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Little while lies about your age. Is it okay?
August 08 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
Age isn't normally a factor in people we meet with so if they have fudged their ages it isn't a big deal, however if they are showing us pictures of themselves in their lets say 20's and we meet and they are in their 50's we wouldn't be amused!
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RHP User
10 years ago
No you shouldn't just be up front because you will get found out eventually. It's the same as photos use up to date ones not ones taken when your eighteen.
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Hottie1
10 years ago
of shaving a couple of years off my age. At 47, it seems that a lot of couples have their cut-off age at 45. Might increase our chances of actually meeting a couple (our very own type of elusive unicorn!) What's two years folks? Mary xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
For the record I really am 35 but 36 in two weeks I come from a career background where no matter how good your looks were or talented, if you stated your true age, you were automatically disqualified from many career chances. Ageism in my opinion is still very alive and I saw girls careers damaged simply because they told the truth regarding their age. I do not understand society's complete acceptance of ageism but yet will not tolerate racism. I do not believe society supports either gender once they achieve 50, from what I have observed The European culture I come from embraces mature women and I do not know of any older women from my ethic background, who have taken pride in their appearance and are well groomed, not tell the truth of their age. In Europe mature women are honored and regarded well, but in a more Western culture this does not seem to be the case. I hear sayings that 50 is the new 40 but yet of my Australian friends, who are in their 40 and 50's, yes like you said Ms Meeka they shave a few years off here and there I believe this is encouraged by media mainstream and the every growing pressures to be good, look good, achieve more, outdo others etc etc that we are all subjected to each day, especially in the rise of the "selfie" and the social media- self acceptance for being who we are is hard work when we are constantly told and pressured to improve ourselves on every level. We cannot just seem to be, well us and apparently once you become a certain age, lets say 50, you do not have a life - according to media - apparently. But this my own opinion and observations In answer to your questions Ms Meeka, I say this In years to come I will probably shave a few years off my age - this fact I am not proud of .Genetically I am fortunate to not look my age now. I follow a good skin regime, careful diet, relentless exercise , stay out of the sun but also mainly blessed with good genetics from my father. But I think career wise age is still a factor that dictates and also I believe in meeting partners. I have no issue if a partner or just my friends shave a few years off their age. I do believe you are as old as you feel, its society that categorises you when you have to tick a box on a form to state your age and there are these ridiculous cutoff boxes that one must tick for marketing research purposes. I not sure if I would add years though to attract older people - I guess I am supporting my vanity too in saying this. So I am too am succumbing But no I have no issue with a false age by a few years, The alternative to ageing is death, I know which I prefer Good subject :-)
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TheLuckyOne
10 years ago
I understand where you are coming from Meeka but it's one thing I don't accept. Basically you are lying if you fudge your age and I don't care what your reasoning is, I don't appreciate it. Other people may not care and that's fine for them. I know a woman who is 47 on here, yet 48 on another site. Small difference but that's my point, why bother lying about it? A man whose profile says he is 50, recently opened his PG for me. Now if he is 50 then I am Miranda Kerr. If you have to lie about who you are just to get sex, then you're not the type of person I want to share my time with.
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RHP User
10 years ago
But if, for example, they show me a pic that's 10 years old and they've gained 20kgs since then...then I would rethink seeing them again. - Posted from rhpmobile
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OPNmarriagecpl
10 years ago
Can't say that we have ever considered a "reasonable" number of years to slide on ones age. We have been caught out by a few profiles online here that stated they were 35 (only a couple of years older than us), when we checked out their private galleries it was bloody obvious that they had been very generous on their age calculator and were closer to 50!!! It's just dishonest and unnecessary to fib to that extent. I would say up to 5 years would be acceptable for us. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I will be 58 in 4 month so that's that.....in a way I am proud getting older because I am still here on this beautiful earth and some lovely people I knew are gone already, so for me getting older is a positive not a negative. So the person who lies and then gets rejected should not complain, but I dont think much about it.
