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Married Women Open Relationships
October 12 2012
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ruby_blossum
12 years ago
Is this a serious question?The open relationships are between a couple who love each other with open, honest communication.In the main, I believe they dont cheat or sneak around on their unsuspecting partner.I think the open relationship ones have it right.Yes, I am writing this as a currently single person, have been in relationships in the past and I know which one I definately prefer to be in.
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RHP User
12 years ago
So you think its better to be having sex with others behind his back? Thats right? Hmmmmmmmmm interesting concept. Your life - your choice (just maybe youve chosen bad wording in your OP) I was in an open relationship for about 8 years (no longer with said gentletman -it just didnt work out) however when we first got together I was open and honest with him about my needs / wants / desires and this was the path we chose to go down. While we were together it worked for us...it allowed me to explore aspects of my sexuality he was unable to assist with and gave us both a little freedom to move when travelling or just out and about (I am generally not a faithful person by nature or just maybe I havent met the man/woman who can give me sexually and emotionally everything I need). Other couples may have differing reasons for it however I do think regardless of the reasons, all couples who are in an open relationship will tell you one thing the same - its about being open and honest with your partner - something you clearly are not doing. Kisses Focus
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Mr_DarkChocolate
12 years ago
okay this might seem harsh but... WTF! so u think it's okay to **cheat** yes thats right ur cheating on ur husband fuckign around behind his back but something seems off to u about having an open relationship ?!?! again WTF! priorities woman! either ur trolling right now or somebody needs to tell ur hubby what ur up to so he can find somebody better.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Good on you MissMelb.. Your showing some guts to jump in and find something else you need..not for me to judge anyone..
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RHP User
12 years ago
Taipan, lots of people will judge you Miss Melb.I have been in a similar situation and had more than one affair.Eventually I ended the marriage because it just didn't seem right and made the gap between my husband and I even bigger.We didn't have children so it only impacted on us. To this day I have no idea if my ex knew about my lovers but my reason for seeking intimacy outside of the marriage was because there was no longer any intimacy between us. I know that it is exciting in the beginning to do this, but there is a lot to loose if you do want to stay married and many things can go wrong ,including hurting your husband,hurting your lover and hurting yourself.x R
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Mr_DarkChocolate
12 years ago
i apologize for the childish judging off the bat, my brain mouth filter went haywire for a second & just let me type whatever was running through my mind without wording it properly either way i take back what i said, it's not my life, it's not my problem, it's not my call ... but if u'd still like a rational opinion i'd say if u feel as if u need to find something outside of ur marriage then perhaps u should think whether it's really fair to urself & ur husband to stay in that particular marriage, maybe u would be happier on ur own & u'll find something later on where ur content to be completely open with ur partner, after all open communication between u & ur lover is the way it should be & i'd imagine u'd be much much happier with someone u could share everything with
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
But the trust and communication is priceless. I feel really sorry for people without that level of intimacy in their relationship... And I am not saying it only comes from swinging.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I know how you feel. I am with my partner we were divorced for ten years and recently got back together. But the condition was that I could do as I pleased re sex with others. I was very clear on this as my needs are strong and I just would not go back there again in a monogamous relationship. I do not play when he is home nor do I discuss it with him nor make it obvious to him or anyone else that I have lovers. When your in a marriage and the sex is not good, no matter how hard you try. and yes people do try and try and it may just not work or circumstances change. There are a ton of reasons why people have sex with others in and out of a marriage. Each is individual and complicated. Illness is one good reason. I had a very bad back and could no have sex for three years, lucky for me I was not married at the time. And for those with stones I feel sorry for you, as one day you may find yourself in the same situation. Why throw out the baby with the bath water, other parts of your relationship may be working just fine, you may have children etc All you guys that say leave if your not happy, well let me tell you something Both my parents were like that, both players every time they got a new lover in their life they said ohh sorry your not doing it for me, the right thing is to leave you and go start some place else. Both my parents got married 4 times leaving a host of kids without a family, many of us ending in an orphanage or foster care So think long and hard, what is worse, Fucking around on the quiet, or fucking over your family cause others will brand you as a cheater? Getting your end away when your married is not a hanging offence, but if we took a rhp vote I am sure the lynch mob will be howling for blood. Only you know your circumstances hon, you do what’s best for you.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mr_ChocolateCock'okay this might seem harsh but... WTF! so u think it's okay to **cheat** yes thats right ur cheating on ur husband fuckign around behind his back but something seems off to u about having an open relationship ?!?! again WTF! priorities woman! either ur trolling right now or somebody needs to tell ur hubby what ur up to so he can find somebody better. glad you retracted this hon, get som life under your belt, you will see its not all black and white
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RHP User
12 years ago
Karma....and seeing that I need to be less like me, I won't elaborate. :) thanks for coming.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Don't apologise, your view is your view man, own it and stay true to it.
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Mr_DarkChocolate
12 years ago
young & **inconsiderate, sometimes foolhardy**Quoting 'tuscanred' Quoting 'Mr_ChocolateCock'okay this might seem harsh but... WTF! so u think it's okay to **cheat** yes thats right ur cheating on ur husband fuckign around behind his back but something seems off to u about having an open relationship ?!?! again WTF! priorities woman! either ur trolling right now or somebody needs to tell ur hubby what ur up to so he can find somebody better. glad you retracted this hon, get som life under your belt, you will see its not all black and white with all due respect, there's no need to take shots considering it wasn't directed at u & has absolutely nothing to do u. that being said i did make amends with the person it was directed at
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RHP User
12 years ago
The difference being, you're open about it, your husband has accepted you for you and that comes with him accepting you having lovers, and you also have the respect to not rub his nose in it. There's no grey about it. I'm not saying this lady has no valid reasoning, as I'm sure does, but she's not HONEST about it. And HONESTY is what respect and the basic fundamentals of any relationship are derived from.
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RHP User
12 years ago
as much as we might feel that an 'open relationship' is not for us...... being deceptive and dishonest about what we are doing, and who we are with, is simply something neither of us could do.....we dont see this as an adult option, as, to us, leaving rather than telling lies makes much much more sense. we think if you operate in a way that disprespects your partner, or your relationship....you dont deserve either.... but thats our opinion, based on both of us having been exposed to some of the worst lies and deceptions, by partners who were more concerned about their own 'wants', to see what a relationship really 'needs' to survive......
