M46
Need a straight answer......FFS, just let me know!
April 25 2018
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RHP User
7 years ago
I don't know, nor can I see what you look like, BUT... it is generally NOT the issue..EXCEPT if you look like me...there is a very distinct (Albeit, small) group of ladies who find me attractive enough to want to bed me..Therefore, I have little luck on dating sites.But, if I go to a hotel on a Friday night.. and just chill out.. have a nice time.. behave, all that shit, there is a FAR greater chance that I will score.So.. It is PROBABLY because the piss is working on the lass involved... she missed out on the fellas she had her eye on.. (Her girlfriends got them) so, she is still itchy for a scruff...I am available.. so she takes me home.. I know enough to NOT hang around once she has had her jollies, because she will FUCKING regret it.there are a LOT more males then females on dating sites.. so you have an uphill push to start with..Mate; don't take it personally... otherwise you WILL get depressed... Hang in there.. be logical about your approachesand good luck..
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DynamicCouple36
7 years ago
You asked “ But I just want to know the real answer. If the truth is that I'm as ugly as a hatful of assholes, please just tell me because these adult dating sites are making me feel a bit down ?” As you have no photos on your profile (certainly not in the public gallery) it is impossible to answer your question. For many, on these sites, this is just a fantasy. They have no intention of meeting, or taking things to the next level. Many are not who they say they are. Many couples are just a guy posing as such. There are also many “females” who end up being guys. It is what it is, unfortunately. And it is very easy to say “no thanks” and or simply block someone. It is after all just cyberspace and the anonymity offered by it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
But one thing I suspect is there are a lot of fake profiles on RHP, and also a lot of people that seem fine to chat but that seems to be their only intention and once it gets to meeting they ghost you. I had a quick look through your written profile and thought it looked great and I can’t see there being an issue with your physical qualities listed on there either. I also think everyone’s opinion of what’s attractive in a potential partner varies so much, so don’t take it personally. I’ve heard it’s hard going on RHP for guys because there’s so many so it’s likely most women are talking to several different people. Hopefully you will have more luck in the future - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Perhaps it's because the people you are interacting with find out that you are cheating on your wife? Perhaps you have a face like a drovers dog but because you are married you aren't able to put up a pic so people can judge if there is attraction. So really, your married situation has put you into this situation. So perhaps just settle down and just ask your wife if it's ok to put up your face pic on RHP. She probably things your attractive, she married you.
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Xxalex
7 years ago
Unless you are hoping get a response only from those you have previously been chatting with. Noone else is going to be able to assist you, as you have zero picture access to the general public... Maybe starts with a non identifying image that shows your/your body without a clear head shot... Hope you find the answers you are seeking - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Lying about yourself, to yourself, and then to others There’s your answer
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RHP User
7 years ago
We wouldnt chat to anyone we havent seen a pic of to start withThere has to be some physical attraction for me and the fact you dont have a pic up suggest you are hiding somethingEspecially when your profile says Toowoomba but you say outside of Ipswich. You also have ask me on your profile about a relationship too. We have recieved messages from guys like you before and its too hard to deal with. I betyou can only meet at lunch times every second Friday and wouldnt be free to have dinner and drinks as that would be too public?
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RHP User
7 years ago
I accept what you're saying but it's not accurate in the context of which I'm referring. You see, I discuss all the necessary issues relating to my life in the first few messages. To be rejected at that point due to my situation is not what gets me down. Instead, it is getting to the point of exchanging pics and/or meeting first...then getting ignored, blocked or simply told "no thanks"....no reason offered, even on a message form...or to offer a reason I'm a pooling when previously stated to be ok with, that's what is getting to me. There is a difference. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Sorry about the weird typo last post - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Maybe have a pic on your profile That seems to be your stumbling point You obviously can communicate Maybe people are shallow Honestly just put a pic on your profile and that will save a lot of heartache I am thinking
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OkeyDoke45
7 years ago
I am not going to cast any judgement on your (apparently) married status and why you are stepping outside, that's none of my business. As far as being facially unattractive, you are definitely going to get nowhere by not having any kind of pics on your profile, as others have reported. If you don't want to put a face pic up as your profile pic then at least something, a picture of your foot - anything. Also, the facially unattractive (alright then, I'll call it ugly) bit need not necessarily be a deterrent. A friend of mine from many years ago was an absolute horror to go to pubs with - he was not what I would call ugly but he certainly wasn't handsome, I was better looking than him but I just couldn't compete with him when we went out. He had a natural charm and confidence that I didn't, and guess what women like probably more than anything? Charm and confidence. I would just fade into the background and shake my head. I was an ugly kid, no two ways about it - I was actually told this quite frequently, even by teachers at school ** true **. I understand the frustration you feel at being beat with the ugly stick when you were born. Thankfully I somehow grew less ugly as the years progressed, I don't know why but I haven't been called ugly in years. It is impossible to tell whether this is also the case with you, as again there is nothing to see at all on your profile.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I appreciate the replies I'm receiving, and they are far more in depth than I probably deserve. But the context is not really accurate with some of them. I'm not upset about being told my pictures don't reflect what the other person is looking for, nor am I upset about my status because this is usually an immediate no and the reason is given. What annoys me is the people I chat with who are fine with my status, then don't offer any further correspondence after pic exchange AND those who offer to meet but never show up, then never contact, or even block me. It's a bit annoying. Wanttojoinus and mischa2750 seem to get what I'm saying. But I appreciate everyone's input. Thanks for offering to help. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Supernova
7 years ago
Quoting 'pipsqueak' Lying about yourself, to yourself, and then to others There’s your answer How has the OP been 'lying' exactly?
