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Little while lies about your age. Is it okay?
August 08 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
Didn't people spend the last six pages explaining? :-P
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RHP User
10 years ago
A few have explained they don't get a look in because of their age but most others have skirted around the issue of why? I didn't realise people placed such an emphasis on age here. I guess I've never really thought about it too much as I have friends that range from early 20's to late 50's in the real world due to the nature of my work. Just never thought people would bother to change their age for the sake of a quickie, if its gonna have any bearing on it at all. Guess you learn soemthing new everyday...better start looking closer at some of these profile pics I guess lol.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Age plays a massive factor for a lot of women. I am surprised that you would find this surprising?? But you are still in the golden age... Wait until you get older and suddenly you are excluded from parties, and women will not respond to you because you are over 45. I really believe that probably half the over 45 yr old profiles on RHP would not have the right age - well I am plucking that figure out of my clacker but I always assume that a man could actually be at least 5 yrs older than his profile states.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Do you know that a man's penis can shrink half an inch once he is over 50? Then Of course the hardons may not be what they once were.... Etc. Women dry up, have wrinkles, etc.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Most women are not here for a quickie... Hence the age coming into play. They want someone they can get along with so it is more likely that They will have more in common with someone their own age it in a specific age group. And if you just want a quickie... Well I want a guy with a glorious body if I can get it. Wouldn't you? Would you have a quickie with an 65 year old, for example ?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I just assumed the quickie was coming into play as if you're lying about your age won't you be found out when something like...I dunno...your actual birthday comes around lol. And wouldn't it sort of defeat the purpose if ur looking for people in ur own age bracket but your lying about your age? I will be honest, I had absolutlely no idea women were so concerned about age. Whats to fear from getting older? Everyone does it. I don't get it but that's just me. As for not getting responses, I'll be honest and say I hardly bother sending messages any more so not a great concern. I'm not being a smartass or anything here, it just truly suprised me. I know what aging does (my hair is turning grey already and I'm only 38) but I just accepted the fact I'm getting older. As for the glorious body for a quickie...have you seen some of the women on here over 50? There bodys are still absoloutely slamming. But you're right...I probably wouldn't choose a 65 year old for a partner. But I probably wouldn't go for an 18 year old either. Someone probably 30-45 I'd say. But that doesn't make it right for the 65 year old to say she's 45 to be disappointed by me in the sack lol.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Agree.. Saying you are 45 when you are in 65 is definitely not right! I think everyone worries about getting older. Your body changes so much. But I think men seem to lie just as much on their profiles as women so I don't think you can say it's just a female thing.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I was just going off your answer where you said age is a massive factor for a lot of women. I wouldn't know much about other men lying as I don't do much vetting (Mrs3 does most of the searching these days, I mainly just come to chat). It does suprise me though as most of my friends in their late forties/fifties seem to revel in their age, and have no trouble with the ladies whatsoever. They actually live a more social life than most of those in my age bracket as their kids have flown the nest.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Passes my mind the accusers probaly do so themself so assume everyone else is doing the same , otherwise how would you know ? Answer, " you don't ".. You guess ? ThreesomeCupl.. It's true not every woman is here for a quickie, but nothing wrong with presuming there are. It's my guess there's more here for that than not.. But what they want and what they carry out is 2 different things...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'JerseyGirl' Weight doesn't age you, in fact it's the opposite. I've been told I look anywhere from late twenties to mid 30's! You notice it more with people who lose a lot of weight. Once the puppy fat goes from their face they look years older! Agree JG. I recently met someone I hadn't seen for a few years. We'd both put on 5kg. She said I looked healthier in the face. I said the same to her.
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RHP User
10 years ago
"however, I wonder how I will feel when I turn 50." Bloody amazing ! When I ticked over the big 5 0 I agonised over lying or owning it, hell, life has never been so good ! I've had more intimacy post 50 than the rest of my life. Yeehah ! As for cut off limits on profiles, well, most women are too chicken shit to go looking so they are not missing you at all. If you've got the goods it will sell, age limits are soon forgotten if you tick the boxes that really matter. And if they won't budge ? Too bad, that narrow a mindset doesn't interest me anyway. Enjoy, 50z way cool.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Are you accusing me of something there? I know because I actually go to meets and greets and meet people and can see that they look closer to 50 than 40. I know because I have been burned a few times before... One guy I was seeing regularly for 3 -4 months before he let slip he was actually 4 years older than he originally told me. In fact his profile seems to be stuck on 48 when I know he is probably 52 now. I know because I see forum posters who never age!! I see forum posters who I personally now are years older than what their profile says.
