M46
Messages that are read and no reply...
November 28 2019
Comments
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badboyhere
5 years ago
Simple ....because they don’t have to.
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MsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
People do have courtesy. However it maybe not on the sliding scale as yours is. No, people do not have to reply to any messages after they have read them, especially if they have not met. If someone replied to me or wanted me to do what they wanted/demanded, it would be an instant block. There is no hard or fast rules when it comes to replying, it is a personal individual choice. Nothing curious about that. Move on and don't let it bother you. Ms Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
I suspose there have been some pretty intense "nervous' forums over the years too. Lol! Ms Foxy
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sweetnsensual
5 years ago
It happens to everyone Sometimes if they are a couple they need to show the other half before replying. Sometimes people don’t know how to reply to a message or if they are not interested it’s sometimes easy to not engage Hope that’s help
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HotNightsGC
5 years ago
It’s not really about courtesy. It’s about choices. Interested = reply. Not interested = no reply. Nobody is obligated to respond to anyone in this kind of environment. The trick is not taking a non-response personally.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Look, 👀 our profile clearly states, lookin for a woman! ... yet still get contact from men. 🤣 Having been RHP members for some time now we can see why members just get to a point where ya can't be fucked wif putting in any effort on replies. RHP for us is like lotto, we're in the game.. got to be in it to win it 😆 Yes we have had small wins 😚 but still waiting for that jackpot! "More a meeting of the minds"✌
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RHP User
5 years ago
I try to reply to every message I get, and when asked I occasionally say very nicely, sorry I’m not looking to meet etc. However a reply often backfires because then I get questioned as to why etc, and it can be frustrating to say no more than once. Women obviously do get a lot of attention on any dating/sexual media. Whilst I personally still try to reply to all, I think there would be a lot of women who simply don’t have the time or patience to bother with it. CC
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FeistyFatty
5 years ago
No reply is a reply. Its a not interested
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funtimescouple1
5 years ago
It happens to everyone. We reply to all messages that warrant a response and it is frustrating when a chat seems to be going well and suddenly no response. We've even had couples that we've played with and continued to chat with suddenly drop off the radar. Circumstances change. We've had nice messages from new couples and we've send a nice message back and no response. Yes there are time wasters and people get cold feet and there are those that decide that they are just not interested in you. There are no guarantees here.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Its polite to reply.
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RHP User
5 years ago
When I don’t get a reply? I’d take it as not interested. Just as everyone should. It probably saves time in the long run. Lol I could imagine that the woman would be inundated with so many messages too.
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AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
Men get all excited when they get a message, an instant erection even..... But erection goes down when opened and it's a NO. So.....by not getting any no messages, when you find a yes message, your erection stays and you have a great wank. I used to reply but l read "The subtle art of not giving a fuck". So now, l don't give a fuck. Hope that helps. Maybe get a copy and you won't give a fuck either....
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The_Antichrist
5 years ago
Curious but not bitter....Yet the point being made is about emotionally validating the sender of a message.... I think it’s a hard sell on the curiosity...I’m happy to be wrong though... Personally when I was sending messages, I was sending them and forgetting them....if they replied, then that was a mere bonus...if not, who cares?? I don’t have a need to understand why, it is what it is...I’m sure there have been plenty of things I’ve said or done that others may wonder...but again I don’t really care too much as my actions are mine and mine alone...people will either like me as I am or they won’t....and I wouldn’t be interested in someone conditionally....
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RHP User
5 years ago
I don’t give a fuck either. So I don’t even message.
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honkytonk
5 years ago
well said ole son
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Sawadee
5 years ago
That's why ? OK ' Im sticking my neck out here , but here goes.. As a above average presentable guy who gets thier fair share of attention in the real world , here ''' l pretty well get zilch ? Why ? the only reason I can fathom is the mindset is geared to automatically reject anything and anyone . In other words , play the game , but not really be serious about a genuine meet ? So guys ? dont take it to heart , just the way it is ..