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RHP User
12 years ago
Your young mate and very new So I'll wise you up. Your not allow to judge criticise comment on people who are cheating on their partners on here They will always be able to justify their actions no matter what , real or perceived
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mr_ChocolateCock'young & **inconsiderate, sometimes foolhardy** Quoting 'tuscanred' Quoting 'Mr_ChocolateCock'okay this might seem harsh but... WTF! so u think it's okay to **cheat** yes thats right ur cheating on ur husband fuckign around behind his back but something seems off to u about having an open relationship ?!?! again WTF! priorities woman! either ur trolling right now or somebody needs to tell ur hubby what ur up to so he can find somebody better. glad you retracted this hon, get som life under your belt, you will see its not all black and white with all due respect, there's no need to take shots considering it wasn't directed at u & has absolutely nothing to do u. that being said i did make amends with the person it was directed at Nice to see you can man up, well done and yep it aint non of my business but hey sometimes if a lil choci cock pops up , well its a bit of a target for a nasty nanna like me
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ruby_blossum
12 years ago
For whatever her reasons are, she feels the need to cheat and deceive her husband yet questions the honest communicationof couples in open relationships.That does baffle me.As many have said here before, this is an open forum.If you are going to post here, be prepared to read other's thoughts on the topic.
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RHP User
12 years ago
My first thought was "is this a troll?" Especially given the roasting a couple of people got in the forums recently for very similar posts. Well I guess for many we are in the territory of that old double standard again. My thoughts are pretty much the same as they were for the other OP's. you may well have your reasons OP, without having walked a mile in your shoes, I can't say whether your choice is right or wrong, but the need to be secretive and dishonest about something so personal would be a very very sad thing for me. But as I said on the other posts, "this above all else.....to thine own self be true"
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes didn't know I would get heaps of feedback whether it being positive or negative I have been married for 14 years and yes have a child, but in saying that I do LOVE my family My husband and I lack intimacy although I do not choose for it to be like that, he just doesn't think it's a priority in our marriage So yes I'm the one with a high libido and have needs So brand me a 'Cheater' and yes I will have to live with that, but I'm sure I'm not the only one on here that is...... Thanks for your thoughts Taipan12 and Tuscanred, much appreciated x
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RHP User
12 years ago
"It just doesn't seem right" HypocracyIts the OPs' contradictory statement that floors us, but I suggest she read some older forum posts on Open relationships to gain an understanding they are not to be compared to cheating. I dont pretend to grasp the concept either.Everyone has a right to comment in the forums its every contributors insight which can be positive in some way or useful.I had actually refrained to responding to another topic in which the op had commented as it had infuriated me so.The forums here offer so many valid points that all need to be recognised and often learnt from.I suggest the op read some posts on cheating too or maybe not as others have said she may have her reasons???
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Mr_DarkChocolate
12 years ago
Quoting 'hardtruckin2011' Don't apologise, your view is your view man, own it and stay true to it. haha tx dude, i think it's pretty clear how i really feel about this but the political statement just saves grace it's like a knee jerk reaction for work even though 90% of the time i'm a dick when i'm working Quoting 'jonstar' Your young mate and very new So I'll wise you up. Your not allow to judge criticise comment on people who are cheating on their partners on here They will always be able to justify their actions no matter what , real or perceived to true bub but it doesn't just go for cheater's my man, it's basically anyone who does anything wrong find's a way to justify it to themselves & by extension people who would do the same justify their defence of that person
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have no problem with a partner cheating on me.....as long as he leveled the playing field by having the balls to tell me that he was....., he expected me to do the same....and we were honest to and respectful of each other and the choices that were being made.............oh yeah..thats called a open relationship. The other is cheating.....no matter how you word it...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I was in a marriage that wasn't open... it ended .. why? He cheated..I am now in a marriage and we got to the stage of our marriage where we were honest with each other and said "Hey, we're adults, this is how we feel, it doesn't mean we don't love each other any less, let's explore this ..together".It's all relative to what you believe, although I don't believe in the secrecy in this relationship. My husband and I talk about things and if we're not happy with things, we can be adults about it and reason.I'm sorry you don't understand how married women can be in open relationships. It's a wonderful, enhancing experience. My marriage has become stronger, and a heck of a lot more fun because of it.Good Luck with your search for someone to ease your boredom.Just remember..what goes around comes around. Think how you'd feel if you discovered your husband wasn't loyal to you, and you had expected him to be.Did that even make sense? Must make coffee before responding to any more posts! xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well said mikeandshel.
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RHP User
12 years ago
welcome to" Salem" Did you not read the sign at the door that told you, all you must have the same morals and ethics of all of the people here? silly girl now go pin your scarlet letter on your ample breats. cheer up hon, this is not the real world thank god. or you would be feeling the flickering of the fire at your feet. People may not agree with you, and thats fine but it will get mighty heated and prob from those who have been hurt by cheaters, so they have a perspective from that point so it gets heated at times. in real life I know some and they are not that mean , but the internet is a great shield to hide behind as you throw mud at others. cheers from the cranky old cow.
