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Paying for sex - who would do it while in a relationship?
April 18 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'elpuocyenroh' Do men normally give prostitutes their mobile number........? - Posted from rhpmobile Excellent point! So he has a sex worker on speed dial. I would say he is a regular.
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ToThickToThroat
10 years ago
Life is not a perfect scenario, you follow your heart and it gets broken, we have all known this from the age of puberty. At some stage in life, some may find a perfect partner, a soul mate, but the reality of making that union complete is often a complicated path to ruin. But we don’t stop trying lest we become bitter and cynical and make our potential lifelong partner crawl over broken glass and walk through the flames to be worthy of us, only to find them crippled and burnt and ourselves tortured for the experience .. Superficial judgement based on other people’s ideals and/or standards is not going to make any of your decisions easier, and they are your decisions, no one else’s. Only you know how or if you can trust him again, that is something you will have to feel with him, from within yourself.. Sexual exploration whether it be in the mind or body will continue for both of you, for as long as you are able to be active, you will both still have fantasies and whether you can tell each other is a personal thing that can be steeped in forbidden secrecy.. Do what you must, do what you can, be true to yourself, love who you are and who you adore or change who you are, trying to change someone else is riddled with deep black holes to fall headlong into. . You will find the path that you want most to follow with this, that part is inevitable. The part that is not certain is if you will understand that and accept it, if you will be at peace with your decision or whether you will torment yourself to the end of your days. I hope you find peace, I hope you find love for yourself (and others) after this clears. This may be the event that catalyses your relationship or it may be the event that opens the world for you to truly meet the guy that was meant for you, or there could be a thousand other possibilities.. Pura Vida
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RHP User
10 years ago
Why are people so hung up on the sex for, accept people for who they are. You should be free to do as you please and never owned by someone. Complete clarity and honesty are the more important issues here. It's all about trust. mrs littlekitten25 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting '40DeeD'Yes, exactly. I am allowed to do what I want because I don't hide it from him, unlike the fashion in which he handled his little 'rub and tug'. He also does show me the contents of his phone voluntarily - I didn't sneakily go through his messages - I don't know the pin code to his iPhone! if he shows you his phone contents voluntarily (since you don't know the access code), is it really fair to say he was "hiding" his rub'n'tug? if so, it seems like up until the point of disclosure, you could say anything is being "hidden"
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Quoting 'elpuocyenroh' Do men normally give prostitutes their mobile number........? - Posted from rhpmobile Excellent point! So he has a sex worker on speed dial. I would say he is a regular. The answer to the question - is YES - most sex workers do not take calls from "blocked numbers" so in that sense men have to giver their number to the sex worker. So "he has a sex worker on speed dial" - if cheating is cheating and is considered to be wrong then does it matter with whom has he cheated with? Regardless whether she is a professional or not - he cheated - why would be there a difference from that aspect? BTW if I found out that the guy I am seeing has a "sex worker on speed dial" I would ask him the obvious question "why?" "what is he getting from a sex worker that he is not getting in the relationship?" I am not implying that if you get cheated on by your partner and a sex worker then it is your fault - hell no...I am just putting a point there - if sex is available and is fulfilling in the relationship why would anyone go and pay for it? There must be a reason why he decided to cheat with a sex worker and not with anyone else..could be the "thrill" or the "excitment of doing something that is considered to be taboo" but there will be a reason..