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RHP User
7 years ago
Exchanging pics early on. Get it out of the way. Don't wait until you've invested an hour (or a day) in chatting and emailing someone. Who has the time? Then, if not, you can move on and you hav'nt wasted too much of your time. LC.
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
It seems you know the answer before you posted. It's always going well until you reveal your dial. There is no attraction. Not sure what you are wanting from us? Do you need us to stroke your ego as well as your cock? Maybe put your face up and we can do an online poll if we would do you......
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RHP User
7 years ago
I agree my partner has a mate who’s face would curdle milk but he is a lovely guy and has charm and a wicked sense of humour. He can meet a girl out with no trouble. We are constantly amazed at the stunners he pulls lol. I see him as a person not looks and if you turn on the charm you should have no trouble. You should put a pic up for your potential partners. I’m sure you have the gift of the gab
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RHP User
7 years ago
😒 - Posted from rhpmobile
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curiousnhorny05
7 years ago
So... I tend to not check out ppl if they don’t have a picture, it doesn’t have to be a face shot. But a discreet photo of you is a plus. As to what is happening I can’t tell you. But here’s the thing sometimes I’m not attracted to someone and it’s just random stuff. Then I’m attracted to someone who’s not perfect but has a quality where it’s a cheeky smile or a way about them. I’ve heard it’s not easy out there for guys. The biggest turn off for me is not being honest and truthful. Some ppl I’ve talked with and you get this sense something doesn’t add up. That ends it for me. And to be honest us girls get so much attention you need to stand out and no it’s not just looks either. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Firenice05 and Mischa2750, you are both getting it. 😊 I do have pics but like to show them to people with profiles that match my interest. There are many profiles with the public pic being cleavage, or a cock, or butt. I guess I could display something like that in a public pic, I didn't think it was so important. Obviously I'm wrong on that front. Sonia simply having private pics to show not good enough? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Like others have said hard to tell without a pic?.. Since I have put a face pic up as my profile pic it has stopped lots of msg.... If you can't have face pic up on public gallery for whatever reason put one in your private gallery and make it available as soon as you start msg. Saves so much time if other person is not attracted to you for whatever reason. I am sick of wasting time chatting to someone to see them cyber run a mile at face disclosure. Just let them see you straight up and move onto the next one op. Life's too short to waste time chatting to fakes or uninterested people.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Need to spell check! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
If you were wanting to chat with me, and guy wanted my pics straight up, then I'd give them. If you didn't want to continue after seeing me because you didn't feel the right connection, then I'd be sweet if you told me so. I just like to know where I stand. But instead I mostly get ignored or blocked. It's that level of constant rude rejection that led my feelings when writing my original post. - Posted from rhpmobile
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HotNightsGC
7 years ago
We’re not exactly sure how to answer as you have no public pictures available. So determining whether you’re attractive physically is impossible. Further, why is any woman or couple obligated to tell you why they’ve rejected you? Everyone has very personal likes and dislikes which they have every right to keep private if they choose. I think maybe you’re overlooking a couple of things here. 1. There are a large number of men compared to women on dating/sex sites. They have the luxury of choosing whomever fits their specific tastes the best. 2. Women so often get the ‘is there any reason why you’ve stopped messaging’ emails. Sometimes men don’t like being rejected and can be very rude or abusive when sitting behind a keyboard. Very often, women just don’t want to or have to deal with the angry responses that come with being rejected. The beauty of sites like these is that you can meet people and not feel obligated to meet again if they aren’t what you’re looking for. No explanation is needed, so you probably shouldn’t be expecting one if you want to get the most out of your online experiences. We hope things start to turn around for you :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Thank you for explaining things from your perspective. It has highlighted a few issues from another angle of which I'm not aware. I know there are a larger number of men, but I'm unaware as to how great that ratio difference is. Your message honestly resonated quite well. Thanks again. - Posted from rhpmobile
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swingalingson
7 years ago
How you been bro. Gre tto see you back in the forums - Posted from rhpmobile
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
Means you look at their responses as an issue at THEIR end....not yours. So stop bingeing your worth on the opinion of someone that:- 1. Has no involvement in your life 2. Is a complete stranger... It’s never going to end well as it’s displayed here... Back on with the big girl pants and onward to the next potential.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