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RHP User
12 years ago
what a pile of shit.. Who gives a toss why the OP wants to play? Go for it MelbMarried !! Tuscan! you rock girl! I work on construction and mining camps.. and EVERY night.. someone in one of these camps is bonking someone they SHOULDNT be.. by society standards.. (add your own scenario here...... every night in any hotel and club every day at work everyday in shopping centres..) BUT, you know what? we as the biological creatures are and NOT designed to monogomy. Hey, Power to those who choose it, and honestly can stick to it.. BUT.. come one.. let the person who has NEVER.. and I mean NEVER even had an unclean thought whilst in a relationship caste the first stone eh! The rest of you .. STFU If I were in Melb, and we clicked.. I would take you on OP... and IF your hubby walked in.. I certainly wouldn't be grabbing my clothes and running :) GO for the freedom of selection.. give me caveman attitudes anyday over society crap.. All meant light hearted of course.. :)
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inspirit
12 years ago
I love reading the paper on a lazy Saturday morning........Coffee Taipan
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RHP User
12 years ago
MelbMarried38 i know exactly how you feel. i am doing the same thing as you are doing. i would much prefer to be in an open relationship but there's no way that's ever going to happen in my current situation but thats a whole different story. i really think that anyone who doesn't know your situation or someone who hasn't walked a mile in your shoes shouldn't judge you for what you are doing. take care and look after yourself xxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thanks for your understanding Bananarama281 Yes you are right if ppl on here haven't been in that situation, then they shouldn't judge me! Yes it's not right what we are doing whatever the reason but being in a open relationship isn't either Guilty on both parts I think That's my point anyway Thanks again bud take care xxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'MelbMarried38' Thanks for your understanding Bananarama281 Yes you are right if ppl on here haven't been in that situation, then they shouldn't judge me! Yes it's not right what we are doing whatever the reason but being in a open relationship isn't either Guilty on both parts I think That's my point anyway Thanks again bud take care xxx an open relationship is based on communication, that means both parties are in the loop. What's not right about that?? I'm not here to judge you, although i did find out the hard way with my cheating wife. You've admitted to what your doing is wrong, so really your letting yourself down as well as your partner. If it's that wrong, own the problem and fix it, instead of treating the symptoms with avoidance behavior ...like sex with random blokes. Is this suppose to fill your empty cup??This will only leave you more emptier , of course unless you have no conscience!Good luck with that
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RHP User
12 years ago
Coodi yowie, I'm not having sex with random blokes, I have actually been on here for 6mths and only met 1 genuine man which I regularly meet up with I'm very particular who I meet, don't fuck around with anybody and everybody thanks So you don't know me, don't judge me pls!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
very odd reasoning there Melb.Married,you don't want to be judged,but you are judging others who are in open relationships.hmm x R
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Splicey
12 years ago
You're being deceitful. People in open relationships are brave enough to be honest and let their partners know what they need and want. Personally I think you're weak and gutless, but what would I know? I've had difficult discussions with my husband and come out the other side like that adult I like to think I am.And how do you know no one has been in your shoes? You don't think for someone to have that difficult conversation and command a fulfilling sex life that they don't experience some discomfort first?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well written , many people cheat for many different reasons its not all black and white Live and let live I say ,and if you can't say something nice your best saying nothing at all . We all do things in our life that may not be right in other people's eyes ,so give people a break who are honest enough to be open on here My rant over :)
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ruby_blossum
12 years ago
Only speaking for myself here....Whatever any person does here is their concern.I dont really care why they are lying, cheating, deceiving.The reason why, is only know to them.What does annoy me when some doofus (is there a plural of doofus) comes along who cleary states they are lying, cheating,deceiving their partner and has the cheek to question couples in open relationships.I think there is a little saying about Those in Glass houses shouldn't throw stones.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'MelbMarried38'Coodi yowie, I'm not having sex with random blokes, I have actually been on here for 6mths and only met 1 genuine man which I regularly meet up with I'm very particular who I meet, don't fuck around with anybody and everybody thanks So you don't know me, don't judge me pls!!! and then this so give people a break who are honest enough to be open on here - mmm so the OP can be open and honest on here just not with her partner ?? A OP puts up a question and yet again baulks when they don't like the opinions/ideas/comments etc given... Simple .......then dont post such a personal dilemma/question on a public forum...........you invite comment and then spit it when it doesnt suit... Coodi gave a very balanced and well worded opinion of the OP's current situation - he also gave it no doubts based on his own previous experiences............as well do....we all come from our own perspectives......in no way was he rude/disrespectful....if you dont want to know..then dont ask !!! Like Ruby says Im sure most of us couldnt give a flying fuck on the whose, whys and hows as to why your cheating on your partner and with how many , or in what positions........ultimately it is your business.......but spare us the sanctimonious shite....especially when questioning others and their staus with their partners... You asked to be judged the moment you hit the green "Post you Comment" button and you have ...and you have now been left wanting...what exactly were you looking for ?
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RHP User
12 years ago
'cheating' is 'cheating'.....regardless of how you colour it, or what way you tilt your head to look at it...lies are lies, and deceptions are deceptions...its so simple....children understand the meaning of the word, and that its not acceptable...why then, dont adults ?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've been there myself, in another life. I've known many others, male and female, who've also indulged. Inspite of many people's moral objections, these were not horrid, seedy people (well, at least not all of them). So I won't be judging you or your motives. My current marriage is a half-way open relationship. Jennylee has my support and blessings to play with whomever, whenever she pleases but she's uncomfortable with the thought of me playing without her so I don't. Many would think this hypercritical but it's not really. It's more about respecting your partners feelings and needs. Jenny would not play alone if I were uncomfortable with it so all's good. I expect, if I pushed the point, she would remit and give her permission but I really don't want to play without her.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Let's say.. just for the sake of discussion .... OP is in a violent of demeaning relationship with someone of VERY violent and dangerous background. She is NOT getting sex... but, craves male/female intgeraction.. She goes to her partner and tells him, and gets the shit bashed out of her. OK, it maybe a harsh story, BUT WTFAYA to say it is not so? OR...The OP's partner is in prison, a member of a violent antisocial subculture, whos brothers are keeping their eye on the honour of their incarcerated friend... OR.. The OP is married to a person from a different ethnic heritage who will once again take violent action against her.. You guys have no fckn idea what-so-ever as to WHY she is doing what she is doin.. Sure, it COULD be she is just a gold digging bitch who wants the money of her wealthy partner, AND the pleasure of a couple of new young studs. OR, she could be a bored 60 year old male playing his own game here... *smiles* Cavey... just like me..
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RHP User
12 years ago
I understand why there are those of you out there keen to condemn MelbMarried38, but for those of you so quick to judge, if you haven't walked in her shoes, how can you point the finger? There are many reasons people cheat and I'm aghast that so many of you are demonstrating such blatant hypocrisy. You think having sex in an open relationship is any better than hiding it away? I can't understand open relationships in my heart at all, since I could never get over the jealousy if my partner wanted to sleep with someone else right in front of me. I wonder if the finger pointers would also be so judgemental if it were a guy mentioning that he's cheating; after all, most of the guys who've contacted me on this site admit to being married and only wanting an affair because their wives aren't interested in sex. There are a lot of people out there in sexually incompatible partnerships looking for it wherever they can, and whereas, in the years when I considered myself 'happily married' I would have frowned upon cheating partners, it's a whole different kettle of fish nowadays. I'm also married and cheating, because it's the only way I get any intimacy! Sometimes we marry young and change and grow apart as we get older, instead of evolving together. My husband also can't perform sexually because of health reasons, so am I to give up the pleasures of sex altogether because I can't have it with him? I would love to be open and honest with him about it, but he has a jealous, control freak type personality and would NEVER accept it, so how is the 'communication' that some couples find so easy, ever going to work for me? I've tried talking about our issues with him before, for it only to end in a blazing row! If he found out I was cheating he'd beat the living daylights out of me, so sneaking around behind his back isn't something I take lightly. But I also don't want to divorce, because we have children and I don't want to upset THEIR lives. Sometimes having a secret lover is the only way to keep one's sanity - I know!So, good on the cheaters who are open enough to admit they are, and don't let the finger pointers get you down. At least we are honest on our profiles. The guy I've been seeing for almost 3 years - told me he was officially separated for the first 8 months we were together - now THAT'S what I call a cheater...I actually find myself feeling sorry for his wife!