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
I personally don't get why someone would bother fibbing about their age, but me being on the other side of 45 and fast approaching the half a century mark, maybe I will change my mind and lose a few years..... I can't see the problem with a couple of years either way, but 15 years bloody hell, did they have a break and go get plastic surgery to pass as 15 years younger.....💋
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rc_80
10 years ago
It's actually quite simple really. It's an eight step plan. 1. Measure cock size. 2. Write down a random single digit number, let's say 6 3. Add random number (6) to cock length, and publish. 4. Because we've added cock length, we need to balance that somehow 5. Check actual age 6. Find the piece of paper with the number on it 7. Remove previously used random number (6) from age 8. Publish Example. You have a 5" cock. Add 6" = 11" You are 42yo. Remove 6 years = 36yo Previously 5" + 42yo = 47 New 11" + 36yo = 47 You'll notice the end number IS THE SAME. Therefore there are no lies.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Not a fan of the little white lie. When I find out a woman has shaved a few years (or a decade) off her age my first thought is: what else has she lied about, is she really divorced, does she really live in xx. Once the doubts start it is hard to stop, every conversation has the little rider in the back of my head asking if she is telling the truth. Luckily most can't lie well anyway. If you are going to lower your age (or even increase it when you a youngster trying after a someone with an age limit), at least get your stories right. I remember meeting one woman from here who shaved a few years off, and we hit it off well. Even started a bit of a relationship. Then I met her daughter, did a few quick calculations and realised mum must have had her around the age of 12 to be her claimed age! lol Mooka
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RHP User
10 years ago
Really doesn't matter to me... What does matter is lying... I've slept with a 59 yo who looked and felt like she was my age (47)... I meet people who are 40 who look like they're 55+... But it's all subjective isn't it...? While I feel I'm in better nick now than when I was 35, hell probably 30, I also know I'm not everyone's cuppa tea. In the end all we can do is present ourselves honestly... Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't see the point in lying. If you meet someone and end up falling for them, the fact that you have lied at the beginning is going to scupper any chance if it going anywhere. I'm 51, would love to be ten years younger but I'm not, so I stick to the "honesty is the best policy" rule
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RHP User
10 years ago
Knowing people of many ages who just don't look nor act like their age I guess has made me impervious to the "age fib". I would expect a friend to be honest about his/her age eventually... after all how will I know how many birthday candles to put on their cake? In clubs and parties it wouldn't matter if they lie about their age (or even give it), it is up to the person as to how honest they want to be with themselves. I turn 40 in 53 weeks... that'll be fun. SG
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RHP User
10 years ago
The first woman I met off here had 33 on her profile. After we met, turned out she was 35 (I would never have been able to tell.) Had to laugh though, because I had 28... but was 26. We had a great time! Am I 30 now? I could be. If I had 22 it would look silly. If I had 26-34 it would make no difference, really. The older you get the more leeway I think there is, but it often gets to the point where I'm thinking "wow, you've led a hard life for a 42 year old." I think the older you get the more divergence there is between your numerical age and the age of your body and mind. Two 48 years olds born in the same year are definitely not equal, which, in fairness, is also true of two 28 year olds. There's a psychological dimension to people's age limits that's fairly irrational, so I think if they would like you if your number was written at 43, but think you were too old at 46 though you were exactly the same, that's generally an absurd distinction to make. There are a couple of exceptions - some people would feel uncomfortable playing with someone the same age as their kids/parents, and that's fair enough, but otherwise, a couple of years here and there isn't that big a deal. Going back to my first anecdote, if we hadn't found out each other's ages it wouldn't have changed anything about our time together. Would we have still noticed each other and met up in the first place with our actual ages listed? Who's to say. I'm glad we did though! N_D
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RHP User
10 years ago
How can you say honestly if you can't till your age,it could more they not tilling,they could have and illnesses that they can't till,because in the simple age they can't share,so what more for the serious things,yes you say used protection,but has everyone do??? I don't think so,just saying i hated people not saying the truth,😏😏 - Posted from rhpmobile
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pizzadogs
10 years ago
a lie is a lie and to us that just shows that you are prepared to turn things to benefit yourself . (you being whoever)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Absolutely I'm agree with you, - Posted from rhpmobile
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ruby_blossum
10 years ago
I did think about it with the last birthday clicking over from 55 to 56. Didnt do it though. It really annoys me when others have told "the little white Lie" as it does make me think what else are they lying about. Men who have tried it tell me they do so to stay within the search guidelines of age requirements..... .....and I now know what they mean, the sound of crickets is quite deafening.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You got it girl,don't get it why those people lying,just to get sex,really?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'ruby_blossum' I did think about it with the last birthday clicking over from 55 to 56. Didnt do it though. It really annoys me when others have told "the little white Lie" as it does make me think what else are they lying about. Men who have tried it tell me they do so to stay within the search guidelines of age requirements..... .....and I now know what they mean, the sound of crickets is quite deafening. Ruby, I knew with 99% certainty that the day I turned the big 50, I would automatically drop of the majority of searches for the women in my age group. Didn't particularly worry me, if they wanted younger guys, good luck to them. I wasn't prepared to change my profile to stay 49 indefinitely, I know I look my age, why lie about it :D What does make me laugh is you see a profile here with the age set at lets say 48. Log onto RSVP or one of the other vanilla sites, you see the same face pic, check the profile and suddenly their age is 56 - so funny lol Mooka
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Taby_DK
10 years ago
We have never lied about our ages. I do know some single men & couples on this website do & I have caught them out before. I do find its mostly the single guys though. I use to know a single guy who said he was 30 when in fact he was 36. To me this is being misleading & when I was a single girl on the site all those years ago I would immediately break of contact with anyone who lied to me about their age. Because really if you cant be honest with something as simple as your age what else are you lying about? Taby xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
if you want to lie then yo should be prepared to live the lie or get found out.As a man I feel no need to lie, even though I could apparently knock 5 or 10 years off without too much trouble. I'm proud to be 60 and still in good shape. I too have seen others pass away leaving the rest of us here to live as best we can for as long as we can.We're here for a good time not a long time!