Not bingeing.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Quoting 'aceofclubs'Thanks for the cynicism, Anniewhichway. You're quite skilled at it- Posted from rhpmobile Thanks. It's taken a lot of practice
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RHP User
7 years ago
I have to agree with this post☝️ I also have the same issue and I'm a women you have conversation give over pictures ph numbers and agree to meet and they are a no show or block delete and suddenly have Tripped and died never to be seen or hear from again R.I.P ( which I can only count as a blessing) I'm not a super model and Have never claimed to be but I'm not ugly either and when they continue on with a load of what I can only assume is BS I know what your saying when it gets to you You put yourself out there and know what you want I think it's more the fact they have no idea what they want!! Which seems like a big fat waste of time on your behalf I have to say I have had to do most of the ground work for lazy men who are not even worth my time or effort ... some of these men should be a.shamed of themselves Know your own values and worth and forget the fake idiots - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Todd Freitag et al my son always and forever. Keep the bow pointed across the swells, I'll be there to guide you. DaD - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I've enough to buy anything ... God can we please have one more day. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Baby I know you'll never read this but you above any others watched the old man bustin' ass outta point and flying the dead man solo roll. They've never duplicated that and tonight I'm flying. Tell Todd to watch. Capt. Steven L. Hoagland aka Midnight God bless. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Going ballistic. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Remember when we were in San Diego and the boss asked you why you were there? Hope you still have my helmet ..and yours too! Blue Angel 1 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Wish you had my six. My daughter is a Captain in the USMC. Sic ' em tigress! DaD - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
'member when I sneeked your dog Salley across the Tarmac? You didn't tell me she puked. Let's rock...got your six even in heaven. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
sassysexyfun Your profile looks very appealing, and I did message to chat with you. I appreciate that I'm not what you're after and I think you told me as such. Wish there were more like you on here. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Here you go, baby. The old man and the original Midnight. If you fear, never look down. If your heart flutters, rejoice. If all else fucks up, well .... DaD - Posted from rhpmobile
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PlayNow77
7 years ago
so personally mate, we've all encountered rejection at some point in time, it's part of life, I'm sure you haven't said yes to every woman that's come your way? - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
I'll have whatever midnight's on
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meandyou121
7 years ago
What a dumb ass thing to say
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
What are you gonna say to someone if they reply with “omg you ugly as sin dude!!!”?? I’d predict that given you’re already showing your sensitivity to THINKING that you are, your reply won’t be “oh why thank you, I do try my best :) toodle pip!!” So would you really WANT someone to say that you are?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
About 800rpm with pulse at random 😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
As I’m writing on a iPad The OP is not being truthful in regards to his relationship status -“ask me”is a cop out don’t you think? You are either single or partnered in some shape or form, is it that hard to acknowledge if you are seeking sexual liaisons ? And he does not put up a photo of himself . I do not believe his looks are the reason for his rejection IMHO he needs to look at why he refuses to acknowledge his relationship status and not show a photo True he may have pictures in his private gallery which he exchanges when he is comfortable however on first perusal of his profile I think it is fair to say that many people wil dismiss him based on his non commitment on his status However The OP has since gone onto clarify some of his earlier comments ( no doubt hampered by the fact that he doesn’t have instant posting, much like me, I don’t either ) and he has explained his lack of photos and he also acknowledges that this may be to his detriment but has not done anything about it to date The OP is complaining about lack of interest based on his looks but as Annie pointed out there is every chance the rejection is more to do with his relationship status And I agree I believe in beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Physical beauty is subjective, but sadly there are many who are “ugly” in their thoughts and deeds Also as many have already stated, the OP has a lot of competition on here. Perhaps this is something the OP has not experienced before either here or in RL
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RHP User
7 years ago
Meandyou For your maturily worded comment above As a open forum I thought I was entitled to my opinion which was directed to the OP and not yourself Please feel free to stop continually looking at my profile and blocking me. A little dumb ass don’t you think ?
