M55
New here...body shape...should I even bother?
November 15 2016
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
There is someone for everyone. And a lot of women are turned of the perfect bodied guys because of their own perceptions of themselves as being not up to comparison. So just present yourself in the best light and give it a go. Im not going to suggest that some of those perfect pics may be some that are reliving the glory days......
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RHP User
8 years ago
Like Auntie Annie said there is someone for everyone.Confidence is far more sexy than a 6 pack.
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RHP User
8 years ago
...don't worry about. ( That's pretty much my answer to all concerns I read or hear these days. Proud of myself.. 😊 ) Maybe just keep in mind that that you see plenty of pics, it seems, of men who look like they've stepped out of a porno....because the far more men who dont-look-like-they've-stepped-out-of-a-porno AREN'T posting lots of pics of themselves looking less than ripped. Bear in mind, the ripped guys...and girls...are putting their best foot forward for this place. As you would. See where I'm going here..? ☺ Don't read too much into that.
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sweetgem
8 years ago
Whether you want to give this site a go or give up now :) but you have found your way into the Forums, so there must still be a silver lining for you I suppose? :) I would not give up just like that if I were you, John_Driver, maybe I am the type of person that I won't just give up until I have tried my best/hardest. So, I would suggest you to test this water and see it for yourself before you take the exit door :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Welcome to RHP and the forums! I wouldn't worry about being average. We're of all sorts of different body shapes in here, so you're among friends. No one likes the same physical qualities in a man, this includes body shape and physique. I agree with Annie. Many women are put off by the buf looking men as some of us may feel they are way out of our range (I'm one of them!). Besides, good communication skills and a lovely personality has a much higher rating than muscles and a six pack torso. Just be your charming self and you'll have them eating out of your hand in no time.
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RHP User
8 years ago
There is more to a good connection than just looks or build. And there is someone suited to everyone in this world, and online. How sucessful you are with the ladies in your local area will depend on more than what you look like. You willprobably have more luck with marrieds that are looking for something on the side, like yourself.you will find that a fair amount of single ladies want a bit more than a quick daytime fuck in their lunch hour. A whole evening of attention from a lovely gentleman is a lot more appealing than a stolen couple of hours in the day to get a guys ricks off before he trots back home to the mrs. Just sayin'
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RHP User
8 years ago
Get a guys "ricks" off. Hhmm, that was meant to be rocks. But I did get a Rick off once or twice.
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Just_Auzzie
8 years ago
Lucky Rick Willow, I'm sure he was happy about that too - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
A married guy that is a new user going through the "sign up process" certainly knows his way around the site. To answer your dilemma about competition, worship the wife at home, she's a sure thing unlike here catching the eye of a vixen amongst competition that can outdo you in body form.
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RHP User
8 years ago
But so am I....even if you're not a fatty, you still think you are...which is the same thing to me.... All I do, is keep the wine up to em until I look better :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Ok...Stirry...no I'm definitely not a fatty. I'm slim and trim(in most places). Just get tired of the muscle guys getting ago the attention. Traum 246, I know my way around the site because I know the internet well and have been using forums since they were called bulletin boards, back in the 90s. ☺ Willow....unfortunately it's impossible for me to do whole evenings. That is the time that I do spend with my wife. Not much usually happens which is why I'm on this site. I have the bread and butter, but I need some filling. And WiccaWitch, thank you darling, for the lovely welcome. I will get in touch for a chat once I've sorted out my membership as I'm only at guest level ay the moment. Need to get a credit card sorted. Thank you all again for your replies. I guess I'm also a little concerned about security and privacy, as I do have a lot at stake. But We are only human and we all have urges, so here I am. Trying my luck. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Look it's nice to see pictures of a ripped guy sure. But in the flesh my preference is a dad bod.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm going to go against the grain here and say that I like em ripped or tight and lean, and the chest & abs are really important to me. It is what is is, some won't care, some will, but as has been said above, it's not a major benchmark for all women. For me though, no sorry, just wanted to give the other side
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RHP User
8 years ago
Some of those pics are stolen from Mens Fitness Magazines.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Do the muscle guts get ALL the attention, or is it that that's all you see plastered around the place and assume that that's what's expected?? ;)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Good question! ☺ Maybe it's my insecurity, fuelled by over representation of the "perfect" physique. It's all around us. The whole big is better thing. Same for women, I guess....the other way around. All the personsls ads on certain sites...."Hung, gym fit, HOT...." etc. Trying to get attention away from those guys is difficult, but on that note, the women that are into that sort of thing never really appealed to me anyway. Kinda like glamorous American porn...way too tacky. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Eiliethiya
8 years ago
What I define as "athletic" or "attractive" may not be what another woman considers as athletic or attractive. Looks or "type" are going to appeal differently to everyone. And I've found men and women can have vastly different views on these descriptions also ;) And how do you actually know that the muscled & ripped guys are getting all the attention? Women aren't ALL superficial. You basically just have to "sell/market" yourself the best way you can and hope for the best. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
8 years ago
The prettiest guy gets nowhere if his attitude is toxic. And there are a lot of toxic buff gym types in here..... More, even than the hot (and often fake) women's profiles. Life isn't a level playing field. There is always someone fitter, funnier, richer, more charming, more hung, more interesting and a better shag than you ever will be. So does that mean you curl up in the foetal position and wait for the blackness of death to wash over you? No. You get out and get on with being the best version of you that you can be. 👍 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lifes_great
8 years ago
Yeah I look at the guys here with six packs and then think........here's me with a keg.... Don't be glum chum! You'll never ever know if you never ever go......besides I'm sure you're after someone that likes you for who you are?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Just wondering, what is the reason for those ladies that prefer a "dad bod" over a 6 pack?