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RHP User
10 years ago
when reading a profile and the age at the top doesn't match the age at the bottom. Age doesn't really worry me too much. Half the time I have to think twice to remember how old I actually am. I suppose conversations are easier with people around your own age having grown up in the same era... I'm a trusting person and believe what I'm told. If I found out later that years had been added or subtracted then with something so minor I'd probably have a good laugh...
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RHP User
10 years ago
If someone fudges their age a bit to be included in search results or because they simply don't feel their age it doesn't bother me at all. I don't take kindly to being lied to by friends, but let's face it: I'm not here to make those. Should my lovers become actual friends over time however, I would expect them to fess up at some point. I know others here who have changed their age for safety or privacy reasons. Many of us don't divulge our real locations or names either, until we feel comfortable with someone. I would have an issue though if I met someone and they did not physically match how they described themselves. If I'm expecting a man in his forties, who is tall with an average body, I'd be annoyed if he looked in his fifties and was thin and short.
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RHP User
10 years ago
there could be an actual age and a looks like age :) ....not unlike the weather system of actual and feels like temperatures. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Jack_Denials' I could apparently knock 5 or 10 years off without too much trouble. I'm proud to be 60 and still in good shape. I've been told the same (ok, maybe 5 and not 10), but I'm proud to be 41. Besides, I'm a terrible liar as my memory sucks and I would probably give myself away almost immediately. p.s. Quick trick: when meeting someone, ask them: "What year were you born again?" Any answer starting with "Errr..." is a dead giveaway.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would say it is common though. I am sure that half the people in their 40's are probably really in their 50's and same for people saying they are in their 30's when in fact they are in their 40's. Ruby Blossom, I too considered it when I turned 41, I wanted to turn the clocks back and say I was 39 but some how I just couldn't do it. Turning 40 was okay with me but turning 41 seemed to signify the fact that I was just creeping to the big 50. I have always looked younger than my age and most people would probably assume I am 10 years younger anyway.... just something youthful about my face I think due to good luck and genes. In fact I was at a function the other night... flattering mood lighting... and a person wanted to discount what I was saying because I was only in my 20s and too young to know. They were shocked when I said I was 44. LMAO. It is very flattering.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I look at age as just a number, its not the age its how the person comes across that matters to me, how old a person looks depends on the life stile they live I've seen 25 year old women on here and other site that look like they are in their 40s I'm 42 and a lot of women rule me out because of it and I will never lie about my age just to get a woman take me as I am
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
Quoting 'Kokoflamingo' I don't see the point in lying. If you meet someone and end up falling for them, the fact that you have lied at the beginning is going to scupper any chance if it going anywhere. I'm 51, would love to be ten years younger but I'm not, so I stick to the "honesty is the best policy" rule Couldn't have said it better meself .... Tall
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flashjack7
10 years ago
I'd much prefer someone to say "hey, she looks great for 42, I'd never have picked that!" than "Geez, she looks older than xx, must have had it tough!" Mrs F x
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RHP User
10 years ago
is a curse. I look older than my 38 years but could't care less. The vanity of some people on this site actually astounds me. If you can't deal with the fact you are the age you actually are I can see nothing but problems in the future. Not only are you lying about your age but obviously too insecure in your own right to deal with it as well. I don't care if you look like you're 22 when you're 40 or 40 when you're 22, but to have to "shave a few years" off for acceptance speaks to me of deeper insecurities within yourself. Just my two cents and hope I didn't offend anyone, I just fiind vanity so ridiculous it actually turns my stomach.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'allsorts72' I'm 42 (...) and I will never lie about my age Your profile says 41?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Just mean that he's not verified mea ? I haven't checked... When the age on a profile doesn't match the age stated in the "about me" it's only because they haven't read or updated their profile in ages... Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
10 years ago
I meant allsorts' age underneath his thumbnail pic right above.
