M53 F53
No kissing and no single men
August 03 2015
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social_suicide
9 years ago
We play a ton with single guys. As a couple we always make the +1 feel comfortable and relaxed which inevitability leads to a great night. We have only 2 rules.....safe sex, and if Mrs S says no then its no..........she has never had to say "no". BTW those rues are never mentioned, its a natural assumption right?? As for the kissing, its a real turn on seeing my wife kissing the +1......very normal i would have thought. We have zero controlling issues, or intimacy issues and the +1 always senses that which again ensures everyone leaves smiling.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Well kissing is a must if done properly is a sexual act. I think you can tell a lot from a kiss, great kissers generally are gr8 lovers. i have at times Kissed and said no sex and called it a night, so call it my tester. I have had 3 stalkers all single guys, seems if they are married they don't harass with messages or turn up on the doorstep when it suits them. My husband does the organising of our dates, if the couple or single male/female is respectful then all phone numbers are shared. Its just how we protect ourselves.
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RHP User
9 years ago
However, when we first started swinging my husband said no to kissing as it was something that he could not be a part of, also phone calls etc. As I said it was the beginning of when we swung and after he built up the confidence we spoke more about it and he was happy for me to kiss. This was always something I was happy to do for him, as he was part and parcel in this.
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RHP User
9 years ago
However, when we first started swinging my husband said no to kissing as it was something that he could not be a part of, also phone calls etc. As I said it was the beginning of when we swung and after he built up the confidence we spoke more about it and he was happy for me to kiss. This was always something I was happy to do for him, as he was part and parcel in this.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I have been asked to join couples many a time. My first experience is the wife being with me in the shower before throwing me to her husband. I was allowed to kiss there. My next experience the lady and her hubby was trying to a long time getting a single lady in and felt something was wrong with her. She was beautiful. I joined the, kissed her husband, later she cum up to me and said kissing wasn't allowed. Like wtf. I looked at her, I said you have been asking ppl for a while to join you, upset no one does, Im only Bi situational not Bi, known you for a while now and you aren't allowing kissing. I don't quite get it. I said well we had better stop now because Im single and the only time I get to kiss and cuddle is when im with a man, you like me kissing you but im not allowed to kiss your husband. She said well only cause I trust you and like you I will allow you too. I don't get why ppl associate kissing with love, to me I would have throught entering someones body would have been more hurtful if there was a trust issue, and heaven forbid, she was there watching everything.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I feel like you're being a little judgemental and I really don't feel you should be.Their relationship has meant that someone is touchy about kissing in the relationship and neither has any interest in having a single man there as they're in it for the ladies.Obviously this is very frustrating for someone who may be interested but those are their boundaries. Those boundaries may expand (we had these boundaries...now we've barely got picket fences if any boundaries at all) or they may find that no man wants to feel like a handbag and sex without kissing is uncomfortable and less erotic. or they might be very happy.
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social_suicide
9 years ago
You are correct about me being judgmental and i have every right to be judgmental, along with the majority of respondents here. Kissing can be universally associated with intercourse. The no kissing actually affects the other participants in a negative way, sex without kissing for the participants lowers the experience to a base level, some people like that but most dont as evidenced by the reply's here. I in part agree with your point about being in it for the ladies as a lot are but of course the other side to that coin is the male half of the couple has excluded his partner from kissing another male which is obviously an issue for a ton of couples, and if thats an issue then its not to hard to imagine that other issues may arise during an engagement which is everyones nightmare. However like i have said before it should be advertised out of politeness as well as to enhance match making which is what this site in centred on. Much in the same way people advertise that they want non smoking couples, i see no difference. You stated that you had that rule of no kissing, so im interested to know if you had advertised that in your profile as opposed to leaving out kissing in the likes section.