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On_Safari
8 years ago
Are muscle bound, waxed wankers who think their looks and bodies compensate for zero personality and over inflated egos. My over inflated ego does just fine....thanks for asking 😂
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On_Safari
8 years ago
In answer: the brain, personality and knowledge that comes from being comfy in one's skin and not so self-absorbed. Attraction isn't just a physical thing and I'm sure you feel exactly the same way when it comes to women. Some are drop dead gorgeous but have zero conversational skills to pique your interest or they too simply rely on being pretty to get by. Great if you can live like that BUT facts are most of us are soft n squishy in places.....and I'd take a Dad bod over a hard bod 9/10. From your picture you appear a bit squishy in the middle too....rocks, glass houses? ~ Indy
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm not the type to curl up in the foetal position, but I get your point. I was just referring to this site. I can see there are no body boundaries here. So, I guess I'll just see what happens. 🙄 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
For me personally it's probably two things. First I don't have a mega toned FHM body myself. I've had babies and don't go to the gym. So maybe it's the comfort factor although I've been with a super ripped guy and he made me feel extremely desired and beautiful. The main reason for me is probably because I enjoy a little softness. I find it sexy for there to be a little bit of flesh and I love the sensual feeling under my fingers and tongue rather than a whole pile of rock hard ridges. But I wouldn't knock back a guy for being super muscly either. It's just a preference. But it's one part of a whole package for me and most of that package is their mind, their behaviour, their eyes and their smile.
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RHP User
8 years ago
so anyone going to the gym is so far - self absorbed and the biggest losers on here, keep going, I'm trying to keep up here, fascinating stuff
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
What's going to the gym got to do with personality? Wether someone is gym fit or muscle bound it has nothing to do with what's in the head. Plenty of people with various types of bodies without much personality. The old stereo type syndrome being rolled out again. As in everyday life you find different types in different places. I go to the gym and haven't found any more turkeys there than anywhere else. Prob has a better ratio there in fact.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Like some other posters have mentioned, the idea that someone that goes to the gym has no brains and 0 personality is a stereotype. I find this attitude a little hypocritical. I don't think any relationship with personality and IQ with body type/gym membership has ever been proven? Maybe I should reword my question: would you ladies still prefer a dad bod over a "6 pack" bod given that the person on the inside remains the same??
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RHP User
8 years ago
yep my experience exactly, body shape or being dedicated to exercise has no bearing on the personality. I also am a little understanding of variant behaviour, as in different people work better together. One person might be wrong for a whole lot of reasons for us, but perfect for someone else, and they learn how to interact better along the way, as do we. If I've had a bad interlude, messaging whatever, with a guy, I don't assume that's the way he is now or with everyone. We all change along the way some people fit together better than others do, but body shape IMO doesn't mean they'll treat us better or worse. Anyway, my 2 cents, must be more like a few dollars by now
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RHP User
8 years ago
are nice, but can also be off putting... I am far more interested in who someone is than how buff they are. Personally, the wording in your profile would turn me off... "I'll never grow up!! Always hard and horny!" "Going to waste", "Horny as fuck" and "addicted to sex" are pretty meh to me... you can get the same message across with different language, perhaps something a little more mature and positive? Your byline alone would make me move on, without even looking at your pics. Everyone is looking for something different, so I guess it depends on who you are trying to attract? Just my 2c... good luck and enjoy the crazy ride that is Pie x
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RHP User
8 years ago
I have always gone for slim body sometimes even thin. Big buff guys are actually a turn off. I have declined based on that alone, coz it's scary, I AM SO TINY! So when they say athletic, I really make sure they're not arnie wannabe. My man's bod is muscular, toned, sexy but not big, he's got hair n I like it coz looks manly as long as there's no facial hair which I don't like at all and I have declined because of that. Seems cruel I know but I don't like kissing a toilet scrub so painful
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thanks for the advice. I s'pose is my newbie mistake. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
*it's - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
It was supposed to be.....Betty. 🤑 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Eiliethiya
8 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' What's going to the gym got to do with personality? So true...I go to the gym every day. I know my looks changed...but I'm pretty sure my personality didn't with the 45kg I lost.As for turkeys at the gym...not a single one to be found at 4:30 in the morning! ;-)
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Eiliethiya
8 years ago
My "quoting" abilitity is cr@p
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On_Safari
8 years ago