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RHP User
7 years ago
By not having a profile pic, or even a dick pic or torso shot- you will cut out over 90% of your potential replies from the outset. So yes, you are getting people to the chat stage, then they flake off, and then you're left with the limited remnants of what you started interacting with here. You need a much bigger group at the first stages of interaction, it increases the number of chats...they'll still naturally flake off, but the limited remnants will be a larger group of people, and one of those won't be unreliable. It's all about statistics. The men on here who are infamous for their bedding rates are basically applying an algorithm, as depicted here https://youtu.be/N7FVmeJXwCY - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Yes i thought this was an open forum PipsqueakIts amazing how you reply to the OP and get hammeredYour last comment was very well writtenHave a good nightMischa
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
👍👍 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Ill be honest and say I've stopped chatting once I've seen someone's pic a couple of times. I've never slept with someone I found unattractive. I need that physical attraction even for a one off. So if I'm investing my time to chat to a guy with the end game either sex or a relationship then I've got to like what I see not just what he's written. It does make me feel shallow and horrible sometimes tho. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
7 years ago
You said; "simply wrote "no thanks" after a pic swap....can you please tell me the real reason why you stopped contact with me" They are not attracted to you. No thanks means exactly that - no thanks, I don't find you attractive enough to continue. If they block you that is a message in itself; they want no further contact with you. As already mentioned, women get alot of abusive messages after they reject no matter how nicely they may do it. You also mentioned similar treatment after meeting you. So I presume you had shared pics prior to meeting. In that instance they may have been okay with your looks and interested in meeting, but they weren't attracted to the person when you met. That happpens, more often than people usually admit. Also, there are many pic collectors on the site site, thats all they are after. So they disappear once they have the motherload - AKA cock shots. Don't fall for the trap that every chick or couple are actually real. If you let it get to you, every chance you will turn into one of those guys who give people a nasty verbal spray when they decline to continue contact. So grow a hard & thick shell... or close your account before you get all bitter & twisted.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I know "hurt" Just yesterday I was in ALDI shopping.. I got the counter. laid out a loaf of granary bread(Sliced) a carton of 1ltr milk packets, 2 kilo of tomato, a packet of "Anzac" biscuits, and a bottle of Barbi sauce.. A rather cute young lady behind was watching me lay my shit out. and she whispers... "You are single eh!!" I looked at my items.. and then to her and replied.. "Yep!.. so, you worked that out from what I am buying?"She goes... "No way ol' man.. I KNEW you were single because you are an old and ugly cunt"
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RHP User
7 years ago
Mate I'm so fucking handsome it's ridiculous, and I'm as humble as all fuck too but im in the same boat. Don't sweat it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Don't give it meaning. It only hurts if you make it mean something. If someone stops talking it's because they stopped talking. If they block you, it's because they blocked you. That's the choice that they have made. It doesn't mean anything. I've had virtually no luck at all in meeting people on here an I'm fine with that. That is their choice whether they want to reply, meet or even continue talking. Just don't give it meaning and move on. Next?