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RHP User
10 years ago
See my first sentence about verification... 😋 Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've got one of those birthdays coming up.I just realised though that I set my RHP birthday to a date BEFORE my real one......doh!
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SacralChakra
10 years ago
...that when I turned 46 the views I get on my profile dropped by nearly 1000 per month!!! That just shows lots of people have the cut off age as 45. I'm not gonna lie and say I'm younger though.
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RHP User
10 years ago
But if someone were to start by lying about their age, would they stop at just that or would there be other things they would lie about? If I were to find out someone I had met had lied on their profile about their age and not been upfront about it straight away, I'd start to wonder what other little white lies they hadn't told me about and would lose credibility about whether they really are who I think they are or if everything about them is false. Whatever you decide to do, I hope it works out well for you xx
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luvsilver
10 years ago
Quoting 'rockercouple80' It's actually quite simple really. It's an eight step plan. 1. Measure cock size. 2. Write down a random single digit number, let's say 6 3. Add random number (6) to cock length, and publish. 4. Because we've added cock length, we need to balance that somehow 5. Check actual age 6. Find the piece of paper with the number on it 7. Remove previously used random number (6) from age 8. Publish Example. You have a 5" cock. Add 6" = 11" You are 42yo. Remove 6 years = 36yo Previously 5" + 42yo = 47 New 11" + 36yo = 47 You'll notice the end number IS THE SAME. Therefore there are no lies. We have been on RHP for a few years .So I have been doing the math.Does that mean in a few short years time if we stay on here I won't have a dick left at all? Mr Luvsilver
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RHP User
10 years ago
I like to meet a person first anyhow. So I will Aways go by that. And I am 48 and it's 47. So sue me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I believe that someone was referring to me when said 48 on one site and 47 on this. Could be my guilty conscious lol. The other site actually automatically changes your age on your birthday. rhp does not. But anyhow as the clock ticks on I may take a year off every couple of years. I would rather the pictures be up to date. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I could easily go down my age if i want to,as everyone says I'm younger to my age,but what for,?? Age doesn't really matter ,if they accepted you off who you are,that's for me,😍 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I didn't find out my ex was six years older than he claimed until several years into our relationship. He certainly didn't look it and I had no reason to think he was lying. When I came across his passport one day, I was not so much angry as I was repulsed by how pathetic it was he was that insecure about his age. He was so attached to the lie it was actually him who became furious when he was inadvertently exposed. This man is so afraid of aging, that (by his own admission) he gets younger as he grows older. I used to tell him as long as he didn't become younger than me, I'd leave the issue alone. He's now 49 and tells people he's 33. He's got the body to pull it off, but sadly not the face. *Rolls eyes*
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'ThreesomeCupl' is a curse. I look older than my 38 years but could't care less. The vanity of some people on this site actually astounds me. If you can't deal with the fact you are the age you actually are I can see nothing but problems in the future. Not only are you lying about your age but obviously too insecure in your own right to deal with it as well. I don't care if you look like you're 22 when you're 40 or 40 when you're 22, but to have to "shave a few years" off for acceptance speaks to me of deeper insecurities within yourself. Just my two cents and hope I didn't offend anyone, I just fiind vanity so ridiculous it actually turns my stomach. So you don't wear makeup? You don't paint your nails, or colour your hair?
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RHP User
10 years ago
because I'm a man lol...But Mrs3 rarely wears makeup or nail polish and doesn't colour her hair either. She will ony wear makeup if she is going out and has to dress fancy. But that isn't the piint of the post. To lie about your age to me screams insecurity, and for what? So you can get MORE views? How precious....
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm actually a buxom 26 year old but lied about my age because I hear you guys love older women ^_^ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Is the age restrictions for events...... Yes I can understand if it's for 35yr olds and your 45, However, when the age is up to 45, then RHP doesn't allow you to register your interest if your 46, you have to contact the organiser........ For that reason I was thinking of rubbing 2 years off my age, but correcting it in my profile.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Quoting 'ThreesomeCupl' is a curse. I look older than my 38 years but could't care less. (...) So you don't wear makeup? You don't paint your nails, or colour your hair? I think that was the Mr. posting, as the Mrs is 37. But yes, Mr Threesome, do you/would you think your wife was too vain for doing any of the above?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I state my real age. Cant see the point in lying. Either you like me or you don't!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Highpriority'When the age on a profile doesn't match the age stated in the "about me" it's only because they haven't read or updated their profile in ages... Reminded of a profile that mentions a "butterfly bedroom." It belongs to a single 31 year-old woman, who is really a couple and 28 if you read further.