It is a stereotype.... but my observations also hold weight. There are quite a few who live up to that stereotype. Much the same as some grossly obese chicks are simply hot chicks trapped in a fat chicks body and do very well in attracting and keeping gorgeous men. Now don't shoot me for the wording because one of my dearest friends is that grossly obese hot chick and I love her to bits. My closest male friend from here is a gym fit hottie with a brain whom I also adore. And not every sexual goddess here is going to gag on your cock at a moments glance in their direction like some here nor does exercising a little discretion about their exploits make them sexually immature or upright. Some people don't need to scream it to the masses some just have the masses aware of their presence and raw sexuality. In answer to your question Dad bod, ripped bod wrapped in the same personality? Pretty wrapping is just that, pretty wrapping; it enhances what's inside yes but it doesn't make what's inside less valuable to the individual unwrapping it, layer by layer, year after year. Our bodies evolve our entire lives, we may not always be the young pretty thing we once were but I'd rather be the hot older person younger people hope they grow up to be. Don't be fooled by some of the noisy, fragile egos here. There is substance to nearly everyone given the chance (soft look). I've been everything from 96kg to 62kg in the last 3yrs. Sexy at every weight and age I'm told, but the prettiest thing about me and most I know is what they gift you as human beings NOT what they look like.
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On_Safari
8 years ago
I swear it wasn't supposed to be Felicia!!!
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Freaky_Fun
8 years ago
I have less of a problem with people's bodies than l do with their infidelity and weak personality. But that's just me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
There's nothing to be concerned with regarding ripped abs & gym bodies. I have a 'dad bod' and I've been fortunate enough to find some great playmates. You will too :)
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RHP User
8 years ago
I say F it, even for the chiseled people, there will always be someone more toned. We all have our crosses to bear and demons to face. If you be comfortable with who you are then I say sod the superficials, you may as well I just watch porn unless you want to make a physical and emotional connection. They won't 've toned for ever, at least we have a head start in being at peace with ourselves. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I see plenty so called "muscular" but they are all thin (lean, athletic). To me, muscle or no muscle, thin is just thin. I dislike boyish thin. I prefer manly solid men. I'd take a solid man with padding any day above a thin guy with muscles. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Quoting 'Eiliethiya' Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' What's going to the gym got to do with personality? So true...I go to the gym every day. I know my looks changed...but I'm pretty sure my personality didn't with the 45kg I lost.As for turkeys at the gym...not a single one to be found at 4:30 in the morning! ;-) That is amazing. Well done.
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
How did the stereo type start?If you had 2 turkeys. One was ripped (muscles/six pac.....not substance)and the other an average dad bod. You would remember the muscled guy. Repeat a few times and the label will stick in your mind even though you will come across more average turkeys in your day to day life but they are just that, average. Not memorable. You will remember the other ones because of the body.And by publicly saying that guys that go to the gym are ...............whatever you call them, is a form of body shaming. Just the same as shaming overweight people here. Never cool.
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RHP User
8 years ago
dont give a fuck attitude works fine , for every meathead gym junky there is a match for him and her, fit doesnt mean a good root either, a fine model body doesnt mean a great root too , most waste there energy pumping a dumb bell and sucking protein shakes
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RHP User
8 years ago
Mate dont give up its about bein here for the ladies champ who gives a damn if you dont score your foots in the water champ what you got to lose - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I find average men much more appealing 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
8 years ago
Chill petal....no ones shaming anything and having a healthy grown up open debate shouldn't always dissolve to political correctness either. You know I'm very liberal minded and do not offend or set out to offend by my viewpoint. It, like yours and anyone else'; is equally valid. Don't read into it what isn't there....👍🏽
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RHP User
8 years ago
With the phone bein used we dont get to read a profile which is how i score - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
you can - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thanks for judging me without knowing anything about my situation. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Quoting 'On_Safari' Chill petal....no ones shaming anything and having a healthy grown up open debate shouldn't always dissolve to political correctness either. You know I'm very liberal minded and do not offend or set out to offend by my viewpoint. It, like yours and anyone else'; is equally valid. Don't read into it what isn't there....👍🏽 Just sayin.Chill sweets. l didnt call you out because you didnt offend me. You can get away with saying most thinfs. You may need a smack at Hellfire though.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'relax44'If you be comfortable with who you are then I say sod the superficials, you may as well I just watch porn unless you want to make a physical and emotional connection. They won't 've toned for ever, at least we have a head start in being at peace with ourselves. - Posted from rhpmobile Is that people think it's fine to throw around names and put downs like this. Most would not regard the same sort of comments about overweight people as being acceptable and there would be huge backlash (rightly so). There really is a huge double standard there.