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lookintoplay_qld
9 years ago
you really don't get it not every person wants to kiss every one else you really are so one sided your actually acting stupid wont accept other peoples choices your way or no way
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social_suicide
9 years ago
Ok so far I have been nice. So comprehension isn't your strong point obviously. My point is WHY ISNT THE NO KISSING RULE ADVERTISED......not just leaving it out of the likes section but ADVERTISED as a prefernce much in the same way as people looking for non smoking couples advertise that preference. I don't agree with their choice however that choice should be ADVERTISED. Again your comprehension is a bit low.....I clearly stated all of this but you seemed to have missed or not understood my very basic point. This may be a bit over your head but this is a matchmaking site and seeing that kissing is normal it would be better for matchmaking to advertise this no kissing rule. Also not one couple here has actually explained why they refuse to advertise this rule......plenty here advertise they are only looking for gym fit people, and couples are ok advertising for bi only couples......so why don't couples advertise the no kissing rule.......I obviously understand that's it's their choice but I wanted to know why they made that choice. Please read my post slowly to aid comprehension
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'social_suicide' Ok so far I have been nice. So comprehension isn't your strong point obviously. My point is WHY ISNT THE NO KISSING RULE ADVERTISED......not just leaving it out of the likes section but ADVERTISED as a prefernce much in the same way as people looking for non smoking couples advertise that preference. I don't agree with their choice however that choice should be ADVERTISED. Again your comprehension is a bit low.....I clearly stated all of this but you seemed to have missed or not understood my very basic point. This may be a bit over your head but this is a matchmaking site and seeing that kissing is normal it would be better for matchmaking to advertise this no kissing rule. Also not one couple here has actually explained why they refuse to advertise this rule......plenty here advertise they are only looking for gym fit people, and couples are ok advertising for bi only couples......so why don't couples advertise the no kissing rule.......I obviously understand that's it's their choice but I wanted to know why they made that choice. Please read my post slowly to aid comprehension 100% agree, why not put in clearly in their profile, I can tell you why, because everyone would go for the back arrow, double edged sword? I don't object to boundaries at all, but in my case, I've turned up to meet guys and then, and only then, was it revealed. Wasted hours, days preparing for the meet, to then be told, oh sorry, I don't kiss?? Bullshit is was it is, happy to waste our time, instead of being up front, so well said
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social_suicide
9 years ago
Exactly right. However there are a few people who fail to understand that very basic point. The no kissing couples have every right to make that choice however it should be clearly advertised our of politeness and common courtesy. Not one couple has explained why they refuse to clearly advertise that choice.
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social_suicide
9 years ago
Why do you refuse to advertise the fact that you have the no kissing rule. I understand that it's your choice to not kiss. What is your issue with being honest at the start with what you expect when engaging with others. You can't say it's nobodies business because it is.something that most expect as evidenced by the replies here. You see it's all about time wasting and you are wasting peoples time by not being upfront. We have an issue with both of us being straight which we advertise so as to not waste peoples time, and that results in a lot of couples passing us over. Which is ok because it's all about matchmaking.
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lookintoplay_qld
9 years ago
because its our choice not yours we don't there's no jealousy issues enough its like talking to a brick wall good luck
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'social_suicide' You are correct about me being judgmental and i have every right to be judgmental, along with the majority of respondents here. Kissing can be universally associated with intercourse. The no kissing actually affects the other participants in a negative way, sex without kissing for the participants lowers the experience to a base level, some people like that but most dont as evidenced by the reply's here. I in part agree with your point about being in it for the ladies as a lot are but of course the other side to that coin is the male half of the couple has excluded his partner from kissing another male which is obviously an issue for a ton of couples, and if thats an issue then its not to hard to imagine that other issues may arise during an engagement which is everyones nightmare. However like i have said before it should be advertised out of politeness as well as to enhance match making which is what this site in centred on. Much in the same way people advertise that they want non smoking couples, i see no difference. You stated that you had that rule of no kissing, so im interested to know if you had advertised that in your profile as opposed to leaving out kissing in the likes section. Yes we did have the no kissing in our profile.I think if there is any issue it may be people not setting out their boundaries from the outset. That being said:- no one says you HAVE to hook up with these people, they'll find theirs and you'll find yours.- Your kink is not my kink - You may not consider kissing a big taboo but they do. You shouldn't assume that something you like it assumed. If you didn't like... Anal for example. Do people need to specify that and would you be all judgy about it? - live and let live.