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MsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
I love your way with words. 🤣😂 Ms Foxy x
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sweetas_j
5 years ago
Because apart from the abuse after rejection messages I receive in return, a lot of actual messages I receive consist of: ‘Fuck you make me hard, let’s hook up’ ‘Do you play for money?’ ‘I’d like to fuck that ass’ And so on. These do not warrant a response 🙄
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mature101
5 years ago
We believe it is better to not reply than to engage in numerous messages and sharing pictures and then they do not reply to messages. They have agreed that they would love to meet and play side by side on the same bed. When it comes time to commit you hear the sounds of silence. Having said that we have had a lot of fun times with our friends on RHP. For those that go quiet, so sad. 😭Stay sexy.
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letsdoit1672
5 years ago
What i find strange/odd is the reply ( if your lucky to even get one) "Sorry not looking at the moment" even though that person is active 24/7.
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RHP User
5 years ago
What if you went up to someone in a bar and went "We seem to be really close by, wanna fuck?". No answer would be preferable? But in reality, human psychogy dictates a general avoidance of confrontation. That's the reason. If someone is keen they reply. Otherwise they don't. Easy.
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EarthQueen
5 years ago
Quoting 'letsdoit1672' What i find strange/odd is the reply ( if your lucky to even get one) "Sorry not looking at the moment" even though that person is active 24/7. It's a polite way of say no. Refer to Annies 2.0 upgraded version of care factor. You are way overthinking. I hardly ever bother to log out. Doesn't mean I'm scouring the internet for dick 24/7.
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Mischeviouslad
5 years ago
Why is that strange? Maybe they’re chatting to others and not looking to take on new conversations Maye they just forget to log out Maybe they’re really a bloke Maybe your message or profile or both just weren’t at all appealing and that’s their way of giving you a polite “no thanks” Maybes. Sounds to me like you expect a yes answer and you’re nose is out of joint Why would you expect that from a total stranger??? Simple truth. Nobody owes you anything in here. 😎
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SpicyKale
5 years ago
ML👌 We're online a lot, chatting with current friends, on the forum, having a good perv at the sexy folk in pie land. In saying that, we have kids, work, reno houses etc... If people we click with come along great, but here isn't our life. We might only meet a few people a year, everyone here is looking for something different. Just adjust your expectations a bit, not everyone is after the same thing that you are, or treat the site in the same way. To the op, people just get jaded after a while. We'll generally use the auto fill reply, but don't expect it! You haven't seen half of the shit that's come through our inbox.
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ArtsyLusttty
5 years ago
I don't bother with the reply. It is all depends what the person wrote in the email and/or their profiles. LustttC
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Mezmerizingeyes0
5 years ago
You do the same when out at a bar, club - no interest just walk away with no response its what is normal these days. Don't forget if they get the usual one liners it can become a bit laborious to reply, just move on and focus on the ones that do a lot less energy wasted and more energy put towards making a connection. Or if you go to an event where you do meet someone that interested you and for some reason and they suddenly show interest in you in person just make them aware that you were obviously not suited and walk away did it a couple of times myself. I wasn't rude just made sure that they did not waste any of their time, and then I wandered off to talk to someone who made the party well worth attending
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RHP User
5 years ago
A rose in a sea of thorns.
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non_such
5 years ago
girl friends tell me that it is better not to engage with men rather than offer a polite 'No thank-you'It seems that many men do not accept No for an answer, and take any message, even a rejection, as an opportunity to start a conversation:'I bet I can persuade you.''You're just playing hard-to-get''You've never met anyone like me before.''I can go down on you for hours.''If you gave me the opportunity I could show you some new things.''Go on, give me a chance.''I'm better than most of the guys on here so I don't know why you rejected me.''You're not so hot that you can turn down someone like me.''F*ck off, you stuck-up bitch.'
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RHP User
5 years ago
I think I may get no replies due to not being the average 6 pack massive shoulders looking blokes I’m today’s world you gotta be ripped or get no attention
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peasandcarrots
5 years ago
If you're a single male and messaging us, then you obviously haven't taken the time to read our profile, why should we spend the time to message you back? For others we haven't messaged back, it's not always because it's a no, but we try to only have a few conversations going at once, quality over quantity. One line messages/responses usually show disinterest in my opinion, if that's all we get, then I don't see the point continuing. It takes time to respond to everyone, and if we are interested we don't want to reply half heartedly. So sometimes we will wait and see where some of our current conversations lead to before replying to new messages, others we ignore because we're just not interested.