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Supernova
8 years ago
I mean, personally, I love to look at good looking women with big boobs, smooth skin, and toned bodies who clearly look after themselves. But my preference is for chubby, lazier women. They are like, so much more comfortable...or something Or make me feel more comfortable...or something....I dunno.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Being able to communicate with someone is more important, its what's inside ,outside just decoration, and how kinky ,naughty you are :) have fun - Posted from rhpmobile
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Eiliethiya
8 years ago
doesn't always mean lazy. Quoting 'Hotstepper85' I mean, personally, I love to look at good looking women with big boobs, smooth skin, and toned bodies who clearly look after themselves. But my preference is for chubby, lazier women.
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Freaky_Fun
8 years ago
And yet you judged half the men on here by the way they look. I don't have to know about your situation. I read your profile that was enough. Whiny men, slim, overweight or muscly don't do anything for me but that's just me.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Far more than women so the competition can be fierce.Perhaps it's not so much your body shape that limits you but the fact that you are emotionally unavailable . I think it's true to say that a woman in a similar situation to you would be your best bet. Most single women will be looking for more than what you have to offer OP Q
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yep I certainly can not claim a trim taut and terrific body. Im not overweight though either... well I dont reckon anyway. Thankfully Im at an age now where I dont really care what others think of me...and strangely enough that seems to give me heaps of confidence. Especially around women now. When you let go of your doubts and fears and accept yourself for what you are then thats when it really all comes together. At least it has for me. While I do need physical attraction in a partner, to quote Prince "You dont have to be beautiful.... to turn me on". Women that are confident and flirty really do it for me... it goes a long way. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
How was I being whiny? It was an open and honest question. I didn't expect to be insulted by someone that doesn't even know me. Sure, judge me on my infidelity. I don't need your approval or blessings, but "weak personality"? How would you know? Yes, I have some insecurities, which is why I posted the question in the first place, but I would say that you are the one that has displayed a hole in your personality, which you are obviously trying to fill by putting others down. And "muscled up, chest shaving guys"...that's an observation, not a judgement. I have nothing but admiration for people who train hard to achieve their personal goals. I've done so in the past when my life situation allowed it. But I do personally believe that people who train or workout for pure vanity reasons, are the ones with the weakness. But alas, here we are in a debate about who is better. Pathetic. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
That's a great attitude mate. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
There are so many guys to choose from that unless your hung, got a six pack and waxed ( or at least manicured) you are not going to find any sex on here. Even at parties only the good looking guys get to play while the old fat hairy and small sit and peer at the action. Better off saving your cash and go to the brothel True there is a type for everybody, but the fantasy we all crave is young and hung Even as a couple, an unexceptional male is not going to make up for a hot girlfriend or wife. So. Hit the gym. Get lasered or waxed. Fix your teeth, consider some basic beauty work and you might have a chance. But if you are over 40, you are really wasting your time. Truth hurts, but there are 1000 men to every woman on here. And 100 of them are much hotter than most. Personality only goes So far, and here that is to a few replies in the chat room. But don't expect a meet up. Sorry if this sound harsh, but it is simply the truth - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
good luck mate, she's a bloody hard one, I've found that although this is a swinging site the mere wif of pus at home sends them packing in no time, my partner is genuinely supportive of my desires, we talked about it a few years ago, and it has become a normal thing with us, she is not into it but is happy for me to dabble in a little extramarital fun, try to get that across to someone in text form, with all the fish in this pond, it is just so much easier for a nice gal to move on to the next eager candidate. As Traum246 was keen to point out, there is little to no trust handed out in this setting if you have a wife or partner, and they seem to assume a lot, for example "worship the wife at home, she's a sure thing" did He? She? They? It? Even read your profile, or was it skimmed over until a far from educated assumption was made about you and your personal life. Like I said it's a hard one, there are literally thousands of cocks out there trying to get into a nice moist vagina, don't give up, but don't take it to heart when not a single msg gets noticed or replied to, remember that these girls are being bombarded by guys as keen as, it's like the sperm race we all participated in and won when we were none, only difference is we were the biggest, fastest and best at the time and a bull at the gate approach works well when your a sperm looking to tap the nearest egg. So in summary I'd like to say "effed if I know the answer, work up the courage and have an honest chat to your wife, it is so much easier if your not sneaking around. Rant rant rant, sorry my bad!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Wow. So give up if I'm over 40? Thanks for the words of wisdom. 😁 I'll stick it out a bit longer. Surely there are a lot of less superficial people here than you that are after more than just a six pack and a huge cock. I'm not exactly small myself. And I may not be ripped but I'm not hideous. Thanks for assuming. And no, I won't be going to a brothel. I've never done it in my entire life and don't plan to. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Quoting 'johnandaimeee' There are so many guys to choose from that unless your hung, got a six pack and waxed ( or at least manicured) you are not going to find any sex on here. Even at parties only the good looking guys get to play while the old fat hairy and small sit and peer at the action. Better off saving your cash and go to the brothel True there is a type for everybody, but the fantasy we all crave is young and hung Even as a couple, an unexceptional male is not going to make up for a hot girlfriend or wife. So. Hit the gym. Get lasered or waxed. Fix your teeth, consider some basic beauty work and you might have a chance. But if you are over 40, you are really wasting your time. Truth hurts, but there are 1000 men to every woman on here. And 100 of them are much hotter than most. Personality only goes So far, and here that is to a few replies in the chat room. But don't expect a meet up. Sorry if this sound harsh, but it is simply the truth - Posted from rhpmobile bahahahahaHow fucked up would that be if you actually believed your own post.It's certainly so far from the truth.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'John_Driver' Wow. So give up if I'm over 40? Surely there are a lot of less superficial people here than you that are after more than just a six pack and a huge cock. as a few people have mentioned, I think you'll find that the biggest hindrance for you on here is going to be the fact that you're attached and seem to be playing without your partner's knowledge (that's going by your profile anyway - if your partner is aware then you should make that clear). I'm not judging your situation, it's not my business and I'm not interested in the details same as with anyone else on here who's attached and playing without the knowledge of their partner. I'm just stating a fact. Most single women won't want to get involved in a situation that could potentially turn messy should your partner find out, plus you will be quite restricted in your availability to meet up. You will also likely get a fair bit of judgement so be prepared for that. There are some single women who won't care about your status and some who are in the same situation so it's not hopeless, but at the same time you should be realistic about the fact that it won't be easy for you on here. Even a lot of the single men struggle, it's the nature of the site.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'John_Driver' How was I being whiny? It was an open and honest question. I didn't expect to be insulted by someone that doesn't even know me. Sure, judge me on my infidelity. I don't need your approval or blessings, but "weak personality"? How would you know? Yes, I have some insecurities, which is why I posted the question in the first place, but I would say that you are the one that has displayed a hole in your personality, which you are obviously trying to fill by putting others down. And "muscled up, chest shaving guys"...that's an observation, not a judgement. I have nothing but admiration for people who train hard to achieve their personal goals. I've done so in the past when my life situation allowed it. But I do personally believe that people who train or workout for pure vanity reasons, are the ones with the weakness. But alas, here we are in a debate about who is better. Pathetic. - Posted from rhpmobile Now this is just a sad comment, seriously, you're not doing yourself any favours here. Trying to justify your firm stance on NOT exercising and staying out of shape, by ridiculing people who aren't lazy and look amazing because of that? Nice try, if you get off your ass and actually do something, you won' have to spend the rest of your life taking your unhappiness out on the world. Plenty more like you on here who can't stand to see others happy, join the club or join a gym
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PurePeony
8 years ago
...one has to endure turning a lot of stones before finding a jewel. In your case, I daresay it might be harder because of your marital status. You've already found your jewel and she's safe in the home you both share. Women who will be attracted to what you have to offer would be from a smaller circle to start with. It's a guy's mind and heart that gets me. His swagger, style, confidence, etc. Sure I can't resist looking at eye candy but it doesn't mean I want to dip my hands in the candy jar to grab the candy. ;) I've had ex bf's who are fit with rippling muscles and six-pec's; and then there are the chubbier ones. I like guys who take care of their health and take pride in their appearance, as I do mine. There are generic predispositions though that may prove to be a hindrance. I've lost a lot of weight but have hit a plateau and I suppose I'll never be a bikini model (LOL!) but my confidence and self esteem doesn't allow me to wonder whether men will like my body or not. Maybe it comes with age. Maybe it comes with being loved and cherished by enough people to know that if someone is attracted to you, they won't shun you because of your physical imperfections. All said, there are instances where I've tried, but found out that certain physical attributes just repel me. Then again, it's normal for everyone to have their unique likes and dislikes, acceptances and intolerances. So if anyone dislikes what you have on offer, move on. BTW, men who work hard at the gym seem to be treated with disdain by quite a few here. Why's that? A person isn't mean and nasty just because they love to work out at the gym and keep fit. I don't see any correlation.
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Quoting 'John_Driver' How was I being whiny? It was an open and honest question. I didn't expect to be insulted by someone that doesn't even know me. Sure, judge me on my infidelity. I don't need your approval or blessings, but "weak personality"? How would you know? Yes, I have some insecurities, which is why I posted the question in the first place, but I would say that you are the one that has displayed a hole in your personality, which you are obviously trying to fill by putting others down. And "muscled up, chest shaving guys"...that's an observation, not a judgement. I have nothing but admiration for people who train hard to achieve their personal goals. I've done so in the past when my life situation allowed it. But I do personally believe that people who train or workout for pure vanity reasons, are the ones with the weakness. But alas, here we are in a debate about who is better. Pathetic. - Posted from rhpmobile His last comment must have tripped him over the edge. Judging people who train in the gym for whatever reason whilst he was here for his own reason. Not judging him but obviously that glass house got a few stones through the window.....