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social_suicide
9 years ago
Lol....."its our choice"..... which is something you are embarrassed about for whatever reason. If you were not embarrassed about your postion you would advertise it right?....or at the very least explain your choice.....do you think it makes you look bad?..... You see it comes back to comprehension again, so I'll try once more( like you said it's like I'm hitting my head against a brick wall).......why did you make that choice. Yes it's your choice to make but what are the reasons for your choice. From my point of view it appears that you are embarrassed, or realise it's very negative. Do you let the women kiss each other?......lol.....I bet they do
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RHP User
9 years ago
How can you make it to a meet (after days of preparing, as Itouch puts it, I'm not talking about clubs) without your deal-breakers coming up in conversation? If by the time a guy was in my bed I still didn't know if he didn't like to kiss or spoon, was homophobic or demanding, or just a plain dick, I'd have no one but myself to blame. Suicide, you express so much displeasure over something so easily fixed, you must be getting something out of your frustration or you'd pre-empt the problem. Just my opinion.
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social_suicide
9 years ago
Lol....I just won a bet....thanks. Anyway this is for couples and you are not a couple, my quetions are for couples. Look at the post I touch myself wrote, it clearly explains what can happen. To lay the blame with the respondents as opposed to the initiators is ridiculous. The initiators have the responsibilty to be honest at the start. I have been pro active on your advice and posted on my profile that we are incompatible with no kissing couples. You have ignored my point which is " why don't they advertise no kissing"......I have said it a million times but you refuse to acknowledge it. Yes yes yes yes it's their choice to not kiss......now why isn't that posted as a preference , people advertise "no smoking couples" or "only gym fit" so seeing kissing is viewed as normal what's the issue with not being upfront with that preference.......it's really simple stuff. I understand that it's their choice to be disingenuous but I simply want to know the reason these couples refuse to tell people at the very beginning
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RHP User
9 years ago
Betting on me, I feel so special! :-D
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social_suicide
9 years ago
Happy to make you feel special..... So again you have avoided the point.....do you work in politics?.......can you please impart your wisdom on why these couples refuse to be upfront on their profile......saying its their choice doesn't cut it......it the reason behind the choice that I'm interested in.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'll post from this profile next time I respond if that's easier, you can bet on that. ;-) x Ms Shout
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'social_suicide' You have ignored my point which is " why don't they advertise no kissing"......I have said it a million times but you refuse to acknowledge it. Yes yes yes yes it's their choice to not kiss......now why isn't that posted as a preference , people advertise "no smoking couples" or "only gym fit" so seeing kissing is viewed as normal what's the issue with not being upfront with that preference.......it's really simple stuff. I understand that it's their choice to be disingenuous but I simply want to know the reason these couples refuse to tell people at the very beginning that you aren't getting the answer to that because the only people who can actually tell you that are the people who don't kiss and don't have it in their profile. Although I see one couple did tell you their reason and you didn't accept it and just kept badgering them about how they should conform to your ideals. So really, I strongly suspect that it's not really answers you're looking for from this little crusade. It's also interesting how you're apparently not looking for answers from single people...but that only seems to apply to single people who don't agree with you. I notice that you didn't have a problem with I_touch_myself2 responding to you.
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RHP User
9 years ago
maybe these couples you're talking about OP are just starting to dip their toes in. The RHP pool is more like an ocean with varying depths. It takes a while and hopefully with good, patient teachers to learn how to swim and feel confident. - Posted from rhpmobile
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social_suicide
9 years ago
you said..."Although I see one couple did tell you their reason and you didn't accept it and just kept badgering them about how they should conform to your ideals"....... you are wrong as they didn't explain the reason behind their choice, I was very very clear in asking for a reason but they avoided it hence my persistence in wanting a clear explanation for their decision, and like I said to them , I bet the women kiss......LMFAO. Also my ideals are everybody's aren't they????....being upfront , honest, and genuine.......is that bar too high for you????The post from I touch myself was a great example of when the no kissing couples are disingenuous, she wasn't providing advice on why couples are embarrassed to advertise the no kissing rule, but giving an example of how it turns out when these couples are less than honest. This is my whole point about matchmaking but that seems to have been beyond you. You are correct in saying that the only people that can give an answer are the no kissing couples, nothing wrong with that, and seeing this is a forum I was hoping that a few might be honest enough to say why. But it appears to be something that's embarrassing for them.You said.... So really, I strongly suspect that it's not really answers you're looking for from this little crusade.""....really?....ummm I have been very clear and concise in how I have posted.........all I want is an explanation/answer to why these couples refuse to advertise the no kissing rule, nothing more nothing less......your suspicions lets say are ridiculously wrong.
