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Perception with guys with abs
September 30 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm so good looking that I don't need a six pack for women to reject me. Maybe it's my natural charm and gentlemanly behavior that scares them off, who knows. Seriously though, I sure the ladies of RHP will tell you stories of hot young studs that are selfish and/or arrogant. Age can also be a major factor especially when the lady puts on her favourite Bing Cosby album and you don't know how to do the two step.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would definetly go for it if someone with a bod and face like yours messaged me. Call me shallow but at the moment it is sort of just what I am after! - Posted from rhpmobile
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Circe
10 years ago
Leave the boy alone!! Perth Metro, if you were in Melbourne and you approached me in a respectful manner then I wouldn't be scared. Send thoughtful messages, show that you're a grown up and not a kid and I'm sure you'll find some lovely women to meet... Maybe try approaching those who also list themselves as athletic?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Frankly six-packs do nothing to me, but yes I have been intimidated before as I assumed guys like you would be looking for super fit women. However, whether I'm interested or not mainly depends on someone's height, face, message and profile. In my opinion your profile is really bad. It tells me absolutely nothing and I find the fact that you're looking for women between 18-99 a turn-off. I'd suggest writing a profile where you sound down do earth and humble (don't say you are) and make clear you're not just interested in women that are fit and toned, but like curves too. (btw, Saying you don't judge kind of makes it sound like you are willing to accept curvier women, rather than you really liking them, in my opinion). And take out the part where you say you're good looking, we'll be the judge of that. Welcome and good luck!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I do love the fact that you're bi, and you have a killer smile!
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RHP User
10 years ago
If you look on my friends list there is a lovely guy there with a great body. He has the same problem, women go oh my god I could not go with you because I would feel weird, your so built. They often think he is taking a lend of them if he goes up to them and tries to make conversation. Some guys just like the wobbly women, or any woman for that matter so long as their is a connection. This guy is lovely, can hold his own in a conversation, is sexy as fuck and lucky for me and a few of my friends he is man enough to pleasure a woman before himself. Looks can be a help but sometimes it can be a problem, guys might say yeah sure you poor fuck, blah blah blah but if a man has some depth to him and he looks after himself then why reject him, if your own body is not perfect? He is asking so he must be interested right? guys with bad bodies can be just as bad in bed as guys with good bodies, each person is an individual. I approach it that way and thank the lord when some hot thing is giving me a right seeing too.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Meander is right re your profile. I would actually crop out the tropies. Just have your nice smile and a bit of your abs. Also again do not say your good looking, thats subjective. Put in a bit about yourself and be a bit more specific in what you would like. Best not to let your profile say, hi i am smoking hot and will fuck anything that moves. Women on here are not that desperate, and your one of many many many hot smoking men on rhp but its the brains that mostly get the girls, the guys that can hook into that. Your one of the smart ones that found the forums, and take note of some of the women here they are thinking crumpet , not your average when it comes to what they want.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thanks for the advice on the profile, ill give it a good seeing to ha, I suppose i didnt put much effort into when i signed up as i was probably a bit eager to see what this website was about. Yeh i like to think i can hold a decent conversation and not be the usual young person on their phone all the time. and i totally get that woman on here dont just go for body and want more of a connection which is what attracts me to sites like these. I will have to balance out between the body/looks approach and the humble, down to earth, decent guy approach.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I was trying to help, maybe I need to work on my writing style.
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RHP User
10 years ago
...From some younger ladies on this topic? Any around?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I recon your just looking for people to coment on your body for your own ego!
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Twisted_Mister
10 years ago
But it's the conversation you have with somebody that will influence the decisions they will make. That is, whether they want to fuck you or not. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
So you can't be; Too arrogant or too shy. Too fat or too thin. Too crude or too nice. Too young or too old. And now you can't be too good looking ! Fussy much ? No wonder men are Confused.
