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I think its just basic manners to answer a message regardless if its a yes or no. whats everyones thoughts
August 09 2018
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RHP User
6 years ago
I get alot of messages and flirts and although i appreciate the time people take to check out our profile i lead a busy life and sometimes only check every week or two. Also i have been polite when i first signed up for the first week and replied to all messages ..... i learnt my lesson with that as some men cant take a simple no thankyou and sometimes become cranky or like a stalker. I think that messages should be replied to only if they tempt you.... this is the internet and its different face to face where manners are important. I've always been polite when I'm asked out in public and even if I'm not interested I'll still smile and say no thankyou as i appreciate how brave some men are approaching a woman. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
All of us guys get tarred with the same brush just because of a few assholes. Some of us are actually decent honest people.....when I first started out on here and some other sites a few years ago, I spoke to and met a lot of gorgeous women, but now it’s getting to hard....maybe Im getting too old??
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RHP User
6 years ago
Basic manners definitely, women generally see that differently, but they are the ones who are overwhelmed with messages, so I understand why they choose to not reply. That doesn't mean that I agree. As a guy, we send 100 messages and get 3 replies, girls get 100 messages a day and reply to 3. The choice to not reply is firmly in the female favour. I just think it's nice to at least receive a no thanks, I always send courteous messages and I'm tarred with the nasty brush. I can only speak from my own experiences but it's hard on these apps for guys to make a first contact, so a little courtesy every now and then will go a long way. - Posted from rhpmobile
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rosenthorn
6 years ago
very much agree with you!! 😘 - Posted from rhpmobile
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PurePeony
6 years ago
... to actually read a profile and be mindful about the person's preferences before sending flirts/msgs. Despite declaring that I do not respond to flirts, I still get inundated by them. 😒 Needless to say, none of the flirts would've received a reply because I don't even bother to read them. They are the equivalent of junk mail / spam. If it's a msg from someone who obviously haven't even bothered to read your profile, why would that warrant a reply? That's unsolicited, time-wasting msgs. I do send a "Thanks, but no thanks" to the lovely gentlemen who do make an effort to write after reading my profile and wish them all the best in their search. Most importantly, not all of us log on all the time so the response may not be timely. Some of us do a quick log in and log out to check for msgs from friends and we don't linger. Other times, we need time to think about it... and then life gets in the way and other priorities come to the forefront. It might help to adopt a more relaxed attitude about the whole thing. Don't hold your breath waiting for responses and this situation probably won't feel so irksome.
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RHP User
6 years ago
You nailed it, sometimes I get replies to messages I had forgotten that I sent.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I reply unless it is blatantly obvious the sender hasn't read my profile. I'm pretty specific, so it is obvious when someone hasn't. Flirts I usually delete - if I'm not interested in the person's profile. I do read them... so make it count! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Women are women, men are men. Don't take it so personally. - Posted from rhpmobile
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sensualandsassy
6 years ago
As much as I'd love to have to time to reply to all messages, I have others things going on in my life which has a higher priority. Like other ladies have mentioned when you do reply with a polite refusal the response is often aggressive. I'd like to think that being on a site like this we have thick enough skin to handle the fact that we aren't attracted to everyone on here, and that's ok. As most of us are strangers, it's easy enough to move along to someone who is actually interested. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Save the money of premium and messaging, Go out and buy someone a drink if you put enough effort you will get a reply and much more. This site is nothing but a waste of time. Once you get the replies and meet some couple you will know, it’s all about drama not fun. Single women on here are below par average, but demand and supply curve come into play. When you are hungry you will eat the nastiest looking banana from the shelf lol I have met few in real life the ecstasy of making out goes away very quickly when there is not much attraction. Then you realise if I would have met her on street I would have not asked her out lol Save your bucks and don’t inflate these sub par females head with any more ego. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Sadly I don't think people even know what the term "Good manners" even means anymore. Have you met a "millennial" lately most haven't got a clue what manners are. I wonder who's failed to teach them that? Sadly the lack of good manners isn't just a "millennial" trait it goes back further to Gen "Y" and even sadder to my generation Gen "X". As the saying goes "Monkey see Monkey do". If you want people to have good manners then you must portray them yourself and lead by example. Now I'll sit back and read the angry diatribe that my comment will attract. Because "trolls" abound on social media platforms. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Quoting 'Naughtymanforfun' Sadly I don't think people even know what the term "Good manners" even means anymore. Have you met a "millennial" lately most haven't got a clue what manners are. I wonder who's failed to teach them that? Sadly the lack of good manners isn't just a "millennial" trait it goes back further to Gen "Y" and even sadder to my generation Gen "X". As the saying goes "Monkey see Monkey do". If you want people to have good manners then you must portray them yourself and lead by example. Now I'll sit back and read the angry diatribe that my comment will attract. Because "trolls" abound on social media platforms. - Posted from rhpmobile Bad manners for not replying to a message?Which many are cut and paste. Some men send out 5, 25 or 50 a day. Their full limit. Then resort to flirts.So personal yeah?I compare it to the electrical telemarketers who ring my mobile. I have over 50 of them blocked on my phone. You see, when they ring me l tell them to " FUCK OFF"Yes, bad manners there, no question. So l figure by not answering your message, by my other response l am displaying impeccable manners. But then, I'm a baby boomer.....