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social_suicide
9 years ago
Yes I get that, but that's not the discussion. Its all well and fine to have preferences but why don't they advertise it. This is the whole point of the dicussion. We all agree that's it their choice for better or worse. But for the sake of honest matchmaking why don't they state it clearly in their profile.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I see you have amended your profile, hope it works for you. :-)
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lookintoplay_qld
9 years ago
we have if you read our sexual interests its there plan as day here we go again why don't you pay to use the site like us ahhhhhh your choice I guess bit like we don't kiss our choice enough of this you truly aren't worth the effort
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RHP User
9 years ago
The problem i have is, or there are 2 issues that concern me. Obviously, not advertising the no kissing, that's already been hashed over, but the other very valid point here is the double standard, or 'it's a man's world', so how many of these men (from couples) are very happy to see two women kissing and more, and their partners go along with that. Yet it's not okay for me to kiss the man?? Sorry but women are very jealous creatures. Not this woman though. You can't own another person, and nothing would turn me on more than to see my partner kissing and fucking another woman, or man, two guys getting it on, fuck yeah, but a woman, god yeah, i'd be more than happy to have a guy come home to me really turned on by his experience, or if i was invited, i'd be very happy laying back and watching, solo play, and/or joining in if the other woman wanted that. So i struggle to understand why couples want to be in the swinging scene where jealousy or fear of the partner falling for the other person, comes into play. I do however understand that people and couples evolve through their activities. I have evolved, and continue to, so i guess i don't slam these people for their choices, whatever works for them, but 100% stand by my opinion that they need to be very clear about no kissing, or no anything else, right from the get go, to save wasting our precious time. I've said it before and i'll say it again, the 2 guys i've hooked up with who failed to tell me in advance about no kissing, were both stopped right there and told to go see a hooker. Sex to me is very intimate, i'm a very passionate woman, no kissing equals zero passion, just saying, if you don't allow it then put it in your profile, and i don't give a crap what anyone thinks of my opinion, it's a forum, the subject has been raised, my opinion
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RHP User
9 years ago
socialsuicide, I love the way your profile reads, it's to the point but not offensive, just saying what you're looking for, perfect, the way all profiles should be. And the no kissing, again, you're being clear on your requirements, perfect. I'd do the same with mine but I predominantly hook up with guys. If I were hooking up with couples more, I'd definitely have it in there. More importantly, I'm liking your friends, breath catching in chest lol, I must make a trip to Queensland sometime soon, very nice, smokin
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social_suicide
9 years ago
In some ways....but I'd rather be up front than Fuck people around. Thanks for the nice sentiment.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Everyone is entitled to their own set of rules / boundaries or lack of them. Their rationale for why they have them is something that they have agreed on for whatever reason. It doesn't matter if someone else feels that boundary is sufficiently justified or not, it is still the reality of the situation and respect for others boundaries is what is required. We have many boundaries, some are clearly outlined in our profile or during our initial discussions with others. Others are simply between us as check in points and cues. We are not seeking single guys or girls. That's pretty clear in our profile. In the heat of a private party mosh pit we tend to be more situational. i.e. who's next to us. lol. We are also same room only. This is a shared experience for us. This also extends to cue we have when leaving the room to go to the loo etc to communicate that everything is OK and to continue. We are both listed as straight but TJ has had a number of encounters with other ladies, but again that has been situational and we don't want our profile to reflect expectations which may not be realised. Kissing is a big thing for us and an integral part of foreplay and arousal. If someone is clearly a "no kissing" situation, we pass. Similarly, if someone is a full swap couple but doesn't practice safe sex for intercourse as a minimum, we pass.