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RHP User
7 years ago
I forgot that important rule and gave meaning to something on here and got a hard reminder for my trouble. Don't over think things because most of the time you will be thinking the wrong thing. KJ
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MsSuperFoxy
7 years ago
They stopped talking because they have ghosted you. Do you really care what other people think of you? There's no such thing as ugly, not even a smile. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
7 years ago
There are many differing opinions that I've read on here..and some strange irrelevant comments also... Some are brutal, aggressive and targeted. And some seem to see the situation from my point of view, obviously due to my original post resonating a similar feeling in them. But overall, I appreciate all te input and comments, and honestly feel better and have a broader understanding after reading them all. So thanks to everyone who took the time to construct a reasonable criticism..even you pipsqueak 😊
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Mischeviouslad
7 years ago
Dude..... come in close, and let’s have a brother to brother chat Here goes. Get over yourself You’re whinging about being ignored by anonymous strangers you’ve not met??? Read that above sentence repetitively until the reality of your inner wussyman understands just how bad that sounds Even IF you’d met them.... if they’re suddenly not interested.... they’re not interested! No one owes you any explanation. Ever. And whinging about it in a public forum will not make you look any better. Quite the opposite really. It makes you look very insecure and highlights that you just... don’t ....get it, and act rather desperate with little or no life or opportunity outside of RHP. Regardless of chat, messages, photo sharing, phone conversations, meetings, playing.,.... everyone has the right to say no, or act out their ‘no’, at ANY time whether it suits your agenda, mood, aspirations or hopes and dreams. That’s just Life, all up in ya face. And you have to roll with it. No expectation, no demand, no ‘ FFS’ about it. Yeah, all that sounds pretty harsh. But... there’s just no other way to explain it to help you... GET it. Get it?! Much ( tough) love, brother DG - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I can sympathize with what you're saying, but at least you're talking to people. Me? I have had maybe 3 conversations in the the last 3 months. None of which went anywhere. I've sent messages, been polite and honest and upfront about everything. Is it me? Who knows? Can I pass it off as there being a lot of people on here who talk the talk, but that's all they can do? Sure. Why bother though? Bottom line is I know I'm worth it, and for those that don't.....their loss. - Posted from rhpmobile
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
Your profile reads like a template to me without knowing how you message people.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
7 years ago
Im glad you have your self worth, but... it’s not their loss..... because they weren’t interested. (and you have preferences so you say to others that you’re not interested too) It’s not a “shame” either as I’m told lots of guys often reply with, because..... yup.... they’re not interested. Perhaps it’s not their gain..... but.... you guessed it..... if they ain’t interested kids, loss, gain or shame.... it’s all brittle ego speaking, and just maybe that’s one of the factors why they... .... you guessed it folks....they weren’t interested!! (I think there might be a pattern here) 🤔 IF stating this makes me “stuck up and judgemental”.... ok. Cool. But I’m NOT the one complaining about my poor experience in here, and if someone is having a poor experience In RHP it’s pretty good chance that their experiences in life away from RHP are the same and that’s why they clutch so tightly to expectations that this site will deliver what’s missing in the much bigger world beyond here That’s 2cents plus a few more right there But.... feel free to prove me wrong.... come whinge a little more 😎
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EarthQueen
7 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' No one owes you any explanation. Ever. And whinging about it in a public forum will not make you look any better. Quite the opposite really. It makes you look very insecure and highlights that you just... don’t ....get it, and act rather desperate with little or no life or opportunity outside of RHP. Agree ML that people don't owe you an explanation but if the OP can't post a question on here then where? Thats what the forum is here for to ask these questions. Some of us have been round this joint for a while but there's lots of people taking baby steps on here. I think questions should be encouraged. If people get shut down all the time, nobody will be willing to post anything here. Life would be duller if that was the case. Maybe we have seen these types of questions many times before but to the OP its a new experience and the insights he gets may be useful .....or not....but its all part of it. No??
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pussywillow26
7 years ago
I always lead with with my flaws but hope my charm an sexiness will win out How does the sayn go if u cant Handel me at my worst u wont get me at my best i always under sell myself an then blow ppl away with the shit that makes me good to be ghosted its for a reason go bak review yr game an see where u fall down an one more tip Less is always better Thoes who brag to much i find r full of shit - Posted from rhpmobile
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Supernova
7 years ago
Much better answer! After being called-out on a seemingly rude and IMMATURE comment, its nice to see you were mature enough to write a proper response that actually explains your reason for it and has good points, good stuff!!! Well done pipsqueak you are a model of maturity, so mature!
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Mischeviouslad
7 years ago
Ask questions ..... of course.... However unless you surround yourself with insincere sycophants who only tell you what you “want to hear”....you can never control the answers. Just like all other aspects of life. But sometimes we need that outside opinion, or reality check.... and that’s the benefit of asking ! If it’s all too much to receive alternate opinions in public forums.... don’t ask Find a sycophant club 😂
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Bonnie_and_Clyde
7 years ago
If your not a lier or a cheater and have nothing to hide Put your pics up for people to see, You maybe surprised as most people like to see a pic before even going for a second look at your profile.
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Quoting 'Nice2EatU'Stuck up and judgemental people on here Your above comment. We have a married guy, playing without permission, judge if you want, has no pics visible, asking why he gets rejected after showing pics. He infers that he may be unattractive and wants answers.It's an impossible question for us to answer so we are putting forward our opinions. So you weigh in, call us stuck up and judgemental. The op certainly wasn't happy that l agreed with him about his looks. I noticed l was the only one that he highlighted, being cynical. I only agreed with him that he probably does look like the proverbial hat full of arseholes. His words there....yes?