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RHP User
6 years ago
I agree. If someone takes the time to message you the very least you can do is answer. I (MrsB) has 2 standard response if I don't want to meet you Thank you for your message but I can't see anything happening between us Or if someone is too far away I say thank you for your message but your too far away for anything too happen. It doesn't take long to respond - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
It's basic manners, would you ignore somebody at work or in the street if they said hello, if somebody says hello to me in any form, I will reply - Posted from rhpmobile
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rupamohan
6 years ago
Concept of manner has changed from social identity to personal identity. What it means is use your manners to guide only your own conduct. Accept a group of people who act different to your morals as diversity. I guess a common social moral is that it rude to call others rude just because you can't accept diversity.
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Gr8distraction
6 years ago
Do i do it...........Not all the timeSometimes, i'll reply later when i'm free and clear of mind. That sometimes doesn't eventuate and can roll into a couple of days..........You should read the some of the responses i get for not answering straight away lol
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RHP User
6 years ago
I would love to reply to the lovely ladies who have messaged me but have no credit and this site won’t accept my cc - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Quoting 'NSASEX37M' I would love to reply to the lovely ladies who have messaged me but have no credit and this site won’t accept my cc - Posted from rhpmobile You have no credit, your credit card is worthless, your profile tells us fuck all except for the fact you are probably attached at least, if not married, no photos..... The ladies must be falling over themselves to crack on to you... .
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RHP User
6 years ago
Hey Annie Sounds like you have been hurt by someone before. To answer your opinions - Nope separated All my money goes to the ex for my kids which I put before anything in this world. To make sure they are feed, clothed and a house to live in. Even if that pays for her to survive. Then I put my needs last So thanks for your opinion. As they saying goes opinions are like arse holes every one has one 🧐 - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Well to assist your journey in here, "ask me" in relationship status usually means attached. At least that what we assume. A properly filled out profile can only help. Good luck
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RHP User
6 years ago
Take a hint mate, no response = not interested. It’s the nice way of telling you too fuck off. It’s common sense. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'Heath_Stripper'OP is entitled as fuck aye. Take a hint mate, no response = not interested. It’s the nice way of telling you too fuck off. It’s common sense. - Posted from rhpmobile I read no reply to matching messages as being entitled, specially considering so many who will refuse to reply don't even pay to use the site while the people who would like a reply, do... Peachy
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RHP User
6 years ago
If i send a message its because i fit their criteria or if they have sent me a flirt. In my experience single guys almost always answer but couples rarely do or drop the conversation after 1 or 2 messages. I might be living in the dark ages, but basic respect and common courtesy actually mean something to me. A simple no thanks or not interested takes about 30 seconds to do.
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MrnMrsG
6 years ago
Yes I mean it is good manners to reply and we’d prefer to do so, but life & time outside of RHP can be more important than replying to every msg you get whether you are to reply keen or not.. life gets busy... would people prefer we say “busy at the moment, we’ll get back to you ASAP” or “thanks but no thanks” ??? Or wait for a proper genuine response if keen or a “this is why we say no” response? I mean we don’t send messages unless we get a flirt first or one in return. That way we know they are keen we msg and then we just keep looking for other matches and if they msg them awesome 😎👏 Point is.. please don’t take it personally if we people don’t reply, just keep looking, there are so many people out there searching.. 😊✌️
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RHP User
6 years ago
When it comes to our sexuality I believe we all have to the riight to yes or no or nothing depending on how we feel at the time. Saying this its a womans perogitive to change her mind 🤔
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