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social_suicide
9 years ago
Lol.......you know what's not worth the effort?......couples who waste peoples time by not advertising the no kissing rule. Its obviously embarrassing for you, why don't you make a stand for all of the other no kissing couples and " come out of the closet"....be " loud and proud"......tell people your not ashamed of your choice by stating it clearly in your profile. Or seeing you are willing to play on first meet, maybe you are hoping that the other couple won't pull the plug when you finally reveal your secret.
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lookintoplay_qld
9 years ago
who is hiding it your are so up your self we say no kissing in our sexual interested if your so stupid and cant read it your problem who in hell do you think you are we are happy with our profile and actually meet people you don't even have a validation good luck
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social_suicide
9 years ago
Once again we go back to a lack of comprehension. The dicussion is why don't you advertise it in your profile as opposed to not ticking a box. Which is not as you claim "we say no kissing" ahhh no you don't, you haven't actually said anything. Yes you are hiding it by not stating it......there is no option to tick a box for no kissing. I went over this already, you need to read slowly perhaps. Why are you embarrassed about your choice?.....also do the girls kiss?.....LMFAO......I bet they do. And you still after all the posting failed say to why you don't state it in your profile, yes yes yes it's your choice but why have you made the choice to not inform other potential playmates at the very beginning.
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social_suicide
9 years ago
With relation to being validated.....we don't want it or need it. We play on average 2 to 3 times a month, month in month out, year in year out. We love it. So we have had dozens of single males tell us about the wierd couples who don't kiss cause hubby doesn't like it.....never ever the women. So we thought to start this thread based on the amount of people who are relieved that we are normal and love kissing. Also we are paid up on another site....lol
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lookintoplay_qld
9 years ago
we don't have to most people can read why don't you pay for this site as for only single males as friends no couples you might want to look at yourselves we have never had a issue no kissing in 3 years we are up front when we talk with couples and singles I really think you use fancy words to put people down call them time wasters I think you are the time wasters no validations that means to us don't go near you we look think time waster mm guess im wrong its us we don't kiss others sorry
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RHP User
9 years ago
"do you work in politics?.......can you please impart your wisdom on why these couples refuse to be upfront on their profile......saying its their choice doesn't cut it......it the reason behind the choice that I'm interested in." Yes, saying it's their choice does cut it. You are asking me to explain the motivations behind why others do what they do and I'm not about to. I prefer to speak only for myself, whereas you have decided the reason is obviously embarrassment. Because you didn't get the answers you were after, you have invented your own that you're pushing on to others. You can keep those politics, I'll stick with nursing. 😁
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madotara69
9 years ago
Don't see anywhere on your profile where it lets us know your a wanker, luckily you shine bright throughout this thread. Bahahahahahaha !
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madotara69
9 years ago
You're a wanker Sorry about that.
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RHP User
9 years ago
More sheep baa baa madotara, i picked you guys for having a mind of your own and being cool people, seems i was wrong on both counts. Been invited into the 'sandpit' have you to play with the big kids? - Posted from rhpmobile
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lookintoplay_qld
9 years ago
why are people sheep because we don't agree with you bit like people who started this post saying every husband doesn't want there wife to kiss other people is total crap my wife doesn't want to kiss other people I don't you just cant get it in your heads its our own thing between us no one is jealous no one has issues why cant you accept it like we accept people want to kiss if you talk you ask what are your boundaries pretty simple
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social_suicide
9 years ago
You just can't get in your head that all I want is an explanation for your choice to not advertise it....that's it.....you can do what you want too for all I care.....to really simplify it people make a choice to not wear condoms and the reason is it feels better......people make a choice to not advertise no kissing for what reason?