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RHP User
7 years ago
However when one opens up a forum for discussion then there will always be peoples opinions that either the OP will not agree with or others posters will challenge as has been the case with my previous posts My initial post was that I believed the OP was not being honest with us or with himself Now I’m happy to be wrong but I believe based on the OPs comments and profile is that he is cheating and that is why he is being rejected and not because of the way he looks Now personally I couldn’t give a toss if his cheating. If he is that’s his business and I’m not going to judge him. People cheat. However if I was a potential meet I would like to know his relationship status not because I’m necessarily interested in having a relationship with him but I am adverse to getting involved in any way with one who is playing around. I do not need the hassle in my life nor do I wish to hurt a innocent party. I think for the OP to make a commitment to what his status is is not asking that much and to those on here that are honest about their domestic situation and own it then you have my respect The OP states that it is how he looks as to why he is being shut down. Perhaps it is. With no photo up, it is hard to say but let’s be honest. We are visual creatures and dating sites sadly rely on photos. We are judged initially on how we present and then perhaps on how we communicate or how our profile is written My question to the OP is, if he really does believe he is being shut down because of the way he looks then this experience surely is not new to him as I’m sure he would have encountered cruel rejection in real life ? So if he believes he is unattractive then why would you continually put yourself out there, to be scrutinised and with high chance of being rejected leading to possible self esteem issues ? Yes the OP deserves to be here as much as anyone but if you believe you are being constantly rejected based on how you look and you’re on a dating site that relies heavily on visuals and in your opinion you don’t cut it then why would you keep putting yourself through that ?
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RHP User
7 years ago
It’s not a battle for who is the more mature. Words are subjective and we read into any words or situation what we will , often manipulating to suit ourselves Look for example, at our messages between each other where were we both misunderstood each other
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RHP User
7 years ago
You’re not alone in this mate! - Posted from rhpmobile
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TJack
7 years ago
We like to clear about what we are looking to find and also have multiple clear face and body pics of both of us in our public gallery then we open the private ones to those we wish to share with. It’s frustrating when ppl either don’t or aren’t able to do the same for whatever reason- as often we find a decent pic of the female then nothing of th male partner- then when you have exchanged a few messages and have a bit of interest- you finally see him-& it’s an instant no go! We also have exchanged multiple messages and pics with ppl- all seems to be full steam ahead- then when you try and suggest meet ups- busy or will get back to you- why waste our time in the first place- if ur busy for a few months tell us, if we don’t spark an interest- that’s cool- tell us, if you just want to wank off to our pics- tell us-& we’ll block you, if you just want dirty chats- tell us- we like that too sometimes, but what drives us insane is the absolute bullshit on here- so can empathise with how you feel- but don’t have the answers as to why majority of ppl seem to not be genuine? - Posted from rhpmobile
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Supernova
7 years ago
I don't take a poetic license out of everything that's written, I leave that insecure ;) Mwah xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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hunglong7
7 years ago
Bummer - Posted from rhpmobile
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Service_man
7 years ago
Quoting 'DynamicCouple36' I agree I am sure there are a lot of false profiles- and mentally twisted guys getting their Jollies off pretending to be females. The other issue is old profiles that the the person/ couples have abandoned or haven't deleted. RHP should be innovative enough to reduce the deadwood --set a standard compared to other adult sites, but of course it looks like they have all these extra active members-- 96 pages full. Also required ---better screening so the profiles are of people who are real. They have the screening technology available. You asked “ But I just want to know the real answer. If the truth is that I'm as ugly as a hatful of assholes, please just tell me because these adult dating sites are making me feel a bit down ?” As you have no photos on your profile (certainly not in the public gallery) it is impossible to answer your question. For many, on these sites, this is just a fantasy. They have no intention of meeting, or taking things to the next level. Many are not who they say they are. Many couples are just a guy posing as such. There are also many “females” who end up being guys. It is what it is, unfortunately. And it is very easy to say “no thanks” and or simply block someone. It is after all just cyberspace and the anonymity offered by it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Apparently the guy is drowning in pussy. Maybe he can throw you a fish or 2. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
It’s funny the amount of people that keep stoping by to view. I haven’t changed. - Posted from rhpmobile
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
Sometimes straight answers aren’t really what is sought after 😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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joanne1991
7 years ago
There are a lot of fake people that will never meet but will chat and check out your pics it's just a fact on this site you need to just work out who is serious and who is not, it's hard i know chin up and persevere
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RHP User
7 years ago