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inspirit
12 years ago
Quoting 'cavey50' Let's say.. just for the sake of discussion .... OP is in a violent of demeaning relationship with someone of VERY violent and dangerous background. She is NOT getting sex... but, craves male/female intgeraction.. She goes to her partner and tells him, and gets the shit bashed out of her. OK, it maybe a harsh story, BUT WTFAYA to say it is not so? OR...The OP's partner is in prison, a member of a violent antisocial subculture, whos brothers are keeping their eye on the honour of their incarcerated friend... OR.. The OP is married to a person from a different ethnic heritage who will once again take violent action against her.. You guys have no fckn idea what-so-ever as to WHY she is doing what she is doin.. Sure, it COULD be she is just a gold digging bitch who wants the money of her wealthy partner, AND the pleasure of a couple of new young studs. OR, she could be a bored 60 year old male playing his own game here... *smiles* Cavey... just like me.. ....young Cavey, you require a good slapping and some hard core sex
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ruby_blossum
12 years ago
Shit, I cant believe I lowered my standards to call someone here a doofus!Agggh fuck, now I said shit,shit I said fuck!Bugger it, I am off to soak up some sunshine
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Miss_CDubs
12 years ago
I will offer you something from my own experience...when I was exactly your age, I was in a relationship with a man I loved quite desperately and he shared with me his desire to enter into the "swinging scene" with me, as he had done this previously with his ex-wife and loved it. I was quietly horrified and politely declined as I was mystified as to why he would want to do that as we were supposedly in a committed, loved up situation. I certainly had heard about the concept before, I just had no idea how or why two loved up humans would want to do that!Move forward 7 years and I am married to a man with whom I not only swing, we FLY!!! And the difference is TRUST. Yes, we communicate, yes we want the other to have heaps of pleasure, and yes we love each other more than words can say. But the most important feature is trust. That one word means and explains so much in "couples world".Best of luck, and if you can't be good - just be good at it!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'MelbMarried38' Coodi yowie, I'm not having sex with random blokes, I have actually been on here for 6mths and only met 1 genuine man which I regularly meet up with I'm very particular who I meet, don't fuck around with anybody and everybody thanks So you don't know me, don't judge me pls!!! now knowing that your only fuckin' the one bloke and not just anybody and everybody... i bet your husband would be wrapped tooAnyhow ...this is not about your cheating, i don't really give a hoot, it's your life so do what you want. However the comparison between an open relationship and cheating on a spouse is worlds apart and outright ludicrous. What planet are you from?? If your husband is not an axe wielding psycho and like you said, if all that is missing is the intimacy go get some counselling or see a sex therapist or just keep fuckin' that random bloke... whatever blows ya hair back. This is a forum and people voice their opinions, i think your being a little sensitive.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Either way what you choose to do in life is your own choice stand by it and you will always be happy but in saying that the main question we would ask ourselves would be How would i feel if i found out my partner had other lover's and did not tell me? how would i re-act?, what would i do etc etc We think the main thing we can pick up from this OP is that no matter what it is honesty always is the best policy if it wasn't for honesty we would not be doing this together which would not be as fun for us by ourselves
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'coodi_yowie' Quoting 'MelbMarried38' Coodi yowie, I'm not having sex with random blokes, I have actually been on here for 6mths and only met 1 genuine man which I regularly meet up with I'm very particular who I meet, don't fuck around with anybody and everybody thanks So you don't know me, don't judge me pls!!! now knowing that your only fuckin' the one bloke and not just anybody and everybody... i bet your husband would be wrapped too Anyhow ...this is not about your cheating, i don't really give a hoot, it's your life so do what you want. However the comparison between an open relationship and cheating on a spouse is worlds apart and outright ludicrous. What planet are you from?? If your husband is not an axe wielding psycho and like you said, if all that is missing is the intimacy go get some counselling or see a sex therapist or just keep fuckin' that random bloke... whatever blows ya hair back. This is a forum and people voice their opinions, i think your being a little sensitive.
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RHP User
12 years ago
but once again, Tuscan has nailed it! :) Horses for courses (unless they're HIGH Horses!).
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RHP User
12 years ago
You would think an anonymous person might be able to ask an honest question with out fear of a dressing down, however this is not the case when cheating is concerned, even on RHP. It was instantly obvious that you were in line for a chastening the minute I read the title of the thread.I would advise you not to seek solace in the forums, especially regarding the question of whether it's ok to cheat, it's never going to bode well or fall in your favour. If you find that it's necessary to fulfill your sexual desires outside your marriage then keep it to yourself, discretion applies in all directions, even here.I would imagine that a woman married to a man who had needed a prostate removal might want to fulfill certain needs without shattering the ego of her already deflated partner, I would expect fear of a violent partner may well lead one in the same direction. There are many shades of grey which can't necessarily be solved with the "go see a therapist" response, but alas that is irrelevant in this situation, you are being judged ,in the case of RHP, by a bunch of people with sexual kinks that would likely see mainstream society put them in the same boat as you.Don't try to explain yourself, what point is there in seeking acceptance here, it's not that I am condoning your actions or condemning them, I am simply highlighting the fact it really doesn't make a difference in an online forum.
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RHP User
12 years ago
*grins* IS that a challenge girl??? I might not be too far away from you up there soon... :) Hardtrucking... "You are NOT getting laid on this site are you mate??' Don't let Coodi suck you into showing "Untoward" attitudes mate.. he gets laid eveynight.. he has a lady :) *grins*
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RHP User
12 years ago
make sure you pull out your biggest dildo to use on that caveman will ya, when your finished with him ...club him over the head with it. Bloody pudding head!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ok here is my rare two cents worth .. This is a subject close to my heart , apologies if anyone takes offence. I was in a relationship/ marriage that was ( at its peak ) absolutely awesome! And do u know why that was the case ?? .. Because my hubby and I were TOTALLY open and honest with each other ,we had to make an effort to do so and sometimes it was difficult because u never really know how ur partner is going to take ur opinion or wants and needs but with the whole openness we got the opportunity to REALLY know each other and understand each other. And it worked .. for many years!So guess where it broke down ... through NOT telling each other feelings and not revealing our true thoughts. Go figure!Please dont be so hasty to judge open relationships/ marriages .. it could be exactly what u need to learn more about urself and ur partner. I`m positive there would be less cheating as a result. I can tell u right now I would rather be in an open and honest relationship than hiding things behind each other`s backs and thinking its ok or even a bit naughty and exciting ... yeah sure it is .. BUT is it something u want to take with u through life?? I have experienced both sides .. and have learnt from itMy personal belief is that human race was never meant to be monogamous, but dont hide stuff or lie THAT`S what causes distrust and inevitable breakdownJust my thoughts .. Mz
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RHP User
12 years ago
a chocolate pudding coodi? ...I have always been partial to a lil' taste of chocolate pudding...cavey the magic puddin' me thinksx R
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RHP User
12 years ago
*chuckles* good onya Coodi... :) I dont think THAT woman needs encouragement :) AND she will try to get photos to send you too ...
