL' You have to match the people you are contacting... Tailor your approach... Don't count on a reply.. And then, keep moving forward looking for a way that works. Check out the events page! I totally agree with slabster,, just put yourself in that position you would want to know whether you were acceptable or not
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RHP User
6 years ago
The female friend of mine who told me about this site in the first place left because she was completely overwhelmed with messages. Answering everyone (even with a 'no thanks') would have turned into a full time job. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
What is rude is when chatting to someone over time then they just stop chatting for no reason.Explaination would be good. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
We live in politically correct times and yet lack basic things such as manners. Yes, people should reply even if it's a no. Just my humble opinion. Please don't bitch and moan like a baby. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
No...some ppl take an answer...when it''s no...as an invitation to continue to message...no response is a response - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Why do you need a reply. Everyone has a type , I'm assuming you where not it . Plenty of fish in the sea mate im sure you'll find one that will click with you and you'll have a great time together. - Posted from rhpmobile
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mensbits
6 years ago
I read the profiles before messaging, being older than the majority of people on here, I check the "looking for" criteria. If it states 18- 99 I assume they are open to anyone contacting them? (I am an optimist 😀) Some people are specific and politeness goes both ways..... Dont send a message if a "no reply" offends. The site merely provides an introduction to like minded people. There is no excuse for bad manners. To all my "single male" peers I suggest you read the profiles. If you dont match,... you shouldnt expect a response. If someone is polite enough to send a decliner, accept it and move on. (On reflection,.. those crass, angry, idiots who believe they are "gifted" in some way and respond crudely to "No thanks" Probably dont read the forums anyway. It would seem they are not "gifted but limited" ... - Posted from rhpmobile
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Ready2Play
6 years ago
I was of the opinion that a reply is polite. But not anymore, majority if not all these beautiful ladies and couples get bombarded with messages. Can you really reply to them all? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
So we don't actually get enough messages for this to be an issue for us, so as a matter of course we make an effort to reply to each message we receive. The process we go through goes something like this: See new email:look to see who its from (have they got a photo or not)read the message - are they articulate, does their message make sense, is it interestingcompare have they read our profile with what they have written in their email if your not meeting those three criteriathen the email response as a pretty bland... Thanks for your email, at present we don't believe we have similar interests and wish you good luck on your RHP Journey. If they have managed to meet all of the criteria above then we are much more likely to see if there is a connection. if there's something that we still don't feel we connect on you'll also get a discard message. but if you are able to catch our attention then we certainly want to talk and see if we connect more. AJ
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RHP User
6 years ago
What did that guy say in the kingsman? Manners maketh the man or woman! I'm not bitching or moaning. That comment had to do with the trolls on these forums. I was just expressing my opinion. I'm not sure who "you guys" are either. Are you referring to the guys or girls on this site? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Yes and no. If I get no reply from first contact I'm all fine with that. However, if after there have been several exchanges of messages and then suddenly nothing for no immediately apparent reason, then I'd at least expect a final message that they've had a change of mind. That's the rule I've followed with online etiquette since the dialup days. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'Sweetteen18' I get more messages from men then women. Im not into men... I like women - Posted from rhpmobile I get more messages from men then women too, despite my profile stating I'm straight. Most are 'show me your cock pics' messages. If you don't fit the criteria for the person you've messaged, you may not get a reply. That's understandable. Sending cock pics as an introduction isn't a classy idea either. I think cock pics are valid as part of my private gallery, but I would only send or allow viewing upon request. I certainly don't think it's a good idea to send a cock pic unsolicited or as part of first contact. Seems a little presumptuous to me.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I prefer a reply for the simple reason of just knowing they got the message. I know girls here get heaps of messages and so mine could easily get lost in her inbox. If she replies with a 'no' I won't message again. If she doesn't reply, I may resend the message again and again at some other point. I know the computer tells me if a message has been read but on the phone you can't really tell... - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange
6 years ago
This "Same old, same old. If l received the same replies at the pub as l do from keyboard warriors l would end up decking someone. Ms PF Ps. Gawd Lily read your messages so you can reply lol." 😅😅😅 I better get onto it in fear of 'getting decked'! 😆. I should check in my non-matching pile of messages (also the 'undesirables' bunch 😜)