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RHP User
10 years ago
"If a guy with a good body messages you, do you go for it or knock them back?" It depends what he says in the message, and what's in his profile. As others have mentioned your profile needs some work... to be blunt, at the moment it's not really doing much to counter the stereotype of ripped guys with sixpacks. If you want women to see that you're not like that and that you're not looking for physical perfection then you need to show them, both in your profile and in the messages you send. Yes some women may initially feel intimidated and you may or may not be able to get past that with an appropriately worded message , but also keep in mind that many women on here are not just looking for a hot body...they want someone they can have a reasonable conversation with as well. Best of luck.
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OPNmarriagecpl
10 years ago
but you would not scare me off by any means. Having said that, I'm not attracted (never have been) to a man with a rippling six pack. I think I've even stated in our profile that I love the beefy footy (league) player physique that is way more bulk than definition. Huge arms and legs covered in tatts and Mr Curious would be telling me I'm blushing lol. Even though we're very happily married we both still look for a connection with a new friend which is probably why we look for older people who have some years and life experiment e under their belts. Just always be decent and respectful and not desperate. Good luck. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
There is also a perception that good looking people are boring in the sack. They don't have to try as hard to pick up so they don't try as hard in the sack. So I have heard. Have to share this story. I met this gorgeous huge hunk of a guy at a bi-orgy. We bonked. Now he is not the brightest spark. Anyway I have seen him at couples club numerous times and I always say " Hi S..." He clearly doesn't remember me , and I can see the panic each time I say HI because he doesn't know where he knows me from. But I can't resist teasing him. Lol. I am such a biatch. Hehe.
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RHP User
10 years ago
That is all.
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Circe
10 years ago
Sir Pump, that I'm too old to have a valid opinion on this topic. I did hold the same opinion ten years ago...
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Circe
10 years ago
Meeka, I've never received such feedback... And in my experience duds come in several permeations.
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RHP User
10 years ago
A photo is one thing, but the message that comes from that photo is of more interest to me.If that message is unappealing, for any reason, then the photo becomes irrelevant to me. Dont assume because you think your body is good, that others think the same as you, and that is all we need to return your interest. I expect that if you are not receiving the responses you seek, it is because you are either contacting unsuitable people, or your messages are not appealing.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I cant help it if I don't have to work hard to pick up.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I generally don't bother .. for the fact that it's just not a turn on for me .. same as i generally prefer my men a little on the larger side rather than the toned / six pack / and skinny package lol .. but definitely nothing to do with a pre conception of being arrogant or because i think they're too "hot" .. "good looking" nor for lack of self confidence . I'd still go there though if there was a sexual / mental connection but it would have to be something on a higher level than just a boring old 6 pack to peak my interest or someone that thought they were good looking .
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RHP User
10 years ago
Am i the only one here who has noticed that , a lot of men seem to think having abs .. instantly qualifies them as being "good looking?!" . There are plenty of gentleman that aren't everyone's general idea of goodlooking that have the sixer toned look going on aha so wtf :/
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TheLuckyOne
10 years ago
If a hot guy messaged me, then I would definitely pass. In my opinion, being that good looking equates to plenty of experience and I know I could just never compare. So why put myself through that? Lucky for me it's not a problem I have to deal with! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Isn't that the same perception for guys with big dicks? OP, if you feel like that, why don't you test your theory and put up pics of you showing less flesh (but still with that cute smile) and see if you'll get a different level of response? :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
or the Fox-trot! Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
You may be great looking and pleasing on the eye.... And yes I've had lovers your age that could hold a conversation and stand tall. ;) BUTT The truth be told and the honest part is, they too are bloody unrealable. So for me I want a Good man, not an unrealable one. Foxy
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TheLuckyOne
10 years ago
Please explain! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm an old duck but will give you my view anyway. I LOVE lean, muscly athletic men. It's the only body type I'm attracted to. However at size 14 and 'womanly' I'm not lean or toned or fit, so unless I was certain the man with the hot body really desired (not just happy to fuck, but genuinely turned on by) soft, fleshy women, I wouldn't be interested in him. I'd be way too intimidated. If your athletic body is scaring women off, perhaps stop showing it off ;) Put some clothes on and take some new pics. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange
10 years ago
Quoting 'Funlover71' I cant help it if I don't have to work hard to pick up. Oh phlee-eaasse. Lol, I'm joining MissB72 in the eyerolling activities in the background...