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'littlekitten25' Why are people so hung up on the sex for, accept people for who they are. You should be free to do as you please and never owned by someone. I would do whatever I wanted all the time too if it wasn't for those little things like my pesky morals and that annoying conscience of mine. Damnit.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Meander Nothing wrong with having morals and a conscience, we just get into trouble when we inflict personal morals on others that have a different code. Not everyone subscribes to the same religion and society itself sets its own expectations. A modern society should be mature enough to cope with, and open to, differing views afteral no significant advance in human kind has ever been born from following a rut. Eg I don't believe passion fruit should be an icecream flavour but I have no problem with those that do. Liitlekitten Whilst Sex and intimacy is the biggest source of relationship stress for both sides,(and surely its logical the issue is addressed in such a context), some people hold the view that a relationship is defined as you offering ownership of yourself to another. I would argue a relationship is an entity in its own right to which parties agree to commit to and resource whilst remaining the individual that the other fell in love with. Not a common view unfortunately. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's always convenient to have one's own unique moral code,if you could genuinely care less what others think,I applaud you..and if you are prepared to practice deception because you genuinely don't care how your actions might affect others I applaud you again for your honesty about your dishonesty xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Brunnicator' I would argue a relationship is an entity in its own right to which parties agree to commit to and resource whilst remaining the individual that the other fell in love with. Not a common view unfortunately. - Posted from rhpmobile whilst remaining the individual you fell in love with? As in you can never change and grow? Surely you can't mean that the way it sounds because that would be very boring and probably the reason why alot of women get bored of hubby to be honest and start to loose interest in sex. Things have to change in order for things to remain exciting. Surely? Of course that is my opinion based on very little!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think a person would visit a sex worker because 1. Because they can 2. It gives them a bit of variety and feeling of doing something shifty/ exciting /adventurous / taboo / naughty / etc 3. Because they have specific sexual needs that their partner is not providing. 4. To satisfy a particular kink. 5. Because it is an arm lengths transaction and means there are no messy emotions involved. 6. Because they want to bonk more than one person
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I think a person would visit a sex worker because 1. Because they can 2. It gives them a bit of variety and feeling of doing something shifty/ exciting /adventurous / taboo / naughty / etc 3. Because they have specific sexual needs that their partner is not providing. 4. To satisfy a particular kink. 5. Because it is an arm lengths transaction and means there are no messy emotions involved. 6. Because they want to bonk more than one person but in light of "being cheated on" I dont see a difference - whether he cheats with a professional or a non professional -he cheated..and the same applies with she cheating :) cheating hurts because it is a promise that is thrown out the window - why would it matter who he cheated with?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes I agree with that.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I think a person would visit a sex worker because 1. Because they can 2. It gives them a bit of variety and feeling of doing something shifty/ exciting /adventurous / taboo / naughty / etc 3. Because they have specific sexual needs that their partner is not providing. 4. To satisfy a particular kink. 5. Because it is an arm lengths transaction and means there are no messy emotions involved. 6. Because they want to bonk more than one person May I add one? From more than one prostitute I've heard that some of their clients just want to feel validated and feel like they matter as a human, because they're not getting that from their wives.They may need someone listening to what they are saying, instead of always feeling interrupted or ignored, more than getting physical satisfaction.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'Meeka100' I think a person would visit a sex worker because 1. Because they can 2. It gives them a bit of variety and feeling of doing something shifty/ exciting /adventurous / taboo / naughty / etc 3. Because they have specific sexual needs that their partner is not providing. 4. To satisfy a particular kink. 5. Because it is an arm lengths transaction and means there are no messy emotions involved. 6. Because they want to bonk more than one person May I add one? From more than one prostitute I've heard that some of their clients just want to feel validated and feel like they matter as a human, because they're not getting that from their wives.They may need someone listening to what they are saying, instead of always feeling interrupted or ignored, more than getting physical satisfaction. I know a sex worker - (not going to disclose their gender) and the one thing I learnt from "them" is that the MAJORITY of their "work" is actually COMMUNICATION - they ACTIVELY listen to their client - don't interrupt them, pick up on subtle indications - PAY ATTENTION to them..on a human level..which is missing from many many relationships. In the case of this sex worker they admitted that actual sex might not even happen during many of their bookings - that is not what their client want their time for. They want being listened to, sometimes cuddled - and yes sometimes sex - -but the majority want- need that HUMAN INTERACTION that they dont get elsewhere - for one reason or the other.. So going back to the original question - if I found out that the man I am with has seen a sex worker I would not get furious - I would rather ask for clarification on the reason - what was the need that drove him there. Again I am not saying it is "your fault if your men goes to see a sex worker" no...it takes 2 to tango...but I don't see cheating differently just because he cheated with a sex worker..in fact if it was a professional then she would have got tested and insisted on using protection - much safer than drunken-one-night-hook-ups where the story goes "oh..I have no protection or "the 7-11 is closed...or "oh..just hold on babe..I KNOW there has gotta be a condom in this glovebox -somewhere..I will find it very very soon...I just turn the light on and get the flaslight...I remember putting it here...after the Xmas party"...