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RHP User
12 years ago
can someone please explain to me, if your in an open reltionship..what brought you together in the first place..and secondly if it not work out why are you still in one..just about every time you read a post on open relationships ,someone says it ended with going your separate ways.call me olds fashioned but if you date , marry someone or form relationship ship it because you want to be with that person ,not use them as booty call when you cant get it from some one else...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't get laid atm for my own reasons, but none due to lack of interest. But that's irrelevant in my mind, the issue that I see, is that the OP has a double standard in my mind, and each to their own with cheating or having an open relationship. I have never cheated, nor have I experienced an open relationship. However, it must be said, you don't go around slinging off at those who have the openess of honest communication, but are doing the same thing in essence. It doesn't make sense to me. To me those in open relationships are just open about their "cheating" to use that term loosely.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Are always able to justify their actions Especially to themselves
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RHP User
12 years ago
I went to the pub and sat on a bar stool, had a couple of girlfriends with me. Each one of us got hit on by married men. The one that was after me had a huge ring on his finger. He told me how much he loved his wife, how they meet were together since 15 years old. He told me that he kisses her forehead every night when they go to bed and says I Love you. I believed him, and he does. But he had that craving that longing and yes I guess that sense of I need something more. He lusted and lust is something I can appreciate. I declined the offer last night , though if he was what I was wanting between my legs I would be making him coffee this morning. Cavey is so right re the circumstance of people , I know I used to work in every male prison in this state. I also see the more subtle side of the human condition, perhaps my degree in Anthropology makes me have a broader understanding of human interaction. Guard your men , as you sleep at night in the false belief that hubby is a good boy. Don’t let him out of your sight, women like me are waiting for the sweet things to come to their bed. Nobody is secure in the knowledge that their partner is faithful, the most pious are the most easy to seduce. The lure of the wicked woman is like honey to a bee. Everyone on thies forum, is able to say how they feel, no problem with that. You can say you do not believe in something..because of what happens to you in a civil way You cannot say this woman is a sexual criminal , yes she is not disclosing to her partner and her reasons are just as valid as your reasons for your other transgressions in life. Its not what you say but how you say it that can be offensive to an OP. Oh yes, take a deep breath and look in the mirror. I know people on here, who are nothing at all like they portray themselves to be. Yet bleat on the sermon on the mount and you guys line up behind , patting each other on the cyber back When in reality you have no idea what that person is in real life. Your deceived here by cyber cheating and you don’t even know it. Things are not always what they seem are they? I have seen plenty of lies posted up here, Now is that cheating? Some are wearing a nice cloak of self deception.
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RHP User
12 years ago
So melbmarried , Would in your eye's be ok now for your husband to do the same behind your back ? I was on the receiving end in my relationship , why not talk to him about spicing it up ? Maybe bring an extra guy in , maybe an extra girl in for him . Maybe just buy a vibrator instead . Not here to judge , I've met couples in open relationships honestly think their way is better at least they are being honest with eachother
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am still struggling with the whole double standard thing, with posts like this,if the OP is a guy out cheating I am struggling to remember a reply that said, "go for it mate.....it's all good.....congratulations for going out and getting what you want/need". I have no personal stake either way, we make our choices and take our chances! I just love the concept if trust and openness and genuine joy between those in an open relationship, which I think was a part of the OP's post that some of us including myself missed at first :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'ruby_blossum'Shit, I cant believe I lowered my standards to call someone here a doofus!Agggh fuck, now I said shit,shit I said fuck!Bugger it, I am off to soak up some sunshine made me smile in the middle of a heated post , well done
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'cavey50' *chuckles* good onya Coodi... :) I dont think THAT woman needs encouragement :) AND she will try to get photos to send you too ... but I have no problems with knowing who will be the caveman here..ohh yeah I know an Alpha male when I see one.
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RHP User
12 years ago
follow my posts fella.. I joke about MOST things.. I was teasing fella... ultimately, I dont care a single hoot who does what and to whom.. :) No, that is not true of course... but, on here, you are just a no more then a interactive string of words.. In my world remember, I MIGHT be an axe murderer, OR a norty playfull grandma pretending to be a caveman because I was packed by a group of bikies when I was young..and LOVED it. Have you watched "Lord of War" with Nicholas Cage? In a soliloquy, he stated.. (in Essence) "at 4 and a half months, the human feotus has a tail. (alson not totally true) It is the remnents of revolution. and that is the thing, you can fight your foes all day and be victorious - BUT, if you fight your biology, you can NEVER win" Sex is far more overpowering then the emotion too many call love. And, we as self justifying creatures, play with boundaries to keep ourselves within the comforts of our our minds. So, WHAT IS Cheating? For Me.. to stay with one lover is cheating on my very biological being. It is cheating on my primary mandate to procreate and "Go Forth and survive my species" I have had a fair amount of long term lovers.. and guess what happened in EVERY single one of them bar none....? A sister, cousin, mother, daughter or very close friend of that lover decided to try me out. Takes two to tangle? You bet it does.. but, I am male.. and I do like to share myself around.. so, what is offered to me, I usually take. And ONLY use the fidelity card to ward off the women I DONT want to fck. Hard trucking.. Good luck to you for THINKING you can be a good lad... I can already tell you are going to get hurt more then you already, (and i reckon recently) have been. Have fun fella.. and dont take life so seriously eh :) in fun caveman
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RHP User
12 years ago
You and I should get together and write a book... AFTERWARDS I mean You the anthropologist, me your study.. You the.. (fill in the blanks) me the.. You the.. me the.. You the.. me the.. *grins* Freya... *chuckles* I can do chocolate.. body butter... paste.. toppings.. nice small pieces slipped between your lips during sex... ummm. oh .. ok.. :) caveman