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RHP User
10 years ago
I love my abs so much i protect them in a layer of fat For me personally, I don't normally go for overally muscly men so you would not appeal to me if i was scanning through a search or something. Everybody has a type and that is what makes our lovely world go round. I do however appreciate the hard work and dedication you have obviously put in to get your self in such shape Good luck with it all :-)
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Seachange
10 years ago
I'm with you here. Respectful message some pics with clothes on to show your style and more closeup torso pics for me. Lol But the ladies have articulated thr winning combo of profile and message sp away you go and weave your.magic. frankly I dont mind a man with a gym body but he has to hold.his own in the conversation stakes. Manners are also very important. Wishing you lots mire luck and fun I the future.
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Paradisepair
10 years ago
I would be turned on not intimidated, but I'm also the kind of wanton hussy who would love to see the gorgeous body and face shot backed up with a nice cock shot....
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RHP User
10 years ago
I mean, I can't be with a woman if her boobs are too perfect...What on earth would I do with those? Also, if she has a nice firm mid-section, I get self-conscious, I prefer she keeps her top ON, so I can relax a bit more. If she has a perky butt, well, clearly she spends too much time in the gym doing deep squats, and I couldn't be with someone who works on their body so much. So in ending, any girls who have good boobs, nice bums and firm bodies are women I could never consider, clearly all they do is focus on their body, and they quite obviously would lack the mental capacity to stimulate my mind in any way possible.
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RHP User
10 years ago
There go my chances of ever meeting you then. Damn it! :P - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Somewhere under there....
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RHP User
10 years ago
Maybe you and mr metro should hookup sir_pumpulous .. lol .
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RHP User
10 years ago
Abs are a zero on my radar - height , and hung peek my interest :) hot and interesting men equal highly .....abs are just an added bonus but VERY far down my list of things I find irresistible :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I just watched the infomercial about the abtronic. I can have abs like that by just sitting here watching TV and it is scientifically proven. 😝
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RHP User
10 years ago
we don't bother. We find they usually dont respond or its a knock back so why bother? Plus the fact they actually list fitness as one of their hobbies means we won't have much in common as we'd rather be at a pub/club or out and about than sweating it out. Maybe it just comes down to the fact most of the beautiful people prefer to play together and they just dont find you attractive enough? But seriously, if having the abs is causing you such distress, maybe cut and crop the photo? One persons definition of a good body does not make it a cookie cutter for everyone else.
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RHP User
10 years ago
If women are knocking you back purely based on "above average" aesthetics, she's doing you a favour.Sex with a woman who's hung up on her own appearances isn't going to be much fun, take it as a blessing and move on to the next one who actually appreciates what's on offer.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Is English too......anyone from Essex? xxQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
Definition from the Shorter Qoxford ....the state of pumpedupness,relating to the chest of a gymnasium going male,..... un...real..ab...le :-) xxQ:-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's in the message... Make sure who you are messaging is actually after someone like you.. But be respectful and kind.. If a girl is naughty in their profile then you can be a little naughty.. But nowhere on my profile does it say I'm looking for guys.. I still get heaps of messages .. The ones that say.."wanna fuck" don't even get a response but those who say " I know you're not looking for a guy but if you're ever interested think of me, or I just wanted to say you look nice".. Always get a response.. It shows they have actually read it.. Which is step one! As for six packs, I have always been more attracted to a guys smile than his body.. I hate some of the guys who primp and preen at the gym.. Most of them look at you like you're not good enough.. So that's where that perception comes from. I wouldn't be scared off by it, but I prefer my men older and more experienced.. Not only in bed but also in how to keep a woman happy with his words. Good luck.. Hope you find some nice ladies x
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've had my fair share of the six-pack guys....and to be honest they are always a let down. I find them flakey and lacking in substance. I avoid them at all costs now. I like dark horses, the ones that are not your conventional "hot". They are the ones that blow your mind in bed. They do everything in their power to show you they adore you. As long as they are engaging then I will give them my time. - Posted from rhpmobile
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69bingo
10 years ago
Well i like Mr bingo's abs, they enable him to hold and control the perfect tempo, weak guys make poor lovers. It's almost a race for them to cum before their engine conks out. Fit>Unfit any day for anything. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
And I continually get roid comments ...good luk to u for bringing this subject up. ..have a nice day - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'In_voluptas_mors'They do everything in their power to show you they adore you. As long as they are engaging then I will give them my time. - Posted from rhpmobile Sounds like you've slept with a few fit jerks, don't worry, over time you will realise jerks come in all shapes and sizes.