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Quoting 'Brunnicator' I would argue a relationship is an entity in its own right to which parties agree to commit to and resource whilst remaining the individual that the other fell in love with. Not a common view unfortunately. - Posted from rhpmobile whilst remaining the individual you fell in love with? As in you can never change and grow? Surely you can't mean that the way it sounds because that would be very boring and probably the reason why alot of women get bored of hubby to be honest and start to loose interest in sex. Things have to change in order for things to remain exciting. Surely? Of course that is my opinion based on very little! No I didn't mean that at all, what I meant was retaining your individuality within a relationship. Individuality means that you grow as you have always done, within your surroundings and influences (including your relationship). You fall in love with a personality, character and a living breathing changing individual. Too often people are forced into a generic partnership that grows tired and boring - women have the hardest job fighting this as 'family' dictates they put others way ahead of themselves. If people retain what makes them tick, keep the exciting unique personality their partners desire, then a relationship will remain the same.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'Meeka100' I think a person would visit a sex worker because 1. Because they can 2. It gives them a bit of variety and feeling of doing something shifty/ exciting /adventurous / taboo / naughty / etc 3. Because they have specific sexual needs that their partner is not providing. 4. To satisfy a particular kink. 5. Because it is an arm lengths transaction and means there are no messy emotions involved. 6. Because they want to bonk more than one person May I add one? From more than one prostitute I've heard that some of their clients just want to feel validated and feel like they matter as a human, because they're not getting that from their wives.They may need someone listening to what they are saying, instead of always feeling interrupted or ignored, more than getting physical satisfaction. Variety - in addition to #2 Sometimes simply having sex with someone different. People kiss very differently, everyone is unique in that respect. Girls are all constructed very differently particularly downstairs, finding the right and wrong way is an experience in its own right. Of course that isn't really only for sex workers but a general comment but I'd hate anyone to think I was advocating people being unfaithful...heaven forbid...I think I'm need to be punished again :)
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kamalover
10 years ago
You're right Meeka100. What's the big deal? We all are here for some extra fun and love. If 40DeeD love him, she should appreciate his 5 years long service to her and still being with his wife. Feel sorry for you 40DeeD for threatening him to expose your affair with him to his wife. We can enjoy this broadminded life still in it's full , if we are mature and sincere enough to understand the life style we are looking forward through Redhotpie like places. Good Luck 40DeeD. Quoting 'Meeka100' What's the big deal? Who cares if he went to a sex worker? He doesn't owe you an explanation and I don't think you have any right to his "fidelity". After 5 years if he hasn't left his wife he never will. You are being played most likely and now that you have threatened him with the "I am going to tell your wife" your days together are probably numbered. Sorry, but based on what you have said and my cynical view point this is what I think. Good luck.
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MysteryMr
10 years ago
Quoting OP "and expose our affair to his wife". Once the threats fly, its over. I wouldn't want to continue seeing anyone who relied on threats and blackmail. Sorry OP
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Brunnicator' Meander Nothing wrong with having morals and a conscience, we just get into trouble when we inflict personal morals on others that have a different code. Not everyone subscribes to the same religion and society itself sets its own expectations. A modern society should be mature enough to cope with, and open to, differing views afteral no significant advance in human kind has ever been born from following a rut. I totally agree with this in general life, but I've seen this argument mounted a few times on RHP forums by people justifying their cheating, and it just doesn't hold water in that case. A successful relationship is built on mutual respect and common ground. This means that if there's a disparity between a couple's individual moral/ethical codes, some degree of subjugation of individual codes to a common one is required. In good relationships this is discussed and agreed upon, in bad ones it's just assumed (and loopholes are exploited). And if the amount of bend required of someone by their partner is more than they feel is acceptable, then that's a pretty good indication that that relationship isn't for them. (This is just a hypothetical response to Brunnicator, and doesn't really have any relevance to the OP)
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RHP User
10 years ago
If your happy stay with this man ...simple, just don't expect any thing other than great sex...sex must be good and is usually why married men stray, The mistress on fox is good to watch for women in the dilemma and wanting a reality check, I don't agree with telling the wife though, don't want to end up on Snapped...hmmm
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Rick_Blaine' Quoting 'Brunnicator' Meander Nothing wrong with having morals and a conscience, we just get into trouble when we inflict personal morals on others that have a different code. Not everyone subscribes to the same religion and society itself sets its own expectations. A modern society should be mature enough to cope with, and open to, differing views afteral no significant advance in human kind has ever been born from following a rut. I totally agree with this in general life, but I've seen this argument mounted a few times on RHP forums by people justifying their cheating, and it just doesn't hold water in that case. A successful relationship is built on mutual respect and common ground. This means that if there's a disparity between a couple's individual moral/ethical codes, some degree of subjugation of individual codes to a common one is required. In good relationships this is discussed and agreed upon, in bad ones it's just assumed (and loopholes are exploited). And if the amount of bend required of someone by their partner is more than they feel is acceptable, then that's a pretty good indication that that relationship isn't for them. (This is just a hypothetical response to Brunnicator, and doesn't really have any relevance to the OP) that seems entirely predicated on what the definition of "successful relationship" is.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Regardless of what your definition of what a successful relationship is, can one without the mutual respect Rick mentioned ever be a good/healthy/satisfactory* one for both partners? * Whatever your definition of those terms is.