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funnkinky
5 years ago
I agree. how hard is it to say, No thanks. Some people are too up themselves and think they are supermodels and deserve people who are 20/10 looking. Maybe rhp should have a a button on the bottom they can click on that says not interested as a reply seems too hard for some people. What I find ironic is when ive seen a girl write in her profile, don't be rude and reply even if its a no, yet she didn't reply and read the message.
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Aveleysaint
5 years ago
Well said. It's idiots like those that ruin the vibe of a site like this. 👍
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RHP User
5 years ago
why shit messages deserve no response.But I still think.If a message has obviously had some time and thought put into it, like obviously has read your profile and addressed it, then a polite response is the right thing to do, lets face it, there wont be that many. And I don't believe the type of person who puts care and effort into contacting you respectfully is the type to respond with snark and bile.If you want decent, well written messages then keep the ground fertile.Otherwise the alternative is lowest common denominator.You reap what you sow. Of course you could always send messages yourself and see how that feels.bahahahaha.
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P69D69
5 years ago
Fem replying, I believe its polite to reply but also believe it is one's right to choose to or not to reply. We women get all sorts of messages, ummm some flattering, some not, some rude, some try hardish, just how it is. Have not had to block anyone as yet and most men have been very polite. I choose to reply, but please men reading this, take note of my profile first, still looking for my first female to female experience first. So please do not inundate me with messages. I believe ignoring people only adds to their frustration which is a negative that creates men to become less polite for further communications. Some how we need to look at positive ways to have polite communications. Take note guys, sure lots of women like dick pictures. If all you have is dick pictures, then it appears you are a dick. Mix it up a bit, dick pictures after dick pictures is boring.
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Jackson1811
5 years ago
In response to letsdoit, that’s obviously them saying “not interested” in a way they deem appropriate. Can I ask how can you tell if a sent message was read? We can’t. And for us, we’ll try and reply to all messages from members that match with us. We won’t generally reply to single guys that message us as they obviously haven’t taken the time to read our profile properly. Couples that are clearly not a match are in the same boat. But there are exceptions. Well constructed messages, where the member has obviously read our profile and made a strong case for themselves normally get a response. We ended up meeting and later playing with such a couple and they will hopefully become friends and regular play mates.
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peasandcarrots
5 years ago
Jackson1811, if you log into desktop site and go to mailbox, and sent messages, it says on the left of each message if it's been read
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Jackson1811
5 years ago
Thank you peasandcarrotts, we never log into desktop version.
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konghard181
5 years ago
Hi like your bike would love to go riding with you sometime
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click_lick
5 years ago
It is a free world and an anonymous dating site. One of the many answers to this question is that it is easy to forego common courtesy when there is no societal scrutiny....like peeing in the shower. :-P On a more serious note, this used to bother me in the past as well but then a simple thought struck me (having kids and all the daily duties myself) that people may just have had to drive their kid to emergency room or had a spiff with their partner or a myriad similar reasons that prevent a timely reply after reading my messages. I just think that my heart was in the right place and assume that the heart of the message recipient is also in the right place and they just couldn't get around to replying. So yeah...since that "revolutionary" thought, I stopped being sensitive to that.
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Keepitsimple01
5 years ago
I think you are bitter. Why else would you be having a cry over it. Maybe it's your profile pics?