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RHP User
10 years ago
... to stand out LoL. Seriously though, other peoples perceptions are just that. If someone has a negative and/or incorrect perception of who you are as a person, keep in mind - it's their issue ... not yours ... don't take it personally. I'm not intimidated or put off by 'a hot looking guy'. Although I don't deny attraction being a contributing factor, my decisions are primarily based on the profile and communication.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Ate you suggesting the OP should bare his sole?:-) xxQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
Meant Are you..XXQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
Can't agree on that one .. one of my fwbs ( not the only one either ) used to go on average for at least a good 3 hours straight in one go that was after 2 hours of foreplay from both sides .. then would repeat this performance again after an hour break and so on until the sun come up and he'd only allow himself to cum if I'd orgasmed at least twice :p :p and he was anything but a gym junkie with a six pack ! Think that would be more down to skill and self teaching rather than abs lol !
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'in_2_u_74' Can't agree on that one .. one of my fwbs ( not the only one either ) used to go on average for at least a good 3 hours straight in one go that was after 2 hours of foreplay from both sides .. then would repeat this performance again after an hour break and so on until the sun come up and he'd only allow himself to cum if I'd orgasmed at least twice :p :p and he was anything but a gym junkie with a six pack ! Think that would be more down to skill and self teaching rather than abs lol ! You've never had the best of both worlds: A Toned, ripped, hot guy who fucks you the right way. Hopefully one day you'll get to experience this, good luck!!
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passion8_l
10 years ago
When I receive a message from a man with a hot body I will admit to feeling intimidated, especially if he is younger. At 49 and having experienced 3 pregnancies, breast feeding, weight gain & loss my body isn't what it used to be and although I accept my imperfections I'm not sure how a younger man would view me. However before I respond with a rejection I do treat him as I do any other man who messages me and read his profile. I look at the whole package and if I sense that he is superficial I usually won't go there.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting '69bingo' Well i like Mr bingo's abs, they enable him to hold and control the perfect tempo, weak guys make poor lovers. It's almost a race for them to cum before their engine conks out. Fit>Unfit any day for anything. - Posted from rhpmobile You are so wrong but with a "unique & classy" username like 69bingo and the whole sucking in the gut so you can look like you have a 6 pack it does not surprise me.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Whether someone is good or not in bed depends on the person not their body as some have commented. Yes it is true that some guys who are good looking and have good bodies don't try very hard because they think they don't have to, but the same can be said for women. Me personally, I like to lead an active and healthy lifestyle. I try and stay trim because I don't like a lot of fat around my waistline. This doesn't mean I don't have any substance or anything to offer and the same with others that like to lead a healthy lifestyle. I actually graduated from Uni with Honors as I'm sure many others have done. Don't be too quick to judge people because they like to keep fit. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't think that people who are fit are necessarily great in bed. I have had the ones who believe that because they have this great body that they should be pleasured by those who are "perfect". Obviously that is not the attitude of every fit person, but there are enough people with that attitude to cause those who aren't as fit to be careful. I am in no way implying that you are one of those who I've encountered. It's a bit like some well hung guys (and again not all) who believe that because they have a big dick they should be worshiped and don't have to try to please. I agree with others on here, don't make a big thing of them, work out what you are really looking for and focus on that.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I love love love your username (and pics, rowr!)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Why thanks lover! I like to be a little creative. Helps pull those guys with the six-packs 😜 lol. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
And you based your assumption of i haven't had the best of both worlds on what exactly ? Ive most definitely had more than my fair share of the gym junkie variety .. 5 out of 7 failed to endure or perform so i can definitely relay from experiences .. seems they used up every muscle but the most important one lol ! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thanks for feeling sorry for me for having such experiences with over pumped up non performers .. i feel sorry for me too for that lol oh well this is just one example of why i don't go there anymore .. especially when most are so dim witted * looks at sir up his own arse and shakes my head * - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