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ButterflySign
6 years ago
Absolutely... Being respectful doesn’t hurt anybody. Not replying does I believe - Posted from rhpmobile
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FUCKONFIRSTDATE
6 years ago
We will tell you what is bad manners. Single guys who don't bother to read a profile before they message and even worse the morons who write absolute filth to the woman, totally ignoring the fact that we are a couple. We could not careless how big you imagine your cock is, or how good you think you can "fuck her ass" Yes we never reply to single "men" unless its to tell them to go #### them selves.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I would possibly agree with you.... IF..... It wasnt for the fact that I have on my profile DO NOT INBOX ME IF YOU ARE NOT LOCAL. Yet I still get heaps of guys 3- 15 hrs away inboxing. I cant make it any clearer!!! Some guys just dont read or dont care. It is annoying. I am always polite replying to start with. I just say "Sorry, But I'm only interested in local people" But then some still insist on saying cant we just sexy chat anyway...... And that's where I get SHITY. Then I pay out on them. These guys make women not want to reply - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Well said Austphil. I couldnt have said it any better. Some guys are real pigs. And they make it harder for the honest redpectable guys to get a look in. I get more messages frim guys just wanting to get off than I do from decent guys. My sedistic side comes out... Wish I had a taser lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
For a site that is about sex its suprising how little sex actually happens and how much drama does... This is true to every couple we have meet every swingers group we have attended and for single guys its even worse. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Hi Slabster, Agreed mate. What some women expect from men they need to behave the same. Feminism etc fails when someone is just downright rude as a reply. A guy trying to entice a girl on rhp with a butt pic on her profile is going to compliment her for her looks too. I tried the respectful compliment way too and asking out for a coffee once. The woman’s reply was so rude I couldn’t believe such feminine energies do exist. I am deluded to believe in something else then. Do not reply or block the person if you like but don’t just reply with something so low and rude. Such bitches get 20 inbox messages so they think it’s alright to be rude and bitchy lol big heads wanting a kick out of such lowly acts. Some of them think that they’re Paris Hilton coz they got so much interest lol Suddenly their looks don’t seem as attractive and that simple woman with simple looks who is respectful seems a lot attractive even on RHP yep. And wtf do these emails and innumerable messages do to getting to know a person. I think the initial emails are alright but then two people should meet to suss each other out. Best of luck mate, Cheers - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Best not be on here if you offend so easily. Its fantasy land for most people and it it such a small part of their day. If they do not write back then it is a no. Simple. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Sometimes we just forget we got a message. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
For guys that message me who clearly fall outside the age criteria I've stated on my profile, I don't feel like I need to reply to them because if they can blatantly disregard what I've said I want, I don't see why I have to be courteous in return? For guys that fall within the age criteria, if I know it's definitely someone I'm not interested in, I'll try and reply no. A lot of the times if I don't reply, its because I haven't decided if I'm interested or not. Out of the people who I've politely said no to, I'd say 80% respond back with a message to say thanks. The other 20% that respond back are just complete assholes, which really discourages me from trying to be courteous in future.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Wow. Such a silly thing to get upset about. I am a male and sometimes don't answer every message or flirt either. Obviously since I am a male, there is never a complete deluge that I couldn't comfortable handle. Various reasons for me not to answer include - * I don't see a notification and it is many days too late and I fear they have forgotten me anyway* It is a dude who hasn't bothered to put up any pics, and makes no effort on his profile blurb * It is a chick with only 1 or 0 pics, who makes no effort also * It reads like an axe murder and I am genuinely a little concerned Maybe it is just time on RHP that cures most people of getting offended, or patience that comes from life experience, but who am I too judge others.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Wow some awesome responses from everyone..Keeping mind the amount of times I will get stood up stuffed around or harassed for pics then if I complain I'm told it is my own fault for picking losers I think not getting responded to is a minor issue. My time is wasted every week by men. Multiple guys in fact. Between a couple of sites I may be dealing with 150 messages min a week.I apologise if any genuine guys have fallen victim to my culling. Agreed, get off the site if you are going to have a fit over lack of responses. You are too precious.If you are serious about navigating online dating territory take it with a grain of salt try and see the humour. If you cant deal with it join a serious dating company and get your self a partner. That why I tell the boys who stand me up its all good, I dont go off and I wish them well staying home to play with their doodles!!!! While I quietly cheer their "crazy ex " on.. ( Love your crazy ex boys) Don't waste my time boys. There's another message a minute in my inbox and some of these guys are quite lovely!!!!