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RHP User
5 years ago
I generally do reply with a ‘thank you but unfortunately you are not for us’ and often get abuse hurled at us! I also prefer people to be honest but sometimes it’s easier not to reply
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RHP User
5 years ago
Social media consumes enough of our lives, if I replied to every RHP, unsolicited email, Snapchat, LinkedIN etc etc.... there would be no time nor energy left for sex!! And I can be 4 weeks between log ins if work is nuts, sex drive dip... I’m having me time and pornhub is my edit The intent of the site is pretty clear it’s a hook up site for open minds... I meet likeminded people wgicb maybe anything from no reply. a direct question few hours of sex now please (diff language to convey tho), or may stumble across something else... RHP is like Forest Gumps box of chocs analogy - you never know what you’ll taste next... it’s exciting Enjoy the ride (excuse the pun) And get a photo up... I open hardly any without photos - just don’t include ur face if not comfortable to do so EG 🏴 🏴🇦🇺
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RHP User
5 years ago
Starting out I tried to be polite🙏🙏... even if just to say 'no thank you'.🤚.. but it lead to more unwanted/necessary messages 😳.🤦♀️🤦♀️.. which I had to, in the end ignore. 😔 Unfortunately/fortunately🤔🤔... depends on perception.... We have the shallow insensitive ability to 'window shop' direct requirements on this site😈😈. So, I've learnt to be brutal.🤨 If you are not what I'm into.👎..(as per profile request).... Then, an unanswered message, is my answer..👌👌.. and a universal 'happy hunting' 😉🤙.... goes out to your journeys. 😊🙏..... And yes... this site is awesome training on 'how to not give a fuck!' For the more sensitive beings in this world. Give it a go.... its liberating 💪💪 Stay sexy beautiful people x
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Justdoingstuff
5 years ago
We reply to everyone, it is just our nature, and the odd one that has come back abusive we simply block. We simply say thanks for the contact, but we aren't interested and wish them well. We reply because if someone has paid for an account and used one of their messages on us we feel they at least need a response. Not everyone thinks like us, and we once upon a time would get frustrated with a non reply after it was read, and like OP we say in our message, we accept a no fine, just let us know. We have come to have no expectation of a reply, and that has us not feel anything about it. The non reply after read and then checking your profile quite regularly afterwards though is a behaviour we find intriguing, we do wonder are they; 1:new and still a bit nervous 2: trying to scour our profile to see if they do actually like us 3: the phantom Sydney Uni people we read about in everyone's profile just trying to do research haha 4: someone that lives closer to us than their profile says and just trying to figure out who we are and if they know us.
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RHP User
5 years ago
When I first joined rhp, I was young and full of hope. Flash forward a few months, I feel as old as the dawn of time with so few fucks left to give. Whilst it is polite and courteous to reply to all who want to give you five minutes of heaven, sometimes you just can't be arsed, or you forget or you just have an inkling that by their first impression you'd rather masturbate with a cheese grater than be caught up in any manner of conversation with this particular person. In any case, if you don't get a response... be grateful. This person isn't for you and they'd more than likely provide you with disappointment in bed and a case of antibiotic resistant chlamydia. Every cloud has a silver lining
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RHP User
5 years ago
Anti has the answer - send and forget. Any reply is a bonus. Even a rejection is sign of a courteous person somewhere. For the record on this site over 3 months ( excluding datefinder and events ) - 200 sent with 10 replies, 6 rejections, 2 ongoing exchanges, and 2 dates
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sherralee
5 years ago
1 - People don’t really read your profile correctly to see what you are looking for, or not looking for, and send a message anyway. 2 - No public photographs to entice. 3 - Public photographs consist of only cock shots. Show your body(s) to give one’s imagination something to think about. 3 - No detail in profile about themselves. 4 - No effort put into initial contact message by way of introducing themselves to entice and respectfully engage. Boring. I will not respond to a three word introduction of ‘when and where’ or the like, etc. it’s tackless and doesn’t show much intellect as a conversation starter or hope for future discussions. 5 - Don’t sent friend requests as a means to initiate contact. If one hasn’t met you and formed a connection it will get rejected.