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RHP User
10 years ago
What has been a revelation for me is how many people consider visiting a sex worker to not be cheating because its a financial transaction...however ,one your partner doesn't know about ...my moral and ethical compass met be skewed xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
It is cheating. But hey, at least we have learnt something and know to ask the question of people we are serious about. Do you consider going to a sex worker without your partners knowledge as cheating? To me, Warning thinks because he didn't have feelings for the woman it isn't cheating... By his own admission he just wanted some variety. To me that is doubly insulting as he risked his marriage and partners happiness on such a flimsy excuse. The fact that he doesn't see it that way frankly amazes me. So are the differences between men and women I guess?
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RHP User
10 years ago
@Rick I seem to have a reputation in these forums that suggests I condone cheating. At a personal level I respect anyone that does anything that is in the best interests of those within a relationship. People are much more than a sexual partner and the reality is for a lot of people, the sex does not live up to the promises made on the wrapping or after 30 years their needs have matured. I don't judge anyone for persuing their own life as long as they take responsibility for their decisions. I saw a doco recently that saw a 40 yo wife living on the street because he (50) couldn't cope with her sexual needs. Sorry but thats wrong, sex should not play such a life determining role, its important but not that important. (For the record she told him of her 'cheating', he argued he'd prefer to be in the dark as his ego couldn't cope, shes now living in a car. Their relationship otherwise was perfect, only she could decide on what to do (cant be untold) and she followed the moralistic view.) No amount of judgement in a forum like this will change the need to know the individual facts of personal situations. @meander No - was someone suggesting otherwise ? @freya I would simply ask in reality, how many women would want to be told? Its probably the maturing of society to be more accepting of reality rather than a questioning of your own moral code. As previously said I don't think sex workers are the domain of single people. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'S_OnTheLoose' Quoting 'Rick_Blaine' Quoting 'Brunnicator' Meander Nothing wrong with having morals and a conscience, we just get into trouble when we inflict personal morals on others that have a different code. Not everyone subscribes to the same religion and society itself sets its own expectations. A modern society should be mature enough to cope with, and open to, differing views afteral no significant advance in human kind has ever been born from following a rut. I totally agree with this in general life, but I've seen this argument mounted a few times on RHP forums by people justifying their cheating, and it just doesn't hold water in that case. A successful relationship is built on mutual respect and common ground. This means that if there's a disparity between a couple's individual moral/ethical codes, some degree of subjugation of individual codes to a common one is required. In good relationships this is discussed and agreed upon, in bad ones it's just assumed (and loopholes are exploited). And if the amount of bend required of someone by their partner is more than they feel is acceptable, then that's a pretty good indication that that relationship isn't for them. (This is just a hypothetical response to Brunnicator, and doesn't really have any relevance to the OP) that seems entirely predicated on what the definition of "successful relationship" is. So for the record, my definition of a successful relationship is one where both partners are happy, content, and fulfilled by it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' It is cheating. But hey, at least we have learnt something and know to ask the question of people we are serious about. Do you consider going to a sex worker without your partners knowledge as cheating? To me, Warning thinks because he didn't have feelings for the woman it isn't cheating... By his own admission he just wanted some variety. To me that is doubly insulting as he risked his marriage and partners happiness on such a flimsy excuse. The fact that he doesn't see it that way frankly amazes me. So are the differences between men and women I guess? This isn't a gender divide, it's an individual thing. There are women in this thread who've come much closer than a lot of the men to agreeing with Warning on this.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Regardless of what your definition of what a successful relationship is, can one without the mutual respect Rick mentioned ever be a good/healthy/satisfactory* one for both partners? * Whatever your definition of those terms is. each person only knows what is externalised from the other(s) If you do something and don't tell your partner about it, does that mean you don't respect them? I don't think it necessarily means that. Some people might do whatever they want because they don't respect the other person, but it doesn't automatically follow that everyone is like that. "successful" "healthy" etc aren't terms that sit well with me when applied to something like a relationship, as they don't have a clear definite meaning. How do you win a game of ice hockey? score more goals. Done, that is it, it is clear and definite. But consider how many people outside of RHP (and even some on RHP) would say that couples on here having "disgusting" and unhealthy relationships... despite the couples themselves being quite happy. To me, I can't come up with any generic measuring stick for a relationship other than whether all parties in it are happy with it. (and that perhaps when we say a relationship is "bad" it would be more accurate to say "that isn't what I would want")