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RHP User
10 years ago
When I said women often see age as a massive factor... I mean the age of the men that they meet as I explained above, hence the reason men do drop their age so that their profile appears in more searches. As some have already mentioned there seems to be a cut off point... 45 or 50.
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Plain
10 years ago
Ouch, that hurts I am 54 going grey losing my hair where I dont want to yet understand I am getting on in life my knees well about 90yo of age there, between my ears could be anywhere between the ages of 2 first remembered speech to 54 yo. Sex well about nearly 38 years of varied and wonderful experiences. Its the attitude of people I communicate with that matters in fact at this age the world is our oyster you could be a toy boy to some attractive 60 plus or 70 plus women, or a father figure or the slightly older partner, does not bother me. But the thing that I cannot understand is some of the conservative moral values on RHP that get to me AGE IS IRRELEVANT its the attitude between people that gives meaning to wanting to get involved. Orf me box now
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RHP User
10 years ago
but the answer still remains the same. Why be with a woman who can't accept you for who you actually are? Once again I think it's vanity coming into play. In this case a man dropping his age to appear younger to attract a younger woman. So what happens when she finds out? Will she be hurt that he lied to her or disgusted that she slept with an older man? Or let it slide? Will she intorduce him to her friends? And if she does will she perpetuate the lie to hide her own insecurities about going out with an older man? Or be truthful and run the risk of being mocked by her friends? Interesting conundrum.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I couldn't' disagree with you more. Are you talking about teenagers now? Although I can imagine young blokes not wanting advertise that they are after cougars because they will get a ribbing from their mates. You only have to read this forum to see that there are loads of women, and I don't know the proportion, that are looking for connection, chemistry, for ongoing friendships, and FWB. Just go have a look at the NSA thread to see what women think of quickies....... bad sex that they don't want. So you seem to forget that you, as a part of a couple, have all the intimacy you want, you have your partner there everyday to chat too, and cuddle, etc. Single people are allowed to have that too and that is what lots of women want. They want the Clayton's boyfriend. Someone to have that intimacy with and to do things together that is not just in the bedroom. So I think it is reasonable to say I would have more in common with someone in my own age group then say a 25 year old. I am not talking about specific people so these are just generalisations to illustrate the point,. But I have no interest in going out to Doof doof clubs every weekend and getting hammered and staying out to 6 am. But on the reverse side I am not ready to stay in every Friday night after we have had our 6 o'clock dinner at the local RSL. If someone told me that I had to be here for quickies and that I would have to meet a different guy or couple every other week for quickes........ I would rather join a nunnery. I personally couldn't imagine anything worse. If I want a quickie I can walk up to the pub or go to the swingers club, why would I bother to meet random guys from online? It isn't very time efffective is it? I just wouldn't bother, and don't. LOL
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RHP User
10 years ago
A lot of SINGLE women are on RHP for a lot more than just quickies. Couples have a different objectives, you are just here for quickies. Which I take it to mean, that you don't really care much about the person at all as long as they tick a few of your boxes your happy. Well good for you, but some people want more than that.
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RHP User
10 years ago
hey plain. I hear ya! I still feel like I am in my 20's! Not sure about men, but a women's bodies goes through so many changes once you hit around the 40 mark. Far out I thought I knew my body......... but NO!
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RHP User
10 years ago
That was my point. If you're more likely to have something in common with someone closer to your age why would you lie about your age? Thats the point I was trying to make. And if you want the intamacy and so forth you express won't lying about it get in the way of that. Thats the point I was trying to get across. My point was IF you were after a quickie then the lie won't get in the way cos its a one off thing, but if you intend to build any sprt of relationship then surely you'd have to come clean about your true age or risk iether hurt or embarrassment down the line. I'm not saying it would happen in 100% of the circumstances, but it would always have that possibility. Being part of a couple has nothing to do with it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Whoa, chill... I'm not accusing you of anything. Just passed a opinion.. and my opinion is' if a woman"s not looking for a relationship or just came out of one I'm sure the occasional quickie would be quite appealing . When a mutual attraction happens , I would never rule out a quickie. With the right person, it can be quite exciting... But that's a man's point of view, women seem to need more of a emotional attachment.