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'hardtruckin2011' I don't get laid atm for my own reasons, but none due to lack of interest. But that's irrelevant in my mind, the issue that I see, is that the OP has a double standard in my mind, and each to their own with cheating or having an open relationship. I have never cheated, nor have I experienced an open relationship. However, it must be said, you don't go around slinging off at those who have the openess of honest communication, but are doing the same thing in essence. It doesn't make sense to me. To me those in open relationships are just open about their "cheating" to use that term loosely. Because some ppl ( actually alot of ppl ) do not know where to draw the line .. my ex couldnt get his head around the whole truth thing in the end .. respect! Treat me with that and i`ll adore u .. cross me and I`ll kick u to the curb
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'cavey50' You and I should get together and write a book... AFTERWARDS I mean You the anthropologist, me your study.. You the.. (fill in the blanks) me the.. You the.. me the.. You the.. me the.. *grins* Freya... *chuckles* I can do chocolate.. body butter... paste.. toppings.. nice small pieces slipped between your lips during sex... ummm. oh .. ok.. :) caveman Me woman, you man...nuff said ohh and If I write with a quill you can tickle my fancy
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RHP User
12 years ago
Of course, there is another thread getting out there, on which you actually openly suggest to a male OP to open a couples profile for THEM, but to KEEP his single one ALSO for hiimself. Is this advocating cheating? Is it OK for the male OP on THAT post to do it, but NOT the female OP here? *shrugs* Just wondering Caveman
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RHP User
12 years ago
Interesting....very interesting...had not entirely looked at or even for a perspective from that angle. I will look those movies up and get back to you.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ermm different confines I will argue on that one. The deeper definition of a relationship in the context of which you refer also states they are friends with benefits. No commitment has been entered into unlike marriage in this case.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'cavey50' Let's say.. just for the sake of discussion .... OP is in a violent of demeaning relationship with someone of VERY violent and dangerous background. She is NOT getting sex... but, craves male/female intgeraction.. She goes to her partner and tells him, and gets the shit bashed out of her. OK, it maybe a harsh story, BUT WTFAYA to say it is not so? OR...The OP's partner is in prison, a member of a violent antisocial subculture, whos brothers are keeping their eye on the honour of their incarcerated friend... OR.. The OP is married to a person from a different ethnic heritage who will once again take violent action against her.. You guys have no fckn idea what-so-ever as to WHY she is doing what she is doin.. Sure, it COULD be she is just a gold digging bitch who wants the money of her wealthy partner, AND the pleasure of a couple of new young studs. OR, she could be a bored 60 year old male playing his own game here... *smiles* Cavey... just like me.. Yes I understand ur view .. BUT if thats the case .. she should not even be with him in the first place .. alot more deep seeded issues that should be attended to BEFORE even contemplating a new play buddy .. WE ALL have stuff going on ....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Are u guys prepared to be `her saviour` in that case ?? ... ahhhh NO would be the resounding reponse huh ?? No one likes drama and baggage
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inspirit
12 years ago
Quoting 'cavey50' *grins* IS that a challenge girl??? I might not be too far away from you up there soon... :) *grins* Yeah Yeah...that's what they all say though a challenge has been set.........make sure you're flexible
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inspirit
12 years ago
Quoting 'coodi_yowie' make sure you pull out your biggest dildo to use on that caveman will ya, when your finished with him ...club him over the head with it. Bloody pudding head! You of all people in the forums are usually the most less Judgmental and take things in your stride xxx Chill out babe and each to their own. Tell ya what.....I have fucked a few married men in my time so what does that make me?
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RHP User
12 years ago
We have been married for nearly 19 years , i was looking for some fun, went on here . Met a person . luckly nothing happened ---because WE are on here together --meeting people and having a great time together.......
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RHP User
12 years ago
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mz__SP' Quoting 'hardtruckin2011' I don't get laid atm for my own reasons, but none due to lack of interest. But that's irrelevant in my mind, the issue that I see, is that the OP has a double standard in my mind, and each to their own with cheating or having an open relationship. I have never cheated, nor have I experienced an open relationship. However, it must be said, you don't go around slinging off at those who have the openess of honest communication, but are doing the same thing in essence. It doesn't make sense to me. To me those in open relationships are just open about their "cheating" to use that term loosely. Because some ppl ( actually alot of ppl ) do not know where to draw the line .. my ex couldnt get his head around the whole truth thing in the end .. respect! Treat me with that and i`ll adore u .. cross me and I`ll kick u to the curb I must say I agree here totally, respect is exactly what its about in my mind. Cheating, is not respectful, to anyone least of all to those who do it, given that that was your point. There's a saying that I quoted on another thread, that states "Hurt me with the truth, but never comfort me with a lie."
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RHP User
12 years ago
we have an open relationship .Brazil is allowed to do whatever she wants,i love her and respect her.she is a lot younger and i love when she comes home from her nights and tells me about what she got up to while i feed on her pussy.she has a new boyfriend (im hubby) who she fucks up to 5 times a week.i know whats going on and its a complete turn onbut if i found out she was cheating i would have a major problem
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' Quoting 'coodi_yowie' make sure you pull out your biggest dildo to use on that caveman will ya, when your finished with him ...club him over the head with it. Bloody pudding head! You of all people in the forums are usually the most less Judgmental and take things in your stride xxx Chill out babe and each to their own. Tell ya what.....I have fucked a few married men in my time so what does that make me? you go you sexy lil beast
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RHP User
12 years ago
...what I believe to be the fallacy, that leaving someone is a morally superior option to affairs. All these judgemental types stayed away in droves. ...Funny that.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' Quoting 'coodi_yowie' make sure you pull out your biggest dildo to use on that caveman will ya, when your finished with him ...club him over the head with it. Bloody pudding head! You of all people in the forums are usually the most less Judgmental and take things in your stride xxx Chill out babe and each to their own. Tell ya what.....I have fucked a few married men in my time so what does that make me? I like cavemanor you talking about the op??as for you ..your just a very very naughty girl.
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RHP User
12 years ago
i always thought that being in an open relationship meant that you you were open with who ever you are with. not do things with out there knowledge.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit'I love reading the paper on a lazy Saturday morning........Coffee Taipan Yes lets sit back Inspirit ..