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RHP User
10 years ago
Two women have said they wouldn't mind if their lover saw a sex worker however neither of them mentioned whether they would feel cheated on of their lover hide it from them so I don't think your comment is correct at all. Most women are saying to hide the fact you are having sex with someone else is cheating.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Seriously? I disagreed with you a few times from memory. So what? Isn't this supposed to be a debate with robust dialogue? It is to me. Otherwise I am a guest so to me you are a grey ghost and to be honest I gloss over grey ghost comments and most of the time don't read them, so not sure how I would normally disagree with you?!?!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think that may be because you're here while attached, and your profile doesn't say your partner is aware and ok with it. If she is, I think clarifying this could possibly change people's assumption on where you stand on the issue.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I checked previous comments and ditto.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You can put any spin you like on it,does the woman want to be told is not the question..does the woman want her partner to have sex with others,without her knowledge that is the question...to say that society has evolved to accept cheating is just plain ridiculous..divorce rates are still high and the main reason is infidelity, I personally think monogamy is an unnatural state of being for humans,but it has to be mutually agreed on...sauce for the goose as well as the gander xxFreya
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
If the other half of the couple doesn't know that their partner has had sexual relations with someone else, whether it be a sex worker or not, it's cheating.... If people choose to be in a committed relationship with one person, then they should be committed to being honest and truthful to that other person and to themselves...it really is that simple.....💋
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Two women have said they wouldn't mind if their lover saw a sex worker however neither of them mentioned whether they would feel cheated on of their lover hide it from them so I don't think your comment is correct at all. Most women are saying to hide the fact you are having sex with someone else is cheating. So I guess I'd better change my position then.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freddyawsum' All of RHP is about cheating in one form or another. Just saying :) - Posted from rhpmobile So not true.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'S_OnTheLoose' Quoting 'Meander' Regardless of what your definition of what a successful relationship is, can one without the mutual respect Rick mentioned ever be a good/healthy/satisfactory* one for both partners? * Whatever your definition of those terms is. each person only knows what is externalised from the other(s) If you do something and don't tell your partner about it, does that mean you don't respect them? I don't think it necessarily means that. Some people might do whatever they want because they don't respect the other person, but it doesn't automatically follow that everyone is like that. "successful" "healthy" etc aren't terms that sit well with me when applied to something like a relationship, as they don't have a clear definite meaning. How do you win a game of ice hockey? score more goals. Done, that is it, it is clear and definite. But consider how many people outside of RHP (and even some on RHP) would say that couples on here having "disgusting" and unhealthy relationships... despite the couples themselves being quite happy. To me, I can't come up with any generic measuring stick for a relationship other than whether all parties in it are happy with it. (and that perhaps when we say a relationship is "bad" it would be more accurate to say "that isn't what I would want") You said it yourself, "all parties are happy with it". My opinion of any relationship except one I'm in is entirely irrelevant. My caveat to that would be that all parties also have an accurate picture of the relationship they're in. Because the problem with that definition is when a party is happy with their relationship as they believe it is, but wouldn't be if they knew what was actually going on. To suggest that it's fine as long as they remain ignorant of it is like saying the NSA spying on everyone would have been fine if Snowden had never gone and told us all about it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
and use sex workers because they don't have the balls to leave an unsatisfying relationship. You can use as many excuses as you want, but that is the bottom line. Human beings have a difficult time being self aware enough to admit that perhaps they are not cut out for committed relationships with the one person. Those people are not cut out for relationships, because they desperately seek the validation which having an affair or sleeping around provides them..........no one person can ever provide them with the validation their ego so desperately needs. Grow some balls or grow a vagina and leave an unsatisfying relationship and live the single life if you can't hack being in a 'committed' relationship