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On_Safari
10 years ago
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RHP User
10 years ago
:-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
I refuse to put my true date of birth in any site regardless of the sites nature! I put a date that down that's easy to remember ? Sorry I've had my idea stolen before
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RHP User
10 years ago
You say you are 47 not 45........... yet your profile says 44. I see what you did there. Tricky!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am too young to be as old as I am, and too old to be as young as I would like to be.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm older than a lettuce but younger than a mountain.
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' Ya old farts !!! Indeed - don't be so cheeky - you'll be here quick enough with the rest of us. R E S P E C T. And us ol' farts can still give ya a run for ya money. Tall
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RHP User
10 years ago
if you have the experience, age doesn't matter to anyone
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RHP User
10 years ago
Shit I forgot the month i put down lol either way the internet is harsh lol
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RHP User
10 years ago
Like playing with fire
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QLDtwo4fun
10 years ago
We and our circle of swinging friends often joke about the different measuring systems 'metric,' 'imperial' and RHP. In RHP measuring small numbers go up, eg 6" imperial equals about 8" RHP. Big numbers like 55 years of age equal about 45 RHP years. We don't bother lying about our ages, but if your going to lie about your age, ask some impartial parties to guess your age and take their advice. Then just remember to adjust the test of the significant events in your life, when your talking to people. If your 45 it's unlikely that you finished 6 form in 1977.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't understand why people would do it. For me, I detest liars. If I found out someone lied to me about something like that, or their relationship status etc, I'd be done with them. Honesty is a big issue for me. If they lied about their age, what else are they bullshitting about???
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Plain
10 years ago
Have to say the term millimeter does sound small perhaps thats why we like to brag about the inches. 180mm is a tad over 7inchs when you take into account that 1 inch is 25.4mm it does not accumulate all that well until the 180mm mark....now I am showing my age talking drivel.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have no problem with telling my real age at all. I understand why women or men do it, as people put in an age range and if your out of that you off the grid. However you make a complete fool of yourself if you have shaved of so much that you said you were in high school. most men do not care one bit, but women do as most women want some adult fun with younger men than them. its a factor in the fuck. age matters except if your a female on RHP so no complaints from me
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Single_Guy4U
10 years ago
I believe telling any lies is wrong, especially if they have he possibility of causing harm or hurt to another person, which includes your age. I met a lady when I was 41 thinking she was the right one, as she told me she was 42, even showed me her drivers license to verify, I wanted children and this was discussed). I only found out recently that she was in fact 50 at the time and going through menopause and therefore very unlikely to have children. Had I known that at the time I would not have pursued the relationship as I wanted children. So deal breaker for me. Maybe not so important if you only want a casual relationship; however I note that a lot of woman want to entertain the idea of possible ongoing relationship. Same with photos, there should be a rule that photos be recent (unless stated on the photo)
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SpikeDownunder
10 years ago
My profile is a true reflection of me, and my age is correct. However, I am a much younger man in both body and spirit. As a happily single male, it is difficult on all dating sites to stand out from the crowd. There are so many single males wanting to hook up in whatever way. It really is a sellers market. I understand the temptation to change your profile age to make you more likely to meet the unicorn of your dreams, or even to just get a response to a pm. It makes sense that people say that they are looking to meet people within certain ages on their profile, but I treat this more of a guideline if I think that I am within the ages sought in my mind and spirit. However, I guess that the unicorns of this world get so any messages that they do not have to look for the gems who do not fall within their exact desires, and never get a response. This reinforces the temptation to change the age on your profile. - Posted from rhpmobile
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JessicaRabbit
10 years ago
When I first joined I actually bumped my age up a few years because I was only 19 or 20... Ha!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I just looked at your profile, Awesome girl. Respect.