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RHP User
12 years ago
Its perculiar that when i responded to this post I didnt judge the op for cheating just her contradictions How can someone make a statement Like it doesnt seem right but not compare that to what they are doing??? WTF but a lot of people have made it a post about peoples rights to cheat LOLAs jonstar put it so "Cheaters are always able to justify their actions"I was stunned at people defending cheating with all their excuses. Even 40DeeD has a whole extensive reasoning but her final statement that she feels sorry for the wife of the guy she is cheating with should make you cringe. Theres always someone who will get hurt I have seen that and it hurts so many. Dont pretend your doing your kids any favors it just doesnt always work that way. I was in a sexless loveless relationship I craved intimacy I had a partner than in turn ended up with erectile problems and we didnt have sex for years........I also had many situations in our entire relationship where I could have cheated and was propositioned many a time. In the later stages I even felt drawn to another person I knew was in a similar situation but I can not define why I did not cheat. I even broached this subject with friends after I left my partner. I am not saying I have higher morals than anyone I just dont think "hopefully" that everyone is capable of this (cheating).I one day hope to enter into a monogomous relationship but I have to say from my time here and your responses I leave little hope for such a relationship and now fear that I will be cheated on as it just seems so acceptable here and justifiable. What chance do I have?
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RHP User
12 years ago
You have every chance in the world to meet someone that will be faithful to you Rhp is not the world its just a mini flicker of opinion. If you think you have to live a life by rhp forum posts, then your in for a terrible time we are not the wizard of Oz were just people with to much time and hot air so be postive , what you want will come if that is what you desire. just make sure you man is not from WA ...( tongue in cheek here honey)
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RHP User
12 years ago
By definition, an OPEN relationship has no secrets or lies.. Then its some thing else
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RHP User
12 years ago
its my experience that many people put so much energy into cheating...they manufacture scenarios, fabricate circumstances, and conjure from thin air, an excuse to cover every occasion, every transgression..they tell lies, and compound on them, until they are layers deep, and take on lives all their own.......its a shame really, that they dont put as much thought or energy into either fixing their relationship, or extricating themselves from it...they claim and counterclaim, that leaving isnt an option...because they'd 'lose so much' or 'care so, for their kids' or 'love their partner, but crave intimacy'...... but strangely enough, they never ever see, that by cheating................they have already 'left the relationship'........
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thanykou for sharing...and I really hope you find someone again....wherever he may be xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thanykou for sharing...and I really hope you find someone again....wherever he may be xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Atleast in an open relationship, they are sincere to each other and not " I would never be honest and open enough to let my partner know what I have been doing".. If you don't want to be in a open relationship then don't go cheating on him.
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RHP User
12 years ago
40DeeD, I certainly respect your opinion. For me, cheating is breaking the rules couples put in a place in their relationship. The rules are different for every couple, it is up to you if you want to have a threesome, gangbang or prefer a monoganous relationship. Like in my case, it is a real turn on to see my partner with someone else but I don't want him to play alone just yet and if he goes behind my back and does it anyway then it would be a total lack of respect and I'd be deeply hurt, that would be "cheating" becasue of the feelings involved. I am not judging you, neither should you judge others' "open relationship".
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is what we do here on RHP cheating in some form? I think society in general would believe we who swing are "cheating" on each other as we are going against our martial vows and we have a relationship that brings others to the martial bed is not what society thinks is the norm. Well lol we have a different view right! Anyway as a principle we do not do "open relationships", we would like to explore some fantasies that relate to playing 1 on 1 with others in specific erotic encounters culminating sexual outcums, fantasies apart our swinging lifestyle is as we said said, we play together. But if some like the open relationship gig then all power to them we are not here to judge.
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RHP User
12 years ago
we have been married 17 years and together for nearly 20 years. About a year ago we discussed swinging and decided to give it a go, was nearly 10 months before we actually decided to swap partners. We now love the scene and we believe we have an open marriage we either of us can play with however we choose. However we have chooses to only play together, whether that be with another couple, single guy or girl. We love to see each other pleasured and would not consider indidual dates or even seperate room. This works for us and we are both happy with this. However since being in the scene we have seen so many couples who are supposedly experiences swingers fight because one broke a so called rule. Dont know why everybody cannot have there rules and appreciate all the extra benefits they get to a standard monogomeeous marraige. The other great thing is being able to discuss together what happend that night and not have any guilt or have to hide anything.
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Mr_MrsJones
12 years ago
An aquaintance of mine from my vanilla life confided in me about issues she was having in her marraige. Her husband was very conservative, there was not enough sex, it was boring, she wanted variety etc etc. She had found out about our lifestyle and obviously thought I was going to solve her problem. I told her about how honest we are in our relationship, that there is no cheating and everything is above board. Apparently her idea of me solving her problem was getting introductions to men who are free to play with women with their wive's consent. This made her life easier for her because she was the only one sneaking around and she didn't have to deal with a jealous angry wife finding out. So one thing led to another and she had a grand old time! I didn't really approve but took the approach that it was her marraige to manage how she saw fit. I did lose a great deal of respect for her though and no longer consider her someone I wish to be close friends with. She got very sloppy and basically got sprung by her husband but somehow managed to lie her way out of it. A lot of her newfound lovers shut up shop because they didn't want the complications. Then she rang me crying about how she just wanted to have some fun and now everyone thought she was a big fat slut. In my opinion being a slut is not a bad thing but being a big fat liar is and most of the swingers I know feel the same way. I told her as much and her response was,"You are lucky to have such an understanding husband." That was the most insulting thing she could have said. Luck has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with it. My marraige has survived many things because of one thing, honesty. We are happy and at home with our open relationship because we have the hard conversations with each other, say the things the other person doesn't want to hear, listen to their criticisms and take them on board, admit the stuff we are ashamed of and move forward. If she is too lazy to do that then she shouldn't consider our willingness to do so good luck. I don't judge cheaters because everyone has to choose their own path but what peeves me no end is that these people often have no respect for the amount of effort it takes to not cheat! Mrs Jones.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mr_MrsJones'An aquaintance of mine from my vanilla life confided in me about issues she was having in her marraige. Her husband was very conservative, there was not enough sex, it was boring, she wanted variety etc etc. She had found out about our lifestyle and obviously thought I was going to solve her problem. I told her about how honest we are in our relationship, that there is no cheating and everything is above board. Apparently her idea of me solving her problem was getting introductions to men who are free to play with women with their wive's consent. This made her life easier for her because she was the only one sneaking around and she didn't have to deal with a jealous angry wife finding out. So one thing led to another and she had a grand old time! I didn't really approve but took the approach that it was her marraige to manage how she saw fit. I did lose a great deal of respect for her though and no longer consider her someone I wish to be close friends with. She got very sloppy and basically got sprung by her husband but somehow managed to lie her way out of it. A lot of her newfound lovers shut up shop because they didn't want the complications. Then she rang me crying about how she just wanted to have some fun and now everyone thought she was a big fat slut. In my opinion being a slut is not a bad thing but being a big fat liar is and most of the swingers I know feel the same way. I told her as much and her response was,"You are lucky to have such an understanding husband." That was the most insulting thing she could have said. Luck has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with it. My marraige has survived many things because of one thing, honesty. We are happy and at home with our open relationship because we have the hard conversations with each other, say the things the other person doesn't want to hear, listen to their criticisms and take them on board, admit the stuff we are ashamed of and move forward. If she is too lazy to do that then she shouldn't consider our willingness to do so good luck. I don't judge cheaters because everyone has to choose their own path but what peeves me no end is that these people often have no respect for the amount of effort it takes to not cheat! Mrs Jones. lol no...... to 'not cheat' is as easy as drawing breath, and requires no effort what so ever.....