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RHP User
10 years ago
How is wearing makeup the same as lying about your age? I've already answered the question above though Meander. I prefer women who dont wear makeup, or very minimal makeup to be honest. But as I said earlier, if someone has to lie about their age to protect their insecurities I don't think it's OK. One white lie leads to another leads to another, and dishonesty in my books is a relationship killer. Just my point of view, if others see it differently then more power to them.
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On_Safari
10 years ago
And mostly pretty awesome.....why would I lie about that? 😳
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' I know others here who have changed their age for safety or privacy reasons. Many of us don't divulge our real locations or names either, until we feel comfortable with someone. So many reasons why people do things. Most of the time their reasons don't make them an awful person, just a normal person trying to manage a (perhaps difficult) personal situation. The expectation from many of absolute truth and full revelations on a public profile confounds me, still. Sure, no-one wants to be duped or deceived unreasonably, but a bit of perspective and a chill pill or two wouldn't hurt sometimes.
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RHP User
10 years ago
“No woman should ever be quite accurate about her age. Thirty-five is a very attractive age. London society is full of women of the very highest birth who have, of their own free choice, remained thirty-five for years.” I must admit that I am more from the European tradition that VeletNoir talked about, where age does not matter, it is more a question of how the person carries themselves. I don’t pay much attention to age because it is how they look and act that matters.
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RHP User
10 years ago
There is definitely some sort of 'cut off point' at 50 for a lot of people. I don't know why... I suppose a line has to be drawn somewhere. However, there are some people at 50 who are lucky enough to not look their age and look after themselves, diet and exercise etc and look better than someone at 40... I think the important thing is that people display photos that are no more than 12 months old... or at least look like they still look now. That's obvious at the first meeting. I will present ID if anyone questions my age, but I've never been asked to, and have sometimes had the compliment of them saying I don't look my age... (But they may have just been pissing in my pocket). But photos can't be the decider... Some people just don't photo well. I don't and never have. So, I like to try and get to meet someone so they can see me 'live' so to speak... At least then, I'll be knocked back for the right reason, and not just a number... LOL.Thanks... Interesting thread.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'ThreesomeCupl' How is wearing makeup the same as lying about your age? You were talking about vanity. As per my previous posts, people have all kinds of reasons to fudge their age. Vanity is just one of them.I think what Meeka referred to is making yourself appear more appealing and/or younger in other ways. Is that vain? A lot of people like to look their best, whether it makes them look younger or not. Vanity (excessive pride in or admiration of your own looks or achievements ) does not (necessarily) have anything to do with that.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander'I think that was the Mr. posting, as the Mrs is 37. But yes, Mr Threesome, do you/would you think your wife was too vain for doing any of the above? Your comment answering Meeka's query wasn't there yet when I posted the above.
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MsJonesy
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' If someone fudges their age a bit to be included in search results or because they simply don't feel their age it doesn't bother me at all. I don't take kindly to being lied to by friends, but let's face it: I'm not here to make those. Should my lovers become actual friends over time however, I would expect them to fess up at some point. I know others here who have changed their age for safety or privacy reasons. Many of us don't divulge our real locations or names either, until we feel comfortable with someone. I would have an issue though if I met someone and they did not physically match how they described themselves. If I'm expecting a man in his forties, who is tall with an average body, I'd be annoyed if he looked in his fifties and was thin and short.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'ThreesomeCupl' because I'm a man lol...But Mrs3 rarely wears makeup or nail polish and doesn't colour her hair either. She will ony wear makeup if she is going out and has to dress fancy. But that isn't the piint of the post. To lie about your age to me screams insecurity, and for what? So you can get MORE views? How precious.... You sound quite bitter there ThreesomeCupl. I assume you have been rejected because of your age.
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
Quoting 'tulips4u' I'm actually a buxom 26 year old but lied about my age because I hear you guys love older women ^_^ - Posted from rhpmobile Lovin it t4u ! Now are you also into the older gents ???? Tall
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RHP User
10 years ago
But have considered lying since I turned 46. Only because of the age ranges. Most guys have a cut off of 45. Then again if people are that shallow I probably wouldn't be interested anyway.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'ThreesomeCupl' How is wearing makeup the same as lying about your age? You said vanity made you sick to your stomach. So people that try to look the best they can...... vanity plays a part in that.
