RHP

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Need a straight answer......FFS, just let me know!

April 25 2018

This is my first and probably only post that I'll write. But I just want to know the real answer.If the truth is that I'm as ugly as a hatful of assholes, please just tell me because these adult dating sites are making me feel a bit down. Why is it that I get into a chat with someone, or a couple, I tell them very early on in the chat about myself. IF they say no thanks at that point...all sweet. But I've had enough of those who engage in a solid chat with me, they give me their phone number unasked , even organise a place to meet, but then end it at the exchange of pics or meeting in person. I regard myself as being quite healthy, I go to the gym 3-4 days a week. I don't smoke, do drugs, or drink excessively. I am always conscious about being polite and respectful and I take thought when communicating with messages. BUT I am now getting to the stage where my confidence is shot. To those who I'm chatting/ or to who I've exchanged messages with who have clearly established that they don't want to meet....this is not a post designed to criticise your choice not to meet. But to those who have simply stopped messaging, blocked me suddenly, or simply wrote "no thanks" after a pic swap....can you please tell me the real reason why you stopped contact with me. I just need to know because if its something I can improve myself from knowing then I will. Thanks

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I understand your concern about face pics and willing to share if you a find a connection but I think you should also respect someone decision if they don’t want to date or meet you. Don’t give up you will find the right one

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Ok, penny has dropped ... Bit slow, that I know.... I've a public pic, however somewhat cropped. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    If you think you're ugly then its a good chance you are. But I've met ugly charismatic people who in my mind look beutiful. So I'm guessing your personality shines through in your face pic? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • rupamohan

    rupamohan

    7 years ago

    Ok I tried to read your post few times.. Really the only people can help you are those who rejected you. Let us say if it is something to do with you pictures..we can't comment because it is not visible at your profile.. Often there is never one reason. Something about your mannerism that is only visible at the end?Do you smell foul? I guess many people are tolerant to some markup in profiles and chats. If they feel in real you are way different to what was expected that can be a turn off... I think your social friends will be also able to tell you if your self assessment is way out from how others will judge you. May be just bad luck or you are expecting too much for free... Anyway these are all guesses. I feel if you try hard you can find this out yourself. All the best.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Thanks for your reply. I don't think I smell, but I'll be purchasing more deodorant and listerine just in case. ☺️ It's not necessarily being told "no thanks". It's more when I feel we're getting along really well, then we swap pics...except I show mine and get no reply ever again. I've come to realise by many of the comments that those doing this are disingenuous, and there are apparently many profiles like this on here. So I took it to heart initially, but have come to realise that there are many factors at play....and that awareness is due to people like yourself who came to my post to offer this insight. Thanks - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Atleast you get messages noone has even messaged me at all on here. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Atleast you get messages noone has even messaged me at all on here. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I think pics as mentioned can save a lot of time. After all physical attraction is going to play a large part initially. Mate don’t stress. I’ve sent out dozens of messages and literally had two people respond. I just assume I’m not their type. Or maybe they’re not even real/active profiles. That’s what I tell myself otherwise I’d be feeling down too! Haha But yes I understand your frustration. I would prefer to have a message in response saying not interested, or hey I think you’re a flog...Maybe not that harsh but at least some constructive criticism could help with improvement. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I can’t even get anyone to chat with so your doing better then me 😂 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    7 years ago

    are not exactly on the level with the rest of us dirty fuckers, so what makes you any more special than anyone else that gets hit up on a regular basis by picture collectors, but not just the usual type of pic collectors, there's the pic collectors that collect not so much your pic, more so your attention and get off by dominating your you. Yes mate you have been dominated and you were not paying attention. It's got nothing to do with your face other than you buckled under pressure, naive and going with the flow. Mado Mado Tara xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    The ratio is about 70 to 1 It's pretty daunting! Good luck!