The other 2 were awesome ..probably not on par with the fwb I mentioned but not too far behind .. plus they could actually hold mentally stimulating conversations to boot ..omg a barrage of other talents .. ohhh unlucky me hey :o - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Dude most of the women on here go for a young guy with a body like yours over a mature average guy any day. The good looking sexy women just want that and nothing else and if they say it's not true there full of themselves. Then there are the average ladies that just want what you have as well but are unhappy in themselves to make a decision to actually meet you and just want you to feel sorry for them.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta3' Ate you suggesting the OP should bare his sole?:-) xxQ Now that's funny No ... but I would suggest Mr. perth_metro that your profile be indicative of what you're looking for as opposed to what you think others are looking for.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm working on becoming a competitor myself, so that aesthetic is appealing to me. I wouldn't say I won't be intimidated by a man who looks like you, but if he has genuinely taken the time to get to know me and was interested in me, I think I'd have fun.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'AussieBiAsian' Quoting '69bingo' Well i like Mr bingo's abs, they enable him to hold and control the perfect tempo, weak guys make poor lovers. It's almost a race for them to cum before their engine conks out. Fit>Unfit any day for anything. - Posted from rhpmobile You are so wrong but with a "unique & classy" username like 69bingo and the whole sucking in the gut so you can look like you have a 6 pack it does not surprise me. What an incredibly spiteful message, I'm not sure what you're looking at but they look like a fit couple WITH abs.I'd pass judgement on your profile, but as the saying goes "don't say anything if you can't say something nice". Back on topic, OP believe it or not, there's actually women who love your physique, myself included.
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RHP User
10 years ago
If guys with six packs are intoxicating...... Imagine how you'd end up when I bring the whole keg!!!! :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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SoSoPretty
10 years ago
If you were in Sydney, I'd be interested....I love fit men. :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Not_a_faker hmm interesting comment can't say I agree though , and I don't know where you pulled that one from *ahems* but your entitled to your opinion just like anyone else i guess .. lol . Think it more boils down to preference . Doesn't matter how ugly or good looking anyone seems to think they are . I mean .. how many hot younger women do you see with older not so good looking men and vice versa that makes people all round the world go "wtf how are they together" . There really is no trying to judge or explain the "law of attraction" , but to say most sexy ladies or guys whatever go after a guy looks like the op really is just a bit of tunnel vision on your behalf wouldn't you say ?!
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ItalianVoice
10 years ago
I absolutely understand how you feel, perth_metro...It's the reason why I covered my awsome six packs with a soft, genuine belly...Now women are just scared by my personality... ;)
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'll bring my tools. On topic though. It seems that it is all down to perspective. I would suggest doing exactly what you want to do, put the pics up that you want to put up (abs, no abs, clothed unclothed, it doesn't matter) and write what you want to write. Ultimately if you change your profile to suit what others like, it a high possibility that you won't find what you like. Thus I say. Do what feels right for you :-) then if a lady is interested in you - it's genuine interest. :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Only as spiteful as saying people without abs make poor lovers. As for passing judgement on us go for gold it's the internet princess. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have a good looking body.. and I have grate personality... but apparently many woman here don't like dreadlocks...or I'm not sure what impression they get of me... I wish they would be more interested to know me as a person.. and realise what a grate person I am with many good attributes...and I think many guys here have they same tough....They eye need to be pleased but the greatest connection are with the mind... not the body...Love ya all sexy people!
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Circe
10 years ago
I think we need more research into this topic... Looking at the outerlying can be helpfu. My personal experience is that dud roots come in all shapes and sizes. My top five lovers 'ever' all had/have really lovely fit bodies. My top five duds only two have ripped bods. Happy to conduct further research...