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madotara69
9 years ago
Mind of my own, which one of me? The bloke's been harping on and on and on and on with the same thing just the plot thickens progressively and as it so happens my first post was on the money. First up the kissing thing is in sexual preferences, if it's not selected, why not ask ? Dumped a couple because they said they don't kiss as a rule or maybe they just needed to get the fuck out of the place, who knows, but They have been put on show as time wasters, embarrassed about their choices, in the closet, weird, ashamed by a wanker that is willing to belittle other people just to win a trumped up idea and won't admit it was a fuck up by not noticing kissing was not ticked in the sexual preferences and actually wasted the time of a couple that did nothing wrong. If I see you in the sandpit, I'll be sure to smile and be cool.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Let's quit while we're ahead and get out of here. The weather is great, can I buy you an icecream? Mado, you coming too? You can have one with sprinkles. 😁
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madotara69
9 years ago
xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' Mind of my own, which one of me? The bloke's been harping on and on and on and on with the same thing just the plot thickens progressively and as it so happens my first post was on the money. First up the kissing thing is in sexual preferences, if it's not selected, why not ask ? Dumped a couple because they said they don't kiss as a rule or maybe they just needed to get the fuck out of the place, who knows, but They have been put on show as time wasters, embarrassed about their choices, in the closet, weird, ashamed by a wanker that is willing to belittle other people just to win a trumped up idea and won't admit it was a fuck up by not noticing kissing was not ticked in the sexual preferences and actually wasted the time of a couple that did nothing wrong. If I see you in the sandpit, I'll be sure to smile and be cool. I do understand that a point has been made and it now should be left at that, because people can set their profiles up however they like, it's not my business or anyone else's really. Just on a personal level, I've found this and other things a complete waste of my time. Example that pops into my head, well first the no kissing, lots of time wasted communicating, eventually meeting, why oh why would they do that to anyone, to get to the point of meeting, and if it's not being clearly stated in the written part of the profile, not ticking a box is useless, different if there was a box to say you did kiss, then we'd take notice. But I've also had people, again go through all the communicating, developing trust, about to leave the house, literally getting into the car showered, shaved, hydrated, moisturised, horny, then 'you wear the hosiery and heels, I'll get the wine'. Okay, nothing wrong with that, if you wear that kind of stuff, I don't or not for a random new hook up, might be different with ongoing. So I said I didn't have the money to buy that kind of stuff and wouldn't be wearing it, but it was a deal breaker for him. He was into lingerie, fine, but again, reveal these things straight up, be up front, if these people are being badgered, it's their choice to come back into the forum and comment, no-one forced them to do that, but it doesn't change how some of us feel about it. I do however want to let this go because I won't be meeting them. I'll bow out now. The reason I confronted you was because you seem okay with it. Would you be okay with not knowing this until point of meeting someone, going through all the time in the build up to that meet? And do you honestly believe it's being clear just by not ticking a box? Anyway, that's their choice, I just feel sorry for the people who encounter them, my opinion, I'll leave it at that
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lookintoplay_qld
9 years ago
yes sounds good no one will get there point across ice cream sounds good
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madotara69
9 years ago
We are a little spontaneous and going with the flow reckless and shocking at making plans, if it's important we will be there and humbled in doing so. We wrote into our profile mostly bullshit, but we did say we have no idea what we are doing, so how can we expect anyone else to. We enjoy peoples company and if they feel comfortable to be open with us, it can be about anything and that means everything because we only have something to share of ourselves and the big build up is pillow talk in our bed or the washing machine and sealed with a loving kiss, so understand people keep that as for what it means to them. Personally, if another couple have a no kissing thing because it's an intimacy, (keeping in mind) in love, it'd be more of a turn on, off their vibe kissing each other along with the passion we all share, Why should that need to be advertised or explained when it should simply be respected and not something of an entitlement. Keep the one you love centre of your life, always. IMHO
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RHP User
9 years ago