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
Talking about photos n such...I'm a good photographer, but like you, I don't photograph well....But I do keep my age well. My club membership card has a photo on it and I have the same pic on it as I have had for about 12 years, purely at the discretion of the club, coz they haven't seen the need to change as yet. (So I reckon I could lie about my age for a good 10 years younger if I so wished, and none of you would be the wiser). Also, as per Velvet and SN's postings, I too tend to follow in the footsteps of Euro tradition and look more at the 'broader' picture of a person. Tall
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RHP User
10 years ago
No not bitter...I'm only 38. Just because I don't like vain people or liars I'm bitter now? Not at all. As I said to each their own. If you think its ok to purposefully decieve someone thats fine by me. You asked a question and I answered truthfully. Not trying to stir the hornets nest. And I've been rejected by people of all age groups equally lol
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TheLuckyOne
10 years ago
Quoting 'Tee_lovesfun' The other site actually automatically changes your age on your birthday. rhp does not. I thought RHP did that as well? I've noticed one man has his age on here as late forties, yet on the other site he is 52. When I asked how old he actually was, all I got was "Somewhere in between". Pfft!!
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
Quoting 'JerseyGirl' . I thought RHP did that as well? On my profile here the age DOES automatically change - so I gather it works for all.Tall
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well look. Whip me at that the post, shame me in front of crowds. I admit I did lie a few times when I was 17 so that I could get into pubs and night clubs. I am absolutely impressed none of you that have answered this question did that in your youth. You all waited until you were 18. To go to pubs, or buy alcohol or ciggies, etc, etc. Good for you.
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RHP User
10 years ago
bit touchy Meeka....why ask the question if you don't like the responses? And I never had to....I got let in without questions lol
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TheLuckyOne
10 years ago
You didn't mention in your OP about what we did in our youth! But now that you mention it, I was probably the only freak in Brisbane who DIDN'T lie about their age to get into nightclubs or buy alcohol etc. Shy, boring geek that I was..... *sigh*
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'JerseyGirl' Quoting 'Tee_lovesfun' The other site actually automatically changes your age on your birthday. rhp does not. I thought RHP did that as well? I've noticed one man has his age on here as late forties, yet on the other site he is 52. When I asked how old he actually was, all I got was "Somewhere in between". Pfft!! It does change over on your birthday. But it depends if you actually put in your actual birthday or not. I think lots of people just put the month when they first open their account. I did too I think, just because I wasn't sure about the security of the site, etc
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RHP User
10 years ago
If I meet up with a woman I'm attracted to There's no way I'm gunna boot her off if I suddenly find out she's older than what she first lead me to believe. You don't need to be a Einstein to figure out why anybody feels inclined to want to drop a few years.. As I always say, it's about the person, not the age.. Live and let live.. I've been with younger and older and would never think to ask about her age..
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RHP User
10 years ago
Parden?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Ok. I fixed my age. Geesh. I did have 48 in my blurb about me. I just think unless someone is totally misrepresenting themselves as in by a generation or has a 20 year old photo it shouldn't matter. Some people are sensitive about their age. I am I hate getting fricking older lol lol lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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Missb4u
10 years ago
From the age of 15 I lied about my age to get into pubs and clubs. Once I hit 18 I haven't lied again but I sometimes forget how old i am... I think some people age well and some don't. For me I guess it'more about the entire package I am more likely to go older though then younger. The young guys that up their age to 40 irritate me and by young I mean form 18-35. At the risk of sounding really vain, in my 30's I was often told I looked like a 20 something and I think now if I wasn't carrying weight I could pass for mid 30's. weight certainly ages you or being unhealthy does. Missb - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sure ,did tell some porkies to get in pubs,In the eighties ,lol The age system makes people want to fib into brackets,really not a big deal When you meet someone,it's not a big deal if you get along! Unless you have big trust issues,if u meet u partner for life,or a hot encounter or two,who cares xxx
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TheLuckyOne
10 years ago
Weight doesn't age you, in fact it's the opposite. I've been told I look anywhere from late twenties to mid 30's! You notice it more with people who lose a lot of weight. Once the puppy fat goes from their face they look years older!