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would definitely want to meet you. I love a fit and muscular man, it's the norm for me! 😋
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RHP User
10 years ago
Seems my last message was a lil too aggressive for the RHP monitors.. Briefly, I'm of the opinion your post was written by a male not female..... For the record , and as a guy who has always kept himself in shape. I don't feel the need to put it out there to grab attention.. When I see guys with pumped pics'. Like most '. I wonder if that's all they got ,, ? Work on your personality and let the body be a bonus when you meet..
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RHP User
10 years ago
I can see where you are coming from, just because you have abs doesn't mean you are arrogant or full of yourself. I am only attracted to tall muscular men. I am no victorias secret model, however, my perception is that woman are not open to a fit muscular man such as yourself because they feel they would need to appeal to you in the same way physically.
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RHP User
10 years ago
The amount of offers you have ? I imagine you've been pleasantly overwhelmed ☺️ I hope you're now having all the fun life has to offer and happy journey 😊 may your abs be cuddled by your lover girls over and over 😉
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RHP User
10 years ago
Just a couple of things....you may have been told by others that you are 'too hot' for them, but you can't assume everyone's reason is the same This is a forum where people have the opportunity to look for something very specific if they wish so maybe you don't fit their criteria Like it or not it could come down to any number of things, height, sexuality, cock size, looks ect The arrogance you are trying to deny seems to be present in the fact that you've not considered this....oh well, I guess I'm just too good looking for everyone that knocks me back....* epic face palm Also....having your 6 pack in your profile pic does not make you stand out from the crowd, quite the opposite, they are a dime a dozen on here - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
No .. And i can see you have posted your experience on the exact same amount as mine .. lol . My opinion is based on my experiences .. guys with abs who hit the gym frequently .. etc are no better in bed nor have more stamina than a guy who doesnt have abs or hit the gym daily .
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RHP User
10 years ago
Make that 6 out of 7 .. One of my very first boyfriends was a huge ripped muscly , toned 6 pack included aha ( and yes must admit , damn hot .. even though i hate him to this day , and would like to say worse about him lol ) Tongan guy , with whom i used to weight train with at one point . He earnt the title of "the one round wonder!" .. seriously .. one 15 min round and he was out ! :/
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cougar4fun
10 years ago
So I would skip past the major hotties, thinking they would not be interested in the average female like myself....however, after having a string of compliments on some of my features that I actually didn't like about myself, I realised everyone's perception is not the same and if someone doesn't like me then they will just say so and move on.. A very wise decision that was too...I've since met up with a number of hot, young guys, some with 6 packs, some without and the 6 pack is irrelevant. I really enjoy running my hands over a sculpted body, but if that's the only thing about the experience that I enjoy, then the hot bod is irrelevant. I've had some very very very talented hotties with the sculpted body and some oh sooooo not talented hotties with the bod....also had some extremely talented "average joe" blokes too, so to answer your question, if you messaged me honey, id go for it with bells on if you had the personality to match those abs!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've knocked back a few men in my time with profile pics showing off ripped abs and muscles. It's not that I don't fancy these hunks - I think it's more that I might just want to cover them in honey and slowly lick it all off! Which wouldn't do anything for my waistline (what waistline??) But being old, chubby and wobbly, I would never dare meet up with anyone who looked like that unless he was very clear about enjoying and being enthusiastic about 'old, chubby and wobbly'. Like usually attracts to like...which is where I'm unsuccessful, since 'cuddly' does nothing for me, sadly. Each to their own!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Dreadlocks are awesome aha :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
To get around intimidating abs, just let go of the gut a bit. Let it hang out. ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
First world problems, mate. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Guess I'm a minority across the 2 sexes here. Man's body, girls brain. Look, abs look fantastic . Muscles are great to feel and be held by. The guy I share this body with, works his and has a good physique. Much to my dismay as I have to try and make that look feminine some how. But from the girls prospective, it's just a waste all that hard work if you give us nothing much else. Put a bit of that free time into working on your technique guys. Learn some passion. Learn how to keep it harder longer. A ripped guy, hot lover. Rare treat. Happy to be proven wrong though.....