I’m pretty sure you’re stuck in this notion that you’re here for your own benefit, that you’re entitled to your own preferences and it should be about attraction. Realise that you’re here for others benefit and you’re one of thousands. That nobody really cares what you’re looking for unless it’s what they’re looking for and attraction isn’t entirely physical It’s been a long time since I was here originally but I learned that despite this being mostly about friends with benefits dating it still needs to be something everyone is morally comfortable with. Others have suggested your marital status might be a problem of trust. There is no way I’d welcome someone into my bedroom unless I trusted them. Secondly you’re nobody until you’re somebody. It’s that old saying it’s easier to find a job when you’ve got a job. You become available when other people see you being test driven in a safe environment. Try the clubs/meet ups, try datefinder for something less amorous and get interacting with the community. Being blocked isn’t a reflection of your personality as much as rhp being a cesspool of creeps all hunting for sex from every available woman/couple. Blocking you just ensures you don’t turn nasty like the last 15 guys they we’re contacted by. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Noone is going to have a 100% conversion rate at every step but if you’re at 0% at a certain stage, that’s the problem. If you’re falling over at that step, that’s your issue right there... Usual issues might be (apologies if causing offence) 1. Poor quality photos 2. Photos too old and not accurate 3. Too overweight 4. Too old or clearly lying about age 5. Too many tatts/piercings 6. Just not physically attractive 7. Backgrounds of images make you appear like a bogan. This platform reduces you to just a photo really, the sum total of your life experiences, achievements and personality being rendered relatively unimportant. Which sucks, but this isn’t real life. - Posted from rhpmobile
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xelanox
7 years ago
OP, don't worry. That looks to be a trend nowadays as more and more people loosing ability to plan longer than 8 minutes forward and to follow their own plans if they accidentally happened :) I personally have given up to meet anybody here ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
If my profile seems like a template, then so be it, that can always change. For the most part, it has. Several times. I've written, re-written and updated it so many times, I can't be bothered counting.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Annie, despite what you may think, I wasn't calling you out as being stuck up or judgemental. If that's the way you interpreted it, then I'm sorry, wasn't the intention. No, I'm talking about the ones that send me flirts, asking me to message them. When I do so, their reply is a solid no. Now, if this were an isolated incident, I wouldn't worry about it. The fact that it has happened several times though, creates an issue for me. The bottom line here is if the OP wants to cheat on his partner, that's his choice. If it backfires on him, then it becomes his fault. If he chooses not to post a picture of himself upfront, then that makes it his loss. I say his loss because when he does reveal himself, whatever he looks like, he gets judged on his looks. Think of it this way. Someone has correspondence via email for a potential job, the possible employer likes the way they come across, professional, articulate, intelligent. It's only when they ask to see a recent picture of them, that they then decide that they're not what they want. Is that the employees fault? Or that of the potential employee?
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Quoting 'Nice2EatU' Annie, despite what you may think, I wasn't calling you out as being stuck up or judgemental. If that's the way you interpreted it, then I'm sorry, wasn't the intention. No, I'm talking about the ones that send me flirts, asking me to message them. When I do so, their reply is a solid no. Now, if this were an isolated incident, I wouldn't worry about it. The fact that it has happened several times though, creates an issue for me. The bottom line here is if the OP wants to cheat on his partner, that's his choice. If it backfires on him, then it becomes his fault. If he chooses not to post a picture of himself upfront, then that makes it his loss. I say his loss because when he does reveal himself, whatever he looks like, he gets judged on his looks. Think of it this way. Someone has correspondence via email for a potential job, the possible employer likes the way they come across, professional, articulate, intelligent. It's only when they ask to see a recent picture of them, that they then decide that they're not what they want. Is that the employees fault? Or that of the potential employee? Thanks fo Thanks for clarifying. I want taking it personal, l was just tackling it as a general forum statement. There are many here that can't accept criticism and label those that offer their opinions as judgemental etc. If people dont like answers they shouldn't ask the question.But all good with your explanation, l get where you are coming from
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RHP User
7 years ago
Only 1 or 2 profiles we have engaged in conversation with have turned out to be genuine females, the amount of males posing as women and couples on this site is astounding, Further to that, a non verified account reported my partner as being under the age of 18 when I refused to share videos Which the profile asked for in the second sentence of messages received Our account is verified and while we are a different dynamic, despite our qualities and advantages we have only had 1 person from this site actually turn out to be female and human. She is of such a high quality of friend though that it makes up some part for the fakes and imposters and trolls So don’t feel like you are being rejected as a solo profile We refer to it as Red Hot Rejection - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
..with detailed prose, specifics all filled out and photos. That's someone who is serious and keen to meet. That's my search criteria as a minimum and mainly results in good honest conversation. About half convert to meet, some to a fuck and few an ongoing arrangement. The rest all still elicit a sense of purpose. Don't waste time on anyone who hasn't made the effort to create and verify a detailed profile...it's likely a beta or omega male in a basement who will take you to the point of sharing photos then disappear. As for the ones who meet and decline. That's cool, I've done it and had it done to me. Just learn along the way and get better at refining the profiles of your likely playmates. Good luck. - Posted from rhpmobile
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xelanox
7 years ago
Just realised posts here are filtered even without any offence in them. Ok. Go on. - Posted from rhpmobile
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JamesandLynda
7 years ago
As others have posted it is impossible to tell what you look like, but if your fit and reasonably un-scarred it shouldn't make much of a difference. From our perspective we use this site to assess my wifes interest n the possibility of having MFM experiences but she isnt quite there yet. She is able to see that men find her desirable and that give her a bit of a rush but it is a big step for her to consider a meeting let alone a full on session. It maybe that you are fueling a few fantasies but the myriad concerns people have beyond that are getting in the way of RL encounters. I know my #1 concern is STI's and I haven't found a solution that out weighs the risk to our children if some stranger brings a horror STI to our lives.