Sorry so let me get this straight, you're getting along nicely with another couple, things are getting heated, hot and steamy, lean in for the first beautiful kiss, but they pull away or push you away, but you say 'that's okay' pleeeease. Then what, the 2 couples lay there kissing their own partners, what's the &@%@$ point in getting together with another couple. You'll never convince me and i would be flat out furious if anyone did that to me. Whatever floats your boat though, if you don't need the same level of intimacy, don't want truly great sex, that's entirely up to you, because you can't have that without kissing have fun though, in whatever form you choose to have it - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I have done that myself, i'd never do it again. My first encounter with a couple was random, outdoors, i was having phone sex with a guy, was already well on the way, having fun you might say with my bullet vibe, they came in to play, it was awesome, unexpected, and stuff was going down, people watching too, so hot, but when she moved up towards my face, i pushed her away. It was my first time and i wasn't prepared or ready for it in all it's forms, but that would never happen again. She was fine with that, even asked me back to their hotel room to play more with her guy haha if you're ready this guys you rocked that day, it was a very hot encounter. I have grown evolved since then xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Typo, reading i meant to say - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
9 years ago
ha ha Better to have it and not need it, than need it and not have it.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm sure we all have a story of when a meet didn't live up to our expectations, purely because it was not discussed prior to disrobing. A classic example from me was a meet with a couple. Drinks went well and they invited me back to theirs. I went to town on Mrs, then moved my attention to Mr. He backed away like I was trying to murder him...so I just kinda sat there not knowing what to do. They got dressed. I left. When they messaged me a few weeks later, I politely declined. My bad for not asking EXACTLY what they wanted?? No, I think it's my bad for presuming what they did want. Everyone is different, and if you are likely to be offended by things not going exactly how you anticipate, it's up to you to ask the questions. Now I do prior to meeting, and as previously stated if they have rules I don't meet.
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lookintoplay_qld
9 years ago
the best comment I've read very fair no putting people down just great to see people who like to kiss can see the other sides view very easy to to ask great post
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social_suicide
9 years ago
Are you for real?....ummmm I was forceful with my point of open disclosure no insults at all.....then you replied with.... "your actually stupid"..... lol....I hope matador is consistent and calls you out for being a wanker. Come on the whole disusion is really simple...... and you started with the insults....if I have to put it you 100 different ways to get an answer I will.....but I'm not prepared to go 101......lol......you haven't actually answered my question about the girls kissing......lf kissing is all about love and intimacy then I'm guessing that you would be consistent and not allow the girls to kiss. Otherwise it's not a good look...... open disclosure..... look it up.....this is a matchmaking site and to put the onus on the recipient as opposed to the initiator for what's expected is ridiculous. And the initiator should be mature enough to display open disclosure to potential playmates......nothing to be ashamed if right?
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DynamicCouple36
9 years ago
Get over it and just accept the fact that some couples enjoy kissing others, when they swing, whilst others don't. Some prefer safe sex when others don't ... some enjoy smoking when others don't ... some find tattoos a turn on whilst others don't ..... the list is long. We all have our own likes, dislikes, preferences and boundaries. As long as we don't infringe on the enjoyment, and boundaries, of others, then all is good. No always means NO. And if someone does not want to do something in a swinging/play session, then we all have to accept that.
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lookintoplay_qld
9 years ago
see you cant just leave people alone your so full of yourself mmmmmmm cant handle some one with the same opinion as you can be polite get there point across understand ours and not call us names good luck
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RHP User
9 years ago
Disclosure is the point, you also are avoiding that point. Whatever your preferences are, or that of any couple, particularly biggies like kissing and one partner not playing, should be disclosed straight up. If i was hooking up with a couple, i'd expect to be playing with the couple, not with one or the other, i'd also expect to be kissing, and they should be very clear if that's not going to happen. Every couple here supporting the 'no disclosure' to me must be also time wasters and choosing not to disclose such things, that's my take on it. So if we're going 'on and on' about it, try coming up with a valid reason why it's okay to deceive and waste our valuable time! I haven't heard a valid reason yet to support this, but carry on, it's fun reading - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
The correct place for going on and on about something is a 'forum' surely. We are giving our opinion on the topic, as are you, though differing opinions, this is the venue for that - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Matador? Well I guess he likes to grab the bull by the horns. 😂
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