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RHP User
10 years ago
I see you haven't changed your pic. Does that mean it has been working for you?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hey, well reading through all the comments and the various threads on this site, i have learned A LOT of what people want, what their views are etc. I think i will just be myself, if thats not their cup of tea i will move on and keep positive! I do think about what i write on the messages and it has worked for me. Its all about experience and learning from your mistakes and finding out what works for who. Each person is different! People will always have their opinions, if i had a plain picture of only my face there would still be something that people wont like. Thanks for all the comments, i can see that these threads can get quite heated at times and to be honest.....they can become quite an entertaining read! x
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
What was all that about then......
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On_Safari
10 years ago
A group of 6 young fit couples sat near us.....even the girls were ripped. My 17yo starts giggling and days "OMG looks like they're all over compensating for something." My 13yo perks up with "Small pant sizes and tiny bras are a start." (meanwhile I cringe, but laugh on the inside!!) i can't take my kids anywhere!!! But the logic held water. 😳
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Circe
10 years ago
On safari, I think those stereotypes are just bullshit. So people who like to stay fit are overcompensating? So what's with people who are fat? They're under compensating because they're soooo happy with themselves? Yeah, right. Maybe we should all just stop judging others because of how their bodies look (and stop teaching our children to do so) and there'd be a lot less people spending stupid amounts of money on diets and meal replacements and breast enlargements and weight loss surgery. And a lot less very unhappy anorexics and bulimics- maybe the world would be a much nicer place. Ps. Maybe those people you saw were part of the Australian track or swimming team, and maybe your kids will be cheering their hard work and dedication in a few years?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Me, me, I am an Essex girl! Was even a girl piper!
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RHP User
10 years ago
dacougar...great training for blowing all kinds and sizes of instruments I would imagine,especially the flute :-) xxQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
you are so correct.my daughter loves to keep fit,has just started boxing training to have in her words,abs for summer...thankfully for her,she inherited her Auntie Fays netball genes:-) ...in our family diabetes is very prevalent,my uncle died at 40 from complications...my mother, my grandmother..had it and now me...healthy eating, and exercise are important to her...no guarantee that it won't happen but she has a better chance by adopting her lifestyle choices xxQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
Given I am not looking for a soul mate but a good time, yeah, I am partial to eye candy & have real appreciation for the work that goes into a "hot" body. It tends to be us females that bitch about the work that goes into our bodies but damn the guys have it much worse if they are wanting a 6pk etc But I still wont sleep with a guy who is a dick & unfortunately most (not all) "hot" guys are dicks. Apparently there is actually science behind it too. Guys with high testosterone levels can tend to have less language comprehension & more relationship issues. From my own experience it also seems that ripped guys are less into (true) red heads then other guys.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have a hunch you never actually wanted feedback on pics with abs, but really just wanted to show yours off and get as much attention as possible. Like I said, just a hunch, could be wrong. (I'm sure DG is rolling his eyes and grinning wryly right about now.) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Surely i would have created more of a generic thread if i just wanted people to notice my pic?? If you read some of the comments some guys know what im talking about and iv had a couple of guys also message me expressing the same experiences. I can see where you are coming from with thinking that, and again, its down to the stereotypical view of people with 'fit' bodies. All peace and love though
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On_Safari
10 years ago
My children have a very mature and twisted sense of humour. Added to which close friends of ours regularly compete at the INBA's (body building) and we go as the cheer squad. My little brother is a personal trainer and my 17yo daughter is a member of the fit tiny titty brigade with guns for arms 😳 lol it would seem all her pumping iron hasn't diminished her sense of fun. Perhaps the rest of you 'roid enraged fitness buffs should lighten up too? Perhaps your inability to laugh at yourselves is actually a deterring factor for some. A person can be over/under weight for many reasons far be it for me or my wicked children as you pointed out to cast aspersions or stereotypes on anyone. Personally I hyperventilate walking to my letterbox but find that extra shot of stamina for other activities which in turn burn fat and generate sweat....lol sensitive much anyone?
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On_Safari
10 years ago
My body sculpting, extended tummy tuck and thigh lift cost me $15k but my boobs are all mine. I must say it was worth every penny!! Carry on....
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