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Missb4u
10 years ago
In my opinion weight ages me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
No point lying, although, I do sometimes wonder what sort of responses I would get if my age were in the 30s...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Well look. Whip me at that the post, shame me in front of crowds. I admit I did lie a few times when I was 17 so that I could get into pubs and night clubs. I am absolutely impressed none of you that have answered this question did that in your youth. You all waited until you were 18. To go to pubs, or buy alcohol or ciggies, etc, etc. Good for you. you are right, I did that for a long time
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would not lie to someone I wish to form some sort of bond with, it is not a good basis for anything.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Burning_Love' The expectation from many of absolute truth and full revelations on a public profile confounds me, still. Sure, no-one wants to be duped or deceived unreasonably, but a bit of perspective and a chill pill or two wouldn't hurt sometimes. If someone who's 45 claims to be 38 and can pass for that (and I have no intention of forming a deeper relationship with him), I'm not all that bothered.But I will always have a problem with fake pics, as people in my opinion will never look like that, no matter how much they try, and then I would feel duped.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Tigeroo'I do sometimes wonder what sort of responses I would get if my age were in the 30s... On the fora it has been mentioned quite a few times that women tend to be older (by that I mean 40 and over) before joining sites like this. Many after coming out of long-term marriages, and/or because they've become more comfortable with their sexuality over time. It's also been discussed (on cougar threads etc.) that these women in general are more keen to meet men closer to their own age as a lot feel that much younger men aren't mature and/or skilled enough. Of course I realise this is a gross generalisation and the fora only represent a tiny part of the RHP population. Now, I didn't do a search to see if there are more women 30-40 and 40-50 than woman 20-30 here, as I suspect that any fake profiles would be more likely to be within that last age group so the result would be skewed. Tigeroo, I truly believe if you changed your age to 30 or slightly above you'd get much more attention. Worth an experiment maybe? I'd love to find out if it was the case.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You know, ive often thought it would be really interesting if our ages werent displayed on profiles. How often have i been drawn to a really hot profile pic of a guy, only to then see that they are the same age group as my kids. Instant cock block for me.cant go there. Im sure if age wasnt mentioned, and i didnt have an issue with it,I would have been a lot more adventurous on here.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'Tigeroo'I do sometimes wonder what sort of responses I would get if my age were in the 30s... On the fora it has been mentioned quite a few times that women tend to be older (by that I mean 40 and over) before joining sites like this. Many after coming out of long-term marriages, and/or because they've become more comfortable with their sexuality over time. It's also been discussed (on cougar threads etc.) that these women in general are more keen to meet men closer to their own age as a lot feel that much younger men aren't mature and/or skilled enough. Of course I realise this is a gross generalisation and the fora only represent a tiny part of the RHP population. Now, I didn't do a search to see if there are more women 30-40 and 40-50 than woman 20-30 here, as I suspect that any fake profiles would be more likely to be within that last age group so the result would be skewed. Tigeroo, I truly believe if you changed your age to 30 or slightly above you'd get much more attention. Worth an experiment maybe? I'd love to find out if it was the case. I've been thinking of doing this for a while...just to experiment...I have a feeling it would make a difference, girls on here put a HUGE amount of importance on age...I actually think it's a little over-the-top and many judge based on stereotypes rather than their own, personal experience... Last girl I was with, 35+ years old, said the last few 'older' guys she's had have been WAY WORSE than the younger blokes (less stamina, not as strong/flexible, not able to go multiple times, etc) So I wanna continue changing perceptions as best as I can :D If I decide to try it I will let you know the outcome!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I totally agree with Meander. This is a public forum. I will be as truthful as I can. I will have current pictures, my marital status, my wants and what I can give. And if I fudge my age. Deal with it. I would never change it so I can't own it. But a year or two. Who cares. And truly age is not something I care about with men. All about the vibe, confidence, humour and connection - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
It is a generalisation which women use as another way of culling the crowd, I don't think any woman is going to say that is would be true of all men in their 20's. Some guys are very mature or would have similar interests. As always it comes down to people's personal experience and the fact that there are enough men around so women don't have to comprise on the limits they have set. What can I say. It sucks.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Tigeroo' Last girl I was with, 35+ years old, said the last few 'older' guys she's had have been WAY WORSE than the younger blokes (less stamina, not as strong/flexible, not able to go multiple times, etc) So I wanna continue changing perceptions as best as I can :D I don't think most older women would dispute that younger men can often have the advantage over older men in those purely physical areas. It's the attitudes / maturity levels / mental compatibility etc. that are usually the more contentious issues in the 'younger vs older' debate, and which are often the reason many older women avoid younger men (whether that view is from experience or assumption). As for the actual topic here, I don't really mind a couple years here and there if it's someone I'm just seeing casually, but something more serious would necessitate them being upfront with me about their real age.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Why'd you take down all your pics? Though I admit you do look older, all grey like that.