  • swingalingson

    swingalingson

    7 years ago

    Straight answer yet lol😆😆

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    If you girls don’t want the sympathy trip from these guys looking for someone to say they aren’t ugly then hit me up ... I’ll just make ya laugh and make you wet.. I don’t want sympathy, I want pussy. Just sayin 🤭 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I see you guys complaining about not getting a response from women or couples possibly. We have also had the other side of the coin that when giving a no thanks to guys and in the most polite way that its met with hostility and quite rude remarks. So we can see why some people just opt to block so as not to receive the hostility. It's unfortunate that most guys think a pic of their dick is enough to get them across the line but for us if its not attached to someone we find a physical attraction to then its a no from us. At the end of the day we are on here to find people we want to enjoy being with not to please the guys. We for one don't entertain guys without face pics, we are more than happy to swap on social media, we never open albums for guys. We are quite happy to swap one for one, so guys if you only have two pics then that's all you get to see of ours. So if your happy to swap face pics with people and you get a No thanks than just be happy with that.We don't take rejections personally it quite understandable that not every one clicks. You guys think you have it hard, couples find it just as hard, as all four people need to attracted to each other. SO don't wast your time, get your face pic out there and just be happy with the response.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Quoting 'aceofclubs' Thanks for your reply. I don't think I smell, but I'll be purchasing more deodorant and listerine just in case. ☺️ It's not necessarily being told "no thanks". It's more when I feel we're getting along really well, then we swap pics...except I show mine and get no reply ever again. I've come to realise by many of the comments that those doing this are disingenuous, and there are apparently many profiles like this on here. So I took it to heart initially, but have come to realise that there are many factors at play....and that awareness is due to people like yourself who came to my post to offer this insight. Thanks - Posted from rhpmobile Too many post to read through so if this has already been said sorry...lolIf I were you mate once you start talking to someone tell them your story and open up your private gallery with your face pics right at the start. Once you've done that and you still blocked/rejected later on down the track it may'be what your saying too them

  • moth77

    moth77

    6 years ago

    Your hot and straight up makes for very attractive and alluring. Love it when you people don't judge and understand we can try to be out best is all you need...

  • moth77

    moth77

    6 years ago

    Hi gorgeous love your ideals. Always try to be out best and respect as in this forum have not met..anyways sensual hi

  • Obi1kenietzsche

    Obi1kenietzsche

    6 years ago

    Fatal And Conclusive End (to) Potential Inter-Course! (🤪=🍑🚫🍆) We have all been there fella, and sorry, the virtual world offers no apologies. Obi1

  • Golfpunk71

    Golfpunk71

    6 years ago

    Mate!!!!!₩! Are you even serious? You are on a internet site trying to hookup, without a pic to be seen, and without the full knowledge of a partner maybe? Not doing yourself any favors straight up! Regardless of that, even if you think you have been perfect in your conversations with others, you can't please everyone, why would you want to..... in today's world where everyone has an opinion from behind a keyboard, and is more than happy to expess it to you, geeze, if that is going to effect your self worth maybe exiting stage left could be a option?? Or just be honest, be respectful, don't fuck people over, and take it for what it is, just another game of chance....cut the poor me shit, chill, and enjoy seeing how it rolls for you, one conversation, or connection, that invokes a spark, far outweighs any number of people, you really don't even know anyway, telling you no thanks!!!!!! Just my opinion ✌ - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    😜

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    Try not to worry to hard about it mate I've actually gone as far as walking 45 min to meet up get to the spot at like 1:45 in the morning freezing mind you only to be ignored !!!!! Keep at it mate 👍 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    6 years ago

    People do it all the time (nothing new). It's because you were lead to believe something was there. Just thank them and move on to those who action what they say. Ms Foxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    That I have no idea. My first day here haha. I havent seen your pic but i understand the frustration. Are you up for a private chat?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Hey, I can't tell you what you're going wrong with because, as everyone else has said, we don't know what you look like. Pm me if you want a brutally honest opinion about your looks. I've been worrying about my looks too, so maybe we can swap pics and opinions if you think that would be beneficial to you

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    I'm the female of the couple, by the way. That wasn't clear in my last comment

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    I have had a multitude of guys block or ghost me after exchanging photos. Yeh it does hurt like fuck. But, I think I'm attractive, I'm no Aphrodite but I'm not looking for an Adonis either. It's going to happen on these sites unfortunately, but you fall down and pick yourself back up. Or least that's what I try to tell myself.

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