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roomforanextra
7 years ago
We find that much less time is wasted by getting pictures sorted on both sides sooner rather than later. The bonus to doing it this way is that if the other party goes awol at least you know it probably wasn’t to do with looks. - Posted from rhpmobile
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bonefide
7 years ago
Anti and here I am thinking u hadn't notice, cheers Mate
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bonefide
7 years ago
Old dogs can learn new tricks. Read that shopping at ALDI, can be fair dinkum brutal. Had a great weekend but that shopping event made it better.
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sweetnsensual
7 years ago
At the end of the day we are here for pleasure. Part of that pleasure is being attracted to someone. For me it has to be mental and physical. Sometimes pics dont really show who someone is but in the end we wont meet or chat endlessly with someone if they dont have a pic. You might actually find you get more responses if you put a pic up.
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RHP User
7 years ago
People are shit. Full stop. - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
7 years ago
Go away for a few months and look how it’s all changed (in some respects) you can even block flirting now 😳😂 Anyhoo on topic: you know how sometimes you THINK being polite and responding to a message is the civil thing to do right? Well I did this because it’s what I generally do even against my better judgment and YEP I got the same result as usual - poor bloke felt I was talking “down” to him 🤔 and then berated me for generally wishing him well and suggesting a place he may find more compatibility 😏 I then responded the way I should’ve I suppose with “Been away for months and why oh why when I come back do all the SAME rejects find me?!?!” Guess nothings changed here really 😂 ~ hi all 👋🏽
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On_Safari
7 years ago
You have to have a public picture we can comment on - at the end of the day there’s someone for everyone and my brother often says “you don’t need to look at the mantle when you’re stoking the fire” ~ he’s not pretty but even he gets laid and managed to have a decent looking kid. Hope that helps 👍🏽
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
So much intelligence in your thoughtful response
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RHP User
7 years ago
Nope, just immature dicks with no respect for others. - Posted from rhpmobile
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goodtimes1111
7 years ago
I can comment on Ace’s looks as I have met and played with him before. He’s a nice looking guy (in my opinion) Respectful and we had fun. Has he contacted me to play again no. Did I take it personally. No. It’s just how the dice rolls sometimes. These sites are here for everyone’s different needs and desires. To put yourself out there means you are opening yourself up to rejection. But you also open yourself up to some amazing experiences. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
All I can say is — post a picture up I reject a lot of profiles as I’m a guest and can’t see thier pics straight away and before we start talking we are forced to judge based on the initial profile pics we live in a superficial world and attraction is a must . People aren’t what they seem on here it’s the net half the people are fake half have no intentions of meeting up some like the idea more than actually going ahead with it . Some guys message me with the gallery opened and a intro message regarding thier personal lifestyle sitcho. Before anything goes further if I’m not atttacted to them I say no. For them to ignore you half way through conversation possibly something was said or done to change thier mind? Maybe you were too full on ? too keen ? Lacking something? Maybe they are a dude with 15 toes... who knows . This site is a lot harder for guys as the ratio is a million guys to 400 women.. so the pond is quite small. It’s all a numbers game — just keep preserving you will meet a nice one eventually who will meet up and accept your lifestyle choices. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Just typical of all dating sites.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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