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RHP User
10 years ago
drives people to fib in their profile about their age? There are various different reasons why? For me personally, I like to wear my real age like a 'medal' because I don't look it. I put that down to genetics and my healthy lifestyle over the years and of course not smoking.Would much rather act my age too and date men my own age (to the ones who lie I will find out).I like that I'm honest from the start and then get that reaction "Fuck! Are you really 44!!" Age is really just a number and I look and feel younger than when I was 25 because I've since energetically stripped down and no longer carry the worries or burdens I had back then.dbs
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JessicaRabbit
10 years ago
Quoting '50zcool' I just looked at your profile, Awesome girl. Respect. Why thank you I realise I also didn't really answer the question...I'm not outraged if I find out someone has fudged their age a little. I met with a guy a few years back that said 36 on his profile but turned out to be 41 (my age limit at the time was 40). We got along well and shared common interests and the large age gap wasn't an issue at all so my only real question to him was why bother lying about it? Eventually he ended up putting his correct age in. I guess the reason for age limits is more about finding people with common interests rather than an issue with the number itself... Jess xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'JessicaRabbit' Quoting '50zcool' I just looked at your profile, Awesome girl. Respect. Why thank you I realise I also didn't really answer the question...I'm not outraged if I find out someone has fudged their age a little. I met with a guy a few years back that said 36 on his profile but turned out to be 41 (my age limit at the time was 40). We got along well and shared common interests and the large age gap wasn't an issue at all so my only real question to him was why bother lying about it? Eventually he ended up putting his correct age in. I guess the reason for age limits is more about finding people with common interests rather than an issue with the number itself... Jess xx Just curious Jessica, would you have opened the msg or flirt from the guy if you saw his age was 41 (and therefore outside of your age criteria)? I would guess he amended his profile to fit into your age criteria. Mooka
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RHP User
10 years ago
Mooks, I'm changing my profile age to 40, I'll let you know how I go. 😉
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't like people who judge, And if I had to lie about my age to get accepted by those who judge? I would need to give myself a seriously good slap. Anna (hurries to check ice updated my age)
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Baysidecouple214
10 years ago
why lie about your age. If someone is interested in you physically or mentally, age shouldn't make a differeance. Your age is not what defines you, its what you chose to do with the experiance you have gained during those years and how let that experiance shape who you are.
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
I think many will lie about their age, due to the selection process which uses age. some people under 40 may put a line through ages 40 and up.... so I suspect many are trying to keep their "options" open by discounting their age below these benchmark ages. I say, you can't get away with bullshitting to yourself, so why bother trying with others.
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RHP User
10 years ago
And why should you? Older ladies are the sexiest, most enjoyable, most intelligent creatures on earth. Nothing compares. Good on you... All power to you :) Stay Sexy.. Adam xxx
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RHP User
10 years ago
I met a great guy on here who had lied about his age, within minutes of meeting me he told me how old he was, it didn't bother me at all. We have great fun together when we can catch up and he is a real gentleman.At the younger stage I do have a cut off and possibly I am contradicting myself but 30 and under I tend to stay away from, I just find I struggle to enjoy their company.
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hardnslow
10 years ago
While most people on here are pretty much divided about this issue most are not worried about a year or two. As for the female side well do guys really care how old you are as long as he is going to get lucky anything is fine. Now from a male perspective you girls can get pretty picky when it comes to age so guys that are not getting a lot of action or response may think of lowering their age to see if they get some more responses. The search criteria on here is also another factor in this, no I did not like turning 50 because I was put into the 55 year old search bracket when I turn 55 oops I am now 60, how many girl want to search in this age bracket, yes there are probably reasons why you shouldn't in your eyes but what about the good ones that are there that look the goods train hard look after themselves that wont get found because of the search criteria, maybe when I get there I will consider forgetting my year of birth Alzheimer's they say, I can still remember what sex is and I don't want too forget.
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him_and_me
10 years ago
Quoting '50zcool' Mooks, I'm changing my profile age to 40, I'll let you know how I go. 😉 Haha! You may need to amend your name too, 50z... xx Me
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm not 51 yet, I never put my real birthday on sites to guard against identity theft so for the next couple of weeks I'm still 50 :) Although I think the lack of replies might have something to do with me being truthful about my dick size too, or maybe I'm just ugly lol
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kissitgood
10 years ago
Yes little white lies! Seem to lead to more lies.... So How Old are you Mr Hard n slow????
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'd rather lie about my age (I'm 47 not 45) then lie about my cock size or weather I'm good or bad in bed... But either way it seems most here believe profiles written by single males are bull shit! I am the person I am :) we are who we are it's that simple really...
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hardnslow
10 years ago
Oh Kissitgood how old do I feel???
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RHP User
10 years ago
Can't say ive ever lied about my age .. never felt the need to . - Posted from rhpmobile
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