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Luckdragon23' Quoting 'Tigeroo' Last girl I was with, 35+ years old, said the last few 'older' guys she's had have been WAY WORSE than the younger blokes (less stamina, not as strong/flexible, not able to go multiple times, etc) So I wanna continue changing perceptions as best as I can :D I don't think most older women would dispute that younger men can often have the advantage over older men in those purely physical areas. It's the attitudes / maturity levels / mental compatibility etc. that are usually the more contentious issues in the 'younger vs older' debate, and which are often the reason many older women avoid younger men (whether that view is from experience or assumption). As for the actual topic here, I don't really mind a couple years here and there if it's someone I'm just seeing casually, but something more serious would necessitate them being upfront with me about their real age. Great post LD, and something that isn't often discussed. I know this isn't the right thread, the Old Man thread would be more appropriate, but there is differences between young and mature (hate the word OLD) in both men and women and they way they make love. Mooka
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'Burning_Love' The expectation from many of absolute truth and full revelations on a public profile confounds me, still. Sure, no-one wants to be duped or deceived unreasonably, but a bit of perspective and a chill pill or two wouldn't hurt sometimes. If someone who's 45 claims to be 38 and can pass for that (and I have no intention of forming a deeper relationship with him), I'm not all that bothered.But I will always have a problem with fake pics, as people in my opinion will never look like that, no matter how much they try, and then I would feel duped. There's a spectrum, with absolute truth at one end and absolute deceit at the other. Most people will tolerate some level of deception about some things (let's say age, just as an example, or fudging an insurance claim, or whatever) but have a line in the sand that is a deception too far for them (let's say photos, or for me, cheating on a commitment to be faithful). The line in the sand will be in different spots for different people - as it is for you and me - but we all have one. And it moves at different times when we face different situations that challenge it. It's therefore ridiculous for anyone to suggest that there is an absolute right way of behaving or an absolute wrong way. Such a suggestion is moral absolutism and it's nonsensical. It confounds me. Side bar: I'm not sure why you brought up the fake pics discussion. Was it to demonstrate where your line in the stand is and to show your agreement that moral absolutism is silly? Or was it to have a dig? I hope it wasn't the latter but if it was ... my post wasn't related to or in defense of fake pics. I've never felt the need to defend anything and, regardless, I think that conversation has been done to death. Live and let live, and all that.
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RHP User
10 years ago
:)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Burning_Love' Side bar: I'm not sure why you brought up the fake pics discussion. Was it to demonstrate where your line in the stand is and to show your agreement that moral absolutism is silly? Or was it to have a dig? Not at all, sorry if it appeared that way. It was to show my line in the sand, but also to show that different "white" lies mean different things to people.We've seen threads where women have said they'd be highly upset if a man lied about his cock size. Yet they may not care if he fudged his height for example. I think we all have things we accept and things we don't. For me, moral absolutism can be silly, but if the expectation doesn't meet the reality it can be a deal-breaker at the same time. Tricky one, I hope that made sense. Welcome back x
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RHP User
10 years ago
Spot on.. If we were to remove age from our profiles it would eliminate any preconceived thoughts that anyone over 40 has some sort of disease... I say it all the time... Look at the person first before judging the number beside their name... In the real world I'm judged on my appearance and it works fine... Here '. It's too easy to be negative...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' It's also been discussed (on cougar threads etc.) that these women in general are more keen to meet men closer to their own age as a lot feel that much younger men aren't mature and/or skilled enough. I just realised as I read the above that I actually avoid younger men because I find it impossible to believe they'd be attracted to me. I get that they'd be happy to fuck, but it seems much less likely that they'd be happy to connect, date, get to know me etc. Perhaps unfair but that's my assumption. I also stop my searches at 48/49. Something about 50 just puts me off. Terribly ageist of me in both directions, but there you have it. (Thanks for the welcome back.)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Wait until you're my age; people don't even see you let alone think that you still have plenty of miles left. I could have lied by 10 years but would it improve my chances? In any case lying doesn't sit well with me.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'GooeyBliss' But have considered lying since I turned 46. Only because of the age ranges. Most guys have a cut off of 45. Then again if people are that shallow I probably wouldn't be interested anyway. You just made the cut...
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RHP User
10 years ago
I like this topic! Ill be the big 40 in December this year but id really love to stay in my thirties lol. Oh well nearly done with dirty thirties n what great years they were (well the last 3 since I got a divorced anyway)...so bring on the Naughty Forties I say...cant wait ;-) I dont think a couple of years makes too much difference IMO but I wouldn't be too impressed with someone who was 5-10 years older or younger!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
why you would need to lie about your age? I don't see any need to. What exactly does it achieve? I'm completely in the dark as to why someone would want to fudge their age in the first place.
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RHP User
10 years ago
It will make sense more when you are in your 40 and 50's and experience ageism, which thrives
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