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' I think that may be because you're here while attached, and your profile doesn't say your partner is aware and ok with it. If she is, I think clarifying this could possibly change people's assumption on where you stand on the issue. MeanderHa ha no I think its because forumites feel more comfortable when they can categorise someone, frankly someone simply devalues the value of their opinion when they pass such judgements without actually knowing any facts. Anyone that takes the time to know me discovers very early that I am a very happy little birdie with quite different and well supported views of the world in which I live. Thank you anyway
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'll take that as a no then. :-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' I'll take that as a no then. :-)Just one of the traits of a sagittarius monkey ;)
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RHP User
10 years ago
OMG. . Brunnicator ... blaming indiscretions on your horoscope is a lil bit amusing. I need to search what I can get away with. It was not me ... it was, it was, damn, what is it... right, it's the moons fault.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'HennaJay' OMG. . Brunnicator ... blaming indiscretions on your horoscope is a lil bit amusing. I need to search what I can get away with. It was not me ... it was, it was, damn, what is it... right, it's the moons fault. HennaJay - what indiscretions are you referring to ? My response regarding being a Sagittarius monkey was directed at Meander, she suggested I change my profile text to satisfy the weird and wonderful forumites who can't understand how someone can be a 'committed non-monogamous straight male' and have mis-read some of my comments (as clearly you have too) and determined that I condone cheating. My position is that I find it rather amusing that complete strangers can pass such a wild and unfounded judgement on someone they have never had any form of contact with. I see no reason to pander to such people and if anything I enjoy the chance at making mischief at their expense - a trait of a Sagittarius Monkey As for blaming the moon for anything.... no I take responsibility for myself, my actions, my thoughts, everything...my star sign just provides others with an idea of what to expect as i am sure yours does ....but then if you knew me, you wouldn't be confused by this
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RHP User
10 years ago
I love him, were going to be together lmao must be a used car sales man every girls dream to hear those words but you were cheating now your in the same situation as the wife it's a bitter pill to choke down hey so you go the I will tell your wife line smart one as the saying goes its your bed go lie in it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
All of the above ... You've lived a lie for five years with this guy and now get your knickers in a twist over a paid service? What do you think he was also up to with his wife? It's just one big party before we die. We lie to avoid conflict and then it's all silence. Yep life is so confusing for all of us irrational beings... And that is all of us no matter we might think ... That we're rational 😂😂😂😂😂 ( occasionally perhaps) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Is a social anthropologist,she set up dating site,Chemistry Dot Com...and she says that human beings are both monogamous and adulterous...pair bonding for procreation being critical..there are a number of her talks online..she is not a psychologist and is a professor at Rutgers University...worth a look IMO xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Is not the lack of knowledge but the unwillingness to accept the conclusions Knowledge provides For decades we have known that it is society that contrains relationships to a traditional formula despite the obvious costs to so many and yet in this very topic we are still arguing that view should be the norm. Sex is no more or less important than participation in sport, going to the opera or for that matter reading. The same cavear applies to all these activities within a relationship, no one should be hurt, disadvantaged or mistreated etc
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think the point most people are making is that if you want to be non monogamous then your partner should know this ...otherwise they will get hurt xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Just a rub and tug ,that is a part of sex. Cheap sex. Going to prostitutes is so cold and boring. Why don't you go to a real club and have some fun together
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RHP User
10 years ago
In my experience ..I have been a sex worker for seven years ..alll the guys have wives and pregnant gfs or their out of town on business ...this is the reason ill never have a relationship or trust a man. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Insomnian
10 years ago
That is all. /end thread
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Hawt1
10 years ago
Quoting 'MysteryMr' Quoting OP "and expose our affair to his wife". Once the threats fly, its over. I wouldn't want to continue seeing anyone who relied on threats and blackmail. Sorry OP I was thinking exactly the same thing. So low
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