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RHP User
5 years ago
I confess I was also taken aback initially by the lack of responses, particularly given how easy it is to give a template reply. Then I thought about it a bit more, got out of my own skin and into that of those not replying, and realised that it makes perfect sense. From the perspective of a woman here: 1. I know nothing of the sender2. I owe them nothing3. A negative response can so often descend into argumentation or abuse4. And I receive many, many messages every day whereas guys likely receive only a few (well, that's my experience...) Ultimately, it would be a pretty fucked up world if my act of sending someone a message then required them to engage with me. So a no response is a response: it's "thanks but no thanks" Perhaps the question behind the question is "why am I getting turned away so often?" Which is likely another whole conversation.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Sincerely ... no response means they’re not interested ... so there’s no reason other than an imagined one to get a response ... you don’t message people you aren’t interested in ... either in the first place or as a response ... it’s simple and clear And so many guys don’t take no for an answer I’m clearly on here for women only ... maybe the very select odd couple ... but I’m straight Men contact me all the time ... if I reply and try being polite they launch a tirade sooner or later ... usually along the lines of how I can’t know I don’t want what I havnt tried ... my girlfriends on here experience worse and from twice as many men ... at least lol Sooooo just let it go ... they’ve taken the time to read your message and maybe even look at your profile ... and then think not for me ... that’s all you need to know ... is this environment :)
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RHP User
5 years ago
Well no reply to messages means it's time to drop this and go out to the real world to meet people, because there are quacks in personality that aren't portrayed in the messages
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RHP User
5 years ago
Anti has the answer. Send and forget. Any reply is a bonus even if it is a rejection. For the record over three months on this site excluding datefinder and events - 200 sent, 10 replies, 6 rejections, 2 ongoing chats and 2 dates
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RHP User
5 years ago
It's because men get about a 20th of the messages a female does and many of those are not worth replying to. It conditions you to give less of a fuck as time goes on. Also learn how to move on. No reply then leave it be. Doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of life.
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RHP User
5 years ago
I will send a template reply to those I am not interested in. However, that usually means they message back - asking why don’t they match what I am I looking for? Why do I have such a specific age range? The list is endless. Having met you personally I tend to think you expect more of people than maybe you should. I know you’re not bitter and I think others on this thread are being a little tough. However, ultimately it is like roulette, and we usually lose more often than we win. Best of luck!
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RHP User
5 years ago
There are some exceptions like having a dick pic as your profile pic. I get confused when people send us a flirt asking for a message and don't reply. I don't understand that.
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steveandhisgirl
5 years ago
I would never get a msg and not reply i cant be so rude and ignore
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RHP User
5 years ago
Going to messages->sent will show you if your message has been received/read. Definitly a case of No Reply = Not Interested, once one gets thier head around that concept it works pretty efficiantly, time saved all round.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Quoting 'oralcpl' Its polite to reply. Agree, only takes a minute to do so....A simple “thanks but no thanks” is all that’s warranted!I think with today’s society manners have gone out the window in general, what have is a shame really...
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RHP User
5 years ago
A lot of the time I/we don't reply to those who obviously didn't take the time to read our profile or only have 2/3 profile pics of their chest/butt. Most single/bi guys that try to contact us are instantly blocked simply because it's a waste of time (and message). But at the end of the day no one is obliged to answer every message they get sent. We do understand the frustration but it is what it is...
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RHP User
5 years ago
Mischievouslad sums it all up perfectly... But to add it just gets a bit all too much continually replying to say no to the majority .... Not wanting to be rude or the nasty rejection responses.
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chiaussi
5 years ago
We first joined as a guest, we supplied some photos to enlighten others a little of what we look like, we don’t reply to flirts or letters with no photo at all I feel there is an underlying reason. So try a little pic!
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RHP User
5 years ago
I find if I don't get a response then they aren't worth the trouble either and not what I'm looking for...their 'don't give a fuck' attitude isn't worth giving a fuck over...don't let it get you down and just move on
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RHP User
5 years ago
At the beginning I was replying when I wasn’t interested but was finding rather than that being it..... just courtesy to say thank you but no thanks.... I was getting reply Messages asking to just meet and give them a chance and so on. I found most would give a reply and then keep replying. So my answer is no I no longer reply if I’m not interested and I apologise for those genuine guys that just want the no thanks them you move on but there are a lot that don’t do that. I hope this helps
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RHP User
5 years ago
Letsdoit1672.. sometimes you can look 'active' online because you are already hotly and heavily engaged in chat with one (or more) already, perhaps with a view to meet .. so looks like you're looking, but your 'dance card' is full :)
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Giocomo
5 years ago
I think the process goes something like the following. I find usually in everyday life/business, socialising and relationships silence is a default no. Usually it will be a quiete and polite no not seeking any hassle or follow up. Because when you reply to an unsolicited approach, you inadvertently create a conversation. Even if you’re saying no, you make it a two way simply by replying. This gives heart to some who think the attention may be positive and continue pursuing. Separately, added to that dynamic, the nature of this platform allows a conversation to continue using one initial message credit if both parties respond alternately. So if a recipient answers a message, then she/he leaves the door open for another approach and leaves the safety of no more contact.