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RHP User
6 years ago
Strange that if a married woman is on here to cheat it's all ok by them. But if that married woman is hit on by a married guy that guy gets called everything under the sun because he is cheating. Now women you like to fuck as do guys dont you dare call them arseholes because they are cheating as married women who are cheating are the same your all bitches. Also women here havent changed their attitudes since I was here last you sll have your heads up your arses thinking your the best and every man wants u. Most of you no man would want - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seriousfun2
6 years ago
We used to but found the wife was abused alot so didnt bother after that its always the same well why not? Blah blah blah so we just take it as no reply is a no but at the same time we dont live on RHP so we at times go a couple of weeks without logging in - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Definitely, a reply should made. It does not cost us anything. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
The last reply I got was worse than no reply at all, much worse. No reply at all would have been much preferred, but then hindsight, obviously, only works one way.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'RandyRon' Common CourtesyQuoting 'PeachyPearL'The online experience is a fleeting oneYou have to match the people you are contacting... Tailor your approach... Don't count on a reply.. And then, keep moving forward looking for a way that works. Check out the events page! I totally agree with slabster,, just put yourself in that position you would want to know whether you were acceptable or not I'm a strong supporter for answering messages that actually match what a person is looking for. In my specific case, if they've ignored the bit at the beginning of my profile where I say not to contact me about sex, that means they don't match and I don't feel any need to explain any further. Being clear in the profile that messages is something that might not be answered is good enough in my opinion. I'd recommend for anyone to be fully confident they've done their best and now it is to the reader to practice their manners by reading, and responding in a suitable manner. No need for the old, 'no reply is a reply' rubbish. That's rude if they match, again, in my opinion of course. Peachy, I really do recommend events too!
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RHP User
6 years ago
If someone has taken the time to write you a respectful genuine message, then of course its right to reply. If I get a dirty crude message from a dude, or someone in general its no reply. You can judge by how someone has written their profile at how they communicate. I am always friendly, a little cheeky about how sexy a couple are, and respectful in every message I send. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
If you can't respond to a nice message with a yay of nay...let me reiterate... A nice message...then you're just another self entitled arsehole...since the world is currently full of self entitled arseholes you obviously fit right in.... There's zero excuse for bad manners....and that's for both sides of a conversation. It used to bother me but at the end of the day it's a reflection of the person not responding not the one saying hello... This place just allows the arseholes to hide in anonymity... Essentially I'll mannered cowards. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
At least it's an acknowledgement that you're not being completely ignored by all the women on here! - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Quoting 'Less_is_more' If you can't respond to a nice message with a yay of nay...let me reiterate... A nice message...then you're just another self entitled arsehole...since the world is currently full of self entitled arseholes you obviously fit right in.... There's zero excuse for bad manners....and that's for both sides of a conversation. It used to bother me but at the end of the day it's a reflection of the person not responding not the one saying hello... This place just allows the arseholes to hide in anonymity... Essentially I'll mannered cowards. - Posted from rhpmobile Good to see you read all the replies before calling many of us arseholes.If you had read the responses you would have come up to speed as to the reasons many dont respond. Perhaps with an entitled attitude like the one displayed is the very reason you dont get responded to. Your version of a "nice" message is your opinion alone. Perhaps tuck in your own bad manners and really absorb all the posts from the women here.As they say, no response take it as a no. Hope you get a root to soften that attitude soon
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DelishNHardon
6 years ago
I can certainly understand why people dont respond to messages especially if they are getting soooo many...we dont get that many but we still only respond to the ones that interest us. As the male half of this couple i cant understand why guys get so offended when they get told no. I have received messages back saying thanks but your not my type...i dont get offended i just move on.. some peopl aren't our type either...no need to get offended its just a fact of life. I still send the odd message but never hold my breath for a reply...if i get one beauty...if i dont i know they aren't interested. Peace - Posted from rhpmobile
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Forus1234
6 years ago
A yes from us! It doesn’t cost anything to be nice! We always try to respond to all messages, even if it takes us a couple of days. Sometimes messages slip through the cracks! Appologies to those who we have missed!
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