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On_Safari
8 years ago
Looking after yourself is, you don't need to go to a gym to do it and not all people who are overweight are unfit. Some people get more exercise in their general day to day activities than they could hope to at a gym so there's no need but they also don't have the body to reflect it. No not everyone who goes to a gym is a muscle bound brain dead dolt (but let's be honest there are some members at your own gyms even you wonder about!) Just as people who don't go aren't lazy or don't take pride in their appearance. I might also add going to the gym or not isn't going to be a factor in being found attractive by others unless it's also a mutual pastime. It's a personal choice, preference or like. Stating flat out being over 40 means you're dating/sex days are over though just bites. Wait until your 40, 50 or even 60 in some cases and see how you view that kind of talk then. There's a whole lotta sexy time and interest goin' on here thanks ~ Dinosaur Sex
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RHP User
8 years ago
I even say it in my profile 😊 Big, buff bodies are WAY overrated! 😖 Hi fives for Dad bods!✋🏻Sexy! Xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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BrebNRye
8 years ago
Hhmmmmm - Posted from rhpmobile
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BrebNRye
8 years ago
Hhmmmmm. Very debating..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Gee, so I guess from the replies that most people on here are not superficial and look deep into the soul of the person that they are going to casually fuck. Hahaha, now you have me laughing!! How many ads say ' no single men'? Those looking for single guys, the range starts low and rarely exceeds 40 Most ads say like guys who look after themselves' of and yes, most request big cocks. You all must live in a fantasy world With so many young fit guys who are single, I doubt many women would be looking for a middle age guy with a wife at home with an 'average' body. I sure don't, and we have been rejected by most on here as a couple because John is also 'too old, not fit enough and too small' Maybe we have just been unlucky... But then again, we are not getting any offers from all those looking for 'dad' types either You call me a troll? I suggest you are a hypocrite - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'johnandaimeee' Gee, so I guess from the replies that most people on here are not superficial and look deep into the soul of the person that they are going to casually fuck. Hahaha, now you have me laughing!! How many ads say ' no single men'? Those looking for single guys, the range starts low and rarely exceeds 40 Most ads say like guys who look after themselves' of and yes, most request big cocks. You all must live in a fantasy world With so many young fit guys who are single, I doubt many women would be looking for a middle age guy with a wife at home with an 'average' body. I sure don't, and we have been rejected by most on here as a couple because John is also 'too old, not fit enough and too small' Maybe we have just been unlucky... But then again, we are not getting any offers from all those looking for 'dad' types either You call me a troll? I suggest you are a hypocrite - Posted from rhpmobile I personally agreed with most of what you said, yes it was direct, but I believe reality. The only part I didn't necessarily agree with was the over 40 comment, for men that is, but only if they're in shape. I do agree an overweight, unfit, whatever, not getting into an argument over terminology with people over that, and married, well let's face it, we can sugar coat it, or answer the question as asked, which is what you did. I don't think they realise it's no different to the real world. If they don't get any action in the real world, they won't get it on here either, that's my take on it. I know myself I get interest in the real world, and on here, but if I wasn't found appealing out in the real world, I wouldn't expect to be getting much action here either. People talk about the numbers thing, sure women have choice, but for me personally, I'd go without, rather than have sex with someone who didn't appeal, regardless of how much choice I had. I believe there is a fork in the road as we all get to middle age, one road is the stay like I am, she'll be right kind of approach, the other road is to improve ourselves, anybody can do that at any age given good health of course. Anyone can make that choice, I did. We can set our own path into the future. It's not just in the hands of the Gods, we have control over it. So over 40 isn't a deal breaker for men, but combined with other less appealing attributes, it can be. Otherwise, I think you took the sugar coating off, but nothing wrong with that. Keep on posting
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RHP User
8 years ago
geez John (and/or Aimee, though I suspect the former not the latter), of course they can say that... It's just a preference, they just like "fit healthy guys" who "look after themselves" because of their outlook on life, and they like big cocks, because it's just a preference like liking intelligent conversation and kind-heartedness. It's not like they're some shallow scumbag that likes fit women with tight bodies and firm tits, that would just be fucking insensitive and frankly, an unacceptable thing to say - how dare they judge real women with curves; they probably like tiny girls because they have tiny dicks; and besides, the absolute most sexiest thing you can have is confidence and those skinny bitches are all so insecure, don't you know... yes, yes, I know you're saying "But confidence is strangely absent from the mention of What They're Looking For section!" but, you missed reading between the lines. So, "looking after yourself" and "taking pride in your appearance" is something confident guys do, ergo, they're looking for confident guys... and they're not confident because they're sexy fellows, they're sexy because they're confident - and that's really what you see in all those GQ male models, it's not the jawline, the muscular V shaped frame that could whisk you up and do unspeakable things for hours, or the generous (but not freakishly so) bulge in their pants... it's the confidence in their personality. So, now you know the little subtleties you missed picking up John, it should go in an FAQ or something. ;) (oops, they let me stay up past my bed time again)
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
No hypocrisy here. Just calling you out for your comment about people over 40 will have no luck. Plenty of 40 and 50's and even 60's are having plenty of luck in here. Just because YOU consider your hubby unwanted in the scene at age 47don't paint every one else with fugles brush