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aneedtoplease
5 years ago
You say in your profile you are over 6 foot tall with 9 inch below Wouldn't be surprised if most women just can't handle that LOL 😝 take it as a compliment if I don't reply
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RHP User
5 years ago
Maybe have a photo, it may help?
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outoftowner42
5 years ago
I know I’m not everyone’s cup of tea, but that okay, fuck em I drink coffee anyway. Ha ha ! The way I look at it personally if they’re not the kind of person to reply then I’d not be able to converse with them so there wouldn’t be much attraction to me. Then again maybe I also wrote a crappy message and it just didn’t resonate with them. Either way, it is what it is.
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Pinstripe
5 years ago
Same here mate I think you nailed it!
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Pinstripe
5 years ago
What you say Sweetas_j is 100 % on the money... Messages like that really don't deserve a response...However there are blokes like myself who genuinely inquire with respect and vulnerability getting either no response , or a positive response , but then nothing , for no particular reason... honestly it doesn't bother me greatly as I understand the concept of ambiguity in this medium of communication... but personally i respect honesty and forthright communication and would much prefer a couple of words to make things clear... No is No, that's cool with me , but I wonder ( not saying you!!) whether perhaps some women get a bit self righteous or something?? I know my own integrity , so I see it as their loss and as others have mentioned just dont take it personally.... P.S . who said " Its A Mans World!!??) Its not on here !!😂😂😂😂😂 All the best
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blossom030
5 years ago
I used to reply to every message. ..but agree it very often backfires and its hard to keep saying no... And some men are vicious with rejection... I wont tolerate nasty rude behaviour in real life let alone online...who has time for that? Anyway its nicer not to reply than cop BS...
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Pinstripe
5 years ago
" Tactless " Just being a smart arse !! Good Luck!!
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sweetas_j
5 years ago
ChilledAs I think I was having a bad day when I wrote my previous post 😂 I had received a lot of one liner messages and quite a few reply messages questioning my decision to reject, calling me a shallow bitch and telling me to go eat a burger cos I was too skinny anyways (which I gladly did 😜) I do endeavour to reply to most messages and I will say that a lot of guys reply with thank you messages which I am grateful for. When I’ve sent flirts or messages and not received a response, I brush it off. You can’t be to everyone’s taste or the world would be a boring place. Just saying x
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RHP User
5 years ago
Hi Constant Cravings, Yes, you are amazing, you have replied to all my messages with grace and humility, :p thank you
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RHP User
5 years ago
Hi HotFudge, Thanks for your feedback. Perhaps you are right, I expect more of people that i should. So my expectations of common courtesy is too hight? haha. i know what RHP is for, but I cant help but think if i treated clients or other people the same way, it would end in disaster.
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RHP User
5 years ago
WOW! thank you so much for all the replies and feedback. I guess I was just a little frustrated when I posted this originally. But there is some very valid reasons, and yes, time seems to be the biggest issue for most. I will continue to craft well worded messages and se how we go. thank you again for everyones replies.
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RHP User
5 years ago
I can't tell you how many times this has been an issue for myself. If you politely decline, you open the window to them hounding you as to why? and the chat never ends! Some guys will message 20 times in a row, not kidding. Some turn so nasty that you need to block them and then they find you elsewhere! The dating world can suck for us females too, trust me. We aren't deliberately disrespecting you. We just simply aren't interested, sorry yet that's the brutal truth. Good luck finding someone who matches perfectly with you.
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non_such
5 years ago
When I saw that photo of the beach in California strewn with 'penis fish' as far as the eye could see, I thought: 'This is what the inbox of every woman on RHP must look like...'