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have just come home from giving a lecture on communication , and drawing. Its not that simple, I ask people to draw the same object and guess what each picture is different. I will give you a scenario and want to hear what you think.: This is people I have known so its not just made up. Couple 1. married for twenty odd years. Conservative church going people. He got prostrate cancer, doc said its your life or your sex life. He had the op. Now as much as him and his wife talked about their options when it came to the crunch he did not want her to be with another man. It was bad enough that he lost his manhood without giving his wife to other men. So she tried to be the faithful wife, for years. He is not even able to please her in other ways as he is depressed, yes pills and years of therapy. She started to wither on the vine, but she loves him in all things. She would never just say sorry baby but I am out of here, you cant fuck me and you will or cannot deal with me having a lover. He is the father of her children and the man she loves. Now the same thing can happen with women that get cancer, and people will say that rat bastard of a husband left her when she got cancer. When all he wanted to do was have sex, he cant afford to pay and he also wants intimacy though not a commitment as he has committed to the woman he loves? So he leaves and is a prick, or he has sex without his partner knowing and he is a prick? Or how about even broaching the subject when your partner is so ill? Yeah that will work. Some people just cannot deal with their partner having sex with other people, this does not mean they then become the throw away people. Most people have actually spoken to their partner before they play up, they have tried all sorts of things. Marriage counsellor, doctor, pills for depression you name it. Were not all able to negotiate the emotional side of our partners with another person, and can get hurt angry jealous etc. even in swingers circles , it can happen non of us is immune to the human condition of feeling wanted and desired and also just to hold another person and talk about your troubles. Pillow talk with a lover is great food for the soul. What works for you is fine, but that does not mean that other people should do the same. Why make people feel bad about the hard difficult choices they make in life? Of all places you on RHP need to temper your strong views with some rational empathy and understanding as one day, those shoes you so despise may be on your feet.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Tuscan.... we feel rational empathy, and understanding .... for the one who is at home, unaware their partner is out there prowling around.....and for the family he/she is potentially betraying.....we feel for the children of men and women who betray them with their actions, and with their lies....we feel for the ones who trust and who believe in their partner and in their love. we feel for the 'innocents'....and there are many many of these....we were once innocents ourselves ..... i believed in my partner, just as my wife believed in hers...... tho perhaps we could be celebrating the fact that our partners betrayed us.... it ultimately led to us being together....so thanks guys...thanks for ruining the lives we shared, thanks for being so selfish.... you allowed us to find each other....thanks for the opportunity to be so very happy! cheers!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' but strangely enough, they never ever see, that by cheating................they have already 'left the relationship'........ Very obviously a relationship still exists, the terms (at least in one of the mind of one of the partners) and dynamics have merely changed. You continue to, very stubbornly, judge others by your own values. The notion that extra marital affairs are wrong come from the same Christian moral structure that says that sex before marriage is wrong, that divorce is wrong and that homosexuality is wrong. You have picked through these mandates and chosen the ones that suit your own sensibilities and that's fine. I don't have any problem with that but then you go and insist that your revised values are the correct ones and you go about it in a very offensive way. Tell me what you would have to say to the person who tells you that you are an evil miscreant for being a bisexual swinger. Homosexuality, bisexuality and any form of extramarital sexual relationship (with or without a partner's consent) are forbidden under the Christian moral structure so, to their minds, they would be right in their judgement of you. Would you accept that judgement? If not, you are being hypercritical (yet again) in passing judgement on the people you call cheaters. People have their reasons for their affairs and those reasons are often very valid but so many of you choose to belittle them by calling them excuses because it doesn't adhere to your own set of values. This is outright bigottry and you know how I feel about bigots. I maintain that the one infallible test of ethical behaviour is the golden rule. If you could not accept and forgive another "cheating" on you, then don't do it but I don't accept marriage as ownership. My first wife had affairs behind my back and I simply accepted that she was looking for something I was unable to give her so it was not wrong of me when I did a bit of searching myself. Many of you are not living up to the golden rule because you are very happy to impose your values on others while you would not accept this being done to you.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Do whtever makes u happy just dont judge others! peace&fuck
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RHP User
12 years ago
You got me wrong...no way am I condemning open relationships/marriages. If anything I envy them, because those couples ARE able to be honest and open with each other about what they want. I envy the people too, who have been able to discuss honestly, after years of marriage, that their needs have changed and they want to try swinging. Good for them. :)But like I said, my husband has been horrified when I have mentioned this idea to him; he's very much a good Catholic and believes in one man/one woman for life. I am only the second woman he's ever slept with, whereas I had a bit of fun at uni and he's always been jealous of that - won't even let me mention past boyfriends!! Maybe we're just too different to ever find middle ground after so many years? Yes, cheaters can always find reasons to justify their actions. My husband's lack of EMOTIONAL, as well as inability to perform any physical intimacy, is the reason I gave up on our marriage. I WAS entirely faithful for 18 long years - some of us are not serial cheats. But I decided the risks of cheating were worth it if it meant I didn't have to face half a lifetime of celibacy. Gee, what a waste of a life that would be!
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inspirit
12 years ago
Quoting 'coodi_yowie' Quoting 'inspirit' Quoting 'coodi_yowie' make sure you pull out your biggest dildo to use on that caveman will ya, when your finished with him ...club him over the head with it. Bloody pudding head! You of all people in the forums are usually the most less Judgmental and take things in your stride xxx Chill out babe and each to their own. Tell ya what.....I have fucked a few married men in my time so what does that make me? I like cavemanor you talking about the op??as for you ..your just a very very naughty girl.
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inspirit
12 years ago
Quoting 'Taipan12' Quoting 'inspirit'I love reading the paper on a lazy Saturday morning........Coffee Taipan Yes lets sit back Inspirit .. Il'll bend over and let's reallly get some action going on here....Oh what was that...White and 2.
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