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RHP User
8 years ago
Well everyone, thanks for your comments, positive and negative Yes, it's John. I left the site, with no intention of returning after making such an ass of myself and feeling that indeed, I didn't really belong here. But having thought it through, I'm not here to please everybody, just a few...so here I am, trying again. I'll just try and weather the storm of criticism and carry on with what I signed up for in the first place. Firstly, I would like to apologise to anyone that I may have upset or offended by expressing my opinion. It wasn't my intention. Also, there have been a few assumptions within these comments, that I am overweight, out of shape, under endowed and over the hill. This is far from the truth. I'm 85kg and 6'2" tall. I'm naturally thin, but since hitting my 40s, I've put a little padding on around my body, as most men do. And I do mean....a little. I'm doing my best to keep that in check, by eating well, not drinking and keeping active. So I am not so much "out of shape" as not in the best shape I can be. I've stayed fit and lean because I've worked my arse off indoorss and outdoors for over 20 years. At work and at home, just because that was NOT at a gym, doesn't mean that it's not a valid workout. And don't assume that because I'm thin, that I'm some lazy, over the hill weaklng either. I'm a lot fitter than a lot of guys my age. I may not lift weights, but some of the work I've done has been very much like training. And the training I have done has been incredibly grueling. Albeit, many years ago. My point being...I'm no lazy slob that can't be bothered trying to make myself better. So judging people for not going to a gym and trying to keep in shape is irrelevant. Just like judging people that DO go the gym, which apparently, I did. So as I said, I'm sorry for that. Sorry for the life story, but this was snowballing and I felt that some things needed to be clarified. I hope we can all get along nicely. I'm not here to cause arguments or insult people. Cheers - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'thatjohnguy' Well everyone, thanks for your comments, positive and negative Yes, it's John. I left the site, with no intention of returning after making such an ass of myself and feeling that indeed, I didn't really belong here. But having thought it through, I'm not here to please everybody, just a few...so here I am, trying again. I'll just try and weather the storm of criticism and carry on with what I signed up for in the first place. Firstly, I would like to apologise to anyone that I may have upset or offended by expressing my opinion. It wasn't my intention. Also, there have been a few assumptions within these comments, that I am overweight, out of shape, under endowed and over the hill. This is far from the truth. I'm 85kg and 6'2" tall. I'm naturally thin, but since hitting my 40s, I've put a little padding on around my body, as most men do. And I do mean....a little. I'm doing my best to keep that in check, by eating well, not drinking and keeping active. So I am not so much "out of shape" as not in the best shape I can be. I've stayed fit and lean because I've worked my arse off indoorss and outdoors for over 20 years. At work and at home, just because that was NOT at a gym, doesn't mean that it's not a valid workout. And don't assume that because I'm thin, that I'm some lazy, over the hill weaklng either. I'm a lot fitter than a lot of guys my age. I may not lift weights, but some of the work I've done has been very much like training. And the training I have done has been incredibly grueling. Albeit, many years ago. My point being...I'm no lazy slob that can't be bothered trying to make myself better. So judging people for not going to a gym and trying to keep in shape is irrelevant. Just like judging people that DO go the gym, which apparently, I did. So as I said, I'm sorry for that. Sorry for the life story, but this was snowballing and I felt that some things needed to be clarified. I hope we can all get along nicely. I'm not here to cause arguments or insult people. Cheers - Posted from rhpmobile Firstly, what does your life story have to do with how you look now, because you used to work hard in your words 'albeit many years ago' ?? lol I have zero sympathy for the response you got, you deserved it, and apparently you still aren't taking on board the advice you've been given. I'm going to give you the brutal honest truth, you are not in shape, you can tell yourself you are, how's that going to help you? You seem to be trying to convince yourself while you're trying to convince us. And you should select 'average' in your profile, because if I looked at your profile, saw the picture and slim, I'd see the discrepancy and go for the back arrow, without looking any further. Why am I being so harsh here with my comment? Because your apology didn't sound genuine. It was like 'I'm sorry BUT I used to work hard years ago, hence now in my own mind I'm fit by default, and even though I might not look it, it should give me the right to slander people who aren't lazy. And sorry, claiming you're not lazy into the same little spiel? You keep telling yourself whatever makes you feel better but don't come crying back to the forum with 'why aren't I getting any action' Your comments were defensive and deflecting attention away from your body shape and self image, you were rude and dismissed advice YOU asked for, remember that part? You asked, obviously not expecting honest responses, wanting us to lick your wounds and tell you what you wanted to hear. Refer to the highlighted contradictions above, you're living in the past, and then cast your eyes down to the other highlighted piece. You're now whining about people judging YOU for not going to a gym lol With your head that deep in the sand, good luck, you'll need it
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RHP User
8 years ago
stop trying to calm things down, that takes all the fun out of it John ;)
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RHP User
8 years ago
I just don't like to be the antagonist. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm not done yet What you should have done is just apologise and sound like you meant it and left it at that. An apology followed by a long winded 'more of the above' comment, just cancelled out the apology, for me anyway Are you this adaptable sexually? Just wondered
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RHP User
8 years ago
Give me a break. You are one tough critic. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm very adaptable. 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
That was a 8 shot pump action....