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RHP User
5 years ago
Sometimes it happens mate, how you react to the situation is just a show of your Charecter for others to see, women do cop a lot of shit on these kind of sites so there's a myriad of reasons as to why people don't reply, Males deal with this issue also, sometimes a woman doesn't let up and on this site that may have a Fair percentage of members looking to try things for the first time and putting themselves out there as much as this site does, it just makes things delicate and requires patience and understanding
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Teaser7
5 years ago
We generally try and reply even if it's to politely decline. It all depends on the content of the message as to whether or not we give it our time. It's similar to when you strike up a chat, open PG then poof they're gone. We don't take it personally. If we don't float your boat then that's ok. Some people get bent out of shape over a knock back, sometimes it's easier to not reply.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Because some people sead message and have no pics or send flirts and ask what do you think of me and same again no pics and if you don't have the descent too and some you know it's going to go now wear
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Curvesnextdoor
5 years ago
Do you read every email at work and the immediately reply ? No way you’d get nothing done It may be a priority for you to get an urgent reply but when there 15 other messages of the same ilk it’s easier to read them return to the ones you’re most interested in.
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Casanov
5 years ago
Dating is just a strongly female dominated field as you can see from all the reply that deliberately assume that are always the girls leaving the messages unanswered. The truth is that it is very hard to make a very good first impression online unless you are a fitness model or famous, you only have one shoot. I get all sort of s**t too, "fake", "too perfect", "womanizer".... no matter what you do, you will never be perfect for everyone. Woman might complain if you send them a one liner, because they genuinely do not know that you have been sending thousands of elaborated messages with zero replies, so you cannot invest anymore time when you know your chances to get a reply is extremely low anyway. I know how it feels when you stumple across that one profile you really like and you are hoping for an answer, just think that the number sdo not match. There are hundreds of men for one girl on here. Many men just give up and stop even bothering, they go their own way, but, If online dating does not work for you, remember that you can always go out and use all your other strengths like being a good character, polite, fun or easy going. Online dating can be very superficial at times. Peace
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IggyandKate
5 years ago
It seems courteous to reply to messages. However if it’s an approach from someone who doesn’t at all match what you’ve written in your profile then I understand not replying. I do think it’s a bit odd when people send you a flirt, you reply with a friendly, positive message and then you never hear from them again. Feels like they’ve wasted my time. I think if you’re going to reach out to someone and they reply, you should at least let them know if you’ve changed your mind. Kate
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happygolucky12
5 years ago
Out of interest I read your profile I’m straight ... it was just for interest . Half of your profile is setting rules and how you would prefer things done ... what you consider protocol The other half was telling them how funny you are without writing anything funny You finish with let’s have loads of orgasms together ... not a very classy comment Your are 6, 5 which most girls love and supposedly hung well which some like ... The only reason you’re not getting more reply’s is because of your profile info .... chill out ... don’t set a set of rules ... a woman could be well interested in you but after reading that would be like ... no chance ... chill and rewrite your profile and stay classy ... I don’t mean to offend
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RHP User
5 years ago
After reading Happygolucky's response, I viewed your profile. I agree with him. One typo. Great height! Great lover? That comment says the opposite. Change it to considerate lover. If you are attracted to our minds, seduce us with yours. I would also change well endowed or hung to built to proportion. They are my suggestions, but you need to be you, not a petite female who loves to write. Hope this helps you find your girl. Xanthea.
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Casanov
5 years ago
I love the constructive comments!
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RHP User
5 years ago
It is important for you to take into account membership status. RHP members have varying levels of membership, some able to respond others cannot. For instance.. lf you have messaged a guest... They cannot send written response .... The selection of flirt options available on your profile, offer 1 response .... Yes. If a lady would like to gracefully advise you, thank you, but, no thank you, take care. They cannot. It is not that they are rude, insensitive or thoughtless but unable to do so. Just another position for you to consider. If you want acresponse, you maybneed to think about upping your membership to allow all to respond. Hope you connect with some lovely acquaintances.
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towelsrequired
5 years ago
I've got 600 unread messages that unfortunately i just dont have the time to open and reply to, and I open probably 5-10 each time i log on. I do find the app a bit clunky which makes replies even harder. I also have found that at times when I have replied to say thanks but not what I am looking for, I have received abuse. To get a reply from me, generally there will be face pics available and a non generic message showing they have read my profile, and their profile is filled out. Not sure if that helps at all.