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RHP User
8 years ago
He's gone again. I wasn't having a go at your body shape John, neither was anyone else, just your attitude toward people who exercise, claiming they have a problem, then whining about having a few home truths delivered to you. Whatever body shape you have, that's fine if you're happy, just remember to be happy for others
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RHP User
8 years ago
Did I say I was "in shape"??? I said I was trying to improve myself. Pretty sure I said...."I am not so much "out of shape" as not in the best shape I can be". My point in referring to my hard working past was not to imply that I'm fit by default. I'm not. But I'm not totally out of shape. Sure, as I said in my OP, I don't have a gym body. That I accept. Can you? I apologised for the sweeping comments I made and I meant it. I'm only human. I asked the original question, knowing that there would be criticism, but to have every word picked apart and my soul analyzed....wow. I'm struggling to work out why you are so hell bent on destroying me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'thatjohnguy' I'm struggling to work out why you are so hell bent on destroying me. - Posted from rhpmobile Just ignore. You've apologised and clarified yourself, don't feel the need to keep explaining yourself because they will never be satisfied with your response. Not worth the effort.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thanks...I'll try. - Posted from rhpmobile
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TwoPlus
8 years ago
Hi 👋, My husband and I have been on this site off and on for 2 yrs now. Our advise is write an honest profile...who you are and what your looking for. You are selling something so to speak... so the more info the better... also take a number of pics of yourself front on, side on, smiling and straight faced and a pic of what you enjoy doing... boating, camping etc. A nicely punctuated informative profile interests me straight away 😁 then keep it simple until you get a meet with someone. Good luck and play safe xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
8 years ago
From your couples post: "You all must live in a fantasy world With so many young fit guys who are single, I doubt many women would be looking for a middle age guy with a wife at home with an 'average' body. " I had me one of those for 2.5yrs....good fun for the most part. And now he's gone.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Confidence, respect and honesty trump muscles any day, except for a few, and do you really want to go there ?
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Well...well. Welcome back
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On_Safari
8 years ago
Don't know 'em probs won't ever meet them at a M&G ~ all good 👍🏽
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RHP User
8 years ago
Geez girl just look at the shape of your balcony in your current avatar piccie... PHWOOAR...
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smooth_gal
8 years ago
I'm not able to see your profile but so far in the forum you do seem nice and trust me that would take you a long way. I prefer regular normal guys compared to abs and muscles since some but not of them can't seem to hold a decent conversation here at times. One actual got offended I wasn't interested in him though I was polite about it. I'm not a hottie but I'm still entitled to have a preference too. Once your membership is sorted and if you are close to Perth drop me a message 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I started off feeling the same mate, but you have to trust yourself as a person and be patient the right ladies come along. Be yourself.
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RHP User
8 years ago
While you lick your eyebrows.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I don't think I'll be going to Perth anytime soon, but thank you for your kind words. I removed my profile pic temporarily as I've met someone here and........ I'm strictly a two woman man. But I am very open to conversation, if you'd like to message me...
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CrazyCuteCouple
8 years ago
Hi mate, how are you? What a great question! I used to feel this exact way. Scrawny as I was a few years ago and whilst "genetics" do make up a portion of changing your body type, hard work and copious amounts of effort also are a large portion of change. You don't sound confindent in your own skin and that's something you'll need to work on gaining before anyone else will feel confident with you as well. If you are indeed happy with how you are then stick to your guns and make an effort to yourself to change your attitude. You're probably a super great guy, talented at what it is you do and have an amazing personality. All these things are a much more important part of life then looks and people see that. However if you want change you have to create it mate, no one else can do it for you!👊🏻🤗😊 Have a great Mate! Peace AA - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I s'pose I'll just leave my profile pic. - Posted from rhpmobile
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