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1964divine
5 years ago
It is good manners to reply to everyone it only takes a moment but manners are dead unfortunately
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SirTwistopher
5 years ago
I never expect a reply. I mean it feels good to be told yes or no. But generally never expecting a reply just adds that lil more excitement when you actually do get one!
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Pinstripe
5 years ago
Hey Sweetas_j , you don't have to explain yourself to me!! We all have days where we are just frustrated/ annoyed with people because so often people are so bloody self centered ... feeling they have been wronged by the world. or one particular person... But wow , those replies like "shallow Bitch " and "go and eat a burger " WTF!! I find it hard to fathom that they can even say that when they (attempted) to engage you ..... Clearly they are shallow, and have zero empathy...I commend you for having the respect to reply with a polite no thanks, and it id becoming qutite clear to me why this is even an issue and that is because some blokes just ruin it for the rest by taking things way too personally....So you ate a burger or two!! good on ya ... hope it tasted good !!! 😂😂🙏 x
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RHP User
5 years ago
Well i must be old school & polite because i always reply 😊
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Lucas84
5 years ago
Haha, this is hilarious. Make a profile as an attractive woman and try to reply to each flirt or message. I bet you quit before a week.
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Lucas84
5 years ago
Buddy, why didn't you reply to my comment? As well as all the other comments?
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non_such
5 years ago
I never really understood how terrible it can be for women online until i exchanged messages with a man while pretending to be a woman. I was having dinner with a girl friend when her phone kept pinging. She looked at the screen and rolled her eyes. 'Just some guy i replied to online and now he keeps messaging me. I'm going to have to block him.' I asked if i could chat with him as her. I thought i could have some fun. It wasnt as much fun as i thought. He was needy and entitled; a weird mix of arrogance and insecurity. He kept sending me dick pix and fishing for compliments about his size and girth. He wanted to know if i would enjoy getting his cock in my ass. Six times he asked. He kept pestering me for nude pix in return. Then i got video of him jerking off. I kept refusing but because i was still talking to him he took that as encouragement. When i refused to meet him to experience his size and girth in person he started to verbally abuse me. I returned the abuse to see if he would get the message and quit...but he didnt. Just a video of him cumming. After 30 minutes i got bored and said: 'Sorry mate: Lisa put her phone down half an hour ago and I picked it up. You've been talking to a bloke. I've been taking the piss.' I thought that might finally embarrass him into leaving but there was almost no pause before he replied: 'Can you put Lisa back on?'
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RHP User
5 years ago
Kindness is a language which the deaf the can hear and the blind can see (Mark Twain). I give up my seat. I hold doors open. I let drivers in in traffic. I put my trolley back. I listen. I smile at people and say hello. I respect people who serve me. I let people go before me in the queue. I am pleasant to others even when my heart aches. I say please/thank you. I don't make fun of people or gossip. I pride myself on these attributes. Bleating on about the erosion of 'common courtesy' in society because you are not having your emails answered is ludicrous. Just because I make eye-contact, nod or say hello as I walk past you does not grant me the same behaviour in return. I would be a fool to think it would. Expecting others to behave as you see fit is disenfranchising of their free-will to say the least. I think you should move on and allow others to do the same.
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RHP User
5 years ago
If a lady doesn’t reply it says that she probably isn’t worth worrying about. It takes a minute to respond and even quicker if an automated reply is set up. ‘Manners maketh the person’ as the saying goes. I do understand that women get a lot of messages however, but in my experience 70% of women need to learn manners. Observation not a criticism or judgement.
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GoRocco36
5 years ago
Dont stress about it, I'm in the same boat, I'd imagine if i got swamped with messages etc...it could get difficult answering everyone. They're either into you or not, good luck.
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Casanov
5 years ago
@sweetas_j who told you that you have to eat more? Lol that is funny... Give them my contact, I can provide a VERY accurate description of why you do not need any of that :*
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sweetas_j
5 years ago
@Casanovax I’ll